great video. some people may call me a "simp" but my number one goal of becoming the best version of myself is to find a good wife and start a beautiful family together
Ah That’s a beautiful thing just make sure you have yourself taken care of first before anything cause how can you love someone else when you don’t love yourself and how can you provide and protect someone else when you can’t even do that for yourself see what I mean?
i've been on self improvement for a while now and now i'm working, has a good physique and doing my studies for my exams, i started for girls but now after a while i know my worth and my mind has gone off of women, i still talk to my female friends but i don't do relationships couse i still have more to do, i've gotten wise and mature and thanks always for your advise.
W video man. I used to chase girls all the time when I was a young lad (about 16-17) as I’ve grown older I started focusing on success and self improvement to build my value as a man. At the end of the day you need to build a garden to attract the beautiful butterflies. Also great point if you aren’t comfortable within yourself and know you aren’t your dream self then don’t go chasing women because it won’t end well.
ur channel seriously need more attention man. genuinely, thank you. your content has been helpin me over the past few days. i leave for college tomorrow and i really wanted to start improving before making a big change. the way you explain these issues in an easy understandable way most people can relate to makes me feel like this journey won't be the hell and agony i imagined
Ive both tried to pursue women and ive also tried to ignore women and focus on other things in my life. Both things get me nothing but silence. Nothing works. Ive found there's no silver bullet or solution on what to do to attract someone. Theyre either attracted or they arent. And most of the time, they arent.
Wise words bro, I like your mindset! Self improvement starts this year for sure! Driving test end of this month, then joining the gym to keep myself in good condition. 2024 the year for all of us, KEEP GRINDING FELLAS 🤝
Thats facts,I rather work hard to make myself proud rather than having a woman proud or satisfied with me. But you are talking facts thoo💯💯love the humble advise.
Red pill user on this end! I really love your videos bro! You did get a few points a little off, but again you don't fully know about the context so its okay. Personally as a red pill user I don't hate women, I just have my priorities straight. I understand that I'm too young to be pouring my all into a female yk? Look at it this way...Love is a gamble...A break-up could make you lose everything, and most importantly yourself....and until you're not ready to gamble(have the status, and the money) a loss could be game changing for the worst.
Look I'm 34, was married from ages 20-31 now at 34 divorced I have been with alot of women alot! Let me tell yall it is temporary pleasure, sure have a girl to have fun with but all this chasing and dating is a waste of time and money, I been with many different kinds of women I finally understand female nature and how they operate, just focus on your character, build it up become your best version and that one special girl will pop up when u least expect it
i stopped with self improvement like a year ago when i fell in love with this one girl, it was actually after i decided not to care about women anymore. It was hard to hop back on the track cuz i felt like this community is dead in 2023 and i just did not see the idea where else i can get with it. In december i got lil motivated so i started to care more about self improvement again but now i saw your video. I just want to say you are unique. Guess it is just matter of time when you will get as big as you should have been. It has been a long time ago since i have heard this unique mindset. Hopefully I will be able to get at least somewhere where you are now. Thanks
I got a good body, some women consider me very handsome, but I’m not where I need to be financially. Just can’t figure that part out. I work a normal job and make more than enough money to support me but I’m not pushing that 6 figure range that I feel like I need.
Good content, i never realized how important it is to keep improving yourself, your mental state and to leave behind bad habbits until i f*cked up with a girl i really love. Ever since that moment i realized i had so much work to do on myself and i feel so much better knowing what i need to improve on and on the progress so far🙂
Seeing this comment section of mainly people over 20 gives me hope. As a 15 year old I’m going to try to commit to being better now so that I don’t need to watch videos like this in my 20s.
I really appreciate your words. This year my main goal is to improve my mindset positively and to focus on my main goals in life, no matter what happens. The aspect with realtionship contains a lot of patience and emotinal control.
I’ve moved to Cali to be with my Baby Mom… She done with me/moved on. I needed to hear what u said about looking in the mirror. I also been extremely suicidal.
I've had this dilemma for the past few days because like others I'm journey im alone, more so of the fact that i dont know people irl in the same shoes as me (or just have the same lifestyle/goals), so im usually sticking to myself besides talking to a couple ppl. There's this girl in one of my classes that re-introduced my mind into thinking about self-improvement/relationships, and although she seems like a good partner in my eyes, I definitely know i don't feel ready because I don't even got my own car or business going yet. So for now, I'm going to focus on getting to that level and surpass that. It's lonely ngl but I know that it's gonna be worth in the end, I know eventually I'll meet the right people and the girl too, just not rn obv.
