INFP Career Guide 2018 (finding your purpose) 

Sometimes being an INFP makes me so tired. I feel like I'm always searching for a way to make an impact and it drives me crazy.

“Going from wanting to be an actress (actor), to a nutritionist, to a writer..” oh my that’s literally all things I’ve wanted to do and I can’t decide

Being an INFP, I am not easily satisfied with any job that I do. I feel like I'm not doing what I'm supposed to do. I feel like I'm not making the impact that I was born to make. It's like there's a missing piece of puzzle and I'm in a constant search of it.

The thing that hurts me the most is when someone treats me bad for no reason, especially when i’m trying to do something nice for that person.

*wants to be an electric violin-playing fantasy writer who produces, directs and acts in films, tv shows, and theatre productions where I also make all the costumes and build the sets, as well as make my own music videos with the band I'm in (which plays every genre you can think of) so I can live happily with my wonderful husband in the hobbit hole (that I built myself) where I keep a very lovely garden and raise my 7 home-schooled kids and numerous pets where we have marvelous movie nights and Halloween parties and enjoy nature frequently* LOLOLOL

At this point, we INFPs are meant to be entrepreneurs. To have the freedom to express ourselves without restrictions. We ALL yearn to create

As an INFP I think my purpose is to create. By dabbling in my imagination and creating new worlds I feel both closer to God and the universe.

omg gang, i didnt know this was a generalized issue in the infp realm

I’ve never found people who actually understand me... until I found out me personality type

I'm an INFP as well and I have jumped between music and poetry to Naturopathy and Psychology. I want to dip my finger in every pie but struggle to stay focused on one thing at once!

'It's about mastering one thing and having all others floating in the background' I like that one!

I'm a tradesman, which is as far removed from my authentic INFP self as I can be. This caused internal conflict for years, wishing I had a more fulfilling vocation. In my late thirties, I came to the realisation that job and passions don't have to be intertwined. I could seperate the two. I could work hard at my job which would support me and ultimately my family, whilst still pursuing my passions and fullfilling my INFP needs. It was upon this realisation that thing's finally started falling into place. Now I see my job not as a hindrance, but a foundation, from which my passions can grow wings take off and fly!!!

Being INFP IS SO EXHAUSTING. I took interior major, then 2 years later change to Archi, halfway through, learning how to play piano as a side hobby, as i just got curious and on an impulse buy. Then thought of making my own music, and be a musician instead. Good thing i keep it as a hobby.. after graduating archi, working in the themepark industry, it was good for 1 year plus until i was into cinematic next. Quit my job to study cinema & movies but half the year through i was interested in making games after watching random youtuber's live stream. Now im 7 months in studying to become game designer.. and oh yeah and at the side hobby writing stories... oh gawd.

I must be the most procrastinating INFP ever...

Oh my god comments i feel like i wrote it all

I had the great fortune of having someone tell me I was not smart enough to get an engineering degree... So, I set out and proved them wrong. I have worked in software for 35 years - developing new products. I have been a bit of an oddity at work, but the job allowed me to travel, play the violin and write.

I found out how to save the world... it just doesn't pay any money. I want to put alllll my energy into just this.. because for the first time in my life I found deep satisfaction and I have a reason to wake up everyday.. But i need to find a non stressful job to support my basic needs ... and I'm stressed out about that.

