Honestly my major cyclical, episodic depression (MDD) vanished the day I had the magic mushroom tripping while listening to the birds singing in the early morning, up at the cottage country in Muskoka (Ontario, Canada) Literally changed my life
I did this recently for the first time, I will say it was the most beautiful and amazing thing I have ever felt. My spiritual being opened up to the earth. I saw portals, the stars dancing, aliens and I saw the realm of heaven. I for once was not sad but an overwhelming sense of happiness that filled my entire body. It's something that I'll never forget.
it is why he’s among my favorites in the current comedy sphere along with Duncan Trussell. hilarious, but can’t help wearing their flaws on their sleeve. addressing themselves and making others laugh through it
That whole line about being fine until something triggers you and then fucking things up beyond repair hit hard. When it's too late it's too late, and you will hate yourself once you come to that realisation.
You got that right. I bail. I f/f run or fight. I did take Tim s course. It’s much easier to be me. Thank God for Tim Fletcher, and his compassionate staff. I am in recovery.
i dont remember where i heard it but its something like “no matter how far along the road you are, you are always the same distance from the ditch” which is a little bit depressing at first, but also comforting, because you always know where the ditch is.
@@ahem8013 I've never heard the phrase, but I love it. Something similar I say is "the truth will set you free, but it's going to piss you off first." People who believe that their life is perfect and can't fail are always in for a worse reaction than a person who is realistic. I know exactly how close I am to failure, because it would take one bad accident, some legal trouble, or even a random freak accident with no explanation and I could be homeless by the end of the year. A LOT of people don't understand that.
It's hard to be broken as a child and to have to spend your life trying to fix what someone else did. it isn't right, it just isn't right. I pray for all of us.
It is but that is life, we are not the first nor the last, best we can do is be as supportive as we can be to our fellows, to foment emotional responsibility in your family. I spent a lot of time analyzing my families past and their (and my) traumas only to realize how easy of a pitfall it is to fall into, instead of fixing the root of the problem, you're just looking at one of the symptoms and shifting responsibility. In the end we are our only masters, we have to learn to forgive the past and ourselves. Everyone goes through hard stuff and I can't say I speak on behalf of someone, obviously seeking help is good, but taking some control of your own future by relinquishing the past is a major step.
Its truly unfair and incredibly sad. But the fact that youre fixing it means youre breaking that pattern/cycle of abuse and thats also incredibly brave and strong. Post traumatic growth is a real thing and I hope each of us get there
Theo is an absolute hero and role model for speaking out about this kind of stuff. How many of us have the same or similar issues and don't talk about it to anyone?
@@Shinyflubbait's about finding what works for you specifically. Usually a combination of different therapeutic approaches work. CBT, ACT, EMDR, neurofeedback therapy, internal family systems. Creative writing...the list goes on. You need to research. The body keeps the score is a good book to start with. Gabor mate is a great educator in trauma as well.
“Staying with someone because I didn’t want them to have somebody else who would really care about them, or that could care about them better than me, even though I knew I was doing a bad job.”…. Wow.. hit hard man
I hate that BS copout saying. Not all hurt people hurt people. A lot of hurt people have genuine empathy for others bcuz they know exactly how it feels.
I have been married twice and engaged now. We are taking our time, as the trauma from toddler sexual abuse impacted me to the core. This relationship is different. He has helped me heal and has allowed me to take my own pace in our relationship. I think the difference though, I finally love myself. My sexual abuse was not my fault, and I don’t have to carry that trauma around with me. I found joy and gratitude, which is foreign to me. I turn 46 next month and for the first time, am not bogged down by the trauma I carried around for 44 years. ❤️
Me too hun at the hands of those whom were supposed to protect and love me the most. I’ve done so much work and feel whole and love myself completely. Love to you. I know the damage felt on a soul level. Big hug
@@eg4441no seriously. It irritated me for years and then I listened to the noise and realized it was me. Changed my life. All my attention is now towards helping the poor baby inside🩷
"Life isn't about finding yourself, it's about creating yourself" - George Bernard Shaw Hope this helps! Helped me a lot It takes time, everyday, with consistent actions to create who you are. Stumbling into "finding yourself" just doesn't really happen in my experience. You have to take action to create the life you want
I avoided EVERYTHING with ocd, the list got longer and lit was ruining my life. I was working on erp with small progress, still avoiding the biggest of the big stuff again, then BOOM head hit/tbi, 6 seizures and an epilepsy diagnosis. So much has changed but the most important is how I people please. People don’t love you as much when you learn to say no but rejection is less painful than ocd symptoms, it’s less dangerous than another grand mal. But YA it definitely felt ironically and cruelly timed, necessary is how I see it now.
