90 Day Fiancé - (Mike & Natalie #34) - Therapy - Therapist Reacts

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Dr. Kirk Honda, couples therapist, reacts to 90 Day Fiancé - Mike and Natalie. Includes clips from 90 Day Fiancé (TLC) season 8.
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@Blizzard757575 3 года назад

Nothing says I'm present like having a 2003 bluetooth in your ear during a therapy session.

@jenniferc2592 3 года назад

😂

@jackielehman8945 3 года назад

🤣

@selfcoutureny1 3 года назад

I look at it as jewelry at this point. Mike wears it as an accessory hear.

@shannyncaldwell 3 года назад

I was thinking the same thing. The Bluetooth is more than accessory. He uses it to put distance.

@ms.frazier5765 3 года назад

😂😂😂right! Him wearing it in the house

@KarenSmallwood 3 года назад

Who else out here has been comforted by Dr. Honda's soothing voice and kindness during the past year of COVID lockdowns?

@baobao8459 3 года назад

me here, i had a breakup right before the pandemic, heartbreaking, after watched Dr.'s so many reaction, feeling much more happier

@dawnecarter4878 3 года назад

The same... For sure 💚💚💚

@eurosis 3 года назад

ALL OF US.

@jeanp1323 3 года назад

I started going to therapy thanks to Dr Kirk

@KarenSmallwood 3 года назад

@@jeanp1323 So happy to hear!

@Chipiliro613 3 года назад

Now we need a video where Doug the Counselor reacts to Dr. Kirk reacting to him. Reactception

@evanz2704 3 года назад

rofl I wanna watch that!

@EvaMaria-gv5bf 3 года назад

Reactception 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@therabbithat 3 года назад

@Itsjusta Hellcat what potential harm are you worried about?

@justkeepsinging6007 3 года назад

Yessss pls!

@MissTasseled 3 года назад

@Itsjusta Hellcat well, Dr Honda was very careful in his observations. He never criticized the other specialist's approach, just offered alternatives based on his own style of therapy, and he did complement Doug the Counselor a lot. If the other party does the same, there is no harm. It's the same as two professionals swapping ideas and opinions for mutual growth.

@mdrake3265 3 года назад

Mike asks her for communication, but never really communicates to her other than in vague generalizations. "We have a lot to work on." Like what, Mike? Get.To.The.Point.

@angelikapotree2741 3 года назад

This is the main problem - he is not saying what he wants or what he wants from her. I had a boyfriend like this - at the beginning, I thought we wanted the same thing but as time went on - I become this crazy person who forced him to do staff he did not want to do ( without even noticing it)... He was just like Mike - wanted something but could not tell me what it was and I was not able to read his mind.... i break out with him because I become tired of being in a villain role all the time...

@hopebullard460 3 года назад

Yes, he's not specific, but that might be because he's not even sure how to start the conversation.

@lavinder11 3 года назад

He did get to the point. Do you love me?

@ununhexium 3 года назад

I was hoping Dr. Kirk would call him out for keeping her in this mindgame. I felt he was really aggressive in this session and patronizing to her and his true colors are really coming out.

@mdrake3265 3 года назад

@@ununhexium YES! HE'S ALL ABOUT THE MIND-GAME!

@jstupack 3 года назад

I remember watching this scene and immediate thinking “I can’t wait for Dr. Kirk to see this”.

@Gosipa 3 года назад

Sameeee

@garyabc 3 года назад

Me too.

@nofri848 3 года назад

almost every time i watch some scenes of 90df I keep thinking that 👍🏼

@bbluebabby 3 года назад

Same :)

@quasimodem5260 3 года назад

It is the next episode I am dying for dr Honda to see. Natalie is impossible to please. The Bluetooth could be off...he just got a haircut maybe we never saw it before.

@catifexart274 3 года назад

I am so relieved that this therapist is better than Colt and Larissa's ''you landed her in jail after a heated argument? well what about we try some ice cubes in the bedroom'' sort of therapist

@pinsandneedles3 3 года назад

Oh God, don't remind me 😂😂

@Delilah2112 3 года назад

Omg spot on that was so bad

@perit7140 3 года назад

Because they went to a sex therapist not a normal one 😂

@Delilah2112 3 года назад

@@perit7140 Sex therapists are experts on sexuality but they will first focus on the emotional side of things and try to help with conflict and communication like a regular therapist; they will never send you home with a foreplay exercise on the first session especially seeing the level of conflict those two had! I've been to sex therapy before, it's not the way they portrayed it in the show at all

@ladyviking 3 года назад

My theory on why Mike is just shut down and not pulling the trigger of breaking up, is because if he just forces HER to actually do the breaking up, then HE gets to be the good guy and SHE becomes the one who gave up.

@mariek.474 3 года назад

Maybe that's it ! A lot of people do that, although there's something particularly cowardly and cruel to treating someone with indifference or veiled rudeness until they can't take it anymore instead of "ripping the band-aid off" quickly.

