I would say I have mild misophonia. Eating sounds, dogs barking, bass sounds are my triggers. Lawnmowers don't bother me, leaf blowers don't bother me, as I cut lawns for a side job. I noticed something that might be a start to cope with misophonia for some people. In my experience for example, my own eating sounds, my own dog barking, and my own bass sounds from my music don't bother me, but anybody else's of those exact sounds do indeed bother me. So that leads me to conclude a big part of the anger to these trigger sounds has to do with who is in CONTROL of stopping these trigger sounds. For example, since I can't stop my neighbor's dog from barking then it could technically go on all day long and anger me, but if it's my own dog barking then I have full CONTROL of stopping the trigger sound and that is maybe why my dog doesn't trigger me. Knowing that being in control of the trigger sound is a major part of the problem with misophonia, then the mind can start to relax just by knowing the mechanics and reasoning behind the anger of having misophonia. This is not a miracle cure by no means, but mentally knowing that "CONTROL" is the real problem of misophonia can help ease the anger.
I can relate with you. For me to take control, I never leave home without ear plugs and have them ready on the first triggers (and usually have them in before rage sets in)
This is not anger from control, it's more physiological than that. If you were in the room with a person wielding a knife, you'd experience fight-flight. Your own knife? No, because there's no threat. Control is not the right word for this, because this implies a cognitive function.
So many therapists have no idea what misophonia is and a lot of them haven't even heard the word once. I had two therapists and had to explain to both of them what it is and what it's like having it and how it differs from hyper sensitivity. The first one looked at me like I was inventing a condition and proceeded to completely ignore all of it, but luckily the second one was very open to new information and was willing to learn and read more about it. Thanks to your channel I already knew a lot before going to therapy so I could explain it clearly and direct them towards reputable sources.
Shaylynn here from the video, I had a Nurse Practitioner tell me that Sensory Processing Disorder and misophonia do not exist (or at least that they were not valid reasons for accommodations, due to the SPD I could not wear masks as I felt very uncomfortable and would go into fight-flight). Guess what I did? I handed her an information booklet and told her I would be ceasing the session and never coming back. She looked shocked that I had the audacity to walk out!