Why I Dont Talk To My Family 

Also, YES more solo episodes and don’t worry about making them “too depressing”, it’s just the reality of the situation. I can personally relate and it feels better knowing i’m not alone and i’m sure it does the same for others

Ur really great at interviewing others and I love those podcasts, but there's something about these solo podcasts that shows your authenticity and brings something new to youtube where everything seems fake or exaggerated lately. These videos feel real and I think you could build a nice community of wholesome people who support you if you go this route.

Though you may feel embarrassed or ashamed I hope you don’t always because a lot of people actually find comfort in hearing that other people also have these kind of issues with family and it helps to not feel lonely in it

I don’t talk to my family. At all. You talking about it really made me feel better about my situation and I really appreciate you.

this podcast means a lot more to me than i think you could ever comprehend. thank you for being so honest online, it’s tough to be vulnerable in real life, let alone over the internet and the way you do feels extremely authentic and personable. i really look forward to these charlotte

thank u for bein so vulnerable on here, helps ppl realise we’re all goin thru our own things and no one is alone in that 💓

I’d have to disagree with your response to the first question. Sometimes a friendship is more valuable to one party over the other and therefore there is nothing that you can do to be a better friend in order for them to care more. Anytime you do something for another person and expect them to always do the same for you in return will end up hurting you. I honestly think in these situations where one friend feels like they are being forgotten about, they usually are. And that is sad, but a good friend will always reassure you.

this podcast is so refreshing to see someone be so authentic and honest on their videos. i think everyone watching really feels a connection to what you talk about thank you 💓

I love your solo episodes, they feel more deep and kinda like a therapist session which I love. I listen while doing my makeup, or doing homework for college. You’re energy is pure sweet sunshine, and it’s so refreshing seeing someone be kind and talk about real things.

Thank you so much for sharing this with the world. I hear you in the dark emptiness that puts one on alert. I have a similar experience with this. Hearing you call it out is really really comforting. I’m right there with you.

It is not embarrassing!!! It’s refreshing. As sad as I am that you had to go through that I had a VERY similar situation, thank you for being so raw and transparent

I am so proud of your honesty and vulnerability. You are a shining soul.

I looooveeee listening to you process your family trauma and express your unedited emotions towards them. I really feel like for one of the first times ever, I am almost listening to myself process my own family trauma through your expression. Thank you so much for being open and honest 🤍

These solo podcasts are almost therapeutic. You have such a way with words. 🧡

I really enjoyed this episode and you were very brave to open up. It sounded hard to grow up in an environment like that, but it is clear that because of it, you are an extremely resilient and insightful person. I loved the solo episode and how you went about answering the questions, so I would love more like these! 💓

I really appreciate that you opened up about your family situation. I know the feeling of being embarrassed for having crazy parents and not a typical happy family but this is exactly what people have to hear and know is that not every family is perfect and there are other people going through the same things ❤️ thank you!

i relate to u so much about feeling some sort of disconnect with ur family/dad, our situations are very different but the way we cope and think feels very similar and I appreciate u a lot for sharing this very personal and vulnerable thing w us. It makes me feel less isolated and sad. I've come to terms with the fact that my only true family is my mom and that's it, and making peace w it has been life changing. Also, trying to find a good solid circle of friends that feel like a family is something that I share w u. I love ur solo episodes, they feel comforting

When you talked about “wanting to see your friends have fun”, I never thought of it that way. And I’m going to now, it just clicked for me when you said that and makes a lot of sense! Thank you! Also I have a really toxic family life so hearing you speak so openly about ur dad makes me feel light. Like who cares, it’s a fact that families aren’t perfect so why do we feel embarrassed by it. It’s really therapeutic to hear u talk about ur dad.

Currently going through a breakup & your solo podcasts make me feel a little less alone. I don’t know you but I’m proud of you!

Being this vulnerable and true to yourself in a very public space is not only so strong and brave, it inspires me to do the same for myself. I feel so much better knowing I and others who have gone through the same are not alone. Please do NOT apologise for talking about family like this, it's so valid and it's made me realise how important it is to not pretend everything in life is perfect. Talking about the hard stuff makes it easier to accept that unfortunately some of us experience a difficult time or relationship in our lives but none of us are any less valued or important. Thank you for this!

what a tender, honest, authentic, excellent episode. just, wow. charlotte, you never need to apologize for being "depressing" or "bleak" and you speaking your truth about your relationship with your family and with family as a concept is so beautiful and valuable, it is NOT embarassing. i feel so seen in hearing how you speak about these subjects and it is the very rawness and honesty with which you discuss them that makes this video far more valuable than 99% of videos one can find on youtube. never stop being you

I really resonated with your thoughts on everyone’s inner child and never letting go to some of those aspects of yourself.

