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In this video, '10 Lies All Narcissists Tell,' we shed light on the narcissist's lying ways. From love bombing to covert #narcissist lies and gaslighting, we've got it all covered. Whether it's your ex, your parent or your spouse, we'll help you unravel the web of narcissistic deception. Get ready to uncover the truth about narcissistic abuse and how to shield yourself from their manipulative games!
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@CommonEgo
@CommonEgo 9 месяцев назад
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@vivisimonvi
@vivisimonvi 9 месяцев назад
Narcs can apologize. It goes like this: "I'm sorry you feel that way."
@viewerwatching5712
@viewerwatching5712 8 месяцев назад
If you think I'm wrong then I'm sorry
@gogosylvia293
@gogosylvia293 8 месяцев назад
​@@viewerwatching5712😂😂😂
@sViviftie
@sViviftie 7 месяцев назад
I've had "you should know that I'm sorry" whenever I pointed out they never even apologized 🙂🔥
@wking8
@wking8 7 месяцев назад
Or this gem, "I'm sorry, is that what you want to hear?"
@carolinelaronda4523
@carolinelaronda4523 6 месяцев назад
Yes ! This is so true 🤣😩😭
@emmarae4322
@emmarae4322 7 месяцев назад
“My exes are all crazy.” “ I will protect you.” “I never said that.”🙄 Trust me, they drove their exes crazy.😂
@sunnykhan5451
@sunnykhan5451 5 месяцев назад
These were the words I remember but I was fully consumed by the charm and love bombing.
@clintonnagy1662
@clintonnagy1662 2 месяца назад
OMG. I heard my husband cheated on me. Come to find out later, she cheated on him and the husband cheated on her as retaliation. Classic tactic towards a narc. I left before I was cheated on. That's too much toxicity to process.
@marianperron9219
@marianperron9219 2 месяца назад
The most important reality checks are: they will never change and they get worse as they get older. I’m finished with having life sucked out of my soul.
@lindamoore9729
@lindamoore9729 9 месяцев назад
I have a couple more lies that I hear all the time. 1. I didn't hear you, so if you said that, I didn't hear you. 2. I don't remember doing that or saying that. IF I did, I don't remember it.
@jamierodenberg8100
@jamierodenberg8100 8 месяцев назад
Or … I think you heard me wrong that’s not what I said. You need to be honest with yourself that can’t be how I’m making you feel. I forget his favorite ☝️ I’m probably the best boyfriend you’ve ever had in your life. 😅
@anyamiranda9452
@anyamiranda9452 8 месяцев назад
A "friend" of mine says the second one *all. the. effen'. time.* Your comment is the last straw, that made me finally accept what she actually is.
@jrelevates1574
@jrelevates1574 7 месяцев назад
It didn’t understand, was confused.
@Bostonnic781
@Bostonnic781 6 месяцев назад
@@jamierodenberg8100 stay strong, I can identify! ❤thanks for sharing!
@lorigilbert795
@lorigilbert795 3 месяца назад
I hear those a lot from my partner, and also from my ex. The ex had a really insidious one: I was just telling you what you wanted to hear. So my fault he "had to" lie to me.
@clintonnagy1662
@clintonnagy1662 2 месяца назад
OMG yes. I had that happen. Her little son would ridicule me for things he heard on the phone from his mother. I would confront her about it and she would deny it. No one else knew that, except her. She spread my private business on the phone to her friends then deny. Despicable.
@roxymovie3938
@roxymovie3938 9 месяцев назад
1. You can be safe with me / You can be vulnerable 2. My ex(es) were insane / My ex is my best fiend 3. No one likes you / No one believes you 4. You can count on me / You can depend on me 5. This is all your fault 6. I want the same things as you 7. I am honest / I never lie 8. I will change / fake apology 9. I love you 10. You can't trust yourself I heard all of it except nr 8 from a Sociopath. He said he could not change and he would never do and he would not apoligize. Well, he did some fauxpologies when he knew he had gone too far but it was never sincere which I could tell by his passive-aggressive tone of voice. Thanks, Kristina 🙏💛🙏
@kaleido76
@kaleido76 9 месяцев назад
Thank you for listing 🙏🏼
@Drteomas
@Drteomas 9 месяцев назад
I think what often happens is that people that fall for the narcissists lies do so because they are used to it. Meaning the behavior happened at home with the parents or a sibling. This can make people blind to the toxicity. Nobody ever tells you your parents are toxic.
@TimetoWonder222
@TimetoWonder222 7 месяцев назад
My mother is a narcissist. I had no idea I'd surrounded myself with them until I broke.
