‘Submitting to my husband like it's 1959': Why I became a TradWife ¦ BBC Stories 

Natasel stay at home dads exist

michael Dinneweth I can say my Mother did both the household and go to work, she works half a day so had enough time for me and my sister. After she gave birth she took 3 years from work, I only think these tradwifes are tragic and rly only sad. They should be ashamed of themselves to say it‘s better to obey the men, the woman’s who fought for our rights will shake their heads. Because we dont have the equal rights, just saying. These womans looks like they are in some sect.

Agreed.

Yeah, it's just a shame that both husband and wife have to both get jobs in order to support the family, since working wages have never been the same.

You can't outlaw marriage. You can't take away someones right to marry. @Natasel

I want to have the traditional life style but I am definitely going to college to get further education. I believe everyone should further their education even if they plan to become a house wife.

@@eddie9420 you don't need to accrue massive amount of students debt to get an education

@@emanonymous Yeah, I recently just graduated... This year to be exact... So I'm still looking at my options for schooling.

@Bob Bobberson Thank you.

@KelMaster Construction i know. But I want my degrees. Its something to put up so others can be impressed about. In my own opinion

woah man you the real philosopher

Republic Standard Fuck that, this shit isn’t some “deep” statement to make you think, it’s the truth. As accepting as we are today, it’s only accepting as long as it conforms. Just like back in the day.

never ends

That's why we should just do what makes us happy and is what's best for our family and pay no mind to others opinions.

@Wade A i am definitely envious of this lady. i live in what could be described as a traditional family set up - i work full time and at the moment my wife's occupation is running the house and day to day care of our tow kids (age 9 & 13). I posted a comment on a reddit thread just yesterday on this subject that, although i am happy with our setup and have no complaints, i would swap my "career job" to be a househusband in a flash, and there are many men who feel like me.

Yep!!!! She’s not saying all women should do this or their terrible. She’s just doing what makes her happy and that makes me smile :)

@@zo9690 THIS ☝️☝️☝️

Sigma woman

@@zo9690 she said that in the interview but her tweet at 0:34 certainly says otherwise… she’s saying in order to have a happy marriage you need traditional conjugal roles

Feminism is actually not about choices. It is about the liberation of women. Feminism challenges us to look at how the centuries of oppression of women have affected the world

@Rafael Karimowitz we man have it worse

@Rafael Karimowitz some of us even get spawn killed and almost no one is doing anything

@mcjavanewbie Yesssss

@mcjavanewbie exactly! Everyone should be able to live the life they want. They do not, however, get to decide how everyone else has to live. If this lady wants to stay at home and cook,clean, etc. that is awesome! But that isn’t for everyone and it shouldn’t have to be. You are spot on here

@Nika You need to be educated to be a mother, to cook nutritious meals, and to guide your husband's hand. Too many women are spendthrift with their husband's finances and couldn't make porridge.

@John Gladwaller "Women should not be wage earners so that men can earn better wages" is not a good reason to have one gender entirely financially dependant upon another. It creates an even bigger power imbalance.

@@Pepper_Meadow Still the truth whether you like it or not. Women in the workplace means lower wages overall. More workers, less wages. Less workers, higher wages. Facts over your feelings.

The most sensible comment on here! House prices are high in the UK because supply strip's demand, and there is no or very little subsidies for housing. It has nothing to do with women working or not. And it's Conservative policies that push women to work because they don't want to build any kind of social housing or starter homes. In addition to this the woman going out to work is just as loving a mother. She might be working for example to provide money to help buy a house with an extra bedroom for her children to enjoy. Or money for a car for her older children so they can learn to drive. Or because her husband is Sick. Who are you to judge?

@@oldtimergaming9514 ok boomer

@Linny Of course it's derogatory, it's supposed to be. Being a boomer, in the modern sense of the word, is more about one's mentality than age. You can be 20 years old and classed as a boomer. If you're a luddite, technophobe, sexist, racist or homophobe, you're classed as a boomer.

