I'm in my late 20's and am still completely dependent on my parents. One of my biggest fears is that they'll die before I get my life together and I'll be too heartbroken and overwhelmed to recover from losing them. I need to do something soon. I'm looking forward to following your journey and I'm rooting for you. If you can do it, then I can, too.
-Dude as an non-native english speaker I understood every word you said! Don't be so hard on yourself on that topic, we understand you perfectly. -I think long hair looks good on you. You can shorten it and take a good care of it so it looks healthy. But I don't think short hair will look bad on you or anything like that. Do what feels right. -Regarding your weight, it is hard to get on a routine to lose weight because of Covid 19 right now, but it is not impossible. If there is a park near you go for a walk everyday, and return to your home to do some exercises. It work for me and I have a very low functioning metabolism. -Don't forget that you are not alone. There are tons of people who are experiencing/experienced the think you are going through right now. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign that you want to improve. Greetings from Turkey! I hope you a successful recovery!
i havent left my house in 8 months, and in the past 3 years ive only left my house about 10 times at most, and not for very long. im 28 and live with my mom. lmao.
I am also a NEET. I live in my house in the woods and play video games all day. I cannot hear well and am quite reclusive. I understand you quite well. Excellent video
I've been a hikikomori since I was 18 and I am 34 now. We share a lot of common issues that also helped put me in that position such as social anxiety which was one major factor that contributed to me being a NEET. However, ever since I turned 30, I realized I could easily keep living like this and that no outside force will push me to change except me. That realization is what helped me go back to college and try to find my way in life. Since then, I graduated from College with a BA in Asian Studies last month, and last year I spent a semester studying in Japan which was an awesome experience. Despite these accomplishments, I still suffer from anxiety and still don't have any IRL friends but I am hopeful for the future. I'm currently hoping to get a job working abroad. Maybe things will be better if that happens. I hope this brings you some encouragement in some way for you and to others like us.
@@trivial50 I moved to South Korea 6 months ago and I have been teaching English! It's been a difficult journey, but I finally feel like I am experiencing life. I've even made a few friends here. I still struggle with some mental issues but I am in a much better place now.
@@Krysa01 Dude, you are such an inspiration! Incredible how you were able to get out there after a 12-year hiatus and now be living abroad. This is only the beginning. I'm moving from Sweden to Australia in hopes of improving my life financially and socially.
Interesting story. I'm a 26 year old NEET trying to get back into society after multiple failed attempts to get a job. I will follow your journey, in hopes to get inspired! I'm subscribing right now!
Your speaking is wonderful! Good luck and amazing job and I applaud you for being brave and trying to connect with people through the internet. Sending love and strength to you. Keep your head up
Hey mate! Hope you're doing well out there! Don't give up, it can be hard sometimes and it can be easy to get knocked back. When it happens it can feel impossible to move forward again. Don't give up on yourself, make small steps everyday.
Don't worry man, you're not alone in this, there are hundreds of thousand of people like you. I get you, for some of us it's hard to make friends, for some to just socialize and for some even to go out in the public. Although my situation is entirely different than yours i'm trying to change my life too. Right now i'm focusing on one main thing and that is making little improvements to my life everyday. We both still have our entire lives ahead of us, we both can make up for all of our imperfections and insecurities with the consistency of our efforts alone. At least that's what I believe. Just don't stop trying.
Well I am not really someone who will be able to emotionally support you as I am online but I will tell you this I hope you get to a place where you want to reach with your own self and just have faith you speak beautifully ( I understood every word you said without a single issue or extra effort). So well love yourself. A personal tip Music helps and motivates me also helps me relax you can also try it out if you want maybe it may help ya when you need it......ALL THE BEST SIR!!!
you can improve,sir. dont give up. i am also a like you last time because love issue. i didnt work and talk to other in years.watching athelathean x, bioneer youtube does make me want to improve and give me high spirit and encouragement. try slow, walking around your house is a start. familiar your environment, then you can go far. but the world is a dangerous place, covid and all. but dont give up. you must find courage inside you. think about your mom that support you all these years, all our parent getting old, so we are the one that will help them in future.that is always my thought for not surrender. we all here has hope for you and pray for your success. take care,stay safe.