@kokolatte825 3 года назад

I literally wrote this on Reddit. I think he is just trying to drive her off and have some sex in the meantime.

@garyabc 3 года назад

Yes, could be. Maybe he doesn't even realize why he's doing it. He just can't pull the trigger.

@yoyoyo5621 3 года назад

omg so many guys do this it is the worst

@brooke3140 3 года назад

Yep something is up and this could be it. I use to like mike, now I just dont. I feel like hes playing with her. They're so morally different they just need to move on, apart

@mariek.474 3 года назад

Dr Honda 🤝 Dr Doug validation and clarification

@Chipiliro613 3 года назад

In a dark world, Mike is getting fed what to say through the earpiece.

@evanz2704 3 года назад

By Coltee.

@evelyndeisbeck9348 3 года назад

@@evanz2704 bahahahahaha!!

@ewy3998 3 года назад

@@evanz2704 omg yeah

@FeistyShlomit 3 года назад

😂😂😂😂😂

@rayssapop 3 года назад

Dr. Honda's cheerful reaction to the therapist is so endearing, I'm here more for this than for the couple now lol And for the lessons too of course, appreciate them 😁

@lucindabreeding 3 года назад

I just love his excitement!

@PsychologyInSeattle 3 года назад

Totes. I liked his approach. Refreshing to see.

@blergyadig 3 года назад

*Same*

@briggzm2098 3 года назад

To be fair to Mike, Natalie expresses here how hard it is to hear that your partner doesn’t love you, yet she wasn’t understanding when Mike was hurt by the same thing

@jane347 3 года назад

Yes I thought the same thing when watching 4hat piece!

@dickjohnson5025 3 года назад

And she could not express that she loved him. It seem to be almost a conditional thing with her, if he says he loves me, I will say it back

@jasminehouston-burns1691 3 года назад

Her lack of insight is notable.

@brooke3140 3 года назад

Yes but that was long ago, before he brought her here. To be fair to Natalie, I'm not sure why he brought her. Something changed in him and it's not nice to watch. He has that "Idgaf" attitude. She left everything behind. Even her language. I don't feel like is bending at all. I cant blame her for wanting to set a date either. Does he not want to get married at all anymore? He should just tell her that. I feel like hes playing with her. I use to like Mike but now, I just dont. They're so different theyd be happier apart. I feel like the only way these relationships will work is if they share the same morals. These two do not

@michelledunn6907 3 года назад

Natalie wants Mike to say he loves her but she thinks it’s ok for her to say she’s not in love with him. Why would he make himself vulnerable when she refuses to open up.

@leannegriffinireland 3 года назад

What’s so important that he couldn’t take the headset off for an hour?

@garyabc 3 года назад

Maybe to hear some prompting or direction from the producer. We don't normally see Mike wearing one.

@brooke3140 3 года назад

@@garyabc hes always wearing one lol

@papitosabe 3 года назад

It's a time machine earpiece and he won't get back to 2012 if he takes it off.

@brooke3140 3 года назад

@@papitosabe lmao! Well you may not be far off, hes said his religion is ancient aliens

@gc7214 3 года назад

He always has that, it’s obnoxious.

@kokolatte825 3 года назад

The play by play analysis of the therapy session was my favorite moment ever on this channel! It was like watching a sports analyst. Love that! 😆

@colombi1anjay 3 года назад

This is like a sports commentator breaking down a play-by-play. I love it.

@brittneylyntalks 3 года назад

I went to couples therapy with my boyfriend after a few years of dating and we were young (early 20’s). It helped TREMENDOUSLY! It showed us how to communicate in a positive way because I grew up in a household with a lot of fighting and yelling so I would avoid conflict at all costs.

@Dancingsushi911 3 года назад

Me and my bf came from broken homes, I feel like I’m more rational when it comes to arguments. It seems like he still has a lot of work to do in regards to that. We’re thinking of going to therapy cause sometimes I feel overwhelmed with how our arguments carry out. How long did you go to therapy?

@jenniferc2592 3 года назад

That bluetooth was bugging me too. 😂

@erikaaguilar8259 3 года назад

I think it's so simple, Mike doesn't love Natalie anymore, he doesn't know how to tell her, and he's just waiting the time out, he's never going to marry her and he doesn't want to come across as a jerk

@megnakamura7652 3 года назад

To late! He has already come across as a jerk.

@erikaaguilar8259 3 года назад

@@megnakamura7652 I agree, by holding her back, leading her on and lying by omission he really has come across like he's just using her

@clarkkent1521 3 года назад

He the type of guy to let Natalie live with him forever just to maybe hear her say she's wrong.

