WHY DO IT? WHY WAKE UP? WHY FIGHT? 

Gotta wake up to feed my cat and play battlefield 1, someone has to do it 💪

What I got from this video: 1: go in a direction but don't strive for a specific thing because it'll magically make you happy 2: Google why fire goes up

I wish I was a rock sometimes

"Progress is progress no matter how small" -that one fitness app i use

“Don't bend; don't water it down; don't try to make it logical; don't edit your own soul according to the fashion. Rather, follow your most intense obsessions mercilessly.” Kafka

Key Takeaways: 1.) Just as how fire always goes up and water goes down, *you have a certain gravitational pull that forces you in a specific direction.* Don't get caught up in a particular simple solution or some "magic pill", allow yourself to move in that direction. 2.) *But keep in mind that if your happiness is rooted in you reaching a singular point, then you will never be happy.* Once you reach that point, you'll always find something "better" that you'll have to reach towards in order to be "happy". Focus on making progress in the general direction that drives yourself 3.) On that same point: *"Don't attach yourself to a fantasy, move in the direction".* Take little steps towards a very general goal, don't focus on a specific point because you'll never actually improve. 4.) *Don't make a "plan" for how you'll be happy.* Dr. K brings up the Planning Fallacy, which is the idea that the plans you make before you actually start your journey are the worst plans possible because you won't know how the journey will go. As said before, move in that general direction that you have a gravitational pull towards, and don't get caught up on specific checkpoints along the way. 5.) *When you think you have the "perfect" answer for something, life will not hesitate to bitch-slap you.* Going back to point 4, don't get too hung up on specific checkpoints or specific "perfect answers", because life will always find a way to jebait you. "If you're attached to a particular thing that is /the/ answer to all of your problems, chances are it's not the answer to all your problems". Don't be afraid to settle for second best, as it is probably better than what you originally came up with. Also, if you have trouble finding that gravitational pull that drives you, I highly recommend this video from CGP Grey about how to use "Themes" to help you move in the direction you want to move towards. It's only 6 minutes, but it's probably been one of the best videos I've seen all of 2020: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-NVGuFdX5guE.html

I've only seen the title and I'm really not trying to think about that lmao.

the "happiness comes from within bro, buy our shirt" bit fucking killed me lmao

As dumb as it sounds, I'm such a huge procrastinator that I am literally starting to not give a shit about consequences, and just "take it" if aspects of my life become miserable of it. This gravitational pull towards becoming happy doesn't work on me. I'd LIKE to live a happier life, but I don't bother anymore because I think of where I might end up decades down the line, think about my current circumstances and just give up.

"Get the silver medal, or even the bronze." Yep. I've heard this idea phrased differently as "Anything worth doing is worth doing badly." Too demotivated to go to the gym? Ok just maybe walk on the spot while watching one of Dr K's longass interviews. Too busy to pick out the perfect health insurance plan? Hell with it - just ask what the most popular one is and get that; it's better than being uninsured for one more day (never know when something might happen to you). Too perfectionist to ever get into investing your life savings? Meh, just toss the lot into a few ETFs, bonds and safe low-fee instruments, perfectionism be damned. Anything worth doing is worth doing halfassedly. Halfassedly-done is better than perfectly undone.

You know what gets me? When I visit my mom in the graveyard I've realized that she married a man that after almost 20 years still comes to clean her resting place. While people can't maintain a relationship for more than a few months.

I lost my dad and girlfriend around the same time recently and it's been incredibly hard to find a reason just to get out of bed. I've given myself one small goal and that's what I'm working towards. Once I achieve that goal I'll try think of a new goal to work towards. I just want something that makes me feel proud to be myself because I definitely don't feel proud to be myself right now.

9:47 - lol I used to tell my yoga students that frequently. You see that happening all of the time in fitness. People expecting to be able to do things that take years of training within a few weeks.

To get that bread

Fire go up, water go down. and wheels on the bus go...? :D

He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how - Friedrich Nietzsche

I honestly dont find motivation to get up in the morning anymore....there are so many things that are on my mind that I WANT and TRY to change, but I honestly dont find the strength or even courage to do so. I'd rather silently stay indoors and never see anyone again anymore. I feel like everything I do is for nothing. It's like I can be the best person I can be, but I still dont find what I am looking for....like its never enough.

