10 Signs You're Being Manipulated 

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We were all thinking about that one friend...

“Manipulators often target insecure, sensitive, and trusting people.” Wow. The definition of me.

It really hurts when you're re kinda remembering someone right now and realize what they did

One thing you might want to add is that manipulators try to convince you that to do things their way is in your best interest, but in reality it is not, it is only in their best interest.

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"ur being too sensitive" hit close to home lmfao

Every single manipulation tactic all but implies the use of the lying tactic and the gaslighting tactic. I actually dislike it a little calling out gaslighting as a manipulation tactic as it's actually an effect. All manipulation tactics will contribute to it by nature of what manipulation is. Some tactics however certainly take the gaslighting effect to a whole different level. Blatant lies that are so bad they insult your intelligence is one of them. That kind of shit will make you feel like you are in the twilight zone after a while. Here are some of the reasons they do this: To test their control. To feel superior and/or entertainment. This proves to themselves how much control they have over you. In the end, you will give up and you will not leave (trauma bonded). In the process of getting to the giving up stage, you will go through some pretty nasty emotional states ending in massive amounts of cognitive dissonance to swallow all of that. Cognitive dissonance is a trauma defense mechanism where you essentially lie to yourself in various ways so that you can bring back some semblance of equilibrium to the insanity you find yourself unable to escape from. As part of the ‘backing you into an emotional corner’ tactic. This is a tactic where you are manipulated into being emotionally unstable inevitably leading to you losing your shit. This gives the narcissist a big dopamine burst, they feel powerful and superior having so deftly controlled you and manipulated into this emotional state. To finish the little game they play, they make sure to point out how unhinged and unstable you are and suggest that perhaps you need help or medication. Of course, you will internalize all that shame and guilt and the million other raging emotions they have created and swallow all that essentially allowing them to scapegoat their blame and accountability onto you. Bring on some more cognitive dissonance and gaslighting effects. To condition you to expect less respect, and ultimately put up with more abuse. You will tire of the inevitable circular argument trying to convince the narcissist of the blatantly obvious lie and eventually find yourself challenging them less and less as you subconsciously accept the fact that if you do it will just make your life and emotional state more miserable and you will be denied the satisfaction of any kind of ‘win’ even if it is easy to disprove. This is part of the domination process and makes sure all the power in the relationship ends up with them by the end. To turn your mind to mush as the gaslighting effect takes hold more and more over time. This makes you even easier to control. Many times while easy to disprove it requires some kind of concession of some obvious truth that the narcissist can just doggedly refuse to agree with or remember (‘the intentional forgetting’ tactic and the ‘feigned confusion or ignorance’ tactics are often employed for this). So, in fact, it is not so easy to prove when the narcissist refuses to correctly remember what happened 10 min ago or accept sound logic or reasoning. You will just turn blue in the face trying. Of course, in some cases it is indisputable. A phone log or something. My experience is when this kind of stuff happens it wasn’t their intention typically, although sometimes it was. But in these scenarios, you will typically get some sort of angry ‘invalidating’ tactic, with some good old ‘manufactured rage’ and ‘intimidation’ tactics to ‘put you on the defensive’ and get you more susceptible to further manipulation. Maybe something like: “Get over yourself already” followed up by some ‘blame-shifting’ tactics with some good old ‘guilt’ and ‘shame’ tactics, like “Why the hell are you spying on my phone records anyway? What kind of relationship is this? I don’t have any privacy? I don’t know if I can do this anymore! You have major jealousy issues! You need help!” You will walk away as the loser either way. There are resistance tactics that can be used but this is a very difficult tactic to deal with and it is one of their favorites. I won’t get into the counter-tactics here though. The only way to really win in a relationship with a narcissist is to leave them and go no contact. Moreover, Catching a cheating spouse might be difficult, and knowing what local laws say you can and cannot do might be even more difficult. To simplify the process, consider hiring a private investigator to do the sleuthing for you I genuinely appreciate how incredible you are and your work! Thank you for a job well done Metaspyhub@gmail. com,,

One of my friends has most of these traits and I can't believe I have been normalising it. This video was just too relatable and I was able to be more aware of this. I thought she was just stressed so I didn't want to hurt my friend but apparently there's more to it than that. Thank you for making me be aware of these things.

it's more painful that the one who's manipulating you was your own family.

Thank you for informing me that my friends are manipulative

As someone who had manipulative peers growing up, I can definitely tell you that I constantly felt like shit because of them, even for things that weren't my fault, playing the victim card, denying things when I called them out, and threatening to punish me if I called them out any further, you name it. I felt like I was the problem for years, but your videos have brought awareness to so many issues that I don't think I ever could've grasped on my own, and for that, I am grateful

The amount of times I found myself apologizing for something that wasn't my fault is embarrassing. But I see now that it was just the result of some really cunning manipulation.

