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In this week's video I react to a 85 year old widow with no kids. Will she tell me I'll regret my child free choice?
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In this week's video I react to a video of an 85 year old child free widow with no kids. One of the most common critiques that child free couples get is that they will regret their choice and be lonely when they are older. While I think people mean well when they give this advice, I think it's time to start taking advice from an actual child free person and get their perspective on what child free life looks like as you age. So, will I regret my child free choice after watching this video? I guess you'll have to watch it to find out!
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@HeleenBuckle 3 года назад

Retirement homes are filled with parents who gave their lives for their children, just to be abandoned and treated like an obligation by those same children as adults. So my answer to "who will look after you in your old age?" is "most probably the same people who are going to look after you".

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Yes! I’ve visited with many seniors who’s children live far away.

@subhomukherjee9313 3 года назад

Awesome.

@roocknrollqueen 3 года назад

I live nearby a huge retirement complex and can 100% confirm. It's like once month for a few hours the parking lots get filled with a few cars from the visitors and that's it! Otherwise the people are alone (as in, not with their kids but with neighbors and staff) ALL the time

@diatribe5 3 года назад

I think it’s also a cultural thing. I too, live in a huge retirement community, and back when our clubhouses were open, there was this Mexican American comedian, and he talked about his background, then asked, “Anyone else here Mexican? Stand up, please. “ One old man I knew did. The comedian then said, “See, we keep our elders with us.” He did a funny show. I really wish our clubhouses would open back up.

@jemmajames6719 3 года назад

If your a parent who loves your kids you shouldn’t want to be a burden to them, you don’t have kids for them to look after you!

@0ChildStar 3 года назад

Pre-Coronavirus, I meet a woman in my Grandmother's retirement home who is 100 years old. She knows I am child-free. She told me she out lived her two sons. There is no guarantee your children will be with you in your senior years. 🤔

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Great point.

@SamriBliss 2 года назад

It’s reassuring to know older women don’t regret their child free decision.

@101runaways Год назад

I stumbled upon this blog on a different online source several years ago when I was starting to consider getting a tubal ligation. I was afraid that maybe I would have regrets when I got old but this lady reassured me about my choice to stay childfree and eliminate the chances of getting pregnant.

@idhungw 3 года назад

Just found your channel. I am a 41 year old wife who decided as a child not to have children. I am happy. I am glad my family do not care whether I have children or not.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Welcome aboard!

@lifestylelakeishasewellwas4643 3 года назад

I had a baby when I was 35. A sweet baby boy who passed away after 2 days. I waited till I was 40 to decide to have another baby. 40 came and I immediately had my tubes tied. I have about 10 reasons why I didn't have another baby and the pandemic validated my concerns. I am very happy with my life the way it is now!

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

I'm so sorry you had to go through that difficult time. 😦 That would be a very difficult loss to deal with. Glad to hear you are in a happy place now:)

@jessicasosa7313 3 года назад

I’m so sorry for your loss.

@TexasStardust11 3 года назад

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I had gotten pregnant by a guy who was abusive to me and I end up having an ectopic pregnancy and even though my health was at risk, God spared me and I was so happy I didn't have that baby cause I would have had to deal with that abusive sicken man the rest of my life & look at a child and deal with a child that reminded me of him. And I would have made the 4th baby mama he had and my child probably would have suffered absent father and I didnt get along with the other mothers, so I had to look at that as a blessing. Now, I am married and been with the same man for almost 10 years. My husband didnt want children, but his mind changed after we got married cause I wanted one. He has NEVER pressured me though to have children and that is SUCH A RELIEF. We both said, if it's Gods will for us to have children, then we will, if not then God know our best interest better than we do and know what we can handle. We not going to do the IVF and all that. If we decide we want a child, we will adopt.

@trevagraham1605 3 года назад

My life is far from perfect, but it's so much better than everyone I know that have children. I've never met one parent that I envied.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

It's good to be in a place where you enjoy life. 🙌

@Aquariuswonder86 Год назад

I totally relate. I feel like I still have a chance at life being child free.

@np100 3 года назад

This woman speaks the truth. I never wanted children and was insulted, degraded. etc. My boss, a woman who had three children, actually called me selfish. Fast forward. My husband decided he HAD to have a child (actually his parents made him think he was worthless without them). So, I told him stupidly that I would have one baby if we could move back to Hawaii. Well, of course, I never got back to Hawaii and worst yet, my child has severe autism and my husband has left. My old boss? Never came to help out once. Stick to your guns if you do not want children.