@TheOnlyMarvin 3 года назад

👍👍 Who else has been dying for Dr. Kirk's reaction to this scene ever since this episode aired ?? 🙋‍♂️

@EvaMaria-gv5bf 3 года назад

🙋🏼‍♀️

@TheOnlyMarvin 3 года назад

@@EvaMaria-gv5bf 🙋‍♂️

@ms.frazier5765 3 года назад

Sooo muuuch. Yayyyy

@Carolinevanmeerbeek 3 года назад

🙋‍♀️

@tofuneverbleeds 3 года назад

Why does he have his Bluetooth in during a therapy session? 🙄

@pinsandneedles3 3 года назад

@Itsjusta Hellcat Oh, that would make sense. I was like wtf lol... What does Mike do for a living, again? I can't remember 🤔🤔

@pinsandneedles3 3 года назад

@Itsjusta Hellcat Yep, that i remember. Purely because of how awful it sounds 😅😅

@cassievalerio3007 3 года назад

He has it in all the time. Even on the recent episode, he has it in when petting the cat

@stuff1784 3 года назад

Lmaoooo

@Authentistic-ism 3 года назад

@@pinsandneedles3 don't remember if I heard this from the show or not but I thought Mike was a contractor and I also remember hearing that he commutes to work at a contractor store. I'm not sure which one it would be if he's an actual contractor the Bluetooth makes sense

@nellybarrett7 3 года назад

Lol I love how excited doctor gets about the appointment it’s so cute! Chills up my spine he says 😄

@elyseparker5333 3 года назад

Aww Kirk ❤ Doug! I thought he made a lot of headway for them. It was nice to see on tv how a therapist can be helpful and not some dramatized version of therapy.

@Rachel-hv5im 3 года назад

The long-awaited reaction episode! Super excited 😆

@baybeetricia 3 года назад

I'm sooo pumped!!!

@sweetiedahling8137 3 года назад

I’m only 2 mins in but seeing Dr Honda so excited just makes my day 😊

@tanishaisaacs175 3 года назад

Could he be asking so that she breaks up with him and he doesn't have to do the hard work?

@brooke3140 3 года назад

So he can be the victim. The good guy who always gets the short end of the stick 🙄 I was fooled by mike but now I see him for who he really is

@asdfghjkl8236 3 года назад

I think so to be honest

@TheFluffyTRex 3 года назад

I think he definitely wants to break up. But because of the cameras and because she came all the way there, and because there's a natural deadline to this thing, I think he prefers to let things run their course.

@optionhotdogmeowkshake4090 3 года назад

Yes!

@Authentistic-ism 3 года назад

I think so. Based on what I saw in later scenes I think from the latest episode. He seems very comfortable letting Natalie dig herself into a hole while she is desperately thinking she's trying to dig herself out

@Chipiliro613 3 года назад

They needed a _second_ therapist there... I of course am referring to Mike's hairdresser.

@monchiquita25 3 года назад

😆🤨😂

@brooke3140 3 года назад

I cackled at that scene and I dont know why lol!

@kokolatte825 3 года назад

The second therapist is Dr. Honda watching their session. Hopefully, they come across these videos.

@hope.0oo 3 года назад

@@kokolatte825 Natalie follows PsychologyinSeattle on Instagram, so she most likely has watched or does watch these videos...

@sirmel11 3 года назад

Would be cool to see her on her. Might make Mike open up more.

@cellophanpapier 3 года назад

It felt like they were both just waiting for the other person to reassure them and say that they loved them. Frustrating to watch. I liked the therapist's calm energy.

@sirmel11 3 года назад

I agree on the first part.

@kellymurphy6667 3 года назад

I've found this so confusing to watch, given their behaviour towards the other it didn't seem that the answer would even be particularly meaningful for the future of the relationship but more to kick off the next argument with "then why to do you .......?"

@asunnywebb 3 года назад

Impatiently awaiting Dr. Honda hearing that Natalie is hurt when Mike says he doesn't love her, not the other way around...wait, what? He missed it? Nooooooo! Nothing about Natalie being hurt by the exact same thing she did?? I've been waiting for this.

@TigerR0ll_ 3 года назад

Please email Doug and ask him to react to this video lol

@Set5087 3 года назад

😂😂😂😂😂

@sacredsiren 3 года назад

To be fair to Mike, what went on in Ukraine before he left was a lot. She told him she doesn't love him, she threw the ring back at him, she had a complete melt down about his lack of religion and quesitoned how he could be a good person if he isn't religious, all while pressuring him to immediatly put a baby in her... they never really resolved any of that trauma and then she comes here and does nothing but complain (some of it valid), and nag him, and criticize him and his habits, she calls him fat, she told him she doesn't think he has a high IQ... I mean, how could you possibly want to continue a relationship like this, I just don't understand why he didn't just tell her he'd like her to go home instead of dragging out the 90 days just trying to put her off every time she talks about planning a wedding, which he clearly doesn't want anymore. It is also very interesting that Natalie said it was hard to hear that he doesn't love her anymore, but she brushed him off as overreacting for being hurt when she did the SAME thing to him. I think they would be best off if they just cut ties before they just keep hurting eachother.

@ksref 3 года назад

Yes. I think this session is a success in that they call a spade a spade. Hopefully it leads to them letting go finally.

