He said he dint want anything serious so I said ok then this won’t work for me we want different things. So he said let’s be friends. I said no I don’t think we can be friends either ! And I never looked back
Nothing worse then seeing an ex partner doing nothing to improve they life after a break up but that just means they wasn’t for you. No contact puts you on a road with purpose !
You are right but I think the biggest fear is that if you apply no contact the other person will also move on by thinking that you moved on and that just hurts if you have a history together. The problem isnt even getting back but having a real conversation and clossure. I honestly dont think the opposite of love is hate, the opposite of love is indiference, when you hate someone you still have emotions for that person.
Vampires Crypt but that’s the thing if they think you moved on and still contacts you that means it’s meant to be if they didn’t than as sweet and beautiful and passionate the time you had together was and they give a lil talk in they head like they’re happy I have to move on that’s pure proof they were never yours
The opposite of love is hate (meaning they still have feelings emotions even if negative). Indifference means lack of interest, emotion...they could care less.
William .simonsen Such a thing as coincidence exists, and some relationships just aren't ready to end. Breakups are hard and nobody likes being sad! People believe in it because it's the easy way out. It let's us believe that using "the law of attraction" or "spells" that all we need to do is contact a "spellcaster" and suddenly our ex comes rushing back. Even if that existed, what an unfortunate display of manipulation, neediness, and lack of self worth that displays. Ya know?
William .simonsen I do offer a coaching service you can purchase. Due to the insane amount of emails I receive everyday I'm just not able to do it for free anymore.
After 8 months of toxic on and off, 35 days NC, and extensive journaling, I am FINALLY moving on. I’m not angry. I accepted we were not soulmates, and this breakup needed to happen. I forgave him from my heart and understood that the painful things that happened in our relationship, could be due to the universe preparing me for the next one (I did some tarot reading and the most amazing person is said to come into my life soon).I am starting to find the idea of dating others appealing now, but I’m not ready yet. I didn’t think this day would ever come, but it did! I won’t lie, some days i find myself thinking about him a lot. But these moments have been happening less and less. Every day I’m in NC feels like a victory because I was dumped, so I’m sure he’s wondering why I’m not reaching out. Cause my standards have risen 🤪
The bad thing is my ex has no friends. He is by himself most of the time. When we were together we would always hang out. So I'm pretty sure he's been thinking about me a lot
@Elisa Alaniz OMG my ex bf is a gamer like me that’s how we met when we were together he was always hanging out with mates this last week he’s been just gaming on his own not with friends we broke up 2 weeks ago maybe this week it’s really got to him 🥺🥺🥺 There again he’s prob not bothered either and just enjoying the peace without me 😖😖😖
Thank you Rory! Your videos calm my anxiety well. This is the first time I try hard to do proper self-heal after a breakup. These several months were eye-opening for me. I learned so much about myself, relationships and emotions. Million thanks to you!
Well said, Roy. Focus on yourself . Let them explore and live their dream . Just leave them be and you focus on your needs . When they realize , They will send some confusing indirect text , . Its up to the person if they want the ex back
Great video. Heart is heavy today. I still see her daily, but I avoid eye contact. I am improving myself, but I had started before. Just frustrating to wait, but I know it is best. Yesterday was her birthday and that was hard!!! And is rolled over to today.
Anyone else just feel like straight shit right now? Like there is NOT a person out there for you? That's how I feel right now. I just want to be loved and I feel like there's no one out there that is WILLING to love me back.
This is a good channel, heck I recommend it. Helped me more than once some of these mixed with a couple other coaches. Sometimes we just got to hear it..
Hey man! This is so factual! My ex broke off the relationship and we last spoke on my birthday. She reached out to wish me a happy birthday. We briefly texted that evening. The next day I decided to enter no contact even though she thought it would be fine for us to text here and there. That is on March 6th. I'm not going to be the pursuer. She'll have to initiate it and give 100%. Thanks for this video.
ramsey638hr Remember, once you told her that you're not looking to be friends, walk away! That way, when she reaches out your job is to set a date and go from there!
