15 Signs of a CONTROLLING Boyfriend 

Man… this just makes me realize how controlling I actually am… I really want to change and a couple of the things mentioned in the video does describe me. I love my girlfriend and care about her. I never acted like this in other relationships besides the last relationship I had before her because they girl gave me serve trust issues and made me feel very insecure. I don’t want to be this way anymore and I want to change for my girlfriend.. I love her so much. I don’t want her to feel like this described in the video. I need to do better.

My ex ... Followed me everywhere/ accused me of affairs Wanted his own way all the time Couldn’t disagree with him Thought he was always right Compared me to ex’s Acted superior Jealous if other men looked at me I couldn’t have male friends Threatened to leave zillions of times Put conditions on loads of things Didn’t like my friends Need I go on...

The two people that put thumbs down are obviously controlling men that don't accept the fact they are toxic.

I didn't realize it was okay to have friends of the opposite sex in a relationship . I was never allowed to in my relationships have friends of the opposite sex .

My ex purposely broke my heart but now I realized how controlling, toxic, and terrible he was. He was a terrible boyfriend to me. Thank you for sharing this video. It really made find out the signs of how much he was a big red flag.

He says I respect my friends more than I respect him

These are all spot on! This is my fiancé. Very loving but it comes with conditions. The condition is to be able to control my life.

All Muslim men are this way.

This is exactly what I am going through and I feel scared to leave him but I don't know what to do.

This hits home hard I've gone through this for the past 19 years. I'm not allowed to do what makes me happy with how I dress and my friends

I’m crying so hard I can’t even read what I’m typing. 😭

I can’t do things on my own, If I try to he will call me all through even on video call to know if there’s another guy 😥he will text my friends and ask them too

My sister boyfriend is just like this, I think I’ll giving him a can of whoop-ass soon, and get her out there.

Its so bad right now. He never lets me even talk to anyone either a girl or a boy. If a boy texts me, I just get scared even if I dont know what is it about.

I am in This kind of relationship for the last 10 years, my life is getting worse

These captions are wild, so far off from the video man’s actual words lol. Thank you for this. I love the way you go in depth with explaining the differences of for example - disagreeing in public vs being humiliated on purpose til everyone’s laughing at you in public. Seriously very insightful and helpful.

Excellent advice! Very true...... I luckily survived a controlling relationship! Good luck to all! 😄😄

This is so helping....thanks so much for this content....it is helping me to become a good boyfriend not a someone in control of a relationship

It feels weird for me to share about my feelings here but.. heres a bit of an insight: I LOVE to dance and perform on stage, I’ve been dancing since i was 6 yrs old. And I have always dreamed to be a model or at least join some beauty pageant contests while I’m still in my 20s. My boyfriend of 5 years has been telling me that he HATES it whenever I’m dancing/performing on stage or when im wearing pretty clothes that are not even revealing (off shoulders, tank tops, leggings etc). He absolutely hates it when some stranger walks past me and takes a glance at my direction and he would actually blame ME for looking too pretty/wearing clothes that are too revealing because that is the reason why people are staring. His reason being: he doesn’t wanna share his gf with another person and he hates attention. Recently, i found out about a beauty pageant contest in my town and I told him about my dream of being a beauty pageant contestant. He went crazy and threatened to commit suicide by jumping off his apartment balcony if i joined the contest. I know this sounds crazy, but i really don’t know how to break up with a guy like this when he uses suicide as a threat 😭 Can anyone give me some advice..?

My man said to me. I dont want you to disagree with me ever I dont even want you to say I dont know about that....he also said i dont want you to travel alone not even to see your family...and now he is my ex man.

thankyou sir..its great for teenagers as well , as they often get into toxic relationships..

Im experiencing some of this right now… whats weird is hes very good looking. So it baffles me why he is so insecure.

Please get out ! It’s gets worse ! I have learned with my ex husband ! Keep on shining ❤

I came here to get perspective but realize I AM the one being controlled.

I went out alone for Mexican food last night and I’m being forced to apologize to him.

Thank you for helping me how they control a person.

This was great 👍

I was once with somebody who pretended to be all charitable and generous and noble in public (he would make sure everyone knew he gave a big tip, or that he went through a lot of trouble to travel far away to pay some dead person respect). But in private, he was sooooo petty and manipulative and controlling! Refused to allow me to have the freedom to set up my own bank accounts or have the friends i wanted!!!

Yes unfortunately men like this exist. Life is too short …. Break free !

Glad I got out of a toxic relationship. I had a guy that claims he owns my body and made a big deal about a gynecologist. So he was saying he would feel more comfortable with a female doctor instead of male professionals looking at my naked body. So he got butt hurt when I told him it was none of his business who I see and I wasn't about to inconvenience myself because he wasn't comfortable and it was what I wanted. He claimed men should have a say so when the woman has a cancer, abortion or surgery when the woman is going through it, and I told him it wasn't a man's a call to make for his woman. It was her choice and he didn't have a say so. And he brought this on my job of all places. I broke up with him and I haven't been happier since I was single. I even have male friends that pointed out his bad behavior and how they would never tell a woman that. So far they told me to go to the police and explain what is going along with tell my boss. My female friends always drop by the store and check on me. So I'm glad I got a good support system. But I did tell him he was the kind of man I hated and did my best to avoid and how tired I was for being told I was the wrong for doing something he wasn't comfortable with.

