Women Should Feel UNCOMFORTABLE Around Men

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@alexandergrace5350 3 года назад

Why I Don't Talk About Female Narcissists: www.patreon.com/posts/patreon-why-i-52677346

@user-sl1ry6op7m 3 года назад

Yikes... That title...

@ricky4673 3 года назад

I feel that Narcissist may be an incorrect term in general. I believe it should be called feminin energy and chaos.

@rajakghosh6602 3 года назад

Never reward negative behaviour with positive affirmation. If a girl flakes on date the onus is on her to fix. If she doesn't apologise and doesn't fix the date herself, then move on.

@epicaunleashed8764 3 года назад

Indian?

@dotcom2528 3 года назад

So true.... true visdom... whatever nationality... he is a male.

@focusedfuture7612 3 года назад

Lmao you're the same guy I always see in the fresh and fit podcast comment sections 😂

@ericazahn9689 3 года назад

Women are much more forgiving about all the bad behavier of man, they should end it.

@dotcom2528 3 года назад

@@ericazahn9689 if she stays with a bad boy that she thinks she can change then yes she will put up with any kind of abuse. Good for her, she invited the problems by rejecting 100 good men previously. I feel no pity for a woman like that, she is just getting served the dish she ordered.

@NickNotas 3 года назад

*"If you’re harmless you’re not virtuous, you’re just harmless, you’re like a rabbit; a rabbit isn’t virtuous, it just can’t do anything except get eaten! That’s not virtuous. If you’re a monster, and you don’t act monstrously, then you’re virtuous." -Jordan Peterson*

@pattyboisst18 3 года назад

Beautiful 👌

@shadowpathfinder7723 3 года назад

Jordan Peterson really is a gem

@padrinozerocool 3 года назад

Reminds of Mike Tyson... currently he lives his life virtuously... promoting young boxers, being a good father, husband, doing high level of philantrophy, doing good business, widen his circles with quality friends,.... what else I can say. He living the life man.

@Teglamen 3 года назад

you forgot the part where 'that monster also cleans his goddam room'

@ultimatesonic47 3 года назад

thanks for sharing such wise words

@josetheman239 3 года назад

I really do not agree with the playfulness and bringing something up later. It's like reprimanding a child for something they did yesterday. It comes off as vindictive and patty and keeping score. These can be very exhausting for you and the girl. Practice telling people at the point of transgression what they did wrong without getting angry, they will not argue back since they are on the wrong. It is way more uncomfortable, might ruin the date but you get way more respect the next day.

@jackdeniston59 3 года назад

yeah yeah yeah Alpha male superhero. Can you honestly say you have been 100 on point all the time? 20%? hardly ever. Calling it later is fine.

@JamalW239 3 года назад

‘They will not argue back since they are in the wrong’. Have you ever known a woman? 😂

@josetheman239 3 года назад

@@jackdeniston59 I never called myself a hero I said practice. Practice this with your parents, co-workers, siblings and friends not just girls. It's an important skills in conflict resolution. Calling it later is a terrible strategy.

@rymreaper 3 года назад

so I was doing the right thing? Thank you man

@maxiclasher 3 года назад

Keeping things fun while communicating your standards is indicative of a very strong personality. You come off as a guy who knows what he wants and what he doesn't want, but also as one, who can handle his emotions when things don't go like he'd prefer them to go in a superior way.

@149mattyman 3 года назад

this should be called, "ffs, have at least some respect for yourself & stop giving credit to whoever hasn't earned it!"

@siaa1322 3 года назад

I couldn't agree more with this video. A friend of mine which I didn't initially find attractive suddenly became attractive in my eyes once he started pointing out any behavior of mine he didn't approve of. It made me extremely uncomfortable because no one had done that in this way before and that helped me tremendously with motivating me to become a better person/woman and even start going to therapy. Growth doesn't take place in one's comfort zone.

@luciemunson 3 года назад

I agree!

@princepacifico1512 3 года назад

The men who didn't check you on your bad behaviors maybe just wanted sex. Your friend is a real friend who would tell u as it is without sugar coating.. you should take him out the friendzone and give him a try he sounds like a respectful person

@gwho 2 года назад

Please explain how that made him more attractive in your eyes. It's not obvious why that would be. What went on in your head step by step? Very curious

@markzajac9993 2 года назад

"Growth doesn't take place in one's comfort zone." I love that thank you! It's also extremely attractive to me that a woman wants to improve and can take feedback.

@spitfactsnotjizz8349 2 года назад

He showed you the big diddly didn't he? I'm sorry

@rajakghosh6602 3 года назад

Women gets weirded out by guys who goes out of their way to over-compliment them, constantly trying to impress, making s3xual innuendos jokes. Do remember women dates a guy who in her opinion is better than her (i.e dating upwards). As such guys should refrain from putting girls on pedestal. What women looks for in a guy confident, assertive masculine traits who she like to chase and not the other way around.

@SD-he3pp 3 года назад

Never understood that. Also in my class there are like 5-6/10 girls who are trying to get 9/10 guys. I just CAN'T understand. Like... mate, how do you think that do you even stand a chance? But the bigger question is, why would a 9/10 guy give a chance to a 5-6/10 girl? Just I can't understand.

