5 Mistakes You're Making With INFPs (and what to do instead) 

My biggest pet peeve as an INFP is when people underestimate me. And for some reason, they still do it all the time. I've proved perfectly competent and have been working and living on my own since I was 18. Yet my parents will still act surprised when I can handle things as an adult, people around me constantly question me. It irritates me to no end.

The problem is that only INFPS will watch this, not my parents or my friends :(

You know what sucks? When you need a passion to follow to be able to function properly, but you can't find that passion. You can't make your beliefs strong enough. I think in that situation, people need to let the searching person search for their passion.

To me criticism becomes insulting when the person claims to understand me, and what is wrong with me, when they actually don't. If they actually understand and are not looking down on me, then I love receiving constructive criticism.

I like it when they underestimate me. I let them. I'll encourage it. Let them be surprised by their own lack of good judgement later.

I feel like as an INFP Im not taken seriously by many people

As silly as it seems, To be chasing crazy dreams, Is better than a cozy life without them. The chase itself is the real treasure.

Micromanagement is one of my biggest pet peeves. A coworker sat next to me at my desk while I was trying to solve a problem in data analysis. And I got extremely frustrated because I don't like someone breathing down my neck even though she just wanted to learn something new. I just like to be left alone to solve problems. And once I have a solution, I will share it with other people

When someone makes me feel uncomfortable, my reaction to them is razor sharp. So sharp, I often retreat and rethink what I've said, then I eventually feel sorry for them.

I think my daughter is an infp. When she was 5 she told me "I'm an artist " then I never thought much of it. I have never done anything to encourage her drawing and characters. I'm going to support her now. She is 11 but her creations seem to be very important to her.

i'm an infp raised by parents who committed all these mistakes, and continue to do so. it's a wonder i'm not dead tbh

As an INFP I would add 6) Don't get pissed off if we don't want to see you or talk to you as often as you think is appropriate, especially if you're extroverts. We probably love you and appreciate you, we just need a lot of silence and personal space to concentrate and get on with life 7) Don't take advantage of our empathy. When we know you've taken advantage of our empathy, we'll just probably disappear from your life, forever 8) Don't rely on us to turn up on time and meet deadlines unless it's for something we really really believe in

Im an INFP, and im a teen, one more thing that triggers me is that my friends think that Im really naive and cant take care of myself most likely because I usually keep on a light and happy (some may call it childish XD) facade at school. They would set out these examples of like “When you go to college, I can’t imagine how you will be without me, you’ll get bullied and how am i going to save you!” Like gurl, i can take care of myself, just because i dont bring out the fire when im with my friends doesnt mean i cant defend myself when i really need to! 😂 please excuse my rant

The way I found (thanks to this channel) to encourage my INFP partner to be her best - since I don't wanna make her feel pressured and manipulated in any way ever - is just doing things enthusiastically in a way that she wants to do it with me. For example, she used to love drawing and had stopped for quite a while - I started drawing and showing her my crude sketches, she suddenly picked up drawing again and hasn't stopped since.

I find people can really brush off INFP's, but that can be said for any personality like ours. There's something truly annoying about people who have to tell you how amazing they are, be aggressive and try to dominate. Those people are usually the same people who brush us off, think we're simple and act as if we aren't important. It's kinda funny at this stage in my life. Those people feel the need to make you know what they are, what they are capable of and be the leader are so annoying. Their personality type really has to spread themselves onto others. INFP's however couldn't be farther from these people and if there's any personalities I can't stand most, it's these types. At the same time, we are great at reading people and really getting into their head. So while they're trying to be the big man, we are sitting quietly and observing them. INFP's are highly skilled people with an innate ability to understand people. We really could spin a web around these people and let them know, hey, I'm just as strong as you, dominate and skilled as you. I just don't feel the need to display it all the time. Mess with an INFP though and you will see just how strong we can come at you. We have plenty of reserved energy, ready to pounce on anyone messing with our friends, morals and beliefs.

