@@macsiebert8503yes, I agree, we also need more respectful men as well. For example, if a man approached me, I would respectfully have the conversation and politely tell him that I am not interested in a relationship and that I am currently married (because I am married). As I don't want to lead him on or waste his time, so I will tell him early on that there is no use of a conversation with intentions of flirting, so he can decide whether or not he wants to continue the conversation knowing this. But it seems that most of the time if I'm approached by men (especially younger men), they do not respect my decision and say "oh your husband will never know" or they are offended and keep flirting regardless. I then ask them to leave if they are not going to be respectful.
@@GDUniverse I’m not saying that It’s an act of extreme respect to let someone down gently, I’m saying that I have great respect for people with that skill. I should have made it clearer.
As a young man, I was often rejected by women that I approached. Later in life that changed and also, women started approaching me and I had to reject them. But while women could be rude and arrogant towards my younger self, I have never been rude or arrogant to them when it’s been the other way around.
I have never rejected anyone in a rude way. And I make sure I compliment their good manners so that they get encouraged. No one should be rude to anyone. Except married guys, I'm really rude to them, I make it clear that it's because they are married and I hope they get the message and DON'T EVER approach other women while they are married. I think we get a pass to be rude to married people when they want to cheat.
@@hamlet557good on you…people who are married really need to remember what a promise is, makes me sick even if I am single to see people not understanding the weight of that promise.
Women are supposed to be kind and nurturing, but so many are so cruel. Thank you for being nice to that man and being classy. You left him feeling good about himself even though you turned out to have a boyfriend already. Way more men would approach women if things went this way.
The toxic feminist idea is that women don’t care about the average male who isn’t super confident by nature. That’s 99% of the male population. They only care about the ones with such superb genetics that they can’t remember ever not being confident-the ones’ who are very confident by nature and probably had the right upbringing, too, to further instil confidence.
The vast majority of women will allow men to approach them. I think too many young guys especially think that most women will shun them or call them creepy if they approach them. This is nonsense. If you approach a woman sensibly and you have decent social skills - the worst that will happen is she rejects you
I appreciate that. I find that most women are like this. It isn't as bad as the reels make it look. You can just walk up to someone, saw hi and start a conversation. Sometimes they have a boyfriend and they'll let you know, sometimes they don't. If they have a boyfriend, don't keep hitting on her. If you're the type of guy to hit on someone with a boyfriend, you're causing the behavior this woman is shaming.
This /\ women don’t have a “duty” to jerks, if a woman senses that the guy is actually pretty nervous, this is a good way to let him down gently, but if he’s “that guy” be as harsh as you please
I am ok with them not understanding it... the problem is them not caring at all when you straight up tell them that is the case. The truth is that the average woman is a souless harpy
"Treat others the way you want to be treated." It's a phrase that seems forgotten in modern times. Thanks for being a woman all good intentioned men want.
@@JourneyDestination lol i wish it was that easy. Im 32 i have tried i am honestly just not a ladies man. I'm just a good man that wants a wife and kids
Very well said. As a guy that has never approached a random girl with romantic intent it is VERY nerve wracking. I’ve wrestled in front of 20k+ people but somehow talking to a girl you like is more pressure than that xD. Rip my confidence
@@noonookinz4560 That's because unlike wrestling where your skill, practice, and experience has weight on the outcome of your engagement, attempting to approach a woman with romantic interest is the complete opposite. You can have great experience and a host of successful relationships and that has absolute 0 weight in the outcome of that engagement. The woman holds all the power to turn that engagement into a nightmare no matter how positive your previous relationships were or how sincere your interest was.
I've been turned down by women and the ones who let me down, similar to your method, always left me feeling better even though it didn't go the way I wanted.