@rajakghosh6602 3 года назад

@@SD-he3pp what you're witnessing is the pareto principle 80:20 ratio. That 80% women desiring the top 20% men and inadvertently they're sharing them. In your case 5-6 girls will share 9-10 boys.

@ifeelhalfnaked484 3 года назад

@@SD-he3pp 9/10 may still get rejected by 4 or 5/10 girl because the difference of ''perceived'' value. Oftenly, girls will ''auto reject'' themselves out of the prospect thats why you see these girls far-seeing these celebrity guys

@rymreaper 3 года назад

making obvious s3xual innuendos (that they can catch) worked in my favor tho.

@rymreaper 3 года назад

@@ifeelhalfnaked484 they know these guys won't date them so they cope

@simplastic 3 года назад

Uncomfortable is the closes to fear, and trust me... if a woman doesn't fear you she will never like you. Women like struggling and having drama. Thats why they watch some much movies and tv stuff related to romanticism. Proof is 50 shades of Grey, the best seller book and movie for women. Why? Because the guy make the girl feel uncomfortable and uncertain the whole time. Give a woman drama like a romantic movie and you'll win

@drschwandi3687 3 года назад

The question is do you even want a women like this in your life?

@davidgabriel5125 3 года назад

@@drschwandi3687 good point

@dotcom2528 3 года назад

@@davidgabriel5125 I tend to like the 1 hour at the time, service women. Or rent one of them for a 2 week holiday...! Really cheaper in the long run....

@morganthem 3 года назад

@@drschwandi3687 absolutely exhausting to deal with, so no

@virginnation8018 3 года назад

Dude listen up...If a girl is into that stuff then THATS ON HERRR..Why would you want a girl whos into toxicity in the first place? That is a stupid mentality to have like what bahaahaha

@lordkent8143 3 года назад

Women will always respond to men in either of these three ways: 1) she thinks you're a creep 2) she thinks you're nice or beta enough for her to gain benefits from 3) She's attracted to you

@tonyb76 3 года назад

I seem to be stuck in number 2 a lot

@lordkent8143 3 года назад

@@tonyb76 most men do. But in the end, we all experience all three of those responses from different women in time.

@thedevilsadvocate3710 3 года назад

This is important to know guys. Because #1 and #2 responses are pretty much the same. When #3 happens to you, pay special attention because that's how all women worthy of your attention reacts to you. Here's some advice. Approach or instigate romantic interest in the lowest possible female you know of and see #3. Go and approach 9's and 10's and see #1 and #2. If 9's and 10's don't give you the #3 response, keep going down the scale until you get the woman on the looks scale and response #3. That will be where your current "game" level will be. You can improve from there.

@tonyb76 3 года назад

@@thedevilsadvocate3710 I'm talking with 3 women at the moment. The one who appears to be better looking is 5ft 9 and a slim ish build. She says shes comfortable in my presence however there seems to be a lack of sexual attraction from her to me. The last date we talked in person for 3 hours. I'm not sure if I've defaulted to my nice guy persona however on the first date I did say I wanted to kiss her. Her initial response was covid but she admitted That was was right to call her out on the bs covid line and that she wanted to get to know me more before becoming intimate. My question is should I pursue a third date and ask if she feels anything sexual towards me or just drop her and move on? The other two are not local to me. This one that I'm talking about, we can relax in silence without filling the air with mindless crap.

@thedevilsadvocate3710 3 года назад

@@tonyb76 Let her contact you and gauge her interest in a date. A woman who is attracted to you will let you kiss her. A woman who is attracted to you will not have excuses to seal the deal, ever. Remember, woman are emotional. If you make her feel a certain way towards you, you will always be successful. If she is not attracted to you, you need to make her work towards you. She needs to start texts, calls, asking anything about you. If she isn't doing enough of that, you need to work on your game or you need to move on.

@MrDeykar 3 года назад

Just dont treat her special. Dont go out of your way to either make her comfortable or uncomfortable. Just do your own thing. Always act in a way you feel comfortable with yourself.

@chrisbunka 3 года назад

Advice I need for tonight!

@MrDeykar 3 года назад

@@urlauburlaub2222 There is no problem here. The right woman will feel comfortable with you just doing your own thing. You dont have to make her comfortable, she just is with you being the way you are.

@MrDeykar 3 года назад

@@urlauburlaub2222 No, there is no condition. You are who you are and you dont do things differently to please anybody but yourself. A woman which considers herself your partner will appreciate that. You arent just your accomplishments, youre everything which makes you you.

@Ksyed7124 2 года назад

@@urlauburlaub2222 that is also true but by not caring about her desicion and doing what you want makes you attractive..

@thenothinghero8011 3 года назад

Can we just say when a women starts BIENG late on a date you probably aren't a priority.

@Teglamen 3 года назад

Do the likes answer the question? Treat her also like '6th' in the line of your priorities.

@ultimatesonic47 3 года назад

@@Teglamen no, we have to be better than that, if i am not a priority then she wouldnt care if she isnt my priority, we have to just say "next one may be better" and end dating that person, if we do the same then we arent as bad as them we are worse because they do it because they are bad but we would do it to have the attention of a bad person, so go next

@masterexploder9668 3 года назад

If she honestly says sorry without throwing an offhand, out of her ass apology, I can give it a pass. If she stares at her phone too much at the date, she will receive first warning / reminder. There won't be another. More or less three strike rule in action.

