as a trans girl in a relationship with a transmasc boy I just love to see you guys succeeding and thriving. Also Denmark sounds really nice sometimes. You guys are lovely.
That's so wonderful! And thank you so much, that's so kind of you ❤️ Denmark is really nice most of the time and we're very grateful to live here 🥰 you're lovely too ✨️
I feel Jackie because I also love Dir en Grey and Jess cannot fucking stand it lmao she hates most of my music tbh, you guys are actually lucky to have so much musical overlap because we have very little
I love the kitty names! I have a similar naming scheme here lol. My first ever cat (rip) was called Spartacus (or Sparta for short) And my good ol' floofy boy is called Perseus, Percy in short :)
Aaahhh kindred kitty spirit! Those names are so good!! 😍 we planned on calling persephone Percy for short too but with the Danish accent, it ended up sounding more like "pussy" 😂 so we just use her full name, but she responds to it just fine so 😂❤️
For the relationship part: i had a couple of relationships where in the beginning they thougt my female outer appearance is cool. But as it became more part of everyday life (and i have to explain that i am not a woman everyday to someone, and that will not change) they kinda grew annoyed or even aggressive to it. In the end i found it is better to be alone and accept myself than to be in a relationship with someone who only put up with your quirks rather than accepts or even love them.
Just found you because your Dating a Cis Person ended up in my recommended videos, and wow it was really cathartic to see another trans-cis wlw couple sharing the emotions and dynamics that can show up in a relationship similar to my own (I’m a trans woman married to a cis woman), so I HAD to see what else you two had to say. This is the second one I’ve watched so far and omg I love you two already, and I’m so excited I found this channel! Can’t wait to catch up on the other videos and I look forward to seeing more in the future!
10.3K as I'm writing this comment! congratulations!!!! 🎉 And I love your Q&As. they are always so genuine. It feels more like catching up with friends. You two are just amazing. " a lot of trans girls are little data nerds" ✅
Hey! I found out about your channel 4 days ago while at work and I binged your entire videos from the old ones to the most recent ones, and every video was really entertaining, normally my job is a really boring office job but your videos saved me!, I am a trans girl in a relationship with a cis woman for 4 years and we have known each other for 10, we started our relationship young as well so I was really surprised with all the similarities our relationship has to yours it's like we found our dopplerganger relationship, anyways I really want to let you know that I think you re both so wholesome and pretty and I love your content c:
Awwww what an honor to have kept you company during work! Thank you so much for watching all our videos :') you probably know us better than we know ourselves by now, haha! And that's so wonderful! It's amazing to find kindred spirits ❤️
13:15 My questions 🤩 thank y'all for your thoughtful answers. Jackie that sounds familiar. I'm glad you found people you can be bendy around😂 I would prolly watch the vid about selfpublishing/writing/Anyas book or Jackies music. I'm sloooowly working on a poetry book. Congrats on near 12k!
The way you pronounced Persephone was actually pretty accurate to the greek! (i am born and raised in Greece myself). Its just that we put the accent on the "o" and make the "e" longer. Something like "Perseph*o*nee" (not sure how to explain it). Anyway great video!
I love hearing about your experience! I am 40 y/o trans woman who started her HRT regimen about a year ago. My wife of 20 years has been loving and accepting throughout and loves the way my body and mental state is shaping out. Do you guys run into older trans folks? I would like your general take on us from some younger folks. Thanks for your vids!
@@WivesVsWorld I guess my question is: do you feel like there is a cultural difference between young trans peeps (< 35 yo) and those who transition later in life? I have only been exposed to older trans folks online and it seems like the added pressures of later adulthood (marriage, children, longer-term employment, etc.) causes a larger generational rift than I see in non-trans populations. Sorry I was vague before.
