Agreed! Funny you say journaling, I just recently started that in my last vlog! It helps so much with staying organized! 💜 Some people have touched on this one I’ll admit. But not the ones who are selling the dreams. There are good ones out there but you gotta weed em out!
I feel like the reason we do this is because everything is so bad here that we just wanna do a kind of escapism to a part of life that we wanna reach but probably never will. So we act the part, we buy the part.
I agree to some level money comes and goes I got these essential oils that litterally calm down my anxiety so much off Amazon so on some level consumerism isn’t always a bad thing my mental health is important too it’s about balance
I try to reshape that girl mentality into necessities. Like trying to romanticize my grocery shopping for the week and dressing up to get healthy foods 😊🫶🏼 great video
I love to hear that and that is a great way to think about it! I am trying to do better with the groceries shopping as well to save more money. One day at time. Health is wealth! 💕
Same I splurge on my health that’s enough and it’s on a budget as well. I could care less for a new coach bag and because I pay for gym and eat healthy I don’t need the make up or extreme that girl skin care routine because my natural state is top tier
This is my life, dressing up for everything, weather, mood and occasion appropriate. Very budget friendly soft life. Splurge on health and wellness, not 1000s of products and items. Use everything I have, maintain anything broken, invest in repairs, the joy of using quality items and breaking purchasing addictions
I needed people to really get that part, it's critical to not fall for the finessed. I agree, I dont understand either but it's not late for them to make the change 💕
It depends where you flex - there’s an interesting study where in a corporate job wearing branded high fashion goods leads to more respect and being seen and more competent. If someone can capitalize on that then it may work for them monetarily.
@@realist4900I worked a corporate job in a high position for 20 years (quit to open my own business which is thriving) and I never wore high end designer fashion. I thrifted most of my clothes and shopped at stores like Walmart and Target…still do. My house is fully paid off and 3 of my cars (had to buy my 20 year old son a new car so one car note).
"The only thing in her purse is lipgloss and her iphone since the bill is already paid. Private trips to Dubai" Helllll nahhhhhhhh. People really selling their souls out there
I hope she has not but I wish her well. I just feel personally life like that sounds very transactional. I heard it as "get this perfume" because it'll make others (and maybe yourself) think your luxurious..WHO CARES WHAT THEY THINK! Where's the money Ma'am! Who is paying these bills?! The perfume?Feelings?! I don't want to smell rich, I want to be rich! I had so many questions... I. the end the scent of a person or the way they look will never trick me into thinking they are rich. That's a materialistic mindset and it's capitalism (in the expense of those who desire to be perceived as rich). Just my thoughts...
Consumerism is killing us. I saw a vid where someone is using THREE dif $40+ setting sprays to get “long lasting” makeup. It’s actually never been that serious sisters lmaoo
‘that girl’ is confidence, peace of mind, being true to one’s self. authenticity. working from the inside out. when i started buying items i love, and freed myself from the need to always buying to fit in, i became so much happier: i became ‘that girl’. dont be a bragger, become the inspiration. find something to teach, instead of the newest items to show off.
Agreed! I changed my whole wardrobe bought staple pieces, accessories, and shoes. Now I always look put together and I don’t feel pressed to buy random pieces because I can make so many outfits with what I have. It personally makes me feel like that girl. Outside of that I have a new found confidence in my body. That has too been a game changer for me personally ❤
I'm glad that worked for you! I am similar, If I go to the store without my grocery list, IT'S ALL DOWNHILL FROM THERE. Like, who put these apple fritters in my cart 😂
It also kills any sense of uniqueness or character any of us have. Like they want all of us to look the same, dress the same, smell the same, have the same apartment decorations or home accessories from Amazon and even want all of us to wear the same makeup or get surgeries so that none of us have our unique distinctive features anymore. Like, what about YOU? What's gonna make YOU special and stand out anymore if you're gonna look and act like everyone on sm for the sake of the ✨️aesthetic✨️?
NWO propaganda so we're all broke and all conform? You will own nothing and be happy? I'm starting to think a lot of these trends are really psyops. It's not like they haven't done anything like that before.🤔🤔
The IT Woman is a Proverbs 31 woman. She has her bag,she’s generous, she’s caring, she’s wise, she’s studious, she’s resourceful, she’s respected and loved, she’s admired , she’s intuitive and she follows God first and foremost. We literally have the script. We just have to follow it! Great video!
I lived in America for a year and I’ve noticed how common it seems to be for Americans to be in debt. Also huge shopping sprees. Where I’m from debt is very looked down upon unless it’s for a house or something big and important. I’ve met Americans that were in debt from shopping and holidays and random things. I was honestly shocked. I’m from Germany and that is such a no no amongst Germans. People are gonna think you’ve lost control of your life if you go into debt for a purse or PlayStation. Debt is only for a house or big investments or emergencies.
