Your Conversations Are Boring Because You Keep Doing THIS 

~ Lucius Seneca

That’s a bar

Chase your dreams!!

This felt like a message I needed to hear

Dam bruh this is facts all the pain anxiety, stress is all in our minds 95% of problems. Gotta be present be in reality it’s not that scary stay disciplined

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😂😂😂😂

Who doesn't? Sht look mesmerizing

who doesnt

I don’t like blue

Ty for this

@@MrRyanhimself are you tyrone mings

Thats my fear, because what if I mean it in one way, and they feel another way? 💀💀💀💀

If they take it the wrong way when youre not even verbally attacking them, thats more of a reflection of them, not you. Those people should be avoided ​@alexvonrom7942

Waman

unironic people magnet

AKA being yourself 😊

​@@youtuber-cc8sxI have a friend like that, an example: Bro my balls are tingling, we gotta go hot a PR, or, You got fucked? How hard?

Perfect approach for what is a such a difficult neurological condition 😩

We wouldn’t end up being friends because I’m autistic and wouldnt know how to respnd because I don’t know you that well and I’m not comfortable being weird with you yet no matter how much I might wanna try. Another day of no meaningful connection😂

Price to get people away

I’ve been to Great gyms that I paid $40 for 😂 I wonder what the heck $120 gets

I know certain gyms charge high and have only a specific number of memberships available. That way the gym isn't ever overcrowded, and the member can use whatever equipment they like without the wait time. The high cost makes up for what would have been a lack of profits due to the small number of members otherwise.

At my old gym I used to pay 120$, for a year tho 😂

Probably lifetime fitness

I try to do that to develop social skills

@@pretzelschannel6595yeah! I find if get more experience just doing a thing for long enough I get better at it, just by spending time doing it and it becoming more normal. I find complimenting strangers you walk past on the street or just ask them questions helps a ton with lessening social anxiety once you’ve already a gotten a grip with socializing

Yeah I try to do this but it drains my energy so much to the point where I literally just can’t think of anything to say.

@@lenoxpIkeep going bro…the more experience, the better you’ll get. Sometimes you have to reflect back and think “I should say this next time”…you live and you learn…God bless

@@floccinaucinihilipilificationn Thanks man. I’ve been trying to step out of my comfort zone as of late and I think it’s helping but I honestly don’t know

thank you bro, i gotta make sure yall get the visualss, you know what i mean !!! 🗣️🗣️🗣️

@@AJ_Alliance you finna blow up bro & I’m here 4 it. This the exact typa content I need you def gon have 10k by the end of the summer keep that shit up 💪🏾

Bro reminds me of hamza🫡

True true

true he's really good at it, i was hooked lol

not really well at least for me its not.

Quit hiding in you’re room and do something with your life

@@Mysterious.phantoI’m the same with most people but there was one girl that I will always regret not taking the chance with, you might think you’ll never regret it but trust me you will one day and you won’t know until it’s too late

@@Geico23your*

i have this problem where if i'm actually talking i can usually not be bothered by shit, especially if the thing i'm talking about is something i care/am passionate about. the problem is getting to the talking part lmao, i always psyche myself out even though rationally i know there's literally 0 reason to be anxious about it, it's such an unimportant conversation.

Exactly what I was thinking lmfao

Maybe that’s what he wanted to say but realized he might have to record it all over again and said “blue dress” 😂

Then he would've ended up saying "I love how your eyes match your boobs" lmao

You're totally right man, sometimes I'd feel like without words, I'm sure that's why.

Now that you talk about overstimulation, it can also happen when you talk and have had good experiences, you can open that filter a lot and it can cause you problems xD, the truth is that you have to be balanced in everything.

Yes! Allowing yourself time for breathing, just by being off your phone, sitting and daydreaming or staring off into space until you get bored helps a ton! I find absorbing too much information all the time completely drains your mental energy.

@@sirokami2992 Damn I just noticed I'm 24/7 hooked into some kind of information dump. Either i'm in the gym listening to music/podcasts or even doing dishes, cooking, doing laundry listening to information. Or on my computer doing the same, which consists of a large part of my entire life for 15 years now. I even have to eat watching something. always. Then when I get into social situations I'm just too quiet and it feels like an extension of all these quiet hours just getting bombarded with information idk

@@lCebolitosl Yes that’s what it is exactly! I’ve been through it myself. Overloading your brain with information like being on your phone or listening to music often, exhausts you mentally, hampers your imagination, and when socializing I find the conversation just seems boring in comparison. So you are totally on the right track, do and listen to less, giving yourself many moments to process thoughts and relax, and you will certainly find conversation to flow much better

Right

i prefere everything is fucked

It didn’t help me much tbh

​@@Yessir-cz2xswhat did you dislike about it?

