"this is your own fantasy world! You can be anything you want!" "Oh cool I want a wheelchair with blades!" "NO NOT THAT! ONLY WHAT I WANT YOU TO WANT!" "This is escapism from real life!" "Oh cool, here's a list of things I want to escape from!" "NO NOT THAT! ONLY WHAT I TELL YOU TO ESCAPE FROM!"
Social pressure, cause if you are not masculine, you are feminine, nerd, weak and gay or smth. Toxic masculinity still has it's roots deep in men's minds and it's certainly a thing feminism should fight against.
There's a scene in one of Henry Jaglom's movies where Orson Welles talks about how the big failure in men's dialogue (and this was the late 70's/early 80's) was not realizing that feminism freed EVERYBODY from the tyranny of gender stereotypes and freed them up to figure this stuff out for themselves. Make their own rules. But here we are forty years later and guys like this are still wandering around in the dark, blindfolded, confused and angry because they keep running into the same wall when the door is wide open behind him.
I'm reminded of the people who want to criminalize certain behaviors, seemingly in the hopes that it will cause the rest of us to stop them from doing it again. Alt Text: They want to paint their nails but are afraid of other people exactly like them attacking them over it, so they act exactly like they do and attack people for doing the things they both want to do.
True Crime I cut my rebuttal of his statement down to two words. I'd be pretty proud of myself if not for the fact that a lot of those videos start off this way 😟
I am a "DM has the final say"-guy at my table, but this guy creeps me out with how much he brings this up in his complaints about "wokeness in DnD." I'm getting the feeling that he tried to pull a "Goblin Slayer" last time he DM'd, and he is still butthurt that his old group refuses to play with him anymore.
@@ShadowPa1adinYeah, that or he insists on everyone in his setting being mega sexist and racist because "it's historically accurate" and having a progressive character ruins immersion.
I've seen a lot of "D&D got woke!" people claim they'll switch to Pathfinder as the "the true D&D sucessor" and I'm not sure how many of them realize that Pathfinder is way more progressive with its gay deities, pronouns in character sheets and dozens of options to play as characters with various disabilities.
Also one of the recurring characters (Kyra, a cleric of Sarenrae, mid-eastern coded in both her character and faith.) is canonically lesbian and as of recent lore of 2E, married to The Rogue. An elf named Merisiel.
I used to work with a 46 year old guy that couldn't handle helpful criticism and took it personally despite it being addressed to everybody in the group chat. He liked blaming others, and he gave me the silent treatment for over a week, even though I was the assistant manager. So age doesn't matter when it comes to lack of maturity.
Yeah guys like this unironically hate men, and I'd even go as far to say that hatres extends to themselves. I'm a male nurse and I'm plenty capable of sympathy and compassion to my patients, and he's an insult to men to think that's impossible for us.
This guy has definitely been the subject of a tabletop horror story or two. He is most likely banned from the local game store for inappropriate behavior.
He's definitely one of those guys that demand that female characters get negative points in physical ability scores. "A women can't be a fighter or barbarian" and than tries to SA a female NPC
Everything he's said can be easily boiled down to a middle-schooler saying "Boys rule, girls drool." I can't imagine being a grown man and approaching everything from politics to entertainment to even medical care through that juvenile lens. It was really telling later in the vid when he said that women and men occupying the same spaces was an 'existential threat' to men.
I love when boomers like this get mad that young people dont like capitalism, but also complain about inflating gas-prices or lootboxes. Like they don't get what that even is.
