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7 Signs You're Just An Option To Him... In this dating, love and relationship advice video, I will give you the seven signs you're just an option to him that you should not overlook. You may meet a man and feel like you're just an option to him and it might be on first dates, online dating, or somewhere in the dating process. Take heed to these dating tips, and ensure you watch the entire video.
I don't want you to be with a man who will make you a convenience and not a priority. When you feel like you are not a priority in your relationship, it can be frustrating and may create confusion when dating. In this dating advice, I will give you seven signs you're just an option to him so that you will avoid wasting your time with a man who is not serious with you.
I want you to know how men think and help you to understand men better to know when you are a priority to your man. This relationship advice will help you know what men think so that when you see the signs you're just an option to a man, you will be in a position to do what is truly best. Be sure to embrace these dating tips to avoid wasting time with a man who doesn't value you.
As a certified life coach, relationship coach, and dating coach, I want to make dating and relationships easier for you. I pray that you find this video helpful, and you will be able to enjoy dating and have a fulfilling, healthy relationship.
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@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

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@KilaDajay 2 года назад

Well Said 💯

@georgiagirlSB 2 года назад

That's does happen

@georgiagirlSB 2 года назад

Don't lose your train of thought

@MemyselfIrene6 2 года назад

You are a man with so much wisdom. Thank you for sharing!

@loveisbeauty011 2 года назад

Can you please do a video about getting over a man that you are pregnant by or have a child with. I’m pregnant by someone I’m having a hard time getting along with consistently. I’m trying to get over him.

@African.Diaspora.InLondonUK 2 года назад

If a man makes u feel confused, he is wasting your time.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Most definitely!

@lindsayowens4962 2 года назад

Or else we are wasting our own time. Amen.

@essie241 Год назад

I’m currently going through this. There’s more to this too but I don’t want to put it all on here. If I could only talk to Stephan. Smh!

@magictouch3417 Год назад

When you said confused what you mean

@ButterCookie1984 Год назад

💯

@taminorman1673 Год назад

If he treats you like an option then leave him like a choice.

@miamassie2010 Год назад

I like that 🙏

@sharinaross1865 Год назад

Say it ma'am.

@karmahleone1196 Год назад

Basically

@meka8953 Год назад

THIS THIS THIS!!!!

@katerynapoydyuk3925 10 месяцев назад

Exactly!!!!

@roses4me451 Год назад

It's simple: "Always judge a person by their ACTIONS, and you will never be fooled by their words."

@sharonmalone592 11 месяцев назад

❤ Amen

@Bukola220 10 месяцев назад

That hit deep

@Chrissynysc 9 месяцев назад

‼️

@crystalmcgeespencer423 7 месяцев назад

Love this yes I will def: judge by actions more now- so I am not confused by his words!!

@jessicamorales2555 2 года назад

Fight for a man who loves you, do not fight for a man to love you. Very powerful message in here. Thank you

@esmeraldabeltran7803 2 года назад

🥺

@toniwilson8212 2 года назад

Be careful

@toniwilson8212 2 года назад

Never chase or beg a man to 💔 you , big troubles , been there

@liztowers2058 2 года назад

Yes!

@lindsayowens4962 2 года назад

Yes ladies, I agree. Been there. Done that. Too much. We learn. We'll, God teaches us if we are willing. God and or just life!

@annaslet5145 2 года назад

" You can be an amazing woman yet he might not be designed to even see your value". Great point right there 💯💯💯💯💯🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️ Ladies let's set ourselves free 🙏🙏🙏

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Absolutely!

@nenab1969 2 года назад

@@MeetStephanSpeaks I was just an option after over 14 years. That doesn't sound like much but you have to take into consideration that we each had 3 previous marriages each and lived with one another longer than we ever lived with our spouses with whom we had our children, 9 between us and only 3 we're grown when we got together. My youngest was 3 and he was like his dad because he didn't know his biological dad but he left us in Thanksgiving 2020 behind our back. I say we because it devastated me and hurt my(thought "our") son. I mean he, himself was not raised by his biological dad either. We neither one were living for the Lord when we started living with each other. We made it through him losing our home & everything materialistic in a house fire in 2015 and him having a massive heart attack which required triple bypass open heart surgery only 9 months later in April of 2016. I stayed with him during his entire hospital stay and even lost my job for doing so....... But 4 yrs & 7 months later he left out of the blue when I was going through a very difficult time We did see one another & even went to couples therapy for a while, he paid for my divorce from my estranged husband so we could be married but he just strung me along for over a year after he left I will not lie this has all shattered my world! He went from saying he loved me, wanted to marry me in the eyes of God & saying there was no other woman to telling me to give him 2 more months when I put his feet to the fire and that very night I seen where he was messaging and flirting with and exchanging pictures with a woman who was the 1st girl he ever took out on a date as a teen boy who lived 2 states away I sunk into a terrible depression because we are not even talking to one another now I hold onto the fact that I know I can trust God/Jesus and ultimately want God's will in my life! I could literally write a book but I do still love him and am still hurt badly but I cannot make him want to marry me I just thought we were solid and that we would grow old together!

@nenab1969 2 года назад

@@MeetStephanSpeaks and we both have already lived longer than we have left to live He will be 56 Friday & I will be 53 in June

@yessi4113 2 года назад

That’s a whole word! 💯💯

@susievelasquez5553 2 года назад

@@nenab1969 wow God bless you ! Leave him you deserve better than that ! Same situation.

