7 "NICE GIRL" Habits ALL WOMEN Must Break! | Relationship Advice for Women by Mat Boggs

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Mat Boggs shares relationship advice for women and 7 "nice girl" habits all women must break!
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Let's talk about "NICE GIRL" habits that give men the wrong impression.
Your new man doesn’t see these overly “nice” behaviors as a positive sign. He sees them as proof that you don’t respect yourself enough.
Want to find out if you’re being too nice? I'm sharing the top 7 nice girl habits with you today, so you can recognize them and move away from giving the impression that you’re anything less than the beautiful, powerful woman you are.
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As a sought-after dating and relationship coach for women and international speaker, Mat Boggs has helped thousands of women understand men, improve their relationships, and attract the relationship they want.
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@matboggs Год назад

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@Bigred338 2 года назад

We are living in a sad world ,when it's considered to be " bad" when you are just a kindhearted ,helpful person 😔

@Tymala1 Год назад

Kind hearted men will be attracted to you. It is a win win situation. This is not synonymous with being a pushover or desperate. Being kind to each other without games is what a relationship should entail. If you want a jerk who acts like a dick but will keep you because you passed his test of not tolerating his shit then stick with these games. Better to just have someone who treats you good in the first place snd doesn’t fault you for being nice and liking him “so early”.

@sandracarli1110 Год назад

I think we can be kind hearted and spontaneous with other women but with men it's a different story.

@Dbb27 Год назад

Being kind hearted is totally different than what he described. Jumping into bed before you are ready isn’t being ‘nice’.

@daniellehaythorne7949 Год назад

You are on the right track and this video is wrong. It is not your job to manage the guys’ self esteem. You go on your dating journey and be kind, be nice. Be you. Be authentic. Learn from your mistakes and grow as you go. Treat men with respect and allow them to treat you with respect. If you are nice and he can’t handle it, it’s not because you have low self-esteem. It’s because he has low self-esteem.

@lydiakehiloe544 Год назад

(sigh)

@kaoutartalbi5258 2 года назад

1- Saying "yes" to the instant relationship 2- Canceling your plans to accommodate his schedule 3- Try to get him to like you before you know if you like him 4- Saying yes to sex before you're ready 5- Investing more in the relationship than he does 6- Giving undeserved second chance 7- Self diminishing behavior

@juliafisher5844 2 года назад

@@abdullahiayala7365 was it Matt?

@angeliquebrown3067 2 года назад

I appreciate you! Lol

@katemiller5990 2 года назад

@@juliafisher5844 😂👌🏼

@kimgordon3695 2 года назад

ThankYou

@kimgordon3695 2 года назад

#8 8:00

@tracymoss7210 Год назад

This is not just about attraction. This is about respect. If you respect yourself, he will have to respect you to keep you. You teach people how to treat you. You can be kind and still be assertive.

@HekateCirce 2 года назад

I'm sure Mat's intention generally is for women to do their inner work via his teachings, and this is overall solid advice. My only issue with it is the complete lack of mentioning of the deeper-seated factors usually responsible for such a behavior in a woman -- like the fact that women who behave in the way described in this video are typically doing so out of a profound association with the fawn survival response, which most likely had been picked up early on during the formative years. Make no mistakes -- something extraordinarily disturbing has to happen to a person for them to begin operating under the fawn response. This response is commonly associated with Stockholm Syndrome, so there's that. And we haven't even mentioned attachment styles yet... so much of the described in this video has to do with an Anxious attachment style, maybe even a Fearful Avoidant attachment style. Here's the issue with taking the advice given in the video without doing deeper work: it's a recipe for heartbreak. I know many women who ARE anxiously attached, and thus ARE genuinely hungry (even desperate) for connection. Because connection with others is their ultimate agenda, these women would do anything to ensure people not leaving them. They would hear the advice in this video and simply mimic it, without attempting to do any deep healing around it. They would take Mat's description of a self-respecting woman and sell an illusion of themselves being that, misleading the men they're with into thinking they are one thing... when in reality what they're about is something entirely different. Then, when one of these men finally finds out how clingy his woman actually is (and secretly has been all along), he will feel misled. A lot of women only reveal their attachment wounds AFTER marriage, when it's too late for the other person to back out. And you know where it goes from here... heartbreak, divorce, separation. Instead of simply mimicking this smart advice, I would recommend actually doing DEEP inner attachment work, so that you actually FEEL like you aren't desperate for a man's attention, approval or whatever else. Faking it is not enough. If you are operating under the fawn response, constantly "people-pleasing", it is because you had gone through something disturbingly traumatic during your formative years. Believe me when I say, no one is born dysregulated. Our early traumas are what cause us to misalign. Heal from deeper inside.

@helenep2672 2 года назад

I agree with you. People pretend to get what they want but cannot maintain it in the long run because that substance is absent. It's not about getting it, it is about maintaining it.

@MissUniverse1111 2 года назад

I broke down and cried after reading this,God bless you 🙏❤️ Update:dear Annette, I just want to thank you for opening my eyes,ever since I read your comment I decided to do the inner work,it's really hard to go and look back, digging up all the hurt from my childhood but it has been worth every tear I shed,I'm not healed but I've atleast taken the step towards authentic healing and I have you to thank for that,so thank you and God bless you ❤️

@sowmyacpati 2 года назад

@@MissUniverse1111 same here

@NightNekomata 2 года назад

Yeah I realize that. He's talking more about the visible behaviors instead of the underlying causes.

@seemadar4331 2 года назад

This is great! Yes inner healing is essential(deep inner attachment work )before stepping into the world of dating. It's not an easy journey but a lot of patience is needed. 🙏🌸

@laurelmalinowski1676 2 года назад

I’ve rooted out a lot of men by having boundaries. And when I haven’t set boundaries things have felt wrong. So stick to your boundaries, ladies.

@janettim9581 2 года назад

Hello my relationship is fixed back again my ex is back to me we love and happily together, I got help from a great Dr Kelly who brought us back together. and if you need any kind of help he can help you❤️❤️🙏🙏

@janettim9581 2 года назад

Whats@app him now^_^^_^^_^

@Eunice_welkingsly 2 года назад

This is so true

@manuelasantner5519 2 года назад

@Samson Omiunu If in a forest you meet the same tree twice, you know you have gone the wrong way ... So why should people pay money to get back with an ex? An ex is an ex for a reason. No need to prolong something that didn't work in the first place.

