Quick summary as to why INFPs like themselves: 1. Childlike sense of wonder throughout their entire lifetimes 2. Experience and identify a richer spectrum of emotions 3. Accepting and chilled out 4. Scan environment ==> how they feel about everything ==> authenticity 5. Creative, accepting people that beneficially reflect items 1-4 for others
That child-like aspect is both the best and worst part of being an INFP. It gives us unparalleled freedom and positivity but it also makes us very misunderstood by others.
I am also an INFP enneagram 4w5! I totally relate to how child like I can be around family or close people close to me but how other people perceive me as being very serious or odd. I think it is hard for INFPs in general to show true personality to others. INFPs are generally accepting of a wide range of people. However, if you do something that is in conflict with one the INFP's deeply held values, that can be a strong trigger for conflict.
It definitely can be hard to show our true-selves to others, so I totally get coming across as “serious” to those who we know won’t understand us. It’s almost as though it feels it isn’t worth giving them our full energy as we know it won’t be understood? (Or is that just me?) And very true! Chilled out relating to the most menial every day matters, but incredibly passionate relating to our values and ethics etc!!
Same. I save my playfulness for when I feel safe around someone... I haven't felt safe with anyone for over ten years and I feel like it's made me so dark. Sigh. Most people would probably say I look aloof and standoffish, but I say it's more how I've learned to protect myself. Too much criticism has led me to that.
An analogy I used recently: my friends and I would walk into a forest, and I would see beauty. I'd see overwhelming colour, I'd hear the sounds of birds and the wind through the branches, smell that fresh forest air and be overcome by it all. All my friends would see is trees.
@@theimperfectinfp This is (sometimes) when I try to activate Fe, I realize that I do be awkward. It is my internal system arranging outside data, trying to see where/if it will fit in the current system, or if the system needs to be refreshed. I wonder how awkward my Fe is in these situations. I try to practice in the mirror some mornings. 😂
Completely agree! I'm very thankful for being INFP, very much for the reasons you've mentioned in this window. I think it can often be harder for INFP to fit in particularly early on in life, but over time as we learn how to upskill our weaker functions, dealing with the less naturally fitting stuff, such as professional working life, becomes much more straight forward and relaxed. I'm 40 and still have a sense of wonder and appreciation and connectivity to the world, in a way that I am so thankful for.
Yes yes yesss! It feels much easier at 25 than it did at 14 that’s for sure. I think even understanding the concept of being an INFP did wonders for me in understanding my place in the world, you’re definitely right about strengthening our weaker functions as we mature (ENTJ partners are great for this! 😆) thank you so much for watching and sharing :)
Could you please go on? I didn't want this to end! Related so, so much! Except, for me, I would have preferred if my filter worked BEFORE I put myself in certain situations not right for me, rather figuring out AFTER and then being all withdrawn and awkward like you correctly said. Loved loved this. ❤️
Awwww you’re very sweet!! Thank you so much - I think I was conscious that I have a tendency to ramble a lot so I tried to keep it concise 😆 note taken for next time though hahaha! And yessss, I reflected on this a lot and there is definitely a delay in the brain filter figuring out how we feel and our immediate physical reaction/bodily experience. Makes it hard sometimes for sure! Thank you for your lovely comments!! ❤️❤️
@@theimperfectinfp No please don't stop rambling. It's really lovely to hear you speak about something you're so passionate about. I'm the same, I love being an INFP and I love talking to people about it and about MBTI in general. Please continue, do more of this. Never stop. ❤️
As if that’s been your mantra too, it really does seem to resonate with most INFPs I think!! Thank you so much for your comment, I’m glad you enjoyed it! :)
This video was recommended in my feed and I have to say I am so grateful to you. I 1000% related to every bit of this. I'm even dealing with the "environment" stuff now at a new workplace, and hearing what you've said about it has actually made me feel more at ease about my situation. I need to just not put energy into things/people that don't "get me" and keep being my authentic weird/awkward self even if the people around me don't like it. I also really loved when you said that we "meet people where they are". I had to learn that lesson so many times. I was often always trying to guide or help people to their Higher Self, but it isn't my job to do that... I think I've finally absorbed the meaning now. Thank you so much