@GuntherL1 3 года назад

As Camille Paglia once said: "Women should regard men with a mix of gratitude and rational fear."

@johnfoster4244 3 года назад

I saw a video of that lecture on RU-vid. She's right

@SZUSEast1 3 года назад

God damn right. Even your protector should be feared!

@mindflayer0319 3 года назад

Shouldn’t men do the same?

@adflix424 3 года назад

*male partner not men. Why would women show gratitude and fear to men (who mean nothing to them) ?

@mohamohai3932 3 года назад

@@mindflayer0319 go ahead

@matthewcoombs3282 3 года назад

I think the title doesn't do justice to what Alexander is saying. I don't think you should go out of your way to make women feel "uncomfortable" more make sure they don't get too comfortable and complacent in their dealings with you. In my experience it doesn't take much for a woman to lose respect for a man and you need to be mindful of boundaries.

@mario125ww 3 года назад

Yeah, a girl should feel comfortable around you. As a man we have to tap into our emotional side to hook a women and keep her coming back however we still need to remain masculine so basically keep the boundaries

@technoloverish 3 года назад

I think the overall point here is that as a general rule, straight women usually don’t want guys who are pushovers with literally no standards. One of the biggest mistakes that some guys seem to make is that they will act with geeky agreeable with the women they’re into and make themselves seem like they’re unable to think for themselves. I suspect those facts may be what some are perceiving as implying that women like guys who purposely make them uncomfortable.

@altair91100 3 года назад

We were to meet on Wednesday at 7 PM. On Wednesday 1 PM she wrote to me: I can't make it today, have to stay longer at my class, and then I need to still work on a group project, blah blah blah No "i am sorry", no "let's reschedule to another day", no "I'll make it up to you". I never answered, she never texted again.

@mefik 3 года назад

You did good by noticing the lack of "reschedule" and "apologies" lots of guys miss that

@altair91100 3 года назад

@@mefik What makes me a little sad and happy in the same time is the fact that, say, 2 years ago I would be the first one to text her and humiliate myself with something like "Okay! No problem at all, what day can we meet instead?". I've done it FOR YEARS, I've done it so many times that it makes me cringe how often I quite frankly, disrespected my very self. Channels like Alexander's helped me a lot, but I must say I was quite close to drift too far into misogyny. Good that so many men are waking up.

@Rauxanhdauma 2 года назад

If a woman have true interest in you she will be ready to quit her job or even sell her mother into slavery but she will appear on the time for date

@OnderHassan 3 года назад

If you have to train someone to have basic manners, then they’re not worth spending time with.

@JujuBebop 3 года назад

The last gal I dated went from excessive baby talk to saying she didn’t feel comfortable around me. “We have relationship problems. To start with…” Let me stop you right there and solve all your relationship problems by dumping your crazy ass.

@IamMortui 3 года назад

LOL, good one.

@mohammedjelidi05 3 года назад

I think you would do great in a Jubilee Middle Ground episode.

@officialsilverbusiness613 3 года назад

Jubilee is far too left-leaning to allow Alexander to even make his point.

@calfagra 3 года назад

They will allow him there, but they will cut almost all his argument and left part that make him look bad. So he need to bring his own cameraman.

@twilight8475 3 года назад

Jubilee is crap

@upstar21t 3 года назад

Jubilee is utter garbage.

@rymreaper 3 года назад

Jubilee gives me headache

@visancosmin8991 3 года назад

Don't be fake saying it's ok to be late, be fake saying it in a playful way. Now that's some real wisdom right there, lol.

@josetheman239 3 года назад

Exactly. And ruin a good time later by bringing it up when she is happy. Seriously?!?!?!!. You will come off as keeping score or pure evil and vindictive which will make you look immature. Be straight with a girl, tell her at the point of transgression and emphasis on TELL do not yell or lash out and then do not bring that up again. The trouble is that most men have never learnt how to resolve conflict the right way.

@mitigamespro8757 3 года назад

@@josetheman239 very good advice

@edenarchive4150 3 года назад

@@josetheman239 Most men know exactly how to resolve conflict the right way. Directly and to the point and its over with. The problem is it doesn't apply to women. We're conditioned as a society to treat them like children.

@user-lt4dm4zx3z Год назад

Pathetic beyond words

@kingcalv10 3 года назад

@Alexander Grace ...I'm glad u exist. I would do the reverse...Id ask her why she is late with a direct tone...no smiling..nothing...then after we talk about why it's wrong nd address the issue...I will put on a smile nd change subject to something like "okay how was ur day?" Start serious then lighten mood.

@deedoodeedoo6382 3 года назад

Jesus christ, so much fking work, I can't be arsed to do all that. Guys, have fun in my stead.

@jasonblue8832 3 года назад

I laugh much harder than I should at this comment, but you not wrong my friend XD

@alexjohnson9630 3 года назад

Respect is earned, its not automatically given, to anybody.

@voiceofwisdom3408 3 года назад

When I hear people speak of respect, I mentally substitute the word money. How do you view someone that earns their money versus a beggar.

