Communicating our standards with love, peace and respect. You have to do that because if they are not aligned with these standards, they will argue or you will notice their energy gets less. Then you just conclude that you are not a good match for them. You say, I wish you find your perfect match, your soulmate and you walk away in peace.... No hard feeling on both sides....
@@कृष्ण-फ7च My feeling is that the.manipulators tried to confuse me and they attacked me psychologically when I expressed my boundary and explained my feeling or opinion. They wanted me to comply with their expectation and in their tempo. I only had this conflict with similar types. I am not dominant and seeking for an argument. I only communicated but they made me feel like I was tough and difficult. I started to doubt myself but I knew deep down I was simply pushed into the corner. One wanted to sex text and get to know eachother but also do nice outdoor things and if we would fall in love we would fall in love. One hour before that he said he was not looking for love but he also asked me if i am romantic He seemed smart but also dominant. I felt attracted but also also insulted on day two of the interaction. I told him i text intimately spontaneously and not.on command. I defended myself by telling him I'm an easygoing person. He said 'well this is not what I call easy pfff..". I felt so Hurt and I got angry. I am so fed up with some men project on me. I told him: then why am I not having these discussions with other people / men? He replied: bc I have a strong personality (...). Then he said 'I dont wan't to fight'. Made me feel like the conflict seeker and he would be the one calm and controlled. He said ' I dont want to be rude and hang up on you. I said, you can hang up no problem. This was day two of contact. I told him: I don't like to be pressured and eventually I said let's do a time out in interacting. We never talked again. This was 5 days ago. I should know by now to trust my first thoughts. Manipulation and projection games. He wanted his menu now according to his terms. Just my guess. He was polite and charming but also very opinionated about me and comments on any word I said. Analysing me mentally way to soon. Sometimes I really don't know who and what I'm dealing with but if it hurts so quickly in first interactions I tend to walk away. Confusing but I think I have to stay close to me and a man who is kind and decent, who won't provoke me. Weird thing is that this man is still in my head but when I will ask him how he is doing it will probably lead to discussion again bc he wants it his way but will reverse as if I want it my way He said he was looking for friends bc he immigrated for work but when we spoke it was about sex and not friendship or love. He also said he would will want me to be wild free and passionate. ...... He also said: I feel that om the other side of my phone is a nice goodhearted person and her name is (mentioned my name) 🤔
This may be the the clearest formula for personal harmony that I have seen. The simplicity of the 3 components is “enough” to understand and apply, and yet individually the depth each component opens up so much self awareness, self evaluation, and opportunity for healing any old traumas. Thank you Matthew. When you said Communication, I rolled my eyes a little until you said “…how you communicate YOUR value, your needs, your standards and expectations?” Wow. Honest review: I don’t know. I’ve never been asked that; I’ve never thought about it. If I can’t give you an answer, then how can I expect to attract a partner based on those things I know I deserve and desire? It’s like there’s a disconnect between those things in me and this is the first time I am finally seeing the link. Bravo Matthew! Simple. Effective. Transformative. BRILLIANT.
The other person has his own problems so I don't care if he ignores me because not that he doesn't love me but he has his own personal problems which cause him not happy to contact me and so I can either move on or wait.and I don't blame him for ignoring me. I can decide to make my own way and don't have to hope from him anymore.yes I have to have my own life and be happy.Thank you Matthew.
I walked away from an amazing guy who wasn't treating me as well as he should. Previously I would not gave done that because my self worth wasn't high enough. I watched your video on "it's not how you feel about him it's how he makes you feel " the same day and was blown away. He made me feel less secure. But I liked him. Thank you Mathew.
This is so true and important. I have stayed with guys who I knew weren't good for me or treating me right because the positive moments outweighed the loneliness and emptiness :(
Thank you for making me see that I’m “happy enough” & that I no longer need to change anything aside from appreciating where I’m at in life! 💡 What a video! 🏅
These three things apply to your work situation some of us stay in jobs because we don't communicate what we want, we don't share our standards, and we lack confidence!!!!!
I get this totally that you must make sure that you are doing and working your own plan to make yourself happy in life so that somebody else would be happy to join you. So the mantra would go this is where I'm going who wants to come with me. Not that I want to follow somebody else.
I am so excited that my relationship has been restored by 👉 (Doctor GIDEON)👈 after many years of separation with my partner. contact him also to restore yours!!
I am so excited that my relationship has been restored by 👉 (Doctor GIDEON)👈 after many years of separation with my partner. contact him also to restore yours!!