@soniarodriguez6577 3 года назад

100% truth! And this doc needs to see all episodes of these couples so he can get a better gage on what the issues are.

@sumie327 3 года назад

Well, when she said if he wanted her to go home, he should've answered. I don't get why he doesn't say anything. It's obvious he didn't want her here to begin with and didn't want to work on anything after the Ukraine trip so he had a chance and he once again said nothing. 🙄

@Becca-pp9ln 3 года назад

Personally I find the Bluetooth thing disrespectful as it was probably one hour these two tried to dedicate for their relationship and he could not take it out for that time? Come on man Is Mike on a constant rebellion because of the resentment he holds with the ring situation🤔

@J.E.C. 3 года назад

He could hold his resentment without bringing her to the US.

@megnakamura7652 3 года назад

Yes! Mike can’t get over the ring thing and he loves being the victim while passive aggressively punishing her for it. He is a master manipulator.

@chuckleslt12 3 года назад

**Me getting ready to slide in Doug's DM so I can get a good therapist**: Dear Doug, Dr. Honda said...

@jenn7768 3 года назад

🤣🤣

@angelkaterose 3 года назад

It felt good to see them working with a good therapist. And I felt happy watching Kirk feel happy watching it too. *Disney moment* :D It's always a relief to see communication improve.

@stardust5531 3 года назад

Disney moment for sure💕

@kellsr2244 3 года назад

I was bothered by the Bluetooth in his ear only because it indicated he wasn't giving his full attention to the therapy. I understand being on-call for work etc but in that case have your phone in front of you. It just shows me he really has his feet out the door with this relationship and honestly I don't blame him. After she called him a low class drunk I was done supporting her!

@angelikapotree2741 3 года назад

When I don't support name-calling I understand that frustration can get better of you especially when your other half is doing something you had many discussions about before and is straight out ignoring you...

@brooke3140 3 года назад

I have really enjoyed your videos this past year. You are sweet, thoughtful and understanding. You have a kind soul Dr. Honda. Keep it up. You are helping more people than you may realize

@FabiolaMacabre 3 года назад

Ok so it’s acceptable for Natalie to say she doesn’t love him cause it’s her culture to be that way, but it’s not ok for him to say he doesn’t love her? See, that’s where my issue is with Natalie, it’s only ok when she does something but when Mike does it it’s like *insert shocked pikachu face* 😮 .

@captain1jones354 2 года назад

It’s because of her culture. Some cultures don’t express themselves the way Americans do. But that doesn’t mean she doesn’t have feelings for him.

@colleenbogovich5435 3 года назад

I think that Natalie is high maintenance. This would be her third marriage, his second. Maybe he should get a nice golden retriever and date the hairdresser.

@EvaMaria-gv5bf 3 года назад

You are right !

@florencefiancee 3 года назад

So weird I find Natalie pretty easy to understand and a great communicator. Maybe sometimes rude, but I bet if her partner was as good a communicator as her, and a bit empathic, I think her relationship would be a piece of cake.

@J.E.C. 3 года назад

@@florencefiancee yes, she is straightforward and direct. He only rolls eyes and makes faces.

@clarkkent1521 3 года назад

He can't handle a dog. It requires getting up off the couch, which is the only thing I've seen him do on this farm. He's definitely a cat person. Doesn't do shit just like him.

@soniarodriguez6577 3 года назад

Exactly date a normal woman. Something happened to Natalie for her to have such destructive relationships with men. She left her ex when he filed for bankruptcy and ended up poor. That says alot about her intensions. And if you watch the zoom video chat with her friend she says shes not done with America.

@matthallett4126 3 года назад

English is missing words between "I like you" and "I love you" Other languages have unique words as you can use to express your feelings as you fall in love.

@jeanp1323 3 года назад

I heard the phrase "to appreciate someone". Would it be in the middle ?

@EvaMaria-gv5bf 3 года назад

I could listen to Dr Honda for hours. And I would not be bored.

@stardust5531 3 года назад

Same

@cassidykowalski1869 3 года назад

Same, and I do

@irairod5160 3 года назад

Become a Patreon and listen to everything he's recorded. There are years and years of content!

@soymilkcoffee 3 года назад

Doug needs to be a guest on the podcast! :D I'm here for it.

@Carolinevanmeerbeek 3 года назад

Yes!

@indieconquers 3 года назад

OMG to see Dr. Honda so excited about the questioning is great.

@asunnywebb 3 года назад

Dr. Honda we ALL needed you to recognize that Natalie was hurt by exactly what she did, once again, to Mike. She can't stand criticizing yet she criticizes horribly. She is now hurt that he said he isn't in love with her yet she said exactly the same thing to him and refused to acknowledge the pain she caused. Why are you missing this with this couple? Or are we missing something? Help.