Just thinking basic psychology: I wonder if this may be because you were able to even speak to a woman without "negative reinforcement" and instead were rewarded with a pleasant interaction, not the one hoped for obv, but still a positive one, so doing so again in the future would be easier. 🤔
@empireofthewolvesI think her whole point is that it's okay to talk to other men even if you're in a relationship. If he makes his intentions clear that's where you respectfully turn him down. Assumptions are usually toxic. It's okay to talk. If you feel like your time is wasted on a conversation then sorry but you're probably not worth spending any time with 😅
Nevertheless, I think the more we back off, the more they are forced to do it. It is good for them to feel what it is like walking in a man's shoes. Also, do not forget all the crap that can happen: false sexual assault allegations, walking out on a date halfway through the date, expecting you to do everything while she just has to show up. Now, if you get passed all that then you may have to deal with her: lying about being on the pill, using a false pregnancy test and lying about it being your baby, emotional abuse, physical abuse. Of course it you get married then: You have to buy the ring, you have to propose, you also pay for the dinner or event that you use to propose to her, then you are married: Then you may have to deal with then the minute she is pregnant with your child she is locked into your income for 20 years whether she stays with you or not, or she can lie about domestic violence. Then you may have to deal with divorce:
What a self aware and responsible person you are. I wish more people had this mindset of being an actual part of society that is thus responsible for how it behaves. We need more people so graceful and full of class
About 3 years ago now, I had a short, fun conversation with a manager at a stationery shop. I thought about her a lot afterwards. So the next day, I went back in and passed her a short, light-hearted note with my phone number. She very kindly said she'd recently started a new relationship. But she was so warm and genuine - as I wished her all the best and left, she thanked me for having "just made her day". No laughter, no mockery - just the warmest, most genuine smile I had seen in months. She was a real woman. And so is this lady. I didn't just walk away from that with my dignity and reputation intact. I was inspired.
That's awesome man. 😎 Seriously, keep it up! Being able to have conversation skills and the confidence to talk to anyone goes a LONG way. You can do it 🙂
I had a similar experience last summer. A very nice interaction, I returned the next day to ask her out, and learned she was in a relationship. She was kind, thanking me for making her day and encouraging me to keep doing what I was doing. I thanked her and wished her and her partner the best.
Thank you for that. When I was single, it took a lot for me to hype myself up to go up to a girl and get rejected. It was tough but much worse when the girl is rude
@@TheArsenalMan125 which girl is it?. And how did you approach?. I tend to agree by looking at the current environment, but in my heyday at 90's, women were not like today. However, should you think they are, then just don't approach, and as reciprocate also don't be approached. We live aimed for our own happiness. A woman is miniscule and just a complement in regards to our own happiness.
I went through a similar situation, except the woman was staring at me and smiling at me, every day. I asked her out, and she said, "I have a boyfriend, sorry." While blushing. It was a bit confusing because she had been staring at me and smiling, for months. That behavior usually means a girl likes you. (I mean, she was constantly staring at me, even with dilated pupils and smiling)
I am a lot older so remember when social interaction was normal and not considered creepy. I stopped dating in the US in the mid 1990s because the hostility was starting 30 years. In the first week I moved to another country where males and females actually like each other. Every day I meet really interesting, highly cultured attractive women, and the response is always pleasant interaction. It is great fun and often leads long term friendship. Why would I want female friends? Because a socially adept woman of any age is a joy to interact with. I do date a lot but not seeking marriage but a dinner date, hiking in the wood, attended opera or ballet or just sitting in a pub in conversation is a great way to spend my time. The reason is simply that a feminine articulate happy attractive woman is a great addition to my life. I do have a couple regulars who are interested in physical intimacy, sort of friends with benefits so I am not hitting women with that goal. Men and women in the US do not really like the opposite sex, but they want someone. It was not like that in their mothers prime social age. The fear, distrust and anger between the sexes in the US is very destructive to the people and society in general. I have dated in most of the 92 countries I have spent time in and very few societies are as suspicious of the opposite sex as the US.
Men built society to make women’s lives easier. There is no such thing as a strong independent woman.🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️ Look out the window everywhere you go. There is nothing women built in society. Now feminism is tearing it down. 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️
We'll as a married man thank you!! I am glad your parents raised you right, to stand up for yourself, be a responsible citizen and normal person eager to engage in conversation with others no matter what their Gender might be!
That's what cracks me up. Women complain that men don't approach them, but they also complain when men do approach them. So what do they want from us lol.
@@jehu4067by lowering their standards and going for some big tough guy who may look like he can lift a car with his bare hands but he’s actually a self centered dick
You have my entire respect, the first and last time I directly asked out a girl, I got her number as she sayd she was single, told me she had a boyfriend later the same day and insulted me as the biggest pervert of the highschool in front of every one the tomorrow. Honestly she traumatised me and I thought I really had a problem (being absolutly respectful) for the last 4 years.