I am so grateful to you for being here and sharing!! Life does get so much easier when we can embrace who we are, instead of trying to be what we simply aren't. And the good part is, those who will ever mean anything to us, will appreciate our authenticity, and those who don't, won't waste as much of our time! Thank you for watching Jessi! :)
You explained Fi really well in this video, especially with reason number 4. That's how my brain works too but with logical reasoning. Super interesting to hear you explain it in that way. I really struggled to undertstand Fi before. I actually wish I had some Fi because it's really hard for me to figure out how I feel about things and even then I tend to put logic above how I actually feel even sacrificing my happiness many times! I also have an ENTJ partner so yay on that one! Looking forward to seeing more videos from you. Also love the name. All humans are flawed and it's great to embrace that. -INTP
Oh wow what a lovely comment!! I absolutely love spending time with INTP’s, although you guys can sometimes seem like aloof mysteries to me 😆 forever in awe of your breadth of knowledge and though processes. Thank you so much for watching, I appreciate u ❤️❤️
You’re such a sweetie! And those cute little dimples! Aww! You’re adorable! And so positive and full of love! I’m an INFP as well. 😊😊😊 Thank you for this lovely, sunny video! ☀️😊💛💛💛
a wonderful video, i couldnt put it any other way in how as infps we can be so dynamic while caring and loving. ofc i shared the video before i even saw it. for me at least curiosity has NO BOUNDS haha i've always believe that we never stop learning hence why i want to go into research to explore and investigate things that i have passions for, (may or may not be bc i wont have any schedules hehe) nevertheless my passions and curiosity goes hand and hand in pushing the boundaries and breaking what i already knew about the wonderful world that we live in.~
What an amazing outlook, the world is a wonderful place and I’m so happy you feel that way too ❤️ Definitely never give up on learning and exploring, we’re made for this!! :)
I am very accepting and have so much understanding of others. My friends told me that I make them feel very special which is my greatest quality aslo oli care deeply. I'm also viewed awkward and weird
As an INFP, the best thing we can do for ourselves is to embrace what others perceive as our "weirdness" and find our tribe, who'll appreciate us for who we are. ❤
Have u ever heard of Aurora? She's a TOTAL INFP, and almost certainly a 4 as well. There's even a video on YT about her being an INFP. Check it out! ☺️
Thx... i need that love... hehe.. Feeling very down atm and very misunderstood and alone. For some reason i cannot connect with people, i know i just want to be validated in my feelings and thoughts, but i'm not getting it. Either ignored, misunderstood, not enough time to explain myself. It is funny how i can be this local therapist, but who helps the therapist? haha.. ah crap... Don't see the world as pretty as i used too. In fact i don't we will make it. I don't have kids for this specific reason. Don't trust us, basically. I am only okay still, because of that child like nature.. i like to play and have fun.. i laugh everyday, i cuddle my cats.. But i can see the train coming and i see a lot of toxic positivity.
Very well put, people do open up to us, because they sense that we are not out to harm or hurt them. But to encourage them. We know we can't fix the world, but we wish we could. I know people think we are crazy, but we are not. We have the most creative unique quirky personality of all 16 personality types. Without us, their would be no Star Wars, George Lucas is an INFP, without us, no Lord of the Rings, no Game of Thrones, no Chronicles of Narnia. We are not crazy, we are just super imaginative and creative and loving. I enjoyed your insights. Thx!
INFP here too ;) I am interested to know what your daily routine is like. I often beat myself up about not being productive enough or less goal oriented unless it is super important to me and my values! x
I will definitely do a video on this too! Unfortunately I think that is something most INFP's can relate to, and I definitely resonate! I think if you can give yourself a handful of things you don't compromise on each day, then even on days where you don't get much done - you can avoid that guilty feeling. Ie. every morning you meditate, or do some form of movement, and every evening you reflect on what you're grateful for etc. Then even if you don't get much else done in between, you'll still have had a mindful day you can be somewhat proud of! ALSO: maybe we need slow days more so than other types, we have a lot of things to work through in our minds, and it's ok to move at a slower pace than those around us!!
