3 Things To Expect When Dating A Widower! 

The ones we lose are not exes. They are our late spouses. I am a widower who is now dating a widow. We both understand we will always love our late spouses. We have talked about our people at length. There are a lot of memories & history, especially when we were with someone over 24 years

I lost my wife (soulmate, lover and best friend) to cancer in July 2019…..we were both in our 60s…..there was many times that I didn’t know if I could go on… my thought was to find another widow because she would have similar life experiences….I signed up on a dating site and after some time found a widow…..we have such similar histories it was almost eerie….. we’ve had our ups and downs but are going strong approaching two years… Love can happen again!!

I married a Widower. I know & accept that he will always love his late Wife. He is able to love me, as well. He deserved a chance to have love in his life again. I was divorced & wanted to remarry, also. We met on Valentine's Day & fell deeply in love. We have been married for 3 years now & remain very much in love & very happy to have found love again late in life! He is the best man I have ever met! He treats me well & makes no comparisons. If he never said he loves me again, I would know that he does because of his actions towards me. He is a very mature & wise man to be able to move on the way he has! I am grateful for it! But for him, I would have remained single for life. I couldn't find any other man who compares to him.

Lost my wife of 24 years 22 months ago. You need to realize that a widower will always grieve on some level at what they’ve lost. A widower can hold multiple feelings at the same time, love and loss, happiness and sadness. He will always love his late spouse but that does not mean that he cannot love you as well.

My greatest piece of advice if you are dating a widower is to allow them the freedom to openly talk about their late wife and share the relationship with you. It will help you understand their relationship type. It will also draw him to you if he feels like you are not trying to get rid of her. She will always be there. His affection for you is different. Make your own place in his heart. Don’t rush him to move too fast through the grieving process but walk through the process with him.

Great video! Just lost my wife of 32 years about a month ago. We fought with an illness for a very long time. Still working through grieving issues and spiritual issues. There is a lot we are not aware of in this life that can play a part in the experience of loosing someone dear to our hearts. I'm finding myself having to face different feelings that I was thinking I was prepared for as I dealt with the illness. After my wife crossed over I learned the hard way one is never ready for the experience and there is a very strong connection (love) that transcends the absence of your loved one's physical body. I think we can all rebuild our lives after such a traumatic experience with time, faith and patience. Good relationships are never easy to find or replace, it just takes time. Whatever happens love is never forgotten or lost. My best to all of you who have lost a loved one and still trying to resolve the grieving issues.

I lost my wife on Jan 30, 2019 after birthing our son in December 2018. I honestly, do not see how I will ever be right. I told her I was going to work gave her a kiss because we were going on a lunch date in the city. I got a call 20 mins before I left work for our date. I rushed home and I knew and felt she was gone. I am a single dad with emotions going everywhere every day and actively look for help. I am declining, and our son is literally the only thing that is keeping me fighting. I'm not asking for help because she is gone and nobody can fix that. But, it's very difficult.

My wife of 38 years suffered horribly with cancer 2 years, and then finally succumb to it... the only woman I had ever known. we had an exceptional, & passionate marriage. I don't have any tears remembering the good times, but it is hard to hear or see any video of her taken during the last two years. I will weep for an hour or two whenever I do. I was totally devastated and could not fuction at all when she passed. I could not drive I could not work I did not want to get out of bed I begin to eat even when I wasn't hungry and even full... I gained and hit 300 pounds. but when I fell in love again... I got my life back. I had people tell me I should stay single till you quit grieving... well I think I would have eaten myself to death! But of all the widowers I know who have remarried none of them have ever said, I wish I had grieved alone longer... To love and to be loved it still the best thing in the world! I say If you find love again, don't wait any more.

Apollonia, you are spot on about how most widowers feel after losing their lifelong sweetheart, my wife passed away 5 months ago, but I had been her sole carer for 10 years, and my wife told me to find a new partner when she's gone.