Who is against this? where are they?

@@nigel65deck feminism

@Andrew Fairfax : she's doing the household works, supporting her husband and family, raising good kids. If you see, she's actually living a healthier lifestyle

@Andrew Fairfax : why r u assuming she's submitting to someone's will? Maybe it's her choice that she chooses to be housewife. Both men and women have to make certain amount of adjustments in marriage, but it's incorrect if you name it as some kind of oppression

@Andrew Fairfax : marriage is a beautiful partnership which is all about discussing the different aspects they will focus on their marriage : for example, how to run the home, family, upbringing of kids. Now, what more important is both of them do their counterparts as decided effectively and efficiently and that need not to be equal always. So partnership isn't about being equal, partnership is about discussing the things openly and implementing as per mutual decision. If they have mutually decided that only husband will do the money making job, and she'll be his supporter and will take care of home and kids, who are you and me to decide if she's promoting unhealthy lifestyle or not. If it would've been really unhealthy lifestyle for her, do you think she would've posted this video in RU-vid? She's doing that because she might be proud and happy living life she has chosen and that definitely can't be unhealthy

Nor me. And I'm a big butch 58 year old male...

shit i'd be down to be a house husband

There's no work to it any more. Electric machines for washing and drying clothes and washing dishes, people eating store bought crap, vacuums, store bought clothes that get thrown out instead of mended, cars to carry everything home from the store, microwaves, no woodstove to fire up 3 times a day in July to cook, no making bar soap on the stove in a kettle with grease and ash, disposable diapers, far far fewer kids. Nothing to it compared to traditional wives of yesteryear.

Linny Exactly, they have suffered extreme violence in order to achieve women's freedom and rights. And choosing whatever you want for your life (even if you just want to be a housewife) is a way to use our freedom and right to choose what we want for our lives.

I wouldn't mind, of course, the whole deference thing would require I find a man that my brain could actually defer to without thinking, "are you a fucking idiot?" in the back of my mind. That considered, not likely to happen, sadly.

Same here. I'm sick of hesitating or lying about what I do (or not do as mainstream would see it) but I think this movement is helping me to finally stop caring. I'm here to make my husband happy (which makes me happy in turn), not appease some random strangers who may choose to look down their nose at me because they're social sheep.

@@MrMikezombie777 I don't see how me having a passion for something and realizing that staying home all day doing chores sounds like inquisition-esqe torture for me makes me a "social sheep". If being a SAHM makes you happy then do it, but you're not better than a woman who chooses to work and she's not better than you.

If they judge me then that's due to social engineering, so yes, they would be a social sheep. Just like you by the sounds of it. :)

@@littleXkitsune I'm a single dad with sole custody of my daughter. Mom got sick, don't like to talk about it. Been doing both and can honestly say I cannot understand how women begged to have a man's life. I suck at decorating, but the cooking, cleaning, and organizing is so easy, relaxing and requires less energy. Technology (ecchemm invented by men) allows for this. Wtf are women doing subjecting themselves to what we have no choice but to do? It's like a gigantic meta-projection of tiny wiener syndrome but with females. And, as guys, we don't even give a shxt, doesn't make sense.

@@amgxpat Because we have passions for things beyond just "Cooking, cleaning and making a house look pretty". I'm studying to be a zoologist, and working outdoors every day with beautiful and fascinating animals might be hard work but it's hard work I'm passionate about. I've worked at stables and ranches and let me tell you; lifting hay and feeding horses and taking people out on trail rides was hard work but I loved it. If you hate what your doing that much, maybe it's a sign that you need to find something else.

Burnt Orange Burnt Orange you've never seen radical feminists on vids? lucky bastard 😂

Yeah I think the dynamic has flipped, now I go through trying to find crazy anti sjws in videos they’ve become just as bad as what they are trying to fight!

@Burnt Orange lmao if you go to tiktok it’s riddled with those feminists

​@Burnt Orange exactly, feminism is all about free choice wheter it be a tradwife or a liberated single. As log as you're not forced to do something against your will, all paths & choices are equally valid.

