Folks - no matter who you prefer to listen to for advice on RU-vid - PLEASE do not do the 7/30/45/90 Day No Contact! It is very manipulative and doesn't form healthy relationships.
Hei i have a situation I'm on nc for the last 2 months just today she unfriend me and her mother .... what kind of people are they I didn't disturb them or anything
@@floringhioaca4529 do not respond to this type of behavior. the reasons for doing such a thing are endless, but ultimately they do not contribute value to your life. you only respond to situations that contribute value to your life
Did no contact and improved myself then she came back 8 months later. I politely declined the offer. I'm in a great space and I'm now dating someone better.
Friends, please, stand in front of the mirror and say this: I love myself, I love myself, I love myself... now say this: no contact is forever no contact is forever. No contact is forever... I will contact this person, maybe, in another lifetime.
"When you met them you did not *need* them, you grew to need them." Quite true. Being needy does push them away. I must try not to contact her over Christmas. I must remain absent. As hard as that is.
When I met her I did need her, my life was a mess. She got me up and running, changed my values and how I see life. Now this is the exact reason she broke up with me though. She thinks we are too different, after 1,8 years she broke up exactly 2 weeks ago.
Believe me every one of you strictly do no contact and cut every single possible contact from them, believe me they will reach out to you but also that doesn't mean you will be get back together. In the end you gonna win this. 50% chance of winning them back but 100% chance you will win yourself back. Stay strong 💪 Don't be sad. You got this 💪
My ex girlfriend contacted me after 27 Days. I tried to meet up with her. She refused. This was the second time she broke up with me. I told her, I was done. I went back into no contact for myself.
For me it’s been a year and he never contacted me or came back.. some days I’m happy some days I miss him like crazy but yeah life goes on :)) I know it’s hard but not impossible stay strong everyone and focus on your life ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
No contact is the best thing i have done, Physically improving getting healthier, Happier . She wished me Happy birthday then blocked me after seeing i am having a good time with friends.. Time heals you guys Just focus on yourself you will thank yourself
Rory my man this video came out at the right time! I was debating on breaking no contact today since it's my exes birthday, but this video helped reminded me on how she tossed me to the side like trash and how much pain she put me through. I've really done alot of self improvement and have grown mentally and physically. I feel, act and walk like the best looking man in the room now. Thanks for your videos Rory, keep doing your thing!
Ryan Counts I love this. I have to get that same mentality. Feel act and walk like I’m the best looking female in the “building” lol. This helps thank you! Btw, what did you do to get to this point.
@@whisperingwind7730 it sure is! I've read alot of books to improve myself, accomplished alot of goals. I'm closer to having a law enforcement career and preparing for a bodybuilding contest this fall. I feel like a lion walking through my jungle everyday
Probably 2 or 3 months into no contact. Finished therapy and my anxiety classes. I got a new job that I like, I’ve been trying new hobbies and found one that I absolutely love! AND I got my dream car!
Unlike many coaches You have very professional voice and perfect pronunciation.. as a foreigner I find it easy and pleasant listening to You.. the advices are appreciated too 😉
@T Mac would you want someone back that broke up with you? 🙅🏾♀️ I wouldn't. They are not it. If they truly wanted me they would have never broken up with me. Period.
Thank you. Came right on time. I am on day 8 of NC and I am struggling so badly. I miss him soo much and the thoughts are extremely obsessive. I begged and pleaded for a whole long month and guess what, he was dismissive, rude and lacked regard. I know reaching out does NOT work because all it had done is make me depressed, lose self respect, devalued me and I am still heartbroken and alone. Can you believe I even apologiesed for things I know I didn't do just to get him to change his mind 😔🙆🏽♀️. Ladies and gents, please listen to Rory as he is 1 million percent right. Go straight to NC and do not sell yourself short. I regret ever begging him to come back because all I did was boost his ego even more than it already was.
I don’t know if this helps anyone else. But my ex goes to the same gym as me and I just stopped treating him different. I acknowledge him with the same head nod that I give anyone else in there.
