7 Weird Traits That Make Men Attractive (Proven By Science) 

0:58 Ax Murderers can even use these 1:10 Eyes 3:28 Confidence and playfulness 6:20 Fitness and strong jawline 8:53 Good character 11:20 A facial scar 11:53 Book smart 15:45 Good personality 16:50 additional traits added by Courtney (posture, beard)

A lot of women only see if he'll be a good father when she reaches her 30's. She'll realize that the bad boy and player won't be there for her after they have children. So it takes that much drama to realize that the genuine nice guy was to have a relationship with.

Eyes indicate interest. Character creates trust. Fitness and Jawline suggest health. Facial Scars suggest toughness and protection. Personality and book smarts implies that he can be social and make friends and/or acquire resources.

The "funny guy" trait is a bit of a tricky one because girls/women will naturally giggle around a man they are attracted to even if what he says is not funny. whereas a less attractive guy can be saying the same things and be viewed as idiotic or creepy. This has happened to me and I see it happening to others, and firmly believe that females of all age groups will look for reasons for an attractive man to be compatible for them while looking for reasons to disqualify men who are less attractive regardless of whether that attraction applies to looks or something else.

To sum it up: be a Chad. But if you are not a Chad, be a nerd who makes money, but still be attractive.

I really appreciate how Courtney can point out less than agreeable character traits on both genders without sounding vindictive or petty.

Some women being attracted to guys with a mean mug is something I've known for quite a while. I have a naturally neutral facial expression which makes people think I'm mean, but then I smile and all of a sudden women are shocked because they assumed I was mean. Really weird but it happens.

The facial scar thing could be a sign that the man has successfully navigated dangerous situations and come out on top, rugged look etc. Seems in line with the bad boy attraction.

I find it attractive when a woman is comfortable being silly. I think a bit of weirdness makes things interesting. The inside jokes and laughs that you can share when you're both comfortable being silly/weird can really make a difference in my opinion.

One thing I have noticed numerous times when talking with both men and women is that we often want something different from what we have currently. We are predisposed to wanting what we do not have. Beautiful women are used to men desiring them for their beauty, and will often seek out men who compliment other areas. Same for men who are well off financially. This can be helpful information if you understand how the last person they were with treated them, and can accentuate the opposite traits they may have been neglecting.

True about if the man will bea good father. I have just started dating this wonderful woman. One of the things she told me early on is that she's not looking for a "bad boy" or "rich man". She just wanted someone who put in effort and had their stuff together to be happy. Had me shook!

"If you didnt want me in your prime then dont expect me to want you in your decline"......if i wasnt "good enough' for you back then then im too good for you now.

I have known and have been a friend with a woman for over 60 years, since we were about 5. We have phone conversations about every month or so. She tells me she likes to call me to talk about some very private and serious things and asks many times for my honest advice. She trusts me. She also said she likes me to talk to her because I make her laugh. I truly love to hear her laugh. I have always supported and encouraged her when she is in doubt. I value our friendship. Relationships can be very long lasting and can have a unique love for each other.

Women attracted to "bad boys" is a sign of how immature they are.

The way Courtney explained the traits made it very interesting but I did realize sth when I clicked the article link: This article is a masterclass in media writing. Because the crafty title, and the way they repackaged the traits throw you off and you never realize it's actually the most generic, stereotypical hot guy list: A stoic face, a chiseled jawline, a fit muscular body, a great personality, education, a badass "battle scar" That's literally the list.

The "smug look" make sense. Every relationship I've been in the women have said "I LOVE your smile, it makes me so happy when you smile." I think it's because normally I'm pretty neutral faced and so it creates more value on my smile.

Well, once a man who understands women is made aware she's had the 'bad boy' run through faze, it's a wrap.

The beard thing is true. I used to keep it short and I don’t have a strong jaw line or chin, but when I let it grow out and keep it trimmed I’ve gotten more complements and attention from that than any other aspect of my appearance. (Also I’m not gonna lie I can grow an epic beard)

Embracing yourself (the accomplishments, insecurities and everything in between) radiates upon people. You can just feel someone's energy. And that's sometimes what I go based on. Yeah looks are important, but it's deeper than that. A human to human connection is important. You experience that connection by embracing yourself and sharing that with others with your demeanor.

Thank you, Courtney. I appreciate your top quality presentation. It means a lot to me! I am an older man, 58 years old now, and would appreciate more content aimed towards older guys on occasion rather than most of your posts, which in my opinion, tend to lean more towards the younger guys. Again, thank you, Steve.

