This is hilarious but also sadly true. I am a daughter and my mother was sadly one of these stereotypical parents. She came from a rural village in Asia, but never changed out of her medieval mindsets, even after immigrating to a western country. I think her moving actually made her latch onto the old customs of her “culture” more, even though this isn’t culture at all. They just use the word “culture” as an excuse for their abusive behaviours. Thank you for combining comedy with raising awareness for mental health and child abuse. I actually used to work as a trauma therapist for victims of child abuse. I myself haven’t spoken to my mother in years, but she’s probably glad of that. There’s so many adults who suffer throughout their lives with C-PTSD, depression, and other mental health issues as a result of toxic parenting.
One thing I noticed is a lot of these parent that immigrate to western country say, “I came here for a better future for my family.” And I think to myself, “Hmm, wouldn’t it be easier and better to just not have a family at all?”
@@mr.hi8111 . In many cultures, not having kids is not even an option. I think its a security/ prestige thing. And some people would not know what to do with their lives if they didnt have kids.
Sorry to hear that, a lot of cruel things happen under the flag of "culture" and if someone says something about it people tend to call one racist or ignorant. Over here in Sweden alot of people are toxic without knowing it and most modern parents just stare into their smartphones, one wonders why people have children if they're not a loved priority.
People only do what they have learned growing up they see that they have been raised that way and their fine growing up to become an independent adult. I just think kids won't ever consider the life that their parents had and only fell that their own life should be what they want it to be in the modern society. If it wasn't for your parents upbringing the Asian community wouldn't be this strong in the western world. I bet you anything that in this generation no chance these born in America Chinese kid and build a stronger Chinese Community.
I once heard someone said "Having kids is an investment for your old life" and when the kid *slightly dumb* , they said "I feed and treat them the same as their other siblings, but why they're like this". Lucky my mum is not like this
@@turtled1775 i heard my mum said this to my sister. "Children are investment. That's why you need to do good in school or you'd be useless". Man.. the shock i got when i heard that
child born = business = doctor or lawyer child born = business = failure = kill failure Asian parent child raising ultimate techniques to living a lavish life
Kidnapper:you child is kidnapped by me and you should pay me 1 billion or I wouldn’t return your child. Mom:I wouldn’t even give you a single penny.You can have her. Mom’s mind:*thank god for making a disaster went away from me*🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂
I get it was a joke but as a mom it made me sad. Our children aren’t here to please us they’re spiritual beings having a human experience. Our job is to love and support them through their journey. And the best way to create kind loving people is to model kindness and love.
I don't know you, or the way you parent, but if nothing else your attitude to understanding that your kid isn't just your kid, but a fellow person with needs, wants, desires of their own makes me feel a little better. I see a lot of parents who think that their kid is property, an investment for them or basically a copy of themselves. Thank you. People like you are a rarer find than they should be.
Believe me just because you are kind doesn’t mean other asian parents are. Most asian parents are unbelievably toxic and strict. They don’t give a rats ass about their kid’s emotions and see it as a weakness instead. If the kids don’t have an ambitious career to make money for them then there is no reason to care for them. Love is only material to them. Its not even just asian parents but they earned their stereotype because it happens so much.
This may sound disrespectful and stereotypical but trust me there are some unbelievable parents like this. And this skit has done a great work in criticizing these kind of parents.
when he said, "it's not love, it's business", he calls it what it truly is. certain parents do treat their child like an trophy/investment/retirement planning.
On a serious note, there are parents who would really don't care if their child was hurt or kidnapped just because they get bad grades, and my mum is one of them I had my finale exams this month I wrote them all except the last one because I was feeling really sick and misread the date and thought it was a off day, It wasn't and I can't pass 12th until I write the supplimentry exam in June and even after I write it, I won't get ranking cuz I wrote it late even if I get really good marks its only gonna be pass. lord I have never been so scared, my mum was so angry and thought I did it on purpose and told my relatives about it how she wanted to marry me off to some dude so she would be free from being with a failure and told me that I should just die now and have no reason to live if I can't even pass 12th grade.. I have never hated myself more and I know it was my mistake but her words and actions were so painful. it's been a few days and she still brings up that I'm a failure again and again and beats me up. I am just a 16 year old, I make mistakes too, can I never be loved just because of these mistakes?