There's also the thing where he's using the 'cultural marxism' term (probably) without realizing where it originated. And parroting the complaints about 'cal arts' also (probably) without realizing it came from someone who was complaining about The Iron Giant movie (animated one). But who looks into things past maybe one source anymore?! 🤪
They're still bootlickers at their core They can't well acknowledge the system they've been told to worship as their false religion since they were kids is the thing that's "ruining" their hobbies now can they? After all, it's supposed to be rigged in their favor for them to be their own little colonizers over some non white straight male, individuals, NOT be the thing screwing them over economically, environmentally and socially. Those boots just taste too good, or they think they do, to ever acknowledge they could have been duped their entire lives, easier to just make up goofy conspiracy theories and blame those non whites, women and LGBTQ people. When it's someone else's fault, I can still be mediocre
Kinda like the republicans that love trump because he “gave out money to them” when it was actually an act of congress that trump fought but then when he saw it was a popular thing, he fought to get his signature in the checks and a personal letter with every stimulus. We all could’ve had that money much sooner if it was t for trumps narcissism. Also, stimulus payments are a democratic idea, definitely not conservative or republican, so it shows me those kind of ppl have absolutely no idea what they’re talking about or how government actually works.
That's got to be the most pathetic thing I've seen in a long time. What's stopping him from running the terrible abusive campaigns he apparently longs for, other than the fact that no one would want to play with him anymore? Or did I just answer my own question...
He whines a lot about socialism, but it's almost like he expects the government to hand him out players to abuse at his table because he can't find them on his own 😂
These dudes are all about free speech but refuse to accept the consequences that come with that. "What do you mean my sexist tirade last night is why you don't want to hang out with me anymore!? Fucking snowflake!"
The pathetic thing about this is that it's LITERALLY the market dictating itself. Individuals realised they didn't like the way DnD was so made their own stuff, the companies involved realised this and changed to accommodate. He is complaining about capitalism, nothing more.
I find that most women I've played with are more creative and try to approach the game from different angles than just attacking. It makes for more interesting game play. On one occasion, my party approached a spirit from another plane who was teraforming the forest to match its home. The guys wanted to kill it, but one of our female players talked to it and found out it was scared and wanted to go home. They eventually managed to fuse the spirit with their unborn child so it could live on earth without accidentally hurting anyone through teraforming. It was easily one of the wildest nights we had playing the game.
Fun fact, this is why women most often are a great addition to combat units in the army! It’s not only the women who thinks more creatively, but it also makes the guys do the same! When I was in the Army, I also had very similar experiences. In my neighbour country, they did some very interesting studies on how combat groups approached various tasks, and it turned out that in the mixed gender units, they were far better at coming up with solutions that wasn’t basically just a frontal assault! In male only units, the guys would basically push each others buttons to show "machismo", and taking steps to avoid combat was far less preferred unless it was clearly stated that it should be avoided at all cost! So male only units were far more prone to seek confrontation also when it wasn’t necessary to fulfil the mission - and having mixed groups made everyone better and far more creative in how to solve the objectives!
I love how people like you can never just leave it as "the women I play with have different/more creative approaches to the situations they are presented with". It always has to turn into a "men are dumb" conversation.
@@kerseyHarding How do I prove your opinion wrong, exactly? I can sit here and talk about my own tabletop experiences and how I, as a male type person, have been complimented by my ability to think outside of the box and not just do the thing you claim men do of just blindly attacking or wanting to kill shit, but oddly enough, I don't think it's going to convince you of anything.
"The DMs authority went more or less unquestioned." ... I'm a DM. I've been running year-long campaigns now for a long long while. I don't view myself as an authority over the players. What kind of doofus reasoning is this?
When I started TTRPG 20 years ago there was a saying in my club: "everything the GM says goes". Dunno where it came from, it was established when I joined. It's true the GM was expected to arbitrate on rules edge cases, and had a form of moral authority seing the GM is usually the one who puts the more work in the game, the one who organised the session and, let's be honest, talked every one into playing in the first place 😅 Recently much more participative playstyles are trending, with session 0, voting on litigious rules, improvisation... It brings much more creativity at the table and it's liberating as a GM.
The kind where there's some kind of explanation at the top that there's no other DM in a hundred miles and Discord hadn't been invented yet when the story they're telling on their burner account takes place.
meanwhile, every single game i play in has the DM ask me for clarification for stuff eventually. once you become the guy who can quickly find a rule you'll forever be that guy.