@NewDay8429
@NewDay8429 5 месяцев назад
True that
@FMD-gm7cj
@FMD-gm7cj 9 месяцев назад
Thanks Christina. I have just been released from 7 weeks imprisonment. I’m 45 and up until now never had more than a speeding fine. I’m 13yrs into a respectable career in emergency services and have an amazing healthy relationship with my ex wife the mother of our 3 kids even after 11 yrs separated. My recent relationship was only 14 months. Red flags I ignored. 2 weeks after returning home from overseas snow skiing holiday with my narcissistic partner at the time, and my three kids I broke up with her as I couldn’t take the emotional abuse and mental rollercoaster any longer. I made the mistake of providing her with several audio recordings of her disgustingly abhorrent Thai raids against me to emphasise to her the reasons why I was breaking it off. Jan result was not a further single word was spoken from her. I never saw her again and within three days I had a restraining order served on me which stupidly I breached by sending text messages to her explaining I had no idea what had happened to us and why she was doing this when we were in the snow together only two weeks earlier etc etc. I just could not understand what was happening and refuse to walk away without any final discussion or adult conversation about the break up. So yeah, it was foolish of me to breach the restraining order, however, what that did was in fact unveil the Truey hate field, spiteful, evil narcissism that had been simmering beneath the surface. What followed from there has been the worst experience of my 45 year life. She was back with her ex husband within a week who happens to be a police officer? This was before the order was in place, and then she said about destroying me, my life, my career, and everybody close to me who i love. A simple breach of the restraining order by sending heartfelt messages transpired through the most revolting accusations and lies put to the police, and ultimately before the court with each court appearance, revealing even more hideous, despicable, fallacious accounts and character assassination of me that saw me spend seven weeks held on remand in a maximum security prison, trying to defend myself dispute. The lies, disprove, her allegations all the while, my kids, my family, my loved ones, all suffering and supporting me through the whole process and I was released just one day ago. I had been learning of narcissism for many of those 14 months with her, trying to arm myself with strategies, and a basic understanding of how to navigate a relationship with someone who demonstrates narcissistic traits but never would I have ever believed these people could possess such truly evil characteristics, and if somebody were to tell me previously the same story I have just told there is no way I would’ve attributed it to a narcissistic person and would have previously been convinced there is more to the story but I can tell you with absolute honesty and sincerity that this is a very real and true demonstration of how dangerous these people are, and to top it off, to conclude her very well written, although almost entirely fabricated, victim state his story to the court prior to my release she finished off by applying for and being granted a life time restraining order against me, which has absolutely no bearing on me whatsoever, and I couldn’t care less about that but just that final act of vindictiveness and victim charade topped it all off and I now live in fear at what’s coming next, what evil, malicious, intentions or plans will she now conjure up to somehow set me up again. I have lived a happy and fulfilling life, including some very fulfilling relationships and then just 14 months I have been torn to absolute shreds, and although I’ve now been released back to my life, due to the nature of the whole situation and the process over the past seven weeks I now have to fight hard to be able to keep my job, the career I absolutely love because we are very much in the public I in the public domain and regardless of whether accusations against somebody are real false or exaggerated. There is significant flow on affect within the community When it comes to the nature of my work, so I fear that my reputation has been damaged beyond repair, and I could still stand to lose my 13 year career as a direct result of this pure evil inflicted on me by somebody I had so much love for and treated so well and all of this ultimately, at the end of the day what’s that all of this in motion was me not only being the one to break off the relationship with her, but more poignantly calling her out on her terrible behaviour and providing to her irrefutable evidence of the type of person she is, but always denied was the was the case. Sorry to share such a lengthy comment, but I listen to Christina frequently and given how raw this recent experience is for me, I needed to vent and get it off my chest and tell people just how dangerous anyone who demonstrates traits of npd can truly become. Thanks for reading. 13:32
@Shauna0715
@Shauna0715 8 месяцев назад
Thank you so much for posting this. I’m so sorry you went through that. I’ve had a similar situation. I’m a registered nurse and I was with my ex husband for 10 years. We were building a house and 2 months before we were supposed to move in, I came home from work and he told me we aren’t getting the house and he’s divorcing me. We had a 2 year old daughter that we tried for 5 years to have. So it was very unexpected. He didn’t move out and a month later I got home from work after he was telling me all day how we would most likely be together again, we just needed to separate. When I got home, I asked him in person if he thinks we can be together again and he told me absolutely not, there’s no way in Hell I ever want to be with you again. I started crying and went to go to my friends house to cry to her and he took my keys and locked me in the garage. I threw an oil funnel in the garage and he came out and pushed me up against the garage door. So I kneed him in the groin. He got up and took my keys and went back inside so I told him I was calling the cops. It rang twice and he threw the keys at me so I hung up but they called me back and I pulled over and told the police everything and I went to jail for domestic violence. I was supposed to go home the next day and signed the papers but they returned with no contact orders and my ex later told me that he talked with the judge and told him that if he was a woman he would get no contact. So I had to stay in a hotel for 4 months until he moved out. Then he called me 4 days later and said he was sorry. I wanted to work things out because he had been so good to me for 10 years. So I broke no contact protection orders for the whole year and he kept being back and forth about being together then a month before I was going to have my charges dropped, finished all my domestic violence classes and it was going to be cleared from my record, he came over to pick up our daughter and he told me again that he didn’t want me, so I got mad and yelled at him, he took out his phone and recorded me for 90 seconds and I went to work but he called me after my shift and told me that he called the cops and submitted the video so the next day I went to jail again and I was charged with domestic violence again and got 2 years protection order and since my daughter woke up when I yelled I got child abuse charges and couldn’t see her for 48 days. I almost went to jail for 60 days for breaking no contact but I got an attorney and she postponed it and I had a new judge and got 30 days house arrest instead. And it’s been 2 years, he just got a new girlfriend 2 months ago and he is still telling me that if I can better and do the things he asks and if I can be normal we can try again maybe in 90 days or a year and see where things are at. He blames me for everything. He told me a week after he wanted the divorce that he was going to go after 80% custody of our daughter, he was going to drain all my money and he was going to go after my nursing license. He is still threatening to put a permanent order of protection in place. I just don’t know what happened. He used to think I was amazing and then he started to put me down but he was always there for me through so much and he cooked and cleaned and helped raise my son and he was so good to me. It’s so hard to wrap my head around how he was so good and now he’s turned into pure evil and is trying to destroy my life. He also stole 14,500 from me and I lost 60,000 from attorneys and court fees, classes, my car broke down, and I lost the earnest money for the house and it’s just been Hell. I just wish he was the person I thought he was. He told me if I got better, maybe I could earn him and my family back and he also told me that there’s only a 0.00009% chance he will come back to me but he hopes I win the Tyler lottery and he’s rooting for me. He also called the night before the divorce and said, just because we’re getting a divorce doesn’t mean it’s over between us, it’s just paperwork. He had giving me so much hope and then crushed me but I know I’ve allowed it because I didn’t want to give up but he’s treated me so bad. So thank you for the validation. And my ex most likely is a narc, he’s sadistic and evil and I just wish he was the person I fell in love with and who was so good to me before. But thanks again because I haven’t read any narc sending their partner to jail and I’m sorry that happened to you. You’re strong for letting go and moving on. I’m still struggling with letting him go. I just wanted him to think I was good enough and get his approval and I wanted him to love me like I thought he did before. Sorry. This is very long.