U got issues

Exactly

If more feminists were as open minded and respectful as you, anti feminists wouldn't exist

@GonnaFly I'm completely okay with what she's doing. I hate the word "submit", that leaves a bitter aftertaste. If they came to the agreement that this works for them financially and if she's happy with it good for them! In my eyes, that is not submitting but coming to an adult agreement. Honestly, if I found the right partner who I'd want to have/adopt children with I'd be cool being a SAHM but I'd be just as happy with becoming a primary earner if I do manage to finish up uni with the degree I'm in and having my potential partner be a SAHM/D IF THEY WANT TO. BUT - I have that choice. I have my parents behind my back who support me in what I do. If I found a wife and we'd go for a sperm donor baby that'd be just as appreciated as staying child free, adopting or - maybe my bisexual side does show its head and I'll find a man who I can have biological babies with if we wanted to. What an amazing time to be alive if you ask me. Yes there are problems. Yes there are many more things to be discussed. But let us just take a second, breathe and appreciate just how far we have already made it :)

This! Feminism isn't a stick to beat other women with. It's to support each other's choices and ability to choose.

I understand the original commentor's point, and I have the same feelings in terms of my views on the TradWife movement, however I also have to question some women who claim they were forced to have kids and stay home. In today's age, we've come up with plenty of methods for contraception that one could use to protect themselves so as not to get into a situation like the one that was spoken about above. I understand that if one's spouse would like to have more children, that could put quite a lot of pressure on a woman to have more, however if it's something she is confident she will regret in the future, it is her choice to say no, and moreover, her duty go say no. In today's world, a woman always has the opprotunity to choose, and I feel that women should start taking responsibility for their choices to have unsafe sex and to give birth to children many would say they regret. It seems everyone still has much to learn on either side.

Why are we talking about *traditional* lifestyles like how people used to talk about gay marriage?

Because the third-wave feminists’ heads are exploding.

@@aperson5436 great point

@@aperson5436 hahaha. the feminist victory is so complete that a NORMAL husband/housewife arrangement is seen as pushing the boundaries. What a world we live in!

@@frizzleface4294 The responsibility of being reasonable is rested up on BOTH pairs of shoulders. "Hell hath no fury than a woman scorned".

Then hold up your part of the marriage 🤔

Move

Live a simpler life....downsize.... dont have 2 cars....so many things we can cut out

@@molly461 you’re right.

be frugal

Why do you assume it doesn't apply? It is a choice and it is her choice. I may not think that it's a good choice, but it's hers to make.

@@RUMandNUKA What do you mean assume it doesn't apply? She's being mocked and disrespected for her lifestyle even though these same people claim they are all about celebrating how people choose to live.

@Andrew Fairfax But those mantras are used as encouragements and affirmations for progressive-approved lifestyles and you use them to bludgeon everyone else demanding they respect the latest trans-non-binary-polyamorous-whatever relationship, so, no, you are not applying them consistently, and they have never been about encouraging people be allowed to criticize "protected" lifestyles. Those mantras are typically used to shut down criticism. And then you get to apply some arbitrary metric to label her choice as being harmful to those around her...no, she is not harming anyone and to say so is to lay the groundwork for justifying intervening in her life. You know, "for her own good." If it works for them and makes them happy then more power to them.

@Andrew Fairfax Threatened values? Wow, pot meet kettle. You wouldn't be responding to me unless she represented a threat to your own. Also I'm not the one advocating a change on her part, so it's your burden to explain why her lifestyle is bad and should change. If she wants the simplicity of spending time raising her children, keeping her household running, and doesn't need to work outside the house because her husband can be the sole breadwinner then it sounds like they have an arrangement that works for them. She certainly seems to be happy and you want to see that changed. It's...her...choice. You know why Handmaidens Tale is a dystopia? Because those women DON'T have a choice. The fact that you would compare the two is very and that something is profoundly escaping you, and honestly I think you just want your own authoritarian system that enforces your own preferred sexual dynamics onto people's lives.

