1. ignoring yourself 0:27 2. trying to control everything around you 0:57 3. seeking validation from outside sources 1:26 4. too much time regretting and not enough time learning 1:55 5. neglecting personal relationships 2:29 6. surrounding yourself with negativity 3:02 7. not allowing yourself to be happy 3:42 8. overthinking 4:21 9. fantasizing too much 4:53 10. being a perfectionist 5:21 I hope I could help!
Overthinking and trying to impress everyone was such a problem for me. Almost made me give me up on my passions a lot. While I've moved passed the impressing everyone shtick I used to have, overthinking tends to come back every now and then, but just rarely.
Same dude/~tte.. Now I'm in the state where I'm trying to aware when I'm overthinking or trying to impress others too hard. Good luck to all of us and our journey to true happiness! 😉👍
It's strange because, I feel like no matter how hard I try to be happy, I just can't do it. Whenever I try things such as meditation, it gets foggy in my head and I hear many voices, most of which are linked with self-loathing. I feel like I'm stuck, I see other people being happy and I become jealous unconsciously of them because they seem to be happy while I can't find happiness. Anger is very often the first emotion that comes to my mind whenever something goes wrong, and very often, this anger towards the world bounces back towards me because I always feel like if I tried harder I could understand some things but I struggle to find the motivation to do it. And this lack of motivation leads me to a lot of self-loathing because I know that, deep down, the problem doesn't come from the world but from me, I just don't know how to do it. All this anger then leads to a lot of sadness because I tend to feel like an anomaly because of the fact that I can be happy for others but not for myself. I am currently seeing a therapist and, while it does help at the moment, I feel guilty about having all these problems because I never liked talking about my problems. I feel like all the time he passes listening to me is wasting his time but at the same time I know that I need to talk with him to get a better grasp on my mental health which is going all over the place in my head. I always ended up stuck between perfectionism and procrastination and I grew up in a background that saw me as a smart kid with good grades who work hard, and all of this feels like a bunch of lies to me... I don't feel smart, I feel dumb for not understanding basic things that many people would be able to grasp easily, and I know that, because of self sabotaging that I have done for nearly 10 years without even realizing it, I pretty much messed up my academic record, and I know that a smart person would never do something like this... I just don't know how to do it. It seems so simple and yet it feels so out of reach... Edit: Thank you for the support guys. I was in tears everytime I read one of your comments, but there aren't tears of sadness anymore. They feel more like tears of joy now. I am extremely grateful to live in an era where I am able to talk about my problems and feel like I am listened by many different people with their own perspectives on life, I trully mean it. I feel like if it wasn't for the internet, chances are that I would have never found the confidence required to seek a therapist. I am also trully grateful that a channel like Psych2Go exists. This channel helped in the most difficult moments of my life and it is still helping to this day because the community of this channel is extremely generous and ready to help anyone that struggles with their own life. Please, just subscribe to this channel and give to the people that are running it all the love you can, because they really deserve it in my opinion.
I’ve struggled a lot with this kind of stuff. Meditation isn’t just to have a quiet mind, it’s to work through stuff! If you purposely focus on those bad feelings (specifically the way it physically effects you like the tightness in your throat and such) and like purposely cry every once and awhile it lets you get out those emotions out so you don’t snag on them. That feeling if not dealt with just ISNT going to go away, so if you try to use it up in chunks on purpose, it’ll shrink a little. At least for me it’s worked, and I’m a lot less depressed and angry now.
As weird and counterintuitive as it may sound, being a perfectionist is not a good thing, I didn't realize that fact until I stumbled on a video on YT talking about it, I wanted to do things the right way all the time, I seek perfection in everything to the point where most of time I don't do something because I know I won't be able to do it perfectly, I spend a lot of time thinking about how good I can achieve my goals, trying to calculate every possible outcome, which makes achieving those goals 10x harder than they already are. But now I learned my lesson, don't be a perfectionist, be someone who's always willing to do something the best way they can regardless of the outcome and learn from your failures, next time you'll be better at it.
