@@CraigCatapanoif it works then it’s not the kind of person I want to be with. It’s one thing to not come across as “thirsty” or “needy” and allowing so your bf won’t feel smothered when you’re dating because they’re just as busy as you are . Busy people= no time for stupid dating games
I think love usually is not about sex or physical attraction, it happens when you believe someone is worth your love and you appreciate the person. But i guess love don’t happen from the beginning, it needs time to build. what r ur thoughts about this?
Manipulation is actually an old and "normal" behaviour. We are all manipulators to a certain extent but some people manipulate for fun or to hurt others.
This makes sense, this is pretty much how my mom got my dad to cut off his whole family and all his friends and now literally the ONLY thing he cares about is winning her affection. Although she did let him have a cat, so that was nice of her.
so basically you are saying ; 1. make them love you for what you arent. - when they will get close after distance, they will realise you were nothing more than a fantasy 2. to play hard to "keep" to make them anxious and fearfull - they will feel manipulated eventually and associate negative feelings with you 3. to gaslight and isolate them to make them dependent, playing with their vulnerability and their life - this is respectless and a shameful thing to do nobody will ever love you for that
I agree with you for all but the last one. I don't see how it's playing with their vulnerability or anything. Plus it's important to have a special place in someone's life and make sure somebody is not getting say physical touch from someone other than their partner
You're wrong about #2, tbh. - attraction, strange as it seems, is in fact created through anxiety. through the fear of losing something (i.e. someOne - & this is just a factually accurate, observable truth about attraction-even in "healthy" relationships. (Which this short ISN'T espousing, granted. That said, again-attraction = fear of losing you. - do the research; I wish it weren't this way either, btw 😑
You can most certainly desire something you already have! I’ve been married 17 years and still desire my beautiful wife! Thes psychology tricks might be what’s wrong with the world.
Distance for me makes me miss at first you but then it also sets the tone to make me want to move on tbh . I am a women. So what I have learned from my 34 years of living is if someone is distant there just not that into you, and there is probably someone else in there life that they are talking to. So I keep it moving Don’t waste energy on people who are not even trying to make a effort. You deserve someone who will not make you wonder if your good enough! You are enough! If he’s playing distant game run !!!! Red flag
This should be titled: “How to become a narcissist and emotionally abuse people for your own selfish need to feel important, in control, & powerful.” OR “Signs your crush is using the tactics of a narcissist to manipulate you into becoming their human marionette toy”
This is straight up manipulation. Yall lets do it differently this time and try to genuinely connect with someone, without the need to posses them. Manipulation wont bring you love babes, only toxic relationships
This lady is telling people to be manipulative. That being said I'm currently being devalued and low key abused by someone I tried to connect with. I poured my heart out , was 'myself' and they assumed I was selling myself short. From being in awe of me they went to being condescending and snide. There's plenty of gaslighting when theyr confronted. Dumped their ass and now they're stalking me ,giving me prank calls , sharing my pics and info online. I didn't overshare or do anything that would make it seem like I'm easy game. They simply assumed that because I wouldn't put on a fake desirable facade which apparently is what they think self respecting people should do. Sometimes you can't win.
That's only because they don't know that you are Empty like an empty bucket (nothing inside you... ) Nobody should fall for an empty person it will hurt, and create only a toxic and self destroying relationship... But, that will bumerang you one day too.. The karma is real.. Stop doing it to people..
Not me now realizing that I might have been manipulated and possibly not on purpose. He talked to me like a lotttt He stopped talking to me and ignored me He starts talking to me and flirting with me He stops talking to me Starts talking to me even more than before and being more flirty This kinda made me feel like I needed him more..
Step 4. Once you've gotten them to the abandoned building, make sure you already have covered the floor, so as to make it easy to dispose their body later and to not leave blood marks behind.
Literally just be yourself. Don’t try to change for someone. If they don’t like you for who you are that sucks for them. Don’t try to make yourself uncomfortable just to get someone. It’s not worth it. Plus if you make them uncomfortable, they might not want to talk to you ever again. Just be who you are nothing more. If they want you to change, they aren’t worth it.
I finally understand why someone thinks I did this to him...he thinks I wasn't in his words "authentic". He hardly ever communicated with me and would not respond to texts which is how we communicated. So I gave him space and was waiting on him, but he got upset and I didn't understand why and he pulled away. I felt he wanted me to chase him and although I showed interest and did everything possible nothing worked. But it feels like he's trying to make me believe it's my fault he went silent and ignores me when I did absolutely nothing to him.
You just described the manipulation I was going through lmaooo I feel as though my ex partner watched this before fucking me up, but the most messed up thing is I think it was all just a game to feel power since they got hurt multiple times by their partners who also left them abruptly and they just wanted to feel the same power for once
That's dependency - not obsession. You don't need to have any contact to have someone obsessed with you - that's an emotion that comes about because something is wrong with THEM.