@Andrew Fairfax Again, I'm not the one actively trying to change her lifestyle or shame her into silence. My position is basically "you do you." They have an arrangement that works for them and provides a happy household? Okay, I will respect their lifestyle choice and her choice to be public about it. You on the other hand want to put their family into a spotlight for public scrutiny in the hopes that they'll be intimidated into changing, so I think yours is the one that needs the proper justification here since you're the one making the call to action. And simply saying that it's bad by your standards so therefore it shouldn't exist ain't going to cut it; that's the implication when you demand I explain why her lifestyle is good. It's one thing to voice disagreement, but targeting her for harassment to shame her into changing is just trying to choose her lifestyle for her. You maintain her going public will impact some women? Why is that bad then? It's their choice to be impacted. More power to them if that's what they choose and what makes them happy.

Name something very important to you and look up what people say about it online. Everything is criticised or looked down on, it’s how we react to that criticism that counts.

@Adia Darling shame you for what? i never heard of anyone shaming a woman for staying at home. where do you guys get this from?

Linny lol, she's not judging other women for not being housewives, you're the only sensitive here. If don't want to be a housewife then go to work, no one give a damn...

@Adia Darling Care to give some examples of this shame you've experienced simply because of the fact that you're a stay-at-home mom?

@@donnawinters3587 I'll be more than happy to give some examples for you. "You are just lazy and want to avoid getting a real job" "You probably just watch TV and post pictures on social media all day of how hard your job is when you do nothing" "You are a slave and a gold digger for depending on a man when you should be independent and successful as a grown woman" . "Your husband isn't a child, he doesn't need to be taken care of or fed a nice dinner, or made lunch, or come home to a clean house and he can do all of that himself because he is a grown man" "Those who do not go back to work after being a stay at home mom until their child was in kindergarten are ridiculous and making excuses cuz there's no point in staying home after that" "Stay at home mom's better make sure that their house is spotless since they have all day to be cleaning the house" "If stay at home mom's think that there has been work so hard to deserve a nice dinner at the end of the day cooked by them, then they better not make them lift a finger after 8 hours of hard work to make you money that you spend on things you want... After all, you are in charge of all the cleaning, not them" "Stay at home mom's swaddle their children all the time and do not give them room to grow but instead take away their independence and create spoiled and entitled children" "Stay at home moms are less than working moms because working moms have to juggle what they do out plus their careers and stay at home mom's just do half of that" "Stay at home mom's stay at home because they are not smart enough and did not go to college to get a good career and contribute financially to the family so they put it on their husbands" These are just some comments that I have taken from different places and comment sections where people are hating on stay at home moms while having a conversation with them. There are so many people out there who do not appreciate what stay-at-home moms do, and it's really unfortunate that they have to be so judgmental and rude about it.

As long as your relationship with your partner is healthy and you truly feel happy being a housewife (sorry if you're not a woman) then you do you.

Clap, clap clap...Im so so pleased for you......It does indeed give a great sense of accomplishment...even though I loved my work

So one good thing can come from covid my brain hurts

I'm happy for you! I honestly think most women would be happier. And most men because then they can come home and rest rather than do general house running on top of work. Its much easier to have one person doing the full time job that is general house maintenance and child rearing and the other person do the career and money earning, rather than what we have now where both people have to do both (or usually the woman does both) and then they spend all their free time trying to catch up with housework, with very little time left for family interactions and hobbies. But sadly society is so consumerist now and the hyper inflation is so bad that most mortgages basically require two incomes to afford, and women feel like failures if they aren't working for a ceo (as if working for your family isn't work).

