I’ve been married for 38 years. I took the red pill in 1977 before there even was one. And I decided while in the Navy that I was just going to be myself. No excuses, no wavering. If a woman didn’t see value in me and dampen her hypergamy enough to find out who I was, she was jettisoned. Then, I stumbled upon a woman who had endured reverse divorce similar to what a man has to endure. Her hypergamy was extinguished and she was humble. Suddenly, without warning, I had found a woman who wanted to take the time to know me and value me just as I was. I almost missed her, mostly because I was trying to find her and being red pill stubborn. And she was the one. Three grown kids later, our partnership could not be stronger. She is simply an amazing woman. And the DNA tests of the kids prove it out. Mine. All mine. And she was more than ok with that. She is a classically trained pianist and one of the smartest people I’ve ever met. Sometimes, not often, one does find a lady that makes your life a joyous journey. And I do my utmost to make her journey through life a joyous one too. I know, without any doubt, I’m most fortunate.
You are an extremely lucky man, and for both of you and your wife to have each other, and now your children. With the world we live in of what it is now, I feel my father was also extremely lucky to have met my mother. They have been married since 1985. Up until this day my mother does give motherly parental advice to me about woman to look out for and to avoid, and she understands for well why I don’t bother with woman. My relatives are so blue pilled it makes me laugh sometimes. My father passed away in 2017, and he also understood why I wasn’t going for woman, just to fulfill that acceptance of status of having a relationship. Glad to hear that there are good solid relationships out there.
Harry McDow good to hear the same coincides happened to someone else. I also, am former Navy. I witnessed it too many times going to the E. M. club on base. The females didn't even try to hide the fact they were married. I became married when I was 39. I am now 51 with two beautiful children. I structured my life around monogamy and self discipline. My wife knows this and I give no lee way. I guess I found a unicorn. Also, just so you know, she was raised by her father.
Rule 1 - Don't be afraid to be alone. Better to actually be alone than feel alone with someone. Rule 2 - Always, actively try to understand who you are with and always compare that to what you feel is important and meaningful to you.
Good point. I'm not religious, but there's a passage in the Bible in the book of Proverbs that reads: It is better for a man to live alone in a dingy attic than to live in an elegant mansion with a spiteful woman.
Agree. When your partner doesn't understand anything you're telling her, or doesn't even care, and has more in common with a slave driver, it does feel a lot more lonely. PS: God most likely doesn't exist, but from the bible one can learn a lot in terms of morality.
@@nightmareTomek I agree that the Bible is mainly a book on morality, although some things in it are not very moral. It condones slavery in some parts.
@nativetexanful Hm, yea, you're probably right. xD Also really objectifies women. Who was the one toyed by Satan for a few days? He lost everything, house, sheep, wife, and got sick. But because he believed for 7 days or however many, God rewarded him and gave him a new wife. Like new furniture. Well, women are mostly all the same anyway.
57, never married. I used to get challenged a lot of about this years back. "What's wrong?...don't you like women?" Now, married men approach me and say "You made the right choice, stay single!"
I endured the same social pressures after choosing to be single. I watched all my friends, family and neighbors get divorced and they were all disasters. When they were married, they would always try to "fix me up" with women of the same ilk. Between building cars, playing guitars, stock trading and other interest, I had no time for dating. It's a waste of time and money. Every woman I have met has tried to take me off task and change my coarse to meet her desires then leave me stranded in the abyss. More men need to take control of their lives.
@mad ass yes. Men have to finance it. But a women can easily bring equal value to the situation... IF they were raised to not be selfish and to serve others. A proper women knows the value of a man leading and supporting a family. But for me it's obvious almost no women these days can live this way. I was married for ten years and she did nothing. Didn't work, cook or clean.
@@clarkfluegel6875 There is a very good reason why china's culture WAS a patriarchy as with japan and others.On the outward..it would seem cruel how they treated and viewed women..but these cultures KNEW WOMAN'S NATURE
Bottom line is that if she don't treat you right, she doesn't love you, so do you love who she is, or do you love who she pretends to be? Cut out the cancer, Gentlemen. Remove toxic people from your life and your life becomes better.
blueseaview 22 No, empathy is empathy. Love is just a biological drive that perpetuates our species, it is exploited by woman, religion and corporations all over the world in order to manipulate us to get what they want.