I got way better when i stopped doing too much and focused on loosing the wheight bc it is what i really want and iam doing great now go one goal at a time
Tell the world watching po. 3n is like an illusion , seeing photos is an ,,illusion" because you give your attention and you use energy to something outside yourself, I appreciate you, keep it up
Just want to say most of your videos are pretty biblical, I just want you guys to know that u are all amazing and keep pushing to be the best versions of yourselves and also to know that you should also know that when you chase money and chase girls you will never be fulfilled, you will always feel like you don’t have enough, the only way to feel complete is with Jesus. I know may sound annoying thinking it’s another religious weirdo, but seriously speaking from experience Jesus is the only one who can complete you. Thanks have a good day and just know you are loved ❤️
I see people inviting women to podcasts to let them see that they don't respect our standards, but they want us to respecter theirs. I usually don't see people shaming women for, for example, wanting someone taller. It's more like a "don't be mad if we prefer younger women when you prefer taller men, because you while you can't change your age, we can't change our height".
Fair enough. Those podcasts do exist, but I've also seen clips of men telling women that no man will never love them etc. But maybe that's not representative of the entire show - i don't watch these podcasts in full.
Even if you merely turn your head to LOOK at a woman passing you on the street, you have already opened up all of your weaknesses to the world. Your entire mindset, your thoughts, are open for the world to see with that simple move. And you showed the world that you can be manipulated and controlled. ABSOLUTELY unacceptable. Read Marcus Aurelius. One should be like a slab of stone, unreadable only to those he allows to read him. NEVER show any weakness.
Hmm, not sure I agree with this. I think it's natural to acknowledge and appreciate the beauty of a woman on the street. The important thing, though, is to be in control of your desire / thoughts / sexual energy and just keep it moving (essentially, don't be overly excited or creepy about it).
@@chiyinde It is not "nature" we obey, but the doctrines of society and the ethics of the superior life form that we are. Nature is something that we conquer, colonize, and replace with skyscrapers and factories and orderly suburbs. And we need to do the same with a lot of useless instincts and traits that we are born with.
Because you put your self in the freindzone bro you didn't make your intentions clear from the get go I have done the same mistake and so have many other men have
Ok Mr Chi I hear yuh but please do tell me what the solution to this ‘men should not chase women’ dilemma is because somebody has to chase somebody otherwise how will the two parties get together… if you’re expecting us womenfolk to do the work of running after you guys then you’re in for a short sharp shock hahahah cos we ain’t doing it… see that’s not the natural order of things and no self respecting classy lady who knows her worth would ever succumb to chasing a man no matter how much she likes/loves or fancies him… I mean if he can’t be bothered with the chase then why should she be… and when I say she’ I actually mean me hahahah as I would never ever chase after a man.. never have and I never will…see there is a new breed of woman out there in this big wild world who are of a certain high calibre.. they are extremely wise and self assured/assertive and so they’ll just walk away because they know that they have other… possibly better options besides you.. (and I don’t mean you as in you Mr Chi)… I think some of the attitudes of you menfolk in regards to this topic is wholly nonsensical and a tad juvenile if I’m to be honest… most of you pesky men are just so gullible and easily swayed by your peers, friends, colleagues whatever whichever that my advice to you is only this as follows… Govern your own life… have your own opinions… go after the things in life that you desire no matter what anyone else says or thinks because this is your life not someone else’s… remember you only get this life… right now is all you have as there’s no guarantee of a tomorrow so don’t waste this valuable time that you’ve been blessed with by letting various others drive your life to unknown destinations…. don’t be a passive passenger or even worse a backseat voyeur… take the steering wheel and drive yourself onwards and forwards and even if you’re driving alone.. it doesn’t matter because you get to take yourself where you wish to go… there is no better feeling than knowing you are the boss of your own life and decision making… I think one should learn from their own mistakes but to master this skill… one needs to follow one’s own heart and mind.. because If you continue constantly to listen and adopt what others say you should or should not do then when things go epically pear shaped then whose fault would that be ?? Yours my friend… Just yours…. When you listen too much to what others think… you also miss out on what you yourself can achieve… There you go that’s my complete conclusion on this here subject Thanks for listening That’s all folks Ttfn;);
The red pill isn’t about complaining about women the select few gives the rest a bad name, the red pill is a warning that the Disney fall in love at first sight the happily ever after rarely happens, that in divorce usually the man gets the short end of the deal.