If women ruled the world there would be no war... Just a bunch of countries not talking to each other. In all seriousness, she has my vote for President of The United States of America 2024!
@@FerociousPoofyPeanutThey'd be talking to eachother, they'd be super nice and friendly in discussions and then the moment they say goodbye they'd be talking for 5 hours about how much they hate the other girl.
@@kidfox3971, not this lady. She just proved that she's kind even after she was sarcastic and made fun of clout chasers and stitch up over-excessive users (i.e., to deliberately make someone look guilty for doing something that they did not do.) at the start.
From a man who is naturally shy I really love the message in this video. If all women shared this beautiful mindset the world would be a better place. Thanks for offering hope ❤
@@alfredoortiz6756are you suggesting she’s « not like other girls 🙀💅🧢😎 » K but anyway I’m a girl and I fully agree And I rly doubt she could’ve ever been the ONLY WOMAN IN THE WORLD to think this way That would be very unlikely
A woman's role is to make a man's life not as hard as it usually is. Even confident chads get exploded at by these western women. It's a cultural problem, not a biological problem. Western women are brainwashed to hold their femininity hostage until they find the high status, 1% of men, get rejected and just keep looking again. They'll never find it so their options are mostly simps willing to spend money on them and they will never be satisfied.
Wow, and here I am fine with a polite: I appreciate that you approached me, but I have a boyfriend/ I am not interested. But this is on another level. Wow , you are goals for any girl in dating. Keep spreading wisdom, girl ! And yeah...I struggle as well, very much with fear of approaching, mostly because emotional wounds tho. And I only have good intentions.
It’s also possible to have empathy for women who are afraid of men. Over 60,000 pregnancies induced by rape (from men)have happened in red states SINCE abortion was banned not too long ago. 60,000 pregnancies from rape. A lot of those victims are also children.
@@resir9807Most women have a severe fear of men in public because of what happens in the United States, but that doesn’t mean women should just avoid men in public like they do nowadays. Men are not diseases and not all are threats. I understand many women believe men are bad because they cause rape and assault (physical and sexual) to increase rapidly in the US, but practically all young women also have taken all of what they believe in the world by social media, where so much as looking at a girl in a gym is harassment. Good Day.
@@resir9807 I think I spelled it out pretty clearly, but I’ll add this: Men’s biggest fear is being rejected/embarrassed. Women’s biggest fear is being raped or murdered by a man. These things have very different consequences and you don’t have to be thinking what if she was raped every time you approach a woman, but definitely spend some time, reflecting on what that experience would be for us. Have empathy :-)
Yeah that’s the problem, it’s only the guys watching her content. The message isn’t making it to the intended audience which should be the ladies. Look at every comment on this video. It’s from a dude.
@@SimRacingVeteranThe problem is other women may see her as a "pick me woman"! But the truth is we NEED MORE "pick me women" in our world to put a check on this femiNAZI gaslighting insanity!
Women not wanting to get approached and asked out randomly in public is also a safety thing. it's not just a I only want top 2% looking guys approach me issue etc.. That isn't the real answer for the women wanting to be left alone@@SimRacingVeteran
I definitely agree as long as he approaches respectfully, which it sounds like he did. Thanks for doing that, guys get VICIOUSLY rejected all the time. Even when he’s doing everything right. You likely gave him hope for the future. So…thank you. Even if I’m not him, I’m thanking you.
She is right. Women have made approaching them such a horrid,unpleasant, humiliating experience men do not want to bother. Too much risk, too little reward is no prize to any man. Guys are avoiding the liabilities women bring in just approaching them. Protect yourselves guys and your assets and sanity from these modern day pariahs.
@@saintejeannedarc9460Most women don’t like shy men, stop the cap. Men need to learn to be more confident and overcome their anxieties. Shyness only serves as a weakness.
@@ilikepancakes2368 Shyness isn't a weakness, it's a personality trait. People are only shy at first, when they don't know people. You get past a shy exterior, and you usually get to know a sweet, gentle person and they often have a great sense of humour behind that. I was w/ a man for 6 years, he wasn't lacking confidence, he was masculine and had a close friend circle and great family. He was just shy, but only at first.
