8 Keys for a Successful and Healthy Marriage

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When we began removing the “stuff” from our life, we found a whole new world open up. We found that we had more time for the things that we valued most. Here are 8 pieces of advice that have helped us live a healthy and successful marriage.
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@jankarel6454 Год назад

As someone who was married for over 50 years before losing her husband, I have to say that you are absolutely right about selfishness causing so much damage to a marriage. It's hard to work that trait out of ourselves, but it sure makes marriage sweeter when you figure that out early on. Seems like now people don't want to admit that all those other problems are actually selfishness, because evidently it sounds better to call it something else.

@anitas5817 Год назад

Happily married for 30 years and it’s easy for us with this one principle: we are the most important thing to each other. More important than money, more important than being right, more important than our individual wants, more important than other people. Nothing at all is worth hurting each other for. We’re both all in and that makes it easy. If you are putting anything else before your spouse’s feelings, better examine that.

@kjohnsonshelton0923 Год назад

Well-said!!

@chris-ci7ch Год назад

I have been married 49.5 years and all your points are right on. I do want to add that a sense of humor goes a long way in making a marriage happier.

@jobartlett3317 Год назад

Wow! 50 years is a huge milestone. Congratulations!

@chris-ci7ch Год назад

@@jobartlett3317 thank you, Jo

@floridanativelh568 Год назад

Congrats and good point❤

@carlos4947 Год назад

1.love and commitment 2 humility 3. Faithfulness and intimacy 4 patience and forgiveness 5 time 6 honesty and trust 7 communication 8 selflessness

@micheleohmer4117 Год назад

I would add prayer to this list. A couple that prays together, stays together. Excellent list!

@livn4JC Год назад

My husband and I will celebrate 25 years in a few months. I love this advice. Thank you.

@simini1837 Год назад

Maybe this falls under one of the others mentioned but I would say: never take your partner for granted, but be grateful for the love and cherish your partner

@NLY1WAY4U Год назад

Absolutely Joshua! Celebrated 47 years this year and still growing in our marriage as we age. Sharing this with some soon to be married adults. Thank you.

@sherbear2016 Год назад

I agree with you 100%. Especially about selfishness. You also can’t keep score with each other. It doesn’t matter who gets the credit for doing something as long as it is contributing to the wellbeing of your marriage. I’m not saying you shouldn’t both be doing the right things. I’m just saying it doesn’t matter if one does 10 good things and the other only does 5. Both of you working on your relationship (to keep it healthy), is what’s most important. It definitely is the most important relationship of all. Our children grow up and have their own lives and families. Husbands and wives need to always be there for and committed to each other, throughout all of life’s ups and (especially the) downs!❤

@kathiegreiner678 Год назад

Excellent video! Married for 34 years and I still need practice in each of these areas daily. 😊 it’s effort, but the payoff is priceless.

@erintannehill Год назад

Love your advice! Marriage isn't easy, but every bit of the effort. I'm about to celebrate 12 years of marriage. When I think back to all we've gone through, I'm amazed at what two people can do when they commit themselves to each other and their dreams.

@julias259 Год назад

Thank you for this video. 22 years and I still feel like we are learning and growing in our marriage.

@haynesatteh4463 Год назад

Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i can't stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just can't, i love her so much, i don't know why i am bring this here for, i can't stop thinking about her.

@bartholetbay412 Год назад

it's always difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation my wife for 12 years left me, i couldn't just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back.

@haynesatteh4463 Год назад

@@bartholetbay412 wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?

@bartholetbay412 Год назад

@@haynesatteh4463 her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE,and she is a great spiritual adviser as well as caster who can bring her back

@haynesatteh4463 Год назад

@@bartholetbay412 Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

@AlexShiro Год назад

Why use a caster? That seems a bit controlling :s Why would you want back what isn’t given freely? By all means look at counselling or asking if change can bring repair, but casting isn’t a sound solution.

@annfarrell6479 Год назад

Thank you, Joshua for sharing your reflections on marriage. I’ve been blessed to be married for 41 years to the love of my life. I only wish that more young people would see marriage as a gift to one another to be treasured and protected. As other comments mentioned, a sense of humor and a bit of patience goes a long way…. Thanks again.

