Why do people with dementia lie? 

Does your loved one sometimes confabulate? How do you respond?

Thank-You SO much for this video. I am my Mom's sole unpaid caretaker, and we were out running errands when she suddenly shrieked for all nearby to hear..."She is hurting me, I am afraid of her, Help me", to say I was a bit scared is putting it mildly. I had a lot of explaining to do before things got straightened out. SO it wouldn't happen again, I stopped by her Doctor's office on the way home, and the piece of paper I am telling you about now, was a life saver for me and may help others as well. He used his prescription Pad and wrote the diagnosis in words professionals use for dementia as well as the fact I had POA then signed it. This single piece of paper is always on me. Thanks for all you do:)

My father is 88 and he is confabulating quite a lot lately. I am working at not correcting him or challenging him on his confabulations. It was very hard at first. He was someone that was always truthful and to the point. If you ask him a yes or no question now, he can not say yes or no. He goes into a grand story of related memories but has a hard time with answering the question. He recently had corrective eye surgery and the eye doctor was trying to have him look at a point on the wall and my father could not concentrate for more than 20 second until he looked else where. The doctor finally gave up. Thank you for this video and I am trying to not argue with him or call him out in his confabulating.

Yes. My loved one has confabulated and with your help I’m learning to respond rather than react. Thank you 🙏

So thankful to hear someone talking about what I am living with my husband!! It means so much and helps me to restore a bit of sanity.

Loved the out takes. Lol One of the frustrations of caregiving is that situations are seldom black and white Seldom simple and straightforward In my own case my wonderful mother has a long history of passive aggressive manipulation This habit did not stop as she has gradually sunk into dementia Instead her personality has mixed in with the confabulation that natali describes Never the less, practically speaking it does not matter whether a situation is completely dementia based confabulation Or if maybe partly there is a re-emergence of a loved ones historic personal idiosyncrasies Ultimately we still have to deal with the loved one in a loving manner using the same caregiving toolbox Ironically, it is in many ways easier to out smart a manipulative person who also has dementia The more infuriating problem lies in dealing with the outside world where well intentioned people have no clue about the alternate reality with which we must contend . Whether the loved one is confabulating, or manipulating, or “lying” ... it looks the same to the outside world It looks to the outside world as if we are being unreasonable And usually we do not have the time or energy to sit down and explain things As I try to deal with these situations... at least Mom has an excuse, so I cannot blame her But so many other people are cluelessly judgmental Casually tossing out suggestions like “why don’t you just do thus and so...”

I just recently started watching your videos. I started helping a friends brother who seems to have a mild case of dementia. Your videos have helped me beyond my ability to explain. The last few days are 180 out from the time before. I am a painfully honest person, it was hard for me to let go of things when he says incredible things. I am learning to stop confronting him. Thank you beyond measure!

Thank you for this helpful information. It’s really opened my eyes to what’s going on with my husband. For several years I thought he was just trying to bluff his way thru every day life but it’s gotten worse over time and it seems like he really believes what he’s saying and I get frustrated. Now I see it all in a new light.

This symptom of dementia is extremely painful for us full-time caregivers of loved ones. Not only do we have to endure long stories of the fantastic or extremely depressing, we see family members who visit get pulled into such a story. Often, they get hurt by a story that uses their name or something about them. There are times when it can be funny, but most of the time it's very painful for all who are present. Since I'm always with her, I hear hours of my mom's stories of limousines coming to pick her up and take her to top secret underground bases to meet aliens and ride on their ufos. But when those stories turn to ones of family members who live double lives of mobsters and she creates hateful, cruel things, it literally turns me into a shell of a person. I live in fear of what she might say. It's so destructive and very hard for people to handle. My mom also loves to talk and her stories have taken me to hell and back many times. She innocently has deeply hurt family members, and if my mom was aware of what her confabulation does to us, it would break her heart.😢

Yes, confabulation fills in the gaps but sometimes, from my experiences, there can be some intentional deception, especially when they laugh at your reaction.