What frustrates me the most is my Mother is so outgoing and she tells her friends all my problems when I’m a very private person. I guess to a degree it’s okay but she tells people when I’m off work. People are like “but she’s fine” no I’m not. This world is so bass. I don’t belong here. Another thing about INFPs they show so much emotion through their face. You will know if they don’t agree with someone. I am also going to university for three years. I need space . I need space before this. Just want to reinforce that

Can confirm: probably the #1 way to make an INFP feel loved/happy is to somehow get them to overhear people say positive, validating things about them behind their back. (excluding obligatory praise from grandparents X'D)

I love that you aren't begging for likes and subscriptions at the end of the video. Classic INFP. So glad to meet people who share the same personality as I do. Fun fact: As an INFP, I can't grasp the idea behind people liking their own comments or posts, especially on Facebook. Lol

This video is intimidatingly spot on... from being publicly called out, to finding out that people i've known for years believed I was somehow naive or unintelligent. It frustrates me especially the fact that the people ive known the longest even fail to understand me, but this video is very reassuring that I am not the only INFP out there that is misread time and time again. Thank you for making this

Couldn't agree more...except that last piece of advise. INFPs can sense when someone patronizes them in regards to their passion/purpose. It's fake and and one of my biggest pet peeves. Either wholeheartedly support me or get lost...don't play games!

What do you think happens to an INFP when they've lost their fire? Looking back at all the unfinished tasks and naysayers that I have collected from the past creates a big monster within yourself. I remember the fire when I was a kid, then a teenager and finally young adult. I never knew where or why it was there. I used to think it was God inside me trying to come out. Maybe it was. After all the things that never came to be and all the things big or small that I couldn't make happen I feel as though I've lost the spark. Now i'm trying to revive it with exploring new places and people. It's like I'm a rock and my reality is the other rock and i'm hitting myself against it trying to bring the flames back. Trying my hardest to keep hope. Why am I posting this here...no idea. Chase your fire people; it's vital to your survival.

You are so right about everything. With the way things are with no privacy I find myself physically ill as an INFP. INFP' s really need there alone time and there privacy. People just don't understand us and were written off as weird and mysterious. I have really struggled as an INFP for years. My advice to young INFP' s is to find out who you really are and to stay away from alcohol. Be true to yourself and embrace being an INFP which is only 4% of the population.

I am an INFP & I relate to what u are saying so so much.......when I get that 'deer in the headlights' look, they think nothing is going on inside of me, (that's when they think I might be a little slow, & if I walk away or they walk away, having not said anything, they begin to treat me as if I'm a child or something, & then, I don't even want to talk to them again; I will avoid them)but they don't realize that so much information is racing thru my head, as I try to zero in on, & find what the truth of the situation really is....hahaha......

As an INFP the only person that understood me and I felt safe with was my father. My mother would put me down and call me stupid, my husband I found out was like my mother. I felt lonely my whole life, now that I know about these different functions I can be kinder to myself.

5:28 Yes I hate when ppl sugarcoat! Or when they're superficially nice. I CAN SEE STRAIGHT TROUGH YOU! and it just makes it worse. Just be real it's much better.

Man, I would show this to my mom so fast if she were the kind of person open to correction. This is literally everything she has done to me my entire life. INFPs are probably some of the most open people to criticism. We can pick up on others feelings easily, but we don't always guess their thoughts with accuracy. If we aren't told directly what the problem is (and it's not obvious), we don't know how to help solve it. We will just feel awkward tension and be at a loss as to where it's coming from. We just want to get rid of the tension, and if that means we fix ourselves, we are more than happy to do so! I also think under the umbrella of "we're not stupid" is that people typically don't take us seriously. They may not know much about us, but the moment they discover one thing that seems slightly unexpected because we're not afraid to show it, we get written off. It becomes more difficult to get to know us because it's assumed we are [insert stereotype here] and that's all we are interested in, when actually we turn out to be very well-rounded individuals. We can easily connect with all sorts of people as long as they allow themselves to connect with us. Since we are introverted, we have no desire to force any walls down. If they don't open up when we politely knock, we close the investigation. When someone politely knocks on us though, we likely invite them into one of our many guest rooms prepared with 5-star perks.