In Japanese, there is a term for embracing imperfection: Wabi-Sabi. It's really amazing. The art of Kintsugi is also in the same mindset. You should check it out!
"ignoring myself" ironically that's what family and school (both teachers and good classmates) told me to do, always care for the rest but almost never for me unless actually "necessary" in their own words
Damn, I really hit 8/10 reasons in this video. These feelings of pessimism, self-loathing and jealousy of others have been going on for at least 2 years and I finally learned the general term for this: unhappiness.
I make all of these mistakes, and that's why I sometimes get very, very anxious when I have to face my problems. I'm always overthinking and not allowing me to be happy, like I'm waiting for the perfect time with no reason, for example. I want to thank you for making these videos because they make me notice about things that I usually don't see by myself. And thank you guys for your comments. Sometimes I find peace and hope on them. Remember, all's gonna be fine. Edit: Sorry if there's something misspelled, I'm hispanic c:
Be happy with who you are 😄 Be happy at the present 😊 Don't wait for things to get easier and simplier... or we will run out of time 🙃 As Dalai Lama said "The purpose of our lives is to be happy". Wishing you happiness today and always ❤
Personally, laying awake at night and thinking about that one embarrassing thing I said in front of someone or thinking that people will remember that one mistake I made in the past is such a huge thing for me and only recently have I realized how toxic it is and am trying to get rid of it.
2:43 oh my god Context: that picture on the right is a reference to Omori, a game where you play as a boy who went through an event that was so traumatic he becomes a hikikomori, and pushes away his friends. The picture is a reference to a dream world he creates in his head, where everyone is okay (they're all at about the age they were before the event) and they go on adventures. It gets crazy though. If you want to play it, I highly recommend it. It's $20 on Steam, and is coming to consoles soon.
Easter eggs of the day! 0:10 - dream blob 0:35 - i feel like that plush is an easter egg but i have no idea what easter egg that is 1:20 - philza minecraft is so bravee 2:05 - MICHAEL MY BELOVED! (And an adorable mushroom nightlight) 2:45 - omori light and omori pic Also! IT HAS SOUND EFFECTS NOWWW THATS CUTEE
3. Seeking validation from outside sources 4. Too much time regretting and not enough time learning 7. Not allowing yourself to be happy 8. Overthinking 9. Fantasizing Are my downfalls, and I don’t know how to fix it. I’ve gone through a form of therapy and I’ve talked to people and asked advice and I’ve looked up different things, taken quizzes and done some research. I just don’t know how to apply a change. My biggest hurtle is my career or lack of. I have a bachelor’s in a field I want to stay in, I just don’t know how to push past my fears. Low self esteem and confidence is a bitch.
It's cute how they added minecraft in the backgrounds like having dream, philza's hat and little Michel, really smart way to bring new people to their channel including their interests
The fact that I’m listening to this video as I type away in a cubicle, trying to get over a hectic work day. I’ve been thinking very negatively today and this video seriously made me take a deep breath and just go “it’s ok. It’ll be ok” 💜
I think the things I do that make me unhappy and emotionally drained is when I’m try so hard to meet someone’s expectations and don’t end up getting there, the fact that I’m trying to be flawless without making a mistake be it college, trying to be good at a game or hobby etc, that I don’t really feel comfortable starting up conversations with new people and reject their friend requests on socials or change myself as a person (by trying to be like them) to try and make them accept me into their life.
A few years earlier I was lagging in studies as OCD activated in puberty (before that i was normal/like everyone). There are many issues but one of the initials were to fear that my friends will make fun of/stop talking/insult me if I don't get good grades. Hits hard to know I was wrong and didn't knew at that time
I feel like I do this a lot, out of habit. Since I'm the youngest in the family, I often feel as though I'm being overlooked, since they have bigger problems, their opinions matter more. Recently, I feel as though it's made me insecure, I'm always apologizing for things that don't matter, asking if what I'm doing is okay with everyone, and that basically let everyone else talk first and follow what they want.