@bringingproductstolife 2 года назад

1. You always initiate 2. He doesn't spend a lot of time together (non-sexual) 3. He never wants to discuss the future with you 4. All he gives you is excuses and no correction 5. He keeps you in friend zone 6. His unwillingness to commit

@praisechristian1439 Год назад

He has another girlfriend,I know he’s dating the girl but the girl doesn’t know he’s dating me,what do I do 😫😭💔

@Avianca33 Год назад

@@praisechristian1439 leave him alone. You deserve better

@liztowers2058 Год назад

@@praisechristian1439 dump him,,,,,,,!,,,,

@dcbabe21 Год назад

Well, this answers my question 😩

@missm472 Год назад

@@praisechristian1439 Let it go.....

@donnadehart6398 Год назад

U can never be good enough for the WRONG Person!!! Amen

@rowena6872 Год назад

💯

@rainetravels1410 2 года назад

Ladies take back your power just walk away.. Make room for the right one

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

You're absolutely right!

@moniquefacey5760 Год назад

Precisely!!!!

@narlight Год назад

How do i walk away, when i don't just like him anymore, that i actually fell in love? When my heart is bound to him.

@ms.m593 2 года назад

As men and women are out there dating in hopes of meeting that special someone, we are all options in some regard. What is the most devastating and disappointing aspect of dating today, is the lack of honesty. Speak on why men would rather lie, ghost and make up false excuses than speak the truth. Dating has become a world of constant pain, heartbreak and toxicity. If you're not playing those crazy games then you will surely be hurt. If you're not guarded at all times then you will be hurt. Being single is the only way to avoid any of these traumatic experiences in dating now. I'd rather be alone than subject myself to the constant deceptive behaviors I've encountered.

@nicolehobson1510 2 года назад

I totally agree! I don’t date anymore.. it took me too long to learn how to love myself enough to enjoy me! And be alone with God. It’s not worth dating anymore..

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

@ms.m593 2 года назад

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you. I am currently in the process of healing. Your videos and book has been part of my journey. Thank you for your honest insight.

@ms.m593 2 года назад

@@nicolehobson1510 You're absolutely right! Once you've learned to love yourself everything changes. I always thought dating was fun, until I got my heart and spirit broken 💔 I'll never make that mistake again. My son is off to college and I'm moving closer to the ocean to enjoy my single life. I pray you have an amazing day.

@ABa-ve3ul 2 года назад

most men just waste most women’s time. Most people know right away if they want to marry them. Sometimes people just aren’t meant for each other or/and the men is just using different women at the same time and that’s when these string along situationships occur

@ChristianaSenibo 2 года назад

You deserve more than being an option to any man. Value yourself and find the one who will see you as priority

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

You're absolutely right!

@ABa-ve3ul 2 года назад

13min in soo on point🙌

@kourtney101 2 года назад

This has got to be at the top of one's list

@christiansnaturestudio6599 2 года назад

What if I hate the work life but am high value?

@mariahsisneros7572 Год назад

As a 31 year old mother, I wish I knew these things as a 20 year old inexperienced girl. I blurred the lines between sex, lust and love, and I thought because my now ex was hitting me up, that he was actually interested in me. He was interested in my body and vagina, but not what I had to offer. We had such a toxic, abusive, roller-coaster relationship over 10 years, including bringing a daughter into our mess. All of the signs were there, blaring in my face that he wasn't really interested in me "like that," but I chose to ignore them and was hoping to change him. I was so naive and so desperate for attention, love and affection, and I was not respected, cared for or understood. We are going through a custody battle at the moment. Ladies, please don't ever settle, know your worth, have dignity and follow your intuition if things seem off or inconsistent. If a man really wants YOU and what you have to offer, he will chase you and let it be known that he wants you. A man will never confuse you, play games or only hit you up at nighttime for sex.

@heather7119 Год назад

“He wants the option of seeing you without the obligation of being with you”… whew I felt that to the core! U have a gift of verbalizing the uneasy and confusing situations

@Taisha12001 2 года назад

Ladies please remember that you're not for everybody and everybody is not for you. A man not being interested in you can boil down to incompatibility.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

@Faustinembeh_backup Год назад

Amen!👌😘

@strive09 2 года назад

Some men all about words no action, ladies take care of yourselves, treat yourself to the nice things in life diamonds, cars, house, ect you work for it, why not,be that independent women, never seek a man's validation he should be the one chasing after you 🙌💯

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

@mamiof03grlzdavis51 2 года назад

FACTS 💯 🧘🏾‍♀️☮🙏🏾

@victorianorris1916 2 года назад

That’s so true!!

@charessedeclue2471 2 года назад

Totally

@amerokeewiya1320 2 года назад

Definitely but I prefer when a man pursues me, not chase. Chasing to me is him running after me & I’m running away. As Stephen said a MUTUAL effort.

@roneshawalton1982 Год назад

When he said " he wanna have the option to deal with her but not the obligation to be with her" I jumped out my seat 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

@JennyGaston 2 года назад

So true! When I finally met my husband, he told me he wanted an intentional and exclusive relationship and his actions made it clear!

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

@bellezanegra0206 Год назад

This is good to know

@laundrybasket2689 Год назад

You are SO lucky.

@GG-cl9ww Год назад

You are so lucky..

@SM-ly6in Год назад

Ii hold advanced degrees that I use daily but I am 50 lbs overweight. Wouldn't it be great if he said, if you just had one more degree you would be the one? But no, intelligence, although a reproductive plus, is not valued as much as a tiny waist.