@dawnstonerock4253 2 года назад

Amen!!

@chantellewilson9497 2 года назад

Ladies this is true it’s called being a high value woman, you always put yourself first. you are the one person that you spend your whole life with . “He’s got to earn the right” on point 💯. Great video

@juliafisher5844 2 года назад

@@abdullahiayala7365 was it Matt ?

@juliafisher5844 2 года назад

@Atoo Timothy Aondonenge is it Matt?

@rms5993 2 года назад

As a woman I resent the phrase "high value woman." We all should strive to value ourselves highly. Why do we have to be snobby about it and separate "high value woman" from someone you may see as not being "high value." Everyone is worthy of respect, and self-respect without judging ourselves or someone else.

@kristinamorelli6945 2 года назад

Always put my happiness first. Guy has to earn me. Not the other way around

@graceonesimus7184 2 года назад

Whats@app him now^_^^_^^_^

@aviatrix007 Год назад

When I was dating my now husband, I remember telling him clearly that I didn’t believe in sex before marriage and that if he disagreed with that, he needed to think about whether he wanted to continue dating me because I wasn’t going to be bending the rules. He never had any girl tell him that before. It helped that we had already established a friendship but he said he had no choice in the matter (I was my own boss). He respected me for standing up for myself and told me so. I never went out of my way to force someone to like me; it never felt right. The more I stuck to my standards, the more quality men I attracted. There are too many boys out there in need of training but we ain’t their mommas; it’s not our job to train them into gentlemen.

@Raquel-jv1hi Год назад

I got married to the guy that I had sex with on the second date. 😂 We were married for 16 years. Each to their own.

@aviatrix007 Год назад

@@Raquel-jv1hi the point is stick to your standards whatever they be. As long as you do that, you’re golden.

@_Morri_ Год назад

To sum it up: don't be a doormat. Solid advice for both men and women.

@karinaasvolinsque5239 Год назад

I can attest to all of this: I’ve never been a “nice girl” and always said no when I didn’t felt comfortable to do something. I never had problems dating or getting a guy’s interest. I would also add this: if you show interest and he becomes colder he is either: (i) not that interested; (ii) trying to manipulate you. Pull back and he’ll come running back, but girl, it’s not worth it.

@thekatigaming 2 года назад

Former "nice girl" here and omg your points are spot on! I used to do all of those in order to feel like I was attracting someone, but all I was doing was hurting myself and ultimately hurt my self worth and self esteem. I took some time away from the dating scene, and recently got back into it. A guy I was interested in just kept bringing up sex constantly and he didn't respect my boundaries, so I let him go. It took me years to realize my worth, but I don't want someone like that in my life. I have myself and I have been able to see my worth

@johniron7362 2 года назад

Hi my relationship is fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together.......

@Vickzq Год назад

I have hardly ever seen a nice girl. Women are only nice to Chad and Tyrone... and then cry when getting ignored.

@Freya778 Год назад

Good for you girl 😁!

@janbarrett4544 Год назад

Your video is misleading,in many cases untrue and gives poor advice.

@etcwhatever Год назад

Well most men just want sex. This is why most religions forbid pre marital sex. Im following Gods way...they can lead themselves out of my life. I want a godly man who wants to know each others qualities, problems, likes and dislikes, life projects. Not some perv. Those are easy to find anywhere

@blue4u2054 2 года назад

Guilty as charged. Another important thing is that being "nice" doesn't make one a "good" person. In fact, most often, "nice" boys/girls will eventually have a lot of unresolved anger and resentment. We don't say what we want to say, we don't prioritize ourselves, we are not assertive even when required....and all of that leads to a weird discomfort building up inside. It makes us vent our anger on someone close to us (our parents, best friends, kids, etc). Or worse, it turns some of us into sociopaths. This is such an important video for young girls everywhere!

@TeamCat1128 2 года назад

Well said!

@yourancientancestor 2 года назад

Most concisely put comment on the topic I've ever seen across several platforms. Reddit needs to hear this lol

@stacyr4768 2 года назад

So true .

@SoniaAlese 2 года назад

Yes, there is a big difference between "being nice" and "people-pleasing".... the feeling the need to people please and having a lack of good boundaries can leave you feeling used, resentful, etc....and those doing nice deeds only because then they think the other person will automatically "owe them" is also unhealthy thinking.

@noelle457 2 года назад

You are absolutely right.

@SoniaAlese 2 года назад

People-pleasing isn't always just "a lack of confidence" though, in many cases it is something developed as a response to childhood trauma. Kids abandoned may become overly pleasing because they are desperate for someone to love them (they feel unlovable). Kids who are abused (physically, mentally, emotionally etc...) need to become "empaths" and always pick up on others' upset feelings, needs/desires and try to make them happy, because growing up they had to keep their abusive families happy, otherwise they would be beaten or have other bad things said or done to them. And sexually abused kids struggle most of all with extreme people-pleasing and struggle with saying no to sexual situations, they don't know how to set boundaries- and let's be honest here, so many men are super pushy when women do set boundaries and make it difficult to say no, because they continue to try to talk you into sex after youve said no and come up with all kinds of reasons, yet they just don't stop. It can be understandable if someone has been hurt in the past they may be scared and give in more easily and be over pleasing/accomodating. I am not saying there may not be some women who just enjoy sex though and simply want to. But he seems to miss this big point that people-pleasing and lack of good boundaries is usually from trauma in childhood (which affects 30% of the US population was abused as kids). They are just so used to people-pleasing everyone, they end up with people who are users /not good for them often too. I think the best advice would be to tell them to go to therapy and work on their issues first. Then they truly can break free of people pleasing or as you call it "nice girl syndrome"... just my 2 cents on the topic.

@sayunasoulmesseng839 Год назад

You are right in most ways, only the rate of abuse is wayy higher!! In most cases 70%

@baarons93 Год назад

Not to discredit this, but describing the cause of low self confidence doesn't mean that it's not low self confidence. Knowing the why doesn't negate the point he made.

@deborahgellineau7276 Год назад

The video is eye open ending and the behaviors I want to grow towards. I agree that soul searching and some healing first is very necessary for many women.