Basically, my life as an INFP is pretty much the same as you described. A big mess. Mostly, a big mess of dreams not truly followed. I've always been interested in the arts. All of it. Dance, Music, Singing, Acting, Performing, Writing (of stories, screenplays) and direction. As well as painting, drawing, creating. I tried some of them each for a year. Mostly as a young child and teen. But, after that, without any push from parents or guardians, I never tried or continued those things, because I was so very absorbed my finding my value system, and not trusting my intuition. I had a host of mental problems that were not addressed properly until my twenties; bipolar depression, autism spectrum disorder, borderline personality disorder, and now fibromyalgia. Now, as an adult, I can see more clearly, and my behavior and mental health is better, but at the time, it was dibilitating. Add that to my normal Extroverted Intuition that makes me want me see anything as possible for me to do well in. For example, if I go to a doctors office or hospital, i get super inspired about working in that field, but i never follow through, excepting that I wouldnt be good at it, for what ever reason. Or if I see people in a dance competition, i get inspired to dance again and get lessons....but i never follow through. I just get wrapped up in work, or trying to find energy to even check on simple things, like my health and wellness. Im sad that Ive let so many oppurtunities pass me by. Thing is, I would do great in any of those things, but since there are so many options, I HATE OPTIONS, i cant ever make a decision. Also, just like you, I think about writing or being a writer all the time. It was my favorite part of middle, highschool, and college. I loved writing about things I cared about, like the environment, people, sociological issues, and the human mind, and all its darkest parts. I liked to write about things people want to read, but dont because it takes too much effort. Im not a novelist, or fiction writer, never have been. Everything had to be about real, life things, with a heart beat, with a soul. I love writing motivational, real, contemplative topics and quite often use myself as a subject. But, that idea that I want to do so many things, makes it difficult for me to understand what my passion is, or to narrow it down. Thats what people tell me to do...Narrow it down.,..which is ok if I wanted to share it as a bigger concept, but to actually narrow down passions, that are not on the same level, is difficult. Its not like, this part of medicine or psychology I would like to study, or this part of the arts...its the whole damn tree....my other fuctions, tell me to become an expert in an area, become a guru of sorts, and then I will be successful, but that doesnt seem to be a possibility for me.

I'm 24 and still have no idea what to do as a future career 😕

I just discovered your channel, right after I finally realized I'm an INFP. Thank you very much for sharing your life experiences with us. It not only comforts me, it is also very inspiring. In this world we live we are taught we have to be assertive, choose fast and right. That we don't have the time to truly reflect on anything. Like a machine, you're supposed to graduate and keep improving and work work work and earn money and marry and have kids, and if you question any of that and say: "You know what, life is simply too short for me to just follow the system like a zombie. I want, I actually need a life of purpose! " people will call you a dreamer, unresolved, maybe mentally ill... The world can be a hard place for INFPs. So yeah, thank you very much once again

This explains why I’ve been to 8 colleges for 8 different things none of which I got a degree in 😩 and worked over 15 jobs lol I’m 31

I’m an INFP who’s turning 50 this year, and I don’t know what I’m truly passionate about. I’ve had a successful sales career (which I hated) evening winning an award for salesperson of the year. I felt like such an imposter, though. Now I’m starting over and I’m petrified. I don’t need to make the kind of money I was making before, but I do have a family I help support and retirement to think about. Anything I’m remotely interested in would require multiple years of additional education, and sadly, I don’t have the time to pursue it 😔. I’m obviously not sure what to do.

Im going back to school to teach music

Let me tell you guys something that I just learned and I hope this can help you. As a INFP I've always looked for a purpose, a way to change the world, well, I'm 18, but since 3 years ago, so I decided tu study medicine (what I wanted for 9 years) because I wanted to to work with an altruist organization y to do what I love: travel and help others. And my plan was also becoming a neorologist because of a great interest in our brain, a spiritual or philosophical interest as well. These were my reasons, but I never was shure, because I love social and political sciences, history, culture, languages and writting essays, poetry and stories. I was so confused because I'm so curious and I believed that I wasn't going to find my passion, but just temporary interests. So in less than 2 months of starting the career I couldn't more. We can't study something just for ONE purpose. I felt like I wasn't my self, I had lost the joy of living and my creativity (a sensation so common in us) and I started exploring so deeply my self, finally I thought in 3 careers: history, sociology and antrophology. After thinking about it too much I decided social anthropology, because it doesn't matter if I'm doing a transcendental investigation or not, I'll enjoy it because I love all of this science that also gives me the oportunity of studying a graduate degree in sociology or biological anthropology or history. If you find an activity that you really enjoy, you don't need to find a purpose, you create your own purposes, and that's what an INFP personality needs, freedom. I also recommend you a creative activity, I started writting again and I feel so happy. Music, theater, painting, all what let us to express the intense emotion that we have. We don't have the things easy with this system, but let's use our talent, idealism and optimism to make a little or a great change, but first we have to be happy.