That's a funny reply. especially when you consider that it's the man who proposes marriage and not the other way around. It's the man who decides whether or not they're getting married, not the woman. It's the man who wants the impregnate the woman, not the women. It's the man who protests against abortion, not the women. So, who's getting what they want?
All right, what are you selling? You've won me over. I appreciate your compliments. What are selling mister? Now I think I remember you, last time you came around with your sister. Tell your sister I miss her mister. Now what you're selling I'm buying, shieeeeet.
I got a divorce 5 years ago. Decided not to date at that point. After four and years Now started dating a woman. Right out of the box she started telling me what I do wrong. Huge red flag. It didn’t take her long to figure out I wasn’t about to change to her ways. She broke off the relationship in a hurry. Since then I have become a MGTOW.
Without each other, civilization literally ceases to exist. It's great to talk in tough, black and white terms, about life and relationships....but it's not based in practicality or reality.
divorces would quadruple, men would wake up and question more, women would lose their ever loving minds going on rants and tyrants on every man in sight and start chasing men down with nets in packs
You won't. Society wants you to pair up and create nice neat nuclear families for the stability for society at the expense of the individual. Marriage is by its design, social engineering.
My ex tried to make me feel bad after breaking up, because I didn't experience the pain she did. But you reassured me my reaction was logical. Because I realized I was in a destructive relationship where I lost myself and got her shit in return. Thank you sir.
I am 51 and i have never been in love. Never wanted to get married. Dont ever want to be a father. I like being single. I use to date women but i find women hard work. Some where a right pain in the ass.
My situation is the same as yours. I'm 54, have never been married, never had a real girlfriend. I haven't been on a date nor has sex in over 30 years, and I'm not missing a thing. I've saved a fortune that way. I have money to travel overseas every year, and best of all, I have my freedom, which is the most important thing in the world. Women are not worth the time nor the expense.
@@nativetexanful I am convinced I did, I have been watching couples, both married and unmarried for over 30 years, I have yest to find a man I would want to trade places with.
I "dodged a bullet" a few years back when I almost got engaged to a woman who turned out to be an SJW. She kept that part of herself hidden until we had moved in together. Her mask came off and this truly horrible person emerged. Tyrannical, lying, routinely insulting. And it didn't matter how many hoops I jumped through or how happy I tried to make her. She'd be happy for, oh, 2.7 minutes and then it was demon mode again. One of my favorite insults was, "Watching you eat makes me so sick I lose my appetite". She could not at all grasp why that would anger me and insult me. It was non stop ass rippings from this person. I finally told her one night that the relationship "was one one of the biggest mistakes I had ever made". And I meant it. It was true. She ended up with a guy 15 years younger than her and they began immediately having babies. I thank the Lord above that I didn't get caught in that trap.
I'm coming out of a relationship at the moment having given up my dignity and self worth chasing after a woman who was disordered, selfish, manipulative and cold. Something inside me pushed me to chasing after her even though she abused me for 2 years, feeding me scraps and essentially living a separate life. These videos have been a huge help and now I'm starting to understand the delusion I've been living in. Disordered women DO NOT CHANGE. They WILL NOT IMPROVE. You can throw as much love, patience, time and effort at them as you can and you will always end up in an emotionally crippled state. I've blocked the bitch. I'm cutting the cancer out of my life and starting afresh with a new, clearly defined set of values. Thank you Paul.
Just Joe I’ve dealt with women exactly like your ex. Sadly, I’d say most women are selfish and manipulative. Those people will always turn cold because they only love themselves.
Just Joe Sadly we men are just a shell of our true selves.We really dont know who we are.Being raised by women our whole lives its hard to get off the tit.We need to look at women differently.There is no ideal women out there.What exactly are you looking for anyway.Who are you is the bigger question.Are we more pissed off at the woman or the fact we spend years accepting bad behavior thinking that will change things lol .The only thing we can count on changing is ourselves.Taking responsibility for our own actions not for anyone else but ourselves.When things arent making sense we need to pay attention in fearless detail.