I lost my wife to cancer this past September, it was a tough time watching her go through all she went through. It's taking some getting used to starting over and getting to know who I am without anyone in my life. All I can do is take life one sec, one minute or one day at a time.

Widowers can be emotionally unstable for quite a while afterwards. Taking it slow may help prevent a train wreck, but the woman will have to pull double duty on red flag identification for them BOTH because the widower may not see them due to their grief. The allure of dating and the emotions of it may be a stronger pull than the need to deal with the unpleasantness of loss. There's great motivation for putting off healing and jumping right into another relationship. If you do catch a widower on the right side of the healing process, they are 100x better than dating a divorcee. Widowers generally value long term commitment, know how to keep a woman, don't believe the grass is greener on the other side, and will be more willing to grow old with you despite having differences where a divorcee has been trained to think they can just find someone else and will be more willing to quit than stick it out when things get hard. GL.

Six weeks ago, my wife of 27 years died in my arms. On her deathbed she kept telling me that I would not make it alone and to please not live my life alone. She knew that she was dying and her last thoughts were to worry about me. That kind of love can't be replaced. I have a bit of an issue with the term "old wife" used in the video. Until or unless I re-marry, she's my wife and if I re-marry, she will not be my "old wife", she will be my first wife.

You should really do a video on the effect kids have from the lost of a parent and the addition of having a widowed parent start dating.

Dated a widower who was 6 months out. He pursued me very heavily and showered me with flowers gifts romantic gesture. Fell madly deeply but his adult child was grieving and didn’t want dad to be with anyone else but mom. Her emotional well being is important. He stated he had a difficult and unhappy marriage but stuck it out especially since she got sick but had no good things to say about his ex. He has broken it off twice with me because of his child grief- which I want her to be ok. But it is difficult- because we really connect. I lost a child several years back so I understand grief. But it’s tough.

I am a widower. In my heart and soul I am still married to the the love of my life and soulmate. After 2 years, I am still feel the same. It is going to be a long lonely road back to her, but I hope to see her again. And yes, I hope we are still married. I made several little memorial videos and posted them on my channel. Erika is a beautiful soul. I hope everyone finds peace and happiness. God bless and take care.

This video is amazing and accurately depicts what widowers do as a result of emotional turmoil. I lost my wife of 7 years 11 months ago to liver cancer. I have tears in my eyes pretty much every day. Our son is 6years old and he reminds me of her every single day. One significant challenge that I have always experienced is inability to avoid remembering the things she said or did, and I think that it may have turned off a potential love partner. I miss my late wife alot

Apollonia, you have provided a very insightful and compassionate video which I can relate to very strongly. My beloved wife of 37 years died in a tragic car accident 7 months ago. In the suffocating grief that followed I very quickly found myself on Match looking to find someone to "begin" to find hope with. I now realize I'm in NO condition to even begin to think about someone else. So, I'm now trying to figure out how I'm going to make sense of my life without the love of my life. My two daughters are also struggling and my actions have not helped at all. I need to ask God and them for forgiveness and get my head straight. At this point I wonder if I'll ever even find love again, or even want to. I'll look for more videos on your site, and again, thank you!

You have very certainly got right to the point THANKS you covered EVERYTHING & YOU HAVE A CERTAIN TYPE OF GIFT

My husband died suddenly the morning after my birthday. That was our last celebration. The main thing I learned is to look within & look up to find answers to everything & allow a new you to emerge and most definitely talk about ur loved one.. good bad indifferent to those who understand w compassion. U do not have to do it alone but there are times when u have to rely on urself more than b4 Hope thus was helpful.. We all need support & love ❤️

A deceased spouse is not an "ex"

I lost her to a personality destroying brain tumor (resolved eventually by radiation therapy) and then to lung cancer. I got to say goodbye for two hours before she passed. That was priceless. Bearably beautiful.She gave me the strength to heal and live. There is no schedule, no agenda that can work for everyone. What communities need to do-especially the online dating providers-is to stop calling death "drama". This has been in dating ads and advice far too long. The other word for drama is life.

