Your Inner Voices Unlike Narcissist’s False Self (Literature Review) 

"They become insistent, they become indignant " . I definitely had one or two of those.

I have not noticed different voices with myself. I only have one for when I need to be in survival mode. I need to talk it out inside within and constantly justify myself, this leads to a clearer straighter head but this is bloody exhausting! It drains the hell out of me. I hate it. But since the narcissist finally gone, it's been ever so quiet in my head, no survival voice. It's lovely, no words, just my picture thinking. I am thinking right now making sugar mice at Christmas alone, I got so many plans to do alone the colours are vivid it's not words 😂😂 it's much more peaceful. I don't know if being congenitally profoundly deaf has something to do with it. But I feel like I'm moving to a truer self but I am grateful for this exhausting survival voice helping me. Red, green and smell of mint sugar mice. Blimey, oh I am in heaven, head empty of words.

This kind of Intelligence makes my mood go up🎉🎉

Thank you so much for this breakdown. I have aphantasia. I also do not have an inner "verbal" monologue, but i do recognize thoughts, ideas, there is just no sound to them. I have been digging into childhood. Mother Dearest was intimidating and determined the narrative for the entire family. I idolized my father who was more emotionally safe, but he was also depressed and unavailable due to his marriage with a covert, altruistic narcissist. I believed he was all good; it took me awhile to even consider that he could have stood up to my mother or sided with me, he could have called it out. He thought it was honorable, she was the mother of his children. He deeply believed that broken families created broken adults and he would not "be selfish" and prioritize his own wellbeing. He passed away a decade ago, believing the false narrative. My mother shifted the label that was my father's, onto me, in recent years. When i consider "talking back" or standing up for myself, in some circumstances, with certain people, i will get dizzy, lightheaded, and my vision will go black, until i release attempting to plan out a "standing up" sort of action. I believe i have a true self, but it is locked within my psyche. I was able to stop the "inner critic" (it was nonverbal, in my head, always "thoughts" not the sound of words spoken, internally) when i learned it was an introject of my mother. It took me a few years to figure out the other forms that inner critic could take, for example, catastrophizing. Working on self acceptance, a relationship with self, made the most efficient progress.

Luckily I have mostly helpful inner voices, but some insist on worrying about the future. If intense emotions are attached to them and/or you’re feeding them with extra emotions and attention, they get louder. Since I know the voices are separate from my true self, I can manage them. Meditation helps quiet “the monkeys” but they will pop up, so don’t be upset when they do, just notice.

Thank you so much Dear Sam❤

Is being Deaf and singing to yourself another inner voice? I burst into made-up songs and this absolutely smooths and heals me inside. It's gorgeous. It's a pacifier, it then releases my no word pictures afterwards in my head. Another reason to be alone, oh my gosh, 😂, I can't have anyone thinking I've gone mad 😂

Hello from 🇧🇦 Bosnia.Sarajevo.I like your videos,I respect you profesor.I m survivor two narcissist 10 years abuse.But I'm alive😊

Great introduction to this topic. The inner voice has an effect on memory, brain function and how we internalise or act on retrospective perceptions etc. An 'inner language' can be linked to a physical cue so it might be for protection. I wonder if there is any link to a person's ability to sleep or if it could be effected by hypnotic therapy. Does the inner voice dream at times...? Glad I found this channel... Thank you.

Thank you professor, for not throwing in the towel! You are a lifesaver. I've wasted years of my life chasing my own tail, due to the amount of misinformation, and lack of knowledge and expertise amongst even professionals. So thank you! Thank you so much!

Frank Herbert's Dune Series offers marvelously insightful perspectives on 'abominations'. Clarity is joy!

This is so interesting. I’ve got a committee or peanut gallery. Some are very funny.

i have aphantasia and think in just words no audio or images. apparently i’m lucky to be able to dream, as some people with aphantasia can’t.

I know my Inner voice , he knows my problems, and I feel him in difficult situations

I don't feel that I have internal voices 🤔! ( maybe I am in this 5 %)

Excellent video, Professor. Thank you.

I am fascinated by the concept that some people do not have an inner voice.

Another great video. So helpfull and interesting. Thank you.🎯💯🙏🙏🙏

I would love to hear your reaction/analysis to the musician/bard - Ren, and his music video "HI Ren" which features a inter-dialog /conflict. Some other videos of his that you might find fascinating are: Sic Boi; Chalk Outlines; How to be Me, etc

Thanks

This is both fascinating and scary at the same time..! Isn't some of that related to psychosis, OCD, or forms of schizofrenia? You mentioned DID at some point. Each one of us is a whole universe indeed - but can we have some examples be more like glitches of the coding? 😂😅

Do you think that, while people/the personalities they identify with are ensembles of states, there is still an enduring experiencer/subject of experience that feels each of these states over time? Or is idea of a subject of experience an illusion too?