Wow 😂 I’m from Europe too, I’ve noticed since I was a child how everyone in NA finances their lives because the middle class is shrinking and yet people desire that middle class lifestyle. Debt was sold to consumers by governments and big banks to perpetuate the dying American and Canadian middle class dream, which includes overconsumption. Many banks even - Deutsch Bank profited immensely and illegally by literally stealing Americans homes with the sub-prime mortgage trap/scam and the bank and foreclosing on homes that weren’t meant to be foreclosed on.
I'm from Canada, neighbor to america. I use to grow up expecting ill be going into debt or thought it was a normal part of life. Now an adult I realized how people actually get into debt cause of finacial illiteracy, shopping/trends/trying to please/trying to look rich/ect. For me it became easy to use a credit card and not be in debt for it and i have a decent savings account. I also refuse to take out student loans for University. My senior taught me to work first to save up for University and i'm almost there to have enough to pay it in full even if it takes me longer to get into university.
I will say debt is common and encouraged here to a point with the credit score system. But we also have some unavoidable debt like medical bills. And if you want to go to college usually at least some debt is accrued there as well.
@@TravellerZasha Financial literacy isn’t the problem. Consumerism is the problem. In the US, a huge majority of high schools teach some form of financial literacy. But it’s no match for the constant pressure to buy and buy and buy. People know it’s irresponsible to buy some ridiculous mass-produced designer “scent” when they don’t have an emergency fund. They don’t care. 🤷🏼♀️
The comment was too funny but I meant it from the bottom of my chest to the top! 😂 This is what happens you when have no script! I'm inhinged sometime. God is still working on me 😭
As somebody in the self care and wellness niche, I’ve found that the girls really believe that self care is JUST the aesthetics. I’m so grateful you made this take!
I ALMOST BLEW A GASKET READING THIS BECAUSE I WAS THINKING THIS THE OTHER DAY! I have so many thought on that specifically and agree 1000000000% And thank you for your love and support, I really appreciate you. ❤
@@SocialSymone if you feel led please do a follow up on this topic I would love to hear your thoughts! We love the intellectuals on social media thank you 🙏🏽
Hey Teresa, I was wondering where you were in the comments 💜 And yes it's wild! Some people think this is the move unfortunately! And thank you for always listening and veing supportive
I hate Tiktok for this. the endless consumerism pushing content actually gets on my nerves. I go there for a short little 5 minute break to decompress but instead I am bombarded with QVC-like lives and people creating dumb new trends like "coastal cowgirl" "vanilla girl", its giving manufactured and they come up with a new microtrend aesthetic like clockwork every 2 business days. I saw one girl who was maybe 18-22 on tiktok saying "if you don't spend £1000 on maintenance per month on lashes, nails and wigs, then you're a beast" . Tiktok is really killing ussssss. Women spend so much money on beauty maintenance as well as other expenses like pilates, the gym etc but when it comes to appearances, men will spend £25 per month on a gym membership and that's it.
Social media will start making you feel you need things you didn't even know existed😭 I've taken time off and it's been 2 days but I hope this will shift my focus
I know it! unfortunately alot of people have this mentality that someone will. It is a horrible qay to think in my opinion. They can really put themselves in a better position using their brains than hoping someone else will save them from themsleves. 🧠
6:16 My older cousin is "that girl" I always admired her money saving habits and since she's a simple person, she doesn't spend much on fashion and always buys non-designer makeup, she also only spends a lot on food though (probably $200 a month) but it makes sense cause she's a pastry-chef lol and she tells me she always just saves the money she has left over.
To me 200 bucks a month is good. But if it's a lot to you what would you consider a good amount and is that for one person. Cause mine is high and yes I have 3 kids two of them teens but I am always looking to teak our budgets.
$200 a month on food? I spell more than that, but I also have a very high metabolism so I eat a lot and cook for my partner a few nights a week. I gotta know her budgeting secrets!
I know I may be blunt but I don't know how else to be...trust me I been working on it lol but in all seriousness, I hope that there was at least one nugget you can take from this this helps you in anyway! 💜
My consumerism went down like crazy when I deleted tiktok. Almost every single trendy video was an indirect ad for something, a small part of a big brand strategy. Now that I work in marketing, I cannot unsee how things are shaped solely for you to buy something, usually wrapped in jokes, trends or “life stories”.
The rise of influencers have been very insidious. Traditional commercials were easy to spot, but when your favorite creator just sneaks in a promo its a different game. Parasocial relationships made us see these people as friends and we treat their recommendations the way we treat our friends’. Add in the fact that a lot of their customers are young and impressionable, and grew up with it, they never stood a chance
One of the biggest things that have helped me cut on spending is "window shopping" I look for things online, add to my cart and save it. I only buy something if I REALLY need it. Eventually I look through my saved items and delete a lot of them anyway
SAME! It saves me. I window shop, wait, and think a little later… nah, I’ll spend that on necessities or I’ll go thrift it. Then when I buy it I know I’ve waited and thought on it for a long time. It makes me feel better
My idea of "that" girl is financial freedom, having their own story with romance as a side quest, main quest being their own life journey, who can be kind and considerate while not being afraid of speaking up for their rights and living a life of dignity. I've cut a lot of former friends but have stronger bonds with healthier relationships now. Never been happier. I can be "ugly" and a "failure" to the world but my values and self metrics are met. That's what matters. Moving to a place that is non-consumeristic and not misogynistic matters.