@autumxxleaves4186 2 года назад

💖💖

@georgina4874 2 года назад

Wowwwww. I was not expecting that.😳

@AntoinetteMarie530 Год назад

Hugs to you Nicki. You got this💓

@pastelmoon9118 7 месяцев назад

once again proof : men doesnt really want the kid either, they do it for a status and " they made it " in life everything else what comes to kids: they wouldnt care a less

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

I think older generations can have a lot of wisdom to give us:)

@abeach5420 3 года назад

SUPERB!! Congrats on success.

@figglezworth1112 2 года назад

I lived with my parents until i got married at 25. My parents lost themselves. Blowing up my phone and what not. It gave me one more reason why i dont want to be a parent. To me i saw it as emotional jail. I dont want to go through that. Its like all they had to occupy themselves was me. It was too much for me.

@roxydee1452 2 года назад

"Kids can't take the place of a spouse." How right on you are. My father passed away in early 2020, after a very short but intense battle with bone cancer. He and my mother were married 42 years and my mother is still very much grieving his absence. Much as she loves me and my sister, and vice-versa, we are definitely no substitute. Neither are all the other family members she has around her. Not to minimise their love and support, but that's the reality. If this had happened when us kids were young, I don't discount the possibility our mother would have been too distraught to take care of us. It happens.

@kerrilypotts1723 2 года назад

I have spoken to many friends with children 99% say they love their kids but wouldn't do it again

@nancyshookedoncrochet526 2 года назад

My cousin's daughter purposely didn't have kids. They have a pack of dogs and she's involved in animal rescue. They gave them human names. To each his own. They treat the dogs like kids.

@idotgotitme3280 3 года назад

I'm definitely in group B. I know my life would've been so much better without kids, and would've been able to accomplish what I wanted to in life, instead of being pushed to have kids which didn't feel like a choice as it should've been. Now I'm depressed and miserable, and still haven't been able to do anything I wanted to in life, and I'm passed my mid fifty's at this point.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

What kind of things were you interested in doing?

@idotgotitme3280 3 года назад

Well at the beginning of my 20's, I thought I would be getting a career and be able to travel to places I've always wanted to see for example, but instead, my husband that was totally on board about not having kids right away, say, not for up to ten years later, suddenly changed his mind about waiting that long, and the next thing, I was pregnant only a few months after we were married, putting us in the poor house and ending any hope of a career or being able to afford to travel, not that we can anyway now with the pandemic. Also, I had a God given talent for dance that went to waste after having kids. I'm now stuck being a caregiver to my accident that didn't turn out normal, so it took up all my time.

@VampiraVonGhoulscout 3 года назад

7:15 Grrrr I hated this growing up! Parents acting like you owe them because you exist and they didn't let you starve or go without shelter like they deserve a Nobel peace prize for the bare minimum.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Thankfully my parents were never like this! I think when you make the decision to become a parent it just comes with responsibilities.

@50hellkat2 Год назад

Parents choose to have children for many reasons that their children may not choose. Some so they will have someone to look after them in their old age if necessary. Others spend their adult years living away from their adult children and grandchildren but move 5 blocks away as soon as they get old.

@kristyyy_3 3 года назад

No regrets - I like this sweet, older woman❤️

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Me too. 😀

@JB-kx9bx 3 года назад

If you're active in your community you will find meaning in life. Kids or no kids.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Yes.

@exhibitjean 3 года назад

I agree, I think parents become friends with other parents just because of their kids and not because of a real connection. I dont think their friendships run very deep.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Hopefully everyone can find a true friend they can connect with and confide in. That’s important on so many levels.

@idkm07 3 года назад

Yep you know you have a true friend when you both don’t like each other’s kids and your kids don’t get on with theirs but you still remain close and make the effort to keep the relationship up knowing your kids won’t be in the picture as much later but your friend will!

@WeLoveMeals 3 года назад

I’m 40 and never wanted/want kids. My boyfriend is pressuring me a bit to change my mind. I won’t.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

It’s a big decision!

@dudettethechicklet2828 3 года назад

I don't think you should date him, set him free to date someone that can make him kids

@maz1980s 3 года назад

I think if this lady wasn't a child-free person, she probably wouldn't have had time to learn how to use modern technology. So, there you go. One more positive thing about being child-free. You keep up with technology and you're always up-to-date.