Good luck! This is a great idea. Keep going. We are supporting you. I'm currently working my way out of a 20+ year rut/mental health problems and a semi-NEET lifestyle. It is possible!!
Huge props for putting yourself out there and congratulations on beginning your new life. I really look forward to seeing you grow and flourish into the person you want to be
Hey man, you're a good English speaker. I'll be keeping up with your channel because though my struggles never reached that point, I also struggle to clean my room and function normally. I am never late to my part-time job and I always do my school work, but I do not do it well. I am also disenfranchised with the world and its expectations. I used to sit around unmoving for hours but I found that the best path is the past of least resistance for me. I started small. Small walks to grab a bit of food, which turned into 30 minute walks, and then 1 hour walks while I did talk therapy on the phone. Etcetera. I'm not highly motivated so I often forgot to apply to schools or submit job applications or attend interviews. The importance isn't getting it right the first time, but getting it done anyway once you can. I hope that helps a bit, I subbed. Keep your chin up man, you got this.
It takes a lot of courage to change! It’s most likely gonna be extremely hard but I really really hope and wish you can change your life :) it will be an amazing feeling. What could help is to put affirmations on the wall, reminding yourself daily of the changes and goals you have - changing from a passive to an active state. But apart from these rational decision you will also need to have a very strong emotional reason, e.g. hate or anger. I know it probably isn’t the best way but what helped me to get out of bullying and my victim mentality was anger - the anger towards myself and this world. Sounds strange that this could help right? But as long as you use this as a tool to get to a better life, it can be useful. Im looking forward to your videos and I have an immense respect to you that you do this and I’m cheering for you mate :)
Thank you for being so open and sharing your journey, it’s inspiring to see you expressing that you want to change and actually try it!! I am not a hikikomori right now but I feel like I’m on the edge... I can relate on so many of the things you mentioned! Good luck to you and try your best! I’m going to be rooting for you :)
I worked at amazon for 1 year. Met cool people, but they all quit and or were let go. I quit 2 days ago. The hours and being moved around by management was insane and i reached me limits. Everyone has their limits. I just endured the loss and pain of losing everyone slowly one by one. Taking breaks alone, remembering all the smiles and laughters and jokes. New hires every week. I couldn’t be stuck at that place any longer. Were 2 special girls i got to know and hung out with for a time. Before they both quit amazon. I held on, but the memories of happier days haunted me everyday. I would have flashbacks of us 3 talking, taking breaks together, waterspidering together. Going to the movies and riding bikes together. It was too much. I had to leave it all behind and move forward.
I moved to USA from Europe when I was 5. It took a very long time to adjust, and make new friends or to make friends in general, since back home my friends were stray animals. I think you should do exactly what your channel name says, and go from NEET to Elite. It’s going to take some time, and that’s ok! Just start putting yourself out there, and do it with the things that you love because I promise you that there is a community filled with people that love the same games/music/art etc that you do.. just how you did this video, which i believe is a huge start in this journey. Make videos on things you love, and you will develop a following. I believe in you, I’m sure plenty of other do as well!!! Keep strong brother, your almost there!!
Congrats on taking this big step towards changing your life! That's hard to do and I hope you feel really proud of yourself for taking these first steps. You seem like a very kind and thoughtful person (and your speech impediment isn't as apparent as you think it is). I think goals you have set for yourself are really good places to start. Your long hair looks good on you, but changing your hair can be a great symbol of change. Wishing you the very best of luck :)!
I just happened upon your channel I just want to say, you can do it. I wish you the best so that you can live under the sun, enjoy the company of others, and find the happiness that you deserve. As someone who struggles with OCD I can understand hitting an extreme low point. But it can get better one step at a time. I think RU-vid is a wonder way to hold yourself accountable for those steps and see your growth. I want to say that you speak incredibly well and even though you mentioned your speech impediment to my own ear I could not hear a difference. And well the mind and social anxiety would tell you otherwise just know true people who care about you would not judge you for how your speak. From personal experience I also encourage you to write down your goals! Keep a journal. Take littles notes of your little victories and make small objectives each day so that you don’t beat yourself up over not making a lot of progress at once. Even if for one day you write that you’ll make your bed and do exercises and that’s all you do - that’s still an accomplishment. I know I’m a complete stranger on the internet but your message to yourself moved me. Have faith in yourself and that there are kind people outside who will accept you and welcome you as you make steps to become the best version of your self. With just this channel you’re on your way there.