@alexjohnson9630 3 года назад

@@voiceofwisdom3408 , its not about the money. True money can help. Someone can be very wealthy and still not be respected. As for your analogy, it depends how someone earns their money and how someone became a beggar. Sometimes, depending on the circumstances, the beggar would/should get more respect.

@voiceofwisdom3408 3 года назад

@@alexjohnson9630 Ok. Let's try a slightly different analogy. I often see people online that DEMAND that people respect them. Consider the difference between someone that you pay a fair price for a good or service that you want versus someone that demands your money (as in a robbery). I really think we are on the same page here, just arguing over the terminology.

@alexjohnson9630 3 года назад

@@voiceofwisdom3408 , I agree.

@princepacifico1512 3 года назад

Never understood this phrase. So by default every woman you come in contact with doesn't respect you? And you have to do something for her to give you respect? Cause when I hear the word "earn" I tend to think of something you worked for.. I'm just confused why do we all have to work or let others work to give respect.. please somebody explain this it makes no sense. I'm trying to fully understand that phrase "respect is earned not given"

@vanessakoukla1350 3 года назад

All of this is so true. One time I had an outing with a male friend, I was 25 minutes late. I felt bad and apologised and he said it's ok. I felt bad on his part for my being let off lightly. But these days I am trying hard to be on time to all my meetings with friends!

@Blox117 3 года назад

vanessa where have you been? we were supposed to meet at the park 9 years ago

@vanessakoukla1350 3 года назад

@blox117 hahahah that made me laugh! We can reschedule for next week, won't be late!!!)

@yourlandladysson6395 3 года назад

If she apologizes even b4 I talk bout it I will let it go easy too. I'll say it shouldn't happen next time.

@mickeypopa 11 месяцев назад

@@Blox117 😂😂😂

@Protolisks 3 года назад

"he made me feel uncomfortable" and now you're in jail

@ongito29 3 года назад

LOL

@cathycarter3 2 года назад

🤣

@rymreaper 3 года назад

Ok so I get very angry and even more when a woman makes a mistake. The anger overwhelms me because I can't let it out physically or just yell, it's just very hard to operate in that. But it has to be a very big mistake and if it's little I don't get bothered at all. It's like on or off nothing in the middle. But I know life is not like that. Little ripples can create a tsunami. This video made me realise that I should focus in fixing my mental health before dating. Because I go to much into the opposite spectrum of being nice.

@SPECTRA890 3 года назад

Most people may not realize this conclusion on their own. You have a long journey ahead of you and it will be extremely extremely difficult

@lordzooq8987 3 года назад

I'm proud of you brother. It takes real strength to make that decision. Very few people realize that and take action.

@rymreaper 3 года назад

@Bipolar Abusive X they may like violence but not on them. They get a false sense of protection . Usually low quality masochist women date extremely violent guys. A warrior should be calm , anger is easy to exploit by enemies.

@rymreaper 3 года назад

thank you all of you , I never thought I will get this much support.

@princepacifico1512 3 года назад

Once it's something rude you should point it out immediately or have a chat with her afterwards. "Because familiarity breeds content" she'll get used to being rude without any corrections. But as you said outburst of anger is not the solution, just take out your anger with weighted exercise or cardiovascular exercises. And then when your calm enough talk to her in a calm but stern serious way let her no you dislike whatever she did. If she goes off in a tantrum leave her alone

@megret1808 3 года назад

The last time a woman flamed me in front of a group she became invisible to me. At later encounters I completely ignored her presents. Soon after she moved out of town

@OffWithReligion 3 года назад

Presence*

@megret1808 3 года назад

@@OffWithReligion And stand corrected, thanks

@adrianalexandrov7730 3 года назад

@@megret1808 c'mon, bro! you can edit comments ))))

@vito8890 3 года назад

SANQ4 taught me to be a man for myself and you taught me to be a man around women. Thank you!

@PrettyboiYT 3 года назад

Love sanq4’s content

@رجلاً-مجهول 3 года назад

I been watching SANQ4 too. He saved me.

@OLDACCOUNT740 3 года назад

His content is not his own. It’s all from Reddit.

@PrettyboiYT 3 года назад

@@OLDACCOUNT740 its ok. It still takes time and effort to run a YT channel. Trust me

@vito8890 3 года назад

@@OLDACCOUNT740 That doesn't make the quality any different

@josetheman239 3 года назад

I do not agree with being playful about it as I think it undermines one's message. I find that just telling her straight up that you do not appreciate the lateness is more effective and straight talk should not be confused with anger and it should never be done in anger too just let her know and then continue with the business of the day. Exercise this in other aspects of life too, tell people straight up without getting mad and then continue with the business of the day.

@jking4224 3 года назад

I agree and how she reacts tells me if I should cancel date and leave.

@josetheman239 3 года назад

@@jking4224 She will love you for it. Trust me dude. Do it at work and your co-workers will respect you. Do it at home and family with respect you. It's an important conflict resolution skill.

@jking4224 3 года назад

@@josetheman239 yeah I learn this lesson a long time ago. I set boundaries at the start. When it comes to dating I make my interests in her very clear and then I set back and let her come to me.