Thanks for your response. Her and I haven't talked about being friends or anything. She knows I want the relationship. I just chose to start no contact. I didn't want her to feel she was doing me a favor by leaving the open to communicate. Like that was helping me feel better about not being together. I emailed you my story about this break up. If you have the time, check it out.
I love your voice 💓💓 I have sooo many problems in my life but whenever I heard your voice I feel relax thank you so much for your video or thank you so much for helping us love from India 🇮🇳i'm ur superfan💖💖
My ex dumped me after I stopped putting myself on the line for her. I wanted her. Back now I don't anymore and after working on myself I got three more women that came to me after I worked on myself.
Hello Rory, My boyfriend broke up with me about a week ago. I felt and still feel sad. I'm planning on Self-growth since I want to win him back. And of course I started No Contact right after the breakup. Your videos and advices have become my motivation. Thank you.
My ex broke up with me and blocked me on everything and Instagram she unblocked me just to turn around and block me again. Just to view my story because my page is public. I’m on day 3 NC and I think she’s deep down going crazy not knowing what I’m doing. So I’m staying strong.
I’ve tried things out with an ex after doing all these steps, I found that she had not worked on herself and had not improved and things got salty and sour almost instantly, it didn’t work again and we haven’t talked to each other for a year, she broke up with me twice and blocked me on everything and I’m happy with that
I've done no contact for over 5 months. Just a few days ago my ex mysteriously liked my Instagram picture after blocking me basically everywhere. I honestly don't care about her much, it's just funny that she left me and still cares more than I care for her
I went into no contact after begging and pleading for about a month, writing and recording and sending a song to my ex I wrote about her, and liking several facebook posts after her liking mine. Been about two months since the breakup and I guess I'll do No Contact now lol.
I needed this. He is right. In his introduction. Im going to tell her riiight now. I love her. I want to be with her. But right now. I know she doesn't want to be with me. But the door is open for us to get back together. If she is willing to get back together. Im going to do this right now
My X is mentally confident and self assured. He’s attractive and one of the funniest Men I’ve ever met, Woman adore him. I’m in no contact and am convinced he will hook up with another girl soon. But I’m not crying, begging nothing at all.
I’m scared that I might have messed up by asking her friends how she is doing and that I haven’t heard from her in a while.... I’m continuing no contact
I’m nearly in twelve weeks of NC From a LDR My LDR Ex who decides not too want me back broke up 8 months ago I’m starting too let go finally It’s been the hardest most painful experience I’ve felt with in a very long time Finally I’m feeling free of the pain and suffering I’ve tried dating while I’ve been struggling and got rejected every time Now I’m feeling better vibes within my self So stay strong everyone We will get there!
Hi Rory, I love your talks and it's really helps me to be stronger. Here is my problem, When she broke up with me, I begged and pleaded and she said I'm sorry,I felt angry on that moment and I said I'm not gonna get back to you. And I said wish her best. Now I'm in no contact for 57days. Is this no contact rule works in my case?
Hi Rory, thanks for you vids! When he left me after his father died, I begged for 2 months (not everyday, like once every two weeks but I begged HARD), no answers. Now I am in no contact. Do you think that this can be considered a right no contact? I am improving myself but he blocked me everywhere so I don't think he knows.
What about if the ex has an avoidant attachment style nightmare...those type are really scary... but I will be tougher than that...but what happend with those?
Question: what if owe my ex money during nc? Is it a good idea to just send it to him via pay pal with a simple "thank you" in the text section of pay pal and that's it? Thank you for your videos rory.
Good video. Helpfull. Can you do a video on this senario! Almost 5 year relationship we have gotten distant she says she needs space to reflect on her feelings! Told her fine get ur space i go on about things and no contact on my part but i get a daily text or some sort like. how are you ect!!! I have replied but after a while and short... Whats goin on in this scenario ??
My ex and i broke up over a year ago but we remained in contact every day up until about a couple months ago. I went on a date with a girl, my ex was hurt by this. She and I stopped talking for about a couple months. I reached out and she told me she’s dating someone now. I told her that I love her, wish her the best but I don’t want anything platonic with her and to give me a call if she changes her mind. Is that also establishing no contact? I’m feeling a lot better after telling her this. It’s been almost 2 weeks.