DIR EN GREEEEEYYYYYYYYYYYY YEESSS i've been feeling strongly connected with Jackie's transition life experience 'cause for me it's been the same, with the BIG difference being that im from north of México and until 2 years ago I started my transition (after actually knowing since 2013 i was trans but not being able to express it for the fear of being disowned by my family), but seeing your videos and always being like "I FELT LIKE THAT!" and now a Dir en Grey mention??? I feel listened, aknowledged, and part of something. Sorry but that just sent me straight to heaven. TY so much for your videos, it has helped me a lot :')
I have a few questions for you both, i hope you might answer. I'm new to your content, btw. I'm a late bloomer, just come out as a Lesbian. I'm drawn to masculine presenting women, but their body is every bit as gorgeous as any other woman. I genuinely hope people don't ask you the questions I've been asked lately. 'if you like butch women, why dont you just try to date a man?' I DID date a man once. I saw his attractiveness, but there was absolutely no connection, no matter how we tried. We've remained friends, but the intimacy just wasn't there, no matter how much he tried. Another thing is the roles. We get asked if Ky is the 'man' in our relationship? No , I am femme presenting, but we are equals. Ky is incredibly caring toward me, and me toward them. Ky is physically powerful, and I am getting there with that lol. At the beginning, Ky struggled to be ok with the male parts of who i am. She prefers me to be all femme. Have you had experiences like this at the beginning? Thank you so much for sharing your relationship on here
Congrats on 10k! I'm so glad you have a wider audience as you absolutely deserve it :) I feel like your channel has grown at a similar rate to my transition as I remember discovering it around the time I first started socially transitioning and now I'm nearly 5 months on hormones! I've found your videos a constant source of comfort in what's been a rollercoaster journey. Thank you Anya & Jackie ❤
Thank you, we're so happy you like our videos 🥰❤️ Maybe it's connected and we have you to thank for it? 😂❤️ Anyway congratulations on the nearly 5 months, that's huge! ❤️
Ooof! Dir En Grey and Girugamesh!!! I had their albums in my teen years! Have either of you heard of a band called Sadie? Their style was top tier and their music grasped me during my emo years, lol. Also, Kim Dracula (not J Rock but hell'a talented artist)❤
Yay! Thanks for answering my question! It seems we have a lot of similar VK/Japanese Rock/metal favs, which is awesome! A few I really love are; Dir en Grey, the Gazette, Girugamesh, Kagrra, Kra, Luna Sea, Matenrou Opera, Nocturnal Bloodlust, Phantasmagoria, Vivid, X Japan, Moi Dix Mois, and many others of course. I would say my favorite overall though is lynch., and I absolutely love every album from them. Highest recommendation if you haven't listened to them before. Anyway, I got into all the VK/J-Rock/Metal stuff when I was 17/18 ('98/'99 time frame), and it became one of my preferred genres really quickly. I actually very much think that whole scene has had a big influence on my choice to finally transition. Anyway, great video, and btw, an entire video talking about this stuff would be pretty rad, too!
That's a great list right there - also a huge Phantasmagoria fan here, though Anya finds them a bit overwhelming 😂 Lynch is awesome - we listen to the Gallows album from time to time! ❤️ Me too, omg! Playing in a VK cover band was a huge part of my journey, as I got to play around with a more feminine aesthetic and blame it on the style 😂❤️
@@WivesVsWorld Haha, yeah Phantasmagoria can be a bit much, but I still love them. I find their songs to be insanely catchy. Oh cool, good to hear that you know Lynch! I've got a big box set of like 10 of their albums, which I pull out a couple times a year. That's really cool that you played in a VK cover band! I dreamed about something similar years ago, but could never find likeminded individuals to make it a reality. Oh well. If I do start a channel someday, I'll definitely have to tell my story related to all the VK stuff. I could call the video, "Visual Kei made me trans," or something, hahah! Anyway, thanks for the video, and congrats on all the recent subscribers!
I was freaking out when you said Dir En Grey, it has to be a trans woman thing. That made me so happy, I still have a physical copy of the marrow of a bone." The Final is my all-time favorite song. Don't know if you were also fans of X Japan, considering the older style, but omg the validation and euphoria.
Maybe so, at least for me the VK scene was very alluring due to the whole playing with gender presentation thing 😂❤️ I looove X Japan - even got to see them live in London in 2017! 😍❤️
@WivesVsWorld I'm so jealous, I never had the chance to see them. As for vk, that and today's "genderless style" have been inspirational in my clothing designs. It's been hard finding cute stuff, so I make it myself. So good to know creators with such great taste. Glad I could sub.🙂💚
It's already 10k I'm so proud of you. Edit: OMG a fellow Versailles fan! Love them. Oh and a quote about too much of a good thing? "Everything in moderation. Including moderation." - Oscar Wilde
I just discovered your channel and love how relatable and funny it is. Thank you for sharing your experiences!🖤🖤🖤 Had I not met my wife, I would have been a lovely promiscuous menace👀👀 I wouldn’t trade her for anything. Myrkur is awesome! This resonates because my wife and I have vastly different music tastes. I used to listen exclusively to metal, but after starting feminizing hormones, my taste got extreme😈 Now I can’t get enough of extreme tech death. My wife prefers pop and Chinese Drama OSTs, but I enjoy all kinds of music, so we often listen to OSTs together 🤣 Sometimes, she even likes bands I love, like Leprous and Bad Omens. Interestingly, I’ve always disliked when my partners liked the same music as I do. Weird, right?
So happy to have you here! Thank you so much for watching ❤️ Hahaha seems like we have a few things in common! So glad it resonated 🥰 and thank you for sharing your experience. That is indeed quite interesting 😂 wonder why that is!