I'm free from all of that! I gave up on women in general and dating a long time ago because its all about games or self centered interests. I deal with the public on a regular basis and I find many men that I interact with are on a power or ego trip. Ugh! Why women are drawn to that says a LOT about the values of the woman!

Things that women find attractive in a man: 1. Kind eyes* 2. Mean eyes* 3. Beards* 4. Clean shaven* 5. Funny* 6. Stoic* 7. Breathing* 8. Not breathing* * Only counts if she already thinks you're good looking, otherwise you're just creepy

I just want to thank you. I just recently found your channel and your videos have truly helped me. I’ve never really been in a relationship before and that is because of my insecurities and how I’ve let them rule my life for my entire teen years. Your videos on mens health videos have basically let me transition into a period in my life where I can interact with people and not have to worry so much about whether or not I’m being “perfect”, where I can just be myself and be happy about who I am. And because of that I’ve become confident and happy which unfortunately I haven’t felt in a very very long time. No amount of “thank you”s will really show how truly grateful I am for that. I’m now subscribed.

Went out with this girl last night who was quirky AF... but confident and cute (probably unbeknownst to her).... it was suuuuper endearing she was adorable.

Researcher here. Courtney, your idea for the "scar study" controlling for scars being present and mate selection is spot on!

These are all qualities of a high level man. A man that is fit, capable, interesting and has his finances right. Awesome video again Lana Rhodes sister

I had to wear a mask while I was at work during covid so I stopped shaving and grew a beard underneath. I never knew I had a bit of ginger and blond in my beard as well as the usual brown and a bit of grey. People say I look totally different

These things are all bogus fellas. Get your financial situation in order, take care of yourself physically and mentally and you won't have issues attracting women. You want to be in control of the situation. The last thing you want is to be chosen by a woman approaching/in her 30s, who is choosing you because you won't run around on her. An attractive woman dates less appealing men because she knows they won't leave! She knows that she's the best you'll probably get, and that you most likely don't have as many options as her. If you have your life put together, you have the options. A successful man will always have options! Good luck gents.

When it comes to long term dating I personally look more for whether or not someone can consistently handle my "level" of sarcasm, doesn't take themselves too seriously but does take their work seriously, ethically and morally sound, and punctual/reliable.

I was so immature until about 30, once I grew up and got my shit together I seemed to be much much more attractive to women and had way better luck despite being way less physically good looking than my early and mid 20s (im tall, and I WAS in good shape lean muscles 6 pack swimmer type body...no longer have this uh body shape)...but growing up and being a better likeable mature and confident man went way further for me with girls

All of this boils down to common sense. Take care of yourself and you’ll attract the right one. Love the channel thanks Court.

1.Money 2. Money 3. Money 4.Money 5. Money 6. Money 7. Money. There , saved you from having to watch this.

Courtney is such an honest woman, a great example, she should make videos for women on "how to be a woman of high value"

The phenomenon of men not getting responses online but getting dates, or being in relationships with women they meet in real life applies to me.

9:12 'Reliability, responsibility, accountability' Yes we seek out in a partner what we lack ourselves. 😉

I think the biggest problem with a study like this is women were asked questions and have their responses. This happened with their logical mind engaged. But, what they respond to, what they are truly attracted to, can be very different. What they said in logic mode can be far off base to what they are actually attracted to in person. Women are mostly attracted the positive emotions they feel when they are around a guy that makes them feel that way. That’s why they have two minds. The one engaged in logic, and the emotional one which is where attraction comes from. This questionnaire study disregards these truths.

A thing that women do that I find really attractive is, being innocent. I'm not talking in an ironic way, where there is a sexual undertone, I'm talking actually being meek, having good will towards people, and being generally resistant to degenerate mainstream culture. Low body count, high empathy, mild temperament, and being original and expressing their true passions with transparent glee.

Courtney makes a good point about women not caring about "character" when they are young, but switching gears when they get older. The problem for those women is it's often too late. We guys want the young ones. The shelf life for women is short. I'm sorry that sounds cruel, but it's true. Why would we come running for an older woman who has suddenly decided she cares about character and has wasted her best years on jerks? This is why you hear women 30+ complain: "How come there are no nice guys?"