@@Cauldron6same , no more comparison , no more feeling like I’m not good enough and yes RU-vid is a social media but you know this isn’t the same thing.
As someone with a shopping problem, this video is so important for me. I finally got a full time job this month after applying since October. I’m ashamed to say the first thing I thought about is all the stuff I can buy now 😔 Videos like this and Caleb Hammer’s channel are reminders for me to stop unnecessary spending and use the money to pay off my credit card and student loans. I had to unfollow and unsubscribe from influencers who promote consumerism.
I am so glad to hear it helps in anyway possible. You realized the changes you needed to make and you are working on them and that's what matters. We all have done things we look back on and say man what was I thinking but it's what you do after! Dont be ashamed. Your maturity is something to be proud of! Im tooting for you! 💕
I wouldn't say that I have a shopping problem, but whenever I get a higher paying job my mind does immediately jump to "look at all of the new things I can buy!". Hell, I recently interviewed for a promotion, and I'm already fantasizing about what I want to buy if I get it, ha ha. But I think I'll be able to stretch those purchases over a long period of time. Delay gratification, ya know?
This why I came off social media didn’t have the urge to buy any luxury bundles, new skin care, make up. SHEIN or fashion nova since. I feel over-consumerism is getting out of hand 😅
I feel you, shometimes you have to remobe yourself from the equation! And I agree. Going outside is so peaceful and it's free! Also being mindful of what I listen too helps. I cut out the b.s. and like to hear about the stock market everyday. Might be nerdy to some but it keeps me on track!
And buying from those brands still gonna keep you broke cuz their shit falls apart in 3 business seconds 😭😭 then you gotta replace it…? just thrift or try to buy second-hand. if you not desperate enough for that cute clothing item that you wouldn’t buy it second hand you don’t need it lmao. still consuming unnecessarily. unless it’s underwear 💀 plus for your own health those brands have been exposed for using toxic af dyes and materials in some items… not worth it.
Yess!! Social media will have you thinking you need to buy all of your clothes online or what’s “in”. The last time I bought something on SHEIN was last week and the first and last time before that was 4 years ago. I try to buy things that are affordable and in person. Marshall’s and Ross are my go to shopping places and it’s cute and affordable!
you are preaching right now 👏 I brought down my high interest debt from 71k to 43k. It started off with emergencies and then I just gave up and didn't see a way out so I kept my lifestyle the same and the debt just kept growing. I wish I could tell my younger self that if you don't master finances, they will master you. Doesn't matter who you are or how much you make. You can't outwork a bad diet and you can't out earn bad spending.
It is a blessing to bring down that much debt, you are resilient and you got this! We can't go back but we can adjust the now and you are doing it. That is something to be proud of. 💜 💜 💜 You are right about all that you said
This is the kind of shit that is keeping me in line. I have $64 in my bank account right now, but I'm damn happy I'm not trying to look rich. I don't follow trends for this very reason as well lol. What little I got I'm not gonna piss away trying to impress other people.
Preach! I’m up there with you! The part that everyone following trends doesn’t tell you is that it never paid off in the end of all impulsive buys without any investments into yourself. 💜 to some people I may appear poor, I pretty much wear the same outfits each week in rotation. living my simple life has afforded me real freedom because I have my time back!
@@SocialSymone I love the stuff I have. I don't care if you see me in the same outfit four times in a week. Disinfecting sprays exist, I'm poor, and I barely leave the house anyway so stuff isn't "dirty".
I have been saving more than a 1000 dollars since I was 19 years old and that’s each month. I have maxed out my 401k and HSA each year. I’m 33 years old right now and I have been traveling around the world since the pandemic. That’s about 3 years traveling. I have an iPhone 6s Plus, I have a 10 year old laptop and I own an ugly Toyota echo 2004. Life can be better if you take action to make it better.
We live very similarly, Even to the car..I have the same Toyota Camry since I was 20 and Paid off it off . 😆 Sidenote, I think most people who drive a Toyota know THEY ARE GREAT CARS! I love this comment so much because THIS is the life most people want! Not the stuff, the real experience, the real wealth! Not the newest phones etc. This, with character? No brainer! 💕
The worst part of this is Europe and European brands and locations is luxury. I don’t hear no one saying take trips to Africa. Live in luxury in Ghana or Nigeria or South Africa or Ethiopia or the Caribbean. There’s luxury there. There’s good clothing made from the best fabrics, the most impeccable foods, beautiful architecture and rich culture in these places. We so busy chasing what colonists made and ion get it.
The narrative of using debt changes its face every decade. Consumerism is the name of the game in the US. Having accumulated so much debt living on my own. owning a car, and going to school, it did not take me long to realize that debt is NOT the move. I have been paying off my debt and will be starting an emergency fund very soon. My American dream is lowering my expenses, working less, spending more time with my family, and owning a small home.