@MsAmos97 3 года назад

Treading lightly through red flags is on brand for this channel, it's almost always a prerequisite of many jerkface hypotheses

@catspajamas2961 3 года назад

@@MsAmos97 Not calling out abuse or toxic behavior is siding with the abuser or toxic person. But it's hard to smile, act sugary and look pretty when you're analyzing abuse.

@amandawithlov3908 3 года назад

She projects a ton. It’s as if she wants the upper hand of doing/saying the thing first before someone says it to her. She wants the control.

@c4arla 3 года назад

I came here for the yikes

@GalCharlotteOG 3 года назад

🥳

@Martaetc 3 года назад

😆

@maam-yj8ph 3 года назад

Busted lol 😆.

@halescrafthouse7157 3 года назад

Eight years later, my ex-husband still wears a Bluetooth earbud whenever he has to sit down and talk to me... it makes me feel like he is being passive aggressive. Your thoughts???

@J.E.C. 3 года назад

My husband is super lovely but sometimes he talks to me with his headphones on. He just forgets about them and I come and take them out of his ears myself. Then he realizes it and apologizes.

@wompwomp5525 3 года назад

ur videos make my life better

@u.d.6728 3 года назад

ukrainian here: I would rather say that we do use the word "love" the same way americans do. there's two words in ukrainian language for love: 1) kohannia - love for a spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend; 1)liubov - love for doing things, or for some people like relatives or friends. But since Natalie doesn't speak ukrainian, but russian ( in russian language there's only one word for love) I would say she puts some special meaning into it, which doesn't have anything to do with our culture.

@Matt-gu4pn 3 года назад

0:16 "This is the way"

@angelkaterose 3 года назад

He he...

@vaelayne9067 3 года назад

Ha ya I caught that too. This is the way.

@ChristinaChrisR 3 года назад

This is the way.

@suefrisk8505 3 года назад

I am so glad that Dr Honda talked about the fact that people from other countries may not say they love you as easily as Americans!!

@monstercameron 3 года назад

They had a big blow out on Bares All, it will give more insight into how Natalie deals with conflict.

@monstercameron 3 года назад

@@icxcnika2037 $$ discovery+

@silviaraquel827 3 года назад

While watching this session I was thinking how Doug was doing a really good job in helping them to open up in a way that Dr. Honda would probably approve of. He helped Mike acknowledge that he's not really happy with Natalie which sucks, but is pretty huge of him to admit. While watching the next episode, I'm curious to see how Dr. Honda reacts to Rachel's therapy style. Somehow I feel he won't exactly agree with how she focused solely on the sleepover and not on helping Natalie become of aware of the bigger picture of fears & insecurities that may be causing her to distrust Mike. But this is just total speculation.

@MsAmos97 3 года назад

She did stress the importance of trust in long-term relationships, and suggest Natalie talk about her insecurities openly with Mike. I think despite the helpful feedback, Natalie contorts the advice, molding it to fit her confirmation bias, and essentially uses the session as ammunition to hurl further accusations and insults.

@silviaraquel827 3 года назад

@@MsAmos97 True. I guess because the session with Doug didn't go as she had hoped she considered it a failed session. I think it would have done her more good to have a solo session with him since he has a better perspective on both parties and was overall a great therapist though. To be fair, Rachel only got to hear one side so that's all she could speak to. I just felt that her approach could have been better. (I'm no psychologist though so it's truly just massive speculation lol. I'm mostly curious to see how Dr. Honda sees it). It's unfortunate Natalie felt that because Rachel validated her concerns it means she's somehow saying Natalie is right....which as we've learned from Dr. Honda, is not the point. Validation does not equate to acknowledgement of being right. Thanks for your reply!! I love the comments section on these videos because I feel like I'm always learning!

@Mimi-ip6vv 3 года назад

I finally went to talk to someone today after listening to you for awhile now.. It was really scary but I'm glad I went and actually talked to someone who could help and cared. We now have weekly sessions. I just wanted to say thank you for everything you do. It really does help.

@irairod5160 3 года назад

You go, Mimi! You deserve it! You really, really do!

@Mimi-ip6vv 3 года назад

thank you

@miahershkowitz2632 3 года назад

Ohhh I’m so early today! This is frustrating to watch, but I’ve learned so much about my own communication in my relationship from hearing your insights on this couple.

@c4arla 3 года назад

It was really good though and that’s the root of the problem this all started before when she said she didn’t love him, and I like how Dr Honda understands that cause clearly she doesn’t mean she didn’t want to be with him

@melisaasedaa 3 года назад

This makes me sad that you stopped doing reactions to Showtime’s Couples Therapy!!!!!!! So helpful and interesting. With peace & love, bring those reactions back for us grad students and practitioners :(

@tonichan89 3 года назад

Agreed, I really enjoyed those reactions!

@starzzzy22 3 года назад

I was just thinking about this show...I didn't know there were already reaction videos for it!

@GiselTube 3 года назад

H3?