I wish they would stop referring to us as "unemployed". When I was a full- time SAHM, men would openly admit that they wouldn't want to trade places with us.. Same with women. It's easier to be at the office. Working moms have ruined it for us Stay At Homes. Yes, I said that! Back in the 1970's, at least there were other women at home in the neighborhood during the day, for camaraderie and support. You didn't need to truck your child all over the place just to meet other moms. The kids played with each other, without the constant hoovering (overparenting) that you saw with baby boomer parents, starting in the 1980's. And there were other women in the neighborhood to help out, especially if your Mom wasn't good at bandaging up banged up knees. Back in the 1960's, women knew how to entertain. Today? Not a chance. Since they work, their houses are too messy and disorganized to have people over. So, that job was outsourced to Chucky Cheese. The social fabric of close knit neighborhoods is disappearing, as our skill sets are diminishing and we are less connected than ever before, in spite of the world wide web.

I don’t much care personally about her and how she chooses to live her life. But because this is a public forum, I feel that saying I less than respect the ideology she is portraying is kind of an ethical duty. It is not something to respect, it is something to stand against.

You do you just don't force it on me

@@deelirious Thank you for your opinion. Now get on with your life.

@@deelirious You would find easily someone who’s against your ideology as well. It’s not about ethics but about respecting someone who doesn’t want to live according to your rules.

@@deelirious It’s not about ethics but about respecting someone who doesn’t want to live according to your rules.

Couldn’t agree more. It makes the narrative sound instantly wrong.

But there is definitely a power imbalance because she wouldn’t be able to sustain herself and therefor is somehow dependent on him. Which is not unique to this way of life a lot of couples are tied to each other financial because one salary isn’t enough anymore.

Laura I want to agree but I don’t think it’s a power imbalance as the decision making was the “power” part. They’ve both gone into this with eyes wide open. That’s the real power here. Sorry to be pedantic.

BigWelshMike but relationships can change over time and an agreement that was made by choice develops into something that now isn’t chosen. She is dependent of the goodwill of her husband, if he cancels the agreement she is left with the consequences.

@@Laura-gd4ku When you say "cancel",what do you mean? Can you expand on that.

Pedro Franca amen!

@Reggie Cyde ? Sex equality really wasn't handed out by people pretending to be "generous and merciful", as far as I know. I know this happened to other kinds of rights in some places, like the end of slavery in the US and Brazil (while, in Haiti, they were also conquered), but I don't see the same being the case for sex equality. A lot of women fought for it, and saw their rights being granted as no more than the morally correct. There are more ways to fight for rights than outright physically fighting for them: The mere prospect of war, civil unrest, economic loss and even things like sex strikes are powerful enough to get what you want done, at times. Just because people weren't being guillotined to death everywhere, it doesn't mean it was handed out peacefully and by apparently-merciful overlords

Well of course, thanks to the sex rev and feminism conning women into going into the workplace to make money for global corporations, two incomes now have to chase the same goods that one income used to be able to sustain. In other words, no personal choices are personal, insofar as they have an impact on wider society. The big catastrophe is the demographic collapse caused, in part, by this dynamic. Which isn't just an existential crisis but also a cause of pain and suffering to so many women.

@Reggie Cyde I'm very interested in this perspective. Could we perhaps talk in PM?

@T Doran lol you dont know hijabis then

🤣🤣

Lefties need you to go out and work so they can tax you for all the social programs they invent.

The judgement is from the women. Men 1000% want a traditional woman.

It rly is!!!! And if you are stay at home people tend to judge and call you lazy without even bothering to see how hard you work. I’m glad you love your lifestyle and that it makes YOU happy :)

They are mad ...they working thiere butt off .. so they see you happy in your house lol 😉

@@firstnamelastname9616 No

Now you just have to find a girl that doesn't find you repulsive!

Me to

@@youvegotbighands I'm already married, so I got that base covered.

@@heartsxday listen "Railo", nobody thinks of their spouse as chattel property. nutjob

Exactly, she has an education so unlike the 1950s housewives she loves so much, she'd be fine if her husband got sick and couldn't work. My mom insisted that I get a college education because she knew too many housewives who were unable to take care of themselves financially when their husbands got sick/died/divorced them.