@@chiyindesorry to butt in but it is pessimistic considering some women genuinely believe in personality over looks, status and money because they want to grow with you
this advice " start a business" is so cliche and unrealistic it make me roll my eyes every time i hear it , as if it's possible to just start a business by deciding it and "working on yourself" ....whatever the hell that suppose to mean , changing your lifestyle is a luxury most people can't afford, it's just not that simple... it sounds good when you say it out loud but it's not a very practical and realistic advice and women these days are more irrational and unreasonable than ever, it comes down to luck to find a female that's both good looking and down to earth , most people who have girlfriends it's not due to them being "sucessful good looking desirable men"... it's mostly due to circumstantial luck....at the right time , right place and with the right person any average guy can get a girlfriend, you don't have to be this super sucessful good looking alpha male for that
Brother, you sound as though you've given up on life. "Start a business" was one example of something you could possibly do to change your situation, amongst MANY other things. Fair enough, it's not applicable to everyone, and I understand that. But suggesting that you're unable to "work on yourself" or that you must acquiesce and leave things to luck is a defeatist attitude. Also, of course most men can get a girlfriend. My point was that if you're not having success (with the calibre of woman that you want) then you must improve yourself first.
I don't care much about self improvement these days, if anything ive just gone backwards and let myself go. I was better and had much more in the past when I was younger, had money and was better looking than I do now and it still wasn't enough. While I was taking care of myself, working and was in good shape, these women were busy screwing around with bums, drug dealers, and crackheads. You cant tell me those guys spent time on self improvement. I spent the better part of my life single and wasted the better half of my life on women who didn't want me. Now I'm not looking to attract a divorcee and raise another man's step kids. Basically I think the whole self improvement thing is more like saying "I'm not good enough and will never be good enough". Maybe its a mindset thing.
I still don't understand what woman with Standards really means.... Also I don't know what a man with Status really means as well... English is NOT my first language and still don't understand any of these terms. Please give me a easy Example for me to understand because I'm Dyslexic.
i find it fascinating that lots of guys with low self esteem are watching this. I don´t want to exclude me. And they think to themselfes: Ok, for me to be worthy to have an attractive gf, i have to make a lot of money first and built a great physique. Mean while i have a 19 year old colleague that has a young beautiful girlfriend. The guy is built like a stick and works as a cashier at the supermarket. But he is very loose, he has some self esteem and is not ashamed to be himself. And i tell you this guy is really crazy, he says outrageous things all the time. Sexual comments, Racist stuff, a lot of shameless stuff. But he gets away with it. Because everyone is attracted to this loose energy, they love it that he is just himself, he is just an authentic dork. And because he is himself and puts himself out there all the time, he can attract a girl that is attractive. Ok, the girl is maybe a 7/10. But if you re not very successful in life you won´t get the top of the top anyway. And if you do, you can´t keep a girl like that nowadays. They have to much options. But if you re loose you can capatalize on your average male attractiveness and get a decent girl. Something on your level.
Advice that runs contrary to the dating app advice - you may be good enough, and the amount of women you can attract shouldn't your measure of self worth. Women have standards, and if you really think about it, those are exceptionally higher when your compared to hundreds and hundreds of men. It's literally min-maxing who and what they find attractive. Not to mention these men gassing them up to usually just get in bed with them. Find confidence in the things others will shit on you for doing, the things you love, and don't allow your self worth to depend on womens validation or how other men are doing comparatively. Do you. Those 2 will put you at a point where you can even think of dating. Add hygiene ( a bit of marketing your attractiveness too) and the ability to let a girl go, you're going to be incredibly desirable. And from my experience, dating apps (tinder/bumble) usually just leads to hook ups and ghosting. It can be tough for your ego, so don't put too much stock into it. Just my experience and things I've learned from it.
that's another issue, you got guys demonizing and mocking other guys who want to improve other aspects of their lives telling them to chase after 304s. I'm like what? What if they don't want that type of lifestyle what if they want to pursue a career first? They hate simps yet they want you to remain a simp. Most red pillers are hypocrites nowadays anyway yelling at guys for simping when 98% of them workout to get validated by 304s it aint even real self improvement anymore.
Btw, What exactly do you mean when you say women are drawn to power and status? do you mean a masculine traditional male who can provide for her? or something along the lines of an ego driven pretty boy? aside from that im not having trouble agreeing in ur message whatsoever.
Great video brother. Me and a few other self-improvement youtubers are having a workshop, in order to give eachother feedback, reflect on ways to improve, etc. Free ofc. You seem to be wise and you are welcome to join. Do you have an Email so I can reach you?
