I met up with my ex last week after 1 month broken up. He said he still loves me, he was quite emotional and teary but also told me I can and should heal, to stop thinking about the future. Told me I should enjoy being single and not dating. He also wants to not see me in group chats or think about me posting on social media. When we met up though it was amazing. The conversation was just like old times and the connection was there.
headed out to meet with my ex to have the talk tomorrow (the same team one). This video is helping me prepare for it...expectations are low for a holiday miracle (good advice) but I'm keeping positive. I already told her there's no pressure here.
@@marcelinolopez4015 it was convenient to invite her to chill for new years and she came over. I let her know there was no pressure and I'm here if you want to meet up. we had seen each other twice and had good interactions so that night sitting outside before dinner I told her I've enjoyed seeing you and the time we spent those two times previously, did you enjoy that too? She said yes and I kept it light but also complimented her in that moment and told her how beautiful she looked, and she stayed the night and we kissed at midnight. Since then there have been hot and cold times but we're working things out and we are back to telling each other we love each other.... Sometimes I say it first and sometimes she does. I had the bigger same team conversation earlier in February and built on the enjoying time idea and asked her if she thinks about us being back together sometimes, and she said yes. From then we're still taking things slow but are on the same team and I'm listening for her comfort levels and also going at the speed I want to. Things are going really well!
Weird that you did this video now as I am in this exact position. I’ve been in contact with my ex after over two years of no contact and we have some positive interactions (I’m doing all the contacting presently) we had a nice chat recently and she talked about her dad and when her Christmas party is. I messaged her the day after about the football results as this was something we was talking about but she hasn’t looked at the messages.
Happened to me after a month of messaging followed by a month of connection in the best kind of way (nudge nudge wink wink) - then off a cliff - she asked for space and it's been 3 weeks since we've had ay communication. : (
Hey man, gotta question here. Recently met my ex of 5 years together after 2 months broken up. She has moved super fast with a rebound in a month. But she had a great time with me and had tears saying she wish I could have self improved the way I have when we were together. But now it felt she was in too deep with this new guy. Not sure if it’s a rebound. He was going crazy on her phone about us meeting. And she was so apologetic to him so it threw me off. It’s probably the real deal?
Hi @c.anders2746 , to be honest, we really cannot read what your ex feels or think. But it looks like she is trying to make her new relationship work. whether it is a rebound or not, it will depend if she had fully moved on and had proper healing from her relationship with you.
Things are always good in person between us, but he depends heavily on texting and gets offended easily over text and stays silent for days or longer. It feels like he instigates fights over text on purpose or subconsciously. I don’t even know. I’m just so confused. He says it’s not that he’s confused, he’s just “unsure”. He also blames his weakness and behaviors on childhood and “just who he is”, and feels like I don’t think he’s a good person or good enough, I just need to know he’s not willing to be stagnant and continue making excuses for doing things that someone his age should be grown out of. If there are concerns I voice that, not to put him down but because I genuinely concerned about his life and mine if we were to be together indefinitely. I haven’t dated anyone this difficult since I was a teen many MANY years ago. I’m not even sure I want this.
@user-mg5du1be2z , I understand that this can be a bit frustrating. Dating is an opportunity for us to get to know the person and get an idea of how we get along with them. If you are to assess, does he fits your 5x5 list? Maybe you can use that exercise to evaluate the dynamics and the person that you are dating if it meets the things that you want in a healthy relationship. Sending more positive energies on your end.
My ex did this positive pull back the day after a date. Was told from a friend, that Now she is in a new relationship, I’ve been in NC ever since.. 6 weeks and counting
I'm sorry to hear that you have to go through this experience, @epo615 . I understand that the process may not be easy, but I hope you'll take the time to heal and even process the emotions that you are going through. Sending more positive energies on your end.