So glad my dad wasn't like this. I consider myself enby, but I'm AFAB and my dad knew me as a woman before his death in 2019. He was the one who got me into D&D and Magic: The Gathering. From the young age of about 7 years old, he helped me make my own decks and took me to MTG tournaments with him. My proudest moment was winning against a grown man as an 8 year old child. Didn't come close to winning the tournament or anything (my dad usually took 1st place), but it felt really good at the time. And the dude was a great sport about it and everything! But that was before all this culture war bullshit. He used to set up little solo adventures in D&D 1st Edition for me to play, rebalancing everything so my character could take on everything myself and making sure I got all kinds of cool items. He encouraged me to try different approaches to solving the obstacles he put in my character's way. He tailored the experience for me to have the most fun, and I look back on those moments so fondly. He just wanted me to be into the same nerdy stuff that he was. One day I'll join a proper D&D group, and I'll be thinking about him and what a great dad he was.
I just love this premise that "WAMEN RUIN MY DND!!!" because in my experience, pretty much every girl I've ever met who played DND has 1.) Had seemed to have significantly more fun than the boys playing, 2.) Tended to make games more fun for everyone by virtue of *having* more fun, and 3.) Generally did a better job at playing (better communication and more interesting solutions or problems) Like idk, I've never enjoyed a DND game where I was the only girl, and I've always had more fun when other girls were actively included
I can probably go ahead and summarize the rest of his vids, “bla bla bla boys blue trucks guns, bla bla bla girls pink horses princesses, bla bla boys superior bla bla girls and minorities ruin everything”
oh yeah, this "men are lonely" thing. I recently went on Bumble because I heard that they had a 'friends' category, you know, for finding platonic friendships near you. So far, I have found 1 man and 3 enbies. it took like...5 days to find a guy. Curious considering I'm pretty sure that men significantly outnumber enbies. So then, why is the friend finding thing have 99% women if the mens are so so lonely? Especially considering how many of the women I find state their reason for being there as "I have no idea how to find friends and I'm lonely...let's go out for mimosas and visit museums!" Are the men even trying? I had been wondering if it was hiding them from me. Sure, bumble has a thing where the woman has to message first, but that's only for het pairings. currently, the only reason men can't use it to find friends is because no men are using it. I don't know, but it seems to me that if men are disproportionately lonely compared to women, its probably their fault (or at least men's fault collectively). Like the reason women _aren't_ as lonely might be because woman are more willing to put forth an effort into fixing their loneliness problem.
Because what he and incels or adjacent people mean by "they 're lonely" is "they're sexless". Which should be no surprise considering their open contempt for women... 🙄 The irony being that their real problem is not sexlessness but actually loneliness, and they could have meaningful relationships with people if they just gave up on trying to f at any cost.
Bad take. It's more complicated than that. The toxic incels and other rot only make it worse by feeding into it. But the problem is how men tend to be socialized, the expectations and pressures for how they behave and interact. Emotional openness and intimacy is not generally considered acceptable between men traditionally, for instance. There are even women out there that complain about their man being emotionally vulnerable, as they find it unmanly and unattractive. While there's an effort to change this in more modern times, a lot of people still look at the assholes and incels, and just blame men for being terrible. But what would be most beneficial to all, regardless of sex or gender, is to address the problems all genders face. It's all interrelated.
Actually, to answer your question about Bumble: it is, technically, hiding the men from you. If you enter a gender identity into Bumble, it will actually prefer to show you the same assumed gender. I found this out by accident. I'm a trans guy who went on there to make some friends, all I got were men (not a problem, met some cool dudes). Out of curiosity, I removed the "trans man" label, and guess what? A whole bunch of women started popping up on my feed. Edited because I put "opposite sex" when I meant the same.