I didn’t realize I was an INFP until I cut alcohol out of my life. I didn’t have an addiction, but I get hangovers super easily and decided it wasn’t worth it anymore. When I drank, I was definitely an extrovert! Happy to be discovering and understanding my true self now at almost 50.

#3 Heaven forbid someone tries to project their own agenda and value system on an INFP instead of respecting their best interest and core values and and allowing them to live their lives accordingly. That's a good way to get shut out for good.

Oh my gosh.... thanks to this I just realised why my dad and I had so much friction growing up. He used to be quite micro-managey when teaching me to do simple tasks and always wanted me to do them exactly the way he did them and he'd get frustrated if I did it differently which made me sulky and frustrated towards him lol

Great relatable video! One thing I've had trouble with as an INFP that might go along with #3 is that people sometimes assume I'm immature and naive because I come off agreeable, unassertive, spacey, and silly at times even though I honestly just want to keep things low drama and don't enjoy assuming authority over others. I'm a 6w7 which can make things a bit different though.

For me I would dream of doing so many things yet I would have no idea how to reach them... So I've learned I have to take small steps or I will go no where... Especially since I tend to procrastinate 😅 tho I feel a bit stuck sometimes still because I'm impatient and fear failure.

I just realized that...every single close person to me has many many times expressed they dont believe I can do xyz... Im turning into an angry fiery dragon just thinking about it

I’m so glad I found out about the mbti test and your videos! I can finally realize I’m not totally alone in this world

As an INFP, I can say I relate on a whole another level to when you said people think we are stupid. I’ve lost the count of how many times people thought I wasn’t capable of doing simple tasks and executing a project because I was “too slow”. It has happened so many times that I ended up building this wall to show that I’m capable and I’m not stupid at all. I think it has to do with the child-like aspect of my personality but as you said, it’s not that we are slow, we are just processing things. I’m actually analyzing the task first, that’s how my brain works. My dad even though I had ADHD because he told me I was too slow and didn’t really pay attention. My whole life I’ve been misunderstood and I feel so relieved knowing I am not the only one who goes through this.

Great video. INTJ here... its remarkable just how on point this is to my INFP wife. Over the years I've accidentally stepped on the toe of many of these points but I've learned the lessons. I find the individualistic authenticity and passion of INFPs to be what draws me to them the most.

My mom is an INFP while I am an INFJ, we will got along amazingly on some thing but on others we won’t. The main thing is how we act when we are angry or upset. My mom wants to prove that she is right, she doesn’t want anyone questioning her or her actions. She wants to be left alone to think about her situation and act accordingly (while she is fixing the problem she isn’t in a good mood.) For me I also like to be alone in these situations, but the reason I want to be alone is because I can’t take feeling things for everyone. I don’t care if people think I’m wrong because my mind is set on my goal and not anyone else around it, but if they start bad mouthing my cause that’s when I get angry. So we both collide in this situation. As soon as she walks in the room I can tell she is upset/mad, and apparently I stare at her. That makes her even more mad because she doesn’t want any sympathy for she mistakes that as an insult/me mocking her. When she gets mad at me it deeply offends me, since I take the opinions of my loved ones seriously. So we get in a huge argument and leave each other to get alone time. So the best thing to do for them when they are mad is to stay out of their way, they will act according to their plan and apologize afterwards.