This came at the right time especially number 2 - trying to control everything. I’m engaged and I’m trying to plan everything well but unfortunately due to pressures from family, things aren’t going my way even when I’m trying to control everything as much as I can.
3:04 It depends; if the glass is being filled then it’s half full. However, if the glass is being emptied then it’s half empty. And if it’s just standing then it’s simply halfway.
The sound effects are an interesting addition, although they feel like they eclipse the voice over at times, you're hard work at quality improvement is noticed and appreciated!
I would love to know if Amanda Silvera has done any book reading that might be available for listening to on "Chirp" or "Audible" or other. Her voice is AHHHHHMAAAAZING!
It is so true that you have to let yourself be happy. It is important to control the controllables. Letting yourself be happy is extremely significant to ones well being. Being happy, what a novel idea. Love it !!
Why don't you make a whole season of episodes on each personality type, the most compatible personality for them, their characters, how to deal with them, jobs most suited to them, etc....
You mean the MBTI? That would be interesting. However, because there are already so many MBTI videos on RU-vid, perhaps they can put their own twist. I'd love to see the following info: - Books/Websites to study more about the MBTI - Common misbeliefs about each part of an MBTI debunked (I/E is not social; the real meaning of T/F; J/P is how you organize processed info, why -A/-T exist, etc.) - Why some jobs/activities drain some MBTI types but energize others (why most INTJs would hate being a salesman, but why ENTJs would prefer it more) - How each cognitive functions works depending on where it is in the stack and how they tell you how to mature - Types of opposite MBTI types (INTJs don't just have ESFPs, ENTPs, and ISFJs as opposites; may be unnecessary info, but slightly insightful; optional)
I'm sure psych2go has already done that before, or partially. If you search the channel name and MBTI they you may find some of the many videos they've made! (Or just a certain personality type if you want)
For some reason every time I get sad, tense, sad mad, and other bad feeling. I watch Psych2Go so I can stop it ( and just by watching one second, it already helps.)
I'm really frustrated tonight. I have a strong desire to move a couple of States over as I'm retired and the cost of living is about half of what it is where I'm at. But I've always been a bit of a scaredy cat when it comes to a big move and I'm going to be doing it all by myself. What I'm upset is my brother is talking about all the things that could go wrong and the reasons that I should stay here. It feels something like gaslighting. What little confidence I have he's knocking down. I really need to get away from this. It's not such a weird thing for a retiree to want to try somewhere new? He's making me feel afraid like it'll all fall apart, and life has fallen apart for me. But it feels like such a good choice. It's a state that my ancestors are from maybe something's calling to me
"Do you relate to any of these things?" ... all of them 💔 bruh Im sorry to my good friends who I turn down offers to game sessions or group call, im sorry to my colleagues for wanting to control everything my way, im sorry to myself for neglecting basic needs and self care. Im trying to be better and happier ❤ Thanks Psych2go, you always come up with videos I need ! ❤❤❤
This is the most accurate of the videos I saw on this channel because it describes behaviors specifically without trying to categorize them under diagnoses. I find that diagnoses conflate. Is it really helpful to know if someone is a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath when they're stepping on our face?
oh my, i can relate to all of these especially number 4. I am struggling with it right now and I kept on telling myself not to dwell in the past but i have to admit it’s pretty hard not to beat myself up about it. Praying helped me though :)
I remember a lot of things I refused to do with my little sister, just because I wanted to be alone. A lot of things I refused to do with my family and friends altogether, just because I wanted to be alone. I would often get bored quickly, whenever I was alone, and would want to spend time with them, but whenever I did spend time with them, it didn't take long before I would want to be alone. It's just an agonizing and sudden cycle between the desire for solitude and the desire for company, and I hate that it still happens today. My friend tries to help me with it, but even that is refused, more often than not, just because I know at some point, shortly after I start spending time with him, I'm gonna want to be alone again. It happens with everyone I'm close to. The time I wasted, trying to push my sister away, may have driven her to a very similar condition, because she hardly ever (if ever nowadays) wants to spend time with family, and I feel like that was my fault. Even if not entirely, I feel like I played a big part in that.
