Why You Have To Lie To Stay a HEAD 

Learned this the hard way,

Absolutely

@@user-hq3ym6mx4rSame but thanks to Shera I’ve changed my thinking. No more nice girl

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God sees.

I agree with you 100 percent learnt my lesson the tough way. Never again I don’t owe you my honesty. Nobody OWES anybody in life.

@@rolltide4325 those women have low self-esteem, so why do you pride yourself in that?🤭🤭

@@GemZbabe101 No all women do. 🤭 GIGGLES!!!

But how to not be that without coming off rude ?

And your loyalty will be constantly questioned and expected to be proved by your lying cheating dusty.

As sad as it sounds, unfortunately it’s true. I wish it wasn’t like that, but it’s true. Guys say they want “honest, loyal, nice, natural girls”, but to quote the Maury show, “the lie detector determined...that was a lie.” I don’t want to be a “lying, scheming bitch”, but the reality is when I’m sweet, kind and honest, I either get guys trying to take advantage of me (doesn’t work because I can spot this from miles away), or I get dumped by the “nice” guy who tries to soften the blow with, “you’re such a nice, kind-hearted, adorable girl, and you’re too good for me.” When I’m the scheming “bitch”, the guy begs to have me in his life even though I’m no longer interested, and he’ll spend money on me to try to keep me around. Don’t believe me? Look at Hugh Hefner’s last two “number one girlfriends”. Holly Madison was the good, loyal, honest, faithful girlfriend. Hef treated her like rubbish - he constantly insulted her looks, led her on about how he wanted to spend the rest of his life with her, and only put her in Playboy because “Girls Next Door” got popular. Crystal Harris was the “bitch” who broke off the engagement 5 days before the wedding, went on Howard Stern and badmouthed Hef’s prowess and sexiness, and was very open about her quest for fame. Hef put her in Playboy almost immediately, chased after her and ended up marrying her.

@@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living Woah I never knew all the stuff about Hefner's girlfriends, I need to reprogram myself and learn to play the game 👀

It's not that. It's just that women tend to spoil cute guys like me so much to where it just "looks" like they're taking advantage of you but they're not. 😂

@@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living Damn

You’re ABSOLUTELY RIGHT ❗️

They just scared that you gonna beat them to their own game projection and more projection

@Beauty B Red flag. Guys don't state obvious things.

Super yrue

True! They are revealing their shadow self right then & there

@@luxuryqueen42 exactly they tell their lies we should tell ours

Especially when you plug in women's intuition

Story of my life

I felt every word of that!

amazing

Lying about kids ? Nah fam lol I wouldn’t have told nobody that . You supposed to lie about age and everything else but some damn kids ? You gotta be a low life lol I can see if u lied about one (not really) but you lied about three whole damn kids 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣... do you plan to stay in this relationship? This man is gonna leave you lol.

@@laurenlocd3180 Facts 😭💕

@@laurenlocd3180 well we will cross that bridge when I get there but as long as I can stack all my money ALL QUARANTINE WHO GIVES TWO SHITS AND WHAT HE WANT DO ANOTHER WILL GIRL HAVE U NOT BEING WATCHING HER VIDEOS ? 😂💀💀🤦🏾‍♀️ and on top of that who puts all of there eggs in one basket if imma low life I’m a paid driving in this 2020 Range Rover thanks 💋💕🥰

@@laurenlocd3180 @Lysha SO YALL JUST ALLOW ANY AND EVERYBODY AROUND YOUR KIDS LMAO YEA GREAT PARENTING 🤦🏾‍♀️😂😂😂😂😂

Funny. I used to be honest and loyal and prided myself on those qualities. Now I lie so much that I don’t even know my real self anymore.

@@thecatnextdoor12 I need the tea girl. How??

@@user-ve4zw6jp9i what do you mean, how? Just do it lol it gets easier

@@plantbasedunicorn7995 🤣

maybe not in this life....and it ain't over until the fat lady sings....you never know what you are protected from either (by doing the right thing)

My dominican mom says that 😆😊

@@lolitah8560 thats in the Bible, the context though is about character, do for others without letting them know, if they know you helped them it doesn't count (they say that in AA too)! Probably also about not keeping a "list".

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@@mmommo-hx4dx ok so that's what it comes from makes sense tho

Preach!!