Me, a guy who has been waiting for some prince to take away my problems for years: (Not this year tho. I'm living my best life ever, can't believe how different things are now)
Thanks for each and every piece of advice Matthew 🙏 Since 2019 I am following you in RU-vid and due to your genuine guidance I have finally managed to attract just by bringing up my values&standards and the way I present myself with self-esteem.....without appearing " hard-to-get " and all that childish behaviour. Regardless of the future outcome, currently I am true to myself and that's my Golden Crown 👑. God Bless you 🙏 for your patience and knowledge!!!
somehow stumbled onto your profile... I know you dont know me and we have never talked but i would like to be your friend how can I contact you if you don't mind?❤
Yes!!!!! Good Communication with yourself, others and your life !!! Confidence in yourself and in anything you do -LIFE. And yes, happiness- however that is defined by YOU! Thank youuu 🥰🙏🏼
I have what I consider a great life: a job I love, a great group of friends who I see frequently, a healthy lifestyle of the gym and running. I’m confident. I express my needs/standards all the time. Still single. Don’t know why…
I do have a nice life but when I meet a guy I think my people pleasing gets in the way and I become over accommodating! Thanks for sharing, working on staying centred in these 3 things
What if it was an “unattractive” guy with the same handwriting? He even mentions setting expectations. Even if you could get a guy like this, there are many men I’m sure who are attractive but you dismissed. Not being rude but saying something like that places other men in categories. If a man said that about an attractive woman but never mentioned your handwriting; men like this will see this and dismiss you.
@@FitWithRyan_ Ffs, she just complimented a guy's handwriting. Why are you acting like that has all these horrible broad implications, even while you throw catty negging around about it? You _do_ realize how straight-up hypocritically xbox-chat-levels-of-toxic that is, right? That is a _stranger_ from whom you've read a max of _twelve words._ Are you okay? Serious question. (Edit: And after seeing that you made several other replies to positive comments on this video, reading way too much into them and being really weirdly defensive and critical and tbh sounding jealous, I hereby double down on this question. /edit) Your comment also doesn't really make a clear point at all, and just conveys hurt emotions instead. That matters and it's valid, but it's not going to accomplish much. I care a hell of a lot about the insufficient social discourse on men's issues, and I tried to give your comment a thorough and generous and slow reading, but it literally makes no sense as it's currently written. It's totally possible that you've got a legit criticism of OP's rhetoric and truly aren't just lashing out about something you and only you brought to this thread -- but if that's the case, it'd really help if you clarified and contextualized that criticism.
@@ItsAsparageese Another person said "the clearest formula for personal harmony that I have ever seen." "Thank you, Matthew (like she knows him) "I rolled my eyes until you said..."
@@FitWithRyan_ Picking an actually somewhat cringey comment to deflect towards doesn't magically make this discussion not be about your concerningly fervent weirdly sensitive comments. Can you actually take a criticism and take a second to reflect? If that's not in your skillsets yet then that's a very good place to start down the road of you not being this upset about strangers talking harmlessly to each other.
This is super clear because I don't have my life together and didn't have standards and expectations communicated between us and I didn't have my goals or dreams in mind So I settled on someone because I had no close friends of family and sadly wish I new this because the breakup hurts after dating her 3 years. 😔
I am so excited that my relationship has been restored by 👉 (Doctor GIDEON)👈 after many years of separation with my partner. contact him also to restore yours!!
Commicated is the key for all...sense of humor also.if someone have something to share, perfect. But I don't go create like a mother, make they life. From Lisboa Portugal
Very true! I totally agree... Love your content! U seem to be a genuine person, indeed! You inspired me to also create content myself😊 but I still have to learn a lot about this buisness 😅...
When you are happy with you and “you” are enough… you can then invite someone that you chose to share your life or continue doing YOU! It’s that simple. The ball is in your court! You ant blame the man, blame yourself for allowing it 😘
i ended a 4 year relationship which would have had the potential of a lifetime over the fact that i don't have a live in this relationship and need to create a live before I am able to fully, happily and healthy commit. Now I am asking myself if that was stupid, because I miss her so frickin much.
This is something that I’ve been working on for YEARS and apparently I’m nowhere near close to it being “enough”, even when it seems like it’s going good someone will always think it’s not and meeting said person who will even be interested enough to initiate communication let alone stick around is a whole different challenge on its own.
I love when you said Stop worrying about whether or not you can trust another person, worry instead about whether or not you can take right action if someone betrays your trust.!! I've always thought that's right because I cannot control anyone else. Just curious - have you always been faithful?
I am CONFIDENT that you spelled confidence wrong 😂😂😂. Just yanking your chain Matthew 🙌. Keep up the great informative videos and I’m gonna keep improving myself from watching them. Thank so much!!!!