I am dating a widower. Thanks for the advice. As I am single, as I never date a widower before.

I dated a widowed mother. It took time to trust and open up... this video sure helped out.

As a widower, just to let you know widows/ widowers especially do not prefer for you to refer for you to their late spouse as an exe.

Lost my LW 5 months ago. Started dating 3 months after and found an amazing women 2 months ago. Everyone has a different timeline with grieving process.

I really needed to come across this video, thank you! As much as I love him and want him to of course always remember his late wife and speak to me about how he's feeling/memories, the deeper it's getting with us the harder I am finding it... now it relates with you saying trying to find someone just as great as sometimes I feel it's a comparison. Doubts are in my mind to not continue with how I am feeling lately going through all the emotions but I couldn't break him all over again...

True true true and true. I was just tearing through the whole video because I felt so understood.

I just met a lady who lost her husband 2 years ago. We have been talking for 3 weeks now I’m taking it slow to get to know her and be very understanding.

Hi! My name is Nicole and I just married a widower… I am 41 and he is 69. I love ❤️ him sooooooooo much. He is truly the best thing that has happened to me- EVER!!! What I have noticed about him is that he speaks of things he did with his deceased wife at least 2/3 times a week. But I just expect it because they were married for over 40 years. Sometimes in the back of my head I feel a little jealous… but I just have to remind myself that he was with her for the majority of his life and they shared a world 🌎 of memories. I know he loves me and I want him to feel comfortable to talk to me about anything and everything… included his late wife. Thanks 🙏 for making the video 😉 😘

I’m dating a widower. We’ve been dating for three years. I’m happy. I love her. Her husband wasn’t perfect but he is now a martyr in her eyes. The reality is I can’t help but feel like if we progress I will always be the fill-in guy for her to spend time with until she connects again with him. I don’t expect or want to replace him but I can’t help but feel like I’m the third wheel in my own relationship. I stumbled onto this video in hopes of coming to terms with what my place is or should be.

Since I posted my comment things have gotten better and we plan on getting better. Time passing helped!!! Was really rough in the beginning!!!

I lost my wife of 27 yrs 5 months ago suddenly and she passed away in my arms. Watching this was so insightful. I gave me validation on my feelings. I still see myself a married. I've spoken to other women when they have initiated the conversation, and felt the guilt.

Great Info,I Think I Said To You Before I Was Married 39 Years Before My Wife Passed In 2011. You Are Correct We Know What We Want.👏🏾😃And What We Don’t Want In A Relationship Lol😃Love Your Style, You Are Awesome At What You Do.👏🏾😃

I am a widow since 2/15/21. Dating is tuff. I am lonely and trying not to be needy but it's hard even though I stay busy. I went on a date with an old friend last Sunday night. Someone I knew before my husband. He was sweet on the date but no call lately. My husband called everyday when we were dating. The effort was mutual. I like a guy who is a divorcee on my job. We seemed to have connected but now he completely gives me the cold shoulder. I don't know what I did wrong. I miss my husband. I miss my Micks. I don't even care who reads this. I had to get that out.

Thank you so much Apollonia I have been watching your channel but just found this video thank you so much I felt guilty just for talking to another woman once again thank you so much you do care about us

As someone dating a widower, its not easy at all. And widowers should NEVER start dating until they are truly ready to date. They should not put others through unnecessary trauma. It's selfish.

That’s my problem, my spouse turned out to be so awesome, so much more than I even anticipated. I so fear getting into a relationship that is anything less. I get the emotional cheating deal. I have tons of female friends, so many are very good but it’s been 6 years, and I have so much fear that they would be “less” and I know that’s stupid, but emotions and fears are what they are. It’s easy to be “just friends,” but so hard to just pursue someone. Doesn’t help that I have one of those personalities where people think I’m very open, but reality is I’m extremely self-protective under that veneer.