@2okaycola Год назад

Yep. Try saying no to a hike after saying no 5 times

@alexandral6997 Год назад

@@baarons93 I agree with you. 👍

@gwortman3515 2 года назад

I realize that all I really have is myself and I am of the most importance in my life. This enables me to take great care of myself spiritually and physically. I radiate with love and desire. Smiling is extremely important to me and it actually changes chemicals in the brain to support self love and acceptance. I am 61 and have so many men asking me out...all you gotta do is love yourself and the floodgates open to a river of possibilities.

@jinglejules4160 2 года назад

Thank-you for posting this. It gives me strength!

@gwortman3515 2 года назад

@@valentinanocross8677 hi yes..well these men are all around us..when you begin to practice genuine self love and acceptance they just appear!! At the park, at the gym, in the grocery store and online dating to name a few. It's all about loving yourself and then manifesting the man you would love to have in your life. So far, out of hundreds there is one that I pray for God to continue bringing us closer. It's been almost a year since I met him. He's ghosted me at times, ignored me sometimes and I refused to let his actions change the way I felt inside. I know these actions were not about me but instead issues he is experiencing I just keep coming from a place of love, understanding and patience. We as women have to stop worrying about the outcomes of desires. Just put them out into the universe..believe in yourself and God will work magic for you. I will get my man..in a slow and enduring kind of way.

@abdullahiayala7365 2 года назад

Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together

@juliafisher5844 2 года назад

@@abdullahiayala7365 was it Matt?

@juliafisher5844 2 года назад

@Christina Megan was ot Matt?

@charlitaschuster9009 2 года назад

I am glad you did this video. I always think highly of myself . Just recently I was dating a man and we went out on two dates and he was very upset that I was not willing to be touched and kissed by him . Finally he asked me to have sex. I told him that I don't encourage in any sex with a person I don't even know. He never came back So happy I have high expectations for myself and make me frist..

@umarfaruk8012 2 года назад

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@rosannarichardson7951 2 года назад

I love this. I hate how they waste your time though when you made it clear from the beginning. If they’re looking for something else they can definitely find it, they don’t have to trick us. Be up front with what you’re looking for and you’ll find someone looking for the same. Why do they have to hurt others and waste others time to try to get what they want this way? How do you not hate men because of this? Obviously I’m fed up with this behavior and wonder how you take it and not let it get to you. Thanks for sharing!

@georgialee6755 2 года назад

Charlita Good for you. Men are such jerks! I’ve know only a very few who aren’t.

@lydiapetra1211 Год назад

@@rosannarichardson7951 you gotta ask smart questions and set boundaries....and look for red flags ...I know this is hard for us - women....but we need to be level headed and not emotional....just like men...best of wishes to you!

@lynne4948 Год назад

This is gold!!!!!!! I always had boundaries in my younger years, but because of age I relaxed them and exhibited some of these behaviors mentioned in this video to keep the peace. Let me tell you, I ended up in the worst relationship of my life and I’m 37. He had absolutely no respect for me or the relationship. Every women needs to listen to this..multiple times!

@lydiapetra1211 Год назад

Thanks for sharing....God bless you with the right one 🙋🙏

@edennis8578 Год назад

#5. If you feel like you have to push in order to maintain or push the relationship forward, then he's just not that into you. He's wasting your time. Let it go. I speak from experience.

@fpitts8025 2 года назад

MAAAATTTT....This video is a must see for all single females. It is the holy grail of relationship videos!!! I've finally come to learn men don't get emotionally attached to the physical & sexual attributes as much as they do character & boundaries. Thank you for positioning us for success🔥🔥🔥

@modupeadewale425 2 года назад

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@modupeadewale425 2 года назад

Whatz'app him for help.....

@pslay9324 2 года назад

yes a man is like ...NEXT afterwards. on to the next piece. It's a shame but this generation is so into social media sex is everywhere and so available they never get a chance to have a friendship, they move on to the next best thing. I would never change my plans until well into a relationship. If he splits or leaves, bye bye.

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@eleanyaalexander668 2 года назад

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@Yellowroseintexas5 2 года назад

Put yourself first ! If value yourself , he will value you ! Don’t let him ever put you down .

@graceonesimus7184 2 года назад

Whats@app him now^_^^_^^_^

@grazsts3005 2 года назад

I went through a specific issue in the beginning of my relationship with my now 7 years partner. Everyone said "you have to accept this, he is not going to stop it. You are being unrealistic". I stand back evaluated my values and said: no, I don't "have to" accept a behavior that hurts me. If this is so important for him, than he is free to go, because it is not the man I want to be with. For short, know your value, set your boundaries. And if the guy is unwilling to respect you, he is not the guy for you.

@TheCornerofWhimsyandBliss 2 года назад

Thank you for this perspective. I'm having an issue with my partner of 10 months. Something in my spirit tells me he's prone to cheating. In my opinion, he enjoys commenting on provocative posts from women on social media entirely too much. He can't seem to control himself when staring at other women either. I realize men look at other women and that doesn't make them a cheater...it's the commenting on posts or staring at women in my presence that tells me he can't be trusted. I view his behavior as disrespectful, lacking self control, and lacking integrity. That is my belief system and his behavior disgusts me and shows me who he truly is. I don't feel I can trust anyone who behaves like he does...especially when he sees nothing wrong with what he's doing.

@girlygirl1890 2 года назад

@@TheCornerofWhimsyandBliss you, my friend, have answered your own question. This is 100% unacceptable behavior. Everything, and I mean EVERYTHING about what you have said tells me - to tell you - to run. Don't walk...run. He totally lacks self control. He also thinks this is ok? Wow. Please don't let anyone, man or woman tell you "you should give him a chance to change." Nope...don't. This, my friend...is who he is. I'm sure you know the saying "When a person SHOWS you WHO they are, BELIEVE them....The FIRST time." (Yes, the FIRST time.) You must know that this will only get worse down the line and even your GUT is telling you that. So, don't be afraid to be alone. Better alone, than heartbreak. But if heartbreak was to happen, then you will have no excuse to say it came as a surprise. You saw the signs clearly, but chose to ignore them. Someone like that, I would not give 1 more day of my time. Not romantically at least. The right one is out there who will value YOU. Don't settle for what you KNOW is not right. Blessings to you my friend. Take care of You. You're worth it.