I recently took the test, and I just found out that I'm an INFP. But I've already decided that I want to make an impact in the world by being a stay-at-home mom in the future and raise my children well. Then my 'legacy' can be passed on. Currently I'm working as a preschool teacher so that I can build up on my skills hehe.

ok listen bros. my goals (/DREAMS/) are: self employed in making and selling games, movies, series, and leisure activities.

infp who LOVES science. struggling with my college major now though, other people keep telling me to just switch to engineering: “it’s so easy to get a job and make a lot of money!” But that’s not me. I need a purpose, I need a reason, and I need to have a real passion for the thing I’m pursuing. It’s hard but I’m glad there’s people out there that get me.

You don't know how much I needed this video. Thank you so much!! I am in first year university, and I am questioning everything...

It's funny, you don't think a creative career is really possible, while I see it as my only option at this point in my life. I have experienced first hand I can't do less creative careers for longer than five years. I'm tired of throwing my years away, so I have decided to just make it work no matter what.

Yep...I'm currently enrolled in my 5th College program. At 38! Also struggling with insomnia and anxiety, and feeling like I'm not living the life of my dreams yet. My attention is everywhere else, always curious, and feeling unfulfilled in the moment.

I'm just hoping that someone say to me that "It's okay, just follow your heart journey". But, having pathetically empathic thinking, is holding me badly. It's like : "hey dude, you should think more about your future, your financial security, this world is becoming harder and harder to be survived in it. Your parent didn't pay your school tuition to be stupidly thinking that you can do everything and then get paid from it" Also my family had given me a such discouragement too that actually worked to drag me away from what I want to do. I won't blame them to do that, but they were the reason that I suffered from this metaphorical anxiety for a long time. Why even my beloved familiy had to do that. I feel like want to die, sometime.

Hey Lex :) I just discovered your channel and I love it so much

I’m an INFP and chose a career in medicine as a doctor. In college I had considered being a writer but ultimately chose to go into healthcare. I think it’s a perfect field for some INFP’s. First I chose this field because I wanted to help people but also wanted to force myself to interact with people on a daily basis. Medicine is also said to be part science and part art which is true. There’s always gaps in knowledge with medicine and filling in those gaps require intuition and creativity. You also have to look beyond obvious facts and dig deep into why things are happening. I’m still introverted and have issues with procrastination but those have improved over the years out of necessity.

It’s been an absolute blessing stumbling upon your channel. What an inspiration. Just what I needed to watch/hear.

Thank you for making this! I'm in my junior year of high school and I'm trying to figure out my career, thinking about it stresses me out and this helped me get my focus back to what is important. 😊

You are my kindred spirit...narrating the last 20 years of my life like you were there.

I am an INFP and I suffered someone important pass away and also depressed for a long period of time. Thanks for sharing your exp.

This is literally the best career advice I've heard in a very long time. Thank you so much!

Your passion is truly beautiful! Your communication skills are very powerful, because you speak from your heart. Thank you so much for all your videos. I believe you can incorporate several of your passions into one field. You are creative, because you are a vivid dreamer, and dreamers change the world!

I love how honest, open, and real you are. Such an INFP. I have been called "intense" multiple times the past few weeks, but I don't think I am and it is sad how that is perceived, I am talking with conviction. It scares the hell out of people, because people are terrified of anything real. That is why we are lonely. I am so glad I met you online.

