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If you find you're constantly being a "chameleon" to everyone around you, that is a sign that you are most likely in a chasing state. When you are okay with being your true self whether or not someone else agrees with it, you go into an attractive state. True confidence is not needing approval, validation or belief from anyone else but you. Please know this: you are loveable JUST THE WAY YOU ARE. You don't need to do anything in order to receive love. You are love, therefore you can attract love naturally just be being your YOU-nique self.❤️
Yeah I’ve found when I get more general and just do what I want to do right now for it’s own sake, that’s when the magic starts to happen and I realise there’s actually way better versions of what I thought my goals were 🎯🏋️♂️💪☯️🌍
Schools should teach this stuff, awakening, shadow work, it’s life skills. I’m in my 60’s and could’ve saved myself from much pain and been a better parent. ❤️🌈😊
50's, 60's or beyond. Its never too late to learn, I believe. True, we cannot change the past but we can work towards a better tomorrow. I am learning to let go of my guilt and my regrets, gradually, not easy. But, tomorrow... I can do better for myself and for others. And that's what i want to do. I want to be happy.
It wouldn't be right to teach this stuff at school. It's human nature that doesn't have the right or wrong answers. You have to figure it out yourself.
So true. Also, it’s crucial to mention we do still need to put forth effort, be vulnerable, honest, and consistent. Communicate, don’t play games or test them, don’t do the silent treatment. Basically don’t be, or act like a narcissist.. If you miss someone, talk to them.sometimes we can’t tell so we give space, then they can even perceive it as not putting in effort when really it’s just the vibe they’re putting off that we’re responding to. Acting emotionally unavailable will not signal anyone to open up unless they are being needy. People lose great potential partners that are into them, just because they aren’t willing to open up or at least communicate properly. Raw vulnerability is so attractive when you’re into that person, and are that person in return. That’s when synergy happens.
@@azdoglover7 3 simple things, 1. exercise and get in good shape in a healthy way… not just to get ripped… 2. have something you are working towards 3. Love yourself fully and completely
I had to stop in the middle of this video to cry and allow mysel to feel the pain of my inner wounded child for years. Damn, Aaron.. you were super raw and real in this video 1,000 more times compared to many other ones in the past. I too was that people-pleaser and wasted so much time looking on the outside looking for approval and validation...while ignoring myself, my frame and the work I needed to do to become stronger and better. It's been a few weeks now I've grown by leaps and bounds since I've really started focusing on myself. There really is true, indomable power in vulnerability then building up. Thank you, brother Aaron
Yeah I’ve found when I get more general and just do what I want to do right now for it’s own sake, that’s when the magic starts to happen and I realise there’s actually way better versions of what I thought my goals were 🎯🏋️♂️💪☯️🌍
I chose myself recently and I haven’t felt so complete in my life. It was the VERY first time I was able to lay down boundaries with a girl I realllly liked too.
Let go and have patience because by doing so you’re creating the energy of belief. And that is when the universe can give you what you want. Much Love from a Law Of Attraction RU-vidr 💜
I was chasing my ex for 6-7 months after we split. I just couldn’t seem to accept it. I wasn’t used to being alone. Plus my mum and gran died & two dogs whilst I was with her so literally going into a whole new life. I resisted a new life for ages and nothing was working when meeting new girls. Recently I got drunk and called and text her again as she unblocked me and straight back to block. This time it’s very different. There’s a great shift in me that’s ready for a new future. I’m ready to move on now. I can let her go and will let her go because holding on was too just painful. I’m ready to have fun & maybe meet someone new soon.
UGH😭 I am a complete mess. Only when I get into relationship is when my anxious attachment kicks in, then it falls apart. I'm strong when it comes to my friend relationships but definitely lose it once I meet a guy, especially when I really like him😳
Same here tbh, I’m a guy and have the same issue. I have to think about every action to try and control it, otherwise it scares them away. Dunno why TF I care so much for. Drives me insane !, it’s like some kind of self destructive bs.
I have to admit that I needed to see this video. It made me realise so many things and why I am like this. Chasing somebody is something I am partially doing and yes, whenever I withdraw my energy from them, they just come back. it is so real! This video is a life changer and probably the best video on RU-vid! I am so grateful for this! Love you Aaron!