The response “k” is passive aggressive.

I HATE IT WHEN THEY SAY “You’re just imagining, don’t make a big deal out of it.”

My ex has all these signs (if not all, majority). Good thing I broke up with her even before the pandemic started. So at least, I only worried about the pandemic, without worrying being inside an abusive relationship. Now I'm happily single and have been enjoying it for two years now. And lesson for others who are in a relationship with an abuser, let go, learn to say no, and don't let them have power over you.

Been through this still going through this! I’m so Tired OF THIS!!💔💔💔😭😢😔😞😡😠

So yes I'm being manipulated

i was being manipulated by my ex-bf. now I'm in relationship with a loving and caring guy and i realized I'm not supposed to have mental breakdown every night lol update: we broke up a month ago, he forced me to do things I didn't want to do. I guess I have to heal everything and only then get into a relationship or else it won't work

It’s been 8 years, 8 Years! Yesterday I had to separate myself from my friend, and I felt terrible but it’s the only way. It’s sad how she makes me feel so worthless but I know that today I’m literally going to try and be friends with her. Honestly I’m tired of being the one that listens, why can’t I have a friend that also allows me to speak. Friends are people you should trust and have fun with, not someone that makes you feel useless and gives you trust issues.

I am ashamed to admit I am guilty of some of these examples 🙁, but not to such an extent or even being aware of what my behaviour was. Now I am aware I know better. These videos are good and educational. It helps me work on myself to be a better person . Thank you

10 signs: 1. They constantly make you prove yourself. 2. They communicate passively aggressively. 3. They gaslight you. 4. They are always "just joking". 5. They play the victim card. 6. They kill you with kindness. 7. They make your problems feel small. 8. They emphasize their calm, cool and collective side. 9. They use emotional blackmail. 10. They take advantage of your trusting and sensitive nature.

The lower your self-esteem is, the worse your ability to defend yourself. So if you feel weak or insecure, it is important to get help and work with your self-image.

A manipulator who throws subtle comments implying they know you better than yourself is the worst I’ve come across. They act like you malfunctioned when things didn’t go their way, exactly by comparing you to their delusional version of you from when you first meet like the ‘good times’. I experienced this from a guy who had nothing more but emotional needs and problems. I admit that it was obvious to see then, why I didn’t act sooner I do regret and feel so foolish since I didn’t take my intuition seriously just cause I was the nice thoughtful person in the circle Yep, I need to set boundaries in all my relationships now ☔️ thankful for this channel

I was friends with someone who basically fit the entire description of being a manipulator. I unfortunately ended up dating this person for 10 months, but knew him for about 6 years. I wish I had found this video sooner, but such is life. The breaking point for me was when I spent time with other friends (who did also know my now-ex), and realized how great I felt when I was with them, but compared that feeling to how I would feel when I was with my ex. I talked to him about how I felt specifically about that, and he basically told me that my relationships with my friends weren’t meaningful, and that I just wanted something easy. That they weren’t meaningful because I wasn’t telling my friends I loved them and I wasn’t having sex with them. The second he said that, I just knew that that would be the last time I’d see him (especially considering he made my birthday really awful), and it became plain-as-day as to why nobody associated with him. I’m still really glad I watched this video though. It’s nice to spread awareness to those who may be completely oblivious. It’s a real eye-opener.

Manipulator: I will kill myself if you leave Me: *leaves*

“The reason why Manipulators Always want attention is because they had none as a child.” - Brendan, 2021

Content like this has helped me come to terms with situations where the people who were very close to me in my life were using me and I am currently in therapy working through it. I really appreciate your resources. I don't think I would have sought help if I didn't come across free educational content like this, and it made me realize just how important content like this is to people who don't have as much accessibility. you guys are awesome. 💛

Thank you for the help . This just proves most of my "friends" are manipulating me , my brother has gaslighted me before , and sadly enough so have most of my friends .

My heart lowkey hurts right now, I am being manipulated rn.

I WAS MANIPULATED into watching 2 ads first

It's painful to be in a manipulative relationship 😣

I was accused of guilt tripping and being toxic. I did freak out and was a bit obsessive because I cared that much. I felt like it was my job to keep them happy. I gone through hell just to make them happy. Though I probably became toxic. And he said I was toxic and he doesn't wanna be my friend anymore. I was kinda unaware what I was doing I was just trying to help.

This video made me realize that I was the manipulator... I used to be so dramatic in middle school and acted pressured most of the time, it came to a point where my friends would get tired of my excuses. I was so ignorant of my actions... Thank you for making this video, it made me realize my true self and I hope that I can become a better person while in highschool... but at the same time I'm kinda scared to even go to high school since now I fear that my manipulative self will come back again... I'll try my best to fix myself as possible. But truly from the bottom of my heart... thank you for making this video... I'm truly grateful ❤

Thank you so much for posting this info. More than half of these signs are shown by my boyfriend of 7 years. I was blown away. I feel validated that I'm not just imagining things.

