“Resentment in relationships. PART 1” Who Can Relate? S2- Ep. 18

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Shay’s back! And this week, we go back to our traditional style of doing episodes together, aka the ones you all loved so much! This weeks topic is one that has been weighing heavy in our marriage of the last few years. We recently unpacked it more through therapy and discovered that it was deeper than we thought. So, what do we do? We have an episode on it haha. This is part 1 of 2 and the 2nd part is with a guest who is very familiar with this topic. We bring on Lauren Morrison in Part 2 and you won’t want to miss that one either! But for now, sit back, relax and enjoy the Davis’s air out more personal’s about our marriage haha!
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Topics:
00:00:00:00 Intro
00:03:05:02 **Merch Announcement**
00:05:12:00 Resenting your partner topic
This episode is also available on all Podcast Platforms.
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THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!

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8 авг 2022

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@pipperlue Год назад

I notice that women start to feel strong resentment a few years into relationships. I think we spend the beginning bending and giving a lot of grace and understanding and often that means swallowing our opinions and feelings and intuition to make it easier for the man/to be liked. This is low key expected of us and a sign of being a “good wife”. But there’s only so much of that you can take before you burst. It’s great that they are handling the bursting very maturely and caught it before she was DONE done.

@rejectionisprotection4448 Год назад

I think you’re right. Women see that their emotional, sexual and domestic investments dont seem to yield much of a return and they become tired and start to disinvest. It’s why you get the “walkaway wife” syndrome.

@Rbhawk3rd Год назад

You forget, Men go through and do the same exact thing.

@stacygutierrez1157 Год назад

Thank you guys for being so open & raw. Thank for letting us in to this discussion. I love how vulnerable you both allow yourself to be and how relatable this is. Shay makes my heart want to cry. She is EVERYTHING! She’s beautiful, she’s so pure, she’s got an amazing perspective & I appreciate how she carries herself. Can’t wait for part 2 baby!

@spaxdlamini6254 Год назад

Justin I love your honesty with your wife, it is really helping me as a married man. These are real facts and issues of life . 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽Thank you bro

@justdavis88 Год назад

Thank you!! So glad to be of help!

@musicbyarnica Год назад

As a single woman honestly these kind of things encourage me to be more vulnerable & get the healing I need❤️❤️ Thank you so much for this channel!!!

@justdavis88 Год назад

Wow! Love to hear this, thank you for sharing!

@rosiegrier4242 Год назад

Loved this conversation - it’s so real, and resentment is a HUGE part of relationships (romantic or otherwise) so it’s deeply relatable. Something I found mindblowingly helpful to dealing with my resentment was learning research shows resentment is part of the envy family when it comes to emotions (shout out to Brené Brown for teaching me that gem) so exploring ‘what is it that I’m envious of this other person doing or (more often) not doing that’s contributing to me feeling this way’ is a really amazing way to explore our own resentment and move through it. Big love to you both; thank you for sharing, truly. 💕✨

@justdavis88 Год назад

Thanks for the gem Rosie! I completely agree. Shay mentioned that in the episode about how I'm the one with the office and not her. How We want to buy a house and I was the one holding us back, etc. Great perspective!

@jasminedwyer4323 Год назад

Thank you guys for sharing!! I love the idea of a letter. I’m like you Justin I have that out-of-body experience when I write my feelings, the words just flow and I’m able to express what I need to much better in writing. Definitely got some great insight here! Can’t wait for Lauren’s

@herdreamlifecreated Год назад

Thank you for letting us in on this beautiful conversation. 32:54 - I feel that so deeply. Shay is 100% correct, resentment killed my almost 10 year relationship. My partner would not show up or validate my resentment even though his emotional(and possibly physical) infidelity was the catalyst for our downward spiral. I tried for a year but there was no accountability or action that I could see. He would not attend couples therapy and said that since we were trying I simply had to trust him. No transparency, no accountability with anyone. That just caused me to resent him and distance myself. I had to choose my own peace and we broke up. I never want to feel that type of resentment for someone I love ever again and my next relationship I will go into with transparency and honesty as core values…and the willingness to attend therapy individually and together! Thank you for showing me what a healthy relationship can look like.

@jamilaellis1328 Год назад

This was such a must needed to hear episode, like even for people like me who's single, I can relate to building resentment in past relationships, to the point it broke it up. If you dont catch it, which it is hard to define, it builds up and make you wanna be separate away from your spouse, because your unknowling still holding onto things you thought you moved passed. It's nice that you'll have a safe space also made me think of maybe every few months spouses need to check in with each other emotionally and see how the persons really doing. Great content, I will be buying merch soon!