Sunnydaze_and_Ruby Xx same situation, I originally ignored her but then changed that to indifference, saying hello or smiling and keeping it moving. Eventually she reached out and now we are back seeing each other but I feel more in control of the situation and still keep my options open (dating other people)
I realize this was a while ago but i am in the exact same situation. We go to the same gym, and i work there. To make it worse, we are all wearings masks so I can’t see her real facial expression when seeing me. We see each other almost every week. She smiles under the mask and waves. We broke up 4 months ago in June, and she has contacted me in some way every single month since then (including for my birthday last month). All through text tho, never in person. Last time she did it (on my birthday) i left her on read. I didn’t wanna play her game anymore. I have a coaching scheduled with rory next Tuesday. Her birthday is Wednesday. Im not sure what to do AT ALL. Hopefully he will clarify stuff for me. Hopefully me leaving her on read wasn’t a terrible idea. Sad to see 4 different reach outs since the break up and no reconciliation :/
I see a lot of comments about how to do no contact if you have a child/children together and I'd like to give my thoughts based on my own experience. I usually contact (via text) my ex 2-3 days in advance with "Hey! I was wondering if I could pick up (child's name) at such and such time" and that's basically it, no emotion and staight to the point. ONLY contact them when you want to see or talk to your kids. Nothing else about no contact changes. DO NOT, argue about the child, DO NOT speak negatively about your ex to the child and DO NOT use the child to manipulate the situation REGARDLESS of their actions. At this point your relationship with your child is more important than the relationship you lost. Not only can you use NC to become the best version of youself, you can use it to become the best mom/dad for your child. Hope this helps and I know it's hard, and I know it hurts but you gotta be twice as strong, for you and your kids.
Over 2 months post breakup and NC. It’s been very tough and the worst part is that I don’t feel any relief. When I wake up in the morning all this crazy thoughts come to my head and it just messes up my day. I still miss her very much but there is nothing I could do.
acctually i do not have any problems with breaking NC, because of my stubbornness and my will power. My problem is that sometimes I have these flashbacks, that ruin my mood and day
Rory, Thank you for the videos! A message to my fellow NC’ers: Like Rory said, NC is FOR YOU, not to be used as a tool to win them back. You reduce your chances of being disappointed...
Please bring more topic on no contact, a lot of us are surviving from narcissist abuse. So things to up lift our spirits would be helpful. This video was good.
There's no information about no contact for a mutual breakup. You'd be the first on RU-vid. Love your channel. Thanks for all your help and amazing advice
Thank you no contact is for ever, thanks for not telling us its for a couple of months. It ended for a reason it's time to move on. I surely don't want my ex back. It is hard to let them go but with time you will be OK. If no contact work for you to get your ex back, God bless you.
He came back after a few months NC, but in that time I realized what I wanted for myself, and from a potential partner, and after all that reflection, I don't see myself dating him again.
Thank you so much for your content! You have so much helpful content and I cannot wait to see where I go in the next couple of months. I’ve learned to see beauty in the pain. This being my first breakup, I didn’t know how to handle my emotions. Your words of affirmation really gave me confidence and excitement for my future! Thank you so so much!!
Its been two months no contact, and I can honestly say I've come out the other side. I no longer wish to get back with my ex which I never thought I would say two months ago. I'm going on dates with other women, focusing on setting up a business and working out like a champ! Everyone gets there it just takes time and you must focus on improving yourself, physically, mentality, spiritually resourcefully. Occupy your mind with other things and you'll surprise yourself with your ability to get over your ex.
They play that mind game hate that shit, my ex NARC text to see me I told him what time would be good, he said OK, I haven't heard from until 2 day after. That was enough for me to block him for good. Don't take me for a fool. And the funny thing is meeting him was not to get back he owes me money taught that's what he was going to give me. Then nothing. So I don't want the money anymore or friendship. I blocked text everything. They are not worth it, time to ignore them.
Do you think that women can feel when you’ve moved on. Sort of like a sixth sense. I hear a lot of people say as soon as they’ve moved on is when they get a text. Thoughts ?