@georgina4874 2 года назад

Maybe, lol. Someone could have typed it up for her.

@ola171 3 года назад

Another plus point is when you're childfree, you get to spend more time with your parents thereby reassuring that they won't feel the empty nest feeling My goal is starting to move towards building a nice place for my parents, sister and I (along with any friends who wish to join) to live together peacefully ❤❤❤

@oceania4681 2 года назад

Beautiful.

@maggieallen5985 3 года назад

I’ve met people online who feel personally attacked by other people’s choice to not have children. I really don’t get it, other than to speculate that they never actually wanted kids; they did it because it was expected of them, and they resent that other people actually feel comfortable weighing their options and choosing what works best for them personally. Even as someone choosing to have a child, I do not feel weird or threatened by people who don’t want kids. And I want to maintain some of the autonomy and personality I had before having kids, because I think a person is interesting for, and defined by, more than just one aspect of life.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

I'm never quite sure why my choice to not have a child makes some people uncomfortable or upset. Part of it might be the reasons you mentioned. I think that's why it's so important to talk about children being a choice.

@sleepypink2228 3 года назад

I’m 21, what sucks is people don’t take my choice seriously. One day I had a disagreement with a Facebook friend and I just sat their bawled my eyes out about it in my car when I was on break.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Aw, I'm sorry. I totally understand b/c a lot of people have done the same thing to me. One thing I've learned is that I just let people know why and that's it. I don't have to justify my decision or try to get them to agree or understand my choice because a lot of people just don't get it. That's OK. I'm making this choice because that's what makes me fulfilled and happy. 😀💜

@georgina4874 2 года назад

Sleepy pink, that's terrible. Do what's right for you. 😘

@AuthorLHollingsworth 3 года назад

Firstly, she looks great for 85. Such a beautiful lady! Wisdom is a blessing, and Im all ears. Love the cat mug.

@Magdalene777 3 года назад

I think because of this lady's age she would have faced less judgement because there was no reproductive technology, so if she said she couldn't have children nobody would grill her for not hiring a surrogate or opting for an egg/sperm donor. Also having children isn't a guarantee you won't grow old alone. I used to work as a home care worker for seniors and some of them had several children and none of the children visited often. It wasn't necessarily because they didn't have a good relationship with their kids, but because their children still have to work and have a lot of demands on their time. Also a lot of people have to move for marriage, careers etc. so their children aren't necessarily able to stay in the community they grew up in.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Great points!

@jenniferrudiman7090 2 года назад

I absolutely love this woman. She is so grateful for her full life and still continues to live and love despite losing the love of her life. She is so open minded for someone her age which is refreshing. It is so bold, brave and inspiring that she has finally come out as being childfree in such a public way. Although she had her husband it must have been hard to keep that secret for so many years and even a little lonely. Also, I wonder how many times she was forced to have/fake a conversation with someone who also tried to get pregnant, for real, and could not. That would be awkward but I guess someone could just say, “I prefer to not talk about it because it’s too painful.” 💁🏻‍♀️She is such a strong woman!

@michelled5655 3 года назад

This was very insightful. I have been the one to ask a friend the „children - yes or no“ question a few years ago because I felt sure she was hinting at something - very insensitive on my part and I have never done it again. Now I find myself dodging the questions. It’s good to hear from a more senior lady that there is a way to have a long, really happy life without children of your own.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

I agree. It's refreshing to hear from someone who has experienced a lot more life than I have that the things I am thinking in my head are legit!

@50hellkat2 Год назад

It is amazing when people act like you have a problem when you respond to questions in a manner they do not like.

@phyllissnook Год назад

Um, NO, I am 73, never had children & am quite proficient with all kinds of technology, especially MacBook Pro! I am also widowed and stand straight up, completely on my own. Was there bumps in my road, YES, and I say that loudly. But I am quite proud of my situation and feel that I will get better as I grow older. My siblings live out of state and seldom if ever visit; is that upsetting to me, NO. As long as you keep your mind alive, there is nothing to fear as you grow older....and with that I say, goodbye and good luck to you!

@ewoman3584 Год назад

Its probably more common for those to regret having them over not having them.

@laurenmartin3778 3 года назад

That sweater looks so cozy! Yassss thank you for sharing this-love it!

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Literally one of my best sweater purchases ever!