@KitchenDance Год назад

" Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option". Maya Angelou hhad both poetry and truth.

@lindalee601 2 года назад

Too many men want fwb and not the relationship commitment. I'd rather be alone than to settle for that. Love your channel ❤

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

@Faustinembeh_backup Год назад

Yep! We have to learn to be single 👌😘

@ahb3296 Год назад

and if other women would stop compromising, perhaps a few men would change their mindsets and become physically accountable...self respect for all concerned.

@dreamlify8 Год назад

Perhaps we woman can and ought change the game. Since males are not serious to be exclusive, we can also hop and date around for free meals. Some guys really ask for it.

@trinity2860 Год назад

That is just a cheapskate financially and mentally.

@tamaragraham4574 2 года назад

It’s very hurtful when U know you’re a good woman and a man is not able see your true value. The rejection sucks and yes we may not be a great fit but trying to date in ur 40’s is tedious. I don’t want to settle but who wants to be lonely? No matter how confident I get there’s always that one person who walks away that makes me second guess my worth.

@Perlablanca089 Год назад

😢

@SandraGarcia-lj3bd Год назад

Yo ya abandono cualquier esperanza , voy a cumplir 53 en marzo . Creo que estaré sola el resto de mi vida , bueno con mi perrita . Te deseo suerte eres muy joven.

@LittleMissHoop Год назад

i hear you. Going through this right now, :(

@Sissy317 Год назад

I have truly enjoy being single for 16 years now. I believe it is easier to be single and I’m 60. I have started to really love myself and I am the happiest I have been in 16 years, since my divorce. 👍🏼

@nadineshallow5957 Год назад

I'm dealing with the same right now.😢

@denises3779 Год назад

The heart will fool you, the mind will play tricks on you, the spirit will discern and never lie about the energy-T.D.Smith. when it feels confusing and not right let it go.

@zeal4god402 2 года назад

Ohhh when someone REALLY wants you, they will put that WORK in!

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

💯 Yes!

@adavis7678 2 года назад

Spot on! A man's words and actions must be in alignment. If his words and actions are inconsistent chances are he is not serious about you and he is double-minded. Another thing I always say is a person makes time and space for what is important to them. If a man cannot make time chances are you are not a priority in his life. Sure he may have a busy schedule, but then when will he have the time and why bother going after a woman if you are too busy? Do not pursue if you cannot be consistent. My time is not to be wasted🙏🏼❤️

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

@adavis7678 2 года назад

@@MeetStephanSpeaks You're Welcome Stephan. Likewise and Thank You as always for providing great content as well as words of wisdom 🙏🏼❤️

@kaoshi_kutie 2 года назад

Yes!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

@adavis7678 2 года назад

@@kaoshi_kutie Indeed🙏🏼❤️

@WisdomDose 2 года назад

One of the best and favorite comment! 💖💖💖

@silvanamartinez2208 Год назад

Dear Lord, I needed to hear this. I been wanting to leave this man who I’m very interested in. When you’re a conscious women it’s hard to over look someone’s lack of effort. I’m ready to chose my peace and not block my blessings. Thank you for the clarity.. I’m ready to move on.

@tabassuma.n.6485 Год назад

If a man is not serious, no matter how hard you try he will never stay.

@barbaracanterbury8533 2 года назад

Celebrating, 26 years single, by choice. I truly don't fatigue myself with games and stuff like that. Everyone just needs to work on being authentic.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that. Thank you for sharing ❤

@jenaya_laila2442 2 года назад

I believe in Authenticity too! Don't have the time for games! Gonna stay single for the rest of my life..

@maceyr.6583 2 года назад

True! Turning 21 this year and still single. 🤍

@vivianneadisa 2 года назад

Proud of you

@northofyou33 2 года назад

@Barbara Canterbury, I admire you. I've been single for years and still have not truly embraced it. I am single by choice, because I refused to put up with my husband's games. But, I still wish to meet an authentic, loving man. I wish I could let that dream go, because it detracts from my own vision of my life as a solo artist.

@SummaGirl1347 2 года назад

You're an option because he already has a woman who is NOT optional. You're an option because he thinks he can do better but, wants to keep you as his fall-back in case he can't get the woman (or man, let's be real) he really wants. You're an option because he wants your money and adoration, but that's all. You're an option because he feels entitled to have any woman he can get something from, no matter how much he hurts you. You're an option because it makes him feel powerful to control you with the promise of a relationship he knows you will never have. You're an option because you have mutual friends and he doesn't want to look like an a**h*le for breaking up with you. You're an option because his family already knows and loves you so, now, he's stuck pretending to still be with you. You're an option because you are not enough to make him want to go all-in and treat you with the respect you deserve.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

@ypanso Год назад

Thats exactly what heppened to me with my ex...

@shantalstone519 Год назад

This one hurt😂

@masterjaimba990 Год назад

Wow this 💯

@babygirltdi Год назад

You said it all!

@kourtney101 2 года назад

It was the "set yourself free!", for me. So many people spend so much time trying to be everything to one person. When haven't even fulfilled what they need to be for themselves.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for your feedback. You're absolutely right!

@WisdomDose 2 года назад

Completely true! And in other cases, they tend to be so focused on looking for who to date that they forget to date themselves. And the reality they mostly failed to learn too early is that, until you are able to date yourself, enjoy your own company, and can tolerate your own demons, you will never, and I repeat, never stand the chance to date someone else properly, love them in the language they understand, tolerate their person, create adjustments for their weaknesses, and learning to accept and adjust to individual differences.

