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I don’t see much of what women are doing for men…it’s all about the men giving constantly to the women….uh yes, you can be on different page …I can’t stand a “ yes man” …. I like a man who has his own interests and friends, who loves his family, parents and siblings…who doesn’t always agree with me…because he’s scared of losing me…. I think I am on the wrong channel here. 😉Bye bye 🌻
1. He makes time for you (prime time or crumb time) 2. He’s willing to meet your sexual standard 3. He tries to connect you with the most important people in his life 4. Feeling like he has to be close to you 5. He automatically wants to solve everything for you 6. His willingness to grow to join you 7. He’s willing to fight for the relationship by engaging in healthy debate
I have been seeing a guy for 6 months. I was working and he ask me to take a break. Then on the weekend when I took a break. He then told me his ex girlfriend wanted to see if they could get back together. So he said he felt like he needed to see if he still has feelings for her. They spent the weekend together. And he told her that if they got back together. It would include getting married. But he wanted me to hang around and if it didn't work out, then he wants me to forgive him and take him back. He always opened doors, brought me a rose and said he loved me. So what does this say about us. He met my family during Christmas, I met one of his son's and his neighbor. But now I do not feel special. I still care, but I don't want to be a second prize or the left overs.
@@janiceminor6879 what the hell???? How entitled is he??? I'm glad you didn't agree to that, it's insane. He needs to figure his life out and what he really wants. You go ahead and live yours, you can do so much better and you deserve way better than that. ❤️❤️ Go and make yourself happy
He also should have a group of friends, for example, athletes, musicians....to gain his individual self, personality and viewpoint about some skills. If a woman wants a guy sitting on the couch all day with her, then she can not be surprised he becomes boring or bored...and then she becomes bored and she starts to be disrespectful for no reason. Some movies portray such relationships, where a woman is commanding a guy when he should go home etc Well if he is responsible he will come at a reasonable time. But he is not some possession. If you give freedom you get freedom....Sometimes the love is even stronger if there is a bit of distance because she makes sure he has his own group of friends and he also cares about her having her own activities. and then they even have a fun topic to talk about. Then their kids do it in the same way, they become respectful and creative. As psychologists say human brain developed over thousands of years through communication and socialization because thanks to conversation face to face the body releases hormones. So the more friends he has the more skills he has and a sense of humor. Both should have their own individual worlds of some craft, to gain wisdom, humor, and personality.
All of the qualities you listed, for both sides, but don't forget that relationships are much like a roller coaster. Once you're in them they scare you, excite you, make you laugh, then cry, and then takes your breath away! But then at the end you say, "What a ride!" Make the small efforts every day, it matters, show respect to each, never lose the love. This from a widow, married 40 years.
I think it all comes down to when you know in your gut that he would drop everything to help you, or rearrange everything just to be with you and/ or include you. Guys that like you but don’t love you are just not invested enough to do that. They’re going to be “too busy” and “very sorry.” They ultimately don’t really mind disappointing you.
Yes my partner excluded me from something, despite knowing it meant the world to me, and I said that for three days and he still did nothing to help me be a part of it period that was the beginning of the end
These are dead on! My husband did and still do all of these. One of the signs for me also was, how he dealt with me when we didn’t see eye to eye. He never blows or behave crazy, he always maintains level of maturity and mindfulness of taking my feelings and emotions into consideration. Always maintaining that we aren’t going to bed angry. WE ARE GOING TO TALK IT OUT.. lol As for me from a female aspect I noticed that he just brings out my femininity, this is a quality I haven’t had with any other man. It allows me to treat him with respect, love and care naturally. Love your work keep the videos coming!!
Exclusiveness. No other men interest me when I am in love with him. Unlike many other women, married or otherwise, I just stop looking at other men because I am completely satisfied because I understand him deeply and don’t want invest time in anyone else.
Exactly this! I don’t flirt with other men. I don’t start ‘friendships’ with other men. He’s the man in my life and there is an absolute boundary there for me.
I've been seeing my girl for a month and all of these signs are present in my behavior. I know it's been a short time, but I feel it in my gut that she is the one and I haven't been this happy in years! We met at a club and i knew, from rhe moment she took my hand, that I was safe. The incredible thing is that she feels the same way and now I can't imagine my life without her.