As long as you done your obligations like getting money, studying, doing projects, throughout your workdays it's fine to relax and do fun things on your free time and a couple of hours after dinner
I have to be honest with myself. Am I in need of the assistance being provided or am I taking advantage of someone else’s generosity? My therapist tells me not enough people are honest about what they need.
Perhaps spoiling oneself is to be happy doing it and it doesn't require a lot of work. While caring for oneself takes time, energy, and practice. Sometimes we can care easily for others while not realizing that we won't do that same thing for ourselves.
The fantasies didn't start making me unhappy until they got so mundane that I found myself fantasising about mediocre relationships with low quality people and noticing it was still beyond my reach in real life.
Ever since deleting facebook, and not using social media platforms like twitter, insta, tiktok, I've found it so much easier to just sit and relax. Not only is comparison the killer ambition, but with all the constant bad news, its hard to feel happy when you see news reports of people being killed, people who are living in poverty, natural disaster, and denial of basic human rights. Its important to know whats going on in the world, but if its all in your face all day every day, you never get any time to truly process what you see.
ignoring yourself> I do that trying to control everything around you> Nope seeking validation from outside sources> I use it to see where i'm lacking, Example i use a text and focus on the question i got wrong to find where i need to focus. too much time regretting and not enough time learning > I feel like I do this neglecting personal relationships> I had 2 friends one ghosted me, other is just to busy with his medicine university. surrounding yourself with negativity>I'm almost a hermit that don't talk with anyone. overthinking> i do this fantasizing too much> i think i do this being a perfectionist> when is something that i'm doing alone.
This is very important content / video. I would say I have 8/10 of these and "never" even realised it. And even though I know I have a few of them, realizing that I have a whole bunch of them, it opened my eyes. I will work on it in a very positive way and try to overcome it. This channel is such a blessing!
Tbh, the last one's literally my problem. I wanna be perfect at everything n if I don't, I push myself so hard towards being a perfectionist n that takes me away from happiness and giving myself less time. Ty
You have no idea how much I needed this! Thank you so much for making this video! I hope whoever out there needs help gets it and learns to see the beauty in life once again 💕
I'm unhappy bcuz I'm all alone. My whole family has passed on. I lost my best friend...my only true friend. Someone actually sabotaged our friendship, but the worst part was that she believed it without even asking me about it. And the man I love just keeps shutting me out & flat out ignoring at this point...again. I've tried & tried & don't even know what I did wrong this time. So honestly, I dont even know why I'm here anymore & quite frankly...I don't want to be. Thank you for your video☮
I did everything on this list and I was doing a couple of theses things before I watched this video! Thank you so much now I'm more aware of my actions🤔
I am really feel unhappy most of the time but when I watch this I knew that what I was doing all my life thank you very much for this video I never knew who I am and never try to find who I am I just pretend to be now I will really try to be happy avoiding all these bad things
Overthinking is my cardinal sin, even for things I really have no responsibility about. I once had a really high blood pressure and practically bedridden for two days due to this, so hard to get rid of this super bad habit 😔
Thank you so much for sharing this 10 things that make ourselves unhappy. I now understand I should not be thinking too much for all the things happen into my life. I will keep reminding myself everything has a reason, so I should not focus to my failures. Instead make this as a step ahead for my emotional growth. Thank you Psycho togo. I really love all of your contents. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
this literally the best video on youtube i’ve ever seen , the vibes the music the animation everything is just perfect and i bet the next video will be more fun✨✨
It's so hard to focus on yourself when the people around you (such as my own family) controls me, living the way I want will always be the opposite to theirs. The thing I hate on having such a big family...
You can only control yourself. We choose what to do. But sometimes the outcome of either choice is benign. The question is, should we control ourselves all the time, or sometimes allow ourselves to go with our flow? If we didn't care at all about what others thought (validation) would there be any relationships?
Thankyou fir all your good tips my husband often tell me similar things but I couldn’t understand what I was doing you guys explain it well . Ignoring mysel, , trying to control everything ,being around other drama to much , weighs you down , I don’t allow myself to be happy, overthink , to much fantasy not enough living and taken action , being a perfectionist .