@casperinsight3524
@casperinsight3524 9 месяцев назад
They may believe they love you but it's their version not yours.
@mammadingo9165
@mammadingo9165 2 месяца назад
Perspective is everything
@brittsohippie
@brittsohippie 9 месяцев назад
He told me “you’ll cheat before I do, I’m faithful” 💥 Cheated.
@clintonnagy1662
@clintonnagy1662 2 месяца назад
Hahahaha...yep. 😅 Hey, sucking isn't Fxxking and eating ain't cheating. That's how they think. I experienced that and it's frustrating.
@sf4010
@sf4010 8 месяцев назад
Future faking also includes them leaving and moving on if you don't do something based solely on their time-line schedule.
@clintonnagy1662
@clintonnagy1662 2 месяца назад
Her schedule wasn't working with mine but she blames me for that. She can't plan anything and told me I never make plans with her. #1 she always had her son and refused to have me around because of that. #2 I would make suggestions and she didn't want to do the things I offered. I gave up trying then got accused of seeing someone else because I lost interest. Toxic.
@sf4010
@sf4010 2 месяца назад
@clintonnagy1662 yes they always like to find excuses to not plan anything/don't take initiative to plan incase it turns out not to be a good idea to avoid accountability. Also many people will use kids as an excuse to get out of things/not look bad if they don't want to follow through on something.
@clintonnagy1662
@clintonnagy1662 2 месяца назад
@@sf4010 so true. 100 %
@MelisJoy
@MelisJoy 9 месяцев назад
Another example that makes it insidious abuse: They take in all the things they learn about you & that you opened up to them about, along with habits they observe. They then use those to smear you to others, so that when they discard you in the most horrible way, everyone buys into their game. Then they can pretend they had nothing to do with it at all, that it's YOUR flaws that caused everyone to run away.
@guardedcitadel5837
@guardedcitadel5837 8 месяцев назад
Yeah, when they are talking they are lying.
@r4infxll
@r4infxll 7 месяцев назад
My husband always says if i ever want to be with someone else I would tell you and leave. Ya right! Just found out he is a sex addict and is still in touch "friends," with his ex fiancee. Making a plan to divorce. Thank you for the video!
@will_Iam61
@will_Iam61 9 месяцев назад
I too had to make notes on the crazymaking behavior. It's because it is so intermittent. They can be fine, pleasant, even nice for days and then all of a sudden, bang - the crazymaking behavior is back and you're just trying to avoid making things worse. It tests your resolve when you're planning how you're going to get out of it.
@clintonnagy1662
@clintonnagy1662 2 месяца назад
I spent more time planning ways to make her happy in that moment but nobody is safe. She's a force of nature that needs to take its coarse. Just take cover and agree, agree, and agree till she stops
@dianaorlando8641
@dianaorlando8641 9 месяцев назад
My narcissist husband always puts the blame on me and says I put the apps there I'm the one talking to girls it's always put back on me.
@rikidementia1819
@rikidementia1819 9 месяцев назад
I prefer keeping communication by text. Because now I have screenshots for the lies. Can't be gaslit for something I got in writing! (Although she tries)
@jaredknight1627
@jaredknight1627 9 месяцев назад
I was cheated on and ended up apologizing too. Looking back i was the biggest sucker in the world. I do realize how good these people are at what they do. But come on man. She completely broke who I was before I met her. These people are super sneaky some of the most evil people on this planet.
@dianaorlando8641
@dianaorlando8641 9 месяцев назад
My husband always has hidden accounts on RU-vid and wherever and lies constantly.
@darkcloudrider359
@darkcloudrider359 9 месяцев назад
I've probably watched at least 10 of your videos in the last couple days. All I can say is my GOD how could I not realize my wife of 15 years is a covert narcissist. I knew she had issues but this helps me to understand them. I don't know how I have held it together this long. I kinda knew I was empathic but also learned I'm codependent too didn't realize what it was but have seen it in myself often molding to the needs of others. Wow a lot to take in! I think God led me to this as I have just gone through one of our highest and shortest highs followed by a real low within 3-4 days. Then you add on my mother is obviously a open narcissist (I didn't think it was full blown but knew how extremely self centered she was now its obvious) along with my first wife geez.
@hiddenshadowsparanormaltea4801
@hiddenshadowsparanormaltea4801 9 месяцев назад
It took me 27yrs and her videos to figure out that I was married to a covert narcissist.
@darkcloudrider359
@darkcloudrider359 9 месяцев назад
Sorry to hear that hope you have found your peace.@@hiddenshadowsparanormaltea4801
@will_Iam61
@will_Iam61 9 месяцев назад
@@hiddenshadowsparanormaltea4801, very similar here. Took about 27 years to fully realize the truth. I could have written what darkcloudrider did, with small differences, but same root cause of codependency keeping me blind to just how bad things were.
@sunset9729
@sunset9729 9 месяцев назад
All of this happened to me. You are 100% correct. It's much easier to have 20/20 hindsight. Living in that moment of years before I was awaken was very difficult. I thought I was the only one this was happening to. That statement alone should be a red flag. Awesome video 😊 Thanks
@hardywatkins7737
@hardywatkins7737 8 месяцев назад
I think my narcissist ex' made me co-dependent ... y'know the trauma bond stuff. I was fine until i met her.
@jacobknox2380
@jacobknox2380 8 месяцев назад
The future faking is TERRIBLE, because you really believe you can have whatever it is. And for some reason you KEEP believing it
@ChristopherDonnerArtist
@ChristopherDonnerArtist 8 месяцев назад
Rule of thumb with manipulative people. If you have to always justify their actions to your healthy friends. Run . If you have healthy friends listen when they say run .