@50hellkat2 2 года назад

How about parents who had no time for their kids and were always busy with their friends and then when they got older they became reliant on their adult children.

@GillianMulholland 3 года назад

Your cat sounded like a child!! haha!

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

He's kind of a diva! LOL

@g.w.775 3 года назад

I just came from your video to this one xD

@theMermaidRhonda 3 года назад

I'm very fortunate that both my parents are still living. My mom just had a quadruple bypass in September, and fortunately is doing very well. She is 81, my dad is 82. I've always been pretty close with them, but our relationship has gotten stronger as we've all gotten older. I'm so very grateful to be able to call my mom whenever I have a question like where to find heavy cream in the grocery (yes, I did that..LOL) or just to chat. They know I'm here if they need me for anything...like when my dad wanted to go golfing a few weeks after my mom's surgery, so I went over there to hang out with her just in case she needed help with anything...she was dusting! But it was fun to sit and chat and watch tv with her. The way I look at it is that they've done their job..I'm an adult and they don't owe me anything. Now it's my turn to be there for them, and I'm thrilled to be able to do it. :)

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Love this! You are right, as I get older I've appreciated my parents and what they have done for me a lot more.

@diatribe5 3 года назад

I don’t like kids, especially when I was a kid. They can be cruel if they decide that you don’t fit in. Now, I’m too old to worry about pregnancy and I really don’t want to adopt either. My husband has grown kids from his first marriage and a grandchild. But the hard part for me is trying to find others that are child free. The only friend prospects I’ve known have kids and love kids, and that’s a big thing not to have in common.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

It's true, kids can be pretty mean, but unfortunately so can adults. It can be very challenging to find other CF people to hang out with.

@suzannearendse2158 3 года назад

U were also once a kid. I cant see how u can say they mean.. Its how u raise them

@katec9893 3 года назад

Yes I'm struggling with this too. I live in an area that is absolutely filled with couples and families and children. I'd love to find a partner and make friends with more childfree people. I never quite know what to say when people talk about their children and I find it a bit boring after a while, plus it's hard to relate to them.

@katec9893 3 года назад

@@suzannearendse2158 Lots of children are mean, I used to teach them. That's why they need to be specifically taught how to share, how to treat others kindly etc. There are also a lot of naturally kind, good natured children but they are not the majority in my experience. A lot of parents don't raise children well and they encourage arrogant, spoilt behaviour which is also part of the problem.

@minajan4316 3 года назад

I admire this lady I would love to meet her she is wise and smart ❤

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

I agree.

@lizb4156 3 года назад

I know loads of people that have nothing to do with their parents, including me. I'm glad to finally be rid of their negative presence. They are nothing but liars and traitors.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Sounds like a rough childhood. I'm sorry.

@diatribe5 3 года назад

Mine were sadistic evil tyrants. It’s not my fault that my asshat mother was in labor for many hours when I was born. I didn’t ask to be born, especially to them. You reap what you sow!

@jemmajames6719 3 года назад

My parents were abusive, but I’ve seen lots of brilliant loving parents, it must be wonderful to have good parents.

@trevagraham1605 3 года назад

@@jemmajames6719 The only good parents are the ones that adopt and actually care for the children. No good person would create a life into this meat grinder.

@sheldonisnumberone Год назад

I'm not a couple but I'm child free and I'm 44 with vasectomy. Endless women have wanted to have children with me. But I feel life is hard enough without adding extra difficulty. Also when you have a child you always bring harm. Your child will suffer and know more pain than pleasure in their life. And also does Earth need more humans? Everyday 20,000 people die from hunger, that is every day. Good thing we can pop kids out faster than they can starve to death.

@50hellkat2 2 года назад

Hockey moms who do not want their son or daughter to stop playing because of the social life they would not have as a result.

@subhomukherjee9313 3 года назад

Great.. here many of our friends have wished to have met that lady, our hero.. And for me it would be great if I could have met you and your husband, such a great couple. Great to have the same vibes getting shared.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

That lady sounds like a gem:)

@subhomukherjee9313 3 года назад

@@WifeWithoutKids Very true Ma'am. The mutual understanding and respect for everyone's own decisions upon their way of life is lacking. And the most pathetic part is when one of the spouse changes his/her mind. I would request you to reflect upon this issue please.