Even as one of those big old gays, I like my D&D women because they are fun. My most brutal person was a woman and she also made my favorite race. They are a kind of Gnoll that are... relatively civilized and just, profoundly goofy in many ways. They make poetry in broken English that is nonetheless well-written plots it is just the dialogue is horrible, so they dominate a lot of entertainment. I really would have had less fun without her having been at my table, she moved away and I am kinda sad about it because she made a lot of really fun ideas.
10:34 "Men are a little bit more fascinated with violence and death". I don't even think that's really true? Sure most action oriented stuff is usually marketed with a majority male demographic in mind. But a lot of horror and true crime stuff, the stuff where brutality of violence and death are really given the spotlight, is pretty overwhelmingly women dominated.
It’s largely because we socialize women to be cooperative and men to be competitive. Women are naturally more attuned to TTRPGs because of this. Think about it the game was made in a male dominated environment sure, but it was outcast men, many who were outcast due to a lack of perceived masculine traits.
Yeah there is so SOOO much wrong with what this guy is saying, idk I doubt he even ever played it with men let alone girls. Like literally every single point he's made is just wrong
@@zenbear9952 This man describes masculinity the way I did at like 8. This is most concerning coming from a guy who looks like he's flirting with retirement.
Dude is just repeating a bunch of contradictory tropes he heard online and dares call it his content. Complains about how DnD has been perveted by "socialism" and how we need more capitalism, but won't get up and publish his own TTRPG, like he's expecting someone will do it for him... 🙄 We're definitely not dealing with the most self aware tool in the shed 😂
@@leparfumdugrosboss4216This dude is like "killing the corrupt noble is bad actually, he's just exercising his right to grow capital at great risk to himself"
@@boianko at least it's somewhat consistent, even if it's stupid. But he also whines about people making _homebrew_ DnD he doesn't like, instead of taking risks by editing his own "manly" TTRPG. 🤷🏽♀️😂
@@leparfumdugrosboss4216 Ultimately he knows the way he wants the game to be is deeply unpopular, so it's not surprising that he's against any edit that deviates from his vision. Wouldn't want players trying it out, liking it, then "challenging his authority" when he DMs.
The thing about different ways of thinking at a game table is so true, I used to take my gf to my dnd sessions and she would always give her ideas to the table for problem solving so I was like why don't you just join the game and play, you always contribute anyway. She seemed clearly interested in what was going on in game so it seemed like the obvious thing to do to invite her in.
@@enigmaj1494 I don't think she played immediately after but she did eventually join. She made her own family tree (The Cobrianas) and had little synopsis on each family member, she has a lot of creativity, she is an artist so didn't surprise me. This was like over 5 years ago. Unfortunately she eventually quit after a couple years because of mental health, having to be available at a scheduled time and be ready to play was too much when she had depressive episodes so she stopped playing but she always liked the game even if not playing. I guess it was less of a burden on her to not feel like she has to participate but could if she wanted to (by sitting on the sideline and still watching / giving advice). Everyone has different thresholds and maintaining mental health is important.
9:13 Oh boy. I sure do love hearing reactionary conservatives bring up how other reactionary conservatives complained about DnD being "Satanic" decades ago because they think it will make me more sympathetic with reactionary conservatives complaining that DnD is "woke" today.
One of my favorite D&D podcasts is a comedy podcast called Dungeons and Daddies and one of the characters is a step dad played by a woman and he is definitely the weird one of the group. Emotionally detached and just a weird guy but also one of the most compelling characters because you learn about his backstory and it explains why he is the way he is and you gain new sympathy for him that's what a woman can bring to the table.
Guys like this just have issues. If you're against having women in DnD groups it's probably because you are too immature and lack any self-control around them. Like this guy and his friends were 100% slobbering over and attempting to get in the pants of his female players as a teen, and now he's just uncomfortable with not being allowed to do that since his "DM authority" has been eroded. Mainly by things like online games being available where women can actually play without being subject to this shit and actually have fun without weird sexist baggage.
