Don't ever take back a man who leaves you because he will do it again and again. None of the men I took back ever stayed so when a man comes back either block or slam the door in his face.
Bingo 😩🙌🏾. He will make you his placeholder so he'll always have someone to fall back on when things don't work out with the "better option." I was dumb once and it was an emotional roller coaster 🎢🌚.
@@winning3329 exactly! This happened to me so many times with my recent ex. I finally blocked and slammed the door in his face lol I will never take a man back who leaves me.
Let him earn your love. You gotta be willing to lose a man, in order to keep a man. Most times when a man comes back, he's coming back out of ego and very rearly is he coming back out of heart. T.G voice in my head😂. Be blessed.
I gave my ex 2 chances we got married at 18 so when he hadn't changed by 30 it was a wrap.😮 He was NOT an exception, he didn't change until he was 50+ and looked 70 years old.
Oh yes, lol they will come back to see if you're going to allow them to come back and use you and mistreat you all over again. 😂They will do it simply because it's allowed.
If a guy dumps you and comes back he will do it again and again. Every guy i took back left me. I stopped this dysfunctional cycle by loving myself and putting myself first and knowing that i deserve a man who doesn't break up with me and comes back.
👸it stills hurts really bad. but dignity over everything, u will not get a 2nd chance to dump me bc that's what i control. u threw away a diamond 💎, u stoopid fool & 🤪for that u must pay the consequences🤬 of blocked 🚫& delete forever. & metaphorically only; condolences 🙏☹️😔😢his new girlfriend. u did me wrong. u ran 🏃♂️out my life. im so thru w/u!!! 😪😩😫😔😭😢😪-singer Avant song 🎵Separated
@@patriciahetherington1709 👸Congratulations 💐🥳! never take him back bc he's only coming back out of ego not love😤 to see if u stupid enuf to take him back, so he can keep breaking ur heart over & over again, causing it to never heal🤒🤕🤢🤮🤧; selfish sadistic pyscho grown-boy that he is😌don't fall for his tricks! stay blocked 🚫deleted & leveled up. the very best revenge is, never talking to him again🙅♀️bc he's beneath u🤣
Thats exactly what it is hun. He will disrespect you, lash out at you, talk down to you, act like you got a leash around is neck even though he has ALL the power in the relationship, because he wants out. But the minute he goes back out there and other females ain't having none of it, they want no parts 🙅🏽♀he's so sad, shocked, appalled and feels attacked as a man so he apologizes to you. Hilarious! These men always overestimate how much other females want them. They really think females are checking for them because they pulled 1 chick. They throw this onto women by claiming it's actually women who like men that other women want. Turns out thats actually far from the truth and he's just rationalizing his h*e tendencies. 😂😂😂😂
My best advice is to anyone, just move on, don't go back. I made that mistake for myself wanting to get back with my ex, and nothing changed. Actually, he showed me by action, and from the questions that I asked him how he truly felt about me, it wasn't good!! I've been single for a little over a year & the hurt comes & goes. I'm still holding on to what was in the beginning and how things were just awesome between us. Now I'm praying to God to take that emotional hurt away. He really did crush me. Now I look at him as a narcissist, manipulator & a dangerous person to be around. He also has double standards, so I'm in the best place that I can be in my life.
There really aren't "plenty" of fish in the sea. And no - some people will not end up happy and in love. But who cares!? Relationships are not the only thing that can make a person happy.
They gone back to waste more of your time and because we let him. Once he’s gone unless he’s make extreme changes outside of his relationship with you let him go!!!
I think sometimes they double back simply because they've come to realize contrary to what they thought that the grass really wasn't much greener on the other side of the fence, regardless I still wouldn't want them back on the rebound.