I remember being out of cash and out of luck staying in a caravan park to attend a job interview in Townsville Australia. Two guys who i did not know offered a mattress for me, they could see I was not real handy at putting up the tent. They shared a joke fixed my tent and said its all right mate.That kind of looking out for each other should be normal and it still is in lots of places. Its not romance but it makes reality of shit sandwiches seem so so stupid. Thank you for your metronome of male self respect.
Amen! It’s too late for many of us, who married the wrong person & are waiting for death. Know what you want, & make sure all YOUR boxes are checked. If not, save yourself from a marathon of misery.
"Your values especially self-respect happens to be the biggest obstacle in getting approval and acceptance from most women " What a cruel, sharp and painful observation.
I like what you say, I've seen my co-workers & friends cleaned out in a divorce. I have friends, who's wives just use them as slaves for their never ending, never satisfied honey-do list. I'm 58 years old and I've never been married. I do what I want, and I don't need or have to ask for anyone's approval.
I’m the same way. Don’t have a wife or girlfriend to nag me about what I want to do with my free time. The last girlfriend started to become a control freak and I told her I was done. Women are too controlling nowadays. Maybe I’m too weak to take charge because I don’t like control freaks and don’t want to become one. I really enjoy my freedom more.
Good work Paul! Too many relationships are built on one direction love - eros - usually from a man, instead of the healthy mutual love - agapé - which is founded in mutual respect and equal giving.
This kind of opened my eyes in a way. I used to think similarly to the commenter but didn't have the exact same complaint. I thought I had to be the ultimate chad, tall, very good looking, earn great money, have unswerving confidence and be funny and charming to get a woman that would be worth dating. But that in itself was a gynocentric view. The bar for her was so low while the bar for me was stratospheric. This advice really puts it into perspective, but for me what changed it was meeting women outside of the west where I lived. Interactions felt much more natural, they became friends that you'd like to hang out with, which never happened before. Whilst others were even ones you'd like to date long term. I didn't feel there was a huge power imbalance in that I had to always degrade myself to approach, prove my worth to her, get her acceptance, etc. This in turn over time shed my gynocentric and you begin to accept yourself as a man. Rather than try to shape yourself to what you think a man should be just to try and get a woman. I feel like while the west accuses much of the rest of the world of being a "patriarchy" or "oppressing women", the west itself is perhaps the most polarized in its gynocentric perspective and by quite a large margin. Escaping that helped me see my own worth and really put into perspective how badly conditioned boys are from a young age to put the attractive female as the ultimate thing to aspire towards. The quote from the movie Scarface sums it up quite nicely in how the ultimate goal is gynocentric "First you get the money then you get the power then you get the woman"... ultimately it all boils down to reproduction at all costs. We can be so much more than that, so much more. I think while some guys may listen to this vid and understand it on some surface level, I think only by experiencing a perspective change will you truly understand. I hope others can see the same one day.
This really helped me to decide NOT to get married, and just live my life as a single man. I've experienced to many times women who tried to control me. Because (And i'm quoting them here) I'm to laid back and i don't wan't children. Thanks Paul for making these videoes! :)
I wanted to say that these videos have helped me get over my ex. She didn't want me to enlist in the military after grad school, but now that she is gone, I have decided to join the Navy at the end of the year. This is will help me in terms of my career goal of becoming a consultant.
Paul, I always felt and acted the way you said and no wonder the longer "relationship" lasted no longer than a month. Your videos are well done. Keep up the good work.
If you are well married, which I thankfully am, this self respect is paramount. Rule one, if your woman brings a man or a woman she has for a friend into your house that disregards your mastery of the castle put the foot down and eject them. That's rule #1 of the mastery of the home, which is the point of refuge you must, must, defend.
Rachel K He means that a woman shouldn't bring someone over who will be disrespectful to her husband, especially in his own home. Better yet, if HER friend is acting that way, then SHE should step up and throw them out herself. When you're two grown adults in a real relationship, you have each other's backs. You don't let anyone walk on him, he doesn't let anyone walk on you. You're a team, and you act like it, no matter what.
The idea of most of the married men I know, "putting their foot down", is terrifying to them. They are satisfied with not getting squashed by her foot. It's closer to "duck, dodge and cover".
