A Simple Hack to Stop Your Negative Thoughts 

Sorry you choked (that's awful) was that live TV ? They couldn't edit ? and YES... and Shame IS counterproductive and yet old school "Coaching methods" in general use shame as a motivator... (Not good.) lol... Eventually with experience you don't let these things eat you up IF you have an independent sense of self worth (perhaps.).

I used to do this a lot and would suppress my negative thoughts until I read up on yin/yang. Now I look at negative and positive thoughts as being one thing that needs balance. Yin (black, negative) is stationary. It has a lot of substance, but isn't going to move or dissolve unless ying(white, positive) comes along and carries it away. So anytime I think of a negative thought, I will do something or think something positive to flush the negativity away. Now I embrace the negative when it shows because it can tell us a lot about us, but it needs positivity in order to be dealt with properly.

@@jonathancunningham4159 I kinda liked what you wrote. I think sometimes you have to FEEL your feelings just to process stuff much more "Efficiently" so that these negative feelings don't become obstructive if you don't engage them head on and be avoidant. I.e. if you get triggered by stuff eventually one learns to process that quickly and move onto the positive, but not everyone is "Wired" that way. Everyone has had a moment in their life from public embarrassment / humiliation where you just want to curl up into the fetal position for three days in a dark corner. Eventually when you get older one learns to have a sense of humor and you have a more considered perspective on life. Especially if one is more practiced at whatever "Art" or endeavors one is engaged in. These "Moments" teach us valuable lessons. Depends what level of "Game" you are in (without necessarily bringing a level of perfectionism that is counter productive.).

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Many, many, many times. I'm struggling with something then put myself down for struggling and make it worse. IT'S NOT HELPFUL!!!

Oh yes! Such a good one Carrie. Thanks for sharing that nugget.

I do this too thank u!!

What if I dont know if its true or not?

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@@JonTheDon99 I suffer from this too even though at the end of the day I know it’s not true. My mind still tries to trick me and makes me believe certain things are the when they are not.

Omg!!!!! Thanks for this!!!!

Thanks so much I love u

Lmao. You just made my day

I do the same thing 😊 it's for helpful

TYSM I'M GONNA DO THAT!

It is nice to be around encouraging and supportive people, isn't it?

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Where do you find positive people?

What if the ones that's giving you negative thoughts are your family

I think we have to be careful about defining negative thoughts/people. We all have times when we are going through immense suffering and need to authentically voice it and be supported as we work our way through it. Then again, there are people who can never be pleased, always in victim mode, and are gossipy/critical. Definitely avoid the last three.

Great example April! Is that thought helping to motivate and inspire you? If not, what's the point?

I do this constantly menopausal and fat. No kids single. It's a tough road

same

Yep goodbye

Ciao

me too

I always question why so many people take so long to get to the point. Weather it's real life or social media. I completely agree with you, her action created more negative thoughts than it was suppose to solve. That makes me question her credentials, anyone can claim to be anything on the net. I hope she reads this. In my humble opinion, she should know better!

Yes, and if I just told you the tip right off the bat, it wouldn't land or be helpful. Context is necessary. Thanks for watching!

@@juliakristinamah Ah yes, the same question I ask my mom when she's making trouble. Thanks! Good to keep this in mind for when the trouble-making is internal.

Thnx a. Lot

Negative criticism 🤔

She gotta do that to build up bra, just chill 🙄🙄 this microwave generation is sooo 🥴🥴

Same happens with me

Beatrix Solitary Green Witch Me too☹️ My mind knows it all but the feeling of guilt and shame do not go away.

True

I've, really want things to change, have tried for many years.

Yeah, not helpful to judge ourselves - safe to say most of us are doing our best!

lol! At least one of us is getting paid. jk jk.

@@juliakristinamah About that... If my wife didn't have fantastic insurance, my therapist wouldn't be getting paid either. But, if I was in Vancouver, I surely would kick him to the curb for you. Lol. (I'm so loyal, huh?)

I agree on the video about comparing yourself to others. I do this constant in both my work and personal life.

Hwvr 123 I have the same issue of comparing myself and it’s soo bad 🙁 yes it would be great to have a video on in 🤗

Please help me what makes you to stop feeling guilt ?

​@@lethukuthulakhuzwayo8081 . Practical action is needed to reprogramme the mind. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10 minutes or more. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. Positive affirmations for 5-10 minutes before sleep are also very effective to reduce negative thoughts. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

Please don't blame yourself for not being perfect and getting it right every time - none of us are and none of us do. #inthistogether

@@skellyyy707 stop with the what ifs

I cannot just replace a negative thought with a positive one. That's like telling someone to smile whenever they feel down hoping they'll feel better just because they're smiling. It would be just a lie. You HAVE to believe it or you'll feel you're lying to yourself and the negative thoughts will come back again. I feel the only way to deal with it is looking for the root of those thoughts. Most of the time they are not even possible. Like, feeling no one loves you. Like.. Do you really think that's possible? that anybody in this world loves you or is it you sabotaging yourself? If so, why do you think you feel like no one loves you? Is it because of a low self esteem or why could that be? And so on, you can keep looking for the root of your negative thoughts until you find out if they are irrational or not. Of they are irrational, looking for what's making you think that way and make a effort to solve it. If they are not, same, make an effort to find the will for looking for a solution. Both of them requires a will for getting better. It's not easy. But it's a process we need so we can learn how to overcome those moments.

Thank you so much I'll try that !

Elizabeth Hamilton you’re not alone😩

Good for you👏

@@sassysandie2865 Thank you. It's good to know I'm not alone. When it's your child, not just someone you know, you can't just walk away so you have to find the things to do that help you not let them get to you. It really is helping me. I also pray for this child every day.

@@lisapeterson729 Thank you for your support, Lisa

Elizabeth Hamilton I’ve sadly walked away for the most part😩

After going trough something challenging we can either learn or lament - One is helpful, one is not so much. Are you able