It is mentally draining. The emotional roller coaster. I've been dating a widow for 4 years. I am stepping back because it's time. I love him, but I have to heal. I don't feel the emotional connection. We have fun, but the emotional connection is missing.

Apollonia you give out the best content

Something to keep in mind when dating one of us…in order for widows and widowers to make that type of commitment again, we have to be willing to endure what we have gone through again. That’s a big ask for most of us. it will take time for us to be able to get to that point.

Lost my late husband in 2016, the journey has not been easy but God has helped me to heal properly to the level that I know that I want to remarry possibly to a widower who will understand. It only takes someone who has been through it to empathize and understand

Great video once again apollonia.

Last September I started dating a widower who lost his wife in Jan 2023. We had dated back in 1982. This video was really helpful in understanding what he is going through. He did pull back after few months and said he's not ready for steady or long-term relationship yet. But he has taken up ballroom dancing and enjoys learning with me as I have been dancing for 12 years. Highly recommend dancing for a new social interest! .... still hopeful for ❤

Currently dating a wonderful widower and his communication is just as you stated and yes the third one is a real thing the best thing I found is to be present and listen to your partner

Honey, my husband is not my "ex" and I'll never call or consider him that!!! Please keep that in mind when doing these videos! That is VERY triggering for someone who has lost their spouse to death and was very connected with them!

I enjoyed your video very much. I am a single man in my late 50’s and I have never married. My experience with a widow has left me bitter and resentful. Without giving you too much information i felt like the kid on the end of the bench who gets in the game late in the 4th quarter when the outcome is no longer in doubt. The experience left me heart broken it was clear that in here life I was to be someone to fill in for the time that remained in life. I was nothing special her plan was a justice of the piece wedding as the church wedding was a been their done that experience for her “real husband”. Needless to say it didn’t work out and I never plan to put my self in that situation again.

I am dating a widower who was married for 50 years. He really loved his wife. All I see in him is sadness. I listen to all of his stories about his beautiful wife. Sometimes I even ask him questions about her. But I can see and feel that there is no room for me now. All I can be to him at this time is his friend . Not his Girl Friend, Not his Lover , Not anything like that .Just a Friend. I can't even look for a future with him . He needs lots of time. I never dated a widower before . But I guess at my age 65 this is what is single now..Your video is so true. It takes lots of time before you can even be a part of anything. And yes he is looking for you to be just like her, even if it is just a little bit.

When you loose your best friend, that’s like a pain like no other. When that happens, it feels as if you have no hope in nothing. You can stay in seclusion for years. It feels as if you passed away with the person you love. It takes a special someone to believe that there is hope after loss. Don’t give up. There is hope. 💜💜

widowers have a different outlook then a divorce person. I have been dating a widower for almost a year and it has to be the hardest thing i've ever done. Your always going to hear about the perfect wife and how much they love them. I've had to see him breakdown when he sees pics of her etc. you almost feel you shouldn't be with them. The other part that is really hard is his kids.....they think they can control his every move and he feels he needs to listen to them.

Imy boyfriend passed away when I was 6 months pregnant with our daughter it was the hardest thing ever, The very first week the sister starts telling me in two years time I will find someone else and forget about what happen. Something I feel no one understands the pain and heart break that I am going through my daughter is the only person that gives me joy .

If the action, item, word or thought about the past relationship does not strengthen the relationship there is today, there is no room for that action, item, word or thought.

Hi, Apollonia A type of relationship you did not mention was a widower from a difficult or strained relationship. Got any advice for someone like this?

This is a great video on dating and I gave you a thumb up but RU-vid keeping turning it off.

I dated a widower who would refer to her passed partner as her husband, because to her, he was/is. Took me a long time to get used to that. It ended because for 5 years since his passing, her friends and family told her that she deserved to find a guy that "made her happy everyday"... very high expectations that I couldn't satisfy.

Interesting topic, thank you for addressing an overlooked dating factor...