Came from the r/OMORI pointer. This seems like exactly the kind of video I would have used a few months ago to tell someone how to be happier. Good thing they pulled through with Martial Arts classes
I just realized that I do almost all of these things! I am so glad I saw this so I can benefit from this advice! Your channel has helped me a lot in the past week! I am so glad I discovered your channel! Thanks you! 🥰
4:23 I stay up thinking alright, but not about my own stuff, I wish I did though. I keep thinking about my stories and what I can do in them, and I can’t STOP thinking about them
WOW!....Alot of these topics are very relevant....I'm conscious of them and trying to change but can be difficult when you've programmed yourself over years of repetitive behaviour!
Yeah I do find myself prioritizing people over myself to the point where I feel like I’ve done a lot of damage to myself but it’s not in my nature to just not do anything for people who are desperate for the help.
I got raised with all of this stuff. I'm not really sure why I watch these videos though. My life was successfully destroyed and I'll never get to experience things like love, happiness, community, achievement, etc. I'll spend the rest of my life getting paid to live alone in one room while I avoid just ending it now by taking pills that somehow stop you wanting to kill yourself even if you still see it's the only logical choice.
Thank you so much this channel is hepling me a lot and her angelic vioce is so calming it makes me forget my problems every time i hear it im so happy that i came accros this channel 💜💜💜
Any INFPs out there realizing that they’re full of the most paradox traits EVER? Good for others, kinda unhealthy for one’s self? It’s a whammy to know my personality is all about pouring every energy I have into others without even leaving a glimpse of space for my own sake? :’D BUT! I’m eager to grow into a healthy INFP type of person.
I know that being surrounded by negativity makes me unhappy and compounds my anxiety but how do I avoid negative people if I live with them? 😔 My mom has a bad impact on my mental health and sometimes I wish I could just move out but right now it's impossible for me to do...
Thank you so much to this video I had all the tops and i couldn't understand why I'm upset and unhappy until I found this. You're a life saver to everyone.
Nope. Going to work makes me SEVERELY unhappy. Im at the point where when I have to get out of bed in the morning it feels like Im wrestling an anvil on my chest and my eyes are in pain. On the weekends, Im good tho so this is definitely a psychological problem for me. Im also doing some self care to help cope but at the end of the day y’all follow your body’s signals. If your job is killing you SEEK A WAY OUT. Dont spend your youth slaving your health away to make someone else rich, someone who can end your position at-will or deny you a raise or micromanage you to death. At the end of the day all u have is yourself; look out for YOU
Not that important but... 0:15 - Drem blob 💚 0:34 - JOLLIBEE 😭 1:20- Phil's hat (and also the hat from one piece? idk my friend just told me about it) 2:05- Michel
I’ve struggling to accept my mistakes as well as learning how to let go of what they think because they would always tell how I do things and then expect me to change a certain way but I don’t want to usually because I still blame them for making me act this way and it happens everyday. It’s called the victim role where you frame someone as the one responsible for the things they did but I was I able to see that it was me; selective memory. My sister pointed it out to me last time while arguing, she said what I do is childish and that I treat her and her family like shit, so did Dad when he compared my mistakes to Mom which I find true, though I resented him for it and her, too because he was right about us but I couldn’t accept it which I sometimes hate him for telling me who I am and would use my faults as an excuse to blame me. And when they did, that’s when I would retaliate against them and would sometimes fight one of them for doing so because I am still angry/upset to bring myself to accept the truth because I was always entitled to everything and that I am always right and they were wrong, that’s what playing the victim role really means. It’s also why I tend to push them away and would talk to them or even tell where I was at all the time, and I still do because they are right about me having embracing my faults and my mistakes and then start to blame them for it. Sorry it took too long to finish though what really inspired to write this is I used to think I have control for everything but myself because I don’t have any values nor am I worthy to even fit in especially my own family, not to mention how I overthink too much because of what they said including my father and younger sister