@kourtney101 2 года назад

@@WisdomDose this would be akin to accepting the whole person, which should always be the goal. Why date, why love why Marry if you refuse to keep the whole person (or, partner)? People, we make mistakes, we are human and it's our capacity to thoroughly know our whole self--our weakness,our growth and changes, our partner's--weakness, growth and changes, which will only come as a result of being totally honest with ourselves, first. Vetting yourself requires you to be comfortable with your non-negotiables and to be so consistent in character--spiritual, emotional, social, physical, mental aspects, that to betray yourself, is just not an option, it ain't gon happen! Be honest with yourself, it won't make you weak. if you know you don't want a playboy, talk is cheap, so your actions will demonstrate that you won't entertain one! 💔 everyone to personally know ourselves that when someone breaks our boundary, not just our heart, but a boundary, repeatedly, that this change must now be addressed with a choice. Also, people often loose themselves in a relationship, because they accept someone who's not meant for them. They turn and partner with someone who they believe can be improved and changed by their mere tender, love and care, not realizing that an individual has to want to change on his or her own. ❤️🎊❤️🎉

@WisdomDose 2 года назад

@@kourtney101 This is deep! Thanks for this.

@kourtney101 2 года назад

@@WisdomDose 🙌🏿 🥰

@jen9585 2 года назад

Beloveds, always look at the actions. I was always questioning my position with him until I got tired!!! He can say he will marry me and is in love, but his actions said… You don’t even like me! Thank God I WOKE UP and I have peace ♥️

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

@womenofGod52 2 года назад

So true. This happened to me!

@jen9585 2 года назад

@@womenofGod52 sorry it did sis

@vivianneadisa 2 года назад

So proud of you

@tosinmubarak8646 Год назад

Right 😊

@joshuaharmon6684 2 года назад

I'm very cautious about being just an option, so I tend to friend zone anyone that displays a romantic interest in anyone other than me. It's never been a bad decision, so far.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

@susievelasquez5553 2 года назад

This is helpful. This comment helps me .

@masayuangelanggraini6144 2 года назад

It happened to me right now. He gave me soo much attention. He started the conversation, text me n so on ... one day I introduced him to my girl friend. And the next day, he asked her to hang out with him ... I feel so betrayed. Now he doesn't even text me that often n today is the first time he doesn't reply me eventhough I have problem and he knew about it ... Well I am not his priority clearly. As much as I'm hurt. I still want to stay as friends. I know it is not a good idea. But I will take my time and distance my self first. And I will come back when I feel ok ..

@justfit71 2 года назад

@@masayuangelanggraini6144 if you stay friends you will cause yourself more emotional damage, you have to let it go.

@masayuangelanggraini6144 2 года назад

@@justfit71 yes it is true. But we still meet in class. So it is kindda hard to avoid each other. I will focus on my self instead. Thank you for your concern, I actually feel that right now.

@gaelablake2692 2 года назад

We need to stop putting our selves on clearance. If they cannot afford to be a part of our lives then it’s a “no” for now. Should we discount ourselves? Does this not lower our value? Are we not worth the time and effort? Thanks Stephen for these amazing words of wisdom. ❤️🙏🏽

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!

@rachelphillips5576 2 года назад

If these men stop looking at all these Instagram models and just choose a normal everyday real woman. They wouldn't be so confused

@Didi-fr5ic 2 года назад

Yes I agree 👍

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

@victorianorris1916 2 года назад

Rachel Phillips then they Probably ain’t looking like nothing

@rachelphillips5576 2 года назад

@@victorianorris1916 exactly.

@elyonrg5062 2 года назад

Yes!

@voduah Год назад

"Boyfriend benefits used to be considered husband benefits." On point.

@saraht170 2 года назад

Good insight. Dating is so depressing these days and I’m burned out.Too many mind games, indecisiveness and dishonesty. How do you get excited or motivated to go on a date when the last series of dates have been so disappointing!

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Try changing your focus from dating to learning and you will start to see positive results in your dating experiences!

@saraht170 2 года назад

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you for the advice! If I have a learner mindset On a date I might come of energetically guarded or lack enthusiasm. Will this make my date feel interrogated or feel like I’m not interested

@mpauli12 2 года назад

@@saraht170 that’s a really good question

@MixxxedFruuts Год назад

I feel you on the burnout. It's exhausting. I hope you find what makes you happy and fulfilled, partner or no! ❤️🌈

@annoin Год назад

Lol

@CJ-yt1bd Год назад

Wow!! I listened for 24 minutes and learned that I was right to give up on romantic relationships. I can’t get those wasted years back, however I can focus on bettering myself for a better life. 😊

@oliverivers 11 месяцев назад

I was in a “relationship” with my ex for 8 years, and he never came around to see me and I always found women’s clothes and condoms lying around his place. I stupidly believed his outlandish lies because I was afraid of being alone. After some soul searching, I was able to walk away, and one year later I meet a man who is everything I asked for and more. It’s incredible how we can manifest everything we deserve when we leave what is not meant for us.

@chosenvessels87 2 года назад

Flip the script ladies and stop carrying! Live this life unapologetically happy flowing in your feminine energy! See how the atmosphere shift for the good. The ball is in your court and you hold the power as usual...use it wisely!💜 God is so good!