I'm 60 days into NC after reaching out 30 days into my first attempt (won't do that again!)I have a mutual monthly bill with my ex. She pays it and usually sends a receipt via text with an amicable text to say it's paid. She didn't send this last month (among a couple of other social media moves, including unfollowing me on Linkedin and deactivating her Facebook account) and I think it was because I was in no contact and hadn't been responding to them as it was business related. How should I reply to business-related texts where a response isn't really needed? If I don't respond at all, does this show an unwillingness to engage a reasonable conversation with her? I also think depression may be a factor as she broke both bones in her lower leg back in April and the break up happened a couple of weeks later.
Hi Rory, got a question for you. How do I stop the needenes to always initiate contact with men if they don't reach out and how can I emotionally control it and able to receive love? I do that with pretty much all the men I like. Thank you. Much love. Paola.
No contact is really working ! My ex broke up with me more than 1 month ago and is in a rebound relationship. I begged for her for a month she always rejected , she even asked to my sister to tell me to stop contact her ! So I give her the chance to miss me I did a no contact and only one week and a half she contacted me to talk about the bad behavior I had with her. But I know that she wanted just to talk to me, I controled my feeling and don’t seem needy to her anymore. We talked 2 days and she didn’t reply to my last message (it was an emoji) but I will not send another text, it’s her turn to come back if she really want to talk to me. she said that everything is good in her life but if she was happy in her new relationship why is she taking the time to come back to talk to me again ?
I wish i can apply no contact correctly but my ex works with me in same company am not talking to her anymore but we see eachothers almost evey working day
One thing I noticed that coach Corey and Craig don't talk about is how to deal with no contact in a work setting. In my case, my ex and I work in the same place. we don't always see each other but it does happen.
They may have mentioned it, i'm not quite sure. My advice is to remain relax & unaffected. Sometimes there are situations where we will see our ex even when we don't want to, and in those times it is your job to show that you won't be emotionally moved! Just be a normal, fun-loving person! Don't go out of your way to avoid them!
Thnx for your amazing videos♥. Brief question. When we should disappear during no contact (no texting, calling, likes). Is it good idea to post something on social media how we grow and we're better? Because they're gonna see it. And if they still see me on social media, do they even start feeling separation anxiety? (and I'm not ghost, if I post something on social media).
Hi, bro... I only told her to take care of herself and I am glad that she is happy. And Goodnight... And I have been doing no contact for a month now. I didn't say that I wanted to patch things up, did I do it wrongly?
Does any of your videos on a friendship level (non romantic)? Does the following work prior to going no contact (haven’t had contact in the last 8 days after running into them at their job cause we shop there): “Hello… it was very nice seeing you as always. Nice to see a smile on your face too. You looked good. Hope to see you or talk to you again very soon. We are always here to talk whenever and are here for you.” Also, is going no contact now ok even after the little bit of drama that went on after her decision which was 6 weeks ago? we did leave at good at good terms as she wanted for me to continue texting and visiting her and that she will let us know if and when she does start to do things with other people. But has still be distant since.
Hi Rory my ex broke up with me around 2 months back. After broke up I used no contact but unfortunately I didn't say her that I love you and if you change your mind then call me but instead of that I just ( stupidly) wish her best future and I returned. After that she called me thrice. And i answer her all call. Now what I do? Shall I now say that dialogue to her? Or I missed my chance...
My ex gf and I were together for 8 months Over some misunderdandings she proposed the breakup. I was insecure and broke up with her (Still regret it). Then begged and pleaded the first two weeks. There was never a huge fight or big issues. Just random couple differences. We’ve practically hooked up twice per week since our breakup 2 months algo. I’m done chasing. Is exhausting. She likes me but wont come back. It could be pride. Maybe she wants to see if the grass is greener somewhere else. No idea. Is NC really the best choice?