It is therapeutic to watch your videos, and write about my experience here. Thanks for what you do. I am early into this experience with my mom. It is challenging to change the way I interact with her, after a lifetime of being just the opposite. She used to value that I would be honest with her, and tell her how I felt about things, even if it was different from her point of view. She would like it, when I told her if she was mistaken about something. She hated phony people who would tell her what she wanted to hear, just to gain her favor. Now that she is getting dementia, I have to do all those things, to keep her from getting agitated, angry, and resentful. And because she goes in and out of it, I have to constantly check myself, and gauge her mental situation, to react to what she says, in the best way. Loosing her mind, is the thing she feared/fears the most, and I see it getting worse, day by day. Fortunately she still can live in her house, and take care of herself, but I know that can't last forever, and I don't know how to deal with that question. She is in denial, and won't make any plans for dealing with this. I can only help her, I can't provide around the clock care. Dad is already dead, and there are no other family members to help. So for now, just taking things one day at a time, and hoping solutions will arise, as they are needed. No way to prepare for what is next, other than to watch these videos, and hope for the best. Thanks for doing what you do, it help us both, a lot. I hope you are taking good care of yourself, as you help the people who are taking care of their loved ones. Best wishes for your continued success, and happiness.

I am the primary caregiver for my 84 y.o. mother with dementia. She engages in confabulation to the point where I assume that what she is telling me is all smoke and mirrors. The stress of trying to provide for her wellbeing and safety is enormous. Thanks for the videos.

Thank you for putting a word to the behaviour. You are spot on. I do my best to detach from the behaviour. It’s not easy though.

I did buy a pony........ And being the extremely magnificent carer I am, will ride my pony into the sunset. Dementia and Alzheimer's are appalling diseases, but always remember...... You can only do so much for your loved one, and most importantly look after yourself physically and mentally FIRST.

My mother does this a lot. Its almost as if she imagines a scenario and it immediately becomes absolute truth to her.

I’m so appreciative of you, your knowledge and your informative videos. My sisters n I are the caregivers to our Mother and we are doing a much better job with this with your help. Thank you. 🌻💝🌍💝🌻

I'm sole caregiver of my mother going on 4 yrs. Even before diagnosed with dementia has a habit of embellishing, exaggerate, & appears to have it together. She hasn't changed. So sometimes I go with it, ignore it, & sometimes get agitated.

I can handle most of the "mistakes" except when 1) they are personal attacks on me (such as insisting I told her I lost Dad's ashes or that I would definitely drain her bank account now that I had her POA) or 2) when she just won't let it go, especially if it relates to #1. And both of those are long term personality traits, just more exposed now. If Mom persists in believing I would actually do such things, she is less likely to have trust in me when she needs to the most.

During the first year that I noticed dementia happening with my husband, is when he said back when we were dating, that I gave him STD. It bothered me then, but now I realize he was "confabulating". He was 16 yrs older than I, 10 years in Army, Korea, Greece, and I was a 22 yr old small town girl. Today, year and half later, if he repeated that, I would say... "you shoulda wore protection"!

My husband and I can pretty much tell when his mother is conflabulating. We’ve sort of learned not to challenge her on what she says, if it is defiant. She usually will become distracted and move past it.

I know people who do that and they don't have dementia.

Yes, a loved one of mine does & get’s agitated about all sorts of thing’s. I just got screamed & yelled at for changing a Dr’s Appt that I was asked to change. Then I was told I was a liar but, she’s the one who lied.Then my Mother called & texted angry that I upset her.She lies about all sorts of thing’s. I even taped various conversations to go over certain details & have caught her into so many lies. She’ll say she never said that & she doesn’t know who told me that. I tell her she told me & she’ll say someone got it wrong. I get blamed for it! I’ve decided to use 3 thing’s. Exactly, We’ll, why wouldn’t you? & the best phrase “I’m only trying to help.” It helps diffuse thing’s when she lies or get’s combative. It makes me so sad that she does this. Then tattles on me when she’s either lied or doesn’t get her way. I feel frustrated because, I feel like I’m dealing with a 2 year old. I do all the cooking on a specific diet she has everyday. I also clean, walk her dog, pick up after the dog, her, etc. If I try to get help around the house because, I’m overwhelmed she get’s mad or starts lying saying it’s my fault & that she never asked for whatever it was.Thankfully, I have friend’s who have been dealing with this before with their loved one’s so, I get some sympathy.