I just keep moving forward

Dr. K is so funny, man. I was chuckling when you were explaining "happiness comes from within, bro." is a popular phrase. Dude, you're the man. You're helping people in a place that's so smart and reaches so many people and it's so unconventional. You've helped out a couple of people I look up to and helped them in a way I never ever could as a singular, not-as-intelligent 'friend'. So thanks, Dr. K. You're actually The Man.

three things I thought of while watching 1) there is an expectation for perfection at a young age. Many kids (middle schools/high schoolers) are expected to make important decisions early on and I remember mostly being afraid of embarrassing myself. A lot of the things I was insecure abt took me a while to get over because the fear of being "cringe" is so real. We look at the ppl doing things in ASB, sports, etc. and make fun of them because they are putting themselves out there and making mistakes, but as he said, no one is perfect in the beginning. Kids are fkn cruel and it limits us well into adulthood. 2) there is a centralization of thoughts and beliefs. This kind of goes hand-in-hand w/ #1. Schooling system, the internet, western culture, all leads us to think in similar ways and defines what normal is and what expectations are. like talking to strangers is weird, putting yourself out there is cringe, how there is a desired way of life, desired attributes that people want when looking for a relationship etc. But it really shouldn't be like that. Fk everyone. Ik how much its hard to internalize that. We want to be accepted, we want a relationship, we want our parents to accept us, but in reality, it limits us. By redefining what existence means and how one should approach life, the possibilities are endless. As much as ppl say, get a six figure job, get married, live in the suburbs, raise a family, etc. as the only acceptable way of life, ignore it, tune it out, stand your ground, do your own thing. Its def an option and nothing bad, but by only allowing one definition of a successful life, you are limiting what "success" means. Redefine what success means, make a bucket list, and chase that. 3) There is a higher societal value on the end goal and not the journey. Fk the end goal. The success is in the journey. There should more value, more reward, more emphasis on achieving happiness through the journey. Itll make your attitude toward life a whole lot better. You did one push up today? hell ya!! take pride in that. And take pride in failure. It shows effort. Value failure more than apathy and your approach to everything will dramatically change.

How to convince yourself to get up from bed in the morning the easy way: Drink two or three glasses of water before you go to bed.

I was in a weird place the last 2 days, really needed this, thanks man

Man if i were a cloud, life would just be so chill

I used to have a direction, not one I liked because the work I did sucked but fuck, this was better than waking up nowadays without having ANY direction. Not even a pull. I spend hours in front of my desk drifting away mindlessly. My 10 y/o self would have cried I he knew how life would turn out. Neither sports or friends are fun anymore.I've been reflecting on this situation for about 6 years now, and I came to the conclusion that not everybody has their gap in which they fit. I've been shown for a second time now that I'm too stirred up mentally to be in a relationship or a place I belong to. There's seriously nothing to wake up for. For a long time I didn't comprehend the meaning of 'hell is on earth' but now, after years of the mental abuse I and external sources caused I finally understand that there's no need for fire or torture-demons when all the necessary tools are inside you already. I don't wanna die, I just don't want to keep suffering anymore.

Thank you for this. What you are putting into words is, I think, what we all already know but don't realize it or feel its not important. I needed this

WOW, I really needed to hear this video! "Move in the direction that you need to go in and don't get particularly attached to some thing that is in that direction...." that line hit hard and I'll definitely start implementing this in my own life.

I found this exactly when I needed it. Honestly, thank you for doing this.

Great message!! I needed to hear this...I'm so obsessed with the results and am so strict with myself...I can relate

Dr. K, I go to your channel whenever I'm feeling down or lost and more than often, I come out a bit happier and with a clearer mind. Thank you and the team for what you guys do.

The idea of "journey over destination" summarizes a lot of this talk very well. A helpful tip for me was to try to make that journey (the day-to-day) as enjoyable as possible. For example, if you want to be lose weight, try to find exercises/sports that are fun for you, that you "are pulled to" (as Dr. K would say). I struggled trying to become a runner for years until i realized i hate running. Picked up cycling and fell in love immediately. It's one of the things in my life that "pulls" me out of bed in the morning.

I needed this shit fr I've been struggling to figure out shit about my future colleges, my finals, wanna get healthier, and so on. Thank you, Dr. K :)

i am grateful to have found you and your content dr. k these are all simple nuggets of wisdom that resonate so deeply and profoundly and i thank you.

