Silence is a woman’s last form of trying to communicate to you just how much you hurt her.. When a woman no longer feels safe placing her heart in your hands, she uses silence as a way to heal and restore her peace..
So me. When I’ve exhausted myself explaining myself to a person with no changed behavior. It’s a wrap. I’m done. Silence becomes her. I don’t do emotional games.
literally going through this now. told him this was my last time expressing how i feel and im done with the mind games. Nobody is going to keep playing with my feelings
@@alfhid1947 I would say work on your issues that led to making the other person feel alone, go to therapy. If you really want to get them back, give both of you time to heal and then reach out with an apology and tell them the things you've learned. Tell them you still care what them and that if they're willing to meet up and talk, you would love to. Go from there....
💯 🎯 perfectly said!! I’m done, exhausted of throwing 100% while he’d only throw 10%… he knew I liked him so he took advantage of that and stayed at 10% effort level.. mammi out🚪
Most important give no reaction. Literally forget him, and whatever he does you are out of his game. Men go obsessing at times and do crazy stuffs, which here need to make him understand whatever he does will not play to his gate.
I’m a very emotional person and if I feel like you are shutting me down or down playing how you make me feel when you do or say thing to hurt me….it causes me to start to move away slowly. You are on point about this.
Currently on mute right now. You just described how I feel. The gravity of not talking and reaching out to him at this point is way heavier than the desire of knowing how he is or what he is up to today. Im soo done!
You hit the nail on the head 8 minutes in. Invalidating my emotional stability is so hurtful. I warned him how I was becoming detached due to lack of understanding and poor communication. Feeling lonely and alone in the relationship sucks. He didn't treat me like I was a priority.
Being quiet means i tried to tell you how i feel i tried to communicate to fix it, i’ve come to a point now that i’m beyond hurt, i’m done. I’m letting you go
I’ve been talking for 30 plus years, married to him 20 plus years, we raised 4 children they are in college & the military for United StAtes 🇺🇸 of American. Less then 3 years I will be 50. I STOPPED talking getting ready to transition out the marriage for life. ✌🏿
When I go silent....I am done! Yes, everything is exactly as u described. It's time for the sunshine to come out!!! 😊 Thank u for being HONEST DERRICK...THATS PRICELESS
I’m gone keep telling you how I feel in different ways and keep repeating myself but once I feel like I am becoming a broken record and there’s no changes be done, Im being called out for feeling a way and wanting more than what I’m getting then I no longer speak. You will never hear me complain about the same thing again I’m just gone walk away. Me coming to you was your warning to fix it before I walk a way
That's exactly what I do because I do t want to hurt anyone, or be hurt. And I have to get my feelings understood within myself so I don't react in an unkind way.
Some men refuse to listen because they're flat out lazy! Listening means they maybe held accountable! They want to Breeze by in relationships behaving however they please. Even if it means throwing their woman and their relationship under the bus.
Did it yesterday ! My ex showed back up after 7 years talking about I’m the one! I admit I entertained him but I started getting anxiety and frustrated like I did when I was with him! I totally went silent and I feel so powerful
get tired talking , and being ignored. Then when you stop talking - throw insults and name calling. which is the reason you stop talking in the first place. mad cause they can not get their way and give bits but expect a pot of gold, services , etc.
Every word is facts. He is correct, this absolutely is a warning she is starting to mentally and emotionally check out. I don't feel good being mean to anyone, I know I can do real lasting damage with my words. So if I don't have anything nice to say I try not to say anything at all.
I.. after a year. I blocked all contact. He did send a message on through FB messenger saying “ I don’t see how I was blocked, you’re definitely not a real friend “ ! Still no acknowledgement of what he did or how he treated me!
I'm literally bawling right now, sending my husband your video, not that he will even watch it in it's entirety and absorb it's message, but it's another attempt to wake him up before I go completely "quiet". So much of your video hit home, thank you
Dear Derrick, Thank you for bringing up this important distinction between getting quiet for a reason and giving a toxic silent treatment. You have described what recently happened to me when expressed my emotional needs,my feelings in a distant relationship, he decided to dismiss them. He told me it is drama and he will not discuss it any further.I expressed myself and went quiet feeling completely emotionally neglected. Till now he is silent. It clear he does not care, therefore I'm working on my healing process.Your content is very helpful 🙌🏻
I am married to that person who has been the most toxic person I didn't know that someone could be that way I never knew what a narcissistic person was I'm going threw n I'm so thankful that u are the motivation for me to see me n what they are n began healing thanks keep being blessed n thanks again
Thanks I did I'm getting better just have to put the work in thanks again it's good to know that I'm not alone n that u took the time to let me know thanks n prayer is the best way I know to make a difference for a start to do whatever it takes stay strong n luv ❤
You are not alone. You give your very best and these jackals give their very worse. Wish I'd known about this disorder a lonnnng time ago. These people are desperately broken and will stop at nothing to put others in the same predicament. Let go and let GOD lead you as you start putting you and your self- worth first.
I have been threw it…. I felt alone and I rather be alone than to be with someone and feel alone and I got tired talking and it seems like it’s pointless
its true .. I would be wanting to reach out more if he would make the effort to show he cares about my emotional well being.. he's not a total jerk but I do notice myself distancing when he's not doing this..
But some men can not show it the some with us. Make sure his personality type. Some men can be crazy in love with you but will never show you. Only actions show.
Sometimes we need a break in our relationships and it's not because we want to be with someone else, but maybe due to needing that personal time for ourselves. There's many reasons! Making assumptions about your partner wanting to only take a break to be with someone else, will probably keep them away permanently! 💙RU-vidr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
that be communicated between the two… there’s a chance it wont be an agreeable decision, but “taking a break” leaves room for a revolving door issues. My thought though.
Derrick am going threw this at this moment and I am at the point of moving out. Breaking the lease and leaving. I cant deal with no one that not taking me seriously and someone playing on my phone. Its alot. Not calling me perfect, but I have took alot from him to the point its time for me to leave. Right now I'm silent in the home. I go upstairs each night and he's sleeps on the couch.
Yes I agree... I'm sick of men giving women the silence treatment or punishment treatment.. these men are a bunch of babies.. walking around like they're the prize.. God gave Adam a helpmate.. and soulmate... not a slave to be abusive. I'm better off alone.. men are to damaging to women. And they don't see what they're doing bc they are to busy complaining about it.
Communication is KEY! But I’m done trying, I’ve done everything to get in the same page and he just ain’t in it no more. I got that message loud and clear…. Now here’s mine…. *gone mute* 🤫 🤐
If you ignore/ghost. And I were a great person to them. I have given you everything that I had to give. My time, space, and heart with no change! Thank you for sharing ❤.
Thank You so much for Pointing this out ….. There’s a huge difference because that switch turns off and that’s NOT a good thing ! Never let’ someone you really want be DONE! smh the volume is different
And the crazy part about it… it’s not what you really want either is to be done BUT your mental state starts backing off (losing interest) then you be like Why ?! Is this relationship necessary
Thank you!! This is my situation, but after yesterday's silent treatment talk I was confused on how to better deal with crazy making conversations. Thank you for understanding
No how. Dont deal with crazy making, silence and close the door. If something keeps you in the situation, give very short, very clear, to the point answers, like, Yes, No, I dont know. Limit communication and distance yourself bit by bit.