Previous to my dad’s dementia, he’s had a long history of deceit, secretiveness, and spinning and withholding information. He would sometimes tell one sibling one thing, while telling another sibling something different, telling each one “not to discuss it with the other sibling”. Sometimes it was contradictory information, and sometimes it was incomplete-like he was giving each one a piece of the puzzle. To summarize, he would use deceit to manipulate us, play us off one another, and keep us isolated and in the dark. It got worse after my mom died, and worse again after he got remarried to a manipulative liar. She feeds his confabulations and stokes his unjustified anger at his children.

I know when my MIL(mother in law) confabulates or lies. I think it really depends which stage they are in..in my honest opinion. I feel depressed living with her, caring for her, and at the same time, taking care of my two year old. Her living with me makes me resent her and even not like her. I shouldn't be feeling like this, but I feel like I am thrown into the lion's den and I can't even escape. I can't even talk to my husband or my SIL(sister in law) of what I am going through on a day to day basis. My SIL said she's always open in listening to my concerns and stress of caring for her mother, but when shit hits the fan, she gets defensive, mad, and provides no solution to help me in caring for her mother. She says she's always DIPLOMATIC.. diplomatic my ass! Not only that, my husband doesn't even have the audacity to have a listening ear of my daily struggle and stress. He also gets defensive and shuts me down... which I end up crying. I never met a family like this who doesn't want to be involved and care for their mother... or at least find a solution. Honestly, I always wanted a MIL who I can talk to, cook with, watch tv dramas and even go shopping. I hate my life.

So glad to see this topic! This is one part that I have the hardest time with…the constant lies or what you refer to as confabulation

You have described my mother completely. Thank you so much for these tips!

You are are a genius!!! You have helped me more than I can say. Thanks so much.

Thank you for showing the bloopers. I've been educating myself with these videos as I have recently become my mom sole caretaker. Definitely needed a little laugh to relieve the stress. I haven't laughed in a while and my chest feels heavy most of the time now.

Oh yes Mom has been doing this for a about 3 years. It gets worse as time goes on. There's one disturbing story she tells. Her mother my grandmother was murdered many years ago I was only 12 13 I remember the day well. Mom and I were in the kitchen when the call came in. But mother tells it now that she was there when her mother was murdered she saw it, she saw who did it and where he put the weapon. So we have to take steps to make sure everybody understands. As far as her lying I've never considered her lying. I've always thought that in her brain her thoughts are all jumbled up and out of her mouth comes different parts of different times in her life her memories are just getting all mixed up. That's the way I've been looking at it. I'm happy you shared this video.

This symptom totally blew me away. My father was living with a woman and both had this problem. It was truly bizarre.

You even are so gracefully With your bloopers! God bless you.

I have a client with D.S. and dementia/alzheimers at the age of 44. He is a performer at heart and loves to sing 60s music. He is roughly in stage 3 or stage 4. He has grown up in settings for the disabled and is an only child. I have been learning as I go on the disease. He was described in his profile as someone who understands rights and property values but not necessarily that others also have the same things. His memory persists on things he desires but needs a close eye monitoring him around everything that doesn't belong to him. Mostly 5 or 6 remindings in a space of 5 minutes before he slips away with it when nobody is watching. When you respond in a positive manner 15 minute tasks become 3 hour messes. I've tested my timing. I dont like being stern all the time and it's not healthy for anyone. Since he responds better to it and enjoys silly games I started using a drill sergeant voice and dialogue referring to his peers as my platoon. He quickly straightens up salutes me and responds but it's still getting to feel like a temporary bandaid that doesn't benefit anyone's life.

Again it's amazing how this miserable disease acts so similar in so many people.

This was so helpful! I didn't realize this was symptomatic.

My husband lies all he time. He also,has stared to change his personality . He has been miserable , and now he is trying to be more outgoing And it isn't working well. He also has temper tantrums and throughs things. I am raising a 77 yet old son. I pray a lot.

This is the biggest problem with my 97 year old mom and the main source of all our arguments. I realize this has been going on for years, but I didn't know she had dementia. The "lies" were so mean and hurtful. It took a medical social worker to open my eyes to the fact that she believes what she says but doesn't mean it. It helps some, but the lies are so mean it is difficult for me to not be upset.

Wow! Your videos are so helpful! God bless you for your work!!

Another awesome video, thank you!