@TheCornerofWhimsyandBliss 2 года назад

@GirlyGirl thank you so much for taking the time to share your encouraging words. I think I needed someone neutral to tell me I wasn't being ridiculous for being angry about comments on social media. I'm sure I wasn't expressing myself well enough to make it clear that my issue isn't social media...it's his behavior in general. Social media is just the avenue that really allowed me to see his behavior. The worse part of all of this is this man is 54 years old and a father of two daughters ages 21 and 24. I only hope they never encounter men who behave like their father.

@girlygirl1890 2 года назад

@@TheCornerofWhimsyandBliss yes, and I'm 51 and I know that if he can't control the comments on social media, Lord help y'all if he comes in contact with a beautiful woman at the grocery store or at the gas station (lol). (just for chuckles.) Take care.

@grazsts3005 2 года назад

@@angel9749 count me in!

@suliu4692 2 года назад

This is exactly what I need someone to tell me! I'm confident and attractive to many guys when I'm single, but as soon as I start a relationship, I dimish myself in many ways!!! Let's break all those 7 bad habits! Thank you so much Matt.

@suliu4692 2 года назад

*diminish

@sayunasoulmesseng839 Год назад

Oh did that too!!

@micheladerry5681 Год назад

yes break them

@heenagujral244 Год назад

So freakin true for me too

@wa13601 Год назад

Because I was the oldest girl with 6 siblings and my natural personality wants to be of service, I've had a hard time saying "no". I'm better now, at age 71, than I was at 19, but it's still a challenge, so Mat Boggs' advice is helpful to women of all ages. And yes, I'm dating a delightful man but I'd like to make sure I date "better" than I did in the past... LOL Thank you, Mat!

@sadiaarman363 Год назад

1) When a man has not earned the right to win your heart, when he has not invested in you, and you show him by your behaviour or words that you are bowled over or you consider him perfect, that is a turn - off for the man. 2) When you change your plans to accommodate him, that is a turn- off for the man. It shows your self-esteem is not strong enough, also you dont have the integrity to stick to your plan. 3) Trying to get him to like you before you know you like him. 4) Saying yes to sex easily before the relationship has reached a certain level. 5) investing more in the relationship than he does. 6) Giving him undeserved second chances 7) Self- diminishing behaviour saying no, I am not a sexy person, or that beautiful. Rather own your beauty and attractiveness

@kathe9486 2 года назад

Ladies, this is so true. Listen to his advice! I was the nice girl who put my self worth last & learned the hard way with heartbreak too late.

@lydiapetra1211 Год назад

Totally understand you.....been there myself....

@tizleah9212 3 месяца назад

Same here😢😢so sad😢

@io100x100 3 месяца назад

What did you do to change that?

@paulaselbe56 Год назад

I’m older so I have learned a few things. First, I’m always myself which is confident, outspoken and actually like who I am. I do not change for a man or anyone. I like myself for who I am. I think I’m awesome and I exude those feelings. I have found that people treat you the way you allow them to. If someone is not treating me right, I tell them. If they keep up the negativity bye bye. I’m worth more than they deserve.

@chelseajackman7730 2 года назад

I think a lot of this comes from Christian upbringing in which the distinction between "esteeming others better than yourself" and "not esteeming yourself at all" is either blurry or not drawn at all. Christian women tend to grow up thinking that her entire purpose and identity is to abase herself for a man's needs and that will cause her to be viewed as the Proverbs 31 woman that "good Godly men should seek." Furthermore, if a man asks you to serve yourself and pay attention to your own needs, get rid of him because he's "obviously not the man God has for you" because he's expecting you to show yourself some love instead of give you all his love and you give him all your love. Church, Christians, all of you ... please understand ... Christ Himself went to the cross and to Hell and back to get His bride. Your man can shoulder up and earn you. Now if I can only find a man that will shoulder up for me. 😔🙄

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@ZiggyLu-og3zp 2 года назад

Excellent word. As a believer it can be hard to distinguish between gracious godliness and how people perceive low self esteem. I spoke to a man about serving him and dying to self and he lost it. The respect left immediately because he didn’t understand that concept. So, I need to take the high road and handle the situation from a real and honest standpoint. Not many are godly enough to respect and love and gracious women with a servants heart.

@chelseajackman7730 2 года назад

@@ZiggyLu-og3zp I think he lost it because he wanted an equal partner, not because he didn't understand the concept. Good men don't want slaves and servants, they want a woman who can stand up and fight the world /with/ him. Beside him, not behind or beneath him. Yes married people should serve each other in many ways, but dying to self is in reference to living for Christ, not living for another human being.

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@brendad122 Год назад

Nice girl here. I never thought I'd see anyone making a video about this. I really really appreciate it. I've learned most of this already , the hard way. But I will be showing this video to my teenage daughter (when I have kids). Teenagers don't listen to their parents so maybe she'll listen to you. :) Thank you again.

@williamrenzo4101 Год назад

Me too

@JemyM 2 года назад

My experience with the "Nice Girl" phenomenon is similar to the "Nice Guy" phenomenon, meaning a girl who thinks she is nice by over-giving more than asked for, and quickly end up bitter and condescending, especially when you tell her those favors and gifts are unnecessary. I have met several women who immediately went in seeing me as a renovation project, not asking any questions to get to know me, but immediately tells me how she will improve me or fix me, while indirectly informing me that she thinks what I was was a looser who didn't live up to real standards. I knew then that I wasn't a person to her, but a thing she could remodel into something filling a role in her life that she defined. The last thing I want from someone I just met are "suggestions". Maybe after six months together and you see I am still struggling with something, then you can give "suggestions".

@peacelove7437 Год назад

That's rude & odd.

@FreeSpirit47 2 года назад

The book, "The Nice Girl Syndrome" by Beverly Engel is a such a good book. It changed me in a good way.

@wasilaibrahim6302 2 года назад

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@lifeaskerria2159 2 года назад

It was a blessing to watch this some of our fathers never talk to us in this way and some simply don't have one it's good to get a man's point of view this was really great Thanks❤️🥰

@onangelwings462 2 года назад

I had a mother that bent over backwards for my father and I watched him treat her so badly. Some of us have never seen a healthy relationship so we don't know what one looks like.

@georgialee6755 2 года назад

On Angel Wings Yes my mom treated my dad well and he later cheated on her, put everyone else first and other things. His current wife does hardly nothing for him and he respects her and overall treats her well! Never do too much for a man.

@22audranov Год назад

that's the truth.