@jackthisout9480
@jackthisout9480 Месяц назад
My dad says it all the time: he loves me. But he truly doesn't understand what it means. He repeats the words that he is supposed to say, but the words don't mean anything to him, or to me.
@user-ds1co4jp1d
@user-ds1co4jp1d 9 месяцев назад
My female Nex would say,"i just want you to open up to me and let me in but your so guarded." I was for 5 yrs. She finally got in. I ignored so much. I was a sucker for her tears...i have a heart and because of her ive now learned when the water works are just plain ol manipulation. I remember each time vividly. I was discarded when i told her,"im sorry you feel that way." Im aware its no apology. I gotta admit it felt good to spoon feed her her own medicine. Im thankful & proud to be discarded by her.
@AndreasRohdin-MrGamer
@AndreasRohdin-MrGamer 8 месяцев назад
Good. So good it's got to be fattning. 😂
@Ihavenocluetbh
@Ihavenocluetbh 9 месяцев назад
My ex asked me why i broke up with her and then said that she was better and that she can’t recognise herself in what i told her… how is she better if she didn’t acknowledge her behaviour? Lies
@MrBdl32
@MrBdl32 9 месяцев назад
Well, I've been there just recently and can tell the first problem for me was answering that call since from there is a game of how long will take for me to apologize for her behavior that it just happens I caused
@DeeEll86442
@DeeEll86442 4 месяца назад
My son and mother (who died recently) are both narcissist, but I am an Empath. We all lived together in a home my mother and I owned together. Now that my son has to work to help pay the bills I’m experiencing more gaslighting than ever. Everything you described in this video is happening to me. I volunteer some of my time down at the local senior center and my son gets jealous of that and all of my friends. He has one friend online, a girl that he lies to and she gives him money and gifts because of his lies. I’d like to warn her but I think he has her so brainwashed into thinking I am crazy that I don’t think she would listen to me. He threatens to leave and says he has other places to go live. However, he has no diploma, doesn’t drive, and has only worked at McDonalds for the past few months. We are struggling to make it right now so I need him here to help pay the bills, plus he’s my son and I love him. I know him being here and his treatment of me is tearing me down. I’m just not sure what to do right now. Funny thing is I volunteer as a therapist for other people. Normally I would tell a person like me to remove that person from their lives, but the circumstances don’t allow me to do that right now. All he has ever known is the protection of this home and family, but I think he needs to get out to realize just how good he really had it in his home.
@sublimeguy
@sublimeguy 8 месяцев назад
My last girl the reason I'm here , I told her I loved her within the first 2weeks and I even did it accidentally but I actually meant it 😢. She really messed my head up, I still question my actions and strive for closure that I know will never come
@sissysp8924
@sissysp8924 Месяц назад
I never said that is the one I hear the most. It’s conditional love not unconditional love like we give. Years 23 with mine 19 years married. Learning ❤
@jrelevates1574
@jrelevates1574 7 месяцев назад
My ex husband, always said, during the marriage, no matter what ever happens with us, he’ll always take care of me. Turns out I was his beard for 22 years. And he lied to avoid alimony or anything at all.
@021kid84
@021kid84 6 месяцев назад
It's been tough for me; I've experienced narcissistic abuse, from love bombing to gaslighting. After 10 years of marriage, I find myself with a shattered self-esteem and drained. I'm an empathetic person, but no matter how hard I try, I couldn't figure things out, which has taken away all my happiness and my smile. The day I realized how she is and tried to leave her, she took my children and went to a crisis center. She blamed me for many things that are not true, accusing me of being an alcoholic, drug user, abusive, and more. Despite never doing any of those things, she now manipulates my children, preventing them from having contact with me. My older son is only 10, and the younger one is 7. I haven't seen my children in a year, and I have to go to court, but I don't know how much longer I can endure this mental battle and when I'm gonna lose my battle in my mind
@jadeweissleader4008
@jadeweissleader4008 4 месяца назад
Hang in there! Your children will receive your love. There is nothing that can stop that. Yes, they may be convinced of certain things for a time, and yes, they may be turned against you. But , it's very likely that they will NEED you to rescue them later, to be there for them, to show the true genuine love of a parent when they find that their mothers soul is too deeply suffering to allow her to love. I got my dad back after 22 years, he became my best friend, a wonderful grandpa, and my rock. My willingness to forgive the past and welcome him carried over to his best friend who had destroyed his marriage through alcoholism early in life, then spent years regretting his actions, and being left out. He then went and made amends with the family. He died within 4 blocks of 11 grandchildren who adored him, all of his children love and respect him, and his ex wife ( and her husband ) became his close friends. Stay the course, remain peaceful and consistent... good luck and good wisdom friend.💚💚💚
@021kid84
@021kid84 4 месяца назад
@@jadeweissleader4008 I don't know how much longer I can take it, but I try to carry on 🖤
@clintonnagy1662
@clintonnagy1662 2 месяца назад
When I told her I was struggling with alcoholism because we went to Wineries constantly. She told me she needs a man who will accommodate her needs an wants, and my drinking problem is my problem NOT hers.
@lc4972
@lc4972 9 месяцев назад
He said, " I will never lie, deceive or cheat on you because I was lied to, deceived and cheated on." I believed him because that is reason he got divorced. She cheated. It was in the divorce papers. I read it. Also he would say, "I don't lie." He did all of it. I was trauma bonded so didn't leave until 13 yrs later. He would kick me out every other week. I had to learn to love myself and what a healthy relationship was like. Any sign of these things while dating, I kicked them to the curb. I'm married now. It's a peaceful, secure and loving relationship. Nothing like I had before! So wish that I had ditched my Nex sooner!!!