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

@sarahrichardson3784 11 месяцев назад

I walked away a week ago... left him on a trip. This validated everything i chose to leave. I never spoke to him again.

@abigalestoll 2 года назад

Thank you. It's so sad the way some women would recognize that they're being treated like an option and still allow these men to continue to treat them like they're worthless. It's better to be alone than to be with a man like that.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

It isn't an easy situation but the focus should be on doing what is truly best 🙏

@empress_555 Год назад

1. Never initiates ... 2. Not tries to spend time with you (non sexual time) 3. Never discusses anything about future 4. Excuses over correction...example 12:41 5. Friend zone (good point) 6. Doesn't tries to know more about you 25:00 he may not want commitment, obligation , responsibility 7. If u r insecure, what ur intuition says

@suzanneeigner1906 Год назад

Get out now since it’s not even been 6 months I can do this, everything that’s been shared oohhh I so relate to. Loved the part where one shared about the grass greener and possibly a male he can’t have, oh my, God forgive me and help me help this man by staying the ____ away from him, it’ll hurt some although the feeling stupid is overwhelming at times, Ty Stephen speaks and everyone here, Suzanne

@scaryspaghetti6808 2 года назад

I just broke up with my boyfriend a couple weeks ago. We been on and off for 3 years. And when you said friend zone, that hit me. I haven't seen him in 3 weeks and it's been almost 2 weeks since I've talked to him. I needed to hear this, thank you.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Glad I could help 🙏

@scaryspaghetti6808 2 года назад

@@MeetStephanSpeaks ❤️❤️

@toniwilson8212 2 года назад

Your not his mother sis , sorry , Scary Spaghetti 🍝

@erinjohnson4273 Год назад

The stronger that I get within myself, I no longer initiate, I give the same option. I'm the prize, not an option!

@DrLesiaThePreachasDiviNation 2 года назад

When his actions don’t match his words, please adjust your actions towards him to match his actions too 💅🏾

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

@samanthamichelle7219 2 года назад

Absolutely ❤️ love this topic Sometimes as single women we have to learn to make ourselves a Priority! And not settling for less ! That way we are at a high Vibration and attract a partner that sees our value and shows it 💯💯💯

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!

@starchild4584 2 года назад

Factamundo queen!!!!!

@Kevarcia 2 года назад

Yes ma’am! High Vibration!!!

@kiutpi 2 года назад

When a man tells me he is busy, he has just insulted my intelligence! It's a total turn off.

@lashondarochell7584 2 года назад

Just ended it with a Man because of his busyness he acted as if he wanted a serious relationship he actions proved otherwise and I took myself out of the equation.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

@celiohelder1 Год назад

The last bonus sign made me cry. It’s the actual realization and having to accept that this is actually what it is.

@TheyNeedJesus1 2 года назад

We all desire true love and companionship. However, God's love and self-love will ward off many of these shenanigans. Then, the right one will see us.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

❤ 🙏

@SBThreats 2 года назад

“Then, the right one will see us” that’s the one ! Only God can make it happen !

@Bree5three 8 месяцев назад

Ughh finally the video I was looking for 🙌🏾. I just went through the whole “nice guy that won’t commit” scenario. I left him because something felt amiss (admittedly he had less free time than other men I dated but still, you too busy or too busy for me??) but then I thought of all the little reassurances he would give when I complained or went quiet and doubted if I’d given up on it too soon. Well I doubled back and told him what was bothering me 😅. If it was all a misunderstanding and my failure to communicate my needs before breaking things off let me know and maybe give it another chance, if not, well my intuition was still batting at 1000%. Ultimately, he couldn’t say it with his chest but he wasn’t ready for me to be his sole focus, so I walked away content that I can always trust my gut. Glad this video appeared though, to just give me further confirmation I made the right moves.

@TP-zr3rt 2 года назад

I’m giving up on love, tired of all the games.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Before you give up on dating try changing your focus from dating to learning and you will start to see positive results in your dating experiences!

@beefaye6861 2 года назад

Here here 🍷....I jus QUIT 🙆

@melodyhall6886 2 года назад

Never give up on Love ❤️. God is Love ❤️.

@ayhanaslam3692 2 года назад

My partner won’t break up with me despite giving him chances to end it and I’ve even broken up with him in which he never even responded to it. I had to do it via text because he was no longer being communicative. He claims “it’s not over” but still will never let me know where I stand with him, and now we don’t even communicate or see each other. I know in my heart of hearts, it’s over and I’m working to move on despite the fact that I’m in love with him, and I’m not even going to contact him anymore. I just want to know why men don’t just end their relationships like men and not be so cowardly about it. My heart is so confused, anxiety ridden and I’m deeply heartbroken. I don’t even care to be in a relationship anymore or get married and have children because it’s exhausting. It’s so unfair how men treat women though I know women can do the same. But I was a good woman to him.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.