@@ladydontekno Yeah I really do think that what this lady is pushing isn't genuine, which makes it unfair to the ladies that want to be housewives. I fully believe that women should be able to do what they want in life, but this is unrealistic for most.

Your point is valid, but 1950s housewives did a lot more than the stereotype claims.

@@TuhljinTampergauge She's also pushing the stereotype to further her career, which is what's bothering me I guess. I don't think it's fair to say that she's submissive to her husband and he does all the 'work' when clearly she works hard inside and outside the home.

@@ladydontekno 1950s, not 1850s. Women in the 1950s were educated.

Then do it l do advise you go to culinary school or study something where it will help in the lifestyle you want and would help with a job if something was to happen to your husband

Me too

Please have your own money.

Gravuuna May Allah bless you. A thank you from the men 🙂

Good for you

We need more women like you. sincerely, men

i’m 16 and i want her lifestyle once i’m older😁

@@ellielouisexo6270 Bless you, young Lady :) I hope you get it!

So true

Stepford Wives?

No, there's nothing wrong with it. A husband works all day, but a diligent wife also works all day. There's nothing wrong with sharing some housework.

I thought Hispanics were very traditional

mothers are so important, and whatever a man can do to give his wife more time to care for the kids, he should. The woman is the beating heart of the family, and regardless of what the feminists say, a good man will protect and serve his wife to that end.

@Ari Jappendi You're complaining about society putting too much pressure on men being the breadwinner yet that's exactly what tradwives want.

Same! I want to be a housewife but also work from home as a seamstress and selling clothes, accessories I'll make :)

I assure you that men are waking up and desiring this kind of relationship. We don't want to compete with women in our house for dominance, we just want to provide and love our wives while they look after the kids and do some of the housework. I say some, because there are definitely things we can do, too. Girl, let me cook for YOU on the weekends, but let me work throughout the week.

So, what did you decide, Sister?

How are things now?

definitely there are some important factors to consider- if you do become a housewife make sure you have a solid financial agreement in place with your partner and about how much money YOU get to spend on yourself. the biggest drawback to being a housewife is losing financial independence so make sure you have that sorted out

I was very surprised to learn that with all of the massive construction in Mecca and all the archaeological work done there that no evidence was found that Mecca existed as a city during the time of the life of Muhammad. The oldest find was an Ottman fort from the 1200's. None of the graves of the 300 prophets buried in Mecca were found and nothing indicating Mecca existed as a major city from the 600 and 700's.

Do what pleases YOU.

they can twist it a little, im jsut shocked they even bring women like her to light. she is so calm, peaceful and responsible, and mature too to say the least lol.

It was a traditional vow.....but it rarely worked that way.. Of course the BBC frown on this hence the spin.

Yes, a dream. I hate to clean, love to cook when I want, and want my own money. And I have it.

Yikes. Physically attack someone? Maybe just walk away if you don't think a relationship is going to work out.

People that hit people just because thire feelings got hurt are caveman you are a caveman

men are not for you then. You are a cat lady.

I don’t know why people use cat ladies as an insult. Cats are awesome

@@ashleycruz1683 exactly. Cats and also dogs need homes too and people abandon them . People with kids also have animals.

Good on you! I hope you get your dream

In 50s normal husband could provide to have 2 kids, 2 cars, nice house in suburbs and 1 vacation to Hawaii a year.

Noname - not in UK

@@rachelleoladejo7296 I was talking about average Californian family, but in my country (Finland) 50s was pretty similar, people were getting richer and buying cars while women took care of kids!

How the hell can she force trad-wife lifestyle on her kids? The literal definition is for the person to be married, a woman and an adult. Lmao

@@Bluecheese1400 I'm tryna say that she doesn't force her daughter to be like "your a woman you stay home and take care of your kids understand?" Like I'm only saying that dude-

@Blitzkrieg Van hauten A normal person who knows what's right and wrong.

@Blitzkrieg Van hauten So? And WHY did you say about a religion in this convo? This is proof that you didn't have anything to say it so you just changed the topic. Immature.