@audraabbott3290 Год назад

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@aquilaskyofficial 2 года назад

This video was amazing and spot on! I’ve always been the girl guys want to marry…I simply allow a man to show me his worth by working for my love and affection. Not every man deserves you. Incentivize his good deeds with acts of appreciation with appropriate rewards and feedback and don’t settle for low effort men! You’d be surprised how easy it is to earn his respect and loyalty 😌👑 cheers ladies!

@Sonyag1 2 года назад

"low effort men". Great description.

@aquilaskyofficial 2 года назад

@@Sonyag1 thank you!

@bettywinn8296 Год назад

Excellent. My dad, always said: "Never chase a man." All the suggestions you gave are great reminders to me. The tragedy is:. All girls should hear this when they are in middle & high school, at the latest. Girls have no idea what men are like or how to handle a successful relationship with a male. I believe fewer pregnancies in teen girls would result, if they were taught these principles. I am in the middle of deciding whether to take a guy back. Perfect timing. No, I don't need to take him back because he hasn't proven by his. "actions" that he is worthy or that he has been getting help to heal. I have been, the last 12 months. Thank you. You wisdom is exactly what is needed so badly. 💜

@stevenjackson9301 Год назад

Great video. My ex-wife and I ALWAYS behaved like two children playing in a sandbox when we were married, and it was a great marriage till she left. We were best buddies and have mutual understanding. Totally, we support one another. I still adore her and frequently find myself thinking about her despite my best efforts to do otherwise. I don't know why I am bringing this up, but I simply can't help it; I love her so much.

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@Okie-Girl Год назад

Did your relationship turn into more like roommates and friends with no sexual attraction from her ?

@user-ov4wr5yu4r 9 месяцев назад

Why did you break up? Was it from her side? Cause it sounds like you should still be together.

@sonjaleroux4377 2 года назад

Boy did my Nice Girl habits brought me to a fall! Never, ever take the responsibilities of a man onto your shoulders. That causes them to move into a comfort zone which they get stuck to. Never buy a man expensive cars, clothes, cell phones etc, or anything they don't deserve. They become users and abusers. They never give back but drain your resources. Once you loose interest in the relationship because of his constant weaknesses, they will drop you like a fly and go for the next victim. Very informative videos to watch, i have learned a lot. My nice girl habits has left me forever and many other things too

@faithjohn1129 2 года назад

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@senkaelezovich6268 2 года назад

Very informative video to watch. I learned a lot.Never ever take man responsibilities of a man on your shoulders. Never again do I want to be good ,nice to please someone who doesn’t deserve me .Do not hold onto those who leave you otherwise the change will not come to your life . You soul will never be fully nourished anyone’s love but your own. Love respect your self first.🌺

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@gayhalasan4088 2 года назад

So True!I think I have all the nice girl attitude.I'm turning 37 few days from now.I promise myself I will break all the nice girl habits.I can do this!!!!

@modupeadewale425 2 года назад

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@peicesofthepuzzle 2 года назад

I love being loving and kind. I am learning to prioritize myself, set clear boundaries, and stick to them and have someone pursue me. I was in a relationship where i felt like I wasn’t doing enough and now I feel like I do too much. It’s difficult trying to learn how to be the nice person you are within without people taking advantage of it or being turned off.

@jenecossey5187 2 года назад

Oh my God. I have done every single one of these things in past relationships. This guy is so spot on

@elliequinn6660 2 года назад

Man your calling me out on everything I did😂😂

@carnationsensation 2 года назад

I really needed to hear this!!! I'm guilty of almost everything you said in this video!! LOL! I always thought I was just being a good person; I never realized the "good" things I was doing for people were actually wrong and/or just lacking boundaries. Thank you!!!

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@annndugu1032 2 года назад

I wanted to comment exactly this way. Guilty of almost all. Its not too late to write them on walls n iny heart for me n my growing daughters.

@Freya778 Год назад

Same!

@cuquee12 Год назад

Me too! I feel horrible about it because I really just did not know. 🤷🏾‍♀️

@poopingbirds509 Год назад

I did all of those to my first love 4 years of relationship and got dumped in the end. Left everything for him and he left me in the end. I was happy before him he took every ounce of happiness from me and at the end said "you are responsible for your own happiness im not supposed to make u happy" its been almost a year since the break up. That line still haunts me.

@tizleah9212 3 месяца назад

Same here😢😢,so sad😢

@solangesewavi722 2 месяца назад

Courage à tous et à toutes

@maddyharvey7414 2 года назад

Thank you for making this video! As a teenager and then a young woman I believed I had to bend to accommodate men’s desires and it got me nowhere. I’m still seeking my person but I’ve gotten so much closer to the person I want by calmly standing up for myself and not allowing anyone to treat me badly.

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@vertani1165 2 года назад

This reminds me of my mistake I have done in my past relationships and love life in general .I just thought at that time that im just tryin be a good person but slowly he actually started taking me for granted. I started dating at an early age and i really had a lack of guidance and this video is really helpful reminder of maintaining a standard and to respect our own boundaries. especially for young ladies who just got into dating and stuff

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@MariaLopez-nk6cx 2 года назад

Thank yoy Matt for this segment! I am the embodiment of "Nice girl behaviour" without the low self esteem part lol. I was married to a wonderful man for 31yrs, widowed now fir 7yrs. Being single at this stage in life after a most EXCELLENT marriage and husband has been a HUGE learning experience to say the least! ALL that you said is ABSOLUTELY 💯 true of me and my experiences in trying to find a new partner!! Again THANK YOU! This segment has changed my life, has empowered me and EDUCATED and has anwered 99% of my questions. I Feel a great sense a relief and a greater sense of understanding of myself! Thank you for all you do.

@MariaLopez-nk6cx 2 года назад

@Karen Lynch I hear you and I feel you! It seems I was truly blessed with my marriage and the relationship I shared with my late husband♡Once he passed and I found out very quickly what everyone meant when they would tell us HOW BLESSED WE WERE TO HAVE EACH OTHER THE WAY WE DID...I have to admit I did not have a clue at the time...Since trying to find a partner It brought so many things into focus for me...I will continue to be a nice forgiving and accessible woman however, will reserve the very best of me for the man that proves worthy😉

@modupeadewale425 2 года назад

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@juliafisher5844 2 года назад

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@cardinalflower6959 2 года назад

Thank you so much for explaining that forgiving someone doesn't necessarily mean that they get a second chance. It is possible to forgive someone but still not want any meaningful contact with them--especially if they haven't tried to make amends in some meaningful way. (And guys, a bouquet of flowers just doesn't cut it.)