@technoloverish 3 года назад

True. I actually think that the overall point here is not that women desire men who deliberately try to make them uncomfortable, and instead that generally, straight women don’t like men to be pushovers who have no standards or boundaries. No need to be confrontational, but no need to act agreeable all the time either.

@adityamakwana612 3 года назад

from my experiances women do not like or understand or appreciate straight talk,it works great on guys though

@jay_2433 3 года назад

I honestly think that a lot of the things that Alex talks about in his videos pertain to mostly Western women. The fact that he even makes videos like this indicate that there is a massive problem in the West and too much deep-rooted dysfunction. Romantic relationships shouldn't feel nor be this convoluted. Why even bother dealing with all of this and just go overseas. Not saying women are perfect overseas, but the odds of finding a stable/ kind girl are more in your favor and on top of that there aren't courts/ government around to screw you over.

@theatheistbear3117 3 года назад

He made a video addressing that western men have a lot more success with non-western women q long time ago.

@user-tp7wi4lt2b 3 года назад

I'm sorry to burst your bubble but going overseas solely for the reason of finding a girl/wife won't actually solve anything. Yes, maybe you'll find women who are willing to get into a relationship with you much more easily (mostly due to relative wealth and often an idealized view on the west) but if you are not extremely well-accustomed to the culture, worldview, way of life etc of that person and on top of that manage to find a healthy functioning balance of working out these differences in your relationship then it won't be a successful endeavour and you'll end up with a miserable marriage with zero communication and nothing fulfilling about it.

@jasonb5890 3 года назад

@@user-tp7wi4lt2b Exactly I would also advise him to be aware of the gold diggers overseas trust me they're at a whole new level

@jimothyworldbuilding3664 3 года назад

Government fuckery is actually a big one there, but no: the vast majority of the women who show interest in you are going to be doing so because you're from the West, because they think you're rich or can take them to the West. Finding a woman who is attracted to you because of your personality traits and your interests is so much harder when there's a gaggle of them fawning over your superficial perks.

@ruelguitar2k 3 года назад

Yup they're more submissive. But be cautious because overseas women have IG account, and they too have many options. I know this because i'm friends with them and most of their IG followers are western men. Meaning, you are competing with your fellow western men to get her. Find a filipina woman who is NOT looking for a foreigner. They are the ones who will truly love you because they're not gold diggers, because foreign men are not their first option, but they can change their mind and date a foreign man.

@christopherfritz3840 3 года назад

There is an excellent movie from the 90's that is based on this VERY topic. "The Tao of Steve".

@R.S_Howell 3 года назад

I know it was just an example, but christ. I don't understand why people roll in late to things nonchalantly... I panick like crazy on the rare occasion I am one minute late to work and apologise profusely, after calling my boss up to communicate that I will be late lol. I think lack of respect for people's time is a huge red flag. Yes, things happen. But if someone rocked up to a date without any communication beforehand and no apology without being prompted... Not for me.

@Stotralogy 3 года назад

Apologizing to boss isn't the same as apologizing to a date, you have to keep your job if you don't apologies to your boss, vast majority of women don't have any obligation towards men they are going to meet late on a date because in their mind they know that they have lot's of options if it doesn't work out.

@visancosmin8991 3 года назад

Late for work, lol. You are a slave if you feel bad for that. The problem is being late in a relationship.

@R.S_Howell 3 года назад

@@Stotralogy I was using work as an example, and then go on to say that valuing peoples time in a relationship is also important. (If not even more so). No need to be defensive.

@R.S_Howell 3 года назад

@@visancosmin8991If you read my entire comment, then you will see that I mentioned relationships. I was making the point that valuing peoples time is important in every aspect of life.

@visancosmin8991 3 года назад

@@R.S_Howell Work doesn't value you. If they would, they would give you a salary 10 times bigger. So if they don't respect you, why would you respect them ?

@bunnyboo6295 3 года назад

I agree with this guy. Men that aren't firm and will easy switch there opinions trying to be what you like is unattractive comes off that they would expect anyone or anything no one wants the person that's desperate. Leaves a feeling that the guy may not like you and is just adjusting cause they can't find anybody. Showing your standards and not letting people disrespect you is more attractive they acting like a push over.

@michael_canton 3 года назад

There's a time to be playful and teasing, and a time to let them know their behavior is not acceptable. This video addresses both responses in one date. But, what if your gut tells you to address it seriously up front and make a strong boundary out of the gate? Especially if a woman cancels a first or second date? I think there should be room for a guy to do that.

@theinktician 3 года назад

That's a good point. There are some that wil deliberately repeat their actions for the thrill too. I think you should be able to address it in a more serious way the second time

@josetheman239 3 года назад

Anyone who respects you will be there on time. Laughing about it just to play cool is rewarding bad behavior, the woman will probably lose respect for you after this.

@jking4224 3 года назад

20 minutes late and an half ass apologize and im out. I won't be a dick about it but that behavior is not ok with me. There are plenty of woman that will not waste my time and I rather spend my time with them instead

@masterexploder9668 3 года назад

Half ass apology = she's out. Cancelling a date without good reason = she's out. Also making woman or somebody else comfortable = means you are a beta who tries to be nice and please everybody.