My heart broke when you teared up talking about your dad. I cried too and I wish I could hug you and give you all the love that you truly deserve. I feel the same way about being so protective over who I’m friends with, and if I could be your friend I would give you the world, cause i know youre a wonderful person. I love you and thank you for sharing this with us. I can’t wait for your next episode. You make me feel so human because youre a reflection of that and youre your true self, as we all should be. i admire you so much.

i love your podcast so much, it feels so real and effortless, which makes it so authentic 🤍

I love how someone can express lots of ideas coming from experiences and overthinking topics this is like super deep but chill at the same time

this podcast makes my week. i relate to every word u say and even when i dont u always keep me thinking. ur awesome bb pls dont stop doing solo eps

This is a superb podcast episode - differnt from any other podcast i've ever seen, your honesty is so refreshing and your expeirneces with parents extremely relatable. i've subscribed, keep up the great work and don't doubt the substance of your creative output.

char i love all of your podcast eps soo much!! i’d love to see another solo ep next week, and tbh i like hearing u talk about whatever

It's actually the opposite of depressing for me. Thank you for being open, its refreshing (:

A breath a fresh air every time 🙌

Reallllly love these solo episodes! You have great insight and a good head on your shoulders Char :)

Great video. The production quality is perfect. Solo podcasts are best because they're easier to organize, you can do more of them, you can comment on any topic. I like your thoughts on your father and family. You seem quite mentally strong for having such a dynamic and challenging life. Nice job of staying sane. You may not have a close relationship with your father, but he's probably closer than he appears. Parents influence their children in strange ways. They mark your skin. When your father dies, he will become even more powerful. His voice will get louder in your head.

love this Charlotte - you’re doing so well 💓

this made me feel SO seen-- thank you for this.

Another wonderful episode, love you for talking about interesting topics!

the favorite song question got me thinking u should do media share at the end of episodes if u want, like fav song/movie/show/fashion release/etc at the moment

through all the difficulties and tribulations of your life you’ve blossomed into the sweetest, cutest and realest person. idek you and im proud of you

Sending you so much love, thank you for sharing! 💕

I related to your story about your family so much. the way you described your dad reminds me soooo much of my father

Charlotte! Love your podcast! Thank you for putting yourself out there, it's very inspiring.

This was so so wholesome!! Love you Char

‘Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents’ is SUCH a good read on this , ur strong as hell for talking about this and giving other people your strength

Loved you on Jeff's podcast. 😊

I love ur videos sm they make me feel so comfortable

Beautiful episode 🌸

26 minutes in and just wanna say i appreciate the open-ness. I'm from Toronto and can relate to a lot of this. Anyways, ima keep watching. God bless

I barely talk to my family members as well. I only talk to my grandma and my mom, although when I moved out I didn’t talk to my mom for almost a year. She never called and so I haven’t called either. It’s complicated. However, I still love my family, but it was never what I wanted and needed it to be. Love your videos! 💕

this is probably one of the most helpful and validating youtube videos i’ve watched in awhile

Dear Charlotte🫶🏻. You sharing your story is not embarrassing AT ALL. I don’t think you realise how many people you’re helping and validating by sharing something so personal. Listening to you speak about everything especially your relationship with your father has given me so much perspective. I do not have a good relationship with my mother and it is close to us not having a relationship at all even though we live in the same house. Sometimes there’s no way to turn back and make things okay and that is okay. I am learning to forgive myself and not blame myself for her negative and narcissistic actions towards me. I am using her negative energy to full me in the right direction, to be better, to make better decisions and to have the life I dream of without feeling bad and to blame for her life “failing”. please continue sharing your story. we need you🫶🏻lots of love and hugs xxx❤️

This sounds exactly, EXACTLY like my sociopathic dad -- my sister was the first to accept his true nature while i grew up craving his approval. its a harsh reality to accept but it is what it is and its liberating to accept

Towards the end of the video it started to remind me of when u used to go on insta live. I loved it char

I think you have a great attitude about all of this, and you are most definitely not alone. People like your dad are very destructive to their children and you are very lucky and wise to put distance between yourself and him. That shows that your instincts are very good and that is a blessing because far too often kids of people like this start to not trust themselves because they have been gaslighted so extensively. My eldest son was a musician (Noah Ransom Music here on youtube), but sadly he was deeply traumatized by his dad and this eventually drove him to an accidental overdose. His younger brother, my only surviving child (adult child), really struggles with the truth of his life. An attitude like yours might have saved them. You are absolutely right that some people should not have kids. Narcissists and sociopaths cannot be parents because parents do have love and empathy and the ability to put their children's needs ahead of their own, and your dad can't do that. You should be very proud of yourself for trusting your own feelings. Don't ever betray your own intuition as this will protect you from repeating a pattern of abuse which is very common for people raised by parents like this. That was true for me, and my sons and I really paid a high price for that. One last thought : there is a big difference between child-like and childish, and I hate to say it but it sounds like your dad is childish which means not being there for another person including your own kids. We all get older, but we don't all mature, and nothing is uglier or more destructive than a middle aged toddler.