@thebrightestrainbowever3841 2 года назад

This is amazing and so cool! Thanks for sharing this story and perspective! I had a relative who was childfree and lived to be 99 yrs old SO close to 100! This inspite of all the health challenges. So far she’s the relative who’s lived the longest! And was childfree but was a dog mom. So yeah we can live long lives being childfree! 🌈💜🦋

@coffeestraight2953 3 года назад

Not all adult offspring care for their elderly parents. Adult children are no guarantee of caregiving for old parents.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

True story.

@Giesselle16 3 года назад

I just ordered my mug! I love your channel. Please keep making videos about being child free!

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

That’s awesome! Which one did you get?? I plan to keep making videos until I run out of ideas. 😄

@Giesselle16 3 года назад

@@WifeWithoutKids I got the one that says "everything tastes better with cat hair"

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

@@Giesselle16 I have that one too!

@truseeker1 3 года назад

Just discovered your videos because I was practically pulling my hairs at trying to come to terms with this (well, my partner and I have felt this way but my family has been a big pressure). And we have a cat and I LOVE the mugs and your personality. This video was incredible too!!! You're an angel💖🤗 thank you!!

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

So happy you found the channel! You’ll find lots of supportive people in this community. 😃

@oceania4681 2 года назад

People need to understand that they have a choice! No kids!!

@WifeWithoutKids 2 года назад

Definitely a choice. 😃

@khensk 3 года назад

I can relate to the child thing! That's exactly how it is roght now, my parents are like that, divorced and require soooo much attention from me and pay back but really, I just want to live my own life because hey got to live theirs. I'm 19

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

It's definitely your choice. 🌷

@margaretflood-elahwal5861 3 года назад

I have always been pleased that I had 4 kids even though I can relate to parents who feel they could have done better job of it. However, a lot of what your correspondent has written strikes home with me too and made me understand others’ viewpoints especially about not having cultivated friendships and hobbies for those years later on. Really food for thought.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

I found what she said really insightful as well. I guess it’s never to early to think about our future. 😀

@jessicasandoval4392 3 года назад

Excellent video! Real thoughts! Thank you!

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Thank you:)

@JB-kx9bx 3 года назад

I wonder how the internet age has conditioned people to want to know everything about everything and everyone.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Ha, people are curious.

@cameroncorinthian9814 3 года назад

I love all your videos Hannah I hope your having an amazing day

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Thank you:) Hope your day is a good one as well.

@luthien8036 3 года назад

Great video as always Hannah! 🤗 ❤️

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Thank you for watching!

@thestylesynonym5757 3 года назад

Appreciate the fact that you posted this video but the cutting in an out was distracting. You had a lot of good points but I think having them at the end of reading the letter would have had better flow. But, thanks to your video, I just went ahead and found the letter so I could read it myself and I'll probably pop back on here at some point to watch the rest of your video and comments about the letter.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Thank you for your feedback, it's very appreciated. 😀

@50hellkat2 2 года назад

When people get too intrusive re not having children I will turn it around and ask them why they had them and get them to expand. It is interesting to see how uncomfortable they are when the same is asked of them.

@katyalambo Год назад

I do this too!! I was told it was a rude thing to ask though, as if asking me intrusive questions as to why I don’t want children isn’t 🙃

@InvinsibleZero7 6 месяцев назад

You can learn a lot from people ,no matter their gender ,age,race , position in life . This old widow lady has made so many good points

@Pacifica74 Год назад

But it hits different when you have no kids but also have no spouse and none of type of friends that actually want to hang out with you. For years, it's just been me, my job and my computer.

@TEWMUCH Год назад

Its August, and i am literally snuggled in my bed with the AC, a pretty powerful room heater, and the fan ON all at the same time! Why can't u cut on the heat in October ??😂 Also, very happy to hear this from an old person. I always think whats it like for a real old person, not these middle age ppl that post but havent made it to the age where a person could regret it yet.

@mansiumraniya7507 3 года назад

Beautiful and inspirational 😇

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

I wish I could meet this elderly lady!

@mansiumraniya7507 3 года назад

@@WifeWithoutKids I wish the same 😊

@user-db8nc6qd5b Год назад

Thank you for this video. It's very supportive.