Meanwhile the actual rich ppl are buying literal apartment complexes and otber things these "influencers" simply cant keep up with. Instead of chasing millionaires, please for the love of god just start saving for your emergency fund.
the phrase "that girl" or "it girl" gives me 2000s petty preppy stereotypical bully from women that prioritize appearance more than anything. It's one thing to like nice stuff and splurge once in awhile, but having someone tell you to buy certain things to fit a certain mold I am not interested in filling? idk, I'm too old for this maybe, I never really followed trends (that I'm aware of) so I don't understand the appeal of this at all. It feels very cringe and delusional
I agree with you 1000% and love your comment!!!!!!!! A lot of the stuff that I came across was extremely cringe to me. I feel like we are who we are. But when we exist to check off characteristics aesthetically of a trendy type of person, We create carbon Copy versions of each other because everyone is doing the same thing. Crazy enough I thought about making a video about that too. Somedays I'm very colorful somedays I'm dressed in all black but I don't identify as anything specifically except ME, myself. It reminds me a little bit of the movie mean girls. Then again I never was a part of anything specific As far as labels go I was very versatile growing up. I was in the band played the clarinet, was on chess team, good grades, dressed okay, had normal friends, Was a news anchor for my school, BUT never was defined by any one of the things I was associated with. I feel that way of thinking is very highschool. At the end I was always just me, and these were think I truly was excited about. There is no aesthetic in being you. You just exist. But being aesthetic is to but YOURSRLF into a box on purpose. Now if others put me in a box, that's on then, but I would neveeeeerrrr. 💕
Same, I always saw the word "it girl" as someone like Serena from Gossip Girl (daughter of a billionaire and goes to a $50,000 tuition a year private school in Manhattan), I always saw the it girl as not someone to aspire to be or even copy but someone who belongs to the rich 1% and only exists to have the paparazzi stalk them so we know about their personal life and scandals lol. And tbh, "it girls" come and go on and what's popular always changes so I find it a huge waste of money to jump on every "it girl" item trend.
Very true! I remember when Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie were the it girls in the 2000's. I thought it was very odd to be obsessed with them (OR ANYONE HONESTLY) but people were, similar to how people are with the Kardashians now. I feel like, like who you like but they don't want to give you the game on how to become like them but you WILL get sold a product with the name on it to feel like you are a step closer to them. Now financial growth, no wealth like they have, no business, no nothing...Just more products to make people feel good until a new one comes out...Rinse and repeat smh
Very much SAME, friend. Same. I DON'T get it. I clicked on this from her "Apple Girl" dance short, and I had never even seen apple girl before. I'm 43. Guessing ur closer to my age than the folks getting got by the it girl adds.
I paid off my student loan this year and bought my first index funds and bonds using my IRA account, also this year. I’m a normal girl who doesn’t have social media other than RU-vid. I’m also a wife and a mom to two girls . Kids are very expensive. I own no credit cards. Rent is ridiculous. I’m 31 and always been poor. I like to buy experiences with the little bit of money that is left over.
That is huge! You are taking the right steps and you had to start somewhere, I'm gald you got into index funds this year. BE VEY PROUD! A day at a time you got this! 💜
Please, please don't say you have always been poor. Even if you did not have excess material things. Its important to say it in different terms. Like I didn't have that much or something else. We don't want to label ourselves negatively. I am a single mom who raised my son on my own. I did get a little help here and there from sisters with babysitting. Parents died when I was young. My son's father died when he was 9 months old. I was not afraid to go to the thrifty store to buy second hand stuff. In that way I was able to save money and put myself through college. I currently have no student loans. I give God thanks. I try my best not to get influenced by what others are doing. Live within my means. Even if I have a 10 year old Toyota car, I keep it maintained. I am happy as long as I have at least a year in advance savings, with some in bonds. Positive Affirmation and speaking things into existence. Cost a living is super expensive. Just say Lord I am blessed and you are going to blessed me with a lot more. Don"t use the word poor anymore. You are richly Blessed with 2 kids and a Husband and I pray that more monetary richness will come your way in Jesus name.
Appreciating the small things in everyday life and limiting time on social media helped me a lot to be more intentional and happy. More shit alone won't make you happy and using an expensive perfume doesn't make you rich.
As a person that was off of social media for 4 years. When I recently returned it was mind boggling to me that it is not just a marketing platform. Retailers have targeted the consumer via influencers and those “links” trust me it had me in a chokehold. I realized that I was over consuming products that wasn’t even opening. The packages were collecting dust. Oh I had to hide packages from my husband as well it was bad.
You should tune in for my next video coming very soon! I JUST got done talking about this! Im sorry to hear the effects it had on you. I just said a prayer for you to shake that off of you. It can be hard but I believe you can break that habit if you havent already. You are self aware so that is a blessing, you know the issue and it seems you know who and what is targeting you and to avoid links You got this!