I started no contact with the view to get my ex back....but now it turned into self developing day by day.... to keep myself busy...I have started yoga which helped me to keep myself fit and get a great figure.....I took admission into a new course ....which is helping me growing academically ........ and I am feeling so positive ,happy and content.....it really worked Rory....don't know how to thank u...god bless u Rory
I work with my ex and I see her everyday. 3 months and I've kept myself busy by focusing on work, going to the gym, and traveling out of town on the weekends. Heck I even started skateboarding again, which I haven't done since high school. Honestly I don't even care if she comes back or not. The fun train keeps rolling. :D
Day 18👌...she reached out a couple of days ago just to ask a mundane question(i guess she was checking on me) no response after I gave her a answer. I been on radio silence from social media also, now it seems shes posting more then usual...the other day shes now making her rebound relationship obviously known in the comments on the guys page where everyone can see. Maybe it's a way to make me jealous, not really sure because in the guys bio it says he single. Imma stick with no contact tho
What if I broke no contact to return her baby's belongings. I stayed calm collected and didn't bring up the past. Just " here are your things and have a good one " she was very thankful and said she was open to grab food the next time she came to my town... Which I responded thanks but I'm not interested in being just friends. The door is open have a good day....(walked)
ha! no contact for 5 months, now ex started posting Indirect post aiming at me like missing me etc...too bad I met someone new . no contact works 100% and it is for you not for your ex
At the 30 day mark currently. Left her on read after a negative message was sent on her part. Picked up jiu jitsu and work 7 days a week. Miss her but working on my new self feels fucking good
34 Days of NC,, I'm dying on the inside,, will this ever go away,,?,, it was short term,, frm March till may" I miss him soooooo much,, Rory',, Short term can be just as Devastating:: Friends,, plz help""!!!!
It’s been almost a month that he broke up with me, at the beginning I would text and call crying like 3 times, he kept telling me that he was there for me no matter what and that he wanted us to be friends. The last time I called him I told him at the end that I don’t want to talk or see him anymore, I asked him to please stop reaching out to me and he agreed. More than a week has passed and I made the mistake of sending him a video of me singing a song to his email, then send him another email with a text about compatibility (the reason that he left me) and today I had severe anxiety and called him because he was always the person I would call for help, he didn’t pickup the phone or send me a message like he used to do the first times after the breakup. I feel kind of stupid now for breaking the no contact like that, I regret it and now I have to start from 0. I’m really going to make it this time and come to this video when I feel like breaking it again. Thanks for the good videos.
Hey Rory, still within the first 26 dys of NC..ex seems to be trying to 'move on' fast re new profile pics for validation, updating then an invisible or closed match acct, concert w gf's she supposedly had no respect for, etc, otherwise I have no idea what she's doing given the full block. As we discussed in our phone call, just wondering how effective NC works when the chick has experience w breakups and can be the type who supposedly is the "once I'm done I'm done"/ move on fast type. Ik u'll say stay indefinite NC and let her make the first move but what's the real incentive if perceived bad treatment and creating a false toxic view of me are in play and she's feeling major extended relief w a few post breakup mistakes, plus feelings have diminished given her anger a month ago. Is the silence really able to pique curiosity and create pattern interruption over several months? Also should I post any pics of me out or go the radio silence route of posting nothing aka too busy? Following and will stay the course if u think..tty, J
My ex fiancé left me after being together for 7 years . He proposed last year , then left me a few weeks ago (through text message) . 3 weeks no contact as of now. 🤞 I’ve been working on myself a lot and finding my individuality again . I wonder if he misses me or thinks about me or even hurts like I do..
I believe our ex’s do they do hear a song or two and it takes them back to the feeling the moments you had together they see a place and it takes them back I don’t care how stubborn you are you can’t run away from those feelings just a matter of time.
