My Modeling Experience | Eating Disorders, Nepotism 

It’s crazy to me that at this time period I was also this insecure and idolized u thinking, “well if I looked like her I would be happy.” We really never know what others are going through and comparison truly kills. Thank you for sharing your personal struggles

Honestly, I don’t have a problem with nepotism if that person actually knows how to do the job and she or he does it good. The problem is when someone who is a relative gets hired over a stranger who’s actually much more suitable for the job than that relative is, that’s when nepotism becomes a problem. In my opinion anyway

You should read “Running on Empty” by Jonice Webb (who has a PhD in clinical psychology). I also thought the absence/emotional distance from my parents didn’t affect me as I also had a chill, relatively happy childhood. However you’d be surprised how much the things our parents DONT do affects us. If they’re not there for us emotionally, we can develop severe self image, self worth, and self esteem complications. It’s a great read and has helped me astronomically in understanding the way that I think.

You're blessed with beautiful genes. Statistically that doesn't happen a lot. It's something you didn't do anything for and that's totally fine, because it's mostly about what you do with the cards you've been dealt. You've got a great hand, now go and play with it to the best of your ability :)

Thank you for being so honest!!! It’s your super power and what makes you so relatable!!! The part where you talk about being faded to get you through jobs was so refreshing, real, insightful and helpful. I would rather know the truth of someone’s success then bs highlights. The fact that you got yourself out of that headspace and habits is SO inspiring!🎀 also the part about nepotism was really balanced. I think it was important to say because a lot of people don’t have a lot of empathy. And just knowing that life isn’t fair can just put everything into better perceptive. Nothing is fair so no one should expect it to be. Some things just are.

This was so motivating for me. Honestly, it has given me a greater positive outlook on essentially "starting from the bottom". Thank you for this!

These solo episodes are everything ❤️never stop posting them

Not a model and a guy but woah when I was younger the flash photos and dead pan into the camera was definitely something that I did growing up. Looking back I definitely see how negative it was to judge yourself at such a young age so critically. Really glad we’ve grown a lot since then

Yes, everything for a reason. I think you’ve done an amazing job of remaining grounded. Congratulations on growing out of substances as a crutch. Thank you for sharing your story.

She's a 10 out of 10 and has perfect grammar and diction.

What a refreshing perspective!!! and soooo grounded. More of this kinda content is needed today!!!

Thank you for posting this podcast! Although I've seen some of your personality peek through in your podcasts, I felt like watching this video made me see more of who you truly are as a person. I know that it might be hard to understand why you've been gifted with these opportunities, but after hearing your story and the way you speak, it makes sense! You have a good attitude on life and you lead with humility. The universe has rewarded you accordingly for such things. Congratulations on all of your success - your future continues to look bright!

Love the pod! And with the nepotism Conversation you make a good point of their parents trying to help them as any Parent would. But I don’t think it’s necessarily that people hate that they have famous parents or relatives , I think the part that gets people on edge is that some feel superior than others and make this sad story as if they were working a 9 to 5 busting tables to try to make it when in reality they’re living in a mansion in Beverly hills and say they’ve had to work 10 times harder than anybody else which sounds really ignorant. And just because your nepotism doesn’t mean that you’re not talented because you have people like Liza Minnelli, Jane Fonda, Sofia Coppola & many more who are truly talented but then you also have people like Kendall Jenner, Brooklyn Beckham, lena Dunham who refuse to believe that they have famous parents.

I’m so glad you made this video, you’re so well spoken. I’ve followed you on Instagram since you got scouted and this is so insane to hear the whole story from your perspective. I had a super bad eating disorder at the same time that you describe struggling with your self image/eating and idk man it’s so crazy because I definitely looked up to you so hard during that time, I still do btw, but it was like in a super unhealthy way before. So idk I’m proud of us both because I was definitely like ugh I want to look like charlotte so bad when I was a teenager. It’s such a mind fuck on both ends like you’ve always been the shit to me yet you had so much going on inside. I’m really happy to hear you’re doing better and this also made me realize how much I’ve grown as well. I hope this makes sense, sending you all the love ❤️

i love hearing your perspective on things. can you talk about how you met your friends in the industry? especially the ones you had before you got scouted

you are such an eloquent speaker. you are so self-aware and reflective and raw. wow

i LOVE your solo episodes! you're an inspiration to me.