“we find the wrong things impressive.” 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 i get wrapped up in the hype of beauty products SO much. really needed this reminder of what’s important. you’re so real for this ❤ nothing wrong with buying and enjoying things in moderation but we have to realise they’re all just trying to sell us things at the end of the day. you’re not going to love yourself more because you own a designer bag or a flashy car. that’s not gonna change how you really feel about yourself deep inside. only working on yourself and your goals is gonna do that.
Thank you for the nice video its always interesting to watch your content. Honestly as a woman you may never know the value of that €1 you have until you go bankrupt, the bad experience I had last year really made me feel that our school curricula should contain more financial knowledge and education. It is never enough to have a good job, a huge salary and all the luxuries at your disposal. But saving money and investing it wisely is never a bad idea,... I learned how to invest, no matter how little, but life really believed it show me the hard way, I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life too 🙏🙏
You're right you've remind me of what someone once said "The mind is the man, the poor is in it and the rich is it too". This sentence is the secret of most successful investors. I once attended similar and ever since then been waxing strong financially, and i most tell you the truth..investment is the key that can secure your family future.
I agree with you had a senior colleague at work who was doing well but never had an investment. Unfortunately he lost his job and went from living a comfortable life to hardship. There would had been something to fall back on if he had an investment
That's why I always urge everyone to start somewhere now no matter how small, this is literally the time for that, forget material things, don't get tempted,i became more better the moment i realized this.
yeah investment is the key to sustaining your financial longevity but venturing into any legitimate Investment without a proper guidance of an expert can lead to a great loss too
As a fashion designer, for me ✨that girl✨ is someone who dress nicely and have their own style. In the fashion industry, I rarely met someone who spent $$$$ for "luxury" item. We know that luxury brands are selling name, while the quality is just so so. We're always buying from small brand/artisan that we can customize the item to our liking with much cheaper price. Heck even me and my friends rarely buy new item, we thrift, sewing, or doing both. And I think that's make you unique...without debt ofc 🤣
So true. I’m working through paying off big credit cards and by the end of this year I am free. NEVER going back. Consuming content like this video has been challenging that old consumerism thinking.
To me, being "that girl" is mostly about feeling and looking healthy, having a lot of energy, glowy skin, toned muscle, shiny hair, being able to DO things (like being an amazing artist or an athlete who can do cool tricks), but it has little to do with OWNING things. Yes, you can buy all the outfits and all the makeup you want but if clothes don't fit right and your skin is dull and unhealthy and your hair has a lot of breakage you're not gonna look like "that girl" that you listen to on TikTok. Focus on being healthy, doing sports, eating all the nutrients your body needs, work on your mind (like learning a new language or doing art), and you're going to be much better off, and also - all these things are completely free and will benefit you the most in long term!😊 Whoever's reading it - you got it💪
Well-said. Alas, this kind of content is popular because doing stuff is often a lot harder than buying stuff! People like to think that they can buy an identity, that idea has been around for a long time. (and I don't think anyone is totally immune to the concept, lol)
Yep the time I looked most “that girl” I was barely spending any money at all and focused on health fitness and skincare and achieved the “that girl” aesthetic with dollar store makeup and things I already owned styled in a different way just based on the Pinterest “that girl”, “clean girl” aesthetic.
I completely disagree! wherever I talk about levelling up is about your internal world who you are and itis rarely about looks. If it is about the looks then its about confidence you can express through clothes. There are places where people dig deeper, if you dig deeper you also get there and the meaning will change.
When you are actually in the room with the real rich, they don't talk about cash and bags etc. They talk about properties, stock and career and if you sit there and jabber about Dior shoes they immediately lose respect. I've seen it happen. Money talks, wealth whispers
I have a bit of a problem in being a hoarder, which means i need to do a huge spring cleaning but i am grateful for my dad always getting on to me about putting money into my 401k once i got my job after graduating college. It wasn't until 2 years ago ( I am currently 28) that i really got into FIRE, Bogleheads, etc. to learn how to properly save, invest, and manage my money. I agree that you should pay yourself first. Build up a solid financial foundation, and then you can splurge here and there for things.
Boom! You got it! 💜 Firstly You should be VERY proud of yourself. Your dad is a blessing to have told you things to help you in life. You dont have to be perfect tomorrow. You, me or the next person will never be that, but we can take baby steps to be better than yesterday. Before we know it we're miles away. 💕
Thank you so much for this. I thought i was alone in thinking this way. I always wondered how all these girls could afford getting their nails done, eyebrows and lashes done, buying makup all the time and getting regular hair dye maintenance. I realized that most of them aren't saving for the future and are prioritizing material things. Self care has been skewed and transformed into over focusing on the visual, and not on the inner self. It's all about balance snd truly caring for your self inside and out. Please don't stop speaking up. You are reaching the right audiences 💛
I never understood the it girl trend and staying away from social media has definitely helped me get my priorities straight. Brainrot consumerism is not good for anyone.