@jonsabath9265
@jonsabath9265 9 месяцев назад
I have noticed with my covert narc (soon to be ex) wife that the lies are becoming less coherent and more egregious the more reality presses in on her (got custody of our 6yo son and a 2 year op, she seems to think she can get it dismissed by lying to the judge 😂)
@viewerwatching5712
@viewerwatching5712 8 месяцев назад
Female narcs are the worse, I recently got divorced from my ex wife after 20 years. I didn't know she was a narc until I got away from her and did some research to explain the craziness of her last discard! They are basket cases and sneaky sluts! Demons in meat suits.
@adele865
@adele865 9 месяцев назад
Another great video. Oh, I used to take notes too, because i knew he would rewrite history. I never knew what he was until years into the relationship. I was slowly discovering about gaslighting, and abusive relationships etc, then I learned the word narcissist and read up on the traits and OMG. It was him to a T! I did 2 decades although the last few years there was less time spent with him and I always maintained my own home, separate as I'd had a previous relationship that was a shocker too, but nothing could prepare me for the ultimate toxic one. He was a combo of my PBD father and NPD mother and the trauma bonding happened so intensely, I have been formally diagnosed with CPTSD, and sadly so has my 17 year old son who has had to live with the father 50% of the time for schooling so he's copped the abuse too much. So, that's 2 of his victims formally diagnosed with CPTSD.
@naomidaum8277
@naomidaum8277 9 месяцев назад
I think my husband has a split personality. Maybe bipolar? He is stuck in the past and wishes our family still lived in a state of struggle. He invites his friends over, and they see his lovely farmhouse with acreage in the country. His kids are well mannered. His wife (me) is a great blessing who can cook good food. He has tons of guns to choose from for shooting. All he's missing is a cool car or truck. Dont worry though, he's shopping for one of each. I've known my husband for a long time and knew he had insecurities, who doesn't, but his seem to keep him in a "woe is me" state. He has been almost normal for a week now, and I mean in a fairly good mood. Like he's trying to fake it until he makes it, but he can never make it. He cycles through life for about a week in different states of mind and being. Next week, he should transition into his everything is just trying to make me mad. He will be distant yet overly needy for affirmation and reassurance. After that will be his narcissist phase, the rage stage that he blames on sexual frustration and it's a doozy. Guilt trip manipulation for me, cussing and criticism for our oldest child, and neglecting or ignoring our youngest. Final stage is set for depression, not remorse, straight up depression, scapegoats, and fake apologies. I say fake apologies because he doesn't change and all he wants to hear is that he's forgiven. Then he can move on, no physical harm, no foul. No broken bones, only broken hearts, and he can live with that. Everybody else just needs to move on so he can start feeling better. The more I analyze the situation, the more angry I become. The more I see the truth, the more grateful I am that God is helping me. It is very difficult for me to understand that not everyone wants help with feeling or doing better. I see now that I have to move forward for the sake of my children, and for myself. Why is this so scary even though I'm so angry?
@fernandomartin3517
@fernandomartin3517 5 месяцев назад
I am learning to protect myself from ppl like this!!! Everything n the comments she was using on me , I build up courage n left no contact over!!!
@slowmotion421
@slowmotion421 9 месяцев назад
Before me and my ex broke up she told me this elaborate story about a guy wit a gun and some kids... she cried but I couldn't even believe the story because of all the other lies. I left 2 months later
@angiegreen455
@angiegreen455 9 месяцев назад
One of my favorite lies is...📞 .." I don't know how that got on my phone " ....😂...(a text thread with another woman)....also gone 16 hours a day at work ( he does asphalt ) ...comes home broke every day..no real paycheck...hmmm...no response to asking where your paycheck? Makes me so angry...lie after lie after lie after lie...any way 👍 thx for sharing
@JaniefromCali2OKC
@JaniefromCali2OKC 3 месяца назад
Oh my god; using your past traumas and weaknesses against you when mad. 😧✔️
@cjf5412
@cjf5412 5 месяцев назад
As much as I hate text arguing…it has shown me I wasn’t the one in the wrong and it will save you in the long run. Example. We got into a big argument through texts one night and she said let’s go sit in the van and do some shots and talk few days later. Being a guy, I thought to myself, alright. Let’s go. Let’s have some fun. We do a few shots and she proceeds to smoke a whole blunt. As I’m sure you all know…this leads to a dark place when it’s your significant other. She started to bring up said argument we had. She started to twist and exaggerate what I said to her benefit. Aka play victim/lawyer. I said that’s not what I said and you’re full of it. She said I got the texts to prove it. I said alright. Let’s go check. She literally went through three days of texts to find the conversation. She started reading it with so much confidence. Half a sentence in her tone started to diminish as she realized she was wrong. But the best part is that she still tried to twist what I had said and make herself the victim of my honesty. It gets better. She thinks I’m the narcissist. If anything I have borderline personality disorder. I love saving people. I need constant reassurance. My parents are narcissists. So I try to provide for others what I was deprived of. The sad part is that us victims get on here and express our victimhood and we still get some kind of ridicule. Even from survivors. If you’re a true survivor you know that the narcissist was a victim at one point as well. Even if they don’t know it. Stay strong through the hoover/journey to recovery. Funny fact I just discovered. I use swipe when I use my phone. Journey and hoover are peculiarly similar.
@ivanstepanovic1327
@ivanstepanovic1327 9 месяцев назад
"It's all your fault"...
@clintonnagy1662
@clintonnagy1662 2 месяца назад
How about the quote " you ruined everything "? That always hit me hard.