Dilated pupils can mean sexual arousal, or anger, or fear - pupils dilate with the 'fight or flight' response. In a romantic setting, of course, it means arousal. The traits you are talking about that make men attractive to women aren't 'weird' at all. A scar on the face suggests that the man isn't afraid of a fight and has been in combat, and obviously came through (mostly) intact. That means power.

People need to stop trying to play attraction as a rule book or a list to follow. It doesn't work that way, and no relationship is going to last this way.

another one that goes along with posture and jaw and power is 'taking up space' the person who takes up space is perceived as controling their environment and is seen as dominant and the scar would theoretically be similar to a tatoo, successfully navigating a traumatic life experience

I like Courtney's science based lectures. The most is CHARACTER and health.

Hey Courtney, more on the 'bad boy' sort of man. There's something known as the dark triad personality which women have found statistically most attractive in men and also the correlation between the dark triad and the age of women. I would highly recommend reading up on the paper 'The Dark Triad personality: Attractiveness to women' by G.L Carter for more information

In grad school, on more than one occasion, I have had women ask about the scar on my face. On one such occasion, a woman's opening line was "how did you get that scar? Were you in a fight? Did you have to defend yourself from an attack?" She was really looking for a juicy story behind my scar.

thanks for giving me confidence been watching your videos lately. I had just got out of a 6 year relationship because of my epilepsy. I'm still sad but your videos motivate me to keep learning my new skill and do my best. Again Thanks!

Something I found out recently about women, is how you walk is important, an old man's shuffle is the worst thing you can have; women don't want any part of you if you have one of those.

1. 6 Pack/Wallet 3. House 4. Car 5. The last movie they were in 6. I'm not saying it 7. Emotional Intelligence

I don't look at beauty on the outside but the inside her personality and I believe that is important in a woman for me.

I think men wandering around with broad smiles on their faces or grinning inanely would look pretty mentally bewildered.

I have not read all the comments below, but in case is was NOT mentioned, a women's VOICE can be very appealing. I would assume to some women that a guys voice can be a turn on as well. In your case, that's one reason I like your videos. You have a very feminine voice that is an instant attractant.

In relation to the scar thing : I've read studies that women associate a scar with me masculinity and toughness.

Great vid! Also fellas, being a “bad boy”doesn’t always equate to being a scumbag lol. If you are confident, successful (or driven), and prioritize yourself (rather than caving for every girl) it has the same effect as a being a “bad boy”. It will make most women and people gravitate toward you without you being an awful person lmao

Great Topic Courtney...So what guys really need is for women(never gonna happen) to wear, like a fit-bit, Hormone Indicator, we can see from a distance. All those beautiful hormones that are raging under her beautiful appearance. The one with the most activity is the one you might be cautious of, or not. We're all under the influence of our hormones...fact. Have Fun.🐬

A well-groomed beard does work, for me anyway. I started growing one in February it grew in a little oddly; I have dark brown hair, but my beard grew in a white gray, and its garnered more smiles from the ladies then I’ve ever had in my life.

your comments on character are dead on, so many women i talked to married when young and as they got older they wanted out of the relationship because of clashes in character. being on a few dating sites its is amazing how many women are divorced in their 50as and want everything under the sun but dont expect to offer much in return.

The scar thing is from the hunter/gatherer era. A man with a scar is a man who won a fight to the death against a cave bear or some other human. He is clearly able to defend himself, thus he will be able to defend a woman and their offspring.

I'm a woman & guys, I agree! Wide smile = non-masculine. Neutral look = enigma. But when you interact with a woman, please keep your Ego at bay! Gentleness, humility will take you far! And, you should look for the same in a woman if you're serious about companionship! Remember - 'We' over 'Me' ! Also, fitness 👍I consider my health super imp & think it's valid if someone like me also looks for a guy to have similar thinking. Responsible, decent, charming, wellread, growth mindset - YES but humor, not necessarily. It's crazy to expect someone to be all! And please do look for the same in a woman!! If a woman expects you to have all this, damn right that you have the same expectations in a woman! All the v best, guys! 🍀There're a lot of sweet women in the world! Go get 'em!👍

Seriously for the 7 traits to be noticed, you have to be default attractive in the women’s eyes. How would the trusts even work if you’re INVISIBLE to them…

As a guy seeking marriage, that pretty much means the minority of the female population are left for me to find. You know what the ROOT PROBLEM is with relationships in the USA? The masses have forgotten what marriage is, and for those who are at least a little bit interested, what they think about marriage is mostly wrong. Example: most things in that article have to do with "how can she give me what I want? how can he give me what I want?" The essence of marriage is SELFLESSNESS, TWO UNIQUE PEOPLE SACRIFICING EVERYTHING THEY WERE, TO MARRY AND FORM ONE NEW UNIQUE ENTITY THAT DIDN'T EXIST.