I’m so sorry about this. :( Please don’t hate yourself, you have a purpose and are valuable. Life travels beyond school. School is just a hurdle to get passed. Know that your value is far deeper than your performance.
I'm sorry to hear this. I hope you are at a better position right now and I wish you all the best. It's your life, not anybody else's, not even your parents'. Never consider yourself as a failure, just because somebody said so. You are your best friend and you're on your own.
As a Asian myself and grew up in a similar mindset…. I really hope you find a truly supportive environment that is not near your mom… best of luck to you
Kid, its ok to make mistake. In fact, you will need to make a lot of mistake to be successful. It is not your fault. Your mother is not a good mother. You don’t need to be accepted by her. Find your own value. But first, you need to learn to give yourself acceptant & kind words. You deserve that.
Ahhh such dream, welp my mom literally said ive better die if i get a vehicle accident than her paying my medical bills since im a failure and hadnt pass the bar exam for a job.
That's how asian households work. They make life not quite hell but very anxiety inducing so that you will be motivated to study hard because you want to leave as quickly as possible whilst also speeding up your maturation process. Now that's reverse uno card used best
It's not love it's business This line hits hard cause one day my mom said to me we are spending money on you when I didn't get good grades. This line still hurts me till this day.
@ashlayy lol that's pretty funny. My mum says that to my sister as well. It doesn't make sense but it's pretty hilarious how parents can make illogical connections between spending money and cleaning your room
I love how the kidnapper said “poor kid” bc that was trauma I wouldn’t say all asian parents are like this some of them love them and dont care if the dont become a doctor actually as long as they are healthy they are happy
If a kidnapper committed that crime to me - then my mother would tell me that I need to look within myself to see how I contributed to the kidnapper's behavior.
It’s a little over dramatic but this is what some crazy Asian parents do. Especially in places like China where they depend solely on that kid as an investment or they were born just for the purpose of being really talented.
its actually not dramatic and more common than ppl think, especially to the ones that need to study abroad. A lot of the parents expect their children to graduate and be able to get a highly wanted job to get a green card, so that THEY can immigrate.
It's horrifying to know that there really are parents who treat their children like business. I'm not saying there's no love, but when your explicit goal when having and raising your children is that they can take care of you when you're old and/or succeed in life so you can become richer, then it's likely to be hell for the child. So yeah. To those parents, it's an investment. Literal business
Yeah, my parents aren't like this since most of this is over exaggerated (but there's parents who do do this) but yeah, I'm not gonna give them money unless I owe them something, I'd still take care of them but I'm not giving money to anyone unless the deserve it, or this situation happens.
My mom now on her 53's and when I told her that I'm willing to support her if she wants to open fried chicken franchise or stuff, to which she was replied: "I'm already old and I wanna enjoy my life. I wanna enjoy the results of raising you well. Now if you're a good kids, you supposed help me financially" And yes, buddy, I'm defo a business for her.
@@firzatiffany5547 Well, as long as you have no issues making sacrifices for your children when they were younger and won't ever ask any financial help from them when you are old, weary, probably sickly, and can't really enjoy life much at that age, then you can tell your mom that you are not like her.
The mom when she sees the child come home: “you failure you can’t even die properly, not even the devil wants you cause you such a failure, you can only get that b not even a b+ Aiyaaa such a failure”
The one time I went home bloody and scratches all over my body from a motorcycle accident, the first thing they ask me was "Did you buy the things I told you?" Im holding a blood drenched plastic bag then they told me to clean my wounds and gave me a pain reliever medicine. No "Are you okay?" No "We go to hospital now", just a stare of gladness that I went home complete and that I'll survive this. We asians are really tough people 😂😂😂
that horrible i know about tough love but your freaking bleeding!!! That not okay parenting. i know you love your parent but if that was my parent i keep my distance from them for sure . I hope you meet some who give you love okay everyone deserve that if they tried.