Great fuckin’ Dimension 20 reference dude! I haven’t watched Burrow’s End yet, but I’ve seen the RU-vid Shorts with the battle map. It’s so incredibly made and well conceived as an idea for a modular map. God, this loser doesn’t even have half the creative thinking of all the women who play on those shows, or any of the story/acting/game design chops of Abria, Brennan, or any other GM who’s ever ran a D20 campaign.
Hahahaha oh this should be a fun one. The best player in my party was a woman!! She definitely had more experience than the rest of us, I wanna play so bad we’ve been on hiatus for over a year. I think it’s awesome, doesn’t he wanna meet some Karlachs?!
It's always funny when they try and talk about men being more violent because you will also hear them talk about "catfights" and the biting and scratching and hair pulling and how they don't hold back like men do. Like; do you even hear yourself??? xD Talks about how there were never women in dnd in the past. Proceeds to describe the exact reasons WHY that was without realizing it. Like "they didn't stick around". Okay WHY? WHY DIDN'T THEY STICK AROUND DOOD? Could it be because they were fkin BULLIED by the kids who were always complaining about being bullied??? Hmmmm what a fkin mystery. And with the thing about being in the medical field; you just know he means he wants male surgeons and female nurses. Imagine how much better his life would have been if he'd taught his daughter how to play dnd.
He’s also the kind of guy to say women are worse than men because they’re more emotional. How you can simultaneously be more interested in and prone to violence while also being less emotional is beyond me…
His wife left him for her Dungeon Master. (Also on a point Jake makes at about 15:00, yeah, fucking old dnd modules were fucking dogshit. I played Tomb of Horrors, fucking terrible, I played Curse of Strahd best module, written by a husband and wife writing team...)
In the old school they had D&D tournaments and Tomb of Horrors was designed to be a meat grinder. Curse of Straud was the first story driven module and it changed the hobby for the better and raised the bar. Curse of Straud was also written by a woman.
Jake assumed the guy must be divorced, but I have to wonder maybe the divorced energy is emanating from a different source? I mean what if it was his old tabletop group that ditched him for being insufferable and backwards rather than his wife? (who no doubt only puts up with him for the child's sake)
I don't have the experience to realize it, but I've always had this idea in my head about a very colorful, whimsical fantasy world that is also realistically violent. Not in a particularly edgy or satirical way, just the simple juxtaposition. It's kind of hard to explain because it sounds like so many things that it isn't, but my point is that things can actually be pretty fresh if you present people with a cute, charming setting and then the minute someone rolls a critical it puts the goofy little goblin creature's internal anatomy on full display. And then a cute apprentice witch comes by and uses her little magical broom to sweep its blood into a jar, happily explaining how she needs it to keep her incurable flesh-eating disease in remission, and offering the party a one-time-use magical item that can permanently drain the electrical impulses out of any single creature with a functioning nervous system. Oh, and she makes cookies for everyone, too.
"Men are interested in death and violence" - Meanwhile: Across culture and time, women have been wildly interested in death, blood, and other similar dark topics. Horror folklore, medical, death rituals, afterlife discussions, and even to today of true crime, women have always been interested, mostly privately till recently (aka in their personal writings/stories/talking to friends), in the darkest or disgusting topics. Ironically, they are also less likely to want to "play it out" because they also understand empathy. They understand what happens to people because of these events, long before we got to a "modern" point of trauma.
I play games online with strangers regularly and safety tools are vital simply because you don't know who these people are! It's easy to get your personal hangups out at the start so you don't have to deal with awkward conversations or bad vibes after!
