My cruel adoptive mother told me that they got me and my twin sister as a "2 for 1 deal" - "and if you're not grateful, we'll send you back!" They probably should've psychologically screened our adoptive parents instead of checking the "they have a house and they go to church on Sundays boxes"
C Kyung wow! My adoptive parents said the exact same thing to my little sister. She was the free one I guess. They also go to church but they were pretty abusive to both of us. Ur comment spoke to me I guess because I have never heard anyone else relate to this
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What about the times you tell someone you're adopted, and they're like... "Oh..." or "I'm so sorry. I didn't know." Or they find out your foster name, and they start calling you that. I put an end to that really quick and haven't told anyone since.
the reason why we cost so much is because we are international. and we all know, the international adoption industry is all concerned with the $$$ which is why child trafficking, forced abandonment, and paper orphans exist heavily throughout the history of all international adoption. agencies are incentivized to bring in their "source of profit" at all costs, they are a humanitarian organization. theyre not concerned with the economic issues plaguing these countries which is a major reason why families are so vulnerable in the first place. theyre only concerned with giving families children and collecting their dues. i know you guys dont dig into this stuff because your podcast is supposed to be light hearted, but its worth mentioning. its also worth mentioning that in domestic adoption, cost is often racialized so that white children cost more. so, that brings a whole different meaning to "how much did you cost".
My niece was born in southern China (she's not Han, but her genetics are 99.99% Asian); we are a Caucasian family with roots in central & eastern Europe. My sister & parents lost count of how many times they were asked, "Are you going to let her know she's adopted?"
For people asking about how much adoption costs, how much did your birth cost? Was it a few thousand dollars on medical bills? Did your parents take a loan for you to be birthed in a hospital? How much was the insurance to cover your care?
Saw you guys in Indianapolis -- An adoptee's account of rejection to reunion. Finding his birth family after 50 years. The process and the struggle. Check it out: www.amazon.com/dp/1688917055
Seeing you do these as adults is hilarious because these are truly things people say. They sound SO asinine when you have a little child, but listening to you as adult adoptees read them they sound even MORE asinine. Oiy!!
It's like reading the mean tweets. As someone who has had the time and maturity to find the humor in it, we're positioned to have a pretty good time with this. Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching. Anything new to add to the list? Dave-O
Some people are soo bad and wrong!!! Forgivenss is key, as you definitely have it. Only the adoption world would understand this. This is great, hilarious. I have your attiude on this subject, I'm so glad I can laugh along with you. Good content. Thank you!! God bless! On a serious note, may you find everything you want to know and God's TRUTH!! I'm with you on that.
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