U know your content is really growing on me thank you for putting a smile on my face courtney which i really need in these times😊😊😁😁😁

Coming from someone who did have a facial scar (before many surgeries) after a random knife attack, trust me….it’s not a conversation starter. If someone asked it ruined my day having to remember that day.

Yeah the eyes is definitely a thing because even though I'm under 6 ft, when I'm on dating apps women 90% of the time that initiated conversation with complimenting my eyes, even if it's just the words "those eyes"

Courtney i love how you can speak on your toes with a modulated voice. Its amazing honestly.

I have heard multiple times before that according to research a happy face is not attractive for a man. This hurts me deeply and makes me feel very insecure because i often have the expression of a happy boy with big eyes and raised eyebrows (I also work in the catering industry where you are supposed to be hospitable). I thought this was a good feature, attractive and desirable, but nothing i am or do seems good enough anymore for women. I refuse to be mean to everyone with an arrogant face. That is not a life i want to live and goes against everything my parents tought me. I am a kind, attractive, intelligent, creative, caring man with nothing but good intentions, a desire for a meaningfull longterm relationship, starting a family, real genuine intimacy, good social skills and working hard on myself for alot of years already now. If women around my attractiveness level expect me to lie to them, create drama to entertain them and act like a completely different person, i choose to be alone.

I love men with facial scars. There is something very sexy about it. Every scar has a story, and it makes a man look more rugged and tough, and therefore more masculine. That is a huge plus for me, together with a fit body (not perfect, but well maintained), and good character is imperative. Bad boys are so over-rated, and so not worth it. A good man is nowadays a gem.

Hello Courtney: In earlier times in Europe, women would take a drug to called nightshade to enlarge the size of their pupils. Another name of that drug was "belladonna", ie "beautiful lady". It was also dangerous. Stay well and safe.

Things girls do that are attractive? I’ll have to tell a story about mine. In 7th grade I was just a dopey kid. The girls on the school bus who lived on my road used to mess with me and tease me. One called me “ little boy” all the time. But there was one really pretty girl who was always nice and sweet to me. I wasn’t one of the cute guys in middle school but she still was very nice to me. Fast forward a few years I grew into a 6’2 hunk who drove a cool 69 Chevy. Guess who got to ride in it every day? You guessed it. My sweet little friend down the road who was always sweet and nice to me. All the others tried to be real nice too but I wasn’t interested in them. All my attention and kindness was only for my sweetheart down the road. Now I’m 38 years old and I still think about her a lot. I haven’t seen her in 15 years. She had to move with her mom and I lost contact with her. So I went “ bad boy” and forgot about it. If I could go back again I would have never let her go. It’s one of the greatest regrets of my life Moral of the story….be sweet, kind, loving, and feminine. Big tough men will melt for you. I had a gentleness for her I never had for anyone else.

My eyes are the most white after taking a cold shower. It really is amazing how bright they get. No eyedrops necessary.

I know this sounds mad but when I take pictures with multiple different Women and post it onto social media, I get tons of girls who have never liked my pics end up starting to like my pics and jump into my DMs. This isnt even a lie. There were two girls who rejected me in my early 20s. I still got them on Instagram and ever since they saw me hang out with multiple different Women, they have started liking my pics. One of the Girls who rejected me actually messaged me to check up on me. We spoke then I brought up the time I told Her when I fancied Her. I swear to God She asked me if I still fancied Her and I told Her no. She had Her chance back in the day.

The one about facial scars immediately reminded me of a moment from The Simpsons. One of the very early seasons. Bart was talking to a daredevil motorcycle stunt jumper (Lance Murdock). Anyway, the stunt guy says to Bart, "pain is temporary, bones heal, and chicks dig scars." Completely true on all counts. And let's face it, scars tend to imply a bit of danger (or dangerous activity), and we all know chicks dig the bad boy, the dangerous boy.

I have two facial scars, one on my eye brow and one on my cheek. The eye brow scar is always visible, but the scar in my beard is only visible when I'm growing a beard. Lady's eyes light up when they find out the patchy spot in my beard is actually a scar.