I just was talking about "brainrot" as a term yesterday! I agree 1000% Watchingbwho you watch helps. It changed my whole algorithm, I dont even like being sent certain things because my algorithm is right. Stocks, finace, uplifting people and a lil entertainment but barely. I understand why being log off completely cause its wild out here. Im glad you were able to get tour priorities how you wanted them 💜
@@SocialSymone Facts! Thank you for helping these women see their potential. Your platform is like a wakeup call to many women. We really need to be aware of our daily habits. Keep up the great work!
@SocialSymone please can you do a video on manifestation and law of attraction etc? I see a lot of influencers and ‘coaches’ preaching about ‘living in abundance’ and acting (and spending) like you’re already living the life you want rather than the life you have. I think this can encourage people to live beyond their means. Like if you just want it enough, money will just appear like magic. I’m not dissing manifestation and the law of attraction etc altogether, but I think there is a dark side. Influencers on their private jet to Dubai telling people that by ‘investing in themselves’ (ie spending a few grand on their course or whatever) they can teach them to manifest/attract wealth etc, etc. And that if you’re living frugally you’re not giving out abundance vibes to the universe or whatever 🙄
Okay sorry for commenting twice but “just be yourself, that’s never going to be out of trend” this is my first time watching your videos and THANK YOUUU i love this so much❤️❤️❤️
You can comment as many times as you want 💜 I'm glad you like it. Please dont be shy! And im am glad you enjoyed it and glad to have you here! Hope to see you in the next one too 😉
I'm definitely guilty of purchasing stuff based on what I've seen advertised on social media. Like the tiktok unbrush. Most of those ads are sponsored, so you never know if the review of the product is genuine. The more time you spend on social media, the more likely you are to spend on products that you don't need. It's a vicious cycle.
Thanks for sharing. It’s very common I’ve been guilty in the past too here and there. My thing was hair products. I had/ have alopecia and went don’t a deep hole of trying to find that one thing to help me. I started making my own stuff and then my hair grew back a lot but never all the way back. And I’m okay with it now but I realize it was my obsession to have my hair back pushing me to buy the products of all these brands. None of it helped. I agree it’s a vicious cycle but when You wake up you REALLY wake up I think. plus I think a toothbrush isn’t bad, it’s for hygiene 💜
The thing is, people can be THAT girl without overconsumption and overbuying! I'll give an example with the perfume video - most of my perfumes are under £30! I invest in Arabian perfumes because they smell better and stay longer! I love perfumes so I have a collection of them and because they are affordable I can be out of debt and have a scent for every occasion! Ofc I don't go buying perfumes every week either! What im trying to get at is that you can find affordable things that makes you standout! I also invested in a more capsule wardrobe this year and my need and want to buy more clothes has been lowered by SO MUCH! And I get 10x more compliments on my wardrobe! I learned how to do my own hair and eyebrows as well! The only thing I regularly pay for is my nails every month and with that I make sure I get something natural because its more affordable and matches everything! Im a student in university so I need to save but i also wanna look my best at all times so I found ways to be THAT girl without putting myself in a financially vulnerable state! Moral is - if you're broke or trying to save you can still look good and be the IT girl by being SMART with your money and how the creator said by NOT following every trend!!
That’s the truth no body really cares, even if your “that girl” nothing changes no one cares, this is great advice take care of yourselves ladies and find real happiness which money doesn’t buy.
Oh Im halfway through this video and I love it. I used to be a victim of consumerism and spent so much money on pointless shit. I'm now two months into backpacking Asia and staying in hostels, not wearing makeup and just enjoying life. I'm somehow spending less than I did when I was in London and probably the most content I've ever been in my life. It's made me value living simply, and it took a lot of financial sacrifice to be able to save to get here but I'm grateful. This is 1000x more valuable than the bag that I put on my credit card has been
Sis thanks sm for making this video! A lot of RU-vidrs that I enjoy watching heavily promote the ‘That Girl’ aesthetic and a lot of over consumerism and can’t help but think of how unnecessary it is to spend all this money that the average person doesn’t have. I try my best to make sure I have balance, yes it’s nice to treat ur self but it’s not everyday luxury or that girl, it’s also nice to be I have money in my savings girl or I’m content with what I have girl, I find it’s always best to focus on what we all have individually instead of just watching what others have out of popularity. Stay safe girls❤❤❤
I agree YOU ARE SPOT ON! I LOVE that you mentioned balance! If people prioritize and treat themselves to nice things after who am I to speak on it. I treat myself all the time. But some people are snaking the gullible due to their desires and unwilling to really become better and I don't like it. I even see no issue with saying links in the bio, but when people say stuff like "If you want to transform yourself into your dream girl" etc BUY THIS! How phony...Selling the product is okay but selling dreams is not to me..💜 💜 💜
And the irl regurgitation is wild. I can't brag about a lot but one thing I've done well is manage my finances. For years ive had friends get annoyed at me for turning down expensive outings, only getting one thing on a day of shopping, suggesting inexpensive activities but now they want to get their finances in check and are asking for advice. You will have to do it eventually or you'll never be able to help anyone, including yourself.
