You will cheat again unless: 1) You’ll cheat again unless you change your mindset (minimizing, rationalization, self-lies) 2) Get professional help to help you understand your behaviors. Determine “the why” that caused you to cheat 3) Stop the “blame game”. Stop blaming others or circumstances for your bad choices. Own your own choices and behaviors 4) You need to be open, transparent & honest. You must not keep secrets 5) You must continue to work on the relationship. 6) Feel the 5 emotions of change: impathy, compassion, remorse, shame and guilt. You must become fully aware of the pain you’ve caused your spouse.
So true about the betrayed consuming knowledge. I probably read and watched hours if information on the whys, how and can it be fixed. Don't believe my wife has ever read or watched anything until I showed things to her. She'd never heard of PISD etc. She never wanted to do counselling. As it is. I think she ticks almost all these boxes. Maybe mindset is changed. She claims she won't let anyone emotionally close again so they can't worm their way in again. To me it sounds like just a little extra barrier that someone would need to break down to make her stray.
My partner cheated on me after we have been 10 years together and few months after our marriage. We were so close, but last year was very hard for him, as his father where very ill , also he had to search for a new job and was in a condition close to a depression. He questioned the porpose of life, he couldn't find the spark for the things he loved to do. Also he started to ignore me, to not wanting any sort of interaction with me. He didn't hug me, he didn't kiss me, he was like a very distanced person to me. I didn't know what to do... I was present, I was supportive, I tried to please him, to give him space, to shut down my needs for love, as I tought he behaved like that because of a depression, I found out a few weeks ago that he had an affear since last summer... I was devastated as I have tried everyting to make him feel good, to understad him, and yet he didn't open to me, but to someone elese... He declared his love to someone elese.. I moved away and now we are separated, but he says that he belives that we'll be together again, and that he hase some personal issues, that he struggles to deal with. And that it's not my fault.. I and know that.. but he didn't stop the contacts with the other woman.. He says that he knows that he should but didn't tell me that he did... I don't feel sure about his feelings and I don't know if he'll ever give me the love I need... I'm waiting for him to make up his mind and after a month of no contact with me, I want to hear his thoughts and then I'll deside if it's worthy to continue staying together.. It's just so painfull for me, as he didn't love me all year, as he was someone else, and I realy endured everyting for his sake... I feel lost and lied from the closest person in my life... Your videos are helping me to understand why he did that.. but I'm not sure if he'll change his thinking and not do it again...
I went through same last yr.. Your relationship needs healing you partner needs healing you need healing. Least I can say is just unconditionally send him love and positive vibration if you want him back. ❤ blessings to you. ⭐
I would be gone.. but that’s just me. 🤷🏻♀️ I think he’s made it very clear to you what he wants. Let him regret losing you. You deserve to be happy. Move on with your life. Peace and self preservation.
@@VioletRaya Thank you! I left almost right away and now i live alone in a new place. I feel much better now away from him. I can think more about my feelings and take better care for myself :) The pain is still there, but i hope with time it will get better.
Hi Hasani, always love your videos and insight. God bless you guys for your ministry ❤️ Since you know I’ve done everything possible to save us for the past 4-5 years and since it was only one sided I guess I will take comfort that he will do to them what he did to me. Too bad he didn’t take advantage of your great help. Greatly recommend Hansani and Danielle!
I recently found out my husband was having an affair..he wont tell me why though. He says it's not me its him, but when I ask he says he doesn't know?!? It's driving me crazy!
shoefan345 is the affair over. He’s going to have to tell you something. Give you an explanation no matter how it may hurt, you’re going to need that. Take care. I’m 9 months post finding out. We are still together
He may not know how to put it into words why he did it, my husbands affair started in December and ended in February, when I asked him why he did it he said he did not know, he said he was in a dark place and did not know where to turn he could not explain the WHY any further than that. It’s not my fault he cheated that’s not on me but I do have a lot of responsibility for allowing our past relationship get so bad that he felt like cheating was his only source of dealing with it. You are accountable for something that made things go so wrong, figure out what it is and admit to it, tell him you know what your role in it was. I don’t understand what happened and it hurts soo bad but we are working forward, I’m leaning on God to heal me,heal my husband and our marriage. It will drive you crazy until you get down on your knees and ask God to change things, right now I am the only one actively watching these videos and trying to apply them to my marriage, my husband will watch the ones that I feel would help him and he will let me know what he took from them. I pray daily that God gives me the peace I need to move on and make this a healthy happy relationship, I do not want my old relationship back but I do want peace, trust and happiness back and I am willing to stick it out until it happens because I already know (by faith) that it will happen. We have a LONG way to go but we have both agreed that we want to move forward and do things differently and it’s a lot of work. You deserve answers and healing and your husband deserves forgiveness and healing as well, pray even if for this season you are doing it alone. I truly believe one day your husband will get on his knees beside you and pray as well, same for mine. I KNOW he will because I know that he knows where his true help comes from. One day, when the timing is right, you will get your answers, you will be able to process them with a clear mind and your relationship will be better and stronger than ever.
Great info - thank you! Is there any way you could record without the background music? It would be a little easier to focus on your message. Thanks for your ministry ✝️
Me personally I believe that there's nothing wrong with another woman being with another man Even though you have a relationship as long as a person Makes up for it you still comes to you and show you the same type of spupport and emotional in love that's cool