And I’ve learned of he comes back but tells you that he’s not willing to talk About what happened and it needs to stay in the past although you have not been able to speak on how you feel on the situation let it go because he or she is not serious because speaking on the issues helps you and the person to let go and move on so that way the relationship can be at peace
Exactly. Men usually bury stuff. I say corner him on the matter and if he starts telling you "You're crazy" and "You're being emotional"...tell him "Hell yeah! I am because if I did this to you, you'd be emotional and crazy too" Don't ever let anything go undiscussed. Men usually try to avoid talking about certain things because they're in the wrong and they know it! Their silence is guilt. Don't ever let their condescending statements like "Oh you talk too much" and "You’re taking things too personally" scare you. The pain of not bringing it up is way worse. Later he'll tell you "Oh you never told me" 😂😂😂😂😂😂 They argue from every angle so you gotta let it be known where you stand even if you come off "annoying" to him. I embraced that because otherwise they'll act "forgetful" whatever that means 🙄 I'm always on "never forget" mode. 😂😂 Nothing can be used against you once you embrace it.
One lesson I learned, never take a man back. Especially If he cheated, made you feel bad about who you are or left for another woman. He coming back to get something he left behind and it's not the woman. Probably sex, money/benefits or he miss her.
Everything you are saying is true he came back and he applied pressure every issue that broke us up he changed that behavior blew me back today he is awesome love of my life but the reason we broke up he was a lying cheating n***a I watched the video and I walked away for a year I acted like I never knew him I moved a hour away got a new job paying more money , man I got new clothes new hair new furniture and I did the work on me and it was so damn hard and I'm still working on me and I was on my glow up and I wasn't playing now yes we have had a few issues since but nothing like before and I wasn't stupid I wasn't just going to trust him but here it is 2 years later and he still consistent and applying pressure Thank you Mr.Gaskin
“Instead of trying to break you”… why did we sign up for this? We definitely need to coach kids on this, women deserve to learn how to screen men for red flags. ❤️🙏
I love how Mr Tony keeps refreshing our brains. Just in case you're new, you won't be missing out. I've heard him speak about this in many videos and in his books. I have all. I never get tired of reading it and listening to the videos. Get the books, he go deeper in it. Be blessed.
My ex boyfriend hurt me so bad. Ik for a fact he’s not coming back to me for any good reason. I will never talk to him again. So idk why he keep trying to contact my friends & family to talk to me but I’m getting tired of him and I’m not a bad person so I start to feel a lil guilty for doing what’s best for me but then I sit and realize how those other times I felt guilty and where that led me stresses & confused I’m gone KEEP GOING! I cannot go back to where I got sick at!
Yes. There are much better men out here. Hang in there. Don’t talk to him or about him. Move in . Get busy with your own life and don’t worry about his problems.
I needed to hear this. I’m going through this right now. My husband keeps asking for me to let him back but I’ve been standing my ground with “no”. I have let him return home more times than I’m comfortable to admit because it’s embarrassing. The only thing is in the back of my mind I wonder if he really changed this time. Im scared to take that risk so I just rather be without him.
Take Tony's wisdom, stop fantasizing and let's respect ourselves. When did women become so desperate? Why have women allowed society and misogyny to cause us to believe that men are the prize that we should pursue and be desperate for and wait around for? Love yourself, respect yourself and let Jesus take the wheel ladies. YOU are the prize.
1:29 Spot on right there👌 When it comes to this relationship thing it's like we switch off that reality switch and switch on that fantasy switch.Young and old.