I do love that first question, like genuinely as much as a few key historical figures will likely be discriminatory and im trans, queer, and black im still kinda curious about what it might be like to have a convo with them. Maybe I'd just get other people to talk to em and just make sure im within ear-shot 😂
Hahahah yeah, history hasn't been kind to a lot of people, and unless you're a white cis man, it might be hard to find someone you'd acrually want to sit down with 😂 but there'd still be a lot of interesting topics to explore!
@@PeterBondeVillain Ville mega gerne hvis jeg kunne, men det er en god, crusty blanding af sange downloaded på limewire i sin tid, der enten ikke er til at finde nogen steder, eller aldrig er kommet på Spotify, så det er simpelthen ikke muligt :') den ligger kun som mp3filer på min eksterne harddisk hahaha ❤️
Hard agree on the 'leap of faith' thing. I had two options, unalive or transition. I'm sure there are tons of different journeys that people have gone on and are going on, but I decided I couldn't not.
oh man... I haven't thought about the Sakura Con meme in so long It's a con I go to every year & I completely forget most people only know it from that meme :P
@@WivesVsWorld I'm deadly serious. I've only found your channel today. 💔💔 Looking forward too working my way through your channel there's a lot off it! 😲
There’s a trans group connected to LGBT+ Denmark that meet Friday evenings on weeks with odd numbers. Everyone participating can be as anonymous as they want and all information exchanged is confidential. The group meetings is run by volunteers. There may be similar groups/organisations near you.
Love that track ❤️ Uuh, the one with the big cathedral in the background? 👀 Malice Mizer was truly willing to go above and beyond with their liveshows 😭❤️
Hey you two c: Forst of all, congrats on how well your channel is doing! You both seem like wonderful, lovely people. A short question for Jackie, if you don’t mind: How do you take your hormones? Pills, Gel, Injection? If that’s too private, I totally get it. Right now I’m on gel but looking to switch to injection. thanks in advance! Greetings c: You two are amazing, I adore you and your videos!
Hi 😊❤️ Thank you so much! It's been really amazing these past weeks to welcome so many new people ❤️❤️ Not at all! I take estradiol pills, which for me is the easiest both to remember and actually take 😂 I've heard good things about gel, injection and patches, so I'm curious to hear what you think about it if you so end up switching 🥰
Thanks so much for your reply! You’re right, gel is said to be quiet good. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work well with my skin, since it’s not really taking up transdermal medicine :/ Pills seems to be the easiest but it’s not really common in Germany because of the trombosis risk. Gel, patches and injections are said to have less side effects. But if pills work for you, that is amazing! Unfortunately, it is super difficult to get injections in Germany because simply not enough people request it to make it a widely offered option. Ah, it’s just a struggle. Your videos help so much tho, it’s such a comfy atmosphere, I love that (and you two haha) :3 Greetings!
I really love these q and a videos. My girlfriend and I parted ways before my transition but we are still the closest of friends. Over the years since our breakup she has shown more and more interest in the LGBT community. My question is this. Before you acknowledged your queerness what made you question yourself?
Aw that's so wonderful! Happy to hear you've remained friends ❤️ That's a really good question! I don't think we have a simple answer, so maybe we should do a video on it? 🤔
I love MUCC as well. I feel like they match my taste in 2024 just as fine as my taste in 2008 honestly. I like your taste in VK in general tho 😄 Can you spell the name of the danish artist making metal and folk music? I wanna look him up. ❤
@@WivesVsWorld I looked her up. I had no idea she's a lady. 😅 So much for stupid stereotypes in my head. Her voice is amazing! Listening to House Carpenter right now 😍
For me, a lot of attention-grabbing sounds, and even some ambient noise, hold equal weight in my mind, so they tend to get mixed up, eg. if I'm talking to someone, and some other sound is nearby (like traffic noise, or a baby crying), my concentration is split, and I miss what the conversation was about. Because of this, I don't really get into music with lyrics unless they're musically great, and even then, the lyrics often just drown out anyway. Let's be honest though, a LOT of popular songs are just the vocals ontop of the same repeating chords. It's boring. As a result, I don't follow music trends, or what artist is topping what chart. If I listen to anything, it's instrumental in nature, eg. classical, game soundtracks, etc., especially if I have an emotional attachment to it. Like a Dark Souls or Hollow Knight piece will remind me of the fight in the game, and the times I got wiped out by the enemy, or when I finally beat them. It becomes awkward whenever someone asks what music I''m into. I know that they're just making small talk, and are looking for some generic answer, but that's just not something that I can provide.
I can’t wait to go to prom so I can have a lot of fun and dance with the man or woman of my dreams and I hope to win prom queen and probably have a Carrie white experience 👸🏼🪣🐷🩸🔥