I sent this to a friend who is being manipulated and is having a hard time standing up to the person, I hope this helps them to see the truth 🤞🏻

I’m thankful for running across your videos, I recommend this video to anyone for even just the knowledge to know that there are manipulative people out here.

I was manipulated so much in childhood n thru the years that I became manipulative in relationships without even knowing it. Thank you for making this vid which helped me to become more self aware. Time to grow.

When every one of these signs apply to that one person........

00:19 They constantly make you prove yourself 00:42 They communicate passive-aggressively 01:13 They gaslight you 01:16 GASLIGHT 01:42 Are always just joking 02:14 They play the victim card 02:41 They kill you with kindness 03:05 They make your problems feel small 04:28 They take advantage of your trusting and sensitive nature

Very true how they target over sensitive, trusting and insecure people. I can relate to this very much so. Thanks for the video.

One "friend" called me manipulative when i wasnt even being close to manipulative when it actually turns out she was the one being manipulative

If you have strings coming out of your back that's a red flag.

Thank you for helping me realize my best friend is manipulating me. And has been for a long time. She’s been gaslighting me and making me feel like the bad guy, and I’m realizing it’s her. I’ve set boundaries before, but she never followed them. I’ve decided to tell her we are not friends anymore. She played victim, saying how much she cared for me and never wanted anything back. And she said that in a science project we did, she never wanted to do it with me, and she did it with me because she trusted me and that we were friends. She said, “I never meant to hurt you!”. But she did urge me. She always says she never means to do things. But she does do things that hurt me. She’s either super unaware, or super manipulative. It’s both.

Just broke up with someone, and I'm crying because I'm able to relate to every single point :'), now he is gaining sympathy from everyone I know and asking me to get back with him, I'm sick of ppl like him, i just wanna stay alone

There's probably someone out there using this as a tutorial

Insecure, Sensitive, Overly Trusting. Yep that's me

The fact that I've thought about a few friends while watching this is just scary

This has been so informational!

The Gaslighting thing is so true! I thought that they just have bad memory... but thanks for telling me it is a manipulative technique. Now I know that they didn't forget anything, they are just lying... :) This channel is awesome!

Sometimes i feel like im left out ....

I’ve gotten so much value out of this channel. Whenever it is that I start getting paid for my work, I’ll definitely subscribe or donate or something helpful.

A couple months ago I realized I've been in a toxic friendship for 10 years...we meet in grade school, and while others tried to tell me she wasn't any good for me, or that she was manipulating me I always jumped right to her defense. Watching this is kinda hard, recognizing her having done most of these things to me

When you realise that you’ve been manipulated by everyone:

Great!...My Mom is Manipulating Me.

I've definitely been manipulated to get married with a woman from another country thinking it was Tru love and now she's seriously manipulating me consistently to divorce her now that she received her green card I've been depressed 😔 and feeling not self I'm definitely hurting as well all this gas lighting has mad me question even my self never knew someone could be so evil she's even told me I'm obsessed with her 😭

Wow it turns out I REALLY have no friends at all…

*Moral of the story, do not trust everyone, even your own "friends". Choose who you associate with wisely, trust your gut instinct before you trust someone's smile and charming demeanor.*

You guys made me realise so many things. I always thought that I was being apathetic or rude and not aware of whether or not I was hurting people. When in reality, I was only just being manipulated. Thank you so much for sharing this. I really needed this.

I am printing out this posting a putting it on my refrigerator and the bathroom mirror just for quick reference. I wish I had see this five years ago! This would have saved me tons of grief and heartache!

I thought about the last long relationship I was in… it was during my last year of college. He was highly toxic and majority of the traits shared in the video, I was nodding my head to. I didnt realize how sensitive and people pleasing I was/am until now. I’m glad I came across this video it provides practical perspective

“Manipulators often target insecure, sensitive, and trusting people.” Me: *looks in mirror and slowly turns around to look at my friend*

I think I’m being manipulated by who I thought was my best friend😔

This is really good! Thank you.

Thank you... You made me realize so much. I'll be more firm now.

It's horrifying when you find almost every sign in the person you're in love with. Thank you so much, Psych2Go. Always opening my eyes.

I got manipulated before.. She matched almost every one.

I have this friend, and one day I invited her over, and I went to the bathroom and when I came back she was going through my freakin search history, and she found an "Are my friends toxic quiz" I took about a week ago. She acted super offended, and I was trying to calm her down by telling her that the results were negative, (which actually wasn't the case) Anyways, she told everyone about it, and how I made her cry, acting like she was the victim. To this day, she still says stuff like, "remember that time you made me cry? How do you feel about that, hm?" In front of people, and I go into full guilt-mode, and when I DON'T show her that I'm guilty, she acts all annoyed and cold at me. I have finally come to realize what's been going on, and I am working on setting boundaries. This video was such great help to me!