Will NC still work if your fiancé says she fell out of love after a 4 year living relationship and everything ended within a month, it’s been 3 months now and l did the pleading and begging at the beginning since it’s my first time getting dumped, now l know about NC thanks to these awesome videos lm getting stronger,
please help me ,I am confused!!! I was in 10 months of relationship with him often times I was needy and clingy he warned me several times but I got it not seriously. He decided to break up with me 3 weeks ago. I said I will change but not begged him. I was still in a contact with him during this 2 weeks. He said we meet up to talk about everything as long as he doesn't want to decide with texts. But he never hurried to meet up. Then I heard about no contact rule,and just began it last week. Last week I gave his Phone back through his brother, which he gave me before and cut the contact off. He wrote me that day,why I gave it back and do I have phone now to use. I didn't answer at all. Because I was very upset ,and I began no contact period. Did I do it right or? I am confused, he is writing nothing after that.
Should I stop him seeing my posts on social media by unfriending him and blocking him??? Or do I let him see what he's missing? Nothing on my social media is aimed at him. Its about the sick things happening in my life right now
Hey i watched all your videos and going to watch this one in a minute but could you do more videos about rebounds? Like should we take them back if they come, how to get forgiveness, etc.
The Love Chat also one question. Im usually often posting photos on social media because i always did that since i like to share my life to public. Should i reduce posting that so she has no updates on my life? She still likes my photos and watches my stories and i dont know if its good or should i disappear from her view. (I unfollowed her everywhere she keeps following me)
In your situation keep on doing it as you regularly do, show her that life hasn't gotten you down! If you want to try and be a little more mysterious you can go silent for two weeks or so, then post pictures of you out having fun. Its not necessary though.
what if your ex is marrying someone else and at the same time he/she still wants to be friends and keep in touch with you? Go fully no-contact on them?
I met my ex girlfriend 2 days ago after 2 months of our break up. She said she didn't reach out before because she knew I wasn't over her and she is dating another girl. Now she is trying to spend time with me again because she thinks enough time has passed so it's okay for us to be friends. I said that I wasn't over her yet and I didn't want her friendship. Then I unfollowed her in every social media and texted her that if she wanted me back someday, she should contact me. I also said that I would never contact her again. Did I do the right thing?
Rory what should i do if i discovered some stuff of my ex in my flay. Doing NC since the breakup. What about social media and her friends? thx for your reply
Hey Rory! We broke-up 3 weeks ago, but after 4 days of our break-up I met with her and gave her things back (because seeing them was hurting me, and I thought she needed them, there were things that her mother gave her). And after 7 days, I communicated that I love her, and I want to work on the relationship, and said that if she changes her mind she can contact me. Is giving her stuff back a wrong signal? And sorry for my English :')
So. She dumped me like 2 weeks ago. In short...we had a wonderful realationship, in my opinion, a lot of fun and nice memories, etc. But the "dark" side was some kind of little bullshits, women stuff(no offence). She loved me, i saw it in her eyes, i felt it in how she handled me, and i know she still does it...but she changed drastically The reason of the breakup was she wanted to leave, to move to another country to get a job, and other things she think we couldn't handle together, but simply she didn't communicate her intentions to handle a situation. She was rude, told me she has no feelings anymore, she doesn't love me, etc. I get mad, because i didn't get it, how can she suddenly change in few days from hot to cold like that. She left, we have some mutual friends, and not even she didn't left the country yet(because things didn't went like she thought) she is doing a "miserable life" constantly late from work, trying to reach new people to handle the loneliness, not growing, seems like she's loste between teh waves and has no clue what she is up for, and how to grow, to be productive, to achieve goals. I miss her a lot, i still love her, but this childish behavior of hers does freak me out! She told me she doesn't want to deal with me no more and to move on because she did!(when we broke up) I am in no contact since the breakup, 16 days and more to come. I dunno, how it goes if she will reach out to me or not, i try to focus on my goals day by day and get better. Any opinions I would appreciate. God bless you all and be strong!
I basically took this girl for granted and we were not yet in an official relationship although we would hang out in a romantic setting for over 6 months, we lost contact due to work for around a month, then she met somebody and became his girlfriend within a couple of weeks; is it possible to turn the table? Doing NC now.
Question, you have answered this for me in our Skypes but this could be for other people with the same question. If you did no contact without telling them to call you if you change your mind, or example you just left without saying anything at all, is that still okay?