@susansmith7507 Год назад

After being married for 41 years to my hubby, I totally agree with you.

@yvonneb2327 Год назад

My marriage of nearly 54 years I view as a sacred contract I have made it has worked through life challenges ..

@kathyesargent9088 Год назад

39 years of happiness and love. The devil tries to enter but you just say Stop and pray more. Be careful accepting gifts could be the devil trying to intrude. Stop him. God always is there and will protect your marriage. Trust the truth❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@juliejames5974 Год назад

Very helpful! Only thing I’d add is keep God in your marriage! I can’t imagine it without HIM!

@dlarsen325 Год назад

I feel so much happier having embraced minimalism. It has definitely made me a better mom and partner.

@jovannatetreault8033 Год назад

Great video! My husband is my best friend. I wish that for everyone. But marriages take work, just like everything else in life. We reap what we sow.

@susanbliese3603 Год назад

Thank you. This helps. I have been married for 24 years and still find the importance of guarding my mind to be faithful. It is so worth cultivating a strong marriage.

@virginiapeacock2710 Год назад

Thank you Joshua, so true and also relevant and useful. I found the exercise of thinking of three things my spouse does better than me to be revealing and humbling. Take care x

@michelleg1905 Год назад

Great reminders during this difficult times where divorce and being selfish are seeing more and more. Happily married for 3 years and this reminder’s are great to keep working on 💓💓💓

@helenheggadon6324 Год назад

Love this. Especially guarding your body and mind. Committing whole heartedly, I have found, switches off any interest in anyone else. I only see my husband in my heart. I’m fortunate that he feels the same about me. Fortunate that we both work on our marriage. We both acknowledge this truth and ‘do the work’. It’s worth it. There is such a peace that comes with commitment, and joy is often m found in duty.

@k.j.lindsey3048 Год назад

I completely agree with you. We’ve been married 45 years this year and our experience shows that these things work. Thanks for this

@susanwagner8833 Год назад

Our culture needs to hear this! Thank you! 🙌😍

@polgara28 Год назад

Thank you for this well timed reminder. This is the whole reason I became a minimalist, more time for family. Love this channel! ❤

@janblackdog3418 Год назад

Wow, I always look forward to your Friday videos, and this one is especially good. I like how you tie minimalism (intentionality) to marriage. An excellent reminder to again prioritize the important things (not things) in life.

@jenniferp403 Год назад

This is all absolute pure gold! Thanks so much for sharing truth, eloquently and concisely!

@Mawea289 Год назад

It couldn’t have been said better. You touched upon everything that truly matters. I like how you explained how minimizing the material things gives more to our relationships.

@runningyogamom1114 Год назад

Love this! So true, I appreciate these important keys to a successful union. Thanks again, Joshua 🎉

@karenstough8708 Год назад

This is so good, Joshua! Thank you!

@Havanah2006 Год назад

Thank you Josh. Appreciate your wise words from me who is happily (with lots of hard work, communication & time) married now 21yrs and looking forward to the next 21yrs 🥰

@judymiller4960 Год назад

Thank you! Such concise clarity is so refreshing. People could save money on counseling if they applied these principles. I always appreciate your unique, male understanding of minimalism. God bless!

@Jean_in_Stillness Год назад

Absolutely beautiful and sound suggestions. Thank you, Joshua. God bless you and your beloveds.

@lwangelsbg Год назад

Thank you Joshua

@robbindohm3767 Год назад

43 years Tomorrow We've been through a lot. But love thank you Joshua, your advice is right on. With God at the center of our life now, our life is better than ever. Being healthy mentally and physically is a good point as well. God bless you and your family ❤️

@kayscheuer9159 Год назад

Thanks So Much!

@kristinolan7240 Год назад

This was so very meaningful and just what I needed ! ❤️

@Silversparkles Год назад

This is great, thank you for posting it.