How is it that someone with dementia says things that aren’t true and calls you crazy for not believing them or correcting them but when a stranger comes to intervene the dementia patient acts like nothing is wrong and doesn’t know what you’re talking about🥴

What if this person has a history of lying or confabulation?

yes, this happens often - I'd say, about half of the time. The other part of the time, she is actually intentionally making up a story, and here's why: saying the answer someone wants to hear makes it all go away. Here's an example of a Monday morning conversation: "Did you wear the pink outfit that we laid out for church?" "Yes,and I got compliments on it!" ...come to find out, she called her church ride and cancelled on her..for the 3rd Sunday in a row, each time a made up excuse. she is not lying to be malicious, but she just wants to give a satisfactory answer so she'll be in smooth waters. She didn't want to talk about not being able to get ready on her own, so she makes up a more pleasant answer. Later, when I told her that her ride called me about it, she comes clean right away - "well, I just didn't feel like going." she intentionally mislead. that's just one example of many, many. Like i said, about 50% confabulating, 50% purposefully lying. but not of a malicious sort.

There are moments when a certain subject comes up, but when confronted to continue; he springs to a suffering condition, or any other example to evade the subject at matter. I just think he is lying. Especially because he is, a very smart man. A little bit more about him; he was diagnosed with cancer in the esophagus; and with only 6 months to live. That was 15 years ago; he only took one session or two of quimotherapy, and quit. He argues that cancer can be cured, and his doctors tell him that cancer only goes in remission and that upsets him and frustrates his doctors. I felt better with your explanation; now I know how to proceed. Thank you very much!

I get what you are saying. Somedays I handle this better than others. It is hard not to take snarky comments personal, but I am trying to just ignore them. When I call her out on what she just said, she says that wasn’t what she said and makes up something else. That is why it is hard to get that she isn’t intentionally lying. We have noticed that the same stories we have heard a thousand times are getting more outrageous than they used to be. She is also mingling stories from one period of her life with things that happened many years later. I am assuming this is also normal for someone that has dementia?

Very good description. The history of lying then ramping it up big time but only with family. Can this still be dementia. My deceased husbands mom is doing this and it is soo upsetting. I keep thinking if she only does this to family not to her friends then in my mind I think maybe not dementia. Help

Its SCARY, mine does this, one moment I am "Abusing him" or "stealing from him" or "I am crazy and lying and he is fine etc." and the list goes ON. I have had DCF called on me (cases dismissed but the second time I find myself looking hard at either packing my bags or ALFs or NHs as his family wants nothing to do with him.) He can put on a smiling passive face-nothing is wrong with me, I AM FINE face-to in home nursing or even doctors, (even when failing mini mentals) but LOOK OUT as soon as they leave. I mean, yes he has had some small and nasty outbursts with health care workers but NOTHING like what goes on with me. I now call myself the "kicking dog". Its depressing and I have never been a depressive type. His illness lost OUR home, destroyed his finances, cost me everything I owned, and he cannot keep a 20 dollar bill on him without losing it. And he gets ANGRY and then look out, the lies and accusations, and to me they are LIES, start flying. How can you not take them personally when you are going above and beyond to keep them in their home (or in our case my home) per their wishes and you are slammed with this over and over again. And of course the doctors $$$$$ love to give you a lot of MAYBE labels-this has been going on for about 4 years with us, so I cannot even name the monster that eats his brain but I deal with it every waking hour! Some say dementia, some say cognitive impairment, some say parkinsonism, some say NPH (fluid on the brain). Once a doctor gives an official label they lose money, at least thats what I am discovering, (or we just have really bad doctors here.) I have now put security cameras in almost every room, and not only do I have bank records I am now keeping paper ledgers of spending, (though we have been together 20 years/ home ownership together all that, and always had shared finances though never married and NEVER had I had to keep such records!). You HAVE to cover your ass, especially if the person can sound rational when dealing with others, otherwise they are looking at you, AND I HAVE SUFFERED THESE LOOKS and more, like "OMG AREEE YOUUUUU abusing your loved one??!!?!?!? IS WHAT he or she is saying (and saying in such a believable way in that moment) really TRUE?? ARE YOU stealing from them (or hurting them in some other way)." It makes you want to come out swinging and yelling TRY LIVING 24 hours WITH THIS and then go crawl under a rock, its EXHAUSTING!!! If I could do my situation over, I would have had enough money to hire a 24/7 in-home caregiver or just flat just put him in a nursing home, the end. Dealing with a loved one with dementia in the home is HARD, and as others are ALWAYS quick to judge and not seeing or living your 24 hour a day existance you HAVE to cover your ass. GET CAMERAS, PUT EVERYTHING on paper (keep records like you were a bookeeper). I'm sorry, illness or not I do not nor would I call them confabulations, a lie is a lie is a lie, even if it being caused by whatever is rotting the soul of their brain-no one see's that, but everyone DOES HEAR what is coming out of their mouths and you can't just press pause and say, "Oh btw, that's just a confabultion, now that's true and that, but wait, nope there is another confabulation..." life does not work that way.