And this circle of violence goes on and on until one girl is to depressed to rise her own kids and have to give them away to live a happier life. Then the curse is broken and the family can find peace?
I experienced the same. I got into accident when i was riding my bike and ran into a wall. My knees and hands are bleeding but the first thing mu mother asked me is if the bike is damaged. It would have been okay if she gave me band aid or alcohol after, but she didn't. I was thirteen at that time.
@@jeffreypayne5228 It's Okay , my folks were the kindest people you will ever meet, its the Asian culture maybe that's why asians can relate. I was never mad about the whole incident Im proud they see as a tough man 😁😁😁
@@DOI_ARTS Well Okay it not a big deal just glad your alive with no permanent damage .... look I not disrespecting your aren't effort or love just aleast ask if your cool for all you know 30 minute later you could of pass off from blood loss. lol maybe it me but culture should't stop a human for making sure someone alive. Anyway good wishes!
As someone in their fifties, thankfully my Dad made money on the stock market in the 60’s and went into real estate. While I did get all A’s in high school and Stanford, that was about it. I failed medical school, but went into computers, and the parents were fine with that. Flash forward, and it’s March 2020 with CoVid. I’m not a doctor, I’m not exposed to CoVid, and I’m taking care of my parents. Oh, and I was smart as a kid - I knew how to divide by two, so, when they asked if I wanted a sibling, I said, NO. :D
Even though this is supposed to be a skit comedy I can't help but realise that's how the majority of us(the Asian community) were brought up. From grandparents to our parents, the cycle repeats. That's generations of trauma, physical, mental and emotional abuse. 😔 I heard the older generations were disciplined way worse. My mom used to tell me when she was in high school, her grades were not on par with her sister's(my aunt), which were higher. She got beat up with a tennis racket until her thighs bled. Me, on the other hand, if I don't study in front of her, she'll throw a major fit and throw a hard PVC cup at my head.
Being Korean or Japanese is very hard. You people are wonderfully interesting, polite, accomplished. Your country runs like clockwork. But I often feel it comes at a high personal price for many of you. You have to excel at something, at many things preferably... It's incredibly demanding. You have the reverse case in Spain, where kids often feel very entitled, brag about bad marks, couldn't care less about responsibility, effort, ethics, education... They gather in parks to binge-drink, get high and "have fun". There are exceptions, of course, but not enough. I wish you the best!
The best friend of my mother who is chinese, always got told by her mother that she's ugly and that she has to be the best in her class, if she doesn't want to be utterly useless 😥 I met her parents they were so nice... I wonder if they're just repeating what they heard their own parents telling them. Also my asian friends told me that they never really got hugged by their parents... As a latina this totally surprised me... I feel like we're the total contrary...
@@foggyfrogy It could be it stemmed from fear of living in poverty or inconvenience. That sort of mindset is prevalent in our community whether is in Asia in general or the Southeast. You can't go anywhere if you don't have something to show for it. Money and status can go so far. I can't speak for every Asian since I'm a Malaysian Malay, but I grew up in a Chinese community. I heard most of their dedicated savings go into education, weddings and funeral rites. Especially weddings and funerals, those are the most expensive. And the majority of us are emotionally stunted because expressing ourselves is usually frowned upon. We confuse any sort of abuse as an effective discipline tactic or 'encouragement' since it instilled obedience (*cough* fear *cough*)in children to respect our elders and adhere to our social obligations. So yeah, you see where that got us.