@littlebit8
@littlebit8 3 месяца назад
At the very beginning, before we started dating,My ex told me about his "strong moral belief" that single people shouldn't be friends with married people of the opposite sex. After he dumped me, he was immediately hanging out and flirting with a married woman . Nauseating. Also, all of his exes were mentally ill. And he told me that I would feel so much better if I told him everything my abusive ex husband did. Only to hold it against me in the breakup by saying it bothered him to hear about my ex. I could go on with the list of everything here you mention, especially the trustworthy virtue crap. But ultimately he broke up with me because I wore a tank top. I wear that tank top All The Time now
@jasonz9902
@jasonz9902 3 месяца назад
Once you've had the displeasure of loving one of these types you tend to avoid them at all costs after that. And you could pick em out in a crowd a mile away. Once you seen you can't miss them.
@ST30809
@ST30809 3 месяца назад
I told mine “Yes I will take the blame for everything since you’re not man enough to take part of it.”
@izawaniek2568
@izawaniek2568 9 месяцев назад
Your observations and advice are Spot on! Thank you.
@hardywatkins7737
@hardywatkins7737 8 месяцев назад
My first time watching your channel. You seem quite down to earth, .... no mention of empaths or demonic energy yet, and i like that.
@seameology
@seameology 3 месяца назад
I divorced my ex narc THIRTY years ago and our kids are grown. I found out recently, he was looking for me. Luvkily, he's a thousand miles away and in ill health.
@Ballpython77
@Ballpython77 9 месяцев назад
you're so awesome. you helped me so much dealing with my soon to be ex wife. I asked for divorce on Aug 26, 2023 and since she lost her shit. you really helped coping with the pain and understanding what happened.
@cromagn1n
@cromagn1n 7 месяцев назад
I narcissist with a best friend of the opposite sex in the picture there is either cheating or there will be cheating. No benefit of the doubt with those people.
@dadsfreetimeclassicgaming1220
@dadsfreetimeclassicgaming1220 7 месяцев назад
12:20 Mine is covert and she gaslights all the time. Fortunately my mother gas lights all the time and she tried to tell me that all the traumas that I have with her were figments of my imagination. Both my parents are narcissists and they're always gaslighting and doing word salad. So i normally hyperfocus on conversations and visuals. I also keep a blog.
@stardustdreams234
@stardustdreams234 9 месяцев назад
Mine was a damn chronic liar 🤮🤮🤮🤮
@ricargon.x
@ricargon.x 3 месяца назад
On time stamp 6:16 where you brought up a comment someone posted, where they said, "she cheated, and I apologized" I went through a situation where my wife actually was projecting to me as she said, "if I go with someone else because you don't want to have sex with me, it will be your fault, not mine." Narcissists are out of their minds. You can't argue with a narcissist, because generally, when anyone argues there's usually an outcome where there's either a solution, compromise, or some food for thought to try and convince the other side of what is being presented. A narcissist doesn't have anything to bring other than rage, hate, animosity, vile and disgusting language that is sickening and repulsive. I learned the hard way and never had encountered such a malicious spirit that can blend in with the crowd and appear as an angel of light. Wait, where have I heard that before. Oh yea, 2 Corinthians 11:14 "And no marvel; for Satan himself is transformed into an angel of light"
@Trapanzano100
@Trapanzano100 5 месяцев назад
She was saying to me "You have nobody" and i told her was because nobody wants to be around you
@hardywatkins7737
@hardywatkins7737 8 месяцев назад
My narcissist ex' started by saying "I need to be with someone i can trust" and then a couple of months later when i was feeling insecure about a seeming lack of commitment and the fact that i'd found her sitting in her ex's lap a couple of times, and also after she had said "I can't be on my own" and then saying we need time apart (so if she needs time apart, yet can't be on her own, then who is she with?) , she tells me "You've got to trust me!".
@clintonnagy1662
@clintonnagy1662 2 месяца назад
My EX hated her ex BF to the point I assumed they would kill each other. I found it odd how she would text and talk to him regularly but tell me I couldn't talk to my ex wife when she needed something. I never claimed I had a toxic relationship with my ex. Always some lie going on with them, and they want total control. Craziness.
@noturbo
@noturbo 9 месяцев назад
all i know for sure is i deserve so much better than that
@CommonEgo
@CommonEgo 9 месяцев назад
most definitely ❤️
@sandrabarchan7531
@sandrabarchan7531 Месяц назад
Everything my man do it end me saying I am sorry, because it's always my fault.. omg, I always wander what I did wrong.
@lanietyler9317
@lanietyler9317 4 месяца назад
Thank you ❤
@remytembe4249
@remytembe4249 9 месяцев назад
Spot on with #1
@celestitenight8425
@celestitenight8425 8 месяцев назад
He'd come back promising to change, then within a day be more abusive and guilt and shame me for trying to leave at all. Tell me I crossed boundaries by telling my family what happened. That I was wrong and hurt HIM.
@user-ee5om8wy7u
@user-ee5om8wy7u 4 месяца назад
This is correct that trust is not spoken with words. Trust is earned with actions/evidence. Trustworthy feeling must be backed up by hard evidence, documentary proof, AND consistent actions - NOT words. "Trust me - I don't have any STD's" is not the same as showing one's latests STD test results and activily seeking to get tested together again and willingly talk about condom use! Or saying, "trust me - I will pay you back " is not the same as offering some sort of a lien/consequence ( for not paying back and actually writing that in a paper agreement to pay back on due date ) and doing so with witnesses and also with providing once' s 800+ credit score...
@jaredsummers2460
@jaredsummers2460 4 месяца назад
Wish I could go zero contact with my narc ex except we have a kid. I got the best part of her though.