@michaelk969 3 года назад

Addressing it seriously when it happens is more effective. The last time this happened to me, I dated an older woman overseas and she was about 45 minutes late and her profile pictures were at least 15 years old. In reality she was a cute silver-haired lady of 52. Once I saw her, I checked her off my list for that reason. I said nothing about her lateness because I had decided it was over before it started. But now I realize that my boundaries are not firm enough. I need to call a spade a spade when it happens. Generally, I need to stop being too nice. Yes, do not worry about their discomfort when they do objectionable things.

@zakosist 3 года назад

What you're saying sounds a lot more reasonable than what you would expect based on the title (I thought for a moment you want women to fear you or always be uncomfortable in your presence, not just in certain context) it actually makes perfect sense. Always have some self respect.

@thomasj2832 3 года назад

Good, I’m glad I stumbled upon and heard this. I thought there was something wrong with me. Women always tell me I’m intimidating, but yet they can’t leave me alone.

@nemec1670 3 года назад

All "Simps" should watch this. However every man has to take something from this video.

@gwho 2 года назад

@Dan Swildens yet no one talks about it.

@Evoke 3 года назад

The layer you miss is a man will tolerate bs from women, if all they want is a bs relationship.

@Tormalima 3 года назад

Agreed. I understand why most men's channels don't actively mention the things men must change in themselves regardless of women. It will turn away many weak men and hurt their views. Weak men get into bs relationships. If you want a good relationship, you gotta be on point.

@jasonfurumetarualkemisto5917 3 года назад

@@Tormalima Thankfully his channel and some others tell you that if you want high quality women, you have to be a high value male

@karmad.twelve6613 3 года назад

Alex is right, I remember a couple of years ago, there was a girl I worked with at a grocery store. I thought she was cute, and didn't realize she thought the same about me, until I went and judged her about her job (playfully) and from that point on we became more acquainted and then dated for a few months. My personal experience reflects the information in this video quite well.

@Diego-Designs 3 года назад

I was initially thinking about this in a negative way when it was posted. But after watching the video it does make sense and I commend you for it. 👍

@mustaphadoaa1024 3 года назад

Thank you, Alexander. I did this with a woman that was bombarding me with questions. She said that she was sorry for disturbing me, and I said that you disturbed me, but I will help you. I said it in a funny teasing way demonstrating that I'm the celebrity and she is my fan.

@dinsel9691 3 года назад

Women must f***ing LOVE me.. When I walk in one side on the road, my female acquaintances cross the road and walk on the other side.

@NeoZeta 3 года назад

XD golden!

@axagram1529 3 года назад

I'd be scared too if some dude in full Spartan armour was walking down the street towards me.

@dinsel9691 3 года назад

@@axagram1529 what? I do not have a Spartan Armour suit??? I am a humble man, only wearing my birthday suit, with a grin from one ear to the other, and a swing from one knee to the other.!

@axagram1529 3 года назад

(It's your profile picture bro ;) )

@HenryDube72 3 года назад

@@dinsel9691 maybe you give off Ted Bundy vibes 😂

@cathycarter3 3 года назад

I do feel uncomfortable. I have a healthy fear around my husband. He’s powerful, loving and knows how to handle me. Ultimately he loves me; ultimately I respect him; his strength, his knowledge of self and his self control.

@josewmeldondo 3 года назад

Fear wouldn't be the word, more like, respect. You don't step on him, he doesn't step on you. And both comprehend each other

@cathycarter3 2 года назад

@J King yes, mental fortitude, physical strength, discipline in eating, wisdom to do the right thing for us as a married couple, you know… be a man like his dad raised him to be. I’m so lucky; I never take him for granted. But I have a servant’s heart, so that helps me.

@frusia123 2 года назад

What kind of fear is healthy?

@cathycarter3 2 года назад

@@frusia123 it’s more about respect. His unsurpassed care, concern, and regard for me. If you’ve ever loved to this capacity, you know of which I speak.

@frusia123 2 года назад

@@cathycarter3 No need to get passive aggressive 😉 Maybe respect is simply a better word for that than fear

@thegiftedteacher 3 года назад

The best part is when he’s talking about creepy Silicon Valley invading your privacy, and then all the pelicans start squawking in unison.

@SK-zm8iu 3 года назад

Thank you, Alexander! I really appreciate you

@markzajac9993 2 года назад

I agree with this and I also agree that it is EXTREMELY DIFFICULT to do. I have prided myself in the past for being, 'easy company' but that just might have been code for having very loose boundaries with people.

@federicoperezybarra3085 3 года назад

The main problem is when you're not trying to make her comfortable because you think that it's the best move but it's just the way you are. You know that you're not going to get anyone this way but it's incredible difficult to change.

@Treadstone7 3 года назад

Bit different story but I was once asked by a female coworker to take over a shift for her. First, I tried to find some excuse that I've already been busy all the time but I quickly figured that it wouldn't do any good. So I just told her I was not going to do it just because I didn't want to. Hell she was mad at first, how I could say something like that. But it all flattened out quickly and I had no negative consequences whatsoever. That experience made it a lot easier for me to realise that I don't have to be everyone's darling and that goes for general relations as well as dating. People just take everything for granted these days... Just stand up for yourself if you feel your boundaries are being infringed. As long as you are not being an egoist all the time, noone is gonna hate you for it.