Truly Authentic Aaron. Thank you for speaking from your heart. The notification came over just a moment before I was going to reach out to someone. The title told me to let it be. I decided to watch knowing that there was a message in there for me. It was the reminder that I needed at the moment to just do me and rest will fall into place as it is supposed to. Thank you once again. So happy that you are also doing you :)
8:04 OMG This is so true. I always try to help someone come out of their problem just so they will get closer to me and remember me and won't leave me because I helped them
so many years of suffering thinkning and attaching not only to partners i desired, but to friendships that brought me down instead of support me ❤️ thanks for sharing A Dawg!!
Whenever I try to do affirmations such as 'I am worthy or enough' I couldn't feel it but now I realized it comes from my own approval.. thank you for enlightening me
Exactly my story 🙈 but I am out of this shit now, I chose myself 🥳😄 I have shown my vulnerability and if people can’t take that I am out…it is a sign than that they are emotional unavailable and that’s no longer my cup of tea!
Left myself a long time ago.This is the key. Feel your feelings and take them serious, take action to take care of yourself.Your body keeps the score (Bessel van Kolk)
Yeah I’ve found when I get more general and just do what I want to do right now for it’s own sake, that’s when the magic starts to happen and I realise there’s actually way better versions of what I thought my goals were 🎯🏋️♂️💪☯️🌍🕺🏻🔥
Yes! I got so attached to a person in such a short amount of time. I couldn't figure out why. I got so friggin desperate to be with him. Now I know why. He gave me attention that I never gotten in my life by anyone. My parents abandoned me, my husband ignores me, is emotionally unavailable. He left 4 weeks ago. But I'm still longing for him. I'm crushed 😢
Your dad chose your ex stepmother because he didn't have a father in his life and was looking for that masculine frame he lacked in childhood. So he attracted a woman with a strong masculine frame. I can relate to this. This was my pattern. I wasn't taught to create a frame so I looked for a woman to create it and would attract women in their masculine.
I appreciate that 12 step recovery (as well as Tibetan buddhism) suggests a one year hiatus from relationships to heal oneself first. (Easier said than done) - but the result is we no longer pass along our traumas🙏🏻
2 years already.. no sex nor situationships.. haven't been in a normal relationship for over a decade and to be honest I never experienced love. The partners I had were addicted to alcohol, sex, substances or work. I am creating a balanced life and hope to meet a balanced man too if that even exist. Would not know where to look for it and I hope it comes organicly without any online influence.
OMG,SPEECHLESS,SPEECHLESS,SPEECHLESS i am with this particular video of yours. 13 mins into it n i have to pause to write this comment!! You just nailed it! Some really big insight here,ofc for the ones awake enough to hear it. THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart.
Tapped into my vulnerability.. felt gorgeous.. visited my inner work.. stuff come up I thought I’d dealt with from a previous abusive relationship.. seeing it completely differently. Tough day but grateful for the awareness and change of perspective xx
Yeah I’ve found when I get more general and just do what I want to do right now for it’s own sake, that’s when the magic starts to happen and I realise there’s actually way better versions of what I thought my goals were 🎯🏋️♂️💪☯️🌍
My dad is 73 and has always been super nice and passive. Don’t be too hard on your dad, our fathers grew up in a time where propensity for violence was much higher from simply being disrespectful- our generations have the luxury to dissect shortcomings of our parents. I know my dad lost his father young. He’s always just been the silent type but when you grow up with a father they do instill a baseline of respect and that kinda carries over to us walking on an even keel - you can be polite and respectful without being nice. Just avoid words like “ very much, so much “
To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, Love ❤️ is the greatest. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.
What a deep talk. It hit home. And it is scary for me. Anxious attachment style has been my way all my life. I really want to change it. Never led me anywhere good.
Dude this really made alot of sense to me, I had to stop and take notes. Im really glad I heard this tonight, it's the start of some self work I want to do for myself, the part about chasing the energy and validation we wanted as a child really hit close to home, wow. These things are really helping me make sense of the frame I had been putting myself into for way too long. Thank you for sharing this.
Watching you work through your own moments of constant discovery is relatable and beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story as well. This information,discussion is potent and powerful. No magic pill for this knowledge.
don't know how i came across your video but it is setting my soul on fire. Our childhoods sound similar... relatability times 1111. Hey thanks for making these videos. they are triggering AF, therefore.. i know they are meaningful. appreciate you my dude. and being cute makes it even better to watch.