Thank you for this video!!!🙏🏻💖👏🏻I’ve been needing to hear this for awhile! I’m 41 and I’m finally feeling confident enough to share my passions for art with others! Such a challenge as an introvert, but hearing your experience is an inspiration!🙏🏻🙏🏻✨

I'm INFP and I couldn't decide what I wanted to study, it was SO hard to pick something in so little time... Finally I got into the economics career, and I'm already in second year doing good! I know it's hard but you'll find something that suits you, belive me 💛

This is so insanely accurate to the INFP condition. I’ve been in the military as a logistics specialist for 5 years and it’s given me so much insight into how I function in relation to purpose, and satisfaction, and what I do and don’t stand for. I’m separating from the navy in about two years and plan on pursuing a degree and career in supply chain management not even because it’s apparently supposed to make me a decent amount of money but from realizing that it’s overall rather satisfying. I hate the bureaucracy and confinement of being in the military but am thankful for the structure and routine it’s shown me that I need to feel content. At least in the civilian world I have a better chance of choosing to apply for businesses that I value. But the work is never an issue, because deep down, once I (and I feel like most INFP’s) have a cause, we can become so loyal to projects and have our own unique perspectives on solving problems and we make great additions to any team or career.

Thanks so much for pouring your heart out and sharing your life this way. I'm 39 now and I've finally reached that point in life where I'm quitting the pursuit of trying to "fit the mold"and I'm terrified that I'm too old to keep going on this way! I truly want to find my purpose and I feel like God has stripped away all the distractions for me so that I can center myself and focus on my true purpose. I am so grateful for that yet I am so terrified that I will continue to waste more time searching and still not finding my purpose and it is such a giant in my life! It's the main source of my discontentment and I feel so fulfilled in my home life but I need to make income and I don't want to fall into the trap again of taking meaningless jobs for the sake of a dollar and hating every minute of it! I just always thought or felt like I was the only one going through this, but your opening up the way you did honestly makes me feel so comforted because I don't feel like such an alien anymore. I've been so utterly disappointed in myself for this inconsistency in my career life, and I don't know if I will ever truly forgive myself for it, but from the bottom of my heart, thank you for your story. You gave me a bit of peace and comfort about it (and during a terrible bout of insomnia). God bless you and the good work you've done and the good work that is to come for you sister!

Wow! Thank you very much. Is frustrating going in the opposite direction of our nature and dreams, goals, It's truly sickenning many INFPs.

being a INFP shut in really sucks it takes forever to figure out anything if at all. I feels like I went into a black hole after high school with no direction to go, lost and confused. Doesn't feel like anyone around me has a vision for their life, they are just pleased doing the most basic of things to get by. I can't stand jobs where I am stuffed into a warehouse for hours on end it feels so suffocating and that's the only kind of job I was able to get after high school. It feels like the world and everything is closing in around me and my opportunities are disappearing. Sometimes it's really overwhelming and upsetting I end up shutting down just to start the self defeating cycle over again. I really worry for my mental health sometimes it feels like this cycle with time will drive me mad. I am trying to change it but it is really hard to know where to start and how.

Lex, you are amazing. I've known that I'm an infp for years now, but only just started delving. I have to say, your knowledge on the subject of this personality is extremely refreshing to my sense of self. Thank you. You're doing a lot of good for a lot of people.

Thank you so much for your time. I just recently discovered my personality type and your channel. I was an unhealthy INFP for 8 years and thought it was normal. Lately I have been discovering more and more about myself and a big help from you, expressing yourself and thoughts. Iv been able to connect to my inner self and find inspiration to pursue my dreams. I'm 28 years old and a police officer, I feel like I am stuck in never ending cycle of depression doing this career. I'm still searching for that career that has everything I want from life, that will let me spread my wings and be free. You inspire your viewers and I appreciate every second of time you give to us. Follow your heart always and it will lead you to happiness.

Amazing! The only time I've every heard it put into words. Absolutely spot on.

Lexi I can relate to everything your saying and I am just now finally understanding myself so much more. I'ts just so amazing for me to hear your speak about yourself and how you think, because I never come across anyone like me in my life and I have always felt so in conflict with myself. And I feel you are almost exactly like me. It's seems weird to say this but it's such a relief to feel I am not alone.