Wow. Around 7 minutes in, I really relate. I am friends with a young woman who is 20 years younger than me and for everything I say when relating my experiences on just about anything, she always has to say something contrary or is trying to impart some great wisdom or advice (implying as to how I can change.) You helped me realize that she is just in a very different place in life and is more social and doens't understand me and my acquired discernment. I decided to cut my time with her because it makes me uncomfortable. I don't want to change her either,, so I'd rather not try and make that friendship fit for either of us. I am learning that if I start feeling uncomfortable or drained by people, that I need to move on, limit time with them, or have boundaries around what I will share or how and where I will interact with them. As an INFP, my circle of trust gets smaller with age.

It's funny and might be presumptuous, but you remind me so much of myself. I guess because we are both infps. I see that same intense, dreamy, gaze. The feeling of almost motivating yourself by teaching others.

Is it a common thing for INFPs to not just give out compliments easily? Not in a sense that we look down on people, but that if we don't genuinely feel it we won't go around praising people because it's just....cringe? (Compliments like "oh I like your shoes" "omg that is so cool!")

All of us INFPs need to collaborate together!

I'm an INFP and I approve the message. :) Seriously, this all resonates with me on some level. I think it was number 3? Whichever one where you said "Don't assume we are stupid" or whatever..yeah. I totally get that. The school system here in the states, in my opinion, utterly failed me. By the time I was in 5th grade I had gone through 4 schools. I was bored. I was always looking out the window or being a class clown. I doubted the truth of what I was reading. For example, I recall wondering "Who wrote this book? How can I trust that this info is right?" when I was a kid. What kid thinks that shit? My whole life I have felt out of step with the mainstream and felt "stupid" because that's how I was treated more or less. I just felt everything around me and could not focus when I had emotional things going on inside me, which was pretty much daily. In school I was often put in the slower classes or had tutors. But then I'd score so high on an IQ test that my teachers were baffled. I was never driven by competition or some of the shallow "school" rewards of being the teachers pet, having straight A's or whatever. I never saw those things as have merit. I always saw those things like a game of sorts. I just did not want to play the game. I always questioned things. I still do. I no longer think of myself as stupid because I understand myself better now and how I process things. I still struggle to focus on reading and watching movies because my mind is often wandering. Yet I write songs and can evidently express myself in such a way that people are marveled by it. And I don't know how this stuff happens. It's like I just get inspired and get clarity one day and out pops a few tunes. Thanks for you channel. You're super hot by the way. Especially the kiwi accent. Keep on putting this stuff out there. We appreciate you. :)

You understand me so well, im a INFP-T.

I'm INFP. This video is one of the most accurate and intelligent insights to the type. I really appreciate your insights as they help me to understand myself better. We're one type who needs a support group because most of the other types misinterpret what is really going on with us and we're often left out of consideration, even despised by the majority and invalidated when in fact we're making very important contributions to the effort at the time. We're busy, okay?

Everything that was said in the video was very true, especially for me.. Not too long ago, I had an incident with a few friends where I was caught unprepared for a scenario/situation that she told me to respond to. I understand that she wanted me to practice my social skills by posing as if she were an interrogator who was questioning me, but she made me feel on edge because I wasn't expecting it. I tried to answer as best that I could, but I was left feeling terrible about myself. The thing with INFPs that most people tend to overlook is that we often overthink things we feel that we didn't do right in the past over and over again to the point that we obsess and stress out over our mistakes. It only took me 10 minutes of overthinking until I couldn't handle it any longer and I broke down crying. Sometimes, it's very difficult for others to understand why we are so sensitive to such small things, and that's exactly what happened in my case. To make matters worse, my friends expected me to get over the matter in no time, which put even more pressure on me because they tried to force me out of the car and into a public place when I was still crying. At this point, I admit that I did act like a baby during this situation, but unfortunately, there are most likely INFPs who act in a similar way. This is mainly because people don't understand that when an INFP breaks down, they need a lot of time and a lot of space in order to sort out their feelings themselves and cool down. The friends of INFPs need to develop more patience than friends of most other types when it comes to matters such as these. This doesn't mean that my friends are bad friends, they simply didn't understand or know how to properly deal with this situation (I've never broken down in front of them). INFPs could be very good natured people, but they are often misunderstood because almost everyone else doesn't understand how to "handle" us properly.