As I listen to these videos that talk about how a man feels when he is in love with his woman, I'm realizing that my ex-boyfriend really loved me and I was so blinded by my childhood trauma that I couldn't see it, just doubt it. Our pain can be our worst nightmare. Wishing everyone that experience pain in the past can open oneself for the experience of receiving love, expressing it and living it to the fullest ❤ thank you so much for the clarity, Mat, it's liberating ❤
When I had an awful cramp in my leg. He didn't say anything but quietly went out to get something to ease the pain. He just saw what I needed. That's special. It's never happened for me before I was used to being ignored but this one is special and we are so on the same page.
My husband and I are from different culture. My love for him is allowing him to have his space among other things. One time, I couldn’t understand what’s going with him. So, I told him that if he finds our relationship not working and wanted a divorce. I’ll accept it bcuz I love him. I even said. We come together for LOVE. We can divorce thru LOVE too. That wasn’t good answer. And, our Marriage lasted for 46 years. My beloved passed last year and this month is his first death anniversary. I would say. My being good crazy wife lasted our marriage. Put fun into it. Peace and love to everyone.
1) He will make time for you( Is he giving you prime time or crib time, duration). 2) He is willing to meet your sexual standard.He is not going to shame you for on. He will wait for you. 3) He tries to connect you with the most important people in your life. 4) Feeling he want you to be close to you. 5) He is trying to solve problems for you. 6) His willingness to grow- He wants to grow with you. 7) His not willing to fight with you- Engage in healthy debate-Because he want us to be on the same page.
A guy I just met a couple weeks ago. Really puts in the effort with me. For our first in person meeting he carefully selected the restaurant where we were going to meet for lunch. He knew I like to eat outside by the water. He made sure we could do that. We live in Florida but we a both from Maryland which has a sizable seafood culture. He cooked blue crabs 🦀 for our 2nd date. For our 3rd he cooked scallops with farolillo Parmesan cream sauce (delicious) and yesterday he cooked ham and bean soup. Also delicious. We’ve had some very deep discussions. He’s intellectually my equal. He takes great care with me.
My Fiancé has arranged to get out of the Army early For Me. He told me that he had a surprise for me. I didn’t ask because I wanted to be surprised . After a few months he couldn’t contain himself so he told me- He’s already bought us a House across country. So I’m selling my house as we speak & moving to be with Him. Every Great descriptor that you state describes Him.
When I'm really in love with a man, (actually happened, once) I write poetry! It pours out from my heart and the love becomes prose and the rhyming, it just flows...and my love, it just grows!
Upon his breakup/just want to be "friends" decision, I shredded my heart in poetry, it was the hardest thing I ever survived. We talk on each other's birthdays, but I'm afraid to open my heart back up to him.
I had really bad cramps and that was unusual for me. My husband seen how bad I felt and went to the store got me heat pad, midol, chocolate, anything to make me feel better. He does things like that and it's amazing!
Thanks, Mat! When I am in love, I just want my man to be happy, to see a smile on his face. Accepting him the way he is. In my current relationship I’ve just discovered how beautifully it feels when the partner is accepting me with all my emotions, with all imperfections. He gives me freedom to be myself and it’s priceless. At the same time we are both vocal, when it gets to personal boundaries being violated. It is always only a warning without any attempt to push the other person to change. Because this relationship is so important to each of us, I see, how he evolves to meet my standards (his deliberate choice) and on my side it’s totally the same. 🙂
I 100% agree. My man is so shy and awkward but I love him for who he is, even if I don’t get to see him as often as I’d like. I know he thinks of me and would drop everything for me if /when I needed him ❤
When I start to have feelings for a man, I start to have a desire to see, understand, and know his inner heart, the hidden side of him that outward actions may not reveal. To know what motivates him, what he values, desires, cares about. I want to know more about this man's character qualities. If he has an honest, compassionate, genuine sense of right and wrong, a moral compass that points north, so to speak, he catches my attention and holds it! He doesn't have to be perfect, I'm sure not, we all have inconsistencies and imperfections, but is it, generally speaking, the tendency of his life and heart? A man who has these qualities, may, at first notice, be of average physical attractiveness in my first estimation, but when he possesses an honorable character, and, if his character traits spark an admiration and respect for him, his physical attractiveness goes way off the charts!! I don't know why, but it seems to work that way for me. The world is full of attractive men that "Catch your eye" but a man like this, holds it and keeps it. If he also has an attractive personality with masculine, attractive mannerisms, unique to him, and him alone, he will be on my mind a great deal.
I love it when a man makes me laugh. When a man shows class by not making a spectacle out of me - I appreciate his diplomatic side. And when he remembers what I like most about him, and he presents that side to me - all is right with the world.