@ziatype 2 года назад

All of your videos are amazing, but this one really gave me the perspective I needed. Wow. I am in a situation now where my partner definitely wants kids and I have little interest in being a parent for numerous reasons. For months I have tried to change my mind, partially out of desire to be with my partner long term, and partially out of fear of “aging alone”. Your videos have given me so much validation in listening to my intuition/feelings and reframing my vision of what a childfree life looks like. Thank you for putting this perspective into the world - it has helped me so much. 🥲 Please keep making videos. 😊

@padmeraven7290 2 года назад

I am 43, single and I have one daughter and she is grown and out of the house and I LOVE the empty nest, however as much as love her it was a very emotional roller coaster and I do sometimes feel I would have been happier not having her. We fight all the time, and the anxiety of making that you are making the wrong decision or you have made the wrong decision is very real. As an empty nester I started taking ballroom dancing lessons, and I am starting up guitar lessons too. I love being able to invest more time into me. Do I get lonely? Sometimes but I think HRT will help with that. So for childfree by choice group I say you are making the right decision.

@50hellkat2 2 года назад

So I know lots of people her age that are very computer literate. Most used them extensively in their work before they retired.

@boostedboosted3088 3 года назад

I want to see what she looks like

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Me too, but there wasn't a picture of her. ☹

@LibertyMadison 3 года назад

How do you suggest finding a CF partner? I want to be married but I do not want kids. People keep telling me I’ll never find a man that doesn’t want “legacy”.

@melford4809 3 года назад

Its frustrating, i was engaged to a man after 2 years that said he didnt want kids either but he changed his mind.

@LibertyMadison 3 года назад

@@melford4809 I guess you never really know because to be fair people are entitled to a change of heart.... I guess🙄

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

I keep getting asked that question and wish I could give you a great answer...My husband wasn't interested in a legacy and I know he's not the only one out there. I've heard that Reddit has a CF dating subreddit, but can't vouch for it as I've never used it. I'm sorry this answer isn't very helpful:(

@LibertyMadison 3 года назад

@@WifeWithoutKids thank you, I think it’s very helpful! I never thought to look there

@youngproperties2442 3 года назад

Yes you will!! Set your frequency to a warm, kind, loving man, whole DOESN'T WANT CHILDREN.

@Kevin-ui1dk 3 года назад

There are massive pros and cons to having or not having kids. It is a biological urge for most people to have children and carry on their line. Not doing that can lead to a sense of loss that can not be filled by anything else. That is most people ,but a reasonably large percentage can be content to not have children and do not have a strong instinctive urge to have kids or have a maternal or paternal nature. As a man I would say that I think most men don`t care whatsoever if women choose to have or not have kids. It is more usually women that judge childless people.

@sumuduweerakoon3356 3 года назад

Absolutely..its mostly women who will put one down for being childfree..I still cant figure out why though🤔

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Good thoughts. Although I will say that some of the most judgmental comments I've gotten have been from middle aged men believe it or not!

@natural3362 3 года назад

Well there goes andrew dexter on every childfree platform

@diatribe5 3 года назад

You’d be surprised, mate. Before I turned 26, men and women alike pressured me. They asked if I had kids, then noisily asked why not, these were my coworkers and customers, so I couldn’t expect to keep making money if I told them to piss off and stop being so nosy and judgmental. I’d say, I’m only 18, and they’d say, so? Same with I wasn’t married then, I couldn’t afford it, couldn’t handle the responsibilities etc. Once I turned 26, everyone magically didn’t care anymore, and figured that if I didn’t have kids then, I probably wouldn’t. The worst excuse some married man gave me was, “ it’ll change you “. Well that was a poor sell, because those years were the prime of my life, and I didn’t want to change anything about myself!

@samwu8094 2 года назад

Great video! There is nothing wrong if you want to be child free if that is your choice.

@WifeWithoutKids 2 года назад

Absolutely. Glad you enjoyed it.

@ramjet5192 Год назад

Let's imagine this: You partner and you have 2 or 3 kids in your early 20s. By your early 40s, you're still relatively young and still working. Your kids are gone, but not really. They still ask for money for college, a car, maybe even a home. I can't imagine such a life.

@millersam07 Год назад

I really do love children, and would be very excited to be a parent to another amazing human being (with the right partner), but honestly with how screwed up the world is, the likelihood of my child having severe medical issues, and knowing they would be brought into a world that rejects them bc it wasn't designed for them, and a quality of life that continues to demish as climate change, inflation, ect run rampant, all of those reasons and more make me convinced that it is far too cruel to bring a child into this world at this time, and that the most loving thing I can do for my child is to give them the gift of never being born.