I began dating a widower whose husband killed himself in front of her 2 years ago. He was my friend but I barley knew her. Recently I reached out to see how she was doing & we just began talking & it evolved over months. We started slow & I asked her repeatedly to make sure she was ready to date. She assured me she was & that meeting me.made her realize everything happens for a reason & we were meant to be together. We live in different cities so I flew her up then I would fly down too. Everything was perfect then she suddenly started distancing herself. Said she felt numb & had hit a wall. I gave her space & we hadn't talked for a week before the last time I flew down, but she made reasons why she couldn't spend time w/ me. I got upset & she immediately ended things. Said I didn't understand she was grieving her husband?! I fell for her hard & don't know what to do. I apologized & told her I didn't want to lose her but she never responded. Do I just leave her alone? Should I attempt to call her? Help!

I lost my wife 6 months ago, after being together for 15 years. Thank you.

I lost my wife just one month ago. We were married for 42 beautiful years. I will never replace her, there are no women as great as she was, still is in my heart. I am 83, so getting married again at my age is just silly.

I am a 25+ year veteran, 20+ in the Special Operations side of the house, and I lost my wife *****, 8 years ago. We first met when I was 6, and she was 5, and she had dropped her ice cream, mint chocolate chip, and I gave her mine, which at 7 ice cream is damn near love. We were married at 19 and 18, and she was my first girlfriend, kiss, and other firsts, and it took me until 2 years ago to actually feel comfortable going out on a date. The girl I met actually initiated with me at first, as she had seen me a year before we met physically stand-up for a Trans performer getting beaten up, and I jumped in. She said what struck her was after the short fight from me, 6 frat guys aren't really on my level, the guy(trans) thanked me, and I told him what you are disgusts me, but I hate bullies. She wondered why someone would stand up for someone/thing that abhorred, and I said it is the right thing to do. I am 43, and she is 26, and I was really nervous about the age gap, our DRASTIC political differences, and the fact she LOVES cats. I took it glacially slow, and there have been some rocky times, but I truly love her, and she me. She was shocked to find out that I am.from a monied family, another thing she took a while to wrap her head around, that one would put themselves in a position where they could be shot and killed, and getting shot is NO picnic and I have dined at that picnic 14 times on three separate occasions, and I told her the same thing as the trans fight, it is the right thing. Our first "time" together, I broke down in tears, and she didn't say a word, just held me, which was a more intimate moment for me than even sex. I retire in 2 years, and we are planning on a move to Texas, as I own a ranch there, and while I was more scared about the first date than I am a firefight, for any men out there know this, if your wife loved you like you did her, she wouldn't want you to grieve her for the rest of YOUR life, and while ****" will always be a deep part of who I am ******** has now filled a different part of me. She will never replace my first wife, but I did find love again. I took off my wedding band, and *****'s ring which I wore around my neck, and gave them to her on our 1.5 year anniversary of our first date, to do with what she wanted. She actually had the metal melted down, and the stones reset into a pinky ring for me, which she says looks retro, but also it made me love her a little more. She accepts my first will always be there, but I also gave her a ring of her own 3 moths after......so, we shall see what we shall see.

Absolutely true… I had a husband 25 years married toghether 30 widowed young and.. yiu do know what you want. Not in a rush is true. If it happens it will. Be careful you don’t wanna hurt anyone.

When you loose someone you love something inside you dies too,i feel very lonely at times

the best date site apolonia you ar amezing

This is not directly about dating a widower, but a friend lost his wife to cancer nearly 2 years ago. He was a great husband and cared for her at home till the end. Around 4 months ago he joined a a dating app and has recently started a relationship with a lady. He said he deserves it because he's had "2 miserable years of being alone". I completely get that, but I've just spent the past 2 years being a shoulder to cry on and a sympathetic ear when he talks of his late wife, but now it's all teenage-like glee at dates, calls and texts. I guess if he's made the switch, I should just do the same, but if truth be told, I feel a bit hypocritical suddenly going from solemnly nodding and empathizing to high fiving. I feel like the poor late wife has been unceremoniously shelved all of a sudden. I'm sure that's not the case in his heart, of course, but I guess I'm just finding it hard coming up with reactions that don't make me feel a little insincere.