This is not true. Sometimes someone loves you but the fear of losing you is too much (combined with their own fears) perceived pain so they express parts of these but he never fully let's go. Now when this goes on in perpetuity, it won't ever work unless he steps up. But this does exist.
You asked us women what we are like when we're in love. I have a big smile on my face and love to brag about all the cute and amazing things I love about him
When I’m in a new relationship I love being there for him I’m every way possible! Attentive, intuitive and engaging in healthy conversation with him and if he’s sick I’m there, if he needs some help with anything I’m there! I want him to know it as well that I have his back!
Hi Mat, thank you for sharing this. For me, when a man makes me a priority even though he is busy at work. When he is putting effort in the relationship and willing to grow, not leaving when having disagreements. he is ready to fight for me, even with his family or friends unless I’m wrong.
Nope, Mat is not telling you the entire truth. A lot of Guys are on their purpose, goals and had for example a bad experience with a "crazy ex" in the past. Mostly, these are the Guys, who are not chasing women at all. They interact with women, but are more focused on their goals in stead. Not looking for a relationship. They might find you attractive, but will not act on it. They will treat you as any other person at first. For some reason a lot of women find this very attractive. In this case you will have to chase him, become his friend and show him your values, being authentic. It might take some time, but he will slowly open up and make time for you, if he appreciates you.
When I’m in love with a guy, I feel Amazingly energized! I’m hopeful and positive! I’m more open, and really interested! I am considerate of him, and willing to really listen to what he says, the things that really mean something to him! I like to make him happy, and feel good! I love to cook what he likes! I feel more in love with him, when he cares equally about what’s important to me, and things I need!
Each flower represents the universe in its entirety. Each woman holds the potential to become a true deity, capable of spreading true love and transforming the world into a better place. On the other hand, when the world is broken and ignorant, it reflects the absence of true love. True love knows no bounds in all dimensions, transcending all beings, sexuality, and temporal and spatial differences. It unifies and resonates deeply at all levels - emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually. This soul-deep connection is akin to Plato's concept of love. Hence, one can never regret embracing all-encompassing love, for it is the foundation of our existence. For a man, discovering true love means supporting and elevating their inner deity, leading to a journey of self-discovery and fulfillment.
I bombed my almost relationship. I knew he was falling in love with me, and showed all these signs, but I tried to keep things cool. More of it was "I was afraid". I had self-esteem issues. He still keeps in touch with me but I wish I hadn't been so scared. I kind of hope he tries again.
When you realize you're doing things you never did before. He's very sweet and attentive, and I realize I'm mirroring his behaviors. He's a romantic, and I've never been, but apparently I am now... I find myself doing little sweet things for him. I find myself paying attention to details so I can figure out the next sweet thing to do. Watching romantic movies, which I've never been a mushy girl. When we're together, I need to physically be connected even if it's just resting my fingers on his arm.
When I'm in love you see me smiling alot, trying to get as close as I can as possible to him, me just showering him compliments & me talking about him alot. Thanks now I know the signs when a guy is in love with me..!! Thanks alot Matt, have a wonderful day 🙂🙂
My husband showed all these signs, plus he picked up the phone and actually called me frequently. Still to this day he calls me within 10 minutes of him getting off work.
My husband works the night shift and called me up to 6 times a night. I was very annoyed because he disturbed my sleep. After your video I see it differently now. He does this for love...
My ex would literally shut down. My current boyfriend soon to be ex also does not discuss. My experience is that men are afraid of an upset woman. I don’t yell. I’m upset if he flakes on a time to meet. Who wouldn’t be. But he’s already introduced me to his family and childhood friends. I’ve express that this style of conflict resolution, basically, ignoring the pink elephant in the room does not work for me. I’m moving on. It hurts but I’m slowly decreasing contact.
When I'm in love I want to do things with my man and I only want to certain things with him. I think of things that will make him smile. All i want to do is make him happy.
I am truly and deeply in love with a certain guy. I listen to all he says and remember it all (and he was surprised!), follow all he does and praise and support him at it, compliment him truthfully. When he needs to vent or he seems discouraged, I listen to him and advice him. I am always there for him if he needs me.