@alexandral6997 Год назад

I had a friend who did all of the things discussed. What's strange is how many men came to her and tried dating her, meanwhile, I was on the sidelines getting very little interaction from men because I respected myself much more. It's like the men didn't want the challenge. They wanted something easy and quick. As a younger woman, it bothered me that she received all of the attention when we would go out because of her willingness to bend to what others wanted. It's just the complete opposite of what the video is discussing. As I've matured, I have learned, mature men want women who have more self-respect. The men going after the friend, were just looking for sex.

@katherinemccubrey9230 2 года назад

Thank you!! Men have found my authenticity, confidence & positivity attractive! My ex of 30 years wouldn’t even recognize me & my attitude lol…I’m happy & experiencing JOY despite being alone 💓

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@KarynRose419 2 года назад

I agree with most of what you said. Personally I realized that I’m too much of a people pleaser because my father was a narcissist. Literally the way I learned to survive was pleasing him. My Stockholm syndrome mom wasn’t necessarily a people pleaser until stuck in this very bad marriage, sadly her behavior taught me unhealthy boundaries as well as fearful of standing up for myself. This affected a lot of my jobs and relationships. I finally got more courage to stand up for myself, then my father started being physically abusive. I didn’t ask to be born into a family who taught me this behavior. I’ve worked hard to survive as well as understand why I became such a doormat and people pleaser against my best wishes. I enjoy doing thoughtful things for others, not just pleasing them. People need better boundaries as well as the ability to forgive when appropriate. Growing up in the family situation took decades to better understand because until learning about narcissists on Facebook, I definitely saw certain similarities in various people yet now I realized they were narcissists. I found bad friends, other relatives, bad bosses, and countless people with way too much power. It was all I personally knew because my father found ways to isolate me which kept me from learning that how I was treated wasn’t normal nor remotely deserved. This definitely set me up for failure especially in romantic relationships. I’m too old and too inexperienced as well as the pool of men being rather inaccessible, too few, too damaged in other ways, and I don’t fit what they want. At least the last man I’d met was a bad experience but a great lesson. I knew that I didn’t know him well enough to have any true feelings for him except to know that I enjoyed his personality for the most part. Lack of experience and this man being an experienced player caused me not to be as clear about my feelings for him or who he was. He’d admitted to living with several women, married at least more than twice, and A LOT of girlfriends. He’s definitely good at reeling them in but I’d found out through someone who knows him that he too was a covert narcissist and possibly a sociopath and other bad behavior. I dodged a bullet. Oftentimes when a relationship doesn’t work out it’s a great result. I need to learn better ways of standing up for myself with strength and confidence instead of fear and uncertainty. Again, that was my survival in my family. My only brother refused to comply as easily or please my father as he demanded. He ended up getting very sick and needed help. My father outright refused to our cousin who told him he needed help. In fact when my brother died, I recently discovered there was a life insurance policy meant specifically for each of his kids and my father was the sole beneficiary. In my opinion, my father would’ve wanted me dead whatever way possible too. Never assume why someone is a people pleaser. I’m certainly far less of one but I’m also a work in progress. At least I learned why, now I need to stop. I’ve definitely said no to others who wanted me to comply, that cousin chose to cut me out of her life which was the best idea for both of us.

@modupeadewale425 2 года назад

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@kellyprotheroe4047 2 года назад

If you need to talk to someone on this... I've done five years of mass e work on this.. Its a very deep well, don't swim in it alone.

@seaofmadness2622 2 года назад

I'm glad your taking care of yourself Karyn! I've always been a people pleaser in all ways and I had to learn to take care of myself a long time ago! My mom and dad really didn't have a great relationship but they hung in there for us kids which they didn't really need to do but back in the sixties and seventies it was the the norm to do that divorce was frowned upon. I certainly don't blame my parents but we are all products of our environment and parents are a huge part of our lives. I had a good childhood I just needed to learn how to take care of myself. it's not easy to do and I'm still learning in my middle age. I just refuse to have anyone use me or ruin my life. We all have to take care of ourselves cause none else will do it. Take care tfs your story!

@adaofcharles1217 2 года назад

Ma'am you are strong, you are alive just so your life can inspire someone out there who went through or who is going through this. Happy International women's Day Ma'am.

@Bakanyanchii Год назад

Stumbled upon this by accident, but must say. It's all true. I'm a very empathic loving and dedicated person, after a 3 year long toxic relationship that basically destroyed my mind I found myself becoming an anxious people pleaser and everything you mentioned here I was doing, and with that, attracting the wrong kind of people who kept hurting and disappointing and feeding my depression. This year after having a mental breakdown as a result of a few months toxic interaction in a friendship (which started becoming toxic after I confessed my feelings) and my 16year old cat dying, I suddenly had a let's say epiphany, things couldn't go on like that. I secluded myself from the internet from friends from everyone and did some self reflection, analyzed my behavior, identified the factors leading to that behavior and started working on changing them. It was hard, it's still ongoing, but I am happy to say that most of the things you've mentioned I succeeded in changing in myself, and now I've attracted so many amazing people in my life that I am grateful for and I have noticed especially one point, men find a confident woman extremely attractive, even though I have many things about my appearance that I dislike, some I'm working on changing some I'm learning to accept, I don't talk about them to people anymore, I don't point them out when I'm given a compliment (like if someone says I'm pretty, I used to go out of my way to point out flaws in response basically to show them that I already know about them and that was like a self defence let's say, I stopped doing that and started focusing on the things I like about myself and I have noticed different reactions from people and a little bit too much to handle attention now :)). So yes, being confident and making it clear that you value yourself and your time is extremely attractive to the people you interact, and that's not only in intimate relationships, applies to platonic ones.

@amisa160 Год назад

Very good advises! I think one part of the problem is that many women have been raised to take care of other people's needs and to please others. I hope we can break this pattern now and don't teach our young girls that dysfunctional behavior. I'll try to be more conscious of these behaviors in myself so that I can break this pattern once and for all.

@tharanda 2 года назад

When he offers something- be grateful!! Embrace it with joy and excitement!! He feels like your hero! Learn to enjoy receiving!