@JamaicaLove876 2 года назад

There are certain patterns of toxicity that repeat themselves in relationships if it is allowed. If the woman allows herself to be treated as an option and not a priority that will become the foundation of the relationship. If also she pours everything in his cup and he pours little to nothing in her cup that will create an imbalance of lack in the relationship. Ultimately, the woman must decide that the only option is to leave toxicity and find someone who recognizes the value in her & her love.She must also keep her options open to know that settling for a man who undermines her greatness was never a part of God's divine plan for her life. Great points in your video, blessings & light to you.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

❤️ 🙂 Thank you for sharing and may you be blessed as well 🙏

@JamaicaLove876 2 года назад

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Your welcome. & continued success 🙌 to you always.🙏

@iamgoddessoflove 2 года назад

Stop wondering if you are good enough for them. If they don’t value you, they are not for you. 💙RU-vidr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

@Didi-fr5ic 2 года назад

A very hurtful thing that happened to me was this man went cold 🥶 and I questioned myself did I do something wrong 😞 and when you have the guts to go up to that man and ask him if he wants to have coffee and those words come back "I'll let you know"..deep down I knew he wasn't going to do anything..I have been healing and cry maybe once a day, but this shall pass. And this video gave me the answer that what I'm doing Is the right desicion..walking away..not mad at him I wish him well but it hurts. Thank you stephan I hope you find a very beautifull lady one day.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

@christalhardy5137 2 года назад

Facts I do not chase ,I attract!!

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

@lucydaisyandme 2 года назад

GAMES, Games and more GAMES! That’s why I stay single.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

It isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

@beefaye6861 2 года назад

I no....I jus QUIT ✌

@Ravenhill_ 2 года назад

I went through this with someone I was recently dating he started off calling me and texting being consistent and asking me out , all a sudden he changed and became distant I was reaching out calling no response,then it got to point he would try see me week day nights only come down seem like sex but would avoid me weekends or asking me out.I asked him bout this he had nothing to say and didn’t seem to wanna communicate talk or work things out.He would text me I love you etc. But his actions didn’t match . He completely changed towards me treated me like option .And inconsistent.I just had to stop texting or contacting him.I let it go

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

@richricogranada9647 Год назад

Typical behavior of married man

@fayramjaun9785 Год назад

I'm going through this now...3 months in, I feel like this is it where we are at. Thanks for this video, confirmed everything I was thinking. I can't be pouring my energy into someone who doesn't value or appreciate me. Maya Angelou's words ring true: "don't make someone a priority, when all you are to them is an option."

@AkireMaru Год назад

@@richricogranada9647 typical behavior of any man when you give up the goods.

@munchiebrown5289 2 года назад

It's funny because I had a guy actually do all of the things you're saying guys don't usually do when they're treating a woman like an option. But although he was texting/calling me all the time , initiating the dates, bought me gifts, washed my hair , massages, he planned a couple occasions of non sexual time together without me even asking him .. however, I was STILL the side piece.

@tinawalker5335 Год назад

Exactly this is rare but it definitely happens. Some men will truly value their other woman.

@lamaja19 2 года назад

Well said Stephan 👏. Had a man who always skirted the discussion of commitment to avoid obligation. Hurt me alot 💔. However, I learned my lesson. When I tried dating another man, we dated 2 months before we parted. I was proud of myself because I set myself as a priority & he admitted he didn't have time. Since I didn't invest intensely, it was easier to walk away & I'm ok, no bitterness. These videos have been such a great lesson because they teach us how to vet & I applied it. Thank you. 😊

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

I'm happy the videos have been helpful to you and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing 🙏 ❤

@kdvwusm 2 года назад

We all need that ONE Lesson. I had my first and TRUST ME I learned big time. I will NOT invest my emotions so fast on ANYONE.

@sonianichols6900 Год назад

I had the same scenario so true

@katrinadeago1768 2 года назад

If you have ask yourself if youre wasting your time you absolutely are

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

@AureliaBessard 2 года назад

I walked away from a man like that. I don't regret it.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

🙏

@beegee5305 Год назад

I wish I know all this stuff when I first started dating. I was always really shy and reserved so I would just go with the flow. As a result I never got what I wanted out of dating and relationships. The goal is to get everything out on the table. Let them know where you stand and what you want. It will sift out the wheat from the chaff. Thank you Stephan!

@ButterCookie1984 Год назад

"Go with the flow" is the kiss of death.

@charlinecharlostin3188 Год назад

Exactly

@reesebrianne5671 2 года назад

A guy I once liked told me my legs were too heavy for him. I took these heavy legs else where and he deeply regretted saying it. I appreciate him for the honesty. I’ll never dim my light nor hide the lusciousness of my heavy legs for any man or woman.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

@turner2952 2 года назад

Thank you again, Stephan, for your amazing wisdom and sound advice. It is much better to be alone (with God) than to be in an abusive, loveless relationship.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

💯 Yes!

@maceyr.6583 2 года назад

God bless you, Linda. 🤍

@cjtaylor2394 2 года назад

FRIEND ZONE: Excellent point. This will always make you an option. As a friend, men feel that they can get the best of both worlds. He can still have full access and loyalty to you while dating others, with no guilt. I have voluntarily stashed myself in the friend zone so than I could weigh my options as well.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

@wandalaielli3572 2 года назад

So nice to have a partnership with a man who wants to plan and have goals for a future together.Thank you for this content.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

My pleasure ❤️

@jessicaclaraaguilar 2 года назад

I broke up with my fiancé due to his overbearing mother and family dynamics that he hasn’t divorced himself from yet. He wasn’t treating me well either. So I called the wedding off, now he wants to be “friends “. I’m thinking to myself well how can we be friends now and I honestly think a friendship would not benefit me but only him. He is more a distraction for me than anything else and I have goals and a purpose. He is too immature and I don’t need immature friends either.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

@elyonrg5062 2 года назад

Good for you!! You saved yourself from years of misery! This sounds like my situation to a tee and I failed to call it off right from the beginning. I even cried 3 days before the wedding b/c in my spirit I knew marrying him wasn't right and didn't feel right with all of my concerns (lack of maturity, allowing his mother to wear the pants without being able to defend me or set boundaries, no leadership skills, etc). Well, here I am 7 years later and have things changed? Nope! Absolutely miserable since day 1 and I only have delayed dreams/goals (I'm extremely ambitious and he is not), chronic conditions, and other health issues that I've developed from the stress of it all. The ONLY blessings in these hellish years are my 3 beautiful children. I'm reclaiming my worth and purpose, and am bouncing the hell out of this marriage. Gotta be happy, healthy, and whole for my children! You did well.