I am an INFP forced to be an extrovert. "The world doesn't need weird shy people" My mum taught me that and I took it seriously. Soon I found myself chained behind a wall of other people's criticism and ideas.

I hate it most when my mother tries to comfort me by saying, "the problem with you is..." It really undermines my self esteem.

Build in secret, what people don't know, they can't destroy at seed level. Leave the room and their lives forever if they treat you with contempt. Zero tolerance alongside zero reaction to people's vile utterances works for me. Very few have lasted the distance in my life and good riddance to them all. I'm healing and now at peace with myself and God. I rely now on nothing else. Its all an illusion. Great video, beautiful person, thank you for lighting the way. Best of luck fellow INFPs x

All those are so true.. My mother has bad tempered. I really cannot take it when my mother shouts and the neighborhood knows the issue. Bang the gates and everything. I hope my mother knows that I just love to be alone where no one keeps eyeing, giving instructions and where no one is there to change me.

My problem is the way people treat me makes me feel very misunderstood. All the people I have ever been friends with say things like “when I first met you I thought you were a bitch” or that the way I look doesn’t match my personality, or certain teachers or coworkers treat me like I’m dumb even though I know I am intelligent and I feel like I’m constantly having to prove myself.

You sound so determined, which is so different from me (INFP) who is more soft spoken. I hope to develop that side of me too. And, I saw a princess inside you :)

So refreshing :) i forget I'm not the only person that is like me So hard to get people to understand, sometimes I'd rather say nothing

I am surrounded by people who don’t have a single clue about different personalities and just view being quiet is not an ideal type of person, that’s why I feel depressed most of the time.

Only recently found out I was an INFP and for sooooo long I question if I was okay mentally, being so overly emotional about things whether it involve me or not. Being insanely passionate about morals and feelings and individuality. I thought I was the square puzzle piece trying to be forced into a round hole. Since finding out that their are people around the world exactly the same I have felt this immense feeling of community and understanding. That feeling you feel when someone truly understands how you feel cause they feel the same. That shit is awesome, I know now that my emotions and morals are my strengths. They are the gift given to me to enhance the world in someway. In such an extroverted and cookie cutter world our individuality is going to be the key to our success

Omgosh yes! I just left a job where my lead coworker was an ESTJ and she continually micromanage me. It was awful! She also talked over me which is similar to the calling out because it felt so disrespectful. I couldn't be my authentic self and that very important to me. It takes me some time to sort out what I'm trying to say and often it felt like she assumed I was stupid too. Checking off all the things here.

Micromanagement for sure is annoying I hated when a co-worker told how to cut pizza properly in their mind. I felt embrasseed as I was in front of another co-worker, I asked them if I could do it on my own, I surprised myself when I said “you want to cut it you’re way then you cut it.”

I am a leo. A 33 life path in numerology and an infp. And ive felt alone my whole life. Betrayed and abused by everyone. No human family. But darling i have to salute u and thanku for living. I have hope because u spoke. Thankyou....you beautiful soul.

When people act like they can read you and are way off the mark, and you can read them like a book, then they end up hating you because you know all their b.s and because I (don't know about other I.n.f.p's) can not work my self up to flatter or validate people just to appease them.

Perfect. Describes me spot on. And from the comments I am glad to see that there are so many INFPs who can relate to this.

Watching this video and scrolling down through the comments has been so encouraging. I'm an INFP, and it's really nice to see such a good description of it, as well as everyone connecting over it since it's so hard to find people of this type.