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@Va13chka 2 года назад

Nah that’s minimal effort. Ofcourse show gratitude but don’t overcompensate with excitement and joy. We aren’t robots or therapists. Men use us emotionally but don’t pour back on us and that’s not fulfilling us.

@eleanyaalexander668 2 года назад

@casperinsight3524 2 года назад

Truthbomb💥 There is nothing nice about having weak boundaries. Valid points to self empowerment ~

@janettim9581 2 года назад

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@rachaelrios3967 2 года назад

This was amazing. Thank you for not just giving the advice but also explaining to us women why the advice is effective.

@chakraboosters 2 года назад

Wow, Mat, you nailed it! You could do an entire video on the difference between forgiveness and second chances. Such rich, amazing content. Thank you!

@raafiaqureshi2435 2 года назад

Wow Matt, i see every single one of these in me and my past relationships. Thank you for making this video! Now that i am aware i can break the cycle ❤️

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@misslanapaulford 2 года назад

I have been guilty of doing a majority of these. Some more so when your younger cause u don't know better. But then you realise your time is precious and some you just grow out of.. Great content as your Matt 💯👍❤❤❤

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@Tymala1 Год назад

Yeah but as you get older luckily you can find someone that likes you for who you are without having to play the games and pretend to be aloof and hide your feelings.

@Elysiantraveler 2 года назад

I really appreciate this and wish this video had existed when I was dating. I had to learn all of this the hard way. Thankfully, I have an amazing partner now but the journey would have been easier if I’d had access to this back then. I also appreciate the caring delivery. Some of the other dating coaches deliver this type of information in condescending and/or sexist ways. This was a really good video!

@desireetman Год назад

Love this content. I’ve been married for over 20 years and can say that many of these tips are extremely accurate. Over the years I have learned many of these lessons the hard way not only in my romantic relationships but also friendships and family relationships. Being your true authentic self can be scary and tricky at first but with some practice and time, it becomes very clear it should be the only way to be. Your future self will thank you ❤

@taseebell7682 2 года назад

I have definitely been guilty of all the things on this last . Currently single, enjoying my singledom and working on boundaries and self love. Always enjoy your advice!

@taseebell7682 2 года назад

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@eleanyaalexander668 2 года назад

@anitahuizing9983 2 года назад

Setting boundaries, know my worth and own it. I still want to learn more and get better at it. Because I was so done with that what I call "nice/sweet woman syndrome", that I kicked it out of the door. I had enough of it, and it doesn't give me the results I went. I continue to practice to build the live I want, confidence and knowing my worth.

@kimmidojo6102 2 года назад

Mat this is spot on!! You are 100% correct on every single subject. In my experience with my girlfriends, friend's daughters and working at a crisis center .. all points you mention relate to low self-worth and women with "daddy issues" and that's so sad. You speak so well and with such comfort. Thank you for reminding women to respect themselves. I enjoy listening to you.

@ClaymoreGinWeed 2 года назад

This is most likely the most important video you've made so far, Matt! Really well done and everything so well articulated, thank you! ❤️ This resonated with me so much! I was pleased to realise while watching that after my abusive relationship, I've already subconsciously/automatically started breaking all the setting-yourself-aside, self-belittling, low-self-esteem "nice girl" habits.

@rochellebarnard9676 2 года назад

I really needed to hear this , somethings I’m doing great as me but some I didn’t realize I was doing until now! Thank you so much!

@modupeadewale425 2 года назад

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@banished4eva Год назад

Great advice. Sometimes you know something but you just need to hear it. Thank you!

@authenticme5708 2 года назад

Thank you so much Mat. I learned the hard way. The nice girl died last year. I have been doing innerwork work since dating a covert narcissist. Codependent no more. I now have boundaries and this video of low self esteem is codependency and believing the programming from childhood. I know self- love and have respect for myself. If it wasn't for dating the narcissist, I wouldn't have known there was a much deeper innerwork needed. I feel free and alive.

@Alveda_Killfrickle4162 Год назад

Wow these were all great. Some of these I have definitely done in the past not only in romantic relationships, but just in general because of my people pleasing behavior. Been working on my self-confidence and not needing approval of others to work on this, but there is always room for improvement. Thanks again Mat for this great advice, many ladies need it!

@blowontheclouds 2 года назад

This is so good! I resonate with a lot. I have learned a lot of these lessons through my life experience. I wish I saw these sooner. Thank you for this educational video.

@isabellapresley7614 Год назад

I love this spiritual take on this and as a Divine Feminine dealing with a Divine Masculine, this helps a lot! I was bit like the "nice girl" in the beginning but through my Twin Flame journey I learned to break these habits fast!

@michellefelton687 Год назад

Hi Matt, this was a very valuable clip you have made for all us women who needed to hear it, thank you very much. Grateful Michelle x

@joeyfarrell188 Год назад

How I wish I had this information a long time ago - I learned all these lessons from years of trial and error. Great advice ❤❤

@rosemaryklass5700 2 года назад

Wow, Matt… Such gooood truth!!! Thank you friend! 🙏🏼🥰👍🏼

@clairelecoz Год назад

Loved this video thank you! I’m trying to being less of a people pleaser, it’s hard work because we’re all taught to be nice girls since we’re kids. It’s time to be self assured and respect ourselves 🙏🏼

@scottbrown9900 Год назад

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@julissarivas6992 Год назад

Amazing video! So invaluable! I wish I had access to this information years ago. ❤

@daysintheuk1749 Год назад

I am such a "nice girl" ! I hope it's not too late to change myself. Now I know why I am not happy in the relationship. This video is so significant and so helpful! Thank you!

@iamgoddessoflove 2 года назад

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@rosemike1332 2 года назад

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@elenarotestan5823 2 года назад

Good video, thank you. I don't have self steem issues, BUT I am overly generous, humble and kind and adding not having boundaries is a huge path for all kinds of self destruction, as I repeated #5all the time without realizing it 🤦🏽‍♀️. Once I realize I didn't have boundaries, nobody gets away with bs with me any longer.

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@krjlcladdagh 2 года назад

Wow! I needed this! You hit so many issues that I’ve been juggling around in my head

@toriwhite1940 Год назад

This is so fantastic. There are so many things you've shared that I have known intuitively to some degree, but having them defined is so helful! Thanks so much!!