@@Yessir-cz2xs then you still give too many fucks.

in these scenarios, when I come back from whatever I'm doing, she's always gone :( like I gotta act on it the first time or the opportunity is gone forever

@@hillman334 real

The amount of regret (of not having said anything) that accumulates over the years is way worse than any kind of rejection.

Didn’t even think abt it like that

@@babyjesus7130 and then this video may motivate somebody to talk to their crush and they get married and have kids and so this video is the reason those kids exist

Wow that's crazy​@@josephpena-nt4jf

@@josephpena-nt4jfand then one of those kids one day ends up wearing a blue dress when they grow up, and the cycle repeats itself…

Never played sekiro but this quote really speaks to me in really all facets of life aside from women too. Thanks for the gem 💎

FromSoft directors know a bunch about life, don't they

@@xanmarinoo No problem my friend, and yeah it's true, this quote speaks about almost everything life related in general.

No way dude I finally beat the final boss of sekiro around the exact same time! Very early January! Been chipping away at that game for years on and off. "Hesitation is Defeat" really stuck with me too. Good stuff man. Who was the toughest boss in the game for you?

​@@albertornsteinandsmoughFor me that was the old lady doing magic (totally forgot her name). Because at this point of the game i didnt know much about the mechanics of the game, especially parrying. Took me about 3 days to beat her while it took me less than a hour to beat the final boss

yoooo im glad you could pickup on that bro !!!

@@AJ_Alliance i need to learn from you broski!

Elon Musk....

what is UMS and UHS?

​@@popcorncheese8117My favorite color is ...ummm... red and it's my favorite color because...uhhh... I don't know.

Bro u got me there.

aint no way im watching this type of video broo

@@ItsridwaaanI’m 16 and I relate to your comment and the video, but at the same time I recognize this is something I struggle with and I’m planning on growing and not staying this way forever sooo, I really don’t feel as embarrassed anymore I just think of it as knowledge gathering

That just means your dopamine levels are low enough to have the inability to focus on someone words without extra stimulation. Anything can be improved though if you train yourself upon not doing things like this!

@@nato7412 or my conversation are not boring so i dont need this video. you should train your mind to not be internet driven

I do find that I struggle with objectifying most of the females I attempt to speak to, and this leads to me putting them on an invincible pedestal and then I get a cognitive blockage whereby words just don’t flow, I’m curious, how have you dealt with or what are the ways of dealing with the struggle of objectifying 😅💔?

@@flapp-jck1226 Recently it's been meditating on the fact that women have 3 main things: dignity, history, and a legacy. I think as men we focus primarily or only on the biology (sex), and disregard the rest. To be honest, I am a Christian so a large part of my position is asking "how does Jesus want me to see them (Matthew 5:28, 1 Timothy 5: 1-2). Lastly, about the pedestal thing, I had to learn that I have to qualify her as much as she qualifies me. I've met plenty of beautiful women who were toxic, so obviously none of them (even the non-toxic) warranted being put on a pedestal off looks alone. Does she have the heart and mind to go above the looks? Hope this helps.

@@rajhansakima I am also a Christian and this advice is gold because it allows me to even refer back to the Holy Book 🙏🏿❤️. Thank you so much for even including verses, I definitely needed this. My perspective will now be different… “how would Jesus want me to view them”?. Thanks brother

@@flapp-jck1226 An honor and a privilege, my brother.

​@rajhansakima wise words brother. The word no or rejection is a powerful feeling of fear. But once you deal with enough rejection the confidence will grows

The key is to have a natural curiosity for people and learning. Your speaking to an entirely different person who walks around with a completely different set of beliefs and a view of the whole entire world and the only thing most people come up with is "the weather is nice". It's quite sad when you think about it but its just that everyone is so stuck in their own stories and lives and caring what everyone thinks that it just makes the conversation boring because they're too afraid to ask anything interesting. The only tool you need for most interactions is empathy. When you approach someone, think if you were them, what would be fun to talk about? The weather? A game you don't know about? Politics? Absolutely not. I would love if someone asked me a interesting question, a funny question, something stupid, made fun of them making an awkward comment. Yet everyone avoids that because nobody wants to look weak or stupid yet that is exactly what you are doing by avoiding it. How boring do you look asking about the weather, yet that somehow is fine...? Its a completely upside down world where everyone wants human contact but nobody wants to step out of their shell to get it.