@natashastuart9091 Год назад

Thank you guys for being so open and vulnerable. Sharing these things is very huge, you have no idea how much this helped just from relatability. Often feeling like should we feel this way in our relationships and knowing others go through it too.

@brittnicole2802 Год назад

You guys are so dope for sharing your personal trials and tribulations of marriage. You didn’t have to share with us, but you did. And it is touching lives, for sure touched mine! Love this episode! 🤍

@justdavis88 Год назад

Thank you so much Britt!

@Rebeccaluvxoxo Год назад

and this is why we always discuss finances early on 😂

@justdavis88 Год назад

Haha yep!

@Sujev26 Год назад

👏🏽👏🏽

@reneeholdridge1837 Год назад

Hi, Justin! I just started listening. I saw you both on MAFS On the Couch. I just wanted to AGREE so much with you about one of the couples. The husband, Chris WAS TOTALLY comforting his wife by rubbing her shoulder, arm and HEAD --Just like he was rubbing a dog! To me, that really tells a ton about a person’s sensuality (or lack thereof), almost as much as watching a person DANCE!!!! Oh, it was so painful to watch him!!! Thanks for commenting on that!! We all saw it with you!!!!

@justdavis88 Год назад

Haha! Thanks Renee, I appreciate the support on that 😂

@thedarkam3thyst Год назад

I’ve been waiting for part 2 to see both parts. I feel Shay on a spiritual level and I know this is a convo I need to have with my partner but Lawd. 🤧 Thank you both so much for the openness you both expressed. It’s so helpful to see healthy and important conversations happen. Okay on to part 2! 🏃🏽‍♀️💨

@jteardrops1224 Год назад

Oooo the merch, can't wait to get mine!! Great episode, as always! Thank you for sharing so much of yourselves. It's so refreshing to see that EVERYONE has issues but even more refreshing to is you two working on them in such a healthy way.

@MarciYeater Год назад

Wow. Thank you both for being so vulnerable and open with us. Your guys love and relationship is honestly so beautiful. I feel like this is what relationships and marriage is about. It’s about learning eachother and having to get uncomfortable before being able to get comfortable and grow WITH eachother. You guys give me hope. It takes a lot of effort to make relationships work in general. I wish you both nothing but love and happiness in this journey 💕 can’t wait for part 2!!

@stephanielopez8163 Год назад

Love Love this episode! You guys are such a beautiful couple inside and out. Thank you so much for sharing your hard and vulnerable truths with us,❤️ also you are so lucky Shay is such a beautiful soul!

@justdavis88 Год назад

Thank you so much Stephanie! So glad you liked the episode!

@VaneezyTV Год назад

I love y'all. Thank you for being this raw. Y'all are helping so many people, even me a single lady. We need to normalize talking about finances more as a society. Thank you for that. 💜 wish y'all the best!!

@DRay4eveZ Год назад

I’m so happy Shay is able to voice her concerns and have them out in the open. I think I relate to her so much so it makes me happy to see ❤️

@EClusive80 Год назад

You and Shay are amazing!!! I know how hard it is to discuss these issues in private….so for you guys to film and let us in……it teaches us so much! BIG THANK YOU TO BOTH OF YOU FOR YOUR HONESTY AND BRAVERY! Looking forward to next week!

@justdavis88 Год назад

Thank you so much Erika! I hope all is well in your world!

@asivengcobozi2358 Год назад

What a episode! Thanks so much for sharing this with us, thank you for your vulnerability. 💚 Wishing you guys well

@Mgenao76 Год назад

Wow this episode was so impactful! I can totally relate to resentment in relationships! It also made me think that I probably resent myself too for not setting healthy relationship boundaries and betraying myself by not sticking to the boundaries I have set in relationships! It’s so deep!🤯Love the content, can’t wait to hear what Lauren is going to bring to the discussion! 😊 Love the Fly Merch!! 👚😍

@shannanstewart Год назад

This episode! My goodness! So enriching! Love this! Thank you for your vulnerability Justin and Shay!

@justdavis88 Год назад

Thank you Shannon!!!