I agree, this is my correction which makes many women like me attracted to the guy: 1- be handsome blonde with blue perfect eyes 3- yes! Lovingly, unconditionally, respectfully, and effortlessly *******provide her with the most luxurious and lavish lifestyle and enjoy seeing her happiness, comfort and peace and in the main cities and classiest areas she likes**** 4- be perfectly healthful, safe, loyal, and respectful and never have her abused or hurt 5- be from the classiest and Godliest blonde lineage with titles 🤴💍🍀✨ 6- be younger than 30 and propose 7-believe in God and be the classiest guy
If everyone keeps doing this there will never be love in this world distance makes people forget about you eventually and let someone else hug you and touch you and kiss you especially someone that is more affectionate and is giving you the attention while you're so busy being distant
Sounds logical!!! Think about that LV bag that you desired for so long 😩. Finally, you purchase it, now you have what you obsessed about for so long, now, what's next? A Chanel!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
So being in a relationship is the first red flag for desire, you always want what you cannot have The second one is living together because their is no distance anymore and it gets boring over time The third one is marryage and having kids that’s completely committing to each other, that’s the ultimate attraction killer Zero to no sex most of the time, no personal space and time for yourself anymore, often stressful and frustrating So don’t get in a relationship
This is what people who haven't seen ANY healthy relationships or healthy marriages with kids. You need to get to know more people cuz it seems in your circle you only have people involved in unhealthy relationships
I mean I have been told a lot that space is healthy, not manipulative. For both partners. And if you get too comfortable in a relationship you can take each other for granted. That doesn't mean neglect the person you care about. Having boundaries and respecting them satisfies this quite a bit. The last one is where it gets questionable ig but if I'm honest I would leave a partner that got certain affection somewhere else
It’s great that women are teaching other women shit like this. Happy to turn dating not into something that’s authentic, but reduce it to a game of emotional and psychological warfare. Thanks lady.
A lot of time put & distance reminds me how self reliant I am "as a man" while enjoying own peace of mind. Many men don't have to pretend to be strong & independent, they get so much they are bored of it & appreciate effection from time to time.
Something that triumphs all of this kind-of-toxic tricks, is that the both of you share the same spiritual and personal growth goals. That you both appreciate peace and straightforwardness, avoiding dramas. This is the only way a relationship can last in a genuine way, beyond getting old, being sick, and going through hardships.
This is so sad, I can never imagine someone doing this to me or me doing this to somebody :,( why not just be yourself and if that person is the right one, they'll love u no matter what?t
Learn these toxic tricks to identify people who use them and push them out of your life.people who use mind tricks will never stop unless they have you obsessed.and thats not Love.
You can be everything he needs....he still won't just want you lol. And you can be everything he wants...but not able to give him everything he needs...and eventually he will get fed up.
The other side. YOU NEED THEM SO MUCH THAT THEY NEEDING YOU IS SO IMPORTANT THAT YOU ARE READY TO MANIPULATE THEM. DO YOU KNOW WHAT IT MEANS ON YOUR PART. IT MEANS THAT YOU HAVE LOST YOUR FREE WILL TO CREATE YOUR OWN HAPPINESS AND CONTENTMENT. IF YOU ARE MANIPULATING SOMEONE, ITS YOU WHO'S BEING MANIPULATED BY THE DARKEST CORNERS OF YOUR PSYCHE THAT YOU ARE UNAWARE OF.
His mind and heart were flooded with extraordinary light; all torment, all doubt, all anxieties were relieved at once, resolved in a kind of lofty calm, full of serene, harmonious joy and hope, full of understanding and the knowledge of the ultimate cause of things.
same it is really hurting me i wish i could have a courage to stop talking to him i know that he manipulating me but i just CAN'T LEAVE , i LOVE him so much but he treat me like trash
This is one of the ways my cousin manipulated me he did it so well I almost actually fell in love with him but luckily I came to my senses beforehand lol Edit: I'm adopted so stop freaking out!!
Obsession is different with falling in love…People, please don’t take this advice! It’s manipulative and the outcome can be disappointing. They’ll have to get to know you at some point, you can’t just be the mysterious cool baddie forever. And once they see how manipulative and toxic you really are (or how you don’t fit their ideals/romanticized version of you), all that obsession will fade. Obsession is temporary, it leaves just as easy as it came. True love for someone, however, is unconditional and never-ending. ❤❤
You shouldn't have to play games with someone, to receive the love and attention you need from them. The right person will want to spend quality time with you and will appreciate you for it. They will also appreciate the fact that you truly love them and make efforts.
This is narcissistic, don't follow this advice. Instead have empathy, if someone doesn't want you, walk away because surely there will be a someone who will love you for who you are!
Thank you for this, I know remember why I really hate it when people are obsessed with me and need me a bit too much. Just be yourself and live your life, let me live my own life, yall need to be warned that someone being obsessed with you could also very well be a curse, in the short term it gives you gratification, in the long term, it's way too much.
1) How can you manage distance and closeness at the same time in a relationship or when trying to get the relationship off the ground? 2) how can you manage that the other person is not getting something from someone else and that you are the only source?
Girl, there will always be options and other sources of intimacy for everyone that’s not really a good one. I’m tired of this freaking game that people think that they can disappear from your life so that they can get more interest to you but the heck!