you guys are the type of people id love to be friends with hahahaha

​@@obi-wankenobi1419 Very true! Oh, and, btw, how's the weather? How's the wind shifting? (a pore joke, but forgive me) I believe it's totally true that, as you said, with curiosity, with a desire to understand and listen, with the effort to step out of your own world and enter someone else's -- deeper, relatable, more meaningful, more connecting conversations arise. Putting more focus and attention to the person talking to you. It's rewarding. It's rewarding in a way in which, even though that same attention and effort might not be returned, you still gain from seeing things from a different perspective, which in turn can influence yours. And even if it might not be returned in almost any way, you are still building that skill of curiosity for future interactions. But in a way even this curiosity which is seemingly selfless is, at its base and just slightly, selfish. That's what I believe at least. You wish to receive the same care, effort and attention that you put out. Even if its not returned immediately, it will, through a kind of karma, circle back to you. But this feels like a good type of selfishness, a one in which some other person is in you consideration. Your play style in life is one that will get other people playing with you. (And also, there's probably some grand philosophical debate to be had here, about the innate morality of humans, but I severely lack the cognitive calibre for deeper insight) But what do you thing about the motivation in being selflessly curious? Do you feel maybe the same type of motivation is underlaying the curiosity, or even any effort to be kind? Man, I truly am a person with too much time on his hands. My motivation for writing the first comment on the video was because I had similar thoughts. But the deeper thread of that motivation is that I wanted to express, sort of, my report of reality and how I understand it, and for it to be "correct" and for other people in the comments to praise me for that accurate report of reality. I guess, to validate my thoughts and consider my expression of them skillful. Have you ever felt something similar?? Thank you for commenting and sharing your thoughts!!!!

@@AJ_Alliance Thanks man, that feels super good to hear. I'm on the same boat. It's also super cool to hear your personal experiences and those ideas being applied at that level. The personal examples are worth a lot, the thoughts I shared are just that -- thoughts. The boots-on-the-ground experiences have much more weight.

@@vertbyt You have such a strong sense of self-awareness, your definitely someone successful or if not, you certainly have the brains for it. I love how reflective your comments are. I think every human is selfish at their core. It's just a matter of perspective. Are you any less selfish if you go against yourself for the benefit of being accepted and loved than someone who is rude and abnoxious and doesn't care at all? Both are doing it to get something they want its just that they have different ideas of what they want. One person thinks being themselves is more important than being accepted, another that being loved is more important than being themselves. As for the curiosity, I enjoy being curious because it gives me ideas for my own life and my love for philosophy and pschology means I love analysing how people behave and think. Its also fun to laugh, to enjoy, feel a sense of belonging, love, care, etc. There's nothing better than to be able to share something, have support and then connect to others giving that support back. It just takes people who are very open, disciplined and loving to make it happen. Sure not everyone shows the same love back but generally people are pretty open to it, it just needs to be genuine and those who don't show the same love back, you drop. Time is of an essence.

I feel you man, I suffer from It a lot too, need to change

Do it many times so that you get desensitized to regret. After a certain point you'll be laughing at yourself instead of cringing.

just change ur mindset and stop feeling sorry for yourself, you need to understand that you are the only one that is stopping yourself from doing the things you want, stop thinking and do stuff instead, just say yes to everything and force yourself the feel comfortable in your own uncomfort

Might be cause you’re taking less care of yourself, or you think too much (in general). That’s what caused it for me

@@Forit26 Well I’m in the army and I’m getting prepared for special forces selection in September. On paper, I am stronger and faster. I’ve somehow managed to bulk up to 190 at 5’9 and still get a 12:45 2 mile time. I think I’ve assessed the problem and it’s just I feel like I have too many eyes on me judging and watching so I’m overthinking a lot. Also about taking care of myself, now that I’m off training I’ve been able to get a lot more sleep, but during the SF prep course it was a challenge to get any. Especially during land nav we were out in the field and all we had was AT BEST 3 hours of sleep and MRE’s to fuel ourselves. And it was nonstop movement all day for 3 days.

@@jesuspernia8031 People underestimate the influence bad sleep has on you, if you go without sleep long enough, you’ll develop certain thought patterns that fr ingrain themselves in how you view yourself.

@@jesuspernia8031 Overthinking ruins yourself man

⁠@@jesuspernia80311. thank you for your service bro 2. in my own experience my confidence often stems from my current life and recent activities. for example, i play sports at my hs and whenever I compete really well, my confidence in other things is boosted greatly (and vice-versa).I would guess this is because after succeeding in something, my mind fears failure less because I've already beat "failure" recently and believe i can do it again. so maybe that may applicable to think about for your situation 3. I fw the profile pic heavy 🤙🏾

Would suggest being the same through texting the person on the other end?