@kristendiaz3113 Год назад

Thank you so much for sharing this raw, extremely vulnerable trial you two went through. I am so glad you guys are working on this. I do wonder if Shay voiced her concerns in a respectful, kind manner as these problems came up time and time again…would this have not lighten the load of her resentment? I understand that things happen EXACTLY the way they are supposed to, and that there are no coincidences (now you two have shared this valuable story with us, that I’m sure will help many people). But to play devils advocate, what if this could have been avoided by thoughtful communication from the get-go? Again, Thank you so much Shay and Justin for your thought provoking content. ❤️

@theplantainchiplover Год назад

Thank you so much for being willing to share such raw moments with us. As a 22 year old, these kinds of discussions/wisdoms are really valuable and I've been sharing them with friends so we can all learn these lessons together

@jessicadavydov Год назад

Thank you both for your transparency 💗 you have no idea how therapeutic your videos are!

@justdavis88 Год назад

Glad you like them & that you find them helpful! It's our pleasure!

@tracey9810 Год назад

Thank you for sharing. I've learned so much from this conversation. I can't wait to listen to part 2. SN: Shay is such a beautiful person inside out.

@justdavis88 Год назад

You are so welcome! Glad you enjoyed it!

@paigebeachy Год назад

So excited for merch! You’ve been up to a lot with all these drops.. also I see you looking swole💪 always love seeing Shay here🤍

@justdavis88 Год назад

Yes! Thank you Paige!!

@nikitesoro7387 Год назад

Ugh watching you guys be so vulnerable on camera thank you so much for sharing🙏🏼

@justdavis88 Год назад

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Thank you!

@MarciYeater Год назад

TAKE ALL MY MONEY JD hahahah can’t wait for the merch!

@karlagil5668 Год назад

Thank you so much for being raw, loved every minute of it!

@justdavis88 Год назад

Glad you enjoyed it!

@nicolellorens8117 Год назад

This was such a great podcast! I love this podcast and so excited merch!

@justdavis88 Год назад

Yes! Thank you Nicole!!

@j_lynsation Год назад

This gives me so much perspective. Thank y'all

@justdavis88 Год назад

Love to hear it!!

@ninosknorales5827 Год назад

Thank you both for sharing this experience ❤️ definitely a necessary conversation that I have not seen before.

@justdavis88 Год назад

Our pleasure! Thank you for the feedback!

@audreyjensen8384 Год назад

Thank you Shay & JD for sharing 💚

@justdavis88 Год назад

Our pleasure!

@joneeks91 Год назад

Thank you guys for sharing especially in the midst of it all! My feelings found word today because if this episode! Grateful

@justdavis88 Год назад

Wow, that's so amazing to hear! It was Our pleasure!

@alexandriacamacho9981 Год назад

I can relate. Thank you both for this, needed it. 🙏🏽

@justdavis88 Год назад

Happy to hear it! Thanks Alexandria

@patriciabustamante3377 Год назад

Ahhh can’t wait to get a merch! 😍

@justdavis88 Год назад

😁😁😁 Thanks Patricia!

@conniecon7910 Год назад

I am not married & i am not in a relationship at the moment and this episode allowed me to pick up so many gems. It helped me see some things in myself that i can work on now so I’ll be ready and prepared when my time comes. I’m picking up everything y’all are putting down. So good! Also, Chicago was knocked out on the couch. 😂🐶💙

@justdavis88 Год назад

This is amazing, love to hear it! Thanks for the feedback Constance. And ya lol he was chillin!

@ximenalara2180 Год назад

JD IM SCREAMING FOR THE MERCH

@ximenalara2180 Год назад

I can’t waittttt

@justdavis88 Год назад

Let’s Gooooo! 🥳🥳🥳

@kathelinetabuteau5309 Год назад

Thank you for sharing! I learned a lot!

@justdavis88 Год назад

Glad it was helpful!

@sofiajimenez8359 Год назад

Shay...help me with this please, I so feel this right now!💚

@inhabitantofearth Год назад

This reminds me of something they said on the “Relationship Theory” channel, where they think of the relationship in terms of a tennis match when a problem arises. It’s not a singles match, it’s a doubles match where you and your partner are in the same side of the net. They explain it better than I just did though 😅

@isa-qz8fg Год назад

Hard for me to feel like I could ever find someone who could give me the space when I need like that and the support / vice versa in tough situations in my current stage of life. I feel like friends who I have known for years will easily end friendships from resentment built up as well. Maybe you two can do an episode of adult friendships? Romantically, I can't even think about the capacity of that, I feel like people are so jaded with big egos. No patience or any sort of working on self, it's just drop and onto the next. I'm jaded.