@latoyamartin1434 2 года назад

Thank you for this Stephan. I came to this conclusion about a month ago. All your points are what I realized/noticed and I ended everything. He was in love with the idea of me but was/is not ready either spiritually, emotionally, or physically, for the reality of me and what that entails.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️

@jayc5756 2 года назад

Yeah, youre right.

@yipeedo372 2 года назад

That's untrue when a man wants you and you are "it" the "one" for him he will make himself ready. It's nice to keep telling yourself that he loves the idea of you, but no you let him go and he was happy to be let go of

@beehunt5864 2 года назад

I was an option, you hit every situation that was going on with this no future relationship of 6 years, thank you for the break-down. I am free!

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

@balaraveadam7986 2 года назад

W-hatsap him⏬⏬⏬⏬⏬

@balaraveadam7986 2 года назад

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@balaraveadam7986 2 года назад

He will definitely help you he have solutions to all problem

@Judybell1959 Год назад

He did that to me after I had breast cancer I was married to him 22 years

@almamorrison192 2 года назад

Stephan I love listening to everything you say because they are so true. You open my eyes to the real way majority of men are. They want their cake & eat it too. Fall in love with a man, they tell you they love you but not showing it. You hit the nail on the head, action speaks louder than words, that is my motto. I've been there before and it hurts especially if you get your heart all tangled up in that man. It's best to be by yourself instead of getting hurt over & over by men or boys. Don't go out there looking for one, pray🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽be patient & wait on "GOD to send you your heart's desire. GOD don't make no mistakes. When he bless you it will be the best.

@KaylyaP 2 года назад

That BONUS sign hit my soul!Because yes that is exactly why I clicked the video for clarity

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

@moniquebrown7437 2 года назад

I’m single 💯%. No strings or drama attached💝 I just simply enjoyed this video and learned a lot💜

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

@ghazalehpadidar-nazar2965 11 месяцев назад

Exactly what I needed to hear, trying to communicate exactly the points you raised …. You confirmed my intuition here 👍🏽

@jacklinekirungi5488 2 года назад

I like these information sessions.They are healing and they help us to stop blaming anyone for the choices we make.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏

@heatherleightruecrimecomingOct 10 месяцев назад

All these are what I'm currently dealing with, the longer u deal with these things, the more it gets worse. Thank you, your my motivation to tell my story.

@yanamoore3028 Год назад

This was very helpful in allowing me to cope with a confusing situation. So grateful for your wisdom.

@eneidamorales9024 Год назад

Oh my God! This is my favorite video. You have saved me Stephan. I walked away. I am reading your book, The man God has for you. Dating at a mature age is very difficult . Too much baggage from both. So much fear making us older adults emotionally detached. Do not stop stephan , I am with you! Thank you.

@josephleo8964 2 года назад

this is how i feel with my wife . its not just men do this it has been one sided for most of our relationship

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

@dianeramey6562 2 года назад

😩😩 Omg Stephan I’ve reached out to you a month ago about this EXACT situation I’m currently dealing with and needed advice then BOOM you’ve answered every thought and worry I had about this. My friend is a really nice guy, very consistent with texting everyday but that’s just IT and my spirit been telling me something is off and isn’t right! He did tell me he wasn’t ready right now and needed more time then after that, he became very awkwardly distant. To watch this and listen to you breaks my heart a little 🥺 but it was DEFINITELY needed to hear. This is my confirmation and all I needed. You spoke on this to a TEA! Thank you so much Stephen for your light and truth ❤️

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

@kassiemarq3928 Год назад

THE SECOND REASON for the friend zone described my situation plain and simple. thank you.

@msdemeanour 6 месяцев назад

Never beg for attention, loyalty or respect. Hold your head high.

@noraconnelly2584 2 года назад

The lines have most definitely been blurred. 💯🙌 The boundaries that society has made "normal" are unhealthy and, if I'm being honest, is the root of so much confusion and hurt in the dating world. I've been on both sides and neither are easy BUT I do my best to lay clear boundaries until I know I'm ready to move to the next level. I've learned lessons the hard way that I trusted the wrong people and got hurt over & over (yes, I made BAD choices in men & yes, it was beacuse I had not healed from my childhood - so many singles today need to heal before dating. They don't realize that their wounds are toxic & contagious. Sad...). It's important to guard our heart, listen to the holy spirit & choose wisely. I enjoy watching your teachings. They are eye opening & I've learned from them. Thank you & God bless🙏🏻☺️🙌

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching and your feedback! Healing is definitely key 🙏

@WisdomDose 2 года назад

I kinda of love your spirit. I pray you get healed as fast as possible!