@@theimperfectinfp That was beautifully put and reassuring because I do what you said (prayers) and the rest is getting through daily tasks and then bam! you feel like you could have done more (slept less) but i guess like you said it is accepting how we operate differently to others and have different needs 😊 thank you so much x
I felt as if i'm talking to myself listening to you i'm an infp 4w5 as well, i love how we are so similar yet so different and individualistic in every aspect ❤️
I'm a INFP feel very happy after hearing you explained a reason why ur love being infp 😙 i actually not really understand english (cuz english is not my first word) but i really understood what u are saying 😀🌷 i really like your voices ... And thank you ❤❤love you
when i see this kind of videos i just remember how much i love to be me and how much i look like a true INFP, like THIS IS DEFiNITELY ME. And this for sure brings me such an amazing confort. Btw, i think you ROCK!! please continue doing this kind of video, we INFPs needs more INFPs in the world talking about INFPs!!!!!!
From here, I tell my Infp male friend; youre so kind, funny, talented, wise, understanding, cute, smart, calm...person. If you say youre lucky, Im lucky too. 😊 Happy to find you. Me to first text to you then... :) He doesnt judge me, very empathetic. I love his unique, calm personality.
The day i received that first message from you i couldn't have guessed that my life would be changed 😊 You revived my imagination, you always supported me, you showed that you care about me. I admire your brilliance, your strong memory, your beauty and your ability to love me, so i never wanna leave you 🙃 hope that one day i'll be able to look into those beautiful eyes in real life 😍
Omg, sooo spot on : ) such a nice sharing!! thanks so much and so happy to find you. Somehow its just really tangible when an INFP describes and INFP... no matter how well others try, i sometimes feel like, "Njeeeehh, but almost!!! 💖 Its just a liiil bit more from this or that angle " ^.^ Feel very often we get like 'intentions' or thoughts projected upon us while we're just in this big green meadows wondering and exploring lol Good luck with your channel! 🙂
@@theimperfectinfp Spiritual growth is facilitated by authenticity, curiousity, creativity, introsdpection, and intuition. In reality, not many people get to know themselves.
@@theimperfectinfp you're welcome! Thanks to you, you did a very good analysis of how we are and more than anything you bring a lot of positity about being this personality type. You embrace being an infp which is something sometimes hard to do as an INFP Cause we are often insecured of what people think and do (te grip). So exposing why you love INFP makes me feel better about being an INFP lol. Btw you look so sweet in the video ❤️
@@translationmlt2128 you’re very very kind!! thank you so much. It’s definitely easy to feel not-so-great about being an INFP when a lot our strengths don’t equate to materialistic or financial success in this modern society, but we definitely have so many things to be proud of and a lot of meaning to bring to the world!! Appreciate you ❤️
I've already commented on a different video haha but I would love to see you discuss the differences between INFPS with different enneagrams. I'm a 9w1~ I subscribed, by the way. I hope you can keep making more INFP-related and MBTI videos. Thank you!
Hey, if you’re not familiar with the cognitive functions, I would recommend you to check them out ;) this J-P dichotomy is rather arbitrary and not really accurate
Ya know what I don’t really know why I’d not processed that J-P doesn’t mean much, despite understanding cognitive functions haha! Definitely an oversight on my behalf there - luckily my username allows for errors like this 😆
@@theimperfectinfp I believe because a the J-P dichotomy is connected to a lot of stereotypes and it's better to build the arguments with the more nuanced cognitive functions.
@@DaenerysTheQueen definitely true!! On that note: my instinct is saying perhaps because of our Ne (we are open to new ways of doing things and new perspectives?) Combined with Fi that respects our own values and feelings…and therefore through that lens, we have equal respect for other peoples values and feelings, as long as they don’t infringe others too (hence: live and let live ideology)
I would argue that Fi is the cognitive function most primarily concerned with authenticity, so that ISFP's and INFP's are quite likely to value authenticity over other personality types, yeah!
Unfortunately I hate being one. I'm an aesthete, you see, and I love when my personality is in sync with my personal aesthetic. And in infps case, IT. IS. NOT. I'm tired of seeing all the the depression and sadness that is often tied to us. I hate dark colors, I hate dark academia and so forth. I hate the infp aesthetic on a general. It's NOT nice being called wierd...it's just not.
I can relate somehow. I wouldn't say I hate being an INFP, but I definitely see how difficult it is to live as one in the world and systems we have in place. It's been torture, which has also made me embrace the dark aspects of it as opposed to fighting them. The resisting and fighting is what causes the strain. Not sure what your circumstances are, but you can choose what you want to paint and surround yourself with. You can pick your own aesthetic. You don't have to conform ;)