I found that some of the confabulation, is that they misunderstand things. My mom was seeing a chiropractor for a while. She said that the chiropractor told her that using her CPAP machine was a bad idea because it’s going to destroy her lungs. Well she very unwisely decided to stop using her CPAP machine, so now her dementia is progressing much much faster. Every time I try to bring up the topic of her going back on her CPAP machine, she talks about her lungs being potentially affected. But of course she can’t see how it’s hurting her brain to not have oxygen eight hours a night. Needing CPAP and not using it can also damage the heart, so I’m very sad that that’s not being prevented.

I just found credit card bill for several thousand dollars in her draw last week. I have no idea where she uses the money, but obviously she doesn't know how much that is. She doesn't lie to me so much, but she lies to other people about her life, like it is all good and ok. Most of the people I know must think i'm just using her some way.

So glad you pointed this out as I have noticed (for quite a few years) being told about the great ideas etc. other people have told her (or that she has thought of) which I actually told her the previous day/week. I knew this was not really lying, because she would have known that I was the source and would not have been foolish enough to recount it to me as her idea. Can't believe that there is actually a medical term for this as I have never encountered this with any other person I know. Great video, thanks.

Im dealing with alcoholic dementia in my mother. OMG! Its horrible!!! Yes history of deciet and drama. I guess history of mental illness. This video gives me alot of peace. I definitely have not been handling it well because she calls the police and plays the victim. Lying people are DANGEROUS PEOPLE.

I remember when mom was telling how she met my father and my niece said but granny you always told us it was this way. Mom said it wasn’t that way, because mom was thinking of when she first dated him and thought that was when they met. Mom had incorporated the 2 events into one.

I think lack of memory may lead any one who is not aware of the symptoms to believe they have been lied to .This is why knowing this information is so important. Knowing what to expect sort of lends itself to an unconditional acceptance of typically unacceptable behaviors that could cause problems depending on the circumstances ..

Thank you for the video, this describes my mother.

Thank you for this information. It will help me tremendously when this issue comes up.

Thanks for the info you share! It’s very helpful but hard to watch as your eyes keep darting to the left and right instead of straight ahead.

These videos are so helpful. Thank you❤️

A really insightful video. Thank you.

These vedios are soooo helpful, but in the moment... It's like I'm the one with dementia..... !!!

My grandmother who raised me since I was 1 accused me of sleeping with my grandfather. I couldn't believe it. Such an evil and false accusation. I couldn't eat or sleep well for days. Why would she say this type of hurtful nonsense? I think I'd have to be a psychopath to understand because I can't at all.

I'm here because about a week ago my dad literally was telling me and my mother his wife, that he created Walmart and great value and Barney, gave the written ideas to a lawyer and they stole his ideas..... He exaggerates how much money he made while raising us, we were on the extreme side of poor. He lives in a fantasy world where he believes someone is operating behind the scenes disturbing the plans he made a long time ago, and believes he has millions of dollars coming to him via inheritance. Thankyou for this video, I believe there will be a long road ahead. Hygiene is an issue, scammers, pride, we tell him don't buy the kids candy, he goes n buys the biggest bag thinking it's a nice thing but as there mother I don't want teeth issues in future. Blew through a big home loan, about half can't really be explained. Aggressive and mean to my mom. He's always been the sweetest man/father/husband. Something is going on. Thankyou for your channel!

Thank you all

Have to disagree to a certain extent. My Mother will make up answers because she doesn't wish to expose the fact that she doesn't remember. Certainly no malicious intent, but it is lying and is not a confabulation.

absolutely! i just thought she wants to have a conversation,. but cant remember anything. so apparently she trained with a world renowned chef, the neighbor is ringing her door bell at 7am everyday, and when i call her, my phone number shows up on the tv screen :(

Wise and helpful information. Thank you for this insight,

This information is so helpful. Thank you!