Hi Lindsey. If he doesn’t, he will. Stay strong and fucking awesome. Stay silent until he reaches out. In the meantime, let your best friend be your best friend and have your back. Focus on YOU, you are the star of your movie. Also, NC gets easier from 3-4 weeks on, so you have already been through the worst of it by now. Keep on growing. 😊 //Magnus
My Fiancee did the same, was together for 2 years. Had some issues with my parents. I asked her to let go. Broke up with me over text. I love her but this was a very immature behaviour. I am conflicted to what to do. I have apologised but she is saying that she has moved on. It’s been 2 month of NC after that.
My ex agreed to talking and seeing each other here and there. We were talking as friends, laughing, flirting and having a good time. I was hoping that everything was going to lead to us getting back together. I then found out he was planning on moving to Another state. I asked him if it was true and he said yes. I then said that we shouldn’t see each other anymore because I didn’t want to keep my hopes up with a guy that was planning on leaving. He stayed quiet... and then I said... right? To confirm. And he said... I don’t know. I then proceeded to say, ok that’s all I wanted to know. Have a good night. He said ok good nigh. He hasn’t text or call since then. That was 3 days ago. Idk what to do. I really wanted to fix things with him. He still doesnt know when exactly he might be moving. Btw, he is my ex husband. We were married for 10 years😔 I keep telling myself, if he moves it’s because he doesn’t care and is willing to lose me. Then I should really move on
Hey Rory here’s a question for you, what about if your ex has reached out to you and your now talking and trying to work on things. Would you recommend your channel to them to watch and try to learn from as well or no???
Ty Thomas he mentioned once before that you might want to hesitate from doing that bc they may look at these vids and not understand them the same and think u were using them to learn how to manipulate them
Thank you for this video! My situation is where I broke up with her because of her not putting effort in/wanting to spend time together. I basically ended the relationship simply and said this isn't working. However I do want it to work but I felt walking away was important...Since I'm technically the dumper, how does no contact work in my case?
Im in no contact and have been for about 3 weeks however every 3 or r days my ex reaches out to me via text with little things like "im doing a dump run, let me know if theres anything you dont want thrown away" or "have you seen this folder that was on the table" or usually just to tell me about a bill due or something. She always ends it wishing me a nice day etc. Well ive met someone im interested in and wondering if i should start seeing this new person even tho i still want my ex back? Is my ex coming back? Should I wait?
Only 4 weeks of no contact, 8 weeks apart total. He did unfriend me from Facebook on Day 1. I've hit the gym and lost 16lbs. Love the advice and am journaling. Question- if my ex broke up with me because his attraction for me fell and I do all this work for myself- as much as it feels rewarding to me, will it be a reward for him for breaking up with me? I'm skinnier, more confident and through stressful job transition that made me feel depressed... I'm afraid it will make him feel he can step away anytime things "get tough" in the future- thoughts?
Rory, my birthday is coming up and I'm 3 months post break, 5 weeks NC. My buddies tell me if don't get a message that day, consider it over. Needless to say I'm not looking forward to my birthday.... Thoughts?
Hey Rory! I was working at a music festival and during my break I went to the merchandise stand and every line was full except one line and I knew what I wanted to purchase. As I went to the line turns out my ex was merchandise person. I kept it it cool. I did not I repeat, I did not talk to her anything besides of what I wanted to purchase. It was unexpected of us to see each but I kept it cool and did my purchase and just left. My mind was running but I had myself really calmed. I was wondering if it was breaking no contact? Other than that, I’m doing really good with my life. Gonna start a new chapter in a university for my career.
Rory, Does no contact works for any age Group? (21&18 in my case). I have read that if your ex is that young, she won't be afffected by no contact and Just move on :(
Hey Rory! when ex reached out once ( 3 months ago) I chased for 1 month and half and stopped as she didn’t initiate (she dumped me since 11 months cuz of neglecting her )…Will NoContact work again? Will they reach out again?