1. He makes time for you. ✖ prime time ✖ or crumb time ✔ duration ✔ 2. He's willing to meet your sexual standards. ✔ 3. He tries to connect you with the most important people in his life. ✔ 4. Feeling he has to be close to you. ✔ 5. He automatically becomes Mr. Solves Alot. ✔ 6. His willingness to grow. ✔ 7. He's willing to fight for the relationship by 'fighting' with you. ✔ I'm in love with my bf so I do these: I want him to know my family and friends. I want to learn about his hobbies and engage in them, with him. I have his back. I'm in his corner cheering him on. I do things to help him, ei: taking meals to his elderly mother, or running errands for him. I create fun unexpected things for us to do together.
It's now( slow learner@ 62!!)- About Space & time & NOT Controlling out of neediness. I've done lots of inner work on my Fears of rejection & abandonment...so then I can allow my man time to breathe, relax & to Think Especially after work!! I believe also in the "Attachment theory" An an avoidant/ or an anxious clinger. Having my Own hobbies that aren't necessarily his. Always being as grateful as I can be Glass half full.
this last part, remind you are engaging, is really helpful! coming from a kind of insecure/anxious/avoidant attachment I tend to get overwhelmed by emotions, when I feel angry then I tend to think I don t want to deal with him any more and I do that with friends and family asset. I have learnt and I know its just my reaction and there are shades between black and white. it can be debated.
My patience, honesty, doing things together through investment, willingness to talk things out when it’s sour, looking out for the positive side, respect, understanding and knowing that we don’t have to agree on everything to be happy shows am into it.
from a stubborn person who fights alot... he's not wrong. Sometimes in a relationship with your partner, you're wanting to just fight with them until you have the last word. Or walk away from them and say nothing at all. Then have them come back to you asking: why don't you listen? Or what was that for? And then in the meantime things start to get better and tempers are slowing down and it's like the fights and arguments never happened.
1 makes time 1a prime time vs crumb time 1b duration 2 meets your sexual standard with respect 3 connect you with the important people in his life 4 feels like he has to be close to you 5 Capt solves a lot
My signs that I'm in love with a guy or very interested ... * I trust him enough to be vulnerable in his presence and reveal things that I don't reveal to other people * When there's sexual chemistry, I have difficulty looking him in the eye, so I look down and smile * I become physically animated with excitement, so I might need to go for a run or do some cleaning to release the energy * All my senses become heightened, so I become extremely sensitive to touch, smell, taste, hearing, sight * I blush, come out in red blotches on my neck, chest, and face * This will sound weird, but part of me wants to run away. I'm a very independent person and I like my space and alone time, so, when I'm falling for someone and want to be with them, my independent streak kicks in even more and says "what the f**k are you doing?" * Generally speaking, I don't want to introduce him to my family, especially in the early stages of a relationship, because I'm worried that my family will ruin my/our happiness.
#7 is sooo deep 🥺 thanks for making this clear. And now i really wanna let him go. Cause he's not putting energy and effort to fix this. 😢 10year relationship 😢
My Sweetheart and I had it rough in the beginning because of trust issues -- mine not his!! He was very patient with me and after a few months I learned that I could TOTALLY TRUST HIM. We of course don't agree on everything but we both are very honest and respectful with each other so our disagreements don't last long. BTW: make up sex is AMAZING. We are planning on getting married soon and we are very happy 😊
I see a conflict: he says to not cancel your plans for him. But he draws attention to if “he” (the guy) carves out time for you indicating you are a priority to him. I guess it’s a target but use good judgment because it’s a two-way street.
Loved this video Mat !! You made so many great points. I especially loved hearing about how when your wife met your friends and it went so well - could you perhaps expand on this in another video? I always get nervous meeting a romantic interests friends/ family, I feel like I'm not able to be 100 per cent myself as I'm so worried about coming across as polite. Any advice or tips on how to meet and connect with his family and friends, whilst being the best version of yourself? Thank you again.
I knew I was in love with the man who became my husband when I was sick and wanted him making and bringing me the chicken soup. We were a couple if time zones away so that wasn't happening, but I looked and felt terrible and I didn't care if he saw me that way.
I have been in toxic and abusive relationships the majority of my life. I recently, after years of being single and to the point of thinking I would remain single the rest of my life and be perfectly happy with it, me someone. We are in the very early stages of our relationship, less than six months. I had an issue and immediately shut down, my behavior changed, he noticed it. He did something that noone ever has before, he let me and wanted me to tell him what was on my mind. Being in toxic and abusive relationships all my life, I hesitated very adamantly, because of the fear of the escalation. He had the opposite reaction, he listened, he acknowledged and didn't get defensive or mad. Needless to say, this guy got some serious brownie points. He is willing to work with me because he knows the history I've had. That, to me, is love.