@siyarakb5305 Год назад

Golden advice as always. I love the fourth point. Your wife & you are lucky. Your kids will definitely cherish these values🥰

@donnaanderson3857 Год назад

Thanks for sharing the truth with the world. A great marriage is made up of two people putting the other person first. We encourage others to try everything that you so eloquently shared. Thank you.

@richardsanmiya2976 Год назад

You are very wise. Linda

@acrobaticanna Год назад

Thanks for encouraging us on marriage!!

@mikemanjo2458 Год назад

Amen. Incredible truth. (Jane)

@rachelgustafson1207 Год назад

Amen! Good Godly advice. Loved seeing glimpses of your wedding pictures too! Blessings on your marriage and family.

@kimberlyjohnson6052 Год назад

So good! Thank you! ❤

@elizabethnajjar1375 Год назад

❤ Marvelous counsel!

@LJ-ww1vf Год назад

Absolutely love this!

@JerilynnRhodes-zn5do Год назад

Thanks for this good word!

@shirleyburnham2782 Год назад

I'm still learning xx

@jesterday2222 11 месяцев назад

Trust takes time. But can be destroyed in 1 second . . . . Always be honest (aka respectful) to your partner

@tonyadevos9189 Год назад

Excellent biblical truth. Thank you!

@anamurrieta6295 Год назад

Thank you for the advice 🙏🏼

@julialarson8163 Год назад

Good points. Thank you

@elaineborn6135 Год назад

Thank you, wonderful advice!

@licoreen Год назад

Appreciate this list. Now I understand in detail why my husband has been such a great spouse.

@randydorrow1689 11 месяцев назад

Awesome thanks.. 😊

@lizziemcdougall2767 Год назад

Excellent advice. Thank you!

@user-3l1 Год назад

I need to work in the 2 😶 I'm close to 10 years of marriage, we started young an with very little but we could grow together and we'll continue doing it 🥰

@suzi437 Год назад

So wonderful! Thank you!

@cimmerianbloke8421 Год назад

Very informative video, all your points make so much sense. Thanks for your advice and God bless you.

@larag1764 Год назад

Sage advice. Thank you.

@visnaidoogvn Год назад

Awesome thanks 🙏

@kennethbailey9853 Год назад

Thankyou as Always

@JoshuaBecker Год назад

First!

@all_things_home Год назад

My parents have been married for 56 years and can attest to all of this after watching your video. ❤

@marlagroethe3145 Год назад

Amen! Great advice. Bible says the same things!

@hhhunt777 Год назад

P.s. love your channel! Recommending it to lots!

@mariadionisiodionisio3062 Год назад

Fantastic advice thanks a million ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏

@hhhunt777 Год назад

I married Mr. Right 2 14 81. I believe I heard Dr. Dobson or Zig Ziglar say, don't marry someone you think you could live with, marry that someone you know you couldn't live without. My husband reads our devotions to me every morning while I put 'my face' on (make up). Then we pray together, ending with 5 min, deep breathing and stretching. Highly recommend the daily prayers!!

@debrabowie5141 Год назад

Agreed.

@angelasnodgrass6621 Год назад

Great video great advice.

@cindynielson4231 Год назад

24 years on the 3rd time, well said. TFS 👍

@Sabiha-30 Год назад

Brilliant

@armenberejiklian4230 Год назад

Useful 😍

@FaithfulandTrue949 Год назад

Absolutely! Humility and trust, never seek revenge for some perceived slight - communicate instead. To any abused and God fearing women if you've forgiven unthinkable acts of cruelty again and again, spoke with your husband about the issues in a kind, non-judgemental, non-blaming way, then took it to get professional help... If your husband does not hear you and is abusive or employing narcissistic destruction tactics still, God will help you escape - just ask Him. Particularly if your children are at risk. Yes God hates divorce but His Son died to free captives from oppression. Abuse is not Love, God does not join together pretenders to believers as unequally yoked. We must have willed it in our flesh which needs to be repented of. Whatever the cost do not lose your soul 🙏

@stacyfausett5436 Год назад

Excellent video! ❤ ignore the naysayers because this is Truth!!