Am I considered the dumper if we stayed friends after the breakup and I decided for emotional reasons that it was no longer healthy to continue speaking? We were friends for four months before I cut things off. He’s the one that broke up with me before becoming friends
My question is how to handle exchanging stuff that I want/need when you've been in NC. So. I was in NC for 6 weeks till today. I reached out only because I want my old laptop back and I figured id give her the stuff I have back. I'm way better than I was 6 weeks ago or even 6 months ago when I was with her. Exchanging stuff tomorrow. Then going back to NC. Thanks for the advice it's very helpful.
I have been in no contact for 4 months but my issue is Facebook stalking. I can’t see her post but I can’t help but obsess over her periodic profile pic changes. We don’t belong together because it was toxic but damn I miss her as much today as I did 5 months ago when we broke up. I have no idea how you Rory got over a 10 year fiancé in 5 months. I’m always in the gym. But still come home think about her and get emotional. I date other women and I’m still thinking about her when I’m with them. It’s the most overwhelming feeling in the world I ever had to experience and I’ve had a lot of short term break ups and rebounds. But this girl I cannot seem to let go of.
keep meeting new people and you will meet someone different and quit social media because it make's us stalk them. Trust i do think of her too sometimes it's been 5 months but i seriously don't give a f about her anymore. You are worthy and important too Love yourself and Keep yourself with Work,gym, friends Have fun trust me it helps Goodluck
Éen Paard I’ve always had a rebound this is my biggest issue. I never knew what I meant to be fully alone. Hell she was my rebound we ended up together for 5 years. This s*** is hard!!!
@Bryan I am in the same situation. I went on a date and talking to other females but all I do is think about my ex and how much fun we had. We both agreed of the break up, I tried to do nc at first but she kept reaching out and saying she missed me. I tried to get her back bcuz I thought she wanted me back. So I called her one day and then she told me she didn't want to give me false hopes. I begged and plead to get her back on the 2nd month of the break up. On the 3rd month she became distant and not responding within 2-5 days of my text. Then 1 week became 2 weeks of not responding. I called her after the 2nd week no response, Couple of days later I texted her no response. I was so hurt that she was ignoring me bcoz when ever she reached out I responded back. I do look at her fb and she still have our special pictures from our vaction of us which I thought she would delete them. After awhile I was noticing every time I looked at her fb I would reopen my wound and didn't give myself time to heal. So from then on on the 4th month I said damn I see the true colors of what I thought was called love even though we broke up i thought she would be there for me or be back bcuz we had chemistry. Now I am steadily doing me and lost 35 lbs from doing 2 a days in the gym. It's hard for me to not think about her but F that I have to gain myself respect, value and love myself bcuz I couldn't eat or sleep during the last 4 months. What pushed me foward was friends and giving my love 1st to God to heal my soul and me to improve/rebuild my physical side. Everyday I still think of her but when I do I substitute it with positive memories and control what I can control. Keep grinding!
joseph velasco my ex did similar. After month one she called me and I thought we were on the path of reconciliation but we FaceTime April 7th and that was the last time I heard from her. She doesn’t have pics of us but she does have a pic of me holding my niece at her bday party back in feb. I think if it was just me and not several people involved she would have deleted it by now.
@@bryanunion5110 I know bro, but they decided to walk out the most hurtful way even though we have broken up. I know it's hard and I feel u bro, I rather have her say I love u but we have to move on and we cant be together. hell, getting yelled and saying f*** off would of work too! lol the silent treatment is one of the most hurtful feelings I ever endured bcoz I felt like someone died ya know, like my heart was crushed and someone took my soul so my mind is trying to find solutions to fix it. true or not? pictures are memories and they dont really mean they still love us. the important part to know is that they left with silence. let that be the motivation of your life to turn it around and once you can forgive yourself by hating her for what shes done then maybe one day you might forgive her, to make that it all at peace. until then, I say f my ex and it gives me fuel to be the best version of me as you will too! keep grinding!
If your ex is going thru custody battle and her family members going thru serious medical concerns but you're using the no contact rule do you contact to show support or do you continue the no contact rule ??