@RynoZ 3 года назад

ALEXANDER...how can I say this...you are a beacon, a fabulous thinking human being doing a major service by sharing valid pertinent gems to us almost immediately from the minute your video begins. No one else gets to the main point at the intro of their video. Do NOT change this strategy.

@JD-ov5ew 3 года назад

This is bullshit. If she is late she does not respect you. You are under no obligation to be “playful or flirty” with it. Drop her immediately and tell her exactly why. If you value yourself and your time do not tolerate this type of behavior and move on to someone who actually respects you and your time

@kokomolucian 3 года назад

some times I prefer not to watch your videos, they are full of facts, I feel is less stressfull to live in a lie

@holdencaulfield3102 3 года назад

Excellent info! I’ve been guilty of this more than I like to admit

@TrippyLiberty 3 года назад

Why "you're like a brother to me" is the ultimate form of being "friendzoned" (and why "friendzoned" even equals No Intimacy in the first place)... Because too much Comfort is Anti-Seductive

@theatheistbear3117 3 года назад

Unless you live in Alabama. ;D

@FGj-xj7rd 3 года назад

Alabama 100.

@HenryDube72 3 года назад

@2 Nep8id6 why would you continue helping her even when she asks? Cut off any form of interactions except greetings when neccessary. You should make sure she's aware you are not interested in anything other than a relationship. 🤷🏾‍♂️

@RiptoGakt 3 года назад

theoretical scenario... Me: "Oh, like a brother to you? Does that mean you like your brother in that way?" [...] Me: "Relax, I'm f*cking with you."

@G31M1 3 года назад

Alexander completely changed my perspective again

@eQuariuz Год назад

If she's "always" and "all the time" cancelling dates on a man, I wouldn't even waste the oxygen communicating boundaries to her. She's cut.

@SwaggSkillz1992 3 года назад

My boi Alex droppin another Gem!!! 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

@kylejaynes296 3 года назад

if the woman can't show up on time to a date, I would just drop her, it's a red flag. there are so many single women out there these days it's just not worth it to waste your time on someone who does not respect your time.

@terrortoby47 3 года назад

Your videos are awesome. Thanks a lot for your work!

@chrism4008 3 года назад

When you say "its a great way to support the creator" you make it sound like youre just the actor hired to play Alexander Grace to me, lol

@alexandrufilipescu1301 2 года назад

I am always making them feel uncomfortable, making fun of them and even touching whatever I want. Also behaving like a gentleman when I want. It really worked out for me!

@jc84com 3 года назад

Quality content right here.

@Palpus_X 3 года назад

Thank you Alexander

@lorepolaniac 3 года назад

This is true and goes both ways. I dated a guy that told me that it was so hard for him to get disappointed and it made me question him.

@chiderapius1070 3 года назад

Hi Lorena I would love to know you more

@paccawacca4069 2 года назад

It doesnt go both ways. Men shouldnt fear women.

@easy8077 3 года назад

What if you're just reacting stoic, like in the date example: Girl comes late and I act unbothered because I am ACTUALLY unbothered, BUT that also means that I would've not been bothered if she didn't appear at all, doesn't that put me in a mindset of abundance? She couldn't trigger an emotional reaction even if she wanted to and I could and will leave whatever we have behind me at any time 🤔 Edit: ... at any time as soon as I believe she's not worth it

@simontmn 2 года назад

If she doesn't turn up she just wasted your time - and your time is not abundant.

@user-lt4dm4zx3z Год назад

That's not stoicism, that's autism.

@easy8077 Год назад

@@user-lt4dm4zx3z being unbothered by external circumstances I have no power over is autistic...? Damn, those Greeks were really just mentally ill...

@user-lt4dm4zx3z Год назад

@@easy8077 M0r0n

@easy8077 Год назад

@@user-lt4dm4zx3z all along, not even a good troll you're putting up

@williamedwards4151 3 года назад

Your videos are hard truth bombs. Love it. Subbed.

@ricardogalindo8794 3 года назад

Good video, it reminds me of an experience with a lady that I asked out, got rejected. I took it like a man, and went on with my life. Well, this lady ended up taking me out of her ig and not contacting me. The interesting thing, and coincidence, her yoga place is next to my jiu-jitsu place. Well, I already seen her park across my jiu-jitsu place, she knew where my jiu-jitsu place is because I posted it on my ig, and she "liked" those pictures before unfollowing me. I told this story and situation to a female coworker, and she said this "wow...you really mind F'cked her. Not only! Did you took her rejection like it was nothing, but the fact that she's parking around your space. Means that she subconsciously is wondering about you. She knows the risk of running into you being that close. And she still does it! Trust me! Women do these actions when they're confuse about a guy and are curious about them. Especially! Very attractive women. When a man takes a rejection, it totally F'ups our heads. We start to think...wtf? Why isn't he acting like the others? Am I not attractive anymore? ." It's that feeling, Alexander Grace is talking about , the uncomfortable feeling of "missing out" or "feeling bad." A man, should be consistently giving this feeling to women. Not the "friendly" feeling.

@OmkarIndulkar342 3 года назад

This man is spitting hard truth man 🔥💯

@julianblackycaesar7472 3 года назад

Treat em mean, to keep em keen.