@kaitlinobrien243 Год назад

Amen 🌻 💕

@vanessaandreatta9098 Год назад

If I read this list I could have married when I was 14 because I just have this values within. I am not married because I have never found someone who shares the same ones. I have been with the same person for over 11 years, but even if we shares the most, he does not give up his hobbies for me, or the time with his stuff, not even take care of the space within the home( which is mostly his belongings). He wants to marry me but I won't till he learns what it means... Communication, selfishness and time is all we are missing... Like 3 things out of this list😭

@Sheryl777 Год назад

I think one thing that people think when they think of minimalism, is that it's a one time thing. Not true...Yes, the largest part of getting rid of extra stuff may be mainly a one time thing, but we are always going to have to occasionally go through our things and do away with things we don't really need. It's not just a one time effort basically.

@julio7842 Год назад

Good marriages aren’t a 50/50 proposition. It’s each person giving a 100 percent based on common values.

@EmilyRodriguezOIF Год назад

Good summary of 1st Corinthians 13 :)

@lovebug7 Год назад

Wow I had to here this I need to move on. I CANT FRORGIVE BEHAVIOR THAT KEEPS REPEATING

@prinsesjuds5761 Год назад

In this list I missed mutual respect and equivalency (as opposed to equality) in partnership. Maybe because you assume that these are already a given in marriage, but a groeing number of people getting married are never taught these, or are actively learned the opposite (like the umbrella of protection)…

@pinkribbon3541 Год назад

🙏🏻

@dogsareawomansbestfriend Год назад

It's real hard when you marry a hoarder, who denies it, and there is no room in the house. By getting own home with all my things, it's not easy to minimize!

@giennefarcais6834 Год назад

curious - did you know he was a hoarder? if so, did you think you would change him?

@dogsareawomansbestfriend Год назад

@@giennefarcais6834 No. His other house was filled with things and I needed a place to stay. It didn't click in until after we got married and I was throwing things out and he had a fit. That house is so full of junk now there's only a 2 ft path to go into another room.

@Anniieee92 Месяц назад

❤❤❤

@runningwoman7207 Год назад

❤❤

@ryeofoatmeal Год назад

point number two is so important.. young couple these days don't wanna commit into relationship that leads to lifetime marriage. one night stand and polyamorous relationship are more preferable ://

@deedoodles465 Год назад

I'm not married yet . With my partner I always feel my ego coming up very strongly in matters of money . How do you manage your finances once you are married, should we keep it seperate I mean be independent and self reliant or is it okay to mix up things without feeling inferior/ superior?

@JoshuaBecker Год назад

One family, one account. Not separate.

@tiffanyaltamirano Год назад

Bible truths 🙏

@mariegarcia3560 Год назад

happy marriage: I ask myself, “Would an idiot would do that thing?” If the answer is, “Yes,” then I do not do that thing.

@eg7647 Год назад

My dad used to say, "You are number one, until you get married. Then you're number two, until you have a child. Then you're number 3." He was the epitome of a selfless person.

@vanessaandreatta9098 Год назад

Great quote I love this

@susandahl4999 Год назад

Marriage can last for eternity if married in the Lord’s way.

@lisastaubly Год назад

Is it possible to have a good marriage without trust? I don't want a divorce but I also do not trust my husband as far as I can throw him. It seems silly to divorce someone because "your honor, he lies", when everything else is so good. He's a great provider, an attentive lover, a wonderful father. If I ask for something, he never says no. But I don't trust him. At all.

@inapickle4971 Год назад

This made me cry…I used to have this until my husband and children were taken away by the cult of Jehovah’s Witnesses.

@eunicem1542 Год назад

pls stick with minimalist advice. you're not a therapist

@JoshuaBecker Год назад

Only a therapist can talk about marriage?

@JamieM470 Год назад

He used to be a pastor, and he's been giving people good life advice for many years. He's also a very successful author & he's had a successful marriage for many years. If he can't give advice on these things, no one can. Btw, since you obviously don't know, a degree does not magically turn a wicked person into a wonderful & wise angelic being. There are good therapists, & there are also many who are very bad. You really shouldn't take life advice from someone just because they memorized some stuff long enough to pass a test on it.