I couldn't agree more. The truth will set you free but first it'll piss you off. Nice to see comments telling people the truth. You are wise, I was always seen as the "cheap" friend and I take that as a compliment. You can be cheap by choice because you don't care to buy unnecessary things but have a great investment account. 💜 Alot of younger people don't get it until they go through it can speak on it later from experience but the truth is they aren't missing out on anything but struggle living to impress people. Heck, some older people still haven't realized it yet sadly. Either way, I feel it's NEVER too late for anyone to do or be better if they woke up today.
@SocialSymone Absolutely! It's so challenging and overwhelming to change because you will daily be told how you should spend your own money but you won't be told how to save/invest.
this video was so enlightening. you are the it girl people need to look up to and listen to in my eyes, so consider me subscribed! thanks for the content!
I appreciate your love and support. 💜 💜 💜 As long a people can be inspired by my content then it's worth it. Even if it helps just one person do better.
Thank you so much! I appreciate the love! 💜 Comments like this really life me up because I really put so much into editing and trying to get better...I hope to keep em coming like this!
4:52 SO SO SO SO TRUE OMG!!! I HAD THIS HAPPENED TO ME WITH COLLEGE! My G.I. Bill wasn't going to pay for my tuition since it consisted of class retakes but luckily after 3 months and selling some items on depop, as well as saving my monthly G.I. bill, I was able to save up to $3000 and in the end I had $2100 in my savings since my college tuition was $900! Phew... That was so close.. I definitely care less about fashion and designer brands now and I now save up a little after every paycheck I get.
Thank you for your service! I am a vet also. Random question, what is depop? My context clues are telling my something like ebay..😅 And I am glad to hear everything ended up working out and you found a way to get the funds you needed! That's a great attitude to have. Many people unfortunately fold under the pressure of having to figure things out, but you made it happen! It is so nice to hear you are saving too. I think alot of people think they cannot but you are proof it can be done! 💜
I save shopping sprees for my birthday, and I don't use social media to shop. I could not do that every month! Save it for special occasions. Use to spend a lot more but I got really sick of being broke all the time.
Love this!! I have so many friends on tik tok trying to be "that" girl and they are in debt just to have these some products or items. It is really embarrassing for them to be grown ass women with no savings or financial stability
Thank you so much! It's fairly new, I vlogged the before and after on my channel it was WILD before! 😂 😂 😂 But I love the growth so far and the paint changed everything!!!
Kudos on you for trying to get woman to save and invest. Facts are that woman are easier to manipulate financially by the system (woman are 80% responsible for 80% of consumer decisions). I have been trying to get my sisters friends to change their finances but they are living the "sex in the city" life.
I LOVE this! So glad you are talking about this. Take it from a 39 year old woman, ladies START INVESTING IN YOUR 20s!!!!!!! It's my biggest regret. The power of compounding interest is not to be underestimated. Fake rich now, real poor later! Loving your channel from Sydney Australia 💖
I needed to see this 😅 I pride myself on usually being very financial secure (paid off my student loans years ago) and became debt free (paid off my car last year). However, it only take a few seconds for you to fall into poor habits especially with influencer culture and I have fallen victim lately to buying things and using my credit card for things I don’t NEED. When you have days/months of feeling lest than, it’s easy to fall victim to looking at products/trends. I’m planning on doing a social media fast and will be renewing my mind with the word of God on my identity. ❤
Good video! And so true. We definitely need more financial literacy in this country and we need to stop consuming and dumping all these "things"! It is not sustainable (for us or for the planet!). 😢 Thank you for sharing. This is such an important message. ✌🏾💜
Thank you so much, I was looking forward to your feedback. I really felt conflicted about this one because I feel many people do not like to hear things of this sort (most like to be entertained) And while I love to entertain people by sharing my normal content, sometimes we have bigger fish to fry. I didn't want to just be talking to myself but if even one person can get the message than it worked. I agree the mass hauls of unnecessary things by normal people is wild. I hope we all can do better than we did yesterday. 💜
@SocialSymone This is a message everyone definitely needs to hear. Honestly, I wish I had gotten this message decades ago! 😬 Luckily I started working on it about ten years ago but I think about all the wasted money often and I wish I could have it back to invest it. You're doing fabulously and I'm enjoying all the new content! 😊
I understand. I feel like even though you may feel like you Started late, you are blessed to have started at all because many people do not ever make the changes. You are now a walking testimony and you never know who YOU are helping. 💜 I'm glad you are enjoying the new content to. Still stepping out of my comfort zone but I honestly feel the excitement I feel I lost again. I like just creating what I feel like and not just doing hair videos. I feel more creative and inspired now.