Severely abused and abandoned by both parents as a kid. "Fake intimacy" is THE BEST explanation of what I used to be (dated old rich guys, made out with young guys in the club, etc.) and eventually I met my husband thru a coworker when I was 35. He suffered maybe more trauma than me as a kid. Together 14 yrs now with a kid. I reiterate all the time I don't want the BS relationship. We have gone into therapy at trying times, learning SO much about how our traumas shaped us and can say that we are MORE solid today than ever. It can be done. Just meet someone as fucked up as you😅
Very true, you could also spend some time being single, out of a relationship, to go to therapy and work through issues before committing to another person whom you may hurt or may hurt you.
@@LatteCoco1yes this is true to a point but as a survivor oF CPTSD and child abuse i have been on my own for 10 years and in therapy and doing the work but i found that without practicing with someone else in a relationship things stay in theory rather than practice. After trying both ways, i find that practicing and trying with someone who is understanding and struggling with their own stuff is a better idea. Plus, haven’t we suffered enough??? Why should we be alone even longer as adults after we have already been so lonesome since a child?? Doing the work by yourself is key but you also deserve to try with the right person. Imagine reading about how to play basketball and getting on the court as opposed to playing one on one for just as long. Which way will teach you more about yourself and give you muscle memory?
Its actually so powerfull and brave for theo to speak about these things so openly, really the kind of 'manly' we need instead of all these f*ing "alpha males"
@@brennancarter7721 one has to do with patterns involved with planet & moon alignments...& the other are labels based on social habits. I guess I see your point on how similar the sky clock & social hierarchy are the same.
Ummmm....I believe there is a place for some of it. The self improvement stuff. Because once a guy has worked out his trauma....he needs to also be able to work out what truly motivates and sustains him and what the expectations are of the people that he wants to have around him. There are masculine traits of strength, loyalty, integrity, being a protector that are very important for a man to learn in order to gain respect from women, respect from other men- and most importantly the respect of one's self.
I’m healing from childhood trauma. I’m 34, never had a “real” relationship in my adulthood. I’m an only child. No family of my own. Sad stuff. But just like this man said: THERE IS hope. I’m in a 12 Step Codependency Recovery meeting that I attend weekly.. I also quit porn.. and I’m gonna try and start dating this year and make a TRUE change. Thanks for this RU-vid clip yall 💖💖💖💖
Only relationship I had physically was in HS for a month, at 21 I lost my virginity to a single mother of two kids, never went steady or anything, I guess we were both lonely and susceptible. Last of almost 20 children. Turned 35 this year, also trying to quite porn and trying to start dating. Funny how small the world seems sometimes
Studied with Tim for 8 months, he's the reason I've healed so much from complex trauma and now coach others to. I absolutely loved seeing him on TPW -big fan of Theo! A surreal experience for me in the most amazing way!
Right?? He's incredible. I'm so happy the right people are finally getting the exposure. The public desperately needs his valuable and healthy lessons he teaches
I have healed myself into a completely new person and have spent a long grueling time putting in the work (that has rewarded me 10x) but my new partner has not done any work and I see my past self in him so clearly... I think our relationship will only work if he's able to do the inner reflection. If you've experienced someone who has incentivized your healing, what was that like for you? In my experience no one can force a person to heal, it's a personal choice
@@Morale_BoosterI personally agree that it's a personal choice. But we as humans are complex creatures that live in a habitat that thrives on certain things, one of those being external opinions and criticism. It's how we grow but it's also a fast way to regression. I would attempt psychological conversations. Make them face the realities of there actions and reactions and such then brings a moment of clarity and perspective that almost frees you from the ball and chain of biases and emotions. This in turn will have an effect on emotional and physical responses to behavior, now that's the bright outcome in this scenario. The dark scenario is that they fall even further deeper into the behavior, thus burying themselves within the most close minded place a human can be. Alone. Good luck, praying for you guys ❤
@@YNotThough thank you dude, I like your perspective. I do try to lead by example, cause when he sees me falter (I do often) he also sees how I regain my balance with self awareness and responsibility. And I would never say this to him but he also gives me some inspiration about what I don't want to do, for example victim mentality and stubborn helplessness and blame passing. He is very sweet and helps me in so many ways but our maturity gap is like the grand canyon when it comes to self help
Wonderfully written, thank you. I went through a three year long abusive relationship that messed me up. I've tried to date and would be distraught when I realized I couldn't feel anything until I met one guy. I missed my opportunity, but even now he inspires me to get better. Sent my contact info to a therapist. Hoping for some good stuff.