If you're talking about marriage, he's absolutely correct.. Especially after 10 years of marriage. You can be assertive, sure. You don't have the weapons to back your assertions. She has cops, false allegations, the court system, and much much more to support her if she decides you've outlived your usefulness.
Paul my friend..... You are a man who speaks the truth.. I moved from Ireland to England in the late eighties...When I arrived in the Uk, the fist thing I noticed were the rotten spoiled entitled women, and the weak needy English men who indulged their bad behaviour... Back then no Irish man worth his salt would let a woman treat him like dirt....Nowadays most men here seem to base their self worth on female approval.....Iv'e been MGTOW for the last seven years now, and couldn't be happier....
No legal vulnerability in a long term relationship? So false accusations of physical abuse, harassment, stalking, rape etc. are not commonly used weapons of spurned women? It is grossly irresponsible to speak of breaking up with a woman as if it's a choice a man makes without extreme peril. A man is in danger the moment he gets on a woman's radar.
It seems to me that if you learn the red flags of toxic, manipulative people, you can weed them out early on and proceed with confidence with those who have proven themselves real.
You are right. That’s why I do short term flings. I am nomadic in my approach with women. I don’t stay around long. After being married 10 years, I learned my lesson. Never again
Everytime i listen to this it makes more sense. İt's amazing how much corrupt and non-practical ideologies are pumped into men's brains everyday. İn the past i didn't understand the fact that romantic love was not a basic need. İ thought it was.
quitting gynocentrism is much like recovering from alcoholism. It's one day at a time. And nobody understands. all that is important is that you are making the change that is best for you.
I am very glad I found your channel here. Your videos are resonating well with me and have forced me to pull my head out of my ass regarding relationships with women. I need to be better about being willing to just walk away if my boundaries are crossed. Your videos have really opened my eyes to a whole different world.
He speaks the truth. I know, my brother took his life because his wife left him after 11 years. He (classical case), stopped communicating with his sisters, brothers even my mom for many months.. and then one day, the sad news. He was deep in a romance lifestyle (we're french so that didn't help)
Never invest in a woman. Realize she is capable of error. When and if it's time to ditch you will, and easily. Just don't expect anything in the future. Day by day is the way. If not invested, you'll always be happy. And so will she.
2 years in a relationship w a woman I chose to date that loves to be lead and doesnt agree w a woman controlling a relationship loves me doing my thing as a man and stays in her place as a woman. I command and lead the way and she loves it. The point is Its the rules and boundaries YOU make and UPHOLD that are important. You need to Take command. What I like about your videos is that you speak of things I do w her and you say it well. Woman hold on to what they can lose way more and need to know you love them but you dont need them and are w them because You "Choose" to.
Thanks so much Paul. Really enjoy your channel. Only took the red pill recently after 20+ years in a relationship. Better late than never I guess. Thanks to people like you and Sandman I’ve embraced the MGTOW cruzade and decided not to take women’s crap even once more from here one. Thank you
Thank you for doing what you do Mr. Elam and for these videos. They've been a real help in getting over my recent break up. I realized I was no longer subject to her demands and in no need of her matronly protection and instruction. If it isn't already obvious, she was (and still is) a feminist; even after having seen "The Red Pill". She tried telling me she changed but yet she found herself agreeing with Big Red in the film. She only said the film was biased and didn't include any "real" feminists. These videos are helping me discover just how toxic the relationship was and how lucky I am that I wised up and stood up for myself. Thank you again.
I agree with TFM when he says "love is a feeling you feel yourself". It's not something somebody gives you, it's nothing magical, it's just chemicals in your brain. You are a MAN, damn it! Just because you are an animal doesn't mean you have to act like one!
Loserectomy! Love that Dr. Paul! I learned after 50 years about what I call the gift egress! Why would I want to remain with anyone who wishes to leave or who demands that I short change my personal interests?