@Alix_L 2 года назад

Hey Hey 👋 I’m 👋 I’m in I I iiiiih

@Alix_L 2 года назад

👋 iiviiovomito my

@Alix_L 2 года назад

Ijuice vhiii

@ksks8174 2 года назад

Dealt with this option situation weeks ago and I let him go I couldn’t deal with it anymore wished I would’ve known these signs earlier… thank you Stephan 🙏🏻

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

🙏

@73ericabuchanan Год назад

This video is Epic. It's all you need. This one right here is set apart from all of the rest of his videos.Take this from a man and accept it as Truth. Don't accept anything less. Save, download do what you have to do to remind yourself of this before you pick up the phone to call or answer the phone. Trust your gut and not just KNOW your WORTH but EMBRACE it and fall in love with IT!! 💪🏾💪🏾❤️❤️

@dragosbarba1264 2 года назад

Thank you Stephan.I recently got out of a toxic relationship which happens to be my first relationship and your videos help me a lot.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

I'm happy the videos have been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

@loveandlight670 2 года назад

Listening to your videos and reading other comments is relieving in a way. To be able to relate to others. 🕯

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!

@staywellandstrong4199 2 года назад

Wow, Stephan: Your one sentence with telling "O" words riveted me with a very spiritual light - beaming bright and fierce to guide us All. (When he wants the Option and not the Obligation to be with you) Many Thanks, with deep gratitude.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

My pleasure ❤️

@halanicolemayweather409 2 года назад

That's the beauty in dating when your existence is in alignment with your authentication and allowing your needs and desires to align with the purpose of the person that's meant for you. Timing tells all and if your important to this man, he will show you that you are valued in the way he covers you.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

@halanicolemayweather409 2 года назад

@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you for all you do. It's been years of a great journey . Your bay area tour changed my life. 🥂

@mauiloves885 Год назад

Solid, sensible feedback. I have to agree with just about everything you said. It saddens me that women will compromise themselves for someone that doesn't even deserve them. You are a good man. Mahalo !

@flower_7890 Год назад

Your first words are very important, just because someone doesn't choose us it doesn't mean there's something wrong with us, it just means we're not a match...on to the next🙂

@Penelyn Год назад

I appreciate and like watching your videos multiple times, so true and direct to the point. Thank you so much for sharing and helping us, I learned so much about relationship and situation. Also my intuition is so strong and prayer that gives me strength, guide, and do my part.

@lemonawrencher-strong6920 2 года назад

I just about fainted on this one for sure. All I can say is WOW this information is much needed. Thank you. Sigh

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

@morganbarkus 2 месяца назад

The bonus was SPOT on. Thanks for calling it out. 🤯

@Ami-kg2jn 2 года назад

Ugh needed this one as I’m going through this exact situation 😩

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.

@Ami-kg2jn 2 года назад

Thanks! I hope so too

@MeekMeek777 Год назад

I think the guy I liked felt if he did too much I would get deeper in feelings for him. I’m not even sure at this point if he ever liked me at all, but what I do know is I just was not who he wanted. Painful reality, but it is what it is.

@shereennisbeth4305 Год назад

Thank you soooo much Stephan for making these points so clear.

@estilauide1582 2 года назад

That ready to settle down comment is sooo true. It happened to a friend

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

@Wells_isWell 2 года назад

Thank u for this video, i saw it at the right time. I needed to hear this so i can have the strength to let him go and be available to the man who is ready to commit and who actually sees me as the ONLY option. I know that i am a great woman and i know what i have to offer and i will hold onto what u said at the end “you deserve better” its time to stop dealing with the nonsense 🙅🏾‍♀️

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

@michellestuckey8639 2 года назад

You and me ....I need a partner not just an companionship

@letrobertoexplain 2 года назад

I'm currently dealing with this with my girlfriend. It's always felt like I wasn't a priority to her. Her family and her job always come first. She's told me multiple times that I'm a priority and that I'm important to her. Yet, everytime we see each other in person we never have meaningful and genuine conversations because she's "not ready" to talk about certain things. Yet, she's so quick to have sex with me and take off all of her clothes for me. I honestly don't know what to think or do at this point. Tomorrow is my birthday and I'm spending it with her and I honestly don't even feel excited about it.

@reinaquisha9418 2 года назад

Sit her down and let her know exactly how you feel. If you don't think that you can communicate this to her directly, write a letter and give it to her tomorrow. I hope you enjoy your birthday💯✨️

@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 года назад

Tell her the truth. It truly will set you free when you are able to express yourself and get everything off your chest 🙏 Enjoy your birthday 🎂

@letrobertoexplain 2 года назад

Thank you both so much 🙏

@kierstynkj 2 года назад

Some of these videos can apply to women too. I am a woman and can tell you women play games. Or they keep a man around for 🍆 don’t let her use you! If she can’t commit let her go! If she can go deeper with you let her go!

@welllivedlife-desireeg2804 2 года назад

If you are craving a deeper relationship and she isn't capable or not ready, move on. Have a talk with her and if she isn't on the same page as you, do not waste your time. I made up my mind never to settle in a relationship again. I finally found a man who puts as much effort as I do. We make each other and our relationship a priority and we take pride in it. We are very happy together, talking marriage and will have been together 2 years. Don't settle. Life is too short. Best wishes to you.

@feenixphyretheeoriginal 2 года назад

When you spoke on a Man wanting the benefits of a relationship without being in one, I felt that. Recent situationship came to head real quick. He would flip flop saying we're in a committed relationship we just don't live together, then in the same breath say he not my man!! Needless to say in my Remy Ma voice " I had options he made weigh them shits" He found out quick fast. Thanks Stephen 💯