I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with BPD. Spent my whole life fighting BPD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Yes he's Dr.alishrooms.Shrooms to me is a natrual healer. I know a guy who has used mushrooms in the same way and they have really helped him. mah dudes have safe trips all.
wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
From my experience it really works excellently! It doesnt even need to be a full hit. With potent shrooms 2-3 small ones will still make a clear difference. It will be a few hour cosy rumbling moment around rest time, but afterwards its just calm and you feel amazing and gain your freedom. Psilocybin is different dudes, its the only "treatment" I would recommend to someone who genuinely wants to get better. There is no addiction, withdrawal, or negative side effects. It's just pure healing., far more effective than any anti-depressant. You can thank me later,
It's really healing to hear a man talk about this. When I think about how badly men have treated me, I either think it's my fault or it's their fault, but maybe it's no one's fault. Maybe they're not heartless liars and I'm not unlovable, maybe we're both dealing with trauma.
Today literally marks a year that my ex left me, this video helps a lot. Daily reminder, always stay truly happy with yourself. Have a blessing day y’all.
Ive been alone for over 10byears now. 33 years old. Still think of her every single day, throughout the day, missing her, pissed at myself. She was absolutely wonderful. Just wildly beautiful inside and out. So so good to me. I cant say the same of myself. If i could go back in time, id beat the everliving shit outta me. Since then ive learned why i treated her the eay i did, and i know now i was taking my internal pain, self hate, self worth/esteem issues out on her. And that was SO wrong. I blew it. Bigtime. I Feel like the best of my life has come and gone. I sure hope im wrong.
The best of your life is yet to come bc you have grown more than you realize by recognizing and owning what happened in your relationship that caused it to end. Accept the fact that it was an extremely difficult time in your life and you survived with insight that will give you peace heading into your future.
The level of intimacy and vulnerability that Theo lets us into is a gift. It’s admirable and such an honor to watch. As a therapist, this is such a powerful tool for people to see and help achieve transformation in their lives! Way to go! Keep it up 🎉
He is worth continuing his healing for. It is never a good idea to try to heal for someone else. It needs to be because you have learned to value yourself well enough, to do all you can to support yourself, mind/body/spirit.
Theo, I am a preschool / early child development teacher and you sharing this interview/information with your audience is just so wonderful. Ty from the bottom of my heart. This knowledge truly changes lives and makes the world a better place. 💖 You are brave for sharing and growing, change and healing happens when you have bravery in your heart and share with others - keep going. There is hope, it can/will happen, keep going!!! (Neuroplasticity is on your side!)
A lot of people never address their trauma and at some point it becomes so big, becomes way too much for them to deal with on emotional and psychological level, and they begin to collapse entirely. Some people choose drugs and alcohol, some choose sex, some choose pornography, addiction list goes on. But if you don’t deal with your stuff, you ultimately gonna repeat the cycle over and over and over again.
Theo will never realize how many life’s he has saved. Obviously it is up to ones own self to get sober but Theo having hours and hours of content to lean on helps tremendously. I quit at the end of last December and relapsed recently, I’ve found myself listening to Theo again like I did earlier in the year. God f-Ing bless Theo Von, sobriety is worth it, never think it isn’t. Learn from your relapse and make sure it will be a one time hiccup
the term gaslighting is from an old 1930’s movie where a husband is trying to make his wife think she is going crazy by turning down the gas lights and acting like he doesn’t see it when she mentions that the lights are not working
Its cool to be honest and all but if you never change your actions then what is the point. Like with theo admitting he's cheated in every relationship. That's a great firsr step but if he never actually stops himself from cheating then it comes off as fake pandering.
"If things get tough I leave." - this is such a strong response when a younger part regresses back to being only as resourceful as that 5,6,7,8 year old part was back then. It's amazing how that hurt/trauma shows up as an adult and takes over until it is healed.
Theo’s journey is truly inspirational. From the stories with Joey Diaz to things he talks about openly, with a full heart and without judgement to the guests he has on, it’s like we can live with him through his process alongside which I am so happy to be able to lean in to his courage. When two great separate circles meet you know you’re on to something. I have no doubt it is resonating with so many people and it is people like him this world needs now more than ever. Super cheesy I know but I wanted to share. Thank you so much, Theo!!
It is so great to hear another guy talk openly about issues with this. It takes a lot of courage to do so. I would know because I struggle with the same things and I feel so bad about how I've damaged people in my relationships. I have to get myself in order so I can treat someone right and feel good about myself. Good luck out there everyone
Theo! Thank you so much for having Tim Fletcher on your show! I discovered him about four years ago and learned so much from him about childhood trauma. You are helping many people by having him on your show, including me. Looking forward to watching the full episode.