Lost my wife .three months ago.been with her for 45 years. She was 60 and I'm 57.childhood sweet hearts

I’d recommend to not call them “ex-wife”. That’s super hurtful. It’s late wife.

I have been a widow for 9years now, At 35years now I feel I need to get married again.I need a father figure for my two kids. May the will of God be done

I began dating a man who lost his girlfriend of 3 years to cancer she passed 1 year ago.. He began our relationship while she was on hospice care and did not tell me about her until she passed away. It has been a year of me trying to be supportive but it hurts me that he posts photos of memories of her on Facebook yet had never posted anything of me and he keeps our relationship a secret. Of course when I get upset he gets mad at me for not supporting him. This has been painful for me because I feel like I live in her shadow. And I feel like I'm just a person to fill a void.

I’m going on my first real date that I’m actually excited about. I lost my husband of 38 years 3 1/2 years ago. I’m not sure what and what not to talk about. I’ve been on many meet and greets and I was never Intrigued. My first conversation was two hours on the phone and he asked me out within 30 minutes. He’s driving an hour and a half to take me out to dinner on Saturday night. Hence nervous nervous nervous any advice is greatly appreciate it. I am 64 years old

I need some advice. I met a widower who lost his wife about 2 years ago. He keeps going through these cycles of withdrawal, to regret and guilt, to break through and wants to start healing, to flirty and attentive then back to withdrawal. When he goes silent it is usually for days ( mostly when he’s at home by himself or around his daughter). It’s so painful to watch. I tell him its ok and normal. I give as much support as he will allow. I try to talk to him at times it seems like I’m putting pressure on him and I want to stop but he tells me he likes my stubbornness in not giving up. At his hard times he says he’s a terrible person and just can’t see someone else in his life then within the next few days he says I was right and he needs me. So I’m confused. I don’t know what to do. I want to take away the pain. I want to help him find some sort of peace. To be able to breathe and see life again. I want the best for him, his daughter and as silly as this is to say, even his wife. But every time he wants to start healing and says he needs me, something happens and he pushes me away and goes silent then the cycle starts again. I see his pain, I feel his pain and I can’t do anything. I feel so helpless. I don’t know which way to turn. I don’t want to give up but I can’t take this yoyo of emotions. If I feel this bad his pain has to be 10xs as hard. Should I walk away? Should I stay and be that stubborn support that’s invisible? But if I stay he completely disappears and I’m afraid if I do stay it’s worse on him. Is this normal? If it is what should I do to help him? I know there is no time frame for someone to heal and start to move on. How can I help him? What can I do? Is there anything I can do? I was about to turn my life upside down to be there for him.. because its what he wanted, then 2 days prior to my moving the cycle started again so I stopped. I knew it was a trigger and I couldn’t do anything to hurt him... But it breaks my heart to know he is hurting. What can I do? Has anyone been thru this too? I care so much for him but I don’t know if it’s enough to help..

I’m f you ever want to insult/infuriate a widow or widower, say the following; “I know exactly what you’re going through, because it was learning how to cook for 1, after my divorce.” They are completely unable to see the difference. Now, I f I go out to dinner with a lady friend, I go out with widows, because we can laugh/brag about our late spouses, and not worry about alienating the other. It’s nice when there are 2 adults in the room.

Thanks Apolonia.

This is a wise and compassionate commentary. My father was 46 years old with a 13-year-old son when his wife passed away. My mother was a 37-year-old spinster. A few months after his wife’s death, my uncle, his brother, knocked on the door of my grandmother’s house where my mother lived, and asked my grandmother on behalf of his brother for my mother’s hand. My grandmother said, “She’s 37, she can decide on her own.” And she did. They were married on April 10, 1950 and spent 23 happy years together before my father passed away.