@Blitzkrieg Van hauten Changing topics again?

Same

My wife is like her and it is amazing. I thank God for her every day.

@Andrew Fairfax We are celebrating qualities that we find attractive in our partners. What is it that does not allow you to be tolerant of our preferences and celebrate them in peace? I completely respect your apparent preference to the contrary. Please afford us the same courtesy.

@Andrew Fairfax I never have engaged in RU-vid comment section battles. I have these sorts of important discussions in person so I will say my peace and leave it at that. I am happy and so is my wife. If I told her that she must go out and work instead of doing what she prefers, that would be more controlling than simply letting her live as she pleases. I put her and my daughter before myself and she puts me and my daughter before herself. She is kind and feminine and I appreciate that. I was making a statement that I enjoy my life as it is and you, even though we have never met, have made assumptions about me and the dynamics of my family because we don't operate in a way that you are used to. I won't go back and forth with you on this. It is simple, my family is happy this way and you don't approve. This is ok. I don't need the approval of someone I've never met to live a happy and balanced life. Best of luck to you and I hope you are as fulfilled in your life as I am in mine. Best wishes.

@@noxrotspar3219 where did you guys meet ?

there’s that side, but you’ve got to remember in this day and age most families can’t even afford the OPTION to have only one partner work. also- there’s the issue of power imbalances, which can degenerate the mental health of the wife if she must ask her husband for a decision on everything or for money for any kind of personal expenditure. so it’s not a perfect solution even if it works for some

I'd say the entire country

Actually, women with college degrees statistically have the longest marriages. Since they have fewer children, they can have a career.

As a working woman I love this. I trust women more to care for children. I want a woman to help me with my children. Do it! It’s fulfilling for maternal women. I am not one of those, but you are welcome to help me.

Truly, not maternal. If you enjoy it, help me. The children are more important.

drama

I agree. It's not my thing but to each their own. As long as nobody is expecting me to act a certain way for force me to change by being someone I'm not, people are free to do what they want in these scenarios.

I know. Women empowerment should be empowering women of all ages, from all backgrounds, and all abilities, and places in their lives regardless of the way they decide to live their life, they should support their choices, whether they want to have kids or not or work or stay at home. But nowadays feminists are getting aggressive and mad at stay at home moms and housewives for not getting a job after all the worked for, when really they should be happy that they worked towards a point where women get the option and choice of whether they want to work or not. Isn't feminism standing up for women's rights and freedoms to make "choices"? Choices of their own? Even if it doesn't mean working a career that doesn't require them to drive there.. as long as they are financially stable?

More power to you

gracefully put ma`am it's the most important job in the world to raise your legacy and support your husband, and if the kids are functional adults and home is in order then get a job a lot of single women,older 35, never married in the danger zone telling young women that money and a car is more important which is fine but don't listen to angry bitter women/single mothers out of wedlock who are over 35 now of course there angry but the common denominator is you thats why a lot of asians and european are over achievers in comparison strong family values.

@@lawrencemotions8720 Money means nothing when you're not happy, Robin Williams was a prime example.

if you can afford it and you enjoy it, it’s a good option for you.

@@c.antoniojohnson7114 that may be true about differing levels of money once youre not in poverty, but for most people, having only one partner do paid work would make life very difficult as it would be hard to afford housing and food let alone enjoy life by travelling or treating themselves

@nazmi nazmi not every married couple that lives a traditional life is in a single sided arrangement. i have seen both types of marriages both traditional and modern with both working and contributing; they work fine as long as the two people are compatible and the arrangement is fair or agreed upon without any pressure. some women actually prefer to be house wives! TLDR: it is up to the individuals not "society" i pray you reconsider before projecting your own views and fear unto others.

@nazmi nazmi Weirdo.