Between female family members and girlfriends I've always been broke. I always felt guilt tripped for their problems. After my mother ran up 50k in debt after stealing my ss# she had her fun at my expense and her fiances. She got him for 75k. My mother passed away a year and half ago. After mourning her as my mother I thought about her as a woman. I thought about all the women in my family. Every woman in my family that I know is divorced. Always the man's fault according to them. My ex-girlfriends blame men. I thought about the one time I was in love. She said money didn't matter. I spent more on her than any other girlfriend. She then proceeded to screw my best friend. I realized this much: 1. Love isn't always returned. 2. Love does not entail fidelity. 3. If you feel guilt then a woman probably caused it. 4. Feelings are not actions. 5. Words mean little. 6. Talking is not doing. 7. Feminism corrupts women into a self centered view of relationships and deceives them to think of themselves as victims even if they are in the wrong then they believe it is justified as long as it is a man being hurt. 8. Feminism teaches women to fault men. 9. Relationships with women need to be separated from your finances. 10. I do better financially single. If anything else need be said then it's this, now I'm single with no women in my life: 1. I have savings. 2. I have a 401(k) 3. I'm opening a Roth IRA next month. 4. I'm opening a CD at my credit union next month. 5. My income is now 95% discretionary. 6. I have little debt. 7. I've been promoted at work. 8. I made 21k more last year than 2 yrs ago. 9. My blood pressure went down. 10. I'm no longer depressed. Being single isn't a cultural centerpiece but I'm better off single for a while.
You were doing GR8 until the last comment #10 "I'm better off single for a while" ..... make that "for a while' ..... FOR FUKN EVER. Otherwise everything you said before #10 is NULLIFIED.
This is a good one. It comes down to if a woman consistently attempts to erode your values and integrity, they don't accept you for who you are (they want to mold you). Run! But don't kid yourself, you could be part of the problem too. Every bad relationship we survive has the potential to help us learn to grow and be better people.
this is really a super presentation! and eye opener! no one has thought me! no one has thought me!! this core fundamental principle in life!! thank you!!!!
What's ironic is that if you take no crap from a woman, and do so with firm, genuine intestinal fortitude, she's far more likely to stay than if you let her walk all over you. Patrice O'Neil gave this wonderful advice where he said that you as a man have to prioritize your happiness in a relationship with a woman. It keeps things in order and allows her to continue to see you as the leader, and gives her the structure and definition in the relationship that inside she actually craves. That doesn't mean to completely ignore her needs, but to keep your happiness in the forefront as a guide in the relationship.
Okay, this is only the second video of yours that I have watched and they are two of the best videos I have ever seen on the youtube. Time to subscribe! Keep up the good work!
I have been in a long term relationship for 42 yrs. From the beginning I refused to get married and I stuck to my values. I am a biker and a club rider. We are men and we demand that our members behave as men first and always. In Illinois we don't have common law or palimony so you only deal with government interference in your relationship if you invite it in yourself.I will probably spend the rest of my life with my old lady but it will be on my terms .
Didn’t know this about Illinois! 💪 (I’m in St. Louis) I’ve been a MGTOW since the mid 70’s. Been with different women and never getting married or living with a gal.
Awesome vidoe.. I've been that guy groveling for a women's affection and respect while she stood there and laughed .. self respect !!!! Great message !
To whoever made the comment, do not listen to this man. I've been celibate for 12 years. It doesn't mean I've "built a wall around myself," or that I'm aftaid, or that my decision was "fear based." I did it for perspective, in an overly-sexualized age. I've also taken a vow of poverty, but it doesn't mean I'm scared of material or terrified of money. In short, celibacy allowed me to more easily gain virtue. Prudence, temperance and courage have to be cultivated. Monks have been doing this long before Mgtow came about. I didn't do it because I hated women, although I did do it because women hated themselves through a counterintuitive feminism that has destroyed the western woman. Why would I have a relationship with a person whose motivations are completely antithetical to my own? This is irrational and imprudent. So am I to believe that since I'm not compatable, and therefore abstain from materialistic and manly women that I'm scared? But this man cannot understand anything past lust, or fornication. He uses "pair bonding" as a disguise or mock word for fornicating. He then goes on to say that a man can have principles and still have a relationship. This is a contradiction in terms. A man with principals is virtuous enough to control his lust. The contradiction lies in the fact that lust is hardly a virtue or principal. He sees much truth in the way western women act, but doesn't know how to physically react to it. He has to gratify his own lustful desires because he hasn't bothered to gain the virtue of Chastity. He is now using ad hominem arguments towards you because you are attempting to do the one thing that he cannot even fathom; abstain. Obese people abstain from food to lose weight even though eating is entirely normal. This doesn't mean they're afraid of eating. Anyway my friend, you'll get this reaction a lot when you're doing the right thing and on the right track. I think at one point he threw a "blue pill" statement at you. Even though I maintain if you cant stay away from the disaster that Western women have become because you have to have your penis touched, then YOU'RE the beta male. Alpha males have zero time for a womans modern antics, so they don't associate with them. I'll leave you with a general statement of my own: Men who are too weak to withstand temptation despite the fact that they know they should, will always be jealous of those who can withstand temptation.