You have no idea how much your message hits me.. I approached a lot of women in my life but over time I hesitated more and morw because of bad and unfriendly reactions. Some women are nice and really happy to get approached but the majority isn't. Or at least not for me, Idk.. it took Idk how many years and women to actually "succeed" and find a girlfriend. It is far better and easier to get in contact with women over same friends, courses or whatever but I was always only among men so I had to be brave (way too) often..
The nice woman who delivered my food to me at the drive through at Culvers said that I have a nice truck. I responded "I'm married" with a sarcastic overtone and a smirk on my face. She laughed so hard that she snorted, which caused her to laugh some more. I smiled and said thank you for that. People aren't always a-holes. Sometimes they're just being friendly.
Well sadly she wouldn't soon have no rights anymore to even go out alone, when 70% of the men on this Alpha BS on the internet Channels would be in charge.
@@watchdog6619find a nice tree and hug it at midnight, look up to the sky and do your best woof howl, ideally if it is a full moon. Or if midnight's too late try doing it during a solar eclipse, one is coming up this year. 🌙 🐺 Now to have some sherry trifle, yum yum.
This is appreciated, understanding what you're doing but please stay safe, there's a small percentage of dudes that's crazy, no matter how cordial you are to them
Honestly, the fact that is being/acting like decent human being has to be posted on social media so that people get informed about is just sad, how low has society sinked for this to not be common sense? Maybe im overthinking it
@@iateabigmac6978 Nope, I had the same reaction. This was common sense, be polite & maybe reciprocate the compliment by saying something like, you seem awesome if I didn't have a boyfriend I'd be thrilled to get to know you, but thank you for the conversation.. Now it needs to be pounded into the younger chicks!!!
You truly are one of the good ones. As a single man, it is very intimidating approaching women in this day in age, knowing there is a better than 70% chance that you will be shamed or labeled as some sort of creep for doing what, a generation ago was normal and acceptable. You keep doing you!! Love your content!!
The way she puts it sounds good, but if I was your girlfriend would you like me to encourage other men to chat me up? Or if you were asking to date me would you like me to prolong the conversation even if I know I’m not going to? We get mixed messages from guys, I’ve always been told it was time wasting or leading you on to not let you know right away that I’m not interesting.
@@jaybee4288 so what? It's not that easy to seduce a girl with small talk alone. And honestly, if my girl wanted to leave for someone else, I have no problem with that. There are still so many fish in the sea.
@eldarkorkmasov I’m not saying she should be rude to him. Just I wouldn’t chat to guys who like me when I have a boyfriend because it’s not really fair if I’m flirting with other men. Which really is what she’s doing, it’s an ego boost. He didn’t talk to her because she’s a great person, he wanted to have sex. The fairest and best thing to do is just say you’re unavailable and move on.
@@jaybee4288Encourage? She simply said that when someone approaches her, she makes it known that she has a boyfriend by not interrupting the conversation and simply adding it in that conversation. I don’t see what’s wrong, it’s a very mature way to say that you’re not single instead of making him have social anxiety for a long time.
A few weeks ago a took a woman's order at the restaurant I work at. We made small talk, and chit chatted, and seemed to have a real nice vibe. I very rarely have the guts to do this, but I asked her if I could give her my number. She told me she has a boyfriend, BUT, she was super polite about it, thanked me for asking, and at least pretended to be flattered. A few days after that, I had the guts to do it again (with a different woman, obviously) and now we have a coffee date set! If that first woman hadn't handled it so wonderfully, and given me such a confidence boost even in rejection, I doubt I would have tried again. At least so soon. So thank you nice lady! You don't know how much your kindness meant to me!!
Thank you for being you. I wish there were more like you. Trying to raise my daughter like you. And I'm kinda there, except she likes girls. What a relief ;)
The way I've been brutally rejected by women at times does take a toll on my confidence. I'm glad you and others are encouraging women to be kinder and more decent.
It strongly affected my confidence in high school, prior to high school I felt like I was on top of the world! It took a decade to rebuild from the damage that was done. I’m thankful to move on from it.
I have diagnosed general anxiety. When I was younger, I'd get anxiety from watching my friends get rudely denied. It kept me from talking to women for years.
