Coming out as trans to my partner - Transition: The early years 

I love this. My wife is transitioning and I don’t see her any differently, I only love her more for being true to herself and trusting me to be her partner. She’s a parent with me and our 5 month old baby will be raised with an open mind, never doubting that his parents are loving towards one another and towards him.

My wife and I watched this and smiled as we realized that we were not alone in this journey. I appreciate the love you share with each other as well as your viewers. I do remember the day of reckoning and coming out...one of the bumps in the road that make us and our relationships that much stronger! Thank you for sharing this beautiful story.

The most important thing my wife ever said to me when I came out as trans, (even though she couldn't understand it) was..."I married you. I didn't marry a man, any man, or the man of my dreams. I didn't marry for gender or sexual orientation, I married you and we will figure this out come hell or high water." This was probably about one of the few times I have ever cried in my life. That statement has kept me going when I wanted to give up so many times.

You two are so cute together! I’m also a trans woman and my wife and I have been together for nearly 25 years, your story is almost identical to ours! Isn’t it wonderful how someone can blossom when they are able to be their authentic self with someone who believes and supports them?!

After the first couple of weeks with my gf I told her about my gender identity and that I didn't need to transition to be happy. 1 year later still together and I came out to her again and she said she was gonna love me no matter what. Now I'm on hrt!

Anya, thank you for being such a great support for my trans-sister. It really was a breath of fresh air to hear that you are so there for your wife/partner.

I watched this in sobs of tears. I kept myself hidden until my dad died. I was 45. I'm 54 now and think I've wasted most of my life. I'm loving your contact. Mange tak x

Never have I ever seen such a beautiful and romantic relationship. My partner and I are big fans and so very impressed at how wise the both of you are in so many ways.

I always look forward to new content from you gals! Your videos always move me emotionally. I laugh; I cry; and I always feel lighter at the end. Like a burden has been lifted from my shoulders. While I agree with your being open and honest come what may advice, it’s so difficult because of the personal ignorance (not knowing what’s going to happen or where you’ll finally end-up on the gender spectrum), the pain, the anguish and the terror we feel, especially in the beginning. Much of what one might say will ultimately prove wrong anyway. At least that was my experience. Thanks again for the wonderful video!!

Thanks for telling this story. It's great hearing both of you talk openly about Jackie's transition and your relationship. Hearing both of your perspectives is really nice.

You ladies are both beautiful and Anya is such a sweetheart for continuing to give Jackie unconditional love.

I love your story! Keep sharing your videos!! Thank you!!

Such a beautiful story! I’m so happy for both of you

Oh my gosh, it is so comforting to see this video. My fiancé recently came out to me as trans, and a few days later I finally came to terms with my sexuality as a lesbian. We are so much happier now that we are not suppressing these things, but we are still very new to things being from the Midwest and all... I love my trans gf, and I want to do my best to support her through her transition process, but I find myself worrying about her attraction to me changing as her hormones change. (Any advice would be so appreciated... Thank you for reading my comment☺️💕)

-holy shit I haven't heard or thought about that Genitals song in over a decade -oh whoops, maybe these overalls aren't the best paired with this mic :') -it really is strange and interesting to think about that period in time where, like you said we didn't have this vocabulary to talk about these things, and I think about how much harder it must have been for you to navigate these feelings and these changes without any examples, representation, or even words to discuss it, but to me that also goes to show just how... real and genuine being trans is, because even without any of those things, it was still happening and could have never been ignored -absolutely agree about how breakups are far from tragedies, on the contrary they are always a good thing! they wouldn't be happening if both parties were happy

I wish I could've had this conversation with my wife a long time ago. But, we didn't and now we're working out way through my transitioning. I just started my HRT and I'm so thrilled! But she isn't. She's happy that I'm being my authentic self, but she's worried that we're going to lose what we had. She can't get over the lable and a few other things. Loved the video, hope to see more.

Thank you so so much for all you share! As a trans woman myself, I find you girls so extremely genuine and interesting! You’re the kind of people I’d be always hanging out with as friends!!!

When I came out to my ex it was an immediate dealbreaker for both of us and I couldn't be happier finding other people that show me the love I need and deserve!😊

I have always been open about being trans with potential partners that I have grown feelings for well before I decided to transition. It was not always easy and some girls reacted negatively, but I was being honest with them and myself. Most appreciated that as we knew things could not work. Other girls became my partners and were quite supportive. It always encouraged honest communication regardless of outcome. It was sure hard to do the first couple of times though.