Finally found my vocation at the age of 55. I’ve loved the journey to get to this point and all those other occupations have all finally come together. So as I look back now at the age of 60 I would say go down all those rabbit holes, test out all your ideas and when you finally find the right thing all those experiences will suddenly appear as exactly the right ones to support you. Whether it makes money I’m still not sure.

😃Hi Lex, new subscriber! Being an INFP myself, your video has helped break down the concept of passion and purpose in a way that I better understand. Seriously, I've watched so many videos on INFPs seeking guidance because I know TONS of things that are NOT suited for me, but feel stuck and frustrated in finding what I DO like. I have interest in many things, but nothing to the level of "passion". I look forward to combing through all of your videos!

As I child I didn't enjoy school. I was very introvert. I was fantastic in Art. Then it wasn't until I finished Uni studying business, I was even more confused and felt lost. I job hopped very much going from one thing to another, I got bored quickly. I then got into IT as work was plentiful and more reliable. But found I've got bored now after 10+ years in this industry, even though it pays well. I have an urge to do something creative and make a living in this. In between the healing arts, Massage therapist, writing, acting, dabbled in music creation, creating jewellery, Logo designing and making clothes. My current challenging is bring up 2 children with challenge behaviour, which is exhausting and it feels that blocks me too. So I'm more confused now about what path to follow. This makes me feel dizzy so I do't even dare get started for fear of many things, raising family, mortgage, debts to cover and very little time to feel creative. It feels like I need to be in the mood to do my fave hobbies.

Wow, this video really speaks to me! I ached for years over what I wanted to do with my life because I had so many passions that it seemed impossible to narrow it down to one. At the end of the day I chose nursing because I am fascinated by more of the patho-pharm aspect of it, but I also have a strong drive to make a difference in people's lives. I also love how working at the hospital gives me a lot of free-time with my schedule to pursue other passions; right now I'm taking a ceramics class and I love it! Of course, I've only been a nurse for a year, so who knows where my life will go in the future, but for now, I'm happy. :)

Thank you for sharing so richly of yourself! Amazing insights and wisdom! Thank you so much 💓

Thank you for this video! I too have struggled for years to find a career path because I am so many things at the same time. I'm swimming in a world of creativity, so I felt I should be sharpening skills and pursuing film or creative writing in Uni. Simultaneously, I have an obsessive drive to collect facts and understand systems like within historic events, languages, and political movements. I desire to synthesize this material, adding layers of meaning/messages in my creative work. I worried myself when I started pursuing Liberal Studies (Humanities History of Culture [interdisciplinary theology, philosophy, and literature]) in Uni. This major required skills not in my constitution -- "I'm not good at all the left-brained analysis and interpretation day after day after day. This won't lead me to a career I'm good at. The grind is getting to me," I thought. But by sticking to it, that after a six months, I've learned procedures to better analyze and interpret, and I've strengthen my logic through the repetitive hardwork. I've been learning how to set goals, grow, improve, ask for help, and now I am motivated more than ever to pursue Liberal Studies because it's making me a more balanced human being. It's balancing me out, like you mentioned, through developing introverted sensing, and external logic. I've only increased my appreciation for the arts and human nature. It's given me mountains of inspiration for personal projects. Who knows where I'll end up, but for now I am flourishing.

I'm an INFP too and I can relate to what you say and what everyone else is saying here. I used to draw when I was a kid. I used to draw so extensively I wanted to go to art school (age 15). But my parents didn't support the idea because there was no money to be made. I am now 38 and struggling everyday to get to this one heartfelt dream to become a fulltime artist. I have tried many art forms with a lot of passion but the one (drawing) art form that really is in my veins, keeps away because of the little voice in my head (my parents). Now I continuously feel like I am wasting my time with other art form, with passion! I feel I coud accomplish so much more!After seeing your video I realized all these artforms trigger me and I'm not (or should not be) fixed to one medium only. My passion is all over the place and hard to keep up. if my mind feels like doing sculptures, I do sculptures with great passion. if my hart says painting, I paint with great passion too. But it is also hard to enjoy. Joy usually comes afterwards when I look back at things. Then I can say: "That gave me great pleasure". but in the moment my mind and heart is sooooo occupied to feel practically anything. It is an addictive feeling, this feeling of rush when an idea gets made to reality.Just writing down my thoughts after seeing this video (I usually don't think when writing). Thanks Lex!just a side note to all INFP's struggeling:if all is overwhelming, insist on taking (extensive) time alone, for the good of everybody. This does miracles to me!I had a hard time applying this in my life but it is really worth it and most of all: necessary! without time alone, I lose control over myself...