Yeah I agree with everything and this reminds me with what situation I'm in right now. Really good!

Its sad when manpiluators are family......

I don't know if anyone will see this, but I feel it needs to be said. If you were/are in some kind of long-term manipulative relationship or environment, you sometimes can take on those manipulative quality's whether it be for self-preservation or simply a kind of mirroring from so much interaction with said manipulator(s) or environment. It's a normal thing, and doesn't make you a terrible person. That's why it's important to be just as aware of yourself as other people.

Thank you for this

This is so accurate. I’m 3 years into my relationship and I feel so stuck. Whenever I want to leave I’m given a sob story about how they are so depressed and don’t wanna deal with life anymore. Same thing with arguments. I feel like he belittles my problems and he literally tells me they are nothing compared to his… at the same time he expects so much from me but will do nothing in return. It’s a constant cycle and idk how to break it.😐

I’ve been manipulated by my “friend” for the past 5 years. I stuck by him for far too long. I’m done with all his shit now. It just pains me knowing of all the time I wasted.

This sounds like my parents...

Thank you so much for this video. This video has really given me some thought from a person I once thought as a person who needed "help".

These videos are helpful, they help make sure I'm doing things correctly

when you get manipulated by your family -_-'

bro... im sitting here stunned. ugh.... I am being manipulated

thanks for the video it really helps!🙂

All so true.well said.protect yourself

This video describes how manipulative was my ex

I was manipulated. They caused me to lose all my friends and then lost interest with me and moved on. I'm only just starting to get back the friends I lost, and I now have severe anxiety and trust issues...

It's so sad that this happened to me without fully realizing the situation. I wish my bestfriend didn't do this, I was honest and he knew that I had trust issues even before. Regardless, he still did what he did and it hurt me. Manipulation sucks, I'm happy I'm out of that friendship and I can continue to be myself and still be kind with others but it's getting harder for me to form deeper bonds because I'm scared it might happen again.

thank you for making this video. this has told me that my ‘friends’ who ive been ‘bffs’ with for a couple years, is just (beep)ing manipulating me into thinking im their best friend just so they can get a good reputation. (my teacher says im the most gifted in class) now i know i should just hang out with the people who will actually be REAL friends.

This video make me realise something I never realise until now...I feel like I manipulate my friends...I want to stop it but I don't know how. I think I should stop being friends with them so they won't get hurt. When I ask if they feel manipulated or have a negative feel towards me they say no but I think differently. I need help. I don't know what to do.

It’s hard to determine if you’re truly being manipulated, because most of the points mentioned are what all people do to some extent.

tysm for this video it helped me rethink about who is manipulating me i cannot wait to confront them about it.

This information is good to help someone discern whether they are in a cult. Thank you for these videos, they are helpful tools for manipulation awareness.

Whoever is reading this, I hope you have a good day.

By #6, I was crying. I knew something has been wrong in my relationship, so I came to this video. And as soon as #6 flashed across the screen, it’s as if I suddenly realized that they fit perfectly into 8 out of 10 of every one of these. You have no idea how much this video helped me. Thank you so so much.

Thank you so much this help a lot

Good video!

It’s as if I’m a magnet for these types of people.

I had never heard of gaslighting before,just realized it was driving me crazy, over apologing and over thinking...

Note: (I don't really view them as toxic or too manipulative) Right now, I have a really close and smart friend who is really fun to hangout with, and easy to make conversation with. Sometimes, we'll hangout on the streets during family gatherings (their uncle/aunt and my parents are close friends), but she'll often pressure me into buying things I don't want to buy. I recognize this a lot, but don't do anything because I don't know how to react, and I don't want to come off as selfish. They'll be really polite, enthusiastic, and say things like "I'm really sure everyone will appreciate it!!" "You should get it! I know they (our parents) will like it a lot!" and when I begin to go "I don't think that's a great idea since there already is food," etc, they'll say "If you don't want to pay, I'll pay for it!" and it ends up making me feel sort of guilty? So I comply and go ahead. Can anyone give me advice on how to react and what to say should I encounter this again?

I realised that 98% of my friend group had been manipulating me and ever since I realised that I have been scared to open up to much and really express it's been really difficult but this video really helped thanks!

I love the cute little drawings that go along with these videos. They’re so fitting for giving a cartoon-like description of what the video topic is about.

1. They constantly make you prove yourself. 2. Communicate passive aggressively 3. Gaslight you 4. They are always just joking. 5. They play the victim card. 6. They kill you with kindness 7. They make your problems feel small 8. They emphasize their calm , cool and collected side. 9. They use emotional blackmail. 10. They take advantage of your trusting & sensitive nature.

i did a lot of introspection, thank you for this