I usually just smile, don’t acknowledge the confabulation and redirect to another subject.

Thank you for this video. It helped me understand so much more.

I'm not convinced that he's lying. I find "lying" to be too strong a term for my loved one. My impression is indeed that he's "confabulating," or patching over holes in his memory, because it soothes him against the horror of realizing that, once again, he just doesn't remember what really happened. I think he's trying to avoid blame, especially when he just can't be sure what happened, himself.

Wow this is perfect timing ,, thanks youuuuu😆🙏

Thank you for this clip. My mom 93, does suffer with this, her claim is rape. There is absolutely no evidence of this ever happening and believe me, we have investigated thoroughly. She claims her tenderness in her private area could only be because of rape! We know that it could be any number of things including sitting all day. A donut shaped pillow has helped a lot but the battle continues.

Thank you this was very helpful. My mom is 77 and she lives alone. She had throat cancer and has a feeding tube and trach. She seems to be doing ok but sometimes she seems a little off. Lately she’s been lying to me, for instance when I saw her recently her hair was all messed up and looked like she needed to wash it and when I asked her when was the last time she washed her hair she said I wash my hair everyday. And I know that’s definitely not true but it’s hard like you said because my mom’s always lied. Another thing is after we go to her doctor’s appointments she always looks at me and says I don’t know what they were talking about can you explain it to me. It’s just hard because if I try talking to her or just mention the word dementia she gets very angry.

My mother is suffering from paranoia too she accuses me of stealing and threw me out of house. The pain is so bad I don't know what to do?

What can you do if your aging parent is showing possible signs of dementia, but is still mostly functioning? For example, able to drive, buy things online, operate a business. I notice confabulating and mood is lifted by delusions, but problem is dealing with the outside world and people not understanding, which I’m afraid what if it causes legal troubles if slandering others.

Thank you. I'm going to get a note from her dr that says confabilation

My husband & I have a feeling that his mom has lied about damage that was done to her car. She has never been able to accept when she does something wrong. So, her sight makes driving difficult for her but she won't stop yet and whenever there's new damage to the back end or door, someone else hit it. Of course, there's a big bullseye on her car to make other drivers hit it. 😂

Yes this happens all the time

My husband with dementia confabulates to everyone that I am abusing him and yells for help and that I'm hurting him. I've given up everything to give him the best of care and am his sole 24/7 caregiver. Everyone who knows me says I must have the patience of a saint to take such good care of him. But his lying to people who don't know me and his screams for help are constantly bringing Adult Protective Services to my door. It has reached a point where it feels like they are harassing me rather than understanding my husband's condition. Does anyone else have experiences like this with Adult Protective Services as a result of their loved one with dementia confabulating? I'm at my wits end between dedicating myself to helping my husband and constantly being put through the mill by APS. When they come to the door unannounced it confuses and angers my spouse and makes my job as caregiver MUCH harder yet they won't stop.

My husband tells the story to people from his point of view. He’s also clever at not answering the question he is asked.

I think the phrase might be . Eg Their lying has no goal. They aren’t actively trying to exploit, deceive or defraud.

This has happened to my mom, she have been placed in a nursing home and I go to see her, regularly. At one time, she wouldn't talk to me, then she wants me to stay all night. She sleeps most of the day, then don't eat the food. It drains me totally-I get frustrated all the time!

Thank you

Can I loved one lie about having an illness?

Mother-in-law is 88.9. she has always been a difficult personality and now with dementia setting and she's super manipulative and always lying. Frustrating is not even the right word it's infuriating.

This is what I’m going through with my husband that I have been married to for over 40 years, the things he says is so horrible concerning my character to our neighbors and my family. I am great full that my family knows without a doubt it’s not true. He has cheated and lied to me many times in our marriage but God has kept me and I still love him very much. I would like you to send me as much info as you can I’m desperate 😆

I wish this video would have been on the internet in time to have shown it to my stepmother who was the caregiver for my father who had dementia. My stepmother would complain bitterly that my father told lies. They had been married for almost twenty years when he died, and prior to his dementia she knew him to be a devout Christian man who did not lie. I tried to explain to her that he wasn't lying--that his brain was broken, and he had no idea what he was saying. Her decision was to choose to believe he told lies, and that angered me very much.