I BELIEVE IN YOU. I have a friend who quit being my friend who I believe is he could come already and I researched and can only wish that he would know how much I love and care for him no matter how much we fought. I'm sharing you on sir!
The worst part for me is that I can't seem to change things at all. If I put down the computer I just can't even focus at all at this point, and I make no progress at anything I try and just feel even worse, inevitably falling back into just binging internet content all day again as escapism is the only way I can feel mentally ok, thus further increasing my internet addiction and destroying my ability to focus even further. I see no way out of this at all. Some people through a combination of poor mental state/ability in the human world and circumstances leading to lack of any experience to try to get out of this, it just ends up their normal even though it is below the level of a normally functioning human. There is no way out... I too dream of making a channel and documenting a process out, but I'm not dumb enough to believe it is likely to work though I wish it could.
Hey man. I hope all is going well. I was just going through my RU-vid history, and apparently I stumbled across your video once. again. Its been a while. Maybe I'm just talking to past self again. Well I finally got a job to say the least and it's been a massive hurdle. What I've learned is to take the hard bold path. Online applications don't work, passiveness doesn't work. Networking does. It's brutal, like digging your self out a hole with a spoon, but eventually a path will be carved out. I finally had income to better myself. I started gyming, and eating healthier. I starting to feel in control of my life for once. There is still much work to be done, but I've come a long way I hope all is well by your side. Please make a video update if you can. Your content hits so much to home, like there are also people like us out there. Stay safe brother
Don’t be so hard on yourself! I think it’s amazing that you’re even making moves to improve your situation. Good luck on your journey and we all can’t wait to see you win 👏🏽✨
Sup man, So many people will see and relate to so much that you are saying. I am afraid that you have slowed down on your journey but I really really want to see you improve. I hope that somehow you will read this and find the courage to get back into it.
I'm rooting for you! Every healthy action is an investment in YOU, because you are a person of value. It's not going to be easy, so be gentle with yourself and maybe one day you'll find healing.
👑I have a speech impediment to and I am trying to start learning new languages again and to play on my piano again all these years. I wish you the bestest of luck compadre 👑
Hey! I am 6 months away from graduating as a psychiatrist. I can tell you, making this video proves that you are on the RIGHT track. This is exposure, this is you facing your fears and taking responsibility. By experience, individuals I counsel that get on to PLAN CONCRETELY their rehabilitation like you are doing are very likely to eventually succeed. All the best, you've got a follower and someone to cheer you on!
You emphasize the speech so much, but as a non-English speaker I did not notice anything like that. Just look at the auto-subtitles on RU-vid for your video - since everything is clear on RU-vid, then others should understand everything. It's hard to be normal. Instead, focus on not feeling insane. Each has its drawbacks. The passion for depression and reclusiveness is far from the worst. Planning long-term goals requires visualizing the end result. People lose motivation because they don't get things done quickly. Everyone is inclined to this and this is normal - there is no point in repeating actions that do not lead to the desired result. Therefore, when performing, you should strive to achieve not the final goal, but an intermediate daily goal. Most importantly, at the beginning, I would suggest limiting all time wasters like games and RU-vid until the daily goals are achieved. After reaching it, you can have fun - why not, we only live once.
Hello, I am new to your channel. I am not a native English speaker but I can easily understand what you are saying. It's good you are changing in a good way. As you said in the video that you are going to make yourself healthy. I would like to suggest to you something different that's meditation and yoga you can do simple yoga which is available on youtube.
You should try Playing Nu Metal... But for real I've dug myself out of the potential NEET/Hikikomori hole pretty early on mostly thanks to Jordan Peterson, Imp not sure if you've seen any of his videos yet (Chances are you have)
Something seems very fishy here !!! Cause the exact dialogue he is stating is just like that one Hikikomori RU-vidr i forgot his name ( I saw a his video 4 years back ) but every dialogue from the start to the end is exactly the same or maybe he is the same Hikikomori RU-vidr ! Who knows ? But i mean how come all the dialogues from the start to end can be same ! But anyway bro wish you the best ( please dont mind me as i am bit confused )