As an INFP male, I actually like criticism. If there's something I can do differently to produce a more ideal product, I'm all for it. I know I don't have all the answers, and neither does anyone, so a deep, heartfelt and mindful CONVERSATION is something I absolutely LOVE. Now, that is not to say I like feeling like my character is compromised, or made to feel incapable or doubted. I hate being doubted so much. Also, on being called out in public, I don't need to be gently told things. That being said, it's all about respect. Attack me or my loved ones personally, expect a punch to the face and make best friends with the ground. I'm a bit more direct. Passive has it's uses, but to me (I guess it's because I'm a male who adheres to certain male 'norms' like being tough, not taking sh*t from people and standing up for myself and my loved ones) be direct, but be respectful. Respect me, I respect you, plain and simple. As always, Lex, great video :) I love your education about us to outsiders. We can be quite tough to figure out, so this is very productive, insightful and educational. Will show this to my girlfriend xD Thanks!

My parents sadly did all of these to me

"And now I'm starting to ramble...." Soooo adorable! INFPs always melt my heart.

I am an INTP, I have 4 children, from oldest to youngest they are INFP, INFJ, ENTJ, ENFJ. Of all my children my INFP has been, by far, the hardest for me to connect with. We can have some very deep convos but I always feel like I’m missing the forest full of trees with him. It kills me to watch this video and know that I have done every one of those things to him. I read all your comments and see how these things have so negatively affected you all. As a parent I would like to say I’m sorry. I’m sorry that we don’t understand, that we underestimate and micro manage. I’m sorry that we crush your dreams and put you down. I truly am. But I can guarantee it isn’t for lack of trying to understand. We truly only want good things for you. I can’t speak for all parents but I can say that most of us really are trying. When we do these things all we are trying to do is communicate with you. We are trying to understand something that is foreign to us and sadly when we can’t then we try to make you fit. Thank you for posting this video and showing us outsiders a glimpse into your passionate and colorful worlds. Your advice is golden. I, in turn, would like to leave some advice for any INFP who struggles with all these things...communicate. As an INTP my whole life has been one giant bunched up knot of no communication or miscommunication and if I can learn to communicate better ANYONE can. Always strive to be the best version of yourself that you can be. Thank you for posting.

Thank you Lex. I'm an Infp and needed this although I knew this. Nice to hear it laid out especially how we are not stupid!

im 46 years old now, but in school i was quiet and rebellious. i knew instictively that i didnt fit in with any groups like the jocks or the smart kids, and after awhile didnt even try.i was more of an artist and musician back then. i was awful at public speaking so people didnt get to know me unless they spent some time really talking to me.they would be surprised to learn i was a wise soul that just didn't want to talk about trivial crap all day long.i thrived when i left school,which really surprised people.

Omg, the Change + stupid + Dreams parts.. 😧😧😧 Yes !!! Totally !!!! Thank you !!! They ALWAYS made me feel like there was something wrong with me. Saying all those things out loud & expecting me not to be ( deeply ) hurt by it.. 😭 They all thought they already knew me, when I didn't even know me 😒😡😡😡. Most of the times I never even knew what to say back.. 😓

Being an INFP as a child, I wish I had known all this then, because I totally GET EVERYTHING/INFP wise about myself now

On thing that I face as a young INFP is people trying to push passions onto me that I really don’t like. I struggle to find what I love, and some people *cough* teachers *cough* try to force me to be passionate about a certain event.

As an INFPI like constructive criticism if it’s coming from someone who has my best interest at heart. I get hurt at first but I internalise it and 9/10 try to improve myself.

Your videos mean so much to me and other infp's, thank you for making them. They're one of the few things in life that help people like us feel understood and accepted.

I hate it when people always call me sweetheart or honey, like I'm a dumb precious little girl. When I show them that I am actually more competent than them they get furious..

My father told me my passion for art was a waste of time and is useless. He told me to stop. That was the start of my self confidence crumbling down. I'm still struggling with my self confidence. Now I still do art but only when I'm alone.

Alot of people try to change me and convince me to change. So what I do is confuse them and never change. 😂

As an INFP myself, I am very encouraged by your videos. Your videos make me feel like I have a chance of succeeding in this world. Your channel is my first pick if I need INFP advice. Thank you so much for making these videos, and I will continue to keep watching them for years to come!