I am looking at the 3rd video,and totally absorbed in all that has been discussed.A real and true experience for anyone looking to start ,or improve their relationship,
When I think I'm in love... Smile...laugh out loud alot when I'm alone..and think of our time on phone ..in person.... heart beats faster...look forward to next time
When I'm in love with a man, I want to make him feel taken care of. I want him to feel like when I'm around, he is able to relax. I want to make him feel like someone is putting his needs in the forefront of their priorities.
I meet that kind of guy.. but he is new separated to his wife. But he always do things like what you said.. Sometimes in his busy job he have time for me to see or call me without important reason.. but i am her employee and he is my employer.. His mode will change than before. What should I think now.. is he like me??.
Mat please!! A video explaining meticulously what is a narcissist and how they behave. Many people with paranoia now thinking everything that everyone else does is because they are a narcissist... 😂
Completely agree. 🌟 Can you talk about... how texting or virtual connections like messenger, even the phone are NOT making time. I see too many women in virtual relationships. If A man doesn't want to meet face to face.... phone or texting is not making time. Too many women fall for the potential or the possibility... of word promises.... for years. I know 4 different women in this. please address this.
Am watching this cuz I already know he doesn't love me anymore,and the last one is very true ,I know more argue with my husband I can't put the energy am done I thought I was just tired of fighting but am actually done thx for the lovely video
I know what you mean. I started to be unwilling to give more of myself in the relationship I am and am not at the same time. I understood it was not worth it the day the boyfriend said « Here we go again » after I asked something totally legitimate. I never ask any questions. I never was his priority. His work comes first. I have been with him for 9 years now without any kind of results. I live alone. He never slept at my place neither. I had time to do a bachelor degree and finishing a PH.D in metaphysics. I invested in myself, not in him. I lost interest in knowing him also. Broken promises all the time. Now, I just answer his texts if he writes if I have time. That is what it gave him. I will not be there when he is ready to settle down. He taught me so well that I was on my own that I now own it! 🙏🙇♀️
7 signs He's in love with You. Behaviours he has. 1. He makes time for you. ❌ Prime time or crumb time. ✔ Duration. ❌ 2. He's willing to meet your sexual standards. ✔ 3. He tries to connect you with the most important people in his life. ✔ 4. Feeling like he has to be close to you. ❌ long distance making plans to be together ✔ 5. He automatically becomes Mr Captain Solves Alot. ✔ 6. His willingness to grow/meet you where you are. ✔ 7. He's willing to fight for the relationship by fighting with you. ❌(we don't fight, have never fought) For me, in dating I showed what I can bring into his life. Love. Adventure. Fun. Friendship. Etc. Once we were exclusive, I looked to see where I can fill spots in his life where there are vacances. Example. Making his lunch and dropping it off to him. Or helping him garden.
Mat, my husband was like this 23 years ago...now it's none of this. We have slowly grown apart. I don't want this relationship to die like you mentioned.Any advice??
I like the info you present and the way you present it. Would you point me to resources for a couple in their 40s who have been married for 20 yrs? Our relationship is good, but something seems missing. We could use a few pointers. Thanks for sharing and doing what you do!
Aaw.. will you please make a video of your relationship long distance and everything how it all played out? So special:) God bless your family and the pictures are so cute…
PLEASE show and talk about “Seniors”.! I am a 70/yr/old Queen-ager, footloose and fancy free & dating on-line is lackluster at best. There are so MANY Baby Boomers out here Mat. Suggestion: a mini series on Us.
I’ve met his parents in our first week of dating met his daughter and Al his closed friends four months into a relationship and he change his status to in a relationship with me on FB
If he does these things in the beginning of the relationship is it love bombing? Or maybe he's just going through a dark phase and he's needy? He can't love you if he hardly knows you. Doing Break Free program and only just finished my Air Journey. I wonder if I'm still attracting wrong guy. Some things are right but some things are...idk. How to slow people down at the beginning 🤔
So slow men down in the beginning let him know you’re the kind of person who likes to take to take things slow. And give him an ambition line, which means if he wants to get physical before you’re ready tell him “that’s”something you’re saving for when you’re (insert standard) example: exclusive and in love OR been dating for a few months. Great work taking the break Free program, give yourself time as it takes some time for your entire being to integrate what you’re learning.
@@matboggs Thanks so much Matt for your response 😊 I guess its not the physical im worried about but the "All in" mentality when he or we are not in a position to be all in. Especially so soon. It makes me wonder if I'm attracting the wrong men or if its the wrong time 🤔