@eduardaviera9295 3 года назад

I've been waiting for this therapist reaction since I saw this episode, thank you

@Suegeeeee2 3 года назад

Why couldn't they have gotten Dr Honda for this!! 😁. Doug did fine of course tho 😉

@kairu5607 3 года назад

Natalie complains she feels disrespected and is sad Mike no longer loves her, yet she has disrespected Mike constantly (at least what they show us). She has also stated she does not love him... I am no longer hopeful for these two.

@maam-yj8ph 3 года назад

They both come across as desperate to be in a relationship. They also want to live completely different lifestyles, but somehow expect the other person to read their mind.

@J.E.C. 3 года назад

And yet she moved to the US for him. Actions speak louder than words. And he did nothing for her.

@shawnmercercrain9727 3 года назад

@@J.E.C. didn’t Mike bring her over, pay for all the K1 visa? Gosh that’s got to be expensive

@sapphire6722 3 года назад

Natalie has a different energy than Mike. Yes she is high maintenance but he doesn't step up at all. He comes across as slouchy and emotionally lazy. I also think he relies a lot on beer. I picture her with a guy who has way more energy and confidence.

@greta8746 3 года назад

I was looking forward to this review because I knew Dr. Honda would love each of the therapist's questions and the answers that he was hearing. Even seeing them at the therapist's office would make him giddy. So I am loving his reactions. :)

@adamjhuber 3 года назад

13:47 the entire internet wants to know the same thing.

@lkiyia 3 года назад

I feel like, for this case, the question "why did you come here?", I hear more "did you just need a husband, any husband or do you want ME". Not for the American side of things more for the social status? It seems like for her culture "she is running out of time" and might "force herself to make it work" even if the connection is not here

@annaamericanaccent9184 3 года назад

I agree. He already said that he thinks that she has the best intentions but she is settling for less (than she wants - Mike is OK in another relationship, I would think)

@francesfehrman741 3 года назад

Baby's

@yogawithmarycarmen7873 3 года назад

Omg she looks beautiful without MAKEUP!!!!!!

@greta8746 3 года назад

Natalie can't say she loves Mike, but she's upset when Mike says he's not in love with her. If she is there to be married and keeps pushing him to move forward, shouldn't she be at the point of being able to say she is in love with him?

@thebarkcrystal 3 года назад

true!! she stopped saying i love you but expects him to double-down with professing his love for her. can you imagine if they had a baby when she demanded it? what a mess.

@ChristinaChrisR 3 года назад

Hey deserving therapist and listeners! So happy to see this! The therapist seemed to me like a good match for them (impossible to judge based on just a few seconds of course but still, the first impression) and I really hope they continue to go. And oh my goodness, having an episode of Psychology in Seattle where dr Honda and this therapist sat down to talk about couples therapy, that would be beyond fantastic.

@dilayolga 3 года назад

I was soooo excited to watch this episode!! Evwn when I was watching the show my mind was "I wonder what Dr. Honda is going to say about thissss"

@queenoblivia 3 года назад

It's so nice to see you finally get what you want, which is for one of these couples to see a real therapist and actually communicate. Especially after seeing the toll that the Colt episodes seem to take on you, this made me very happy. It's like seeing a little kid get surprised with a trip to the circus after a dentist appointment. I hope this happens more often.

@SherryMarion 3 года назад

I have seen Natalie provoke arguments with Mike and then she wants to go to therapy for them to get along.

@toneyoursoul 3 года назад

What a weird concept, people self sabotage but also seek help - that is unheard of, right? 🤪

@kathyelliott6051 3 года назад

Nailed it. 🔨. 🤔

@susanholly5338 3 года назад

Natalie needs the ring to feel secure and Mike needs to feel secure before he will give her the ring. I think Dr. Honda is right that he is a black/white thinker. Giving her the ring back doesn't necessarily mean that the marriage will happen. For them it would just be a step.

@realhousewifeoftransylvania1.0 3 года назад

Why would he say "honey I love you but you dont love me?" , if he's not sure either? At least he's being honest.

@clarkkent1521 3 года назад

Natalie is more honest than Mike.

@soniarodriguez6577 3 года назад

Yes see??? That's what I'm saying. He questioned her outloud and her silence i think was too much for him to bare because she's done that before. Remember when last season she wouldn't tell him in front of cameras she loved him. Her silence and then bringing up the past really hurt him. He's unsure and the language barrier doesn't help. I don't think she realized HE WAS ASKING... Are we still in love?

@soniarodriguez6577 3 года назад

@@clarkkent1521 No she's actually not. She's condescending, manipulative and doesn't take accountability for her actions. All season she's put him down and complained. When she zoom called her friend , what did she do? She said Mike must still be mad at me be won't give me back the ring.. she's not telling her friend how mean she treats Mike. She doesn't like his home, doesn't want Uncle Bo in the house, she doesn't like what he eats, his lack of religion, not being vegan, not excercising, his drinking which I don't even think he does alot. She's a pain in the butt.