My dating advice - just be yourself. If you're naturally funny then be funny, if you're naturally mean and moody be that, if you are geeky be geeky, if you're a bookish, thoughtful, reflective type then be that. If you are naturally confident then sit tall with jawline protruding, but don't do it if it doesn't accord naturally with your personality. One can act a part for a date (although most people cannot do it convincingly) but one cannot keep that act up indefinitely and be something you are not. Don't over analyze yourself. You are you and your history, genes, culture, experiences have made you what you are. If she likes you, you won't be able to do much wrong, and if she doesn't like you then whatever you do won't matter because her mind is already made up.

5 “weird” things women do that I think are attractive: 1- Learn about my interests. If I tell you I like something you’ve never heard of before, and you quickly go out of your way to learn about it and research it immediately to try and brush up and catch up on very basic things, omg that’s so amazing. You don’t need to spent an hour looking through all the details, but a 1-2 minute google search on something I enjoy will actually go a REALLY long way. For example, I told a girl at Trivia I liked Eurovision when she asked what kind of music I listen to, and instead of being like “Oh, cool” and dismissing it she was like “Oh, that’s interesting I’ve never heard of it before”, and within a minute or two she knew a couple of artists who had won ESC before and I was like, oh, you’re THAT interested in learning more about something I like? Hot. 2- Hair Accessories. Just a weird thing for me, but I take notice of if a girl has a ponytail, hair tie, braids her hair, puts it in a bun, etc. rather than straightens it. Even though I imagine it doesn’t take a million years to put a ponytail in, taking literally that extra minute or two is just such a big turn on for me, I don’t know. It shows enough effort that you’re not ignoring it, but not like you need to be perfect every second of every day and need to spend a year to do your hair. Same thing goes for Makeup as well. If a girl is *completely* natural in public I might be a little bit like oh, do you just not care about it or what, but I also don’t want it to be a clown situation either. Just spend like, less than 5-10 minutes for some very basic makeup and that’s perfect balance to me. 3- Ask questions. Pretty much nothing (other than smiling and being happy) makes me feel more in the moment interest than asking questions and continuing the conversation. For example, if I go up to a girl and offer to help with something and she’s like “no thanks, I appreciate it” and leaves it there, I’m just straight done and I know you don’t like me. But, if you go out of your way to be like, “Not really, but I’m curious if the music playing in here is something you like” then that immediately shows an effort to continue the conversation at even a basic, surface level, low risk way. I’m not pressured to tell you my whole entire life story and feel forced into admitting my feelings, but it’s really attractive for me if I give a girl a chance to continue that conversation and she doesn’t just shut it down. 4- Notice my STYLE over my outfit. For example, instead of saying “Oh, I like your shirt, it makes you look hot” or something more surface level (while that’s still flattering and appreciated), to score extra bonus points, mention more my style or theme. Something like “Oh, you’re wearing a Football shirt, do you play or coach?” Or “Oh I like the band whose shirt you’re wearing, what’s your favorite song by them?” Type deal. It shows you’re not just focused on my appearance, but how I represent and portray myself and my actual style rather than just surface level appearance. Again, I blush red at a simple cute compliment too, but I don’t really have a great way to respond to that and it can lead to me shutting down a little bit and coming off a embarrassed or nervous rather than keeping the conversation going. 5- Correct and Construct, don’t tear down or destroy. I’ll use the Trivia girl example again- obviously I would love it if our group got every question right, but her questions were not the easiest and that wasn’t going to happen. Instead of being like, “wow you’re so dumb, how did you not know that” try something more like “Oh, you should totally watch that movie or show this week and let me know if you like it”. If you get really lucky, it opens up a future conversation topic for him to try and talk to you about that show or movie after he starts watching it and you may find a similar interest to talk about in future conversations. Bonus- ANY Semblance of physical touch PERIOD. There was this one girl who I’m pretty sure didn’t like me, but literally just offered me a friendly/professional handshake, and I was like, oh my gosh, that’s really nice of her to let me hold her hand, break the touch barrier in a safe way, and also for me I almost NEVER initiate anything touchy feely because I am NOT a touchy/feely person and also, especially in the modern world I feel VERY uncomfortable touching a girl even in a safe and professional way in public without expressed written and recorded audio consent first, so I will happily initiate a conversation or ask a girl out and especially keep a conversation moving and continue talking as long as possible, but, I will simply not initiate any touch contact unless it is LITERALLY an accident and I do not do it on purpose. Like for example I’m walking on the right side of the aisle and someone else is coming towards me on the right side so I accidentally feel my shirt sleeve make contact with an arm as a total accident or something like that. BUT- if you make it clear you’re okay with it and initiate it, I’ll reciprocate, but I just get extremely nervy about boundaries and how much is too much and how much too quick and too soon, especially with a girl I just met or hardly know where those boundaries haven’t been communicated before.