Your videos have helped me understand my INFP son. I so appreciate your down to earth and candid approach to this. You generalize just enough, but your own, personal examples illustrate living as an INFP so eloquently.

Lex, I love your considered thoughts on how our personality type ticks. I'm sure you fully understand what I mean when I say that I just listen to you talk and fall in and out of introspection as I hear your words. Entire spans of time are spent thinking about my current thoughts, my past thoughts/actions, and how those may be misinterpreted or well interpreted by the people around me instead of what you're actually saying. You're amazing at throwing my mind into a tangent. This really is a compliment from me as it lets me watch your rants more than once because there legitimately is novel ideas on even the third viewing of your content. Time spent lost in my conscious mind is time well spent and you are one of the best people at stimulating that process. I'm almost always left with a smile after getting to think to myself quietly at your musings. I'm certain that what you do has an overall benefit to everybody that comes into contact with it so don't lose sight of your ideas and keep at it. Much appreciated.

I'm an INFP and an enneagram 4 with a 5 wing, so when you talked about people trying to change us I could not agree more!

I'm an INFP and I have this huge passion for knitting and crocheting and sewing and drawing and practically anything creative. I have my whole life. I mean I'm only 16 but whatever. And I want to start a business one day. It's so complex that I can't rly explain it but someone who is really close to me has told me that my dreams aren't realistic and she wants me to be a nurse when I grow up. And I haven't told her yet that nursing is just not for me. Like at allllll! I'm actually taking a nurse aide class rn. And its so sad cuz I do NOOOT want to be a NA! Um... So yeah I am super determined to follow my dreams because I know 100% that's what I want to do!!😁

I can definitely relate to the 5 points, especially that people think that we're stupid. Ouch. Thanks for the encouragement Lex!

Develop your extroverted thinking, especially your logical reasoning skills, and learn about psychology. This will help you be less impulsive, use your feelings in a more rational manner to solidify and ground your values, and see things more clearly. Be sure to challenge peoples assertions and claims and have your mind blown by the fact that most people do and say what they do almost totally unconsciously, without any real logical understanding or reflection, and usually can't explain to you why they do and say the things they do. Peoples thinking and behavior turns out to be insanely shallow and I think this is a place where the INFP can really connect with people or help them understand things more clearly. God knows there's far too much projection and hate in the world today.

Thanks for a great video Lex! Nice fuel for self reflection in regards to how I behave with others and how others treat me.

Lex, this is really good. Thanks for taking the time to post it.

I am so overwhelmed at all of the information I am receiving..Watching ur videos and reading these comments can I say THANK GOD.. This new information has put me in a state of creation and newness. I'm so happy to know all of u are out there and it's so amazing to have that sharp lonely feeling taken from me.

Loved this video! It's so soothing to know that so many fellow INFPs are together in the struggle of being misunderstood most of the time by the rest. Also, you are soooo beautiful. Thanks again for this video ☺

God, I felt so understood listening to you decription! You're as beautiful as you are insightful. I saw a lot of heart in this video.

I’ve been called slow before, which really offended me at the time

Good advice from an ACTUAL INFP, not a mistyped ESFJ, ENFP or INFJ. Real INFP's are somewhat less common than is commonly thought, you'll know one when you meet one, and we are always socially traumatized and anxious.

I'm a kiwi INFP and I smiled when I clicked onto your video. I learnt alot about myself. Well done!