I lost my wife of 7 years to cancer after I lost her my ex wife came to my rescue and now that we have both changed we are making a new start out of it but I took care of my wife during the end and she died in my arms

I lost my husband 2018 ..and it has been difficult for me itry another relationship but when in relationship ifeel like he is not the same as my husband then I loose hope ..have been alone and it's killing me am praying to find awidower that we can start life with Hu will undustand my situation my prayer

You are not alone God is with you and your family and friends are there. Be strong because when there is another sunrise is another hope.

I lost my wife, of 30 some years, 3 1/2 years ago and I don't think I could even think of dating again. Everyone is different when it comes to grieving and my depression has caused me to become an extravert again. During these hard times, staying home hasn't been a problem. I've tried to start dating again but was basically shot down because of my age and I don't plan to date someone my age. So I will die alone.

I am single, and I am first time dating a widower.

I lost my wife 18 years ago, age 31. She was the only woman I have ever truly loved and I made two suicide attempts because I just wanted to be with her again. If there was someone else who could make me feel the way she did, I would marry them tomorrow. But I am still waiting to meet that person. I have tried dating a few times since but I feel it is unfair on them because my darling wife set such an impossibly high standard.

Please make one on what to expect when dating a newly divorced woman

I was with my wife for 20 years and the hardest Part I'm finding is put myself out there And you're right I know exactly what I want not sure if that ever does exist but I do want to go out try new things do new things but I don't want to do the whole bar scene and stuff like that. I have ruined a few dates afterwards feeling guilty

I lost my wife of 34 years a little over two years ago and it’s just like it was yesterday that we were talking about which one of us would leave this earth first I miss her every day and I am out of it when it comes to relationships with other women to the point that my 14-year-old granddaughter said hey pops that lady was flirting with you blatantly and I didn’t even notice.I think it’s gonna take me a few more years before I even start looking or if it happens it happens good luck to the rest you guys out there.

I lost my husband of 39 years 3 years ago. I do feel guilty even thinking about dating. How do you start again?

Apollonia Thank you. I lost my wife of 35 years 18 months ago. Your understanding and emphasis on your point number 3 is greatly appreciated.

I am dating a widower with four kids. He is very serious on we getting married next yr but I'm afraid he might later prefer his children to me. Please I'm really confuse me if to marry him or not so please I need your advice. Thank you

MY DAD PASSED AWAY LAST YEAR AND IT HAS BEEN OVER A YEAR NOW, I WANT A NEW LIFE FOR MY MOM , SHE NEVER OPENED THIS TOPIC OF GETTING MARRIED NEITHER DID I CZ I THOUGHT I SHOULD GIVE HER SOME TIME TO MOVE ON,I DON'T NO IF SHE'S STILL RECOVERING OR WHAT, SHE'S BELOW 40 YO YET, I THINK I SHOULD OPEN THIS TOPIC WITH HER NOW, I DON'T WANT HER TO BE ALONE ALL HER LIFE , ITS GONNA BE A TOUGH JOB NOW, TO GET HER TO AGREE ON GETTING REMARRIED. I DON'T KNOW ANYTHING.

I lost my wife this Month due to covid she is 6 months pregnant for our first baby we've been together for 7 years we just got married this June, I don't know what to do, I'm lost everyday I can't think of anything I just wanted to be with them 😭

I am dating a widower, and I think it's time that I let him go. It's just not a good idea to date a widower. You will always feel that his heart is not fully yours. I love him, but I love myself that's why I'm ending my relationship with him. I just can't hurt myself anymore.

Thank you for sharing this. Loss of love is painful. Meet the man of your dreams and he asks to hold your hand. Dies of stage 5 cancer a few months later. Everyone i e ever loved has gone away. I am now on the reciprocating end of a 5 yr loss. I am terrified t love. I love our new adventure, but still afraid to love. I am also knowing his wife passed in 2017. I am scared and so is he. Any advice?