@Vicerega 3 года назад

It be awesome to see you on the Fresh and Fit podcast!!

@craigfrober316 3 года назад

Nah. Imo he's above that reality TV-esque trash.

@blindfaith2934 3 года назад

@@craigfrober316 yeah. fresh and fit are clowns cause they go for the most plastic shallow girls ever.

@ondrasvoboda4512 3 года назад

Dude I seriously envy you - those pelicans are so cool, we have only ducks here 😂

@maks886 3 года назад

When I graduate and get a job I will pay for your Patreon so you can buy a comb and fix your hair haha

@yourlandladysson6395 3 года назад

Lol. I believe he's balding so he's using the hair to cover the hair line. Its on purpose.

@shubham7315 3 года назад

Amazing video pure facts i will apply these steps in my life

@murphsviews 3 года назад

Brilliant advice 💪

@raisikcz4466 3 года назад

My dad always said that man should always be above woman. It sounds harsh, but truth is harsh.

@math_no7317 3 года назад

I remember when I figured this out when I tried an experiment on myself. When I felt calm, I’d move less. But if I start to freak out or my emotions are getting out hand, I either express that emotion, or pacify it. So I started to imagine ladies I have met and they are very loving. Almost loving to where they get super focused on one thing only and are bold. They loved to socialize. There are women who can be different from the crowd, I want to know if being a gender can influence your type of thinking. That, and how has it been shaped by culture

@math_no7317 3 года назад

For me, I’m not that emotional, but I tend to have more willpower to deal with my own emotions than I can see other people’s. I don’t know if it’s a gender thing, I have no idea.

@initiallyinterested74 3 года назад

I disagree on this. 20 minutes late with no message and I move on. F all the 'ooh you've been a naughty girl' crap. I think by making light of it you are accepting of it. BTW my wife(RIP) was 30 minutes late to the altar.

@kostasbiker9302 3 года назад

Not to be that guy, but a woman late for her own wedding and 30 minutes (more than enough to bust a nut) is kind of a bad look.

@julla1416 3 года назад

This is very good.

@krishnarao1044 3 года назад

What if she disrespected you in public or made it really embarassing for you ? How do you confront her then ? I know that's a low quality woman, but is there any way to deal with it ??

@alexduta7469 3 года назад

Yeah, it's called ditching her and moving on. She belongs to the streets.

@spacemeter3001 3 года назад

Just leave

@GottEddy 3 года назад

What might help is to write down that you won't tolerate such behavior and you're out. Keep it short and simple but also very direct and sufficient. The writing is just a practice so you have the right words when it comes to the situation.

@rajakghosh6602 3 года назад

If she disrespect a guy in public, she'll 10 times worse at home. Immediately end it and move on. A lot of guys latches on to disrespectful girls after the fact because in guy's opinion he can't do better than her. Do that and she will lose all respect for you.

@krishnarao1044 3 года назад

@@Warbr33d Thanks, just what I was looking for.

@przemyslawkolodziej3847 3 года назад

That's a great video :D

@chaos8126 3 года назад

It's more of if she feels anything at all, being uncomfortable alot is no-go

@kimmywimmy7305 3 года назад

I’d say yes, you’re right. But if this person thinks this behavior is ok to begin with, it will resurface later and you’ll be battling it again. You’ll get her to behave for a little while, but she’ll go back as soon as you let your guard down. That operating level is her homeostasis, and she’ll go back to it as soon as she can. Is this a battle you really want for your future?

@heavensea141 3 года назад

Respect and trust its earned trought action over time '

@Xenkyro 3 года назад

I wish this didn't have the title bit does. This is something I wish I had learned years ago.

@isabellezoey 4 месяца назад

Haha, how did you get those pelicans to freak out at exactly the right time? 😄

@bloodprince113 3 года назад

Could you please provide some example interactions? I hear what you're saying but it's difficult to determine how to handle these situations

@josephdiaz4722 3 года назад

For me too, but I guess we have to learn by trial and error

@tracys3096 2 года назад

Eg. If a man's late, I say "hey, what happened?" I listen and I dont make a scene. However, depending on his demeanor and his response, will depend on whether I have a second date or not. Should be the same for guys.

@mattgilmore6342 3 года назад

Getting her uncomfortable tells her that you can leave at any moment and be with someone better.

@jongolden2223 3 года назад

This is Gold

@barnswardrowan3022 3 года назад

what impresses me most is how fluidly he speaks

@iamKadusa 3 года назад

u just mindblowing my mind really hats off

@tomj7382 2 года назад

Best video of yours I've ever seen

@eidotaidot8577 3 года назад

As a woman who has social anxiety a promise u if I don’t feel some what confidant and trusting with you nothing is going to happen and I’m gonna stare at the floor the entire time. It’s something I’m working on.

@androssteague 3 года назад

You spoke about this a while back in one of your videos where you said a woman should have a healthy level of fear of her man.

@Peteristrate 3 года назад

Soooo ffff true !! :))

@RGMRT Год назад

Bruh i got ghosted literally 5 hours before our date. She went radio silent for a week and came up with the reason of her being unable to go is 'I forgot it was the date'. That felt tenfold more painful than my first broke-up.