One time I was on a trip with my friends, I was wearing something shorter than I usually wear and he commanded me to change it right away. Before I even noticed myself, I was already apologizing for doing something he did not like. What do u think of this case? Or am I just finding mistakes out of nothing because I don't really have much strong feelings towards him as I was before?

I am currently struggling with being controlled by my bf, he doesn’t show every sign but doesn’t like me hanging out with friends or family without him there and guilt trips me into feeling bad for doing so. He also always needs to be right. Everyone says it only will get worse, but him & I have discussed his issues and he agreed to going to therapy. Is there hope that he will change through therapy? And if so, how long do I wait to see if the therapy is helping?

I know this video was a year ago but I had to watch it! My boyfriend currently wants me to not wear certain clothing and cover up. For example, he doesn’t want me to wear leggings to the gym because he says other guys will look at me. I love him but he’s showing signs of being controlling and it’s not just about what I wear. Do you have any advice? It’s hard to leave someone that you truly love.

These seem like signs I have seen with my crush and her boyfriend without even knowing or interacting with I noticed I changed in her style in clothing to match more like his style. She doesn't make as much Instagram stories as she used to and I haven't seen her in any of her friends stories she sold her house and started getting into making jewelry like he does and I feel like instead of help her make her career better or supporting it he's helping her dig a deeper hole for herself to become broke than she already is. She's a musician and she could be making music but she's been around this guy so much and so focused on him she has not got any work done. Am I jealous because I love her yes but also I do see these early sign of her boyfriend possessing her and keeping her to himself. When they're romantic relationship was still fresh she was with her friends and he was there with her. As much as they make it look like they are so happy and in love together it is fake in my eyes and everything you mentioned describes what I'm seeing this guy doing to my crush.

They just need to chill. The only life you should be controlling is your own and not someone elses.

My boyfriend he really control my life, he will not allowed to do anything without his permission, now I'm figure out his behavior, and i will leave him imediately

Is it okay to be criticize by your boyfriend for the things you have have done before you met him/knew him?

Dated a man like this. I am glad I left. I've seen too many crime documentaries where one partner (often the woman) ended up dead because of a possessive man. No I don't want that to be my ending that's why I left him.

Im actually really scared of telling him i want to stay the night with my girl best friend or even that im taking frech classes without asking him first, when i tell him that im going to sleep he ask me to turn off my cellphone and to not talk to anyone, dont know what to do

my boyfriend is very controlling. he doesn’t allow me to wear short or reveal clothes. he doesn’t let me hang out with my friends. he doesn’t even allow me to go the gym. and he would get mad every time i don’t obey his order. shall i leave him?

He had called a liar, drunk and he always say he dumped his ex’s because they were alcoholics now he started call me alcoholic because anytime we go out he state’s fight n leave me there.I refused to apologized

Relationships suck i am staying single

My boyfriend told me canit talk to my friends or hung out with them hurt my feelings what should I do my name is Katie

Whoaa! My relation scored 10/10. I am done with it. What's more funny is he even takes tampons as his rivals and competitors. I am not kidding it's true. He was against, me using tampons coz he was insecure over that too. 😅

I've tryed to leave my partner after nearly 20 years but to no avail he just won't let me go no matter what i do he uses the " No other man will ever love you your damaged goods and not that great looking and that i won't sleep with other men and women to keep him pleased so why would any other male want to be with me and no other man will be raising my children " then the ill kill myself so you can live with the fact that your the reason as to why im dead. I've had to deal with hospital trips at one stage as my back was nearly broken along with being strangled on more then 2 occasions. I'm going to try again just after Christmas and hope that i get out before its a body bag

I was belittled, abused, called an idiot, a moron, he said i had the attention span of a nat. I was always the one apologizing. He always said why should he apologize. I was yelled at, made fun of. I was crazy, cursed at . called a Bitch. C..t. He always accused me of talking to other guys. If a guy commented on a post i was accused again. He used and abused me. In the end he physically abused me. Every time wr fought he always said if i didnt shut up he would leave me. Always 1 foot out the door. He is an addict. I was his atm. Made a mess n didnt care. Used my weakness against me. Robbed me with threatening my life. Fist closed n then put his hand on my throat. Pushed me. Pushed the table into me. He hated questions. Would answer me with a question Yes he always reminded me of what he did for me.

This is exactly what I'm going through.. wow

My ex would park near my house and see who would come by and who would leave from my house and his excuse was that he wanted to see me even if it was for one second. I had to tag him on everything on Facebook or he always made comments the second I would post something.