Char, I’ve followed you since like forever and I’ve always liked you! I live in Sweden and you’re literally my fav person to follow even though you live far away from me. I love your RU-vid channel and your videos! You’re so sweet and authentic, never change and keep doing whatever you’re doing ! Love u💜

This spoke right too me 💕 this is exactly what I needed right now! Thank you for sharing queen

Love hearing you share ❤️ Your transparency is beautiful

She’s so well spoken I love her sooo much

I loved this so much, thank you for posting and sharing your life. Lots of things I needed to hear x

Your honesty is so refreshing thank you for sharing

hey charlotte! Thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts, I wanted to say that please don't invalidate your feelings only because other people have it way worse, the abscence and lack of guidance from the parents does affect, especially when you're a teenager or a child, it's called emotional neglect which can cause problems of self esteem and other issues, I wish you the best

As a local Toronto girl who’s followed you for years, I’m so happy you went into your story!

I enjoy your thoughts, attitude, and mindset. thank you for sharing 🫶

My favorite day of the week is when Charlotte posts her solo talks. How can someone be this down to earth and this beautiful and smart all at once? A genuine superpower in my humble opinion.

You really spilled on this…. proud of you!!!!!

i loved this episode! you're so brave for sharing what you've been through :)

Charlotte, You have the face, the body and the personality luv. You are beyond stunning! Be yourself and do th BEST you can. When you do that, you'll have inner peace because you know you gave it your all and will have no regrets!

I applaud you for reaching that point in your self healing journey to be able to be so openly honest and vulnerable. You should be really proud of yourself 💓

Thank you so much for videos like this, it helps me so much with my thoughts. You are amazing at analyzing love you so much!!!!

I want to thank you for sharing your experience. You are so beautiful and amazing inside and out ❤️ it’s so interesting and inspiring listening to your podcast 😊

You are so well spoken. You truly are so beautiful inside and out 🤍

I remember the coachella photos the PINK BODYSUIT with the rollerblades!!! forever iconic

beautiful inside and out. proud of u🖤

Really cool and honest video! hands-down one of the best perspectives regarding the fashion industry.Thanks!

I could listen to you talk all day

This is so interesting thank you for sharing with us your story and I think it's great that you are being transparent

Girl forget statistics it’s so simple I remember those back in like 2014 I wanted to be you so bad. And now I love you and your podcasts. It makes sense& was meant to be!

its crazy even MODELS have insecurities... i would have never thought you were dealing with having confidence, charlotte. it doesnt show in your pictures at all, you kick ass in what you do! you're beautiful and you know you are deep down

As a 5’ 7” model, I love to see a fellow “short” model do so well!

7:57 I relate to this so much. But with replying to professors and doing homework. It's like not because I don't want something but because I don't believe in myself and find it hard to get started and try.

I remember seeing ur Coachella pics 😭 and thinking who is she!! Because you stood out so much in a goddess way

Love your hair!! It looks so fresh😍

This was actually really interesting to hear about during drinking my morning coffee :)

It's your humble Virgo moon, sweet girl! You deserve every inch of success that comes to you, Taurus queen.

this genuinely felt like waking up and reading good and evil like i used to and it made very nostalgic

The most interesting episode by far

I relate so much... as a model with crippling anxiety and low self esteem.

Best episode yet girl

Ive never been a model but I have been through everything you speak of

You definitely have a very unique look and it’s absolutely gorgeous.