@Chipiliro613 3 года назад

I wonder if all this therapy will _just_ bring them back to the irreconcilable differences like religion and vegetarianism that they began with.

@dittoroxursox1o1 3 года назад

I mean it could help them changer their perspectives and accept that the other feels differently about those things. Like teaching Mike to stop acting like her beliefs are childish or nonsensical and get her to stop being so greater than thou with him. Couples can exist with some of these major differences as long as they have an acceptance about them.

@therabbithat 3 года назад

those are incredibly superficial differences, that's like leaving the cap off the toothpaste type stuff for those two don't get me wrong there are people for whom those would be dealbreakers but for these two it's toothpaste cap

@trishc90210 3 года назад

I'm up here in Washington, originally from L.A, I wish Dr Kirk could watch and advise on my life..... Glad to see them in therapy!

@derangedpoetess 3 года назад

This is so exciting! Your excitement is contagious. 🙌

@Ortiz1590 3 года назад

This couple really confuses me. Natalie was the first one to say she doesn't love Mike, but she has no problem marrying someone she doesn't "love". Mike has now said the same thing during their therapy session, but she is shocked? Why wasn't it understandable for Mike to be hurt by her saying she doesn't love him, but it's supposed to be understandable for her to be hurt by him essentially saying the same thing? They both have their own issues, but yikes. I also don't think I'd feel comfortable marrying someone who has said they don't love me. Cultural differences or not, if someone is telling me they aren't "in love" but they have strong feelings for me, that revelation would not encourage me to walk down the aisle with this person. But maybe that's just me (and Mike).

@lori750 3 года назад

It's so baffling how MOST "health" insurance doesn't include eyes, teeth....and certainly NOT mental health!😔

@kathyelliott6051 3 года назад

Nailed it. 🔨. 👏👏👏👏. 👍. 🤔

@mclovespizza5960 3 года назад

I’ve been so excited for this upload 🥰 Thank you Dr Honda for making Monday better

@antlersnelson2955 3 года назад

I am so excited to see Dr Honda reacting to a therapist. I always wonder what a session is with him and it's nice to see him saying this is what a good session is.

@subspecific 3 года назад

Dr. Honda’s excitement is everything lol

@FeistyShlomit 3 года назад

I don’t even watch the show any more but I am HERE for your commentary Dr Honda! Love this stuff! I don’t do clinical work anymore so this helps me get my ‘fix’. 😎🥰

@Jos_Online_Academy 3 года назад

So excited for this!!! I love your episodes

@Marsha-at-Home-Endeavor 3 года назад

I didn't even think about the word 'love' and how it differs for various languages and cultures. Thanks Dr Honda!

@alexandrasanchez5564 3 года назад

Very insightful, had to subscribe. awesome breakdown

@krystalroney 3 года назад

The episode we were all collectively waiting for 😌

@shelleypasini2463 3 года назад

I've been waiting for this one!

@SirenAngelique Год назад

SOOOO cute watching Dr. Honda get all giddy watching an actual good, productive couples therapy session 🥰

@ingobaby1 3 года назад

The highlight of my evenings is watching your videos!

@schezekks4315 3 года назад

First time I disagree with Dr Honda... on love expression in different cultures: I think in all cultures it's a fair expectation for the person who wants to marry you to be able to also tell you they love you (not talking of arranged or forced marriages of course). Nathalie is religious and therefore marriage should be a sacred lifelong commitment that requires as much "being sure" as saying I love you, if not more.

@angelikapotree2741 3 года назад

No. I would also not say I love you to my partner being in Natalie situation. Love is not a forgiveness card or transaction. Her saying it would not only mean she is sure but also that everything is alright between them. So i would only say it after the mess is cleaned as a sign that we worked everything out and everything is good again.

@schezekks4315 3 года назад

@@angelikapotree2741 i agree with you and probably didn't express myself well (not native English speaker!). I meant to say I don't understand that she cannot say I love you (and I agree with you, for obvious reasons) BUT can push so hard to get married. Logic would want that you cannot either take a marriage lifelong commitment if you cannot say I love you

@angelikapotree2741 3 года назад

@@schezekks4315 Because she cares and love him. She wants to be with him. But she wants to see if he care about her the same way - if he can fight about their love and not give up when he met the first problem. When you want to marry someone you want someone who can fight alongside you and not be with someone who will walk out of you because dinner was too cold. Please rewatch situation when she give him back the ring - she was waiting for him to show her he will fight foe them too but he backed off and pretty much walked out.

@schezekks4315 3 года назад

@@angelikapotree2741 And I remember Dr Honda saying that was not a functional way to act in a relationship, hoping for someone to guess your intentions and react the way you hope :) to be honest I probably would have done something similar to her and hoping for a reaction from him too HOWEVER is I am again honest with myself, I would say that if I was on the receiving end of such an action, my immediate reaction wouldn't be to fight back for the other one because I wouldn't identify this as a "test requiring reaction" in that very moment, but as rejection, and boy would that hurt me!!!

