Calmly Coping is a self-improvement channel for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety.
I'm your host, Tati Garcia, a high-functioning anxiety coach and licensed therapist. I release new episodes once weekly with my top tips for coping with and decreasing anxiety, stress, overwhelm, while helping you create more balance, clarity, and calm in your life.
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I didnt realise the psychology behind it but i do watch cleaning videos when im trying to motivate myself to clean the house. Usually works! The other times,.. Well i just let myself be and do nothing all day as long as i have no where i need to be. Another hack for me, when i was motivated, i set a personal goal for 2024 to learn 2 new skills ive never done before and stick with them for 2 years. So, i signed up for adult ballet and cello lessons (3 months in so far); they work well to reset my stuck/depressed mood and restore harmony -- after the initial dragging of myself to the car, if im lazy lol I look forward to my lessons! Having things to do that put energy back into you, that are fun and maybe build a skill, i think definitely can help some people.
Reading tge comments has been great. Dont feel so alone. I work at the self compassion and remind myself... i have to work and at 66 it takes more put of me, i get home and my husband is disabled so i have to do most of the work, from stress and fatigue ive not been good about my health and i do need to rest sometimes, my back, legs, hip, my job is very active at the chamber so need to keep up. The small steps help too. Just 15 min to clean, or do bills, etc. I also have diagnosed depression and anxiety. So acknowledging that helps me not beat myself up. DBT has helped a lot too. Thank you good podcast.
You lost me at "maybe you have so many things you know you SHOULD be doing"... that language doesn't help me best motivated. I am done with shoulds in my life, and I am a lot more motivated now!
#help m b.a student I have significant apprehension about my studies. I often feel that I am not made for studying and worry I won't be able to continue. Although I know I must study to live an independent life, I struggle because I am a slow learner and dislike studying. I find it hard to sit for long periods, complete topics on time, and I have a phobia of exams. It takes me several days to finish one chapter, while others complete it in much less time. I need constant help from tutors but cannot afford their high fees, and there are no coaching centers for B.A. students in India. I feel dependent on tutors and doubt my ability to succeed without them. Can you help me improve my mindset and suggest ways to overcome my dependency on tutors? I need to develop better study habits and routines.
Damn I’ve been clean almost 2 years of hard drugs mainly hydromorphone with the help of methadone. Nothing has gotten better, in fact everything just got worse in that time. 🤷♂️ life…
if I feel like I am in fight or flight mode this happens and I become painfully aware of time then the rushing makes me not always remember stuff or I can't concentrate. I had a perpetual onslaught of difficult things happen.
It takes longer to recharge and the charge lasts less and less long. think I need new rechargeable batteries. What would that be? Also I am realizing I might have what they call a victim mentality. It’s not just frustration it’s anger that frustrating things seem to keep happening to ME. actually there is a possibility to turn frustration around to Oh Boy! And opportunity to put things right…..like what’s the right way to go about this so it is a lot less frustrating.
Hi, Tatjana, your words came just in time to me, thank you. For some years I feel easily overwhelmed, I enjoy doing creative things, but I always need a 'day in between', if a lot of people are involved. If I respect my abilities, everything goes smoothly. At the age of almost 70 I have to accept less power, NOT EASY for a multi interested creative person. Now I enjoy a nap during the day. I try to FINISH projects before starting new ones. And I prepare healthy and tasty food BEFORE I start my hobbies. A soup, a salad, a dessert, simple things. These 3 things help me to have a better rhythm. Greetings from Germany, Monika❣
When I'm feeling unmotivated I picture the task I want to do as completed. This gives me a sense of how I'm going to feel when it is actually done, which is usually a happy light feeling. This gives me the spark I need to get going.