@@hotarunorikazu6336 Like I said I feel latinos culture is the complete opposite even though in some cases we have the same problems in life... that said I think both cultures have it's pros and cons. Asian students are known for being very bright and get high paying jobs in the west ( while we latinos not so much lol). I guess in the end every culture has to develop on their own pace and maybe if we copy positive traits from other cultures we can actually faster improve our own problems Owo
@@foggyfrogy Chinese parents will always be super nice to other kids…can't speak for your case, but in where I lived parents are expected to spoil the guests even when they're bothered. Always scared of this hypocrite side of our culture
I actually felt uncomfortable like- it was supposed to be a joke but in a deep way. It really hurts me to know that are actual parents who are like this
You aren’t kidding about the kidnapping. I was visiting with some Chinese American friends’ extended family/friends in a Latin American country in the mid 2000’s where unfortunately, kidnapping had become a business. So many of the families lost men to kidnappers. One lady hung up on the kidnappers because she thought it was a joke. Her husband was killed. Not just him, there were several. I think they just refused to pay ransom. They did beef up security eventually and their kids were very protected and sheltered.
I’m not Asian but one of my cousins has two Asian brothers and one of them has autism and the other one doesn’t and the father of them seperated with my cousins mother and took the kid that wasn’t autistic very sad story 😢
hahaha this hit home tbh. I have had a fair share of experience (not from my own parents they are way more lenient than this) but I have seen my own friends crying, getting scared over the fact they just got a B in one of their subjects or did not get a 100% on the exam. Seriously, one memory stuck with me to this day. This is back in high school. My friend (let's call her S) is an exemplary, role model student. Always get straight As (in the 90% mark, so that means her As are all A+). We would be like "whoa girl you top student again". We were all proud of her and we looked up to her. And she is always cheerful, kind, and polite, she is just the perfect role model for students, honestly. She does get stressed out during exams but she always scored so, I thought she was all g. Then, one day me and my friends all saw her rushing to the washroom with tears in her eyes. This day was when we got back our assessment grades. I got a B if I remember. I was just satisfied, albeit disheartened, but nevertheless was happy that my efforts weren't wasted. Anyways, so me and my friends all saw her rush toward the washrooms. We all panicked and wondered if she was sick or something. One of my friends coaxed her out and S told us she did not get a good mark. We all asked what grade she got and she said "an A". We all were like "huh? But that's good! Why are you crying?!" S then proceeded to show us her mark and said, "My mum's going to kill me. She will definitely scold and hate me". I was just so sad for her. She actually got a 98% and her mother was quite known among our close group of friends for pushing her children to get 100% in their marks. I was also frustrated because she worked her ass off in her assessments and 98% is not a good mark for her mum. Like I get it she wants to go into an Ivy League university but Jesus Christ... that mark is enough to show her hard work. Yeah.. at that point I was thankful my parents aren't like that.
you know being an Asian this the MOST relatable thing I have ever reacted to the " if they ain't going to become a doctor than they a failure " just gave my depressed heart emotional damage...
I’m surprised the kidnapper wasn’t going to attempt to adultnap the mom, then the mom could’ve just said “Finally! I don’t have to work or pay the bills! Go ahead and take me out of my misery already!” Lol
And that's how I joined Death Watch. Yes, they somehow kidnapped me, a Jedi, and the whole clan of 20 Jedi younglings on a fildtrip, during Operation Knightfall. I was confused, and concerned, when I found out that a Mandalorian kidnapping of a whole Jedi class, was now turned into Death Watch foundlings when Darth Vader answered the call for the ransom.
"love?! its not love its a profit." ㅋㅋㅋ i love your videos so much i watched your videos ever sense you started your channel and i'm really looking forward to see the other people that like your videos as well, keep doing what you do we love you 좋은 일을 계속! 👍
Reminds me of a friend who was getting catcalled one morning. She was in a terrible mood. When one of the guys tried to scare her by saying he was going to follow her and kill her, she looked at him and said, completely serious and sombre: "Would you do that for me?" Freaked him out totally. He ran back to his friends yelling, "She's a freak! She's a freak!"