RE: the bad boy thing. I wonder if thats another or at least secondary negative effect of dating apps. Dating apps give girls a constant supply of bad boys so it takes way longer to get fed up/run out of bad boys before giving a decent guy a shot because theres always another bad boy that "will be different this time".

My optometrist said no one should use non-prescription eye drops more than twice a year…

You are one of the best in what you do, and it goes to show that you are one of those who do home work and sit at the from of your class in school. February first coming will be my birthday and my 10 years anniversary. my wife have being talking to me about a lot of things but it seems like I could not hear her, but since I start watching your videos. My nail clip, my facecial hair clip, my hair curly, I start exercising almost every day, my confidence getting back in shape. My words changing for the better. I celebrate you girl, you are a beautiful star so keep shining.🎉 Jesus loves you ❤

Courtney, according to Tom Leykis advice is to treat woman like crap and dirty. He said women love it. The more you're nice to her and be there for her she'll have less respect for you. What are your thoughts on Tom?

Wow, it's amazing to hear someone else acknowledge the "will they be a good parent?" That's basically the first deal-breaker I ever look for when looking at women. If they can be a reliable parent. I'd take a strong mama-bear over anyone who'd just panic or cry. I always date women who'll be good mothers. If I can't trust her with a kid, I won't date her.

Hey Courtney! You should create a singles event--invite the guys who watch your videos (and live in the local area) and the girls who are thinking, "I can't find great guys around here. Maybe Courtney could help."

🛑FYI: Lumify (brimonidine) is a prescription drug (at least here in Canada)! It shouldn't be used without consulting since it is used to treat glocoma. It does that by constricting blood vessels (which is why your eyes look whiter), thus reducing the pressure inside the eye (protecting your retina in the process). It is NOT healthy to use that product if you don't absolutely need it. I just wanted to put that out there because using prescription drugs just to make yourself look better is a really bad decision healthwise.

I have said this before about your content and will say it again. I think what you are doing is wonderful and appreciate what you have to say. I will say that since I do have a facial scar I do notice that it has definitely made it easier to approach or even have regular interactions with the opposite sex

99.995% of women don’t care about character.

I kept promises, she called me gracful kind and caring… and I workout and she still left me ehh

Yes definitely about personality and we do have to put our best foot forward to her and my thing is what I seek in woman is her inner beauty and confidence

Courtney, you are refreshingly honest.

The two things I’ve always been self-conscious about are the two things girls have told me they like best about me. I get the ‘eyes’ a lot. Bad pun, I know. I never noticed I had blue rings around my brown eyes (not due to vitamin deficiency, it’s a hereditary trait in my family. I asked my Mum after) until a girl pointed it out to me. I’ve had a squint since childhood which I’ve always been embarrassed about. I’ve been complimented on my smile a lot too. I never liked my smile before that. Colour me pleasantly surprised.

@13:33 I disagree with the part where you talk about how if someone doesn't want a commitment, they don't value things or are not husband/wifey material. The reason I disagree is because I personally know many people that value many aspects of a relationship even if it doesn't fit your ideal perspective of a relationship, and those people have added value in many ways to their "open relationship" or "FWB" or "what ever their dating goals are" etc. Just because someone doesn't want a commitment, doesn't make them a bad boy or bad girl. It's not that black and white. There are many reasons of course. I do appreciate your positivity and your attempt to make these complicated topics as transparent as possible.

Using flattery to get what you want isn't a bad boy trait, it's a trait of a narcissist

attractiveness is different from dating someone. Tate was talking about dating which shouldn't be only based beauty but more than that. I think you got confused between two contexts. people get attracted to someone is different from living a life with them.