This reminds me of what I’ve been telling my girlfriend. Whenever she’s not where she wants to be physically she gets upset that she’s not there even though she’s actively working towards it. I tell her what’s important is that she’s working towards it, eventually you’ll get there. And that happiness shouldnt be attached to having your body look a specific way because with what she’s doing today she’ll eventually get there.

Thank you, for always providing me with new perspectives and for helping me get through the sometimes deafening boredom of quarantine

This quote is lifechanging ; "Even if you don't get the gold always go for the silver and bronze, just go for it" - Dankter K. Instead of robbing the bank teller I stole the atm, thanks doctor k :)

Another great clip. Dr K has a fantastic, easy-to-understand prose. Love this channel and this community.

I can’t stress enough how appreciative I am of this guy and his vids man

i died laughing when he did the "happiness comes from within" voice at 6:55

Thanks for posting this part, saw it live but really wanted to make some notes from it.

I do it because it's hard and it forces me to change day-by-day and get better. I do it for the spiritual enlightenment and so that after I die and I'm faced with everything I know that I fought and struggled the entire time without ever giving up while doing my best. I've fallen down many times and thought I should just give up cause it would be so much easier. This is part of it, push through the fear and the doubt, keep fighting and you will continue to grow slowly but surely.

A really great video, focusing on why when I get X or become Y, my life will change drastically! Thanks for publishing it! (Also, there are no end credits at the end, that leads to other videos and the channel itself)

"Why does fire go up?" Heat rises, ez.

Wise encouragement. Take it one day at a time and head in the direction.

Exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you Dr.K!

Because, if nothing else, simply 'existing' is worth waking up for. If you exist, you have an impact, no matter the scale.

The only way I was able to truly understand that “happiness comes from within” is by doing things that improve myself. It doesn’t matter what I do or how much I do, but as long as it makes me better then it is worth doing. If my room is dirty, then it is worth cleaning. If I have a bunch of late school work, it is still worth doing. Even if I know there is no point, if it makes me better then there IS a point. Another key thing is that you don’t have ANY control over your outcomes. I always think to myself: “There’s always a chance that I could die tomorrow”. It doesn’t matter how well you did on the test if you could theoretically just die the next day. Forget the outcome. Focus on the things that you do have control over which are your actions and perceptions.

Its really great having you on here. Really innovative work!

Good insight, move in the right direction because we cant decide our fate

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DO A LECTURE ON LETTING GO OF ATTACHMENTS/EXPECTATIONS!!!!!!

Dr. K, love the content, just a quick question (to you or anyone)--I get that moving toward the direction of your goal is better than psyching yourself out with over-romanticizing life once you achieve it and not taking action anyway, but how does planning come into play then? I'm frustrated because I want to get better at, say, study skills. However, there's no concrete progression (like there is in video games) with explicit rewards for it. So when I do make progress, I feel like I'm 1.) not tending to recognize/reward myself properly, but more importantly 2.) tend to regress after the novelty is over and real habitual change doesn't occur. I guess the essence of my question is how do you balance this advice (take any action) with the tendency to be complacent? Thanks a ton for what you do!

This video really had perfect timing for me. Thank you DR. K.

Im so happy that we are able to return to these videoes when we need them! I really needed to hear this today.

Quote from David Goggins: “You’re either getting better or you’re getting worse” Notice how he doesn’t mention a goal or an expectation. That’s because it doesn’t matter. :)

I really feel like nonchalant non-habitual goals aren't enough. It is better to set a medium term (3 months) goal of creating a habit to as large of a degree that one can handle. Example) If exercising 3 times a week for 30 minutes is too hard then simply do it for 10 minutes 3 times a week. And make your goal to turn that into a habit, putting all your energy into it for three months. The idea is that after those three months you can set another goal or expand your current one.

Thank you for making content like this. it helps a lot 💯

This is what I needed to hear today. Thank you.

Dr K is probably not going to see this but he has definetly saved my life on multiple ocasions.

Is this pretty much the same as "Focus on the process, not the end-result"?

This video is full of valuable insight, thank you!