@MajorieRoyal
@MajorieRoyal 9 месяцев назад
Ahah one of my ex of 12 years ago is a super good friend... but it's so clearly friendship that we don't even remember and understand how we ended together. I could sound narc there
@CommonEgo
@CommonEgo 9 месяцев назад
No, you definitely don't... not everyone who is friends with their ex is a narcissist. But any narcissist who is "best friends" with an ex is probably cheating with them 🙏❤️
@MajorieRoyal
@MajorieRoyal 9 месяцев назад
@@CommonEgo 🥰
@JesseCosta1
@JesseCosta1 9 месяцев назад
I have heard every single one of these... I ended the just over 2 year relationship with her and 1 month later she is dating someone else. Even during the final months with her, trying to work things out I asked if there was someone else and she said "no" while covering up her mouth and looking away, I called her out on her actions and she called me crazy and distrusting
@julianb.5808
@julianb.5808 9 месяцев назад
Damm, like looking in a mirror. I can relate a 100%. Literally my experience as well. I know it is hard, even after 8 months I am quite emotionally ruined. Hope you are doing well, don't take it personally. It is not your fault, it is not because of you. Stay strong, hope you are healing from your experience. I can understand such a thing is actually quite traumatic.
@clintonnagy1662
@clintonnagy1662 2 месяца назад
OMG. That's terrible. I'm sorry you had to witness that. They need an instant supply to fuel their ego. It's been a week since the break up but I know she will date someone new. Probably already laying ground work for the weekend. Then she' ll tell her 8 year old brat son" mommy is allowed to date other people". Thats why they call it dating. I hope it backfires on her. Karma.
@rayabercrombie6239
@rayabercrombie6239 8 месяцев назад
You're f*(k'n BEAUTIFUL!! And part of that may just be because you are also smart and down to earth but.... Felt compelled to tell you that just incase no one else has lately!? Lol. I love your videos!!
@user-gl5zz3bu2g
@user-gl5zz3bu2g 4 месяца назад
I knew something cause in the he kept trying to get me to marry him and get to let my guard down ~ I dodged a bullet but I still fell in love
@garrimic3
@garrimic3 3 месяца назад
I’m committing a second time by itself to say Thank you
@garrimic3
@garrimic3 3 месяца назад
My ex wife (covert narcissist) would always use people against me in my family. It would usually go like this… Why do you think your father or brother have nothing to do with you? Or Why do you think you don’t have any friends? Or Why do you think I did that? I would just look at her once I got myself in a healthy place and state… Well my father is a overt narcissist who has cheated on my mother since they were married and I told him if he could not change his extremely selfish and sometimes abusive behavior then he wasn’t allowed around me or my children. My brother has always chosen to never come around and that’s his right to do so. Even though I think he is narcissistic to a degree because he always talks about his self and how good he is and knowledgeable about everything. He got his BSN and didn’t graduate high school and I am still proud of him for doing so but he all of a sudden knew everything about nursing one month in the job. He only did nursing for 6 months to a year and doesn’t do it anymore. Not sure why because he doesn’t come around. I was able to explain why I didn’t have any friends (I do actually) to hang out with. I’m a truck driver who is gone more than I typically want to be gone. What am I supposed to do when I get home? Hang out with friends or be present in my children’s lives? I choose my children any day of the year. To explain why she does the things she does to me would take some time. The simplest answer is because she chose to be abusive towards me. It’s her responsibility to make sure she is in control of her own actions. Just as I am responsible for my actions and to own those actions so that true healing can happen. She never owned her own abusive behavior and I have had to heal without her help.
@RatedArggg
@RatedArggg 9 месяцев назад
My ex-BF once proposed to me. Later on I mentioned it, and he said I was delusional, that he NEVER did that, I must be crazy. I distinctly remember that he did. But he denied it.....maybe because I didn't say yes.
@annapeet
@annapeet 2 месяца назад
Iv bein stalked for 11years and for 6 of those years theyv losened the wheels on my car and put the hub caps back on to create the illusion my wheels were fine.
@annapeet
@annapeet 2 месяца назад
Every1 told me this person is crazy
@amarbyrd2520
@amarbyrd2520 2 месяца назад
Narcissistic parents do a WHOLE LOT of future faking
@charlie-km1et
@charlie-km1et 9 месяцев назад
She kept talking about her ex boyfriends and how they were her friends. She would let her kids invite them to various functions like they were dolls or something. So weird.
@clintonnagy1662
@clintonnagy1662 2 месяца назад
Yep, they use them and string them along. That's why. I told my ex, I wasn't her son's play toy, and im not her bedroom sex doll. I'm not being strung along when she feels the need to go out then be strung along till someone new comes. NOPE. I'm better then that. When she views "fooling around" isn't cheating because the act of sex never took place, I was done. Warped, deluded mind.
@cthuluownzyou
@cthuluownzyou 7 месяцев назад
The ex and my parents do pretty much all of these.
@kristahunter1588
@kristahunter1588 5 месяцев назад
Oh my gosh, I've done that. Where they just talk and talk and talk. I put the phone down Yup and they just keep rambling on about gossip about other people. Import me and oh my gosh, and I always come back. And then I go back and do what I need to do while. They're just yak in a way sometimes an hour. Sometimes 2 hfirst, and she'll go. Did you hear what I said? And I'll go Yup, but I don't know what the heck she said. I wasn't listening. I was busy doing other things while they were acting. Because it's all nonsense. It's saw gaslighting and gossips up and character assassinating, and it's all a bunch of hot air. I don't listen to it and every time I try to talk about something stimulating. Or interesting or? They can't talk, they just go silent. And then you hear The Thing on their phone. Like they're not even paying attention. They're texting other people so it's like. What's the point of me talking I done I got rid of this person waste of breath.
@user-hr9uo1bs9r
@user-hr9uo1bs9r 9 месяцев назад
My ex would not go to my mum’s funeral with me when I needed her the most now I know she said I need the time to myself I was hart broken but I still went on my own with my kids
@chigooner7433
@chigooner7433 8 месяцев назад
My Ex was emotionally abusing me when my father died…
@canalgaioladeaco
@canalgaioladeaco 9 месяцев назад
Hi. Could you produce a video about how live after a divorce with a narcissist when there are kids remaining to de relationship?