Hi Roy, Love your Chanel. I have only one question, if you go into NO CONTACT and you ex responds after 48 hours or a few days or even the day of the break up, do you or do you not respond? Thank you
Hi Rory, been 3 months NC he broke up with me and i admit still misses him and still love him, always on my mind and am still hurting but ur videos help my self control not reach out ....i do Yoga 2x a day , i lost 10kg in just a month... learning ukelele and playing guitar it helps me a lot ... Wish i can move on quickly but doesn't work he still pops up on my mind every minute ...i dont know how to move on in my situation .... Hmm We've been in a relationship 3 years / 5months LDR
I would like to ask what no contact includes? (except from no talking to them) Not seeing Instagram or fb stories, not liking their posts? If I liked a post after 5 months of no contact it means that I broke it a little? Also if my ex messages me after we break up should I not answer them at all? Or should I just answer formally?
I wouldn't look at their Insta and FB stories, nor like their posts. Don't give them any of your attention. If they write to you, reply back - but always let them come to you.
Nc can always do again! Don’t care if he is coming back but I can always get myself back because that’s in my control! Thank you so so much Rory for the update and effort!
Hey Rory, me and my ex already broke up 3 months ago but I never used no contact to her ever since, during those times we still hangout after her work as friends. Then I saw in YT videos about no contact. Now Rory my question is, if I use no contact to her will it still be possible to get us back together? I was thinking using no contact to get her back was already too late and she might already move on. Would appreciate very much about your thoughts here man, thanks
Rory thanks for your guidance. You’ve nailed the behaviour of the dumpee when it comes to how i felt. I’d like you to adress breakup of a short relationship. I’ve been a victim of love bombing... future faking with a man that i quickly... quickly got attached. Maybe thought it was attachments to him but quickly realize i fell for what he put in my head. He got what he wanted and took away the attention he gave me just as quickly. Why is it so hard, why does this one hurt? And trust me i know what it is to end a 10 year relationship. But this one... a couple of weeks... Some people here may read and not really think there is an issue for such a short term relationship. But it’s been a rollercoaster of emotion. Tx in advance for any consideration!
Rory, I just went through a breakup two days ago, it was a mutual breakup but still left me missing my ex girlfriend a ton. We were the best of friends ya know, but had issues with our compatibility in being together as more then friends. I’m going no contact to better myself for the things I’ve realized I need to work on. I don’t feel it would be best to get back together with her in the future for the both of us, but I like the idea of someday (once I have worked on myself enough through nc) if she reaches out or I see her again, we could be friends. Is that a good goal in using no contact? Or am I not using no contact correctly?
Rory i really love all your videos. But what if im the dumper. I'm the one who broke him because he don't give me time. He always busy... Do you think the no contact is applicable for my ex ..
Hi Rory, been in NC since she broke up with me by text message 3 mths ago. We both celebrate our birthday in October, hers is ONLY TWO DAYS BEFORE MINE. So I won't send her a happy birthday text first, but how do I react if she does send me one 2 days later..? Just answer with a plain "Thank you" , or do I refer to her birthday as well and wish her a belated happy BD??
I Have been in no contact for a month, my ex broke up with me on June 25th while I was away, and im not returning to my country until August 25th. Does no contact work when it was a long distance break up? And what should I do once I see her again?
Yes, No Contact does work over long distance. If you see her you should be relaxed and easy-going, almost indifferent! It's just another person, nothing special!
Its been 9 month of NC, already dated someone new, but still remember her sometimes, man i do really love her even she dump me like shit, not stalking her at all since NC, unfollowed and everything, and still no sign of her coming back, im regret for my begging action that make her hate me even more back then, trying to love my new gf like i love my ex, but i cant lie to myself, i cant love her like i love my ex, it is sucks tho
I’ve been in no contact for 1 month and I blocked her on social media cause i know she wants to stalk me and she keep posting things to show she is having a good time without me, is it ok or is it immature doing that? Ps: i didnt blocked her on my phone and she knows she can contact me anytime
Hi Rory. Thank you for your videos! You have really been helping me through this rough time. I really like your honesty and objective speech. I'm truly grateful. About no contact... I've been in no contact for almost a month. He broke up with me 1 month and a half ago. He said the cliché "I love you, but I'm not in love. It will never work out in long term". It was a 6 month relationship. I'm blocked on social media and whatsapp. Meanwhile, his parents keep posting comments on my Facebook, saying they like me, and giving me kisses... Etc. How should I react to this? Thank you!