Im slowly dating an amazing woman who lost her husband of 13 years about two years ago. She has two younger kids, 14 and 11. But I’ve been divorced for almost one year. It seems the number one advice is to take things slow and let set into the decisions that’s comfortable to her. What else?

My two past loves, each hold a special place in my heart and always will. My next love must understand that because she is here, now, that she has 99.8 percent of my heart and attention.

I wish I can meet someone who is patient enough to listen, full of understanding and will take me as I am.

I never grieved properly till I met a woman I had a crush on. Previous to her I was just kind of plodding along and taking care of business. She made me realize how much I missed my wife. I really need a woman in my life, I can’t stand a celibate life style and I just need a female presence. Once I met this woman my hormones kicked in and the emotions and tears came flooding out. As it was the woman didn’t feel the same about me but it was pretty awesome. I really got the grieving started. She’s a great person, and a stunning woman. Since then I have met another woman and I seem to be doing just fine. Would my departed wife be happy for me? Probably not lol. Are my kids pissed off? Of course they are. I’ll just have to deal with it one day at a time. I’ll just take it slow and be honest and kind with this new lady. She’s really something else! It’s odd being single with no baggage at my age? I’m so thankful that I married my wife and the time we had together. I wish I could have loved her more but I tried my best. Just remember the living will live, and the dead will remain dead. It may sound cruel and unfair but that’s life. A man needs his mate

Ms Aplononia, I need you help. My gf said she doesn't know if she wants a relationship anymore. How do I deal with this? What are the things I have to avoid? Please help...I'm desparate.

My boyfriend lost his husband of a couple years. They got into a car crash and he watched his husband bleed to death in the car next to him. I feel like he reminisces a lot about the times that he and his husband had, and it makes me feel like I should idk be just as good as his dead husband. Where does it cross the line between wanting to find love like last time and getting someone to replace the dead spouse?

To be honest I never was ever hit on by a widower only someone who was married and wanted my validation/attention because their marriage was kind of shitty

What about a man that was married for 40 years, lost his wife 1 year and 4 months ago, and he starts dating ( why?) someone and keeps using his wedding ring and another one with her ashes? Would be on his mind "let's the 3 of us" be happy? or Not ?!

I am a widow lost my husband 16 years ago i was in a couple realationships but i never can forget my husband i even felk in love but you dont stop the heart from feeling whatever it feels for the loss you experienced being a widow is completly different then being divorced we didnt want this we didnt choose this nobody asked us they just left us in the dark but not on purpose divorce is a choice death isnt!!

I had 2 date with a widower. His wife had passed 4 months prior. Date 1 he wanted to hug and kiss. I wanted to just talk and get to know him. Date 2 - lunch by his house,he had numerous pictures of his wife on an endless loop on a large digital screen. He told me he felt extremely lonely. He then said, “come here and sit like this because this is how my wife and I sat…” And he began talking about sex. I did not feel like he was seeing me or had any interest in who I was. Only that he wanted ANYBODY available to fill this void. I asked if we could “just establish a platonic friendship, first and get to know each other more organically?” He told me 10 days later he was in a relationship with a women he met and had no time for becoming friends with me. IMO wait at least a year, and settle into your Néw individuality. Regarding starting any relationship, mostly get to know who an individual is without being in a rush.

I lost my husband of 27 yrs 16 months ago. I feel guilty if I start to date. My husband was my everything so I’m embarrassed to even mention it to my kids. I don’t want my kids to think bad of me. What should I do

Been dating a widower for three months and we talked about his late wife but when he drinks he sends me pictures of him and his deceased wife I realized he is not ready for this relationship and he needs help when he’s not drinking everything is great I decided to leave the relationship so he can grieve it hasn’t been a year she died and he intentionally hurts me when he drinks I had a lot of patience and encouraged him to talk about her but when he drinks he’s mean to me and sends me pictures of them I let him go until he can get help but he doesn’t feel he needs it… what should I do?