I'm in the process of a career shift. I've been at my job for about 4 years. My focus previously was about putting food on the table, and now, it's shifted to doing what makes me happy. Let me tell you, this new path of doing something I've never done is long, and I've found myself trying to hurry up. I'm ready to embark on this journey already, but there's so much to learn, and I'm learning that the actual learning is maybe the more fun part than accomplishing the next big goal of leaving my job. It's a battle, but I'm trying to let go of leaving RIGHT NOW, but rather, learning right now. 😅💙
Very very nice, thank you for this. But I don’t trust mental health professionals. The second you mentioned a mental health professional you kind of lost me
When I was young it gave me lots of joy to help people,,,,now because ingratitude is off the charts. I stay home by myself keep to myself and eat popcorn watching the world in to heck in a hand basket ....why work hard to leave a fine legacy to a bunch of ingrats....no thanks
That’s a lesson. It’s to help you see there are other ways to seek validation. I’m not sure what it is but it’s definitely within. So I think for me it’s raising my self esteem so that I am enough? I’ve heard it said and I’ve done subliminals with a small amount of success.
Spend time don't the things you do very well like playing an instrument or beating your record sprint time and then sit back and realise that you a great.
FYI, The free assesment requires your email to get your results. It didn't surprise me, but I do wish that would be stated up front so I don't spend my time when I don't want to give my email. Thanks
For the folks get Club Early Bird powder it's all natural and you can only order it online and that's my advice about it All and follow through with a trusted Doctor etc. My prayers for healing all the time for everyone for eternity and AMEN ❤.
I m not depressed....ready to take on work......bt evil.muslim...troubling...cnt see me happy ....doing good financially....jealous of me.....I need to seek solution for this...
I feel really good that I had the courage to ask my neighbor for permission for something and then they ended up helping me do everything that I was set out to do! Very kind and definitely not what my worst case scenario brain was telling me 🙂 It was for setting up a complicated security system lol And my dad had kept letting me down. So the neighbors were really an answered prayer
Welp, I could say "yes" for every single reason you mentioned toward lack of motivation. Catastrophizing, perfectionism, self-pressure, etc. I'll have to check out your group. I think I'll fit right in 😵💫😆
What if you got burned out from stimylantbuse for ADD. I go off them and sleep for months- then go on and they work less and less…. It doesn’t help to have add and asd- so if I start doing things they go wrong and others don’t understand. So this over years of trying and taking meds, have sort of left me at a loss and burned out without anything I can do
Since Covid I know myself I sometimes wake up with a sense of dread. Like I am in constant fight or flight mode all the time. It freezes me. I can’t do anything.
I had to clean out my classroom at the end of the year. I had to change rooms and I didn’t have the chance to declutter it. I put on upbeat 80’s music and that helped. I’m going to a movie today. Later on I will put on the music to motivate me to declutter at home.😅
Yep, I’m completely burnt out, on life, and have been for quite some time. I feel like I’ve given up, I’m done. I feel no motivation because I worked so hard for so long for very average results. The payoff did not materialize. I feel used and lied to, like a fool. And I’ve had a mental issue for decades, ocd, that I feel very angry about. Been to professionals, give us a drug. And now I’m stuck in the drug because trying to get off of it is extremely difficult and dangerous even. What a world.
I’m a quilter. It can make a real mess. A friend suggested I use pizza boxes to organize my cut out projects and blocks. The boxes are free for the asking. I am determined to quilt my house clean. I have far less clutter and lots of gorgeous quilts! I donate some for mental health causes in my community and others for autism research. It’s truly motivating and the mathematical part of the process helps the brain kick depression.
I can't even imagine what a life without anxiety feels like. All I think of is being caught off guard, which in turn causes more anxiety. The pursuit of perfection gives me a false sense of security, but I feel stuck.
Wow! Where were you when I had to figure this all out for myself!?! It took me years of self loathing, crying my eyes out, sleeping thru my day/days off and isolating to realize that it was burnout, exhaustion, perfectionism, fear of failing, and being totally overwhelmed. It was a lot of work... I was at the point of giving up. I didn't want to exist anymore, it wasn't worth it to me. Now, I'm much better, and I figured it out by myself! This lady is right! It's not you! You work too hard! You care too much!