I was wondering why I recognized you and how this got recommended to me, the god damn apple store girl short 😭 But seriously, fantastic video. The messages you're sharing about knowing WHO you're listening to advice from and who you're being inspired by are important. We gotta be able to think criticially both about external topics and the internal. Also your hairdo is super cute 😌
Lol Yes it is I..Not orginal apple girl..just wanted to give a bmast from the past but it went viral 😆 And right when I released this video. And thank you! I agree with you 100% I hope to see you in future video comments! 💕
It stings because I had to leave a guy for following all the "it girls" and how I didn't buy him things. It's not my fault I have bills and no sugar daddy. The sad thing is how many guys don't see through it.
Thank you so much for the support and it's great to have you here. ❤ It's unavoidable at this point. We love in a capitalistic society I get that but there are people who DON'T UNDERSTAND WE LIVE IN A CAPITALISTIC SOCIETY WITH PRODUCTS TOO! If people don't know they are being marketed to even when they "think" someone is trying to help them "become" an aesthetic they are FISH FOOD FOR THE SHARKS. Like I said, nothing against the links (We all gotta live in this society) But some people are really unknowingly falling for people selling them "Dreams" and I don't agree with that sort of business practice. I believe you must be right with yourself internally, not just with products.
i just randomly stumbled upon this video and 2 mins in i was like this is exactly what i needed to hear. generally very smart when it comes to putting up for emergencies but lately ive been being influenced
This is a great video! I’m a financial adviser and having grown up pretty poor, I had to sacrifice looking like an ‘it girl’ in my teens and early twenties to achieve my goal of being financially stable. I’m now 27 and thanks to those sacrifices I now have the money to get my hair done on occasion, shop at the nicer stores, and put more effort into looking good if I want to. I also own my own home, have an investment portfolio, and a healthy retirement account for my age, which gives me a strong sense of security and contentment. I’m far from an it girl (I still drive an old Toyota 😂) but I’d be nowhere near where I am today if I’d been sucked into the trap of keeping up with the Joneses. If any young girls are reading this, get obsessed with personal finance. Listen to podcasts, read books, and never take financial advice from broke people (you’d be surprised how many of these influencers are in debt)! Your time will come to have all the nice things, but if you first spend time building your career and money habits, you will be able to enjoy those nice things forever. It’s better to be rich than it is to look rich.
Also, your editing skills are amazing. Everytime I see your videos I be like, “I want to be her friend.” 😆 Thank you for your videos and for being a light.
From my perspective as a guy I feel like we all do the same. Trying to all fit in by wasting money on trends, overpriced clothes, gambling on sports, eating out. All to seem as if we are stable or okay. It’s absurd.
Hi! I’m a recent subscriber so I’m slowly making my way back through your content. This is great info. I want to speak as an older person without TikTok, a person who is almost ready for retirement. As the reality of not having a paycheck sinks in, I am SO GLAD that I wasn’t “trendy” or “it” in any way, shape or form, and that my dad insisted on instilling decent financial sense into me. I have a pension waiting for me. I have savings. No, I don’t have fancy handbags….but I’m going to be able to enjoy retirement because I thought about MY future instead of impressing people (who couldn’t care less and couldn’t matter less) in the present. Think about *future you* and honor that person. You will be so grateful. Keep up the good work! Your videos are so amazing and so valuable!
yes yes yes!! and let’s be real, it’s been time for the conversation about the general narcissism surrounding “that girl” and “main character” content, which only focuses on how you are viewed by others and achieving a feeling of superiority through that external persona. Ladies let’s say it together, superiority stems from insecurity! Nothing will make you grow more as a person and live a fulfilling life than finding your worth at its essence, separate from looks and possessions, and embracing how connected we all are, so there is no one main character but rather a beautiful constellation of souls ✨
This is why Sophie Shohet is the only luxury RU-vidr i watch. Sure she'll show off her favourite bags, but she also shares a lot of tips on finance, career growth, and recently has been speaking on some of the problems with the industry
Just stumbled upon your channel and immediately subscribed. Love channels about good common sense helpful topics and not about all of the toxic shallow nonsense. Keep it up!
Thanks and welcome! I'm glad to have you here, hope to slread more common sense 😂 Who ever would have thought the world would come to this to where im saying that! I hope to see you in the comment of future videos. I love good dialog 💕
Thank you for listening. I hope you received the message with love, I really do want the best for people. And you can do it! Just start small. Maybe put aside a certain amount of money and still get your dress. Overtime it'll become easier I know it!
I really needed your video today. I was about to blow a bag on stuff from shein that I didn't really need but tried to justifiy it because mother's day and my birthday coming up but I'm also saving to move soon and this really helped me to make the right decision. Like this really motivated me. I'm about to run my savings up and my debt down.☺
The age thing was so relevant and I never thought of it that way but it is so true: I’m 29, I’m not about to take advice from random 21 year olds on superficial, subjective things?! Saving 2.5x my monthly salary in 12 months is what makes me that girl, and I even wish I had saved more. It’s just that I buy a lot of yarn to knit my own clothes and for friends and family too, so we can all wear the unique clothes we dreamed of and block the fast fashion shops xx