My mother was hit by a minivan and then had what we think may be an aneurysm rupturing. She regrettably was never given an MRI w Angiogram (MRA), to see what all happened. She lies (confabulates) about meaningless details. e.g. 'what did you have for dessert? She will say "apple pie", even thought she had "ice cream". Contextually it makes sense as "apple pie" is her favourite dessert. Fast forward twenty years and she seems to be developing dementia.

My mom lies and repeats or loops everyday she is packing up and says I am picking her up how do I get her to stop?

Why does my husband ( diagnosed with dementia) have such an aversion to showering?

I find it hard to play along with mums confabulations in fear that she might think it’s ok to abscond or do as she pleases and get lost or hurt .she’s very clever and seems to be devising a plan to go back home which she thinks is a place she lived at 70 years ago -I find it difficult to just play along with this delusion and say “ yes mum you do live there and yes yes you’ll go home soon “ she asks me where she &could buy a shopping trolly and I said what to for mum? -oh I just need a bigger one -but I know it’s to fill it with clothes and things to run away because she packs daily and fills plastic bags and anything she can with clothes and shoes -she’s in aged care but I take her to my place daily for dinner -when I take her home she brings as many things she can and I know it’s to try to abscond -yet her direction is completely gone and she has no idea where she actually lived four years ago -I try tell her the truth but I see the hurt snd sadness when I say she can’t go home -I find all this playing along with her confabulations a big scary in case she just thinks one day when I’m not looking that it’s ok to walk out the house or jump in a cab go an airport with no money or phone or ID -that’s why I find myself explaining over snd over why she can’t go home -and explain he’d parants are no longer alive or she’ll try get yo airport to go to them etc .but watching these videos tells me I should not burst her bubbles-so how can I do this and not let her get too confident and do silly dangerous things .🥺

I found out that my Mom has lied to me about nobody comes to visit her. I found out that members in our family do go and see her, she just can't remember

Nvm you answered my ? When i finished your video. Thanks. It a tough time

Thanks!

My mom is going through a phase where she thinks she just moved in with me (we have lived together for 24yrs) and she says she hates it in the area we live and wants to "go home" to our old city. This is happening often lately - I don't know what triggered this new step, but how much should I tell her? If I play along, she starts saying she wants to go home to her house that she sold 24yrs ago in another city or that she wants to move to the ocean on the opposite side of our state by herself. I have been telling her the truth over and over again about how long we have actually lived together and in this part of our state, but it is often followed by her asking if she's had a stroke or what is wrong with her mind. I have only recently started to use the term dementia with her (she won't allow herself to be diagnosed so I haven't been saying it before now). I don't want her to become hopeless (she has always suffered with depression), but I can't get her to agree to being tested. Do I keep telling her the truth that she didn't just move here or do I stop trying to orient her? Ironically, I should also say, she has told me repeatedly that if she ever finds out that I am lying to her, she will never forgive that betrayal

I have also gone through this lie problem !!! my friend s husband makes such stories ... he says his wife beats him .. she is under shock .. he tell his wife told him to leave the house !!! Sad ..

We home care my 91 year old mom-in-law who suffers from dementia. She is constantly "confabulating". For example tonight at the dinner table the wife gave her an ice cream bar and out of nowhere she says "My children told me that Mike (me) doesn't like it because he says I eat all the ice cream". What? I explained to her that the only ice cream we have in the house is the kind she likes and she's the only one who eats it. Which was a mistake on my part because she then said "I don't believe that".

Last week, she heard my husband and I talking about finances. So, she came out and told us that she is still paying $2500.00 a month for car payment. I knew it's not true because 1). She doesn't drive anymore 2). My sister has her car and 3). Her car has been paid in full few years before she has dementia. I find it hard to believe that how can anyone could afford to pay $2500.00 a monthly payments. That's insane!!

My mother had convinced us that she was still working ..till I called her employer and in fact she had been terminated 3 months previous. She was a pretty good fibber!

I am crying right now! I have no friends any more because of my partner lying. Neighbors do not understand.

I was Diagnosed with Alzheimer’s 5 years ago. I’m doing pretty well, except I’m falling in love with the woman doing these videos. Could that be confabulation?

Mom didn't know who I was. I slept in her room and she told me the Warden slept in her room. Other times I was her sister.

My 96 y.o. roommate sleeps with a gun under his pillow. He has dementia & I'm nervous about it 😬 Should I hide it?