More people need to listen to Tim Fletcher. His knowledge is second to none. I was never an addict but I've suffered from CPTSD. His videos have been saving my life along with DBT and stoicism.
Theo is so insightful. Its like his sessions are free therapy, not only for him, but for his audience. His thoughts are like mine, but his words are really thought-provoking.
I cannot even begin to express how happy I am to see Tim Fletcher getting out into the world and media. I was blessed and fortunate enough to have Tim as a teacher in a treatment facility in Winnipeg, Canada. He taught me SO MUCH. And still does with his RU-vid videos. I hope more and more people hear what he has to say. I believe he has the ability to heal people with all of the incredible information he has obtained. Keep doing your thing, Tim!! 😁
I agree. He sets an example of self-forgiveness and maintaining dignity even while discussing behavior he's not proud of. It's like he's holding a torch and leading the way for others who feel bottled up with shame.
I’m in my 40s, never married, no kids, and I used to think that I was just “bad at relationships”. It was only until recently I’ve come to realize just how much damage was caused by me being abused as a kid. In my younger days, I thought that making it through all that just made me “tougher”, now I realize that it just made me straaaaanger, lol. For those suffering with C-PTSD, maybe a “healthy” relationship isn’t the answer, perhaps we simply need to find the “Harley Quinn” to our Joker, and vice versa???
Ahhh I love Tim fisher!!! What an awesome crossover. I love that he speaks to both religious and non religious folks in such a respectful, scientifically informed way ❤️
Theo is the absolute best. Using his comedy to ease into these topics is great and allows people to connect on a level that doesn’t feel uncomfortable. This hit the nail on the head for me and so many others I know. Thank you Theo for sharing your friends and research from your own journey with all of us.
Theo!! Thank you for actually going through and voicing yourself. Iv NEVER heard anyone actually admit there real HEAVY baggage they carry into relationships, and that has its roots in yourself and not the other person. Theres a very common trope where folks blame thier roots of trauma on the new person in their life, giving them the love and time the one who hurt them NEVER did.
I've watched every single videos of Tim Fletcher. He single-handedly saved me from unaliving myself multiple times and help me understand myself so much. He's my personal hero ♥️
thank you so much for sharing this. I feel less alone. I’m 22 and I’ve been in and out relationships since 16. And I’ve always found myself soaked in guilt and disappointment from my cheating behaviour. Losing and constantly having hope that it’ll get better. I loved so much yet always ended up committing to hurtful decisions. Thank you so much for this.
Love this about Theo, he does the comical thing but very authentic. To have this sit down with a top tier expert really shows his self work. Gooo Theooo, we’re all rooting for you!
Thank you for your candidness. I'm a woman, and hearing it from a guy explains a lot and is healing. I've had childhood trauma and see myself being responsible for the feelings of others, being gaslighted from childhood by dysfunctional parents, and later in marriage. Thank you for this, and thank you the most for being so honest.
I had a realization during this convo. The parent is always made out to be the root cause and then the child becomes what they are because of it. The thing is, the oarent was once a child too, and they likely had complex trauma that made them that way towards their kids. Every generation is just another layer of trauma and when you stack up enough generations, you see what a hopeless situation we’re all in unless we break the generational trauma
You are absolutely right, and once you know this, it is easier to see your parents as parents and then seperately, parents as people just like you and me. It is liberating. Then add in consideration of your own silent, internalized expectation of what parents should be or should have been. Try to separate out your perceived expectation from the mix. Ultimately, though, you now know you can be a chain breaker. You have had this realization, and now you have this wisdom - and therefore the power to use it.
I've been on my own for two years so I can work on my trauma issues. It's not easy but I'm a better person because of it. Theo is one amazing hero for doing the hard work and sharing it with us.
I’ve been thinking about an episode like this for like 2 years. Ilysm thank you for being real I think I have been starving for someone to reflect the difficult things I feel in media.
Theo.. your honesty and vulnerabilities laid out on the table, is so masculine for one, but truly beautiful. ❤ Real caring, loving men and women, accept their past, and are willing to change the future..and put in the work to do so! He's come so far. I truly hope he continues to stay true to his words and keeps moving forward! 🥺😭❤️
Appreciate the honesty. Our generations seem to be filled with trauma from generations before us. We're the cusp, the elbow of trajectory for big changes of the generations to come.
I love this whole side of Theo where he is having intellectual discussions with others while still having a touch of comedy. This man is truly talented.