I'm really happy to see you covering this channel. I got recommended a bunch of their videos a while back and while I didn't watch any of them (I avoid giving them engagement if I can), the purple-haired dragon icon immediately made me wonder if it was a parody, but seeing the video list left me very disappointed. Aww, he changed the icon! It used to be a red dragon with the same pink/purple hairstyle that all the anti-SJW types obsess over for some reason. I guess even he realized it was ridiculous. Oh geez, I knew it was going to be bad, but he landed "Feminine thought" "cultural marxism" and "the west" in the first like 10 seconds. He should quit D&D and go into speedrunning. I guess I did watch a couple of his videos without noticing the channel. I was looking into old settings a while back and saw his videos on Birthright which I remember actually having a pretty neat story about his family's decade-spanning campaign. Really sad it's tied up with all the awfulness, as I found it pretty cool and wish the channel was just that. Something else really stood out to me. The bit where he talks about his personal experience with women in his group... which was great. It's like on one hand he's saying this whole thing on a principle, despite the fact his own life experiences directly contradict that principle. I suspect that's probably really common with people like this and it kind of shows how messed up the whole thing is. Getting so wrapped up in an ideal that you ignore your own experiences completely.
I'm an afab nb and my pathfinder group from college, is infinitely more willing and able to understand why there are limits/topics that are a no go and how to enforce that, than this clown and the fact that 4 (plus some new ones) guys are more than willing to put boundaries and even have some of their own, is incredibly welcoming to me. We play a lot of horror campaigns and are currently playing an evil campaign and so far, no boundaries have been crossed.
Na concent forms for dnd is good I give it to my players my stories have some fucked up shit. The domination spell alone sets up levels of depravity that would and should make people puke
Weird, I haven’t noticed anything bad happening to my table. I’ll ask the women and trans folk I run for if there’s anything wrong and/or destroying D&D.
No no he's right. Women totally ruined D&D, it's not playable anymore, please don't try to play it. Especially not with my group, because it was ruined by women, mega ruined. Just stay faaaaar away.
27:45 hes seriously railing against the X card? A card that stops play if people are severely un omfortable and is literally the most basic safety mechanic?
.... Ive found the best campaigns are the ones where the DM/GM will like talk with the players. And rules can be adjusted if needed. Heck. The coolest moments in our Curse of Strahd campaign (run by a cool trans woman at that!) only happened because our DM was willing to hear us out and bend the rules just a bit.
hes 100% the type of guy to say "dudes cant play chick characters in my game, thats gay" not realizing the irony of their woman-hating sausage party. these are the loneliest kind of people and theyve worked really hard to make sure of that.
"Women aren't violent" Not all women. My campaign constantly makes jokes about how needleslly violent and chaotic I am. Except to the 9ft spider. That's my buddy.
If you don't want women in the hobby just don't invite them to your table. That's the beauty of tabletop rpgs you don't have to deal with people you don't want to. Meanwhile sane people will just enjoy games with their friends and the occasional rando every now and then.
32:50 That is not the "CalArts-style." I don't care much for the art in 5e books (I like the art of older editions better) but the way this guy complains about it is like he is straight up admitting that he has no imagination and feels the need to make it everyone else's problem.
I'm a cis white straight male and When i run my own games, I have to force myself to include combats. its so boring running a combat for me. Too much shit to keep track of. It might make it better if I ran more games online but almost everything I do is in person.
I'm playing balders gate 3 and my brother keeps popping in and trying to tell me how to play. Just let me play! He also said I'm the girliest barbarian. Lol
... the Vampire game I'm in is mostly women, and this guy would blanche at how creatively violent we get. The Shadowrun group I was in - a very different group that was also mostly women - was also creatively violent. The Werewolf game I was in way back in the day the *alpha* was a woman and she was the mean one. This guy's an embarrassment to my generation. D&D players of my age were bullied so hard, and this guy's acting like it was somehow a 'chad' move. Oi.
This guy definitely means: "When I'm a player, I only want a power fantasy. When I'm the DM, I only want a captive audience to be forced into discomfort by my Shadiversity-tier 'dark fantasy' world where everyone is as antisocial and misogynist as I am."
I‘m a guy. When I played with my Batman toy as a child, Batman could fly, because he got bidden by a radioactive vampire bat. The idea that „girls impose their ideas on a toy, while boys just play how they are SUPPOSED to“ is such nonsense! Frankly, my guess: that guy has simply NO imagination. Badass stuff like warrior-wheelchairs, colorful stuff in DnD or making up non-canon stories for your toys are foreign for him. And he thinks that‘s just „how guys are“, when in reality that‘s just how HE is.