@schezekks4315 3 года назад

@@angelikapotree2741 it's sad to watch them, because they want the same, and they know things can be good behind them, but they have gone so far into conflict and hurt that it's hard to find a solution. He wants reassure, she wants reassure, but neither want to give it before the other one does! I was watching their last fight and it now even feels like they are looking for reasons to comfort them into not being the one "wrong" in the relationship and therefore not saying I love you... If only one of them did!...

@clearitup677 3 года назад

Just came across this and couldn't agree more. Loved what you had to say.

@spicy_ctrlo7132 3 года назад

I LOVEEE when doc gets pumped about these casts members go to therapy

@shawnmercercrain9727 3 года назад

It's hard for me to believe Natalie was married for 8 years but her ex never said he didn't love her yet she isn't married to him. Granted it would be hard for her to assimilate here in America. If I love someone I don't find fault or nitpick every single thing they do. I've likely been married as long as Dr. Kirk and I've never put too much stock in an engagement/wedding ring to tell me I'm married, the feeling of trust and security is all I need.

@beachbabie9107 3 года назад

He’s her 2nd husband it’s no wonder why she’s shopping overseas for the third victim

@shawnmercercrain9727 3 года назад

@@beachbabie9107 I'm sorry I read that she'd been married 3 times .. honestly anymore than once is enough

@DeepSlumber 3 года назад

I don't know if someone has mentioned it yet. But because of what Natalie said about her ex husband it made me believe that she is traumatized from him and that warped her definition of love and made it as strict as it is for her. She said he never said it back when she said it to him, so I think it made her believe that what him and her had wasnt true love, and that her definition of love was not a true bond, so she waits a long, long time to ever say those words now. She kinda does what he did, does she not? Unsure if it makes any sense (I am bad at explaining these things in english), but it makes sense in my head.

@shadesoina 3 года назад

i get so fed up with everyone putting the blame on mike. look he has his own issues and lack of communicating his feelings too of course, but this is a common issue a lot of people have, i feel like its common knowlege to go into a relationship expecting someone to have issues with communication as we are all different and unique. no one can mind read. But Natalie literally throws passive aggressive remarks at him almost all the time, then is happy when she bullies him into doing what she wants him to do, i can't beleive no one is seeing this. she can't even express love and care to mike in an affectionate way. both these people need someone very different from each other. Natalie needs someone she can boss around. and mike needs someone who is constantly caring and reassuring. Natalie's main problem was not showing any love and affection after she threw the ring. and sure mike is at fault for not expressing he needed that but, i also feel like if you love someone you would do anything for them, she is well aware what she did hurt him, and yet didn't go straight to him to comfort him and make sure everything was okay. in fact she went straight to trying to make sure he was showing care and love for her and comforting her (in airport ) Just because mike is wearing a bluetooth earpiece doesn't mean everything is suddenly all his fault lmao. relationships take two people to make work

@baobao8459 3 года назад

I guess this episode answers me the question about my last relationship, I am from China, I have different definition about 'love' as my american ex, when he first said he loves me, i thought we were at the same stage, so yea, I said i love him back, with 90% in, I did have faith to be with him for the next couple of years, after that, idk. Now it seems like his ' i love you' mean i have feeling for you. To be fair to him, he did have plans to maintain long time relationship with me, but something went wrong, some huge differences between him and I. After this episode I realize our breakup was the right thing to do.

@ksis86 3 года назад

I feel bad for Mike. He was so in love and open in the beginning and she really started tearing him down. Now he won’t even talk to her and his answers are always vague and she’s strung along. I doubt this would work for them long term

@ca7842 3 года назад

Love the long episode doc!

@totalverstoert 3 года назад

I love how dr. Honda is fangirling over the other therapist in this one. Just melts my heart.

@pqm2012 3 года назад

Interesting (about the world love) in spanish we have "quiero" which you use with family and friends mostly while "amo" it's more romantic or really out there love like parents children and couples.

@musingwanderer2765 3 года назад

Dr Kirk is so kind. I wish he was their therapist and maybe they could work it out 🥲🥲

@hopebullard460 3 года назад

They edited out a lot! There are pieces of the puzzle missing. But overall, I'm glad they were open and honest with each other. So glad that Dr Honda is doing this review!

@suzyd9999 3 года назад

I study psychology and I really love the way you approach things. Would you agree to make a video about all the trainings you took ? 🤗

@islo3941 3 года назад

When I see these two, I am reminded of the expression: resuscitating a dead horse. But here's the kicker: apparently, they get married!

@Mara-sl3wd 3 года назад

I think the same, it´s a bit too late. The marriage doesn´t have to mean it´s an happy ending.

@jasminehouston-burns1691 3 года назад

She's on her third marriage, she has a habit of being extremely mean when she talks and apparently she's extremely jealous, she's already thrown the ring back once so I'm happy for them that they got married but am not optimistic. However they both seem to not be giving up so, who knows? I have a hard time seeing them growing old-old together.