It's about the journey, not the destination. 🙂

I lived with chronic pain for 17 years and tried to be in the societal mindset to always be going and doing so I fought so hard against what my body was telling me, and when it couldn't do it I was hard on myself and frustrated. After trying to drag myself around in this horrible cycle and feeling sorry for myself long enough I reached 2 conclusions. One I crave balance and two I'm willing to do anything to achieve change. I surrendered to what my body needed and stopped trying to listen to all the "should do this and that" in my head and tried instead to just exist in a guilt free way and tried different changes to be healthier. My pain ended up going away and now I love the mundane because I feel joyous so doing them is joyous too. It's not the doing that brings me joy, it's the joy that shows me the joy in doing the mundane. Even washing dishes by hand and seeing the bubbles on the wet knife as the dirt gets rubbed off to a shiny beautiful version of itself - it's an experience! A big thing I did to reach this inner balance was to practice unitasking and living in the now, not the yesterday or tomorrow. Yesterday and tomorrow is none of my buisness. ^^

This title over here calling me out sleeping in till noon

Thank you, right now I'm stuck between deciding one particular thing rather than the other but I guess you can't really say either way, there's no way to predict the future. One step at a time, one day at a time.

What I got from this is that you gotta enjoy and embrace the journey coz the destination never makes you fully content.

Pain and suffering is inevitable. The goal is to optimize mental/spiritual satisfaction by minimizing pain and suffering. It's counterintuitive but attempting to optimize (maximize) happines will lead you to misery..

"Let yourself be silently drawn by the stronger pull of what you really love." -Rumi

Love u dr.K, dropping serious knowledge on the daily.

Dr.K you couldn't be more right. I was stressed about our finances after having our first kid. We just seemed to be going further into debt month after month. All the planning didn't help. It wasn't until we just became happy with moving in the right direction even if it was small that we finally started making progress. What's incredible is with most things whether it be finances, fitness, relationships, hobbies if you start with little steps in the right direction it can snowball into huge progress down the line.

This guy is putting out just what I need right now...

Bro, do I have the permision to translate your material to spanish, and re-upload it? I think this will help a lot of people, but I understand if you don't want to anyways, thanks!

Hearing this made me smile. Beautiful thought process :)

I needed that so much.. Thanks HealthyGamerGG, always there when I need it the most

I feel like for some people there are things that'd make them happy, but it's not items, it's connections, feelings, people.

Why do I want a "Happiness comes from within" T-shirt now?

Thank you for the better understanding.

You are right. Back then I started to lose weight and in the initial months I couldn't see much of a difference and was disappointed. Then I simply stopped caring and followed my routine for a year. It worked out great!

The only thing that keeps me going is improving myself and my art. It's difficult but its always on step at a time. Love yourself even if you have flaws, nobody is perfect.

"I keep moving forward. Until my enemies are destroyed.". -Tatakae, Jaeger.

I can't even understand what direction I'm being pulled in. It's like I'm following a magnet tied to a truck. I don't know where I'm going, or what being happy would even be like.

your someone I really have been needing for a bit more then a month now

2:14 favorite reaction moment

One must imagine Sisyphus happy

Thanks, I needed that man

I really needed to hear this today

Because I'm still scared of Death; soon as I get some courage, it's time to tap out.

Gravity is an interesting way to explain what pulls us to do things. Though it’s a little misleading because when you think of gravity, you think of simply letting go of something, and seeing it drop. With our life goals, however, it’s not so much a matter of letting go of something as much as it is climbing upwards toward something. I suppose that gravity works better as our desires. And action is the resistance that we must overcome. Hm. Something like that.

Dr. Kanojia, I feel like this is exactly what I needed to hear today. Funny how things work out like that sometimes. hope you have a good day

Effin beautiful mate! Nice ideas

I'm annoyed that this channel has such a huge volume of good content. You're supposed to be convincing me to get off the computer and improve my life, and I can't stop watching these.

7:11 Dr K farming those LULW and he fucking knows it

This came at the perfect time thanks Dr. K

A rock isn't happy. It just isn't miserable.

You know you're "jebaiting" material when even your own conscious "jebaits" you!!!!

Bro, I've never seen a happy rock.

a pep talk just what I needed thanks.

Man I love you an your content. The video you did with that kid about potential got me out of a major funk in my life. That AOE healing got me back to tip top magoo!

Because Dr K streams on Twitch every Monday, Wednesday and Friday

0:40 *P H Y S I C S *

6:56 my happiness comes from when HE PULLS STUNTS LIKE THESE😂😂

Damn. Some hard truths in there. Thanks a lot