Along with being attractive to some woman something more important is- Do you live a life that a woman would want to be part of? This is why the stereotype of a "neckbeard" playing video games all day in mom's basement is a non-starter for attracting women. What's in that life for her? Unfortunately, that requirement rules out a lot of other men's lives too. Tik tok and Facebook have raised the bar on the kind of life women are told to expect. You need money so you can entertain her with dinners, concerts, travel, pro sports events, etc. You need to be constantly not striving, but actually winning, in a "surpass the Jones's" kind of life, where the world just falls in your lap. Most of us can't fill that bill of goods. I work. I play golf. I fish. I hunt. I lift. I run. I've made enough money that I want for nothing. But the number of women who are going to be attracted my life would fit in the eye of a needle. And that small number may not be anywhere near my vicinity. You can be doing really well and still be a next to impossible to match. I would have to take on a lot of things I don't enjoy and can't make myself care about, to be more "mainstream" and appeal to a wider swathe of women. In other words, "it would help me a lot if I were in fact somebody else."

Sense of humor is important I think for the underlying presumption beneath it. That is, that the man's not sufficiently stressed about anything (including about HER behavior), that he can devote mental resources to having fun and enjoying himself. Not being stressed about her behavior - realistic or not - suggests compatible personalities and goals. I've got a good sense of humor, but not when my girlfriend's engaging in behavior I see as detrimental to herself, our relationship, to others, or to me. In this respect intelligence can be a relationship killer.

One thing that was not mentioned is how you behave when you are in a group, that is, how you behave around your friends for example (all your good or bad features are literally in front of her and that can decide how she feels about you.) And yep, personality (being funny) is the number one thing that makes you attractive to girls. If you crack a good joke in front of her, be sure that she will see you differently.

I have a strong jawline at the right weight, and I am headed that direction now, but what really gets them is my smile and the width of my shoulders. Once they first meet me, a good button up worn casually, and rolled sleeves works well (if you have good forearms), and what carry's the day though is my sense of humor and flirting. Men, it rarely matters how good you look if you aren't comfortable enough to talk to these women. They aren't really that different from you, so don't be afraid of them. You are probably naturally funny with the guys, right? If you are with the right girl, most of that sense of humor applies just as well if not BETTER.

Nice channel 🙂. Do you or anyone else have tips on average normal minorities? I’m not 6”+ and white and all my female friends love that look and they (white guys) kill it with very easy effort. Happy for tips on improving attractiveness or dating while a 5,10” black without being either overlooked, undesirable, or seen as “dangerous “. Does same general advise apply or being 100% honest are there be some differences that minority men need to face up to?

I am being serious. Someone may call BS on me, and that's fine, but I have been known to attract women. I am 37 years of age. Now when I was younger, I hardly paid attention to body language. Women have a subtle, but very obvious signs that she's attracted to you. One sign is when she's talking to you, she puts her head down slightly, and flashes smiles. She's playing with her hair a little bit at the ends. I can tell by her tone of voice she's a bit nervous. Her eyes are looking at me. If she's walking, she takes small glances. When you see in your porifial vision, and see her head clearly looking at me. Some women aren't subtle at all though. I remember driving back (I am a truck driver) and saw a convertible with a girl looking up at me staring. The light changed. I started moving, and she didn't even notice. Some relationships were started because she came up to me and thought I was cute. I kind of shrug my shoulders. My current relationship started when my wife, (friend's sister at the time) slapped my butt. Attraction is real, and apparently I am attractive to women. Women are attracted to different things on men. We focus mainly on the physical. Women are attracted to physical things also, but it is more emotionaly based aka how this guy makes me feel. They like a guy that's confident. I am extroverted. I go up to random people and hold up conversations with them. For a man, the initial attraction is physical, but for me, if she's kind of bland in her personality or expresses red flags, I immediately lose attraction. She could have the assets, but doesn't have the personality to match, I am gone. I can admit Courtney Ryan is attractive, but if her channel said Men are useless, or treated waiting staff like crap, I wouldn't continue seeing her. I would say good luck and good bye. I don't like being around people that think their poo doesn't stink.

That statement about you being on drugs made me laugh because of how random it was

I am a firm believer, "That if you give your word (Keep It.) However, if for some reason you can't "Have a good reason why."

The body language (exuded) of pride, exemplified through posture and jaw line. Mind creates body as body creates mind. Much like assuming Alpha position will alter mood. I find how women gesture and or articulate their hands and wrists is highly attractive. It shows a certain refinement to or of their personality. Of course exclusive to a type of woman I would specifically prefer. As per what am I attracted to and why. These “signs” or body language are hallmark and the visual pheromones of allure ❤.

Treating a woman like crap is the highest state of confidence.

As an axe murderer, this gives me hope. I have fucking class limbal ring XD