So I've been in no contact for 2 and half months now but just last week sometime this month she calls and ask about an issue she had with her car of course I was like wtf and i laugh. But I answered in a mature manner and never text her back. Straight back into no contact. Like I know you she's seeing other people now go live your best life without me. I wish I could seen this months ago.
Can No contact be used when you're back in contact with your ex but you're getting hot/cold treatment from them? more clearly they are inconsistent (They reach out to check up on you, but then they don't call for days)
Rory, could you in the future maybe objectively cover the topic on exes blocking / unblocking on social media after ghosting/discard without any reason. How to react when you're at the receiving end of the block, what steps are needed to maintain control of emotions and character etc plus hypothetically if after a long time (when you're in a indefinite no contact phase of life), they unblock and do breadcrumbing / indirect approach how to and when to respond in a manner where you regain back your respect and power of the situation etc.
@@TheLoveChat rory I'm new to your channel so I might have missed them. BTW it's great logical approach you have which has helped me see things from a different mature prespective comparatively than before.
I went into no contact after my gf told me that she was having issues loving herself and that a relationship wasn't for her rn. Hoping NC was the right move, close to a month of NC💪
@@ralphmachado8201 I've moved on. I reached out months ago just to see if anything would happen and yeah, she didn't show much of any interest. Her loss, someone else's win.
I reached out to my ex about a month after the break up. Blocked on Facebook, reached out on Instagram, got blocked there too with no reply. It was a clean slate message after I said some bad things about the relationship and her on facebook (was blocked since breakup). Can I consider myself in no contact if there is no possible way to communicate? I don't want to reach out at all, im just upset there is no possible method of communication.
GB.Ellas.left in the cold 12 of march went no contact next second.painted the house new furnutures chanched all the decoration started reading again went to the gym.no contact is for you NOT for them!
What do you suggest with a breakup due to a huge verbal argument because I had too much to drink and she later said that she loves me but she feels like she needs to heal from the things that were said during the fight and doesn’t want to see me anymore. Do I have a chance? She said she loves me but feels like she doesn’t have a choice because I’ll never change.
He left me for another girl in January. No contact since late March. He is still with her. When we saw each other on the street we acted like strangers. I hope he feels bad because of dumping me and causing me so much pain (it was very ugly and emotional break up). BTW. Should I block him on social media? / we don't follow each other but I do stalk sometimes :( /
I wouldn't block him, just stay away from his account. I promise, you will feel so much better if you don't stalk. Once you start looking, it is hard to stop, "might as well continue and feel shitty ...". Focus on yourself and your own life. Don't stalk as an act of self care.
We were together about 2 years and had a child together. Then things started to slip and I began looking other places and taking the relationship for granted time and time again. After multiple chances she finally firmly broke up with me and I went back to my parents house with almost instant regret! I begged and pleaded for weeks until I got the hint that she was serious and needed space. A few weeks later we started hanging little by little when we would exchange our son. But things felt different, she was reserved and I knew somthing didn’t feel right. I discovered she was seeing someone else and I was heartbroken all over again! She confronted me the next day and said she does want a future with me but she was not ready. We still saw eachother for another week until I felt it wasn’t going anywhere and I had reason to believe she was still seeing the other guy! It’s already been 4-5 months since our break up and I know now Limited-contact is our best option to possibly reconcile the relationship. I’m going on day 7 and she has reached out almost every day and I’ve had to be strong because I’ve already broken NC once and felt like crap having to restart from day 0. I love her a lot and have changed so much, this no contact is not easy for either of us, but if she is rebounding then I need to stay away, work on myself, and let time do it’s thing. She breadcrumbs so hard to get me to break nc which has been a huge problem, but I want the mother of my child back and I’ll stay disciplined if it means saving our relationship! I honestly see a great future with us! Any thoughts that could help my situation??