How do you clink on the link

Andrei from 90 day fiance is his name he came across as controlling in the beginning but as of late he's relaxed with Elizabeth she has an only fans channel and they both have a RU-vid channel about family stuff and their children

Is my bf being controlling if he says I have to wear certain clothes on a date and I can't wear whatever I want?

For me i need help boyfriend is because worse day by day he get mad at small things like why i dont eat?why are your sleeping late?why are you talking with phone outside or you are gossip about me?

I'm going through the same situation. I don't know what do when I talk about break up, he knees and ask an apologies. In few days he controlling again and again. I need a help plz

I gained weight for him, because he said intimacy was not as good when I was naturally slimmer. He was super possessive and controlling he didn’t believe in friends, and he always assumed that if the wind blew, I was looking at the guy down the street no matter what I said. He moved out of my house earlier this week and I haven’t been this. Happy in a long time Because of him I now realize that I wanna be with someone that’s just like me. I don’t mind waiting me and my cat will be just fine.

My gf is happy i dont tell her what to wear and what to do and to look at her phone its about trust

I have been with my partner for almost 5 yrs. I find if i see friends he always finds issue with this like i should have called him, i should be texting him more. I do text him but surely i shouldn't need to be constantly on my phone reassuring him. I'm with my friends and want to give them my full attention. Also he called me last night and i had been in the middle of a text conversation so whilst on the phone i text twice and told him what i was doing. He went in the huff with me and ended the call? Is this irrational behaviour?

I cant talk to my friends i always have to block them and i cant go out with friends if hes not going with me and he always need to look on my phone and i lost alot of friends beacuse of Him idk what to do

I'm done with men

I wanted too know about something I’m in a relationship right now I’m happy but I don’t like when he gets really jealous of other males I can’t talk too no other men as friends none and he said he ain’t gonna talk too no other women then I was acting playing around like too see how would he act so I act like I’m talking too other guys he snaps easily he almost broke my phone he tells me too stop playing with him like that before he punch me in the face and he said ya women drive a man too go crazy and hit ya I was like really I can’t even play around with him he don’t like when I wear a bra stuff we get into arguments about dum things what do ya think

My boyfriend controls everything he even tells me when I should go sleep I'm not even allowed a fan when I'm asleep even though I suffer high temperature it I have fatty liver he tells me who to talk to what to wear etc

One of my best friends is a.guy.i will not give that up

When it comes to insecurity I think this is when you and your woman need talk it by saying "baby I feel really insecure tell her why you feel insecure what is making you insecure? Is it comparison to other men thinking she will leave you for someone else? The fear of you're not being a good partner than you could be? Things like these can very well stem from fear. Fear of comparison or lingering eyes for another man. Your partner is not only your lover but your best friend to tell these things to and how you feel to let them know that you could use more reassurance on their love for you it may be a shock to them at first but talking it is the only way they are going to know and how a relationship can progress. But the more you keep her hostage and isolated and restricted from her freedom the more she's is going to stray and the more likely she is probably going to find someone else who treats her as an equal and a human being. Ask your why do you feel the need to argue about who is wrong and who is right? Does it make you feel less of a man? Or break your self of asteem? Make it known in a healthy way how it makes you feel women know about feelings because they have them let yours be known they don't need a macho man all the time. Is a disagreement really worth ruining something that can be beautiful or losing the love of your life? Let your feeling be known to her and let her feelings be know to you even if you don't like them or think of it differently and disagree

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Get him keep him my name is crystal and I need help. And advice

MY EX 🤮🤮🤮 so glad I got out.

This guy knows this is how every relationship work. So he use all this and tell u to click the link below to coach 😂😂 He's manipulating girls to think that they are in a bad relationship and make them come to learn from him and take their money. Confident guys put rules. Because they know they can put rules and the girl will not leave him for putting rules. Unconfident guys doesn't put rules. Because they are scared that the girl will leave bcz he is putting rules.

I don't know if I am being too controlling but she has a lot of male friends, and many of whom are attracted to her. She also still keeps in contact with her exes. I am trying to be reasonable and let her live her life but it doesn't make me feel calm. She tells me I have nothing to worry about. Not even sure if I am being insecure or are these actual red flags that I am simply ignoring.

Can you find me and man

Well I’m fucked lol 😂

😂😂😂😂😂 ong I feel the same way irs all’s ways at 2 ways street if someone doesn’t want to be with u than just leave I’d someone is caring you too a ex girlfriend than they need to leave like the Beyoncé example irs ducking weird an strange I would neve!!!!! 😂😂😂 wht the duck wouldn’t anyone be that type of way please don’t ever say what shir adain sis is 😂😂😂😂😂Lol I give up an now ok apologize first hand ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ lol

He have a problem with me hanging with my gay male friends?

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Funny how women want a masculine man who is a leader but then turn around and call them ''controlling''

It's a fact that guys can't be friends with attractive women. We all know that. That's why we don't like it when you think. He is my frd. He is not your frd.

The problem is when you let women do whatever they want they end up cheating