I just started watching Tony a few weeks ago, & as a woman whose exes ALWAYS come back, literally year after year, I wanted to test his theory. I blocked one ex from my IG last week. Another tried to reconcile two days after I watched TGs past video on this topic. He & I were 2gether 5 years ago & this is his 2nd attempt at reconciliation in 2 yrs. I declined previously. The difference is that I got saved this year & cut out drinking, secular music, toned down my dress style, and read/practice the word daily. He cornered me into a 2hour phone convo trying to force me to say we will get back together before I hung up🤦🏽♀️. He did acknowledge & apologize 4 the pain he caused, offered to relocate me, invest in my business, and buy me another company car OR I could be a housewife. In convo, I asked what he liked about my personality 😂#1 red flag. “You take care of me and put me and/or others first. I said what about me as a woman? He somehow kept going back to what I did for him. He then got flustered. Then I told him about some of the changes in my life, which I thought would be positive to him. This fool said I was trying to deter him. He mentioned my celibacy, which I confirmed. This is when he wouldn’t let me get off the phone until I committed. I simply told him I was open to us getting to know each other again bc lots has changed in 5 years and I didn’t want him to be disappointed and that it was now 3am and time for bed. He hung up mad bc he feels its as easy as 1-2-3 due to “history”One or two texts from him over the next few days then CRICKETS/SILENCE. Tony Gaskins was right🤦🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
I was going to say until I read the end he’s not changed! Please do NOT get back with him or even speak with him, delete his number or block him and don’t give him access to you he’s a waste of time. He just wanted to see if he could get back through the door because he has no one atm. Men do things that benefit them and out of convenience keep walking up the right path pray to God and ask him to guide your steps. I think when you’re tested you know you’re doing something right keep it up and seek God always in all that you do 🙏🏾
Girl I applaud first all the work you’ve done on your heart, soul & self and 2nd for the strength you had to not fall for all the emotions…both his & yours because that’s the hardest part. If we are kind & loving people, it can be easy to see past someone’s issues, but we must hold STRONG to our heart & soul as we are precious divine creations of the Lord & He only wants us with a mate who will hold us in that vision of preciousness as well💝🙏
“When a man comes back do not expect a man to come back and when he comes back do not trust him. He has to prove beyond a shadow of a doubt beyond a reasonable doubt in the court of love that he is back for love, with remorse and he is back with NO ego. He has to prove it. Do not give him the benefit of the doubt. Do not give him any grace. Do not give him any favor. Everything must be earned. That is the way of the world and that is a man’s lot in life. We gotta get it out the mud we gotta get it out the muscle and we got to kill what we eat ain’t no free lunches - everything got to be earned. This man need to have flowers he need to have showers and if you’re in Africa you may need some dowry.. He need to be humble, consistent, patient, compassionate, forgiving, understanding.. what’s on the woman is that you do not throw his past into his face over and over. Being married for 16 years.. there’s gonna be 10-20 good conversations about what happened. Neither side should expect to have one full long conversation and be done with it. I dont care how emotionally intelligent you think you are you gonna discuss it. What you need to do is set a timeline. You got one year. After the one year your gotta make a decision. From there you gotta see can I forgive and forget? From there you have a decision to make. *You cannot make a person be a prisoner of their past if you want them to be a part of your present and your future.* Most of the time men come back not out of love but out of ego or out of pain. When he comes back out of ego - maybe he’s trying to get you back because he heard you talking to somebody else and he don’t want nobody else his woman. He got a soul tie with you he been in the trenches with you, y’all got history he don’t want someone else sleeping with his woman. 70%of the time when a man comes back it’s out of ego. Other 20% it’s out of pain - a soul tie - and emotional tie - the craving of the chemical release from the brain that the body receives from your interaction. His stomach is hurting, he cannot get the monkey off his back. This man on the other 10% is out of love. That’s when he realizes that you’re the one. That’s the most rare. He realized that he made a mistake, left prematurely, or he pushed you away so you had to make him leave or you left him. But he realized there is not another woman like you, he should not try to break you, he should try to love you instead, he needs to grow up, mature, get on your level and try to make it work with you. Don’t get your hopes up when a man comes back, don’t drop your guard when a man comes back, take your time, make him work, let him show you, don’t play mind games, but don’t get on your back for him. When this man come back you startin over from scratch.”
I needed to watch this because I’ll work for this women trust back & do not care how long it takes me. You know when u find real love. God bless you man frl.
Don’t assume bc it’s a green light there’s no cars coming! Accidents happen all the time bc people cut it too close to the yellow light and speed or run red light in a hurry
This is where we are right now!! I had to send the man on smh He is in counseling and has dropped me several subtle hints, trying to have a conversation, but I feel like it’s too soon for any real change to have taken place. So I ignore advances. In the beginning he came back immediately and he did exactly what you said here.. the man took himself to the hospital for a stomach ache. They said he was fine. I think he just wanted to see me🤦🏽♀️ He was trying to test me.. sir get out again! 😂🤦🏽♀️ Now he has been gone even longer this time, and I’m still holding strong. Sir bring me my dowry or get gone! Git nih!!