You two are so cute 😍 it's really lovely to see

I wish I had that kind of support. I'm extremely happy for you both. It's terribly scary and lonely transitioning without a best friend. I hid it for decades, finally came out to wife and family two years ago. In some situations, I suppose unhappy and miserable, is better than destroying a family. It's amazing to me how anyone can make changes to improve their life and well being, but if you are Trans and make changes, you are selfish, uncaring and a bad person.

OMG your wife is AMAZING, I hope as a trans lesbian I find the love you’ve found. But I’m not holding my breath.

you both look like you came out of a barbie set! thanks for your content

I love you both!! Your amazing

You have the best communication you can really hear each other!!!

Thank you for this. As a newly hatched egg, I find this very hopeful as a way of telling my wife.

You are such a beautiful couple, I am so envious. Love you 🙏❤️🙏

I transitioned at a similar time, I was ordering oestrogen online because of long UK NHS waiting lists, and holy fuck the language Jackie uses about herself at the time she began exploring who she is is a mirror of mine I transitioned because it was the only way I could envision to have the smallest chance of living past 30. I also wanted nothing to do with the community because my own anecdotal experience was of people who were drama llamas, falling apart at a slight, and just not robust. Obviously I only saw a sliver of the whole of these humans, but I didn't want to be seen as that. I am a very practical ADHD human who when shit gets hard and chaotic is in their prime. I was shite at being a boy, in my heart I was a tomboy queer woman. I was a live sound engineer, and doing masculine jobs to reinforce the "you're a boy you're a boy you're a boy", because trans women have to be precious flowers of femininity. I'm a loud and crass human, boisterous and chaotic, most comfortable in shorts and a vest. The two things I would would love to go back and tell myself are: - you can absolutely be a tomboy queer woman and be trans. Do it. Own it. It's you. - things take time. It'll be hard, you'll be worried of losing people, jobs, housing. But, you're nearly 40, and engaged to the woman who gets you and all of your trauma. You don't need alcohol to cope anymore. You have a great pair of tits thanks to the mild androgen insensitivity intersexness and the family genetics on both sides. And you're happy. So. Very. Happy. You got this kiddo

Idk why it recommended ur channel to me THIS FCKIN LATE , i'm trans myself , pre-everything and oh my goodness i'm soo glad that i did find ur channel , subbed , Love u both (: and ur content

YOU TO ARE AMAZING AND I'M SO HAPPY FOR U BOTH! HUGS, RILEY

I think that would also be what I would tell my teenage self... If you really love someone, you should trust them enough to have the opportunity to love you as you are. Granted, I think maybe that would have been a bit too advanced for me to understand back then... I think what I really needed at that time was just for someone who cared for me to tell me "its going to be okay, its okay to be who you want to be. You will still be loved". Unfortunately, I nobody ever told me this as a kid, and I went through most of my life thinking that I had to take this to the grave. Until I couldn't do it anymore. Fortunately, my wife accepts me for who I am :)

My journey: "I'm a guy but I hate it" -> "I'm a feminine boy" -> "Oh no I'm ageing in a masculine way stoppppp" -> "OK fine yeah I'll give things a go but I'm not hopeful" -> "I love women but I have doubts that women could love me so I'm just going to be with men" -> "I'm a lesbian, I'm somehow actually attractive to women despite my doubts, but it's still lonely and oh no there's a pandemic now" I can relate to being ignorant of what transness was, and the awful portrayals of trans women in media really, really didn't help. Sometimes I wish I could've known earlier, but in hindsight I know it would've been impossible for me to transition earlier than I did. I didn't have the money for it back then. I'm thankful things worked out the way they did.

Who doesn't know the "Show me your genitals" song?! Great video as always.

You two really do inspire me and my girlfriend (am trans lesbian too 💜)

: "Honey, I'm trans." : "Oh really? Me too!"

You are so ispiring for me, you are the proof that love can survive over a transition. I'm facing so much troubles and depressions since 2 years when I came out to my partner. She says that she don't know if she will stay with me, we have two kids and some days I can't stay strong. How can I convice her that gender is not the most important in a relationship ? Thank you. Eloïse from France.