With the nepotism section, I agree that parents should strive to get the best for their kids and if you have a leg up you should use it to do something you truly love. My mother works in a furniture store and with nepotism (I guess?) I was able to be a candidate for a job, it was level entry not fancy but an example of simple common folk nepotism. Although I think the problem with nepotism is actors/models who have this huge advantage of getting an easy way into the game but they don't follow through with the talent. All while there are thousands of very talented people striving for that one opportunity. This take is tired but Kendall Jenner is a great example, highest paid model has an atrocious walk and no life in her eyes in 90% of her pictures. Her paparazzi pictures show more emotion in her face than any professional fashion shoot. And there's so many mid actors that are monotone but they only get the job because of their parents. On the other hand the Hadids are a great example of nepotism because they are so wildly talented and captivating. No one is mad at them or debating their positions in the industry. Other than that, you are a great model and you're so eloquent and you deserve the opportunities you get because you deliver every time.

love u Char ty for content❤️

can you please do a makeup video on this makeup look u have here. iknow it’s not ur usual content but i would really appreciate it !!

You should read jojo bizarre adventures with (and part 7 specifically), because it shows you the difference between a rider/stand user who have been given/inherited and those who are self made. In this case it's diego brando being self made and the villain of the story against johnny joestar.

I love you so much this was the best podcast ive ever listened to youre a kween 💗🫶🏻

really loved hearing you sharing on such a controversial topic!! and think you have a really important holistic perspective on the industry. i do think however this may be a time to look at the blind spots you may have, such as whiteness and heteronormativity. our privilege often times makes us distant from the reality of community, and without recognizing your inherent connection to yourself, others, and the environment this type of message tends to come off as individualistic and ignorant. appreciate your perspective regardless and have always loved listening to your outlook throughout your years of being online. 💛

Thanks for sharing this with us 😊

Hi Charlotte, I just stumbled across your video and I have seen some of your content before so being relatively aware of your media personality, I was really interested to hear your personal journey as well as your perspective on these topics being a woman who has been programmed on the fantasy of the entertainment industry. I'm saddened to hear that you had such an element of self loathing in your formative years due to a deep sense of imposter syndrome. Not being able to recognize your own strengths and radically accept your own abundant presence can create a circle of despair within ones own acceleration. I'm so proud of you for choosing to love who are you and engraving love into what you do with passion! Although I do understand that the modeling industry is based on appearances and personalised aesthetics. It's certainly apparent that what is viewed largely as •beautiful• in the media are fair skintones, slim bodily types and symmetrical faces. Is this just how the world works? I disagree. This has been indoctrinated into our minds. This is not •nature•; this is a group of people who liked a certain aesthetic and believed that everybody or rather as many people as they could manipulate needed to feel the same way. When you have money, power and access to television that broadcasts these messages worldwide to an animal species that is shaped by cultural content, this is what you get. A world full of humans believing that they need to look a certain way, in order to be accepted into the entertainment industry or even , a n y w h e r e. It may be this way now due to these actions, however, that doesn't mean that it is natural or that we have to continue following this programmed narrative, collectively. I can also understand your point on nepotism. Favoriting your children and wanting to give them the best in order to succeed is merely but a human design. However, I don't believe that the frustration around nepotism stems from this even if that's what it may sound like (articulating emotions is only something humans are really learning to do now so there is depth to this conversation and why it is so widespread, just like feminism was. Feminism was ostracized for coming off as though we wanted men to fall to their deaths and unfortunately the media pushed that narrative to its extreme. When infact, feminism means equal rights for both men and woman. That was/is all.) I look at nepotism the same way. The frustration is coming from the inability to give • equal • opportunity to those who do have the • merit •, the • talent •, the • drive • to be in position that was given to someone who has merely a connection. A seat at the table can be given to anyone who was granted that invitation through universal law, whether or not others believe that you deserve to be there. However, when the scales of balance begin to be leaned more towards those who are privileged instead of those who worked to get there. That's a discrepancy within our system and our way of thinking. That can be changed because although the world may be unfair at this moment, it is only because we have allowed it to be this way for as long as it has due to the •greats• as you call them, intentionally or unintentionally pushing a narrative that we as a collective don't have the power to enforce change when infact we can. We are not sheep. We are concious beings. Evolving. Yes, I also agree that we, as a collective, are responsible for feeding into this due to our own curiosity but if I'm being completely honest with you, I don't care more about knowing who these • celebrity • children are going to become than I care about who my neighbor will be. We are all born with an endless possiblity of manifestation. Some are just more intune to their intuition than others but we all have it. Therefore, we can all access it. No one is more special than the other. No one is more great than the other. We are all merely snowflakes. Falling from the sky and eventually melting into the earths grounds. That can be difficult to embrace due to the individualist mindset that has been placed within our society. Thank you for expressing your perspective on your platform. I believe that this adds to a conversation that we all need to be having with one another as well as with ourselves. Thank you (: xx