@AG-jf8hn 3 года назад

I think for the video it would've probably be better to let the narration go first and then leave the commentary at the end. The constant interruption to comment ruined the flow of the lady's narration.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Thanks for your feedback.

@LammyHowl Год назад

My heart goes out to the folks with kids here who feel like they have to be friends with other couples just because their kids are friends and I want to encourage them not to force themselves to do that, don't let yourselves be pressured to have relationships with people you don't enjoy because of your kids. We already have to deal with that in our extended families, don't do that with your friendships too. My parents didn't do that. They developed friendships with people they enjoyed spending time with regardless of whether or not my sister and I were close with their children and it was great. We weren't forced to spend time with kids we didn't get along with and Mom and Dad didn't have to fake it for the sake of our friendships. They were cordial to our friend's parents for sure but didn't allow themselves to be pressured into friendships they didn't actually want. My sister and I also made the effort to be kind and cordial to their friends's kids even if we weren't friends with them, and as we got older this became less of an issue. This also set a great example for my sister and I about how to seek out healthy friendships that are fulfilling and meaningful and spared us a lot of suffering by teaching us to only invest in relationships that were worthwhile, regardless of what anybody else thought. I learned so much from this that only adds to the joy of my childfree life.

@tylergnosis2581 3 года назад

Great video

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Thanks!

@Caldren_ 3 года назад

6:08 Nothing truer has been said ONE THOUSAND PERCENT!!!

@heathersemkiw4353 2 года назад

If that is the real 85 year old woman, she looks AMAZING! I would think she is 20 years younger.

@nikkimadison6892 3 года назад

Nice find..85 yr old childfree

@JustASock-el6ct 3 года назад

Yeey! Eventually, some channel for me... :D

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Absolutely!

@kasiabunikowska1560 3 года назад

Are you Polish?

@JustASock-el6ct 3 года назад

@@kasiabunikowska1560 Tak :D

@nikkiross128b 3 года назад

Nice story. This is why I decided to have just 1 kid: best of both worlds. Also better for the climate. People should have less children.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

I'm not sure if family sizes are getting larger or smaller in North America overall. That would be interesting to look into. With everything that's gone on in 2020 I thought people would be less likely to have children, but that doesn't seem to be the case!

@nikkiross128b 3 года назад

@@WifeWithoutKids in the US and UK there are many more one-child families (and child-free families) than in the past. In The Netherlands where I live not so much. But numbers are rising in Europe as well and that’s a good thing considering the huge climate change challenge that is awaiting us. In my opinion overpopulation is the biggest problem. People should not have children light-heartedly. Also not stop having children altogether obviously, but the choice to remain child-free is certainly not selfish in this respect. Instead, you may rather question whether it is wise to start a large family... I wonder what the effect of COVID will be. I have no idea.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

@@nikkiross128b Thanks for sharing this. I think we'll see a few baby bumps due to COVID...but in the long term maybe people will think about this decision a bit more before just deciding to have kids because that's what "you're supposed to do."

@housesing 2 года назад

Omg. I have the exact same mug! I too am child free and 62, married with no regrets

@WifeWithoutKids Год назад

Love this!

@ramjet5192 Год назад

No, I certainly don't HATE kids. I would help them if asked. But, frankly, I find them annoying. They're demanding and inconsiderate. Who wants that?

@katec9893 3 года назад

This was a very interesting topic but I wish you'd just let us hear the 85 year old lady's post first before analysing it, I didn't like how you kept interrupting the lady's post every two seconds, it felt disjointed and a bit frustrating.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Thanks for your feedback.

@a.a.8615 3 года назад

9:24. "inspite"?!?!?!?! ...

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Gotta throw in a little fodder for the naysayers! LOL

@mokomamokoma3421 2 месяца назад

Hey! Beautiful video. Kindly asking that next time you read or let the message end before you give your two cents, it’s quite hard to follow with how often you were stoping. All love xoxo♥️🫶🏾

@samanthamazing 2 года назад

My husband & I were planning on having a family. He passed August 15th 2021. The grief is too deep & it’s too much. I won’t have children now. I have regrets only because I wanted a piece of my husband with me always. I’m 28, I will be alone & childless. It’s something I’m coming to terms with.

@WifeWithoutKids 2 года назад

I am so incredibly sorry for the loss of your husband. I can’t even imagine. Sending you love and support. 💜