I came to your channel late. But this myers briggs stuff is amazingly correct and it is so lovely to know their are other people like me out there. Thank you for your videos

I took a hobby working in photography and audio/video and turned it into work as a media production professional.

This is so spot on. I've always known my purpose but have never known how to achieve it so I've basically spent the last 10 years blowing in the wind.

Thanks for the video! Feels so good to hear stories about this topic from other INFPs. Awesome DBZ stuff too!

even though i want to pursue a vocation, i still need a full time job so i can live comfortably and have health insurance

I've never felt so understood than I have watching this video! As a 28 year old, her story almost completely mirrors my own and I'm hoping to find somewhere to place my passion, talents and ultimately make it a career. It's been quite difficult but I'm hopeful!

Thank you M'am you just saved me ... I saw few videos on INFP but you are the best ... You just said what mattered the most ... Certainly you learnt from your experiences that helped me ... Thank you you for making this video ... I can't be more grateful ... I wish I could be able to share that emotion ... Thank you again ... 🕉️✝️... 🕉️ Shree ramkrishana paramhansa ... 🕉️...

Spot on . Artist ? Nope . Writer..?? One day . Sign language teacher ..failed the exam . Reflexologist..I am now qualified . But ... I am now writing a children's book . Keep feeling fascination ( The Human League . And a favourite song for this INFP ) ♡ 👍

That was really detailed and well presented. I admire your unicity and that such independancy of yours. Keep it up

My struggles as an INFP correlate with growing up in a family household that scoffed at artistic careers. Sad but true. "Theres no money in that! Get a "real" job." Go to school they said, get a degree and fix computers. Not stimulated, quit. Join the military, be a police officer! Failed a drug test on purpose to end my contract when I had 6 years in. I was miserable. Physical therapy! Two semesters in, not stimulated. Quit. Now, it's on to nursing. And what do you know, I'm already having those same feelings again of quitting before I waste more time and money. I've literally caged my creative and artistic ability to impersonate other job titles to satisfy and please my family with a successful "job" choice. If they are happy, I would be happy. Thank you for your content Lex! It takes courage to break free from this cycle, and your content has been heartwarming 😊

Great video! It's so wonderful to know that I am not the only one who has struggled with all this, based on some of the comments :)

This is really helpful. I'm in my first year of university, and decided to major in biology kind of on a whim. Bio has always been interesting to me even though my grades aren't spectacular. However, it requires a LOT of chemistry at times, which is something I have always struggled with. There are times when I feel so stupid for not understanding something that everyone else seems to get. My assignments have started piling up from being put off. I just get so tired of doing it. Recently I've been thinking about changing majors to liberal arts. I've always done really well in those kinds of classes and at this point I am so exhausted of pushing my brain to do back-flips that I can't handle it anymore. This video seriously helped me kind of solidify that decision. It showed me that there are other options and my way of thinking isn't crazy. I've always wanted to create, whether through painting, sculpting, acting, writing etc, and I think a big source of anxiety is that I will ultimately fail in the end and die poor and unsuccessful. But the fact of the matter that it's these things that make me happy. Maybe it wouldn't be so bad to pursue some of them, especially now while I don't have much to lose. Idk. Being an INFP is not helping haha

Thanks for being so real!! Love it

You are too on point..you are making me cry..I am a teacher now and it's draining me so I'm looking for that thing am passionate about and fulfilling my purpose..I need to move but being socially anxious is stalling me..I love you..you are a true INFP

I'm INFJ and I help people find career paths based on their type. INFP make amazing teachers in just about any subject matter from English to math to sciences.