I also think he is reading too much into that comment and being too harsh on the guy. I think a better way of putting this would be that short term relationships and some longer term relationships are possible until she decides she is going to being giving you crap and showing disrespect, but it is going to happen, and you are either going to dump her or be dumped. It is inevitable. Every man needs to decide how many times he has the energy, drive, and incentive to repeat this process. Many guys stop putting the time and energy into doing this, either temporarily, or permanently. Sometimes a genuinely temporary break turns into a very long or permanent one, when a man simply start enjoying a better and easier life. I am fully ready to get involved with a woman, I just haven't bumped into one who didn't have obvious red flags and was desirable enough for me to start putting the energy into. It's gone on longer than I thought it would, and pretty much all of these "modern" women get on my nerves. The problems they have are as clear as day to me. I don't believe being a monk is the optimal solution for everyone, but it will be the optimal solution for many. By all means, chose the best ones you can, and don't tolerate the absolute nonsense. However, it will come, and you will be getting rid of her. I did not feel this way when I was younger, but now that I am older, it has become rather monotonous and undesirable. I don't see any substantial difference between pumping and dumping her or getting rid of her as soon as the real nonsense starts (at least these days), but maybe it's important to differentiate. By the way, I was doing the latter, but the nonsense was coming so fast that it seemed ridiculous.
Great video. I don't know if you took my advice about adding contrast to your footage but you are doing something right. It actually looks like you are hanging out at a bar. Good job, mate.
Thank you, and yes I did take your advice. Rather I doubled my efforts on figuring out color correction and finally made some progress. Cheers, glad you enjoyed the video.
+An Ear for Men fantastic vid I myself have recently decided to end a long term relationship because it became obvious after watching a handful of your vids that I was getting nothing out of it but drama and depression. the thing is it was bad for a LONG time but I just couldn't bring myself to end it mainly because I was scared of the prcived "failure". thank you paul for giving me the confidence to see that I'm worth so much more! no more simping or making excuses for her shitty behaviour just because she's a woman. I've been on several date's since but alas the red flag's popped up all to quickly. its scary to think that not long ago I'd of not noticed and walked blindly into another negative relationship. once again thank you paul and keep these excellent vids coming!
Awesome video, I’m Single and I love turning all these lonely women down now that screwed over good men . I went through 2 brutal relationships. It cost me a lot financially. Mentally 0. They both want me back after they pissed away all my money they got from me within 5 years. 😆
Clever Paul. You just showed MGTOW how to rationally view relationships and take their own personal feelings out of the equation. You took away their victim card and gave them back their backbone. It's like how men are always suppose to be obsessed about sex....take away the myth of that obsession and you show people how rationally you are in control of yourself. If there is one of the things I always hated about the concept of rape culture, is that women, and men believe that men can not control themselves, that they have to rape, which couldn't be further from the truth.
wait. his analysis of one guy's comment makes you think he meant all mgtow when he clearly stated that he knew most mgtow want a benifical relationship and only some want to be monks. how can your name be The Thought Criminal if yo can't fully understand a 12 min video? never mind.