i wish char can go deep on eating disorders cause some of us need that foreal

thanks for all you share about your experiences! you're fucking lovely and im stoked to finish watching -

loved this

This is beautiful

This is so random but I sold you those Coca Cola pants you wore at Coachella with Josie! I ran a Depop shop called “thevintagecrate” in case you remember! I’ve been following you ever since 🥰

Thank you for sharing 👍🏻

didn’t know you had a podcast!

Aiming for that James Bond aesthetic

you are a 10 as a human char, so realistic

Omg I do the same thing with taking pictures of my face constantly !

More solo episodes!!

Omg u posted this on my 16th b day lol what a coincidence 😭

There is something special about those Coachella photos. It is sad that this beautiful girl struggled with self-esteem and eating disorders...she probably would not believe this but, she is stunning at healthy weight. Beauty is not about being skinny. I am sure everyone agrees Sophia Loren is beautiful and she was not skinny.

girl i loveeee your top where is it from?? ❤️❤️❤️

This is some Taurus shit ❤️I’m sorry you dealt with that.

I had the same insecurities with the imposter syndrome too 😞

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Saying that the modelling industry is how it is take it or leave is a bit done deaf COMJNG from a slim, white woman who fits what society deems as beautiful. And then to try and justify it by saying “omg the industry even told me to gain weight” yeah cos u were clearly underweight and unhealthy when other models who are a healthy weight get told they are plus size. Idk seems a bit tone deaf to me

I love ya!

You looking gorgeous , gorgeous

can we get a room tour video? 💕

It happens to you because you have heart. You are obsessed. You go for it.

Ugh I just love U

oh hey girl!

Why do you pronounce the second T in Toronto?

wait respectfully, ur a daughter of two producers and u were friends w Josie conseco before even being scouted? aren’t u also a product of nepotism? There’s certainly connections there lol both ur parents are in the industry

Why u are so beautiful.. It's so nice to see u btw

Heneric lecture

Real as fck thank you

u look way younger than u did a few years ago, u looked 35 back then

So I had no idea who you were until a few hours ago and it wasn’t from this video (I was like 19 layers deep down an internet wormhole) but I’m here because I read your story and I was desperate to find out, like …. Is this girl okay, present day? I knew that experience could be potentially catastrophic after the honeymoon phase. Turns out you’re the only person I’ve ever heard put words to the reason why I bailed on modeling. My best friend was a model and then I started getting asked to do photoshoots too. I’ve always been very passionate about photography so I said yes, hoping to learn about photography from industry professionals. Instead, I found that being in front of the camera was, at best, uncomfortable most of the time, and at worst, it drove me to this, like… addictive, delusional spiral of self loathing and various kinds of self abuse. I’m still in therapy 10 years later, to make sure I don’t slip back into that toxic mindset. I still get asked if I model and when I say no, a lot of times it feels like I have to fight to get well-meaning people to respect my choice. they’ll insist I’m pretty enough, like that’s all there is to it. They don’t know what it did to me. I’m so glad to see that as of this year you’re safe and happy and healthy and smart. Thank you so much for sharing this, it’s incredibly validating for me after all these years.

You should do a "Charlotte D'Alessio reacts to Neon Demon" video.

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9:01 i did the same every single day ouch

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oh to not be 5’ 3” 😞

why would you ever change your name from Briar, such a good name

Damn this shit os taking forever

lmao the way i found you was through the buzzfeed article