Me and lady are playing BG3. I wanted her to experience one of my hobbies and she acquiesced…she decided to kill off Lae’zel to switch things up a bit.
Me and my s/o are doing an evil campaign with me having the dark urge. We murked Shadowheart and ngl I died a little inside, keeping Lae’zel and Astarion because so far those two are the only ones that like cruelty lol Rip Shadowheart, possibly rip Gale because I ripped his hand off but I don’t know if he’s dead? 😭
The traditional multi-solution dungeon was invented by a woman. Obviously a guy tried to claim her work as his own by removing her name from a writing after her death but the guy got called out for it luckily.
He's the sort of player that want's to spend the WHOLE session in combat, and even after YEARS playing the same game every month (or even every week) still doesn't know the names of any other players' characters...
Because women are culturally imprinted to believe that they need to make things work while men are culturally imprinted to be violent and such. This is due to patriarchal, Conservative ideology.
I (man) have two women and two men in my D&D group that I run for. My female players are better at the game, including strategy and roleplay, than my male players, who are more focused on having the biggest number (but their tactics in combat are foolish and their decisions in RP lead to unnecessary conflicts). The women of my game actually care about it and will think of it outside of Game Time, such as levelling up their character on their own time instead of waiting to come back next week for me to guide them through the process, or coming up with quests and stories for their characters to do instead of me telling them the story like a video game. The men are just here for Big Damage and Railroad to Boss Fight (but don't dare make the boss fight require strategy or have Bigger Numbers than we do or we'll call you unfair)
Seriously though, why are you playing DND if you're just going to play it like a video game. The fun part about DnD is the story and the interactions, not doing really, really slow rpg combat. Maybe it's a communication thing since I usually find women easier to discuss and plan stuff with (albeit I realized this more so from school/college projects and communication puzzles in video games than dnd). It's like you're speaking into the air and they can't hear you whenever you want to discuss stuff, set the ground work, etc.
@@genericcatgirl because that is kinda the point of DnD. it isn't an RPG, it is a wargame. the rules don't really support interaction beyond the most surface level or combat and the books don't really do anything to encourage it. don't get me wrong, taking what little dnd actually has and doing something a little bit better with it is fine and i do not think DnD's encouraged way of play is good, but just look at the mage the ascension; you are literally required to fill out your character's beliefs and their personality, a solid third of the merits are things like "you have friends" or "you rent an apartment" and things in that vein. same with the flaws! all the white wolf games do things like that, on top of actually giving crutches a new player can rely on to learn how to (role)play. DnD gives you your combat stats and tells you to get to work.
The hillerious thing is, I‘ve been playing DnD for around two decades, with three different groups. All of them had approximatelly a 50/50 gender split. Never was an issue. Still isn‘t. My guess is: if that guy experiences women as an issue on his table… that‘s probably a „him“-problem.
I got driven away from games by guys like this. Joke's on them, I kept pushing until I got into games, and I've been in RPGs ever since. Ran convention games, LARPs, took 2nd at the national SR tourney. I have played with a lot of guys like this own. He's emotionally stunted, he thinks other people RP how *he* perceives them. Batman becomes a woman bc his brain can't cope with that woman pretending to be Batman. And their hatred of girls in their spaces is projected onto women so they assume women hate men. And fellas, gotta tell ya, most women don't even think about these guys, much less hate them.
Somebody needs to inform this dude that his Nazi talking-points are obsolete. All his grifter heroes stopped using 'Cultural Marxism' after they realized everyone could tell that they were just doing the 'Cultural Bolshevism' meme under a new name.
I miss Chariama saves sooo much. Oh, and as an RPG player since 85, and most likely older than cap and glasses douche. He's wrong on soooo many levels, it becomes amazing. I'll turn him into a bad mid level vilain for my next game. 🤓