@roxymovie3938
@roxymovie3938 9 месяцев назад
Look for "coparenting with a narcissist" - you will find a lot about this subject on y-tube. I would advise Dr Ramani for example.
@spaideman440
@spaideman440 4 месяца назад
my covert narc elder brother told me 'you can trust me with your secrets'.. i was thinking 'yea right, im not a fool' after all the backstabs he did to me. they literally has no shame but you must not affect his ego or say he's a liar, else he's gonna explode...haha.. ironic.
@flatandsplat
@flatandsplat 9 месяцев назад
My ex N told me his ex wife organised for him to go out with a friend, then moved out. When he told me, i thought, "How terrible". But now i understand why she had to flee in that way. I never trust somebody who can't admit they played some part in a relationship breakdown. He was such a victim. ...and a nasty one, at that.
@deezgex
@deezgex 8 месяцев назад
Im not sure if mine was bpd or npd. She had mood swing big time and when she would attack at me the details would be exagerated etc. But even in love bombing type stuff or in public etc. She tell me she is the only one who can love me like she does. Would say noone can love you as much as i do. Tell me im her best friend etc etc and tell me she is the only person i can fully trust and never lies to me. After broke up with me upteenth time. This last time and it was horribly abrupt and brutal. She told me never ever will come back to me and not been in love with me in years etc etc but stated why would she lie to me. She is the only person that came into my life and never betrayed me or lied or used me. Smh
@user-hr9uo1bs9r
@user-hr9uo1bs9r 9 месяцев назад
My ex narcissistic is with my next door neighbour now no one wants to talk to me anymore because I’m the bad one
@rositahuff4858
@rositahuff4858 5 месяцев назад
…my sister never ever lies…she is the „truth“! ….in the next 2 sentences she told me 3 lies!
@matthewwozniak9138
@matthewwozniak9138 7 месяцев назад
There's a show called My Crazy Ex. lol
@DockClock-rp2ro
@DockClock-rp2ro 9 месяцев назад
I tpold somepone I loved them after spepaking for a month and having a verpy intpense thrpeppe days togethepr. I am embarassed about it and apologised, but I did have stprong feelings for hepr, and I still miss her.
@debbiegalica2992
@debbiegalica2992 9 месяцев назад
That sounds like a red flag to me.
@dianaorlando8641
@dianaorlando8641 9 месяцев назад
Does anyone know how you can get out of this relationship with a narcissist then he holds the money and he doesn't give you any and claims he's broke.
@Stumpstubborn
@Stumpstubborn 6 месяцев назад
😂 living it and decades Its better off not knowing anything different to toxic
@dianaorlando8641
@dianaorlando8641 9 месяцев назад
Does anybody know where narcissist hides his RU-vid stuff there's a lot of great out circles next to the profile he claims it's nothing he says I'm being paranoid and I put it there and I need to know how I can find does anyone know how to do.
@cyndeeknouse8094
@cyndeeknouse8094 4 месяца назад
he said i will never harm you your safe with me lie !!!!!!!!!!!!
@zerodeconduite804
@zerodeconduite804 9 месяцев назад
This 'no one likes you' business - I'd just be all okay, and? Who is this no one? Are you going by that name now? They don't know everyone 🙄
@CommonEgo
@CommonEgo 9 месяцев назад
"Are you going by that name now?" 😆
@Jess-wk5jo
@Jess-wk5jo 9 месяцев назад
I have question for you over affairs. is it cheating or affair meeting up with your ex boyfriend behind your boyfriend back what type of cheating is it?
@rayabercrombie6239
@rayabercrombie6239 9 месяцев назад
Talking over the phone with another man while you're in a relationship is cheating imo... Unless they are totally honest before hand and you are cool w it. Anything sneaking is cheating!
@lc4972
@lc4972 9 месяцев назад
Yea. It's cheating. Type doesn't matter.
@emmarae4322
@emmarae4322 7 месяцев назад
Yes, absolutely.
@dianaorlando8641
@dianaorlando8641 9 месяцев назад
Does anyone know how a narcissist hides our stuff on RU-vid
@emmarae4322
@emmarae4322 7 месяцев назад
Change your password.
@aleedersart
@aleedersart 6 месяцев назад
I married my girl after 6 years... month 2 of marriage? She leaves me. 6 months after that... her baby from her "friend" was born. Yep...they were fukin WHILE we were putting deposits on wedding plans. Funniest part: shes NOT the worse hurt people have caused me here...😅 For my lifes ups and downs... she was about a 6.5 of 10...😂
@maxevanlp
@maxevanlp 9 месяцев назад
I wonder what will happen when a covert narcissist dating another covert narcissist. A good/experimental topic.
@amarbyrd2520
@amarbyrd2520 2 месяца назад
Part of the answer there is "it's horrible and any kids from the relationship will be stolen from and likely need therapy for the rest of their lives"
@kristahunter1588
@kristahunter1588 5 месяцев назад
Or you need to get your facts straight. I've heard that 1 or I don't do that. You do those things I've heard that 1 I don't lie. I've heard that 1. You don't listen or it was a misunderstanding. I've heard those. Yup, I've heard it all. And I'm done.
@brianstallings4252
@brianstallings4252 3 месяца назад
Another latest one is “You know how many people wish they had a person like me in their life”? “I’m single and divorced by choice. My ex husband’s both did me wrong, but I’m still friends with him”.
@user-be5tk3wm1m
@user-be5tk3wm1m 6 месяцев назад
Your very Beautiful
@MT-px7re
@MT-px7re 9 месяцев назад
She's allright. I like her in Training Day and Hitch. Him, I'm not really crazy about. I only like him in the Notebook and that's that. I like him better with Rachel McAdams. I think they make a better pair.
@donkramer8848
@donkramer8848 4 месяца назад
Seems like any negative behavior or action turns everyone into a 100% narc, I feel like this term is being used a little to freely for how horrible the actual diagnosis of being a narcissist is
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