It’s such a breath of fresh air to see a woman that realizes that it is nerve racking for a lot of men to approach women, especially for the first time. Like the first time I tried to talk to a girl I could kinda tell she wasn’t interested but if she just shut me down right away it would have ruined the little confidence I already had.
@@headshotfaze9371 I’m sorry to hear that. One saying that has really comforted me is “don’t chase butterflies because they will fly away. Instead build a beautiful garden to attract butterflies, and if no butterflies come, at least you have a beautiful garden.” The right girl will come when the time is right, until then work on building that garden. When you feel you found the right girl, take your shot because if you don’t it’s automatically a no. I know it’s scary, it’s not supposed to be easy, but it takes confidence to put yourself out there, either way it turns out. Good luck and God bless ❤️
Working as a host at a super fancy restaurant Woman walks up and bc of 99.99% of the time, I start pointing her to the restroom (I’d sat her and her friends earlier, and I just assumed) She starts getting flustered bc she’d been practicing, and that wasn’t part of the script (she told me later on our first date) She handed me a folded up piece of paper with her number on it while stumbling out something about me giving her a call sometime It was adorable, and I felt like a prince (I’d just juuuust recently been cheated on with the woman I was living with, and was finding it difficult to move on) Adult strangers should be comfortable talking to adult strangers, and know how to assess situations in a safe and healthy way It makes life so much nicer
I've been a regular at a local restaurant. After a while, a woman who worked there began sitting across from me and starting conversations. I knew a little about her and what dating her could cause if I fell for her. I'm old enough that I just want peace in my life. After several short, pleasant conversations, I came right out and said that, if she was hoping I would ask her out, I would if I was looking for a serious relationship but that she's not the kind of woman I would use for what I might want a woman for.
Thank god! Wow a woman with decency and respect for the guys feelings and what he was trying to do. That’s all guys really want, just being nice and a chance to say hi to girls they might be interested in without fear of being screamed at saying he’s a creep and just getting all embarrassed and never working up courage ever again. We need more girls like you with your kind of attitude 👏👏
I think that is how most women start out. Then they get sick of, after indicating they're not interested keep getting pressure put on them. Even to the point where they pressure her to cheat or otherwise compromise their morals. It is a two way street.
@@jaegrant6441It’s difficult. I can definitely understand why some women can be so closed off if a guy approaches them especially if they’ve had bad experiences with guys who won’t take no for an answer before. I think both men and women can do their part to make the already anxiety inducing situation of approaching someone and initiating that contact easier for everyone. Men need to understand that if a woman politely says no and makes it clear she isn’t interested, THAT MEANS NO and it should be the end of it - you approached, you were rejected, it sucks but it’s part of life and you need to move on. She doesn’t owe you anything and she certainly doesn’t owe you an explanation as to why she isn’t interested. 99% of men understand this and will back off if a woman makes it clear she isn’t interested but unfortunately you do get psychos who don’t take no for an answer that make the rest of us look bad. On the flip side I think some women need to understand that rejection is already bad-feeling enough but to then be immediately labelled as a creep after only innocently exchanging literally a few words can be extremely damaging. If a guy approaches you and you say no and he accepts that without any drama and respectfully backs off there’s no need to be rude and call him a creep for no reason - if he continues pestering you and won’t take no for an answer then yes, he is absolutely a creep. Like you say, it’s a two way street.
@@JohnDoeanonymous392 Just a regular weekend out bud. I'm quite friendly and I try not to let the assholes warp my overall view of men, and try to give every guy a fresh opinion when out and about and chatting. I'm a big advocate of men's rights. I can understand how some women get sick of it though and begin to form biases and opinions from past negative experiences.
As a man raised by a single mom and taught to make sure a woman's safety is number 1 on my list in any scenario, I appreciate there are women out there who see it this way towards men as well. Thank you, you just gave me some hope in the world
Please tell me she didn’t mean any scenario. If you were in a situation where you are being threatened with a gun by a woman she don’t mean you need to make sure she safe?
I absolutely hate the fact that when ever people bring up or talk about how women should treat men a human being, and be respectful, the Most common response is for them to bring up how "its a woman safety thing". As much as people don't want to admit it. If its coming up that much, either at least a quarter of woman are getting attacked by random strangers or they are using it to ignore and dismiss a very well known issue.