I'm also an INFP looking for advice. I am extremely emotional and sensitive which brings my family members to always getting frustrated by my attitude. It hurts when even your own flesh and blood don't see what's wrong with you and will never try to get you to open up. Growing up with short-tempered parents, I have also become like them. Easily irritable, always arguing, and sometimes even shouting to each other, I find myself brave for still being able to put up with them for the 15 years of my existence. Yes, they love me. I know that. But do they understand me? That's something I will never know. This would be my first time opening up, in a RU-vid comment no less. I just want support, advice, or anything to keep me going. Endless mistakes and wrongdoings I've done. Endless criticisms, baseless or not, and mocking have had me thinking, does my life really matter? They will never understand that all I want is to be left alone. To just have time for myself. I want to find myself. To recover from pain. Because there are always these times when I feel so unbelievably low and unloved that I want to spend time for myself to heal. I don't even know what I'm expecting from this comment. But I just wish a little encouragement would be nice. Having this facade of fake smiles and laughter when you feel like utter crap is really exhausting sometimes.

This video is SO comforting as a fellow INFP, thank you so much. One thing I've struggled with lately is my more open friends criticising or picking out things to 'help' me but I just crumble when they do. I only ask for opinions on things if I need it, especially for work, but if someone has some 'honest' opinion they want to say that doesn't matter, I'd rather not know?! I would never think to do this for someone else! Am i alone?! xoxo

I am so glad I found this channel, I’m with you on all of these points. You’re excellent at explaining yourself and the processes you go through. Fairy land is a particularly relatable one 😂

This is so shockingly relatable and relevant to me. Weird to feel this understood.

I just found your channel , and you made my day :) like i never had anyone who understand me but with you and all INFP out there i know i'm not alone by having this personality haha same like you my close friend just telling me to not day dreaming, be realistic and a lot , its just insult me but he is my only close friend , i don't really close with my family because since i kid they always pushed me to do "thing" while i have no choice , and i always cover up and build a protective barrier and day dreaming .. i don't have a lot of friend , and my close friend is an INTP , wich mean he won't get my Introverted Feeling , my F and his T will never get it , and yeah it make me sick when he telling me to change , but then i pushed him to understand me wich in the end he just gone and keep away like other INTP do , and it sickening me , i can't stop feel bad for it and make me overthink everyday (this just happen last week and he still not reapond to me) .. and when i watch your vid its just telling me "Hey you are not alone" or something like that haha , i can get my function back and not really overthink and give him space till he showed up(or never maybe) sorry i just want to tell a story , its just sickening me and i can't hold it, sorry i don't know who or where should i tell my story.. Thank you so much for all of this ! really love how you talk and your accent ! ❤️

Girl! You have absolutely nailed it 💜

Very interesting points made, hitting on some characteristics that I didn't know were infp. I am a concert-trained pianist and subjected myself to decades of intense training. Although most people would find that demoralizing, sitting for hours and being critiqued, I wanted it because the tradeoff was worth it. I was focused on the goal, and I trusted my teachers. But criticism without purpose is really hard for me to take, because I perceive it as ego. I'm definitely different, and difficult to understand. I'm not sure why, but 50 years of being an infp has shown me clearly that most people don't get me. I just don't worry about it anymore.

Always rooting for the underdog :) This was great, thanks from Sweden!

What?? Daydreaming is part of my personality?? I feel like I just had an epiphany, thank you so much!! Amazing and very informative vid!

my teachers constantly looks over my shoulder and it makes my feel uncomfortable and I can't work correctly

Very well said!!! I relate to all 5 but numbers 1 and 3 are absolutely spot on for me. When people micromanage me and/or ask me to change, it seriously almost feels like the death of me. I'm not being overdramatic either. I seriously feel like a shell of myself when those things happen and I either shrivel up and become useless or I go to the other extreme and become enraged and rebel. Needless to say, I'm working on how to find a better way to respond in these situations.

This was really helpful! My mom is an INFP and, while I've picked up on a few of these over the years, having a list like this with some examples has given me some more insight. There's a lot of material on being the N kid of an S parent, so I'm having to sort of reverse engineer it all to fit our family dynamics lol. But this is huge - now I can really see that it was a lifetime of being criticized, dismissed, and disregarded that led to her misinterpreting my needs and communication style as more of the same, and not something broken and evil inside me. Thank you so much for putting this up. I'm so glad I found it! ❤