Really, you are going to give me"not all"shit argument that we keep hearing all over youtube?! Well Fred, his video is targeted at the blue pilled men and MGTOW, who still want to date, or at least "pump and dump." Is that better, does that explain it to ya?! He is warning them to think rationally if they get into a relationship, and to take responsibility for themselves if they allow themselves to get abused. Also don't be afraid and self sabotage yourself. That is one of the singular problems with MGTOW, they have been abused in the past, but they don't take responsibly for the fact that they allowed themselves to be abuse....I know I was one them. Personally I got a lot out of this video, I enjoyed and founded it a refreshing take, compared to all the MGTOW rage that I've come across....we have to stop blaming women for everything. Yes, that is victim blaming, but I am not a feminist, I am a MGTOW, and I take responsibility for the choices in my life. Clearly you are to wrapped up in your own personal shit that you can't grasp simple logic when it is laid out in front of you.....but something tells me that even if this videos was a hour long with detailed graphs you still wouldn't get it. Don't feel bad though, there are a lot of retarded MGTOW out there that think like feminists.
If a man is his own source of love and self-approval, a manipulative woman will have MUCH less power over him, or even no power at all. We need to learn to love ourselves and be happy with who we are, to value who we are, much more than we need a woman's love.
My wife and I married 48 years ago. Romantic love works if you are really in love. I've had couples 75 married with a roomfull of children, grandchildren and great grandchildren. Married people are slaves to each other. And it's great!
But youre talking about a bygone era, the increasing divorce rates and declining marriage rates in the here and now are a testament to the indoctrination from feminism and break down of the accepted social contracts between men and women....look at #meetoo and even somewhat related, would you have ever guessed that you would live to see a time where young people are promoting communism? Times have changed js
Thank you very much for this video and for this channel. When I feel the lack of inspiration and lack of motivation, I tend to turn on some of your videos and instantly feel myself much better. It's something confident not only in the ideas you propose, but even in your voice. And confidence is somewhat rare and special in this world, somewhat of luxury. Not every man can afford himself to be that confident.
Holy fuckin shit, this is great stuff man. So clear and illuminating. Thank you Paul. I'm a psychotherapist for men and will share this video with some of my men. I salute you.
would love to see your analysis on women that hit menopause and/or decide they are bored of the nice guy (not cheater etc) to get on the cock carousel that they missed earlier on in life. Because of this incident I was red pilled, or so I thought. Your comment on this video really woke me up as I was looking to find a new relationship until you said something about chasing love is an illness that should not be replaced.
thank you very much, mate. your video is very helpful. I'm one of those who got devastated by these romance things because I grew up in the blue pill community. now that I see your & other MGTOW videos. I'm gonna start to embrace the red pill & rebuild my self-respect & my own value. though I got lots of shaming by embracing this way of life. tbh, I'm done with women. not that I have problems with them, but I just want to fully focused on what I'm really passionate about. I guess that still counted as going monk. if I find one suitable life partner, then its good. if not, then to heck with it. I'll just have to went full bachelor. life is too short to worry about those stuff :D
I was married for 21 years and treated her pretty good, but it wasn't enough, she just kept complaining, nagging trying to control me. I started a personality change and said no much more often. She hated that. She eventually asked for a divorce and I said granted. Now I'm at peace
Right after Divorce Court, and the Legal Divorce Rape I received. My now ex-wife tried to twist the dagger, and it backfired spectacularly! While I was walking away, she smugly, and loudly said to my back, "Other men will do things for me!" I turned around, and retorted with glee, "That's because they don't know you yet." Now angry, she spat out about how she stole EVERYTHING I HAD AND WORKED FOR. I closed the distance between us to about two feet, "Keep it all; because NO MATTER how much you have, you will NEVER BE HAPPY!" The life completely drained out of her face; afterwards I pawned our wedding rings, and went to see a movie called "Eight Legged Freaks". It has taken me over eighteen years to recover financially. NEVER AGAIN!!!
You are exactly right. If a woman does not know for a cast-iron certainty that her man will walk the second she starts treating him like shit, he will be a slave to her feminarcissism, until she tires of his passive subservience. Provided, of course, she doesn't drop kick him into touch for not respecting himself enough to tell her to wind her neck in when she's out of order. Only the women worth being in a long term relationship with will stay when their man actually man's up and leave if they don't.
Some men just don't care if she's hot or not. the 1-10 scale exists for a reason. the 1-10 scale for women is just as valid. except it has to do with things other than looks. the higher she is on the scale the more shit I'll deal with. this is not sexist! women operate the exact same way. I just can't figure out why a 9 man will deal with a 5 woman who makes him walk on eggshells.