@nazmi nazmi the sad part for u is - people like her will procreate and have a multiple kids, unlike ur kind which will die out eventually

@nazmi nazmi where did i say it was a duty? It's nothing more than just am empirical fact. Regarding ideology or school of thought u are right to an extent. People tend to lean to their parents beliefs if their family is a good one. Historically monogamous trad families are the best societal structure for raising a multiple children, which lead to rise of the societies with such formation as a norm. Second - u can choose whatever u want in life. But it's a common wisdom that having a kids is one of a key components for a happy and fulfilling life. It was viewed as such for generations and generations. www.newscientist.com/article/2213655-having-kids-makes-you-happier-but-only-when-they-move-out/ "They found that, in this older age group, people with children had greater life satisfaction and fewer symptoms of depression than people without children, but only if their kids had left home." I think u have to consider very carefully such questions especially if u think of ur own life. You only live once and there is literally no reason to make ur life miserable.

@nazmi nazmi the people attacking you in the comments seem to have forgotten that the 1950s "tradwives" turned into the 1960s feminists.

Jesus , attorney, learn to spell .

I'm homeschooling my kids for precisely this reason. They push working for a ceo your entire life as the standard, and it's just so toxic

Is the money your money? If not, earn some if you are bright enough to keep up. Otherwise you could be in a pickle

@Deborah-so8mv that is an excellent point! Just because we do things this way doesn't mean that we aren't prepared. My husband suffered a brain aneurysm a few years ago. He was out of commission for almost 3 years. It is naive not to prepare. You just never know. So I do agree with you. That pickle is more likely to happen than not.🙂

@@ConstantCompanion yes! Anything can happen. My family suffered with my father leaving with my mother totally unprepared. That teaches you.

That would be amazing!

Lol, sis gotta have her dream right 😆

@@heavyrain5949 yup loll there’s an actual village like this in Kenya so dreams I guess can be reality sometimes 😭

I am Kenyan .The matriarchy village is a safe haven for Samburu women.

what if a woman works because she's forced to?

@LegoGuy87 the need for necessities

and the amount of men in the comments that are like "i support this lifestyle" its very odd

Finally, someone in this comments section with working brain cells!!!

@@char932 *single men, at that

This

@@char932 no it's not odd because nowadays men are becoming so toxic and controlling to the point where they have a weird obsession over there partner to the point where they force them into working and control everything they do without discussing it first. This happens especially when women consider being stay-at-home moms and bring it to their attention, most men don't support this lifestyle nowadays and it's kind of unfortunate and it's rare to find a man who does. Or a man who even cares to sit down and talk about it to listen. Listening and communication is important in a relationship, without speaking, just listen. Listen before you answer, say the question again in your mind, to make sure you're actually answering the question, and make sure that you are showing the person you care. That is important.

i was miserable at home. i worked part time teaching and at a library and church. the kids helped sometimes. needed friends. in 1959moms were around. now all work and its lonely... my kids wanted me to work and help the world. all their friends moms were doctors or veterinarians or miners or owned businesses they loved and mom had joy

It is also a full time job .

are you still "aspiring"

@@yorkshire_tea_innit8097 yes I am. Wow, I'm going go be 25 soon! I would love to find a provider husband, however.

@Elias Angelo Not my grandma, not my mom, not my colleagues, not my friends, not me. But you, on another hand, sound very frustrated. Go outside and leave women be what they dream to be, being a tradwife or a career woman.

there are plenty women like her we call them soccer mom's people act as if there are no housewife left guess what men can not provide like they use to do

@Ramiz Ali virgins? Isnt the point of being a tradwife to reproduce

no we don't

we are plenty out here.I wanna be just like her

@@char932 why

If I have a man i like to live like her. Respect , obey and serve him.😊🙏🙏🙏

I think that if she wants to do the pleasing obedience thing, it is her CHOICE and should be respected.

Did you get married?? How is it going with you for now ?? I hope you could find what misses you the most.god bless you .

True and so welcoming to my heart.

A lot of people in North America have to choose between childcare and working. I know a few women who stay at home because childcare would be more expensive than the money they'd be earning working!

I don't think there's a need for movement as such, because that's what most families are actually doing.......LOL!!

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