Was not tryna watch the video….gratzi

This is all true IF the conversation is both-sided, for example the issue I have is the fact that whenever I take the extra step to approach someone (which is still scary to me), usually I am the one in charge even if I don´t want to and even if I give them enough room to talk, asking them questions, trying to pick up on stuff they said, but when they tell you just yeah, no, maybe, idk - like at that point it is really hard to still come up with new things to talk about :D

real goat thanks for summarizing, Bro is yappin for 10 real minutes

Good advice actually

I’m 23. For the first in my life about a month ago. I went into a Tom Thumbs, to go to Starbucks. The employee was so fine, built of the courage to talk to her. Talked for about 40 minutes to an hour. Asked for her number, she said she had a bf. I felt so good that I at least had the courage to talk to her. My next challenge is just approaching a girl I find attractive. June 12th 2024

@@lawrencebello6177 good job man i hope next time it works out for you

Yeah regret kills. Although I asked a girl out and went on a date with her. I was very socially awkward due to not dating for a while and regret not being able to talk to her properly. Feeling stills hit about it after like 4 months because she was hella into me and my socially awkward/nervous ass got the best of me 🥲

@@lawrencebello6177damn you talked for an hour almost? You’d think she’d have gave a hint she was taken already

Do it, it’s a good read and mark Mansons funny af

Why haven't you got back into reading yet? What's stopping you?

@@zyaicobBecause he doesn’t give a fuck anymore

okay that was funny ngl 🤣🤣

@@yourstruly5013lmao 😂😂

Yeah same. It's easier to get yourself to utter the sound of the first word you're gonna say. Then just ride the social expectations of finishing sentences once you start them and you're good.

initially what I do, I don’t normally even think about it I just kinda go for it tbh, it makes all the difference, thinking on it makes me nervous and then I either don’t do it or come into it all nervous and messing up my words, I unfortunately still do the latter, but I’ve also done the opposite and kind of just went into head first without thinking on it, and I usually start out with a compliment, on how she looks, and if she shows interest in conversation we just continue on from there.

i'm noticing the same pattern. i'm 25 atm, feeling pretty lost. did you have the same, and if so, did it change?

That's what I do when I talk to strangers or people I get to know. I call it, topic stacking

@@bloodnessxI can practice this but how do i know if im asking too many questions

@@nolifezay4636 I always blend in answers that's based on my own opinion, like why I like (topic). Or a "what if" scenario for example: if I was a bear I would've eaten every person that walked by and from there you can tease the person reaction since my answer can be come off "extreme" like (🤷‍♂️ i dont think bears can be full that easily, i wouldve kept eating) Or the easiest would be talking about hobbies cuz mostly and I believe ya can put in ur own personal likenesses I would also say sometimes "tease" A bit within your question and answers so it doesn't sound like a interview

I like the way you think, Using Thencooor scheme “is reality what we see, or just what our brains can display” 👀🤔

I be doin that. You start to get better at conversation by doing this but at least for me, it’s exhausting. Always gotta carry the convo.

Ayy man, you’re gonna miss lots of 3 pointers before you become Steph Curry. Just gotta keep shooting to learn

"wasted"

Happened to me once, straight up got up and left.

me who always stutter .I didn't count

@@Totsy30 bro what? please shut up

clapping cheeks yet?

@@Dogspine1 madness ☠

​@@Dogspine1 bruh y'all unsalvageable

​@@Dogspine1 not everything is about that ugh

​@@Dogspine1 What is wrong with u

I like how your skin matches your eyes too ❤️

I highly respect people who can stay with a positive view about people after working in retail of any kind. That's admirable

@@theseangle thanks man. its the first job i do properly and me and my family wouldve never thought i could work in retail. sometimes you just gotta do what scares you the most.

Like hey I'm really into rock n I saw your shirt, hey I'm not from around here, I like this music, I like the way your dress match your eyes. That's to start a topic because neither one of you know each other and they have nothing to work with. Then solving could be questions you wonder, hey why is there mirrors in an elevator, could you help me with this, your clothes match your blue hair you gonna change is soon, does that look like something to you cant tell if its just me. I feel like solving something is a runner up because it doesn't tell something about you and you can't steer the conversation into your liking, solving sets you up for just mere acquaintance n sharing leads into giving them just something they can tell about you. "yesterday I talked with a guy that really liked the music I liked n I feel like I know him" "yesterday I had a conversation about the inner workings of elevator mirrors" The best is doing a mix of both of the solving and sharing I guess

bro i swear it was just a coincidence that every person mentioned in that video was related to the color blue 😭😭😭

So simple.. yet as humans, we love to make shit soo complex and hard for ourselves ..

I mean, most do it because what you really want to say takes you backwards or has penalties.

Does it?

not every conversation but ye

@@sadra5968does it?

​@@sadra5968 What makes you say that?

@@PlasmicDynamiteIt just did :)

and you are so nice, and really good voice you have btw

love the creativity unfortunately not even close

preciate the support homie

Ayyyyyy Jesus is King

what does that even have to do with the video?

@@war6nheavennothing

@@war6nheaveneverything

NO, I AM KING