Well said 👍🏻💕

Truth

And spit you out !

Facts!

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FACTS

No lies detected, not one 👏👏👏

What are “dry haters?”

lol

we are getting some next level Shera wisdom 😇

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LMAOOOO GOLDEN COMMENT

Sheralations ! 😄😄😄🥰

People who always say they want loyal and honest people are not always loyal and honest themselves.I have learned this about human beings.I stay away from people like that they want to use you if they say that.

Grrl same..had a man tell me the same thing about honestly yet he was. Still legally married and living with his wife..claiming that he didn't want to put her out that's y😞😞

Wouldn't that just set them up for criminal behaviour as young adults?

@@user-ve4zw6jp9i life is about balance. Just as how you wouldn't have your kid get beat up on or become the bully you teach them how to strategies when these necessary opportunities arises. Authenticity, transparency, loyalty and kindness shouldn't be given to every tom dick and Harry you come across. Let someone prove their worth first right?

@@user-ve4zw6jp9i Thats a great question. Im really just suggesting that we prepare them for the realities so they don’t assume that everyone has their best interest at heart. Like the man in the van with the candy ....

@@princessp8888 absolutely right

I tell my kids it's good to lie to keep yourself safe. They don't need to lie to me though cause their already safe with.

so sweet. thank you so much, I recieve it.✨💖

Thank you! 💋 Same to you beautiful.

Thank you 💕 love

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✨🧡💛💚💙💜✨ Thank you so much for this message 🙌🏼

Amen!!!! Lawyers, mechanics, home-repair contractors, dentists, all thrive on the business of producing lies.

@@luxuryqueen42 😉

@@luxuryqueen42 Yeah.... and look at home many doctors lose their licenses or are prosecuted for not following that oath.

Hah yes I know as I am dating one

I dated a lawyer, I’d not again, he appeared so trustworthy and lied all the way, but so convincing that I stupidly trusted him. He even tried to teach me and told me that it’s best to base lies on truth so that it looks legit and I still thought he would lie to everyone else but not me lol.

Dad is 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯 People will flip on you soooooooo quick!!!!!!!!

Your father is a wise man!!!!

🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍 so sweet She serves a very, very important purpose for many of us... and it’s not even remotely about a man

I learned this lesson the hard way. I vaguely talk about what I'm doing, to very few people. No details ever.

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Felt this on a spiritual level 😂😩🙃🙃

I'd say omission is important

Beautifully said 🤍🤍🤍🤍😂😂😂

I'm a 🐍....snake but I'm NON poisonoous so u good girl....u can touch me and play with me.......

@@luxuryqueen42 Right!

I hope he is much older ,,,,, if not ...... you better have a plan b ...... NEVER BUILD WITH A MAN..... if you do...he will have to shine as a self made man elsewhere......if you are not with a man and your S.O. is a woman or another man .... then that may be better... but no women should build with a man , he needs to build for her .

@@SheRaSeven1 No, he is younger than me. 😊 And we are happily building together. Thank you for your concern.

@@SheRaSeven1 Besides, his family came from wealth in Vietnam before it was taken by the communist. They had servants and wealth. Money comes and it can go. But trust and a good bond lasts.

@@milkandspice1074 i will be here when you need me...... good luck

@@milkandspice1074 cultures are different .... so i understand,

No podcast needed video is sufficient

Well thanks for telling us your age. I don't get women telling their ages on a platform like this. Its rampant no self awareness. You can omit stuff and you can sense a lot from just being around someone... intuition.

They might take a lot of ur time and space if u do , perhaps a playlist is better for your memory

@Clinton Thurman that's good, let him get that elsewhere. She should be dating more than just that one creep anyway 🤷🏼‍♀️ not every situation we have to give into. He most likely is NOT the target.

Anytime they start that (talking about sexual things) I ask for money right away. If they are not ashamed why would I be. But, that usually means that they are not going to pay you, they want to have fun at your expense. If they were going to pay you, they’d wait.

@@thecatnextdoor12 he wasnt saying it to or about me, he was just talking about things with his exes and stuff but hes gross so I'm not seeing him again

@Clinton Thurman we want your father not u .... lol...

Don’t force yourself! There are plenty of fish in the sea. Find a new one that you like or atleast can tolerate.