Great video! So awesome to hear someone else's history and story of how things worked, and things that didn't work I guess all of this shapes us to what we are in the present For me I studied a bachelor in graphic design /photography /and film, I'm glad I studied my passion but the thing was I had the interest in these areas, but graduated last year feeling lost, haven't worked in a year, still feeling lost, it comes down to purpose again, and like you I have dabbled and had my obsessions over the years but right now I should be over the moon, but I'm in limbo in life, I do projects here and there and being a musician also I love using my art skills to help them and vice versa Went on a rant but I can absolutely relate to that same feeling Hope everything is going well now for you :)

THe image/chart at 4.45 sums this up perfectly, with everything pretty much revolving round "purpose"

Everything you said and the struggles touches my heart because I am an INFP and still struggling to find my purpose and it is killing my inside

I want to sing and make music. But I need stability in my every day life, because I'm. Very sensitive. So I choose my second interest, which is create, communicate and organise cultural events and projects. I just need to trust more that I Can succeed!!! 😅😉🌺🌺🌺

I think the purpose we choose here in this lifetime is to enjoy life itself and experience everything that we love. We are free-spirited. We're just resisted by doing that because of the society, the system that people created, the opinion of others, and the lack of funding to enjoy a thing called life.

I'm 40, and just now giving more thought to my personality type I know me, but didn't feel I needed to classify myself to a type. I'm Christian I lean more on who God says I am. I didn't even know I am in INFP-T until about a week ago. I went through a lot of career fields sales, construction, timber industry, clerical, retail, business contractor through my 20's, but more and more God led me into care giving for sick family. For the last 6 years I've been supporting people with disabilities during the overnight shift 11pm-7am. It's rewarding I love it, and God promoted within the first year. The overnight shift gives me time by myself to read, and write as well. It doesn't pay well, but I've managed to hold this job longer than any other, and my commute time is minutes.

I feel the same.. just a big mess in my head! with all of the career paths that come to mind that I feel I can do so good on! I get so excited over one career type, then leave it alone and pick up the next.. Time to be more focused!

You can't imagine how this video is helpful to me currently, truly wonderful video and it is unique unlike other videos made around this topic ! Huge gratitude for you Lex from around the globe ( Saudi Arabia ) :) Cheers darling

I'm sorry to hear about your GAD. I've had bad bouts with anxiety and panic attacks as well. I've found a few things that really work. In the middle of an attack, start walking and keep walking for at least 10 minutes or so (if it's night time, then walk around your house if you have to). Don't run, just walk a steady pace. This will force your breathing into a relaxed, normal breathing pattern so you will stop hyperventilating and your lightheadedness will go away. This really helps to calm you down. THEN, wrap yourself up tightly in a warm, snuggly heated blanket. A therapist told me this is called "bundling" and it helps because it mimicks the safety we felt in the womb. It stops the trembling which is such a relief. Also, remind yourself that a panic attack peaks after about 10-15 minutes and then the waves get smaller. So remind yourself that you can survive for 15 minutes and then will start feeling some relief. And tell yourself, via chanting, "this too shall pass" "this too shall pass" or something like that. Another thing I found helped was while I was bundling late at night, I read a sweet, funny book about a dog called "Marley and Me". It was such a positive and fun book that it made me laugh and helped me interrupt my invasive thoughts. I used that book for about a year whenever I had anxiety and it was a lifesaver. Of course, do your box breathing technique too. Also, I've found it helps to do 5-4-3-2-1 game. You think of 5 things you can see, 4 things you can hear, 3 things you can smell, 2 things you can feel and 1 thing you can taste in the PRESENT MOMENT. It really helps to block your invasive thoughts and brings you back into the present moment. Also, get yourself some magnesium citrate powder and drink it in a glass of water. The first time I tried it, after about 45 minutes, when it hit my system, all of a sudden I went from being in a severe anxiety bout to all of a sudden feeling a heavenly, still, quiet, peacefullness come over me. It was almost like a soft wave through my body as the tension dissipated and my shivering stopped. I have never gone a day without having a teaspoon of magnesium in my water bottle ever since. It's really nice to have at night because it makes you feel so peaceful and easier to calm down and fall asleep. I hope these things help you. And of course, figure out what is at the root of your anxiety so you can work on that as well. Thank you for your videos and take good care.