@livelife5309 2 года назад

Good advice. It’s always nice to hear from a man’s perspective. I can look back into the past and see where I went wrong in some dating scenarios by being nice and not making myself a priority.

@Tymala1 Год назад

Yes I agree to always make yourself a priority but we shouldn’t be too hard on ourselves for being the recipient of some caveman behavior and then beat ourselves up for wanting a relationship.

@ZiggyLu-og3zp 2 года назад

Thank you. This was extremely helpful. I spotted all the mistakes I’m making by thinking I’m being gracious. Well done. Thanks so much!

@hasiyataliyu7966 2 года назад

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@arianeboule3623 2 года назад

I just wanted to say thank you!!! This video was eye-opening and life-changing for me . A new day is rising for me!!!

@linagirl8817 2 года назад

Your delivery is quite respectful and caring. Great info! Nice job!!

@itisfinishednowtimetoclean2723 2 года назад

“If you do not know/appreciate your intrinsic value you will settle for less than you deserve”, Thanks Mom!! Thank You for this content, I am Nice, and working on myself, on recognizing my value and having Strong healthy boundaries. Love begins with loving self. You simply must have a healthy self love (not narcissistic) before you can have healthy love for anyone else! No one is perfect. The knot in the stomach is because your waiting for reality to set in. Amen, let the men/women in your life earn your deepest secrets, your heart, and your commitment! Good guys should win! Bad guys, Nah!

@johnsonmike6907 2 года назад

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@johnsonmike6907 2 года назад

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@chosen1316 2 года назад

Thank you so much for making this video. I never knew the pitfalls of being a "nice" girl and the consequences that followed. The description and examples of each point shared, really provided clarity for it so many ways. I will be teaching my daughters as well. Thank you. God bless

@johniron7362 2 года назад

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@AvivaSingsOut Год назад

This is GOOD. You're very intuitive and well-spoken - your explanations add so much to the points

@Kelly-ie1hx Год назад

Matt, you're my hero. I like that you keep finding different ways to help one understand. It is selfless and bright.

@maria.1313 2 года назад

Wow I've been guilty of all of these things and I feel sad at coming to a deeper level of realizing this. The Truth is that I know I deserve and desire more for and from myself, but for the longest time it felt as if it's wrong or bad for me to want or give myself that, but Ive come to deeper acceptance that actually it isn't bad or wrong, it is my birthright and I have a responsibility towards myself to give myself that. I'm definitely breaking and releasing these 'nice girl' behaviors from the root cause. Thank you for much for this video 🤍🙏

@englishgirl87ify 2 года назад

#5 INVESTING IN THE RELATIONSHIP MORE THAN HE DOES. This is my issue right now in my relationship. I don’t want to connection to wither so I do the most (initiate dates, buy gift,etc) and I’m sad because he never does. This video confirmed what I already knew.

@ragga7862 2 года назад

Ooh, this video hit me hard! I recognize too many of these "nice girl" habits 😳 this is absolutely true! Yesterday I watched a video about being kind vs nice, where being nice comes from a place of insecurity in men. The same must be true for women. Insecurity is not attractive. This opened my eyes to why I don't have a love life 😯 nice guys and girls really finish last, or not at all.

@janetblanc7658 Год назад

Matt, as an older woman i can really sgree with you. We were much more demanding when we were young and we certainly took our time to let a relationship develop.

@esztersandor1474 2 года назад

I think these advices are true for life in general, not just for love life directly. I learned (and i will learn certainly) these points as experiences in my whole life. Everybody should get self-respect in a friendship or in a workplace, and yes, in a family, too.

@johnsonmike6907 2 года назад

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@johnsonmike6907 2 года назад

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@Hardychelsea 2 года назад

So many amazing truths in this video. Thank you Matt, I really needed to hear this!

@sardonsangaliwa8284 2 года назад

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@sarahgillmore2486 Год назад

Great video as youve highlighted issues i thought about but wasnt concious of practising.Thanks working on yourself really is a job in itself.

@aratichakraborty4487 Год назад

I was actually doing all thing in my entire life this is y ppl were taking me lightly.... Even now but I'm aware of this now I'll help myself n put myself first from now on ... Thank u so much

@3mig4s82 2 года назад

Well said

@melocoton7 2 года назад

Good video. I got divorced from a man who became an abuser and it was HARD. My promise to myself as I packed my bags was to never, NEVER, put myself second again. No compromises when getting to know a new man. I had many dates and had my fun. I went into bad boy modus. Well, bad girl modus🤣 something didn’t click? Next! When I met my now husband it started as a one night stand that turned into a many nights stand. After a while I had to take a decision for myself and I told him as much. He was cool and I liked him, but if he was still only in it for fun after a month then our ways would part. He took a few minutes to think about it and said he’d like to see where this goes. We agreed on not seeing other people for a while until we could know that we match outside of the bedroom too. No nice girl ish from me by then. I even told him that if we find out that it were to remain a sex thing, I wouldn’t have that much time for him anymore and sure as hell wasn’t going to make him a sandwich🤣 We’re going on 9 years now and it’s the best thing ever. He is my dude and sometimes I catch him staring at me with a puppy look on his face. So ladies, if you filter out all the noise and unapologetically go for what you want, you’ll find happiness

@mercyh193 2 года назад

Awesome advice! I wish this video was around when I was in my 20s.

@reemsaif3105 8 месяцев назад

Simple advice yet helping us shine bright, your advice matt always comes in the right time, thank you 😊

@chindee8176 2 года назад

Thank you, Mat. Your videos are very informative and I have some that I relate to. I am learning a lot. Thank you very much

@graceonesimus7184 2 года назад

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@miapatrick5400 Год назад

Knowing my self-worth has been the hardest thing ever, for me to do. I've never in my life been respected by family or boyfriends. Therefore I had no idea what my own self-worth should feel like, or act out like. EMDR & effort in counseling ❤️

@user-wh7bm1tp4r 10 месяцев назад

Many thanks Matt, you have a clarity and simplicity I appreciate. I ended a relationship with a man I was deeply in love with, or maybe it was infatuation. It was a very difficult thing to do, but I'd had enough and knew I deserved much, much better. I was taken for granted and had ignored behaviors that undermined my self-esteem and demeaned my moral compass. He is well practiced at gaslighting. So onwards and upwards, living my wonderful single life.