Second day of NC - Broke up 4 days ago. First two days tried to talk "sense" to her but did have any effect so here we go. Luckily I am aware of this method from the past. Self improvement here we go again.
Hi Rory, me and my ex been together for 3 years since college. We broke up 4 months ago. We have so much mutual friends and we are still together in some group chats in facebook messenger. I still chat casually in the group since my friends there are so active they're asking for meet ups from time to time and they are also having fun in the group so I join in and act casually. I send messages to the group and never directing a message to my ex. This is a tough situation since whenever there are occasions within the group i feel like im being rude if I ignore the chats or invitations on meetups. Is this the right thing to do? Also, my birthday is next week so I'm inviting all my friends over. I'm planning to just send a message over the group chat inviting all of them over. Yes, I've watched your video on Ex during holidays however, I think it would be rude if she sees pictures of me with our mutual friends on my birthday and i did not even invite her.
We were together for 6 yrs but this is the second time he left me again bcz he needed space and i begged the whole month of june for him not to. Worst mistake i know. But on july i told myself to let him go. I stopped reaching out and he would reach out 3 times that week of july. The last time we talked i told him why is he calling me if he left me and broke up with me cause im annoying.. now its almost a month of no contact and i miss him.. should i wait for him to contact me first right since he left me..🥺 pple say he will come back again but he got a new job and new friends and decided to cut me off out of the bloom..
Hey Rory, I saw my ex on holydays I think he works there), he smiled but i did not stop (we were on the opposite sides of a road). Now I am probably going to be there again with some friends, what to do if I see him again. Should I stop and talk to him?
hello, my ex is hot and cold he says he will visit me soon but he hasnt got the money yet(i live abroad). sometimes he texts me but i think he is still in contact with his rebound.the other day i blocked him and he sent me an arrogant sms and his mom told me he was complaining and saying to unblock him immediately but when we talk he seems arrogant and very sure of himself, what do you think?
My x pop up at one of my family members house and said hi to my aunt gave her A hug then left after 2 months of nc..I’m just sitting back watching how this no contact thing for words ☺️ it’s amazing what nc can do!!
Should I block my ex? My ex and I have both dumped each other too many times to count. I’ve blocked and unblocked him many times, acted out emotionally and degraded myself. He doesn’t want to be with me but reaches out to talk. This time I told him to “just go”. I didn’t argue. I’m sooo tired of the games he plays (which I acknowledge I let him). I’ve meditated and I’ve been much more composed emotionally. But I feel if I block him he will think I’m playing the same game...what should I do?
Her sister keeps reaching out to me about random stuff... most recently asking me where to get cheap viagra for a friend of hers and mentioning how my ex told them that I had a source in New Zealand... I respond.. does that technically break NC?
What if my ex has low self-esteem? He has never had a long term relationship, and I believe he's protecting himself by ending the relationship before I could potentially hurt him. I'm currently in week 6 of no contact.
My ex wished me happy birthday at like 6 in the morning via text and used his nick name for me in the message...visible confusion...is this a breadcrumb?
My ex’s older sister had a beautiful baby girl and I’ve been wanting to congratulate her. God it sucks not being able to because his whole family are still my friends on Facebook. Seeing the baby girl is so heartwarming. I wish I could’ve seen her… Should I write her and congratulate her or back off?
I think a congratulations is totally fine. Just make sure to keep it about the baby and before you do it - consider if it will set your healing back. You come first!
Here is a great question. I've been in NC for the past year. He (in Australia) broke it off with me (in Calif where we were both raised). I'm still in touch with his brother's wife's family one city over. She tells me that he said to her that in our "final" conversation I asked him not to call me any more. Totally not true. So, what do you do (if anything) when the ex is telling his family things that aren't true? He did ask if she has seen me lately but should I do anything at all about this? I told her he was wrong but I feel like telling him as well. I just don't want to break my NC in order to do that.