I went through the same thing recently two months ago I left an abusive toxic relationship with a girl i was in for 4 years because it was familiar. Still thought she was the one being walked all over on every day . Now after listening to your videos I'm beginning to feel free . Changing my frame to secure attachment style no more codependency.
Oh wow. You’ve totally nailed what I seem to be doing right now and what I need to stop doing. And yup, I let go of the shame and am indeed putting my energies elsewhere. This is good stuff. Thank you
Hi Aaron! My name is Greg Bradin from Detroit Michigan. I can’t even tell you how much I relate to every single word in your video. I’ve been following your videos for a few weeks now and doing the meditations. I’m in a relationship as you described and I’m about to go have a real talk with her tonight. I have felt a big release today of letting go of the approval seeking. I even called my mom and straightened things out from childhood and we had a great talk. I’m not sure if you can reply but it would be great to hear from you and just get some guidance. I would love to follow anything from you that I can. Thanks and God bless you you are amazing!
Absolutely great video such insight Aaron you are such an amazing soul. love this the narcissists are attracted to the empaths... Its amazing to work out our family patterns etc and to see who we are. Wow you had such a tough childhood with al the chores. Love your authenticity Aaron . Huge respect to you..
Thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing about that... i can tell that you don't want to bring disrespect or shame to your dad and that's why your hesitated. Thank God for Grandma
I've found desiring produces very happy and expansive experiences. I've also found attachment to my own values and expanding Self is necessary and required to be in my own frame. So desiring a person takes me out of my frame. Appreciating another person and loving them knowing they're their own person as I am my own person is comfortable. It feels just right.
Yeah I’ve found when I get more general and just do what I want to do right now for it’s own sake, that’s when the magic starts to happen and I realise there’s actually way better versions of what I thought my goals were 🎯🏋️♂️💪☯️🌍
I am sure I won’t ever suffer on my own as much as I was chasing anyone or wanted to be approved or tuned on the outside constantly. I was hurting for so long and this patterns stop here.
I told her I dont love her anymore.. I lied, I had too she treats me the worst way, games etc.. a true narc. This will kill me, I need to stop and the pain and anger is immense
External validation is what keeps us in delusion. I had to begin within. So grateful that Tibetan Buddhist philosophy (as well as 12 step philosophy) indicates that one take a full year to heal their soul matrix before they wed. - that way there is no ancestral trauma passed onward! Karma stops with us! 🙏🏻❤️🧠
Wow. For the first time I met someone on Yt who's sharing… mine exact story. I mean all this family system of yours, even the grandma's thing. Wow. I wonder if the rest applies, the good things you were able to do to yourself after all. That is inspiring
..The space between me n the wall is where you had me..🙏💗I understand and it felt like magic to be focused inside again.I haven't felt that in YEARS..PLEASE EXPAND MORE ON THIS❗❗❗this helps so much😘🙌❗❗❗❗❗❗❗❗❗Please🙏🌻👋Namaste
Yeah I’ve found when I get more general and just do what I want to do right now for it’s own sake, that’s when the magic starts to happen and I realise there’s actually way better versions of what I thought my goals were 🎯🏋️♂️💪
My wife destroyed me and left after her affair and I feel attached even after all the horrible things she did to me as I’m clinging to what we had before she changed
Sir, your videos and way of teaching and explaining is awesome! I really feel lucky to find and watch your videos. They are helping me so much. May Allah bless you!
My late dad was emotionally inexpressive n critical and very rarely showed love or support. I thought if I tried harder he would be nicer n loving to me. It didn't work.
People are horrible, I don’t chase anyone yet no one chases me , I treat my children with kindness and respect and they take advantage so do my parents and brother
It s crazy because i lived some similar things, i used to have an abusive step mother and my dad get divorced when i was 15 too. Energy conects us to people that lived similar things, in this case to heal.
I've ALWAYS chosen women who needed "fixing" so that they would need me and not leave me like my dad and step-dad did. Of course that never worked. And I'm aware of the issue but still struggle with actually knowing I'm enough and moving forward not as a people pleaser.