Yes and no, when I'm kind I often find myself uncomfortable after already establishing I'm not interested, and they usually won't stop talking to me, but not just have a nice conversation, but rather to try and convince me. And after a long while where I got frustrated and they keep teasing and flirting and I'm trying to politely end the conversation most of the time they will either mock me, or be disappointed irritated. Rarely we exchange a genuine goodbye.
@@thetruthalwaysscaryWay to generalize 🙄 Whenever I’m not interested I’ve never lied about being taken unless I actually was. I also try to not lead anyone on I’m not interested in.
@@nathanielalderson9111lol what does this have to do with the topic lol 😂 People wear makeup to look pretty It’s the same as dressing well Honestly I think more men should wear makeup it’s just cool and pretty
@@nathanielalderson9111it’s okay to admire how it looks on them though. If you’re attracted to a woman’s face with it on, you’ll probably be attracted to her without it.
I love how you handled this. I think we as a society overall have forgotten how to have even innocuous conversations with strangers in public. That even if a man were approaching a woman with "romantic intent" that there could still be a civil conversation that happens and he still be told she's already spoken for. The same could be true if roles were reversed. It's okay to engage with people outside your normal social circle. That's how adults make friends.
The issuenis the algorithm. This creator's videos actually aren't for women. They mostly reach men in the red pill community. From my experience if you're nice when you ask a woman out, she's also going g to be nice whether she says yes or no. This video's not going to reach the women that don't do that.
@@d.k.s.5919I can tell you from my experience that brutal rejection is real. It’s not some glorified community thing. And let me tell you, that shit hurts
@@paytonallen1027 It definitely stings esp if you like her. Rejection is worse than a punch in the face. I was mostly talking about who is going to see this video, and it's definitely not going to be the "women" she's supposedly talking to.
Wow it's refreshing to see a girl be apart of the solution and not the problem for attention and play a victim.. Your empathy and awareness is on another lever
Haven't been able to approach girls anymore in a long while, just been feeling uncomfortable and intimidated. Seeing a woman understand how a man feels makes me smile. Thanks for sharing.
I think most women are nice about it. Just try and keep in mind that women are also nervous. Some of them have had bad date or getting hit on experiences too. They don't know if the guy will get really pushy and hostile, because that happens too. That is sometimes why some women will overcompensate and just shut down coldly. Empathy goes both ways. So while I definitely want as many women to see this and remember it as possible, I'd also like men to keep in mind that sometimes women aren't jsut being cold or rude if they aren't too friendly. They can be nervous and ready for the worst too.
@@saintejeannedarc9460If she finds you attractive, she’ll make it easy for you; it doesn’t really matter what you say. However, if she finds you unattractive, gaining and keeping a woman’s attention is going to be near impossible.
I agree, there’s no need to be rude regardless of who you are and who you are into. Regardless of if you are in a relationship, married or single and not interested in dating ever, everyone deserves to not be treated with disrespect.
I think you handled that very well and i think we need more of that compassion in this world. I feel like it should be mentioned that it is not solely womens responsibility here, but also as men ,when we see other men abuse this common courtesy, to step in even if they are our friends. Because if women do not feel save giving this common courtesy then that is also a problem.