Thanks Lex that was very helpful, as are all your videos. You express us INFPs so accurately and eloquently. (-8 Hello to fellow INFP peeps in England

Wow, thanks for making this video! INFP from USA 30 year old. :) Really helped to listen to this.

So relatable. Can't believe I'm 37 and just working this out.

What if you're not sure about what your passion/purpose is? :(

This video wasn't exactly what I thought it was going to be when I started watching it... it turned out to be so much more helpful! (INFP, 43)

I'm a french INFP, i love your channel, i find my vocation, i knew it a long time but in the past i didn't follow, my vocation is writing ^^ i'm actually doing a training of community manager that require write things and i love it, i love writing fictions too, i began to write fiction when i was young when i was 11, in high school, i studied litterature but when i went to university, i didn't study litterature but languages and i didn't like read books because of schools that gave me books that i didn't like xd, i thought i can take care of children because i love them but i realized that it's not for me, i don't want to be teacher too so when i was graduated, i didn't know what to do as jobs, i applied for every jobs, then i realized what kind of jobs i don't want to do, in the past, i didn't really listen myself so i took time to listen myself and then i realized that i knew what kind of job i want and what is my vocation that is writing, i knew it but i was too realistic to follow my dreams and now i do a training for community manager to win money and i like this job and in the same time, i want to be author too, a blogger too and a corrector in french ^^

You just brought everything in my mind out through your mouth so flawlessly and plainly . I really enjoyed your explanation and advice . Can you teach me too to explain things like you do ..I'm your kind 110/110.

Thanks for featuring our music again. Great vid xx

Aweee. She's just so adorable❤️

I’ve definitely done this as well. I’ve gone to school for pharmacy, nursing, general science, and now I’m 28 and have a 9 year old daughter, and I’m back in school for psychology. I want to help others, but id like to find a niche in psychology that’s a bit different... not just counseling... I also love playing music and writing on the side, although as passionate as I am about those things, I don’t believe I have enough natural talent with those things to make it a career. I completely understand where you’re coming from though. I appreciate this video. Ps: Kind of random, but I’m pretty sure I have the same keyboard as the one in the background of this video.

Thanks for speaking out (: As a kiwi INFP, it's always nice to see fellow comrades shining (: How do you feel about the INFP in NZ's Tall Poppy Syndrome?

Thank you so much for this video, it aplies to me so much. The Last months of 2017 where really tough for me, i quit my Job as a nurse, which i really enjoyed, but i felt Like i couldnt make the differance that i could make, i couldnt stay there. Then i was in a kinda Phase of depression where i locked my self in and did'nt make contact With anyone that i was Close With. I Just came Out of this in december, i got a Job in a Mail Transfer thingie to atleast Pay the Bills. But im following also my big Dream now, to become a Artist. I Always had that Feeling that i should make more Out of myself because i can.

I was a professional musician and amateur photographer for 35 years. When it started feeling like 'just a job', I quit performing. Now I teach music and photography to the developmentally disabled by day and work as a concert photographer and jazz promoter at night. At the age of 52, it feels like a better fit. ps. where did that "Purpose" Venn diagram come from. That's cool.

What I truly feel. Thanks!

I am turning 40 and still trying to figure out! Love your accent by the way.

Great moves, keep it up, proud of you.

I love your channel! Another great video! You actually inspired me to create my own INFP related channel. So, thank you! :)

i can totally relate to this! i thought about teaching too (both early years & secondary), but don't think i could cope with all of the paperwork/lesson planning/marking that comes with it...that and it seems like most teachers work well beyond the 40 hours a week to get all that done.

When you started mentioning the careers, I freaked out... I’ve thought about those too, that’s crazy.