Mannnn cousin Tony telling the truth yalll about these men coming back ask me how I know 🙋🏽♀️cause I’ve been through it 2 times. And I can laugh😂 cause Tony breaking this thing all the way down raw and unfiltered
"He needs to have showers" lmaoooo I can't .. I start watching tony's videos but then he just makes me laugh too much... omg we humans are just too complicated because we all always trying to hide our sins.. So I agree, no one will ever know the 100% truth of anyone.. maybe 65% depending the situation lmao
Right ego and pain I always give a person a chance to see if they have changed ( Twice) if a man comes to me old or new with drama sex on their mind and or tendencies of Hurt bye see ya I refuse to let anyone cloud my peace second if he only wants me because he thinks he can stop what God has for me he is sadly mistaken no one can stop that but God himself what God puts together no man or woman can tear that apart I refuse to help people that refuses their healing ! Great Topic 🎉🎉🎉
Just purchased 8 and gonna purchase more of the other ones later today 💃gonna start going through them with a notebook todays. Considering joining the growth club too. Thanks Tony!
Hey what's up Tony gaskins! I have a topic request, suggestions / idea. Please consider creating a video podcast about men who have a lot of female friends... even more female friends than males. I would love to hear your wisdom and insights on this subject matter.
🤣🤣 That is horrible! He coming back because we have moved onto someone else?? That ain't right! I hear you but that's not right! His stomach hurting? His head hurting? What? Oh my goodness! Thanks for sharing!
I truly thank God for you Bro Tony on this channel you keep it Real ‼️♥️💯🎯 and also funny especially when you said the man coming back because he remembers the back stroking and long stroking and the peach cobbler lol 🤣🤣🤣 lord Jesus
That’s correct from what I have experienced. I think as women we can be delusional in thinking the man we left will regret it, come crawling back and change. We want so badly to keep up that belief as it hurts to much to face reality. In my experience men do come back sometimes even years later but not because they miss you or had some kind of epiphany or because he has remorse but he comes back for his own selfish reasons and normally unchanged. He comes back still a headache on two feet
The timing of this video is impeccable.... Literally, on Monday of last week (April 24), my Ex from 6 years ago reached out to me on Facebook Messenger (Yes, I had already implemented my "Block and Delete" procedure on him 6 yrs ago on all my social media connected to him + deleted/blocked him on my phone). I was surprised and very confused because I knew I had blocked him. I looked at the message and under his profile picture it said "You are not friends on Facebook" and under that it listed our mutuals. Once I saw that, I understood how he was able to send me a message. No, I did NOT reply to him. I went to the 3 dots located at the top right of his message, found the "Block" function and I blocked him all over again, lol! 😁 I blocked him pretty much immediately. I'm not sorry and I'm not interested. My discernment was really discernmenting ✨🤌🏽 I'm not friends with any of my Ex's. So the fact that he reached out to me was an immediate red flag. He will not be "spinning the block" on me. Between watching your vids Tony, since 2021 and asking God to increase my wisdom & discernment daily - this was a great exercise in my growth. Thanks for your videos, Tony 🙏🏽 I'm extremely proud of myself for passing this test. I didn't think twice about blocking him. I had no desire to reply or engage with him. I had no desire to "be nice" and talk to him. I didn't feel bad at all. It was refreshing. I only thought about myself & did what was best for me.
Men can be potentially so much trouble and that's why the burden of proof is on them, but women have relaxed and become desperate and don't require them to earn much.
I told my ex if he came back I was calling the police and I would have a restraining order administered. Men are not stupid they know what they are doing I have not even went back to a man myself.
Too late , I took him back , I told him to make a decision to go get baptized, then he joined a man’s group , he’s also joining church every week and I already slept with him . We are both trying to find God now and hope we straighten out our life better . Wish I heard this sooner . Can’t go back and say no sex right?? Lol😅
Hey Tony me and the guy have not been together yet however he has helped me financially wise and due to my circumstances I had to stay with him for a couple of weeks even let me stay while he is in the road while trucking . It is still early and me and him have had no space from each other so the mystery is gone (his words ) and I agree . Me and him are both going through things in our lives and it’s making it for no trim for us to date each other . I started noticing him being distance the past couple of days . He stated cause there’s no mystery anymore and once again I agree . He has looked out and respected me in so many ways and has been honest with me (sometimes too honest ) if we both get our lives together is it ok to accept him back ??? I really care for him.
My husband coming back alright from State Jail and I can't wait till he does I'm so in love with him. God bless you Tony and your beautiful family. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