I love your response about keeping a part of yourself like a child forever! I am such a huge advocate for play, childlike wonder and vibrance in our adult life. When you talked about growing up to step into the role of a mom, I hope you always keep this philosophy close to your heart. I hope you never fully grow up & not in the Peter Pan way like your dad. More in a way where you prioritize keeping the light in you very bright. I mean it's moronic to think the best way to raise a child is by killing the child in yourself.

It wasn’t depressing it was really interesting for you to be so raw and real!

this was soo good thank you for sharing!

Loved this ❤️

Please dont feel you have to bite your tongue, this is a safe space for you to share as much as you want. So many of us also dont have perfect families and it feels nice to relate

your podcasts are so real and vulnerability is really touching, Motivates me to be more honest and take the risk of being vulnerable. Thank you so much Charlotte

Hey Char, I think an episode of you interviewing Bazzi would be so great to hear. I would love to hear both of your intellectual minds bounce off each other. So happy the pod is back!🫶

Aw Charlotte, I know you already know this but you’re not alone. I notice in your pods you seem to have an internal conflict about whether or not you’re a good person, i wonder if those thoughts about yourself stem from the way your dad is? love the pod, can absolutely relate to narcissistic parents. wishing u the best ❤️❤️

your sisters are so lucky to have you❤️

We love a relatable queen

this helped me so much w my daddy issues. ily sm

I agree with you about the texts. It can get to be too much. I'm sure you get a ton of texts and you'd be on your phone all day responding to them. You have better things to do with your time.

That was pretty brave. I was narrow minded and followed you for your looks over the years. I apologize to you for labeling you as the dumb hottie party girl. I’m so happy to learn you have grown into who you are. My Mom passed a few years ago and I miss her immensely. I have become closer to the rest of my family. You can’t chose your family and I think you are doing an amazing job managing your situation. Thanks for opening up so much, I think it’s good for people to hear that everyone has their own struggles. And good on you for helping guide your sisters.

loved this episode

I am sorry about your dad. You are a beautiful person.

Your dad sounds exactly like mine. My dad had 4 kids by 3 different women and married each woman but never stuck around to raise any of his kids. I’m 27 now and I cut him off 2 years ago because it was a very half assed father daughter relationship on his part. I can relate you what you said about feeling ashamed about your family. I can totally relate, and when I was growing up I used to lie to people about my relationship with my dad because I felt so ashamed about the truth that he didn’t give a shit about me and wasn’t involved in my life. Something that I tell myself when I feel ashamed about my family is that none of the problems are my fault, I didn’t ask for them

U deserve your own show

I love you and this podcast was amaze

I can relate to the family issues. Cool podcast :)

Love the photobooth vibe

Such a good video!

Solo episode forever

I love listening to you

You’re amazing

i know this is unrelated but i would love if you mentioned your astrology chart in one of your episodes!! like either your whole birth chart or just sun, moon, rising. 💕💕

I feel really bad for you, you’re so nice you can’t even say your dad is a douche bag , and like always try to understand him and find excuses for him 💔 this breaks my heart

You talking about your dad really reminded me of my step dad. I’m on vacation with him and my mom right now, and I feel so mentally weak. He is truly evil, and it breaks my heart that my mom is in love with this monster. I am making the promise to myself to never talk or see him ever again. I just can’t keep accepting and tolerating his behavior.

off topic but I miss your Livestreams with Chiara and Banana just getting ready and having fun. Also the PhotoBooth felt like FaceTiming you

Same here. I avoid holiday gatherings completely now.

I agree with so many things you say !!! ✨✨❤️

Literally just got into a fight with my mom .. who is literally like how you explain your dad .. & trust me this is more than relatable .. 💕

Keep going with that nice podcast I like it so much 🤍

More solo episodes!!!

when is ur podcast with ryley coming? also i rlly enjoyed this episode xx

I fancy this girl so much

i literally laughed out loud when you responded “ummm yea” to the person saying that you act immature hahaha this episode was chicken soup for the soul

God I would love to be on your podcast I think we would have great conversation in a lot of ways I see myself in you especially with your upbringing everything you explained is beautifully worded and true to me as well as you great podcast lots of love keep doing what you r doing

I feel for you. To go from a cold household to the superficial culture of Los Angeles, I hope you have or will find genuine people who can offer support. Please use these videos as an opportunity to heal. We are here to help you.

Beautiful

I’m so confused about your name! Do you go by Briar and use Charlotte for work?

Yes as a natural redhead (and tall girl) I’ve always wanted to just fit in and not stand out

solo episodes >>>>

Sounds like you’ve grown up with a father that has dark triad traits (psychopathy, narcissism, machiavellianism). glad to see that you’re coping well and don’t care what he thinks! That’s really admirable

I love ya!

Great responsibility bit

I started to get into different things, I was trying to act and boxing.... riding motorcycles..... I can definitely pull this movie off.... people disagree but they are wrong.

Thank u for sharing ily. Also tumblr girls for life

40:29 straight facts.