Lucky are those couples that love with the person and not what the person has to offer.

You are encouraging. Years ago, I came out to my then wife. It was a disaster! We stayed together, in part because of children and in part because we both made a marriage commitment. But it was a disaster for me. Maybe for her too. We eventually divorced. She died in 2010. I went through very hard times from 2001 to 2019. (I worked as a pet sitter & dog walker. I loved the pets but didn't make much money, And it was very irregular.) I have not had a girlfriend since 2001. Althogh I did have a strong friendship with a woman who retired and moved to Florida in 2014. I retired in 2019. I just started to get my life together and then in 2020, Covid Lock Downs. I am still locked down, but I may change that soon! The Lockdowns made me more depressed. I learned skills for evading the worst of depression, but there are still malingering after effects. I feel old and fat and think no sensible woman would be interested n me. I've become a recluse and happy with my cats. (Yes, I'm an Old Cat Transwoman!) You encourage me. I see you two and think, "Somewhere, out there, there may be a woman, a true love, for me!" (I wish I reached this state 50 years ago! Whatever.)

I need to find a partner like that I'm just coming out at 49 years old and want to start taking hormones but can't see myself doing it alone. Any advice please.

Quite lovely and cozy.

I love you girls, I'm thankful I found you.

I'd also love to hear Anya's take on how it was for her to transition from a straight passing relationship to a visibly queer relationship?

Being someone from India, whatever you said about people misunderstanding trans people is going on here right now and I hate it. Tbh I hate it.

So much fun 😊

Also jade I had a similar experience

You mentioned that you started hormones estradiol did you not take spironolactone too? And this is a question that a lot of us would have for you. Did you get your SRS or no?

What a beautiful video, I wish I had a partner like that

1:38 "definitely not gonna be a man, you went to japan" oh I love that rhyme 😂

I want my Anya too. I can see so much love between you two and I need that too. I wish I had what Jackie has.

This is the hardest thing in the transwomen community. Everyone wants to assume that we like guys and I for one am a translesbian. But then you are limited to who will love you. Your even have a pansexual or a lesbian and most want nothing to do with us. Sadly

I wish my wife would be as understanding but she has been brought up man and woman together and nothing else. I tried to tell her that I was a woman trapped in a man's body but she would not listen. She said she loved me but not my lifestyle

Okay... I got a question... your genitals? XD No, don't worry. I'm not going to get into that. It is tough. I started my relationship with the truth this time after being burnt so many times before. I didn't do anything about it, just gave a heads up that something might pop and happen. We're there now... and I truly hope that we will survive and strive. The thing is that even if I wouldn't do anything things might not work out in the long run either. Then I would just be depressed for all those years without anything changing. I ramble... great video and keep up the good work.

I er så cute sammen 🥰 Mere fordi jeg er totalt uvidende og blev lidt forvirret af jeres forklaring.. var CKI ikke en ting tilbage i 2011?

Women shouldn't be shamed for bailing out on this. Many men dump women for merely gaining ten pounds, and no one criticizes them for doing that.

Very interesting 👌

Impressive. I just had to learn the words to describe to people what types of people there are and if those which type I am in. It's not like I chose who I am. It chose me. I just had to learn the words. Now my chosen family is others like me or orders happy with me.

Yall r very beautiful young women from Jeff

Sweet story and lovely to see... as I'm prepping for my divorce lol :(

Wow! Big love to you both! M xXx

0:38 - omg onision XD

I wish I had a girlfriend.

I LOVE YOU TRANSGIRL BABY KISSES MY LOVE

I think I am trans my pronouns are They them she her

You're so cute, do you plan to have babies ?

HI LADIES. IM THE CHICKEN WHO CROSSED THE ROAD..UGH.. AND IM HAVING A HARD TIME FINDING A GIRLFRIEND. 🤔 ANYWHO, IM SUBSCRIBED TO YOUR CHANNEL AND I CANT GET ENOUGH.

Pls get marriage

I wouldn't mislead ppl into thinking that they're going to find a partner, and that everything will be wonderful....I don't think that is the case for the large majority of us, especially transwomen who like women. I'm glad things worked out so wonderful like daisies for you guys...I don't think that's the norm though.

Post op trans?

wtf dawg..she came out as trans and shes hooked up with a lez...wtf...

Both so beautiful