@@NiaEmiliaI get it but, you're fooling yourself into misery if you forget to put the numbers into perspective! Consult your country's official "statistics website" and look up the "murders per 100000 citizens per year" statistics of the last, say, 30 years or something like that. Specifically for your region if possible. And if available look at the number of male va female victims and male vs female murderers. And also how many % knew each other vs strangers. If people were able to date and have normal sane interactions with strangers in public in the past decades despite the existence of murderers, then we could still do it too today. After all, your boogeyman is still one in a million. Have you ever used an airplane? If yes: why? Some of them crash every year and kill everyone on board! 😮 That's not exactly 100% safe! AVOID AT ALL COSTS!1!! Did you ever trust a doctor about a medicine or a surgery? Shocking truth: you took a huge risk! Worldwide 10000s of people DIE every year, because a doctor f'ed up. So never visit a doctor or hospital again! It's not 100% safe! What I'm trying to say here is that avoiding every human interaction like the plague is neither helpful nor necessary. It only hurts yourself. Or do you really think you will find "the right one" on f'ing tinder? And if yes: that you never have to meet in person, not even for sex? Just "to be safe"? Because that seemingly awesome handsome tinder dude, that you fell for, that you texted with for months, and that didn't murder you yet, because he still doesn't know your address, could murder you on your first face to face date. 🤷♂️ So, the internet is not any safer than the good guy at costco that you call a creep because he "harassed" you because he dared to say "Hi, I'm Daniel!" So what's the solution, if every man is a potential threat? 100% home office, social media strangers as your circle of friends, and masturbation till death by old age? Learning to tell OBVIOUS assholes and OBVIOUS kind guys apart, would help a lot better. Because on average, women totally suck at that for some unknown reason. You fear the obvious good ones, and instantly fall for O B V I O U S psychopaths. It's the exact opposite of a rocket science. Learning this skill would enable women to not get a panic attack when some normie flirts, while not naively and happily getting into the car of an obvious serial killer. Plus, learning just some very basic self defense and body language reading skills would help too. Combine that with carrying one or two of the usual self defense tools like pepper spray, and you are in a good position. After reading all this, please realize that all of this applies to us men too! We need to learn to judge strangers. We need to learn to read body language. We need to learn self defense, and use tools if necessary. We aren't safe from other men. We aren't all physically much stronger or bigger then women. Most people these days have office jobs and are too burnt out for exercise. We aren't murdered for rejecting a flirt, but for hundreds of other reasons where women get a free pass. And yet, men need to interact with men they don't know every day without getting panic attacks. And it works. Because it is possible. It's a mindset thing. Sorry for writing this book 😅
This is the first time I’ve seen u and I hated u for hot minute but I gave u the benefit of the doubt and now I’m subscribed to u. Life lesson hear people out. ❤
I have been repeatedly put down by ladies, both the rude and the polite way. And I cannot decide which one of the two is more heartbreaking. But this one explains and makes me understand how a kind, gentle and compassionate woman is thinking. By the way, all of these are virtues our parents and grandparents have taught us and which, for some reason, we have started rejecting at some point, considering them as outdated. So, first of all, thank you for that. And secondly, a huge bravo to your parents because they have done something vary right with the way they brought you up.
This actually happened to me. It was the most respectful thing that I've ever seen a girl do. I once asked a girl out at work because I could stand it anymore (you know seeing her everyday and not having the balls to tell her). I could tell she wasn't expecting me to ask her to dinner by her facial expression but also that she was flattered that I'd asked.. and that she also understood that I was nervous about it. She spoke to me like I was a person and established that she had a boyfriend while continuing to speak to me and treat me like a person. At the end of our conversation I thanked her for the way she declined and left my dignity in tact and walked away actually more confidently and proud that I had done it. She giggled and said of course like it was her duty to respectfully decline all guys. I walked away with more respect and attraction for her knowing I had just asked out a real woman. Thank you for making this video
I regularly talk to women in bars if im on my own, if they're nice and invite me I may join them for a chat, I might not depending not, I which case I send them champagne before I leave. This happened just before Christmas and I got the aggressive "I have a boyfriend" so I went to sit at the bar I saw her talking to the manager. The manager came over laughing and told me she'd demanded he throw me out. I'm disabled, and the operations director of the bar group was behind the bar too. He went over to this girl and told her to leave, when shecasked why he said "he's a good customer, and he's very very very rich" he came back over and said "you should have seen her face, guess she didn't clock the 500k vintage patek eh?". If I talk to you I'm not hitting on you! 😂😂😂
@@AV5oh neither, he ever complained about the rejection, but the way she rejected him rudely and the fact she went to the manager to throw him out despite him not having done anything wrong
As a girl I think we all start out like this then you run into the guy that accuses you of leading him or wasting his time etc and it just becomes easier to make it clear right away that you aren’t interested. There’s no reason to be rude, but prolonging the conversation isn’t always the right thing to do either, and first priority should be being faithful to my boyfriend, not making some stranger who approaches feel good about himself.
@@jaybee4288 probably the smartest comment I’ve seen today. There’s quite a few women that will lead guys on for free drinks or meals. And a dude shouldn’t be entitled for a smooth let down either. Sometimes the game isn’t always on easy mode
That was so kind of you to do because most normal men are very nervous about approaching someone they have feelings for, and these are the kind of decent men I would think most women would appreciate because their not stock on themselves and are cautious to put the woman he may like at ease, showing respect right off the bat!! But frankly, being 58 years old I couldn't begin to understand the proper way to court a woman today because I can't understand what they want! A sensitive guy, but not too nice that's he's a wimp! Be willing to spend absurd amounts of money on this woman, as long as you understand your not getting anything back in return except being humiliated and thinking that maybe one of these girls might like him back and not using him like an ATM machine until someone she finds attractive, shows her no respect and uses the heck out of that woman, but she found love with Bubba who gave her more kids and then took off again for younger fields. But this woman had good men who wanted to be with her but escaped the disaster she is but 3 children and dysfunctional relationships remain! Stay away from woman like that!! There looks are good for 10 years maybe, and then the real ugly comes out and you thank God your penece and your brain are on the same level of thinking and you mature and realize their are plenty of beautiful women in the world, but there are very few tolerable beautiful women with no skills after the looks are gone and are just an extra mouth to feed, but she will disappear soon enough! Guys, don't waste your time on a beautiful women, who's only thing going on is her looks!! They make terrible company and are no fun to hang around with, most other women don't like em either so they will be around you until you find a nice girl for your self and treat her the way she treats you or keep moving on but their is someone for everybody!! Keep away from the new modern woman and find a sweet young girl that appreciates her man the same way he approves of her!!, A happy, nice , family will emerge and you will realize your the richest husband and wife you know, and it didn't cost much money!! Because happiness doesn't come from money, looks, or evil! It may happen despite those wicked vices! Seldom does it though! I hope women go back and let men be men, and I also hope woman will let women go back to what men like sometimes also and so do the women! Today's young dating aged woman have to many hangups and lead guys on until someone richer comes along!!
This is psychologically the exact reason why many men won’t even bother anymore, but women like you give people hope. You’re right, even the toughest, most secure dudes have a rough time with approaching girls out of fear of mass embarrassment, public shaming, or accusations, assumptions, etc. and 9/10 times dudes feel like it isn’t even worth the trouble. I appreciate your mention of that, it would make the dating work a lot better if people were simply open to conversations. Everyone needs people to talk to every so often, and if more people understood that, the modern dating world wouldn’t be so messed up.
this is what a emotially healthy high self esteem, woman who grews up with both parents looks like, however they are very rare lol, it's good on her part tho
as a dude with severe social anxiety based on having a physical disability i want to cry rn bcuz i gave up on romance early on due to being alienated. thank you for giving me a voice that those women are more likely to listen to than my own.
Bro... don't cry again, but... There are women who _prefer_ disabled men for one reason or another. And yes, one of those reasons could be genuine love. There are also disabled women too who need someone with similar activity levels to themselves so they can reasonably be able to keep up with them, we aren't all uggos either lol 😆 The bar is on the floor for most women anyway in spite of all the red pill nonsense about 6 pack abs and 401ks, you really just need to not be a shitty person at this point to pass as a 10/10. You very well might be someone's knight in shining armor! Don't give up just yet! ❤
If you have a physical disability, I hate to say it but it’s going to be difficult to attract women. Are you at least attractive facially wise? Do you dress well? Are you well groomed? What exactly is your physical disability that makes you feel you can’t attract anybody?
@@5und43If a woman “prefers” a disabled man, that could be a red flag as she’s looking for someone to control and abuse. Op doesn’t deserve someone like that and red pill claim of women liking men who are rich and attractive is more spot on rather than this whole “everyone is beautiful” bs. If that’s true, why are more men becoming single and why is the number of incels growing?
I always appreciate women who says “thank you” when she politely turns me down. The crazy part is that I usually this from women who are 8+ in the looks department. Never be afraid to approach the gorgeous ones. Contrary to popular belief they’re usually nicer
Exactly. And thank you for keeping that in mind. I stopped approaching a LOOOOONG time ago, and I will never approach again. I got tired of the way in which ladies reject. As disappointing as it is to be rejected, the real bothersome part about it is the way in which ladies reject. We know we'll get rejected. We understand that you're not obligated to like us. We just want respect during rejection. So again, thank you for reminding everyone about that.
I’m Confused. What type of women are u approaching if they are so rude to you when you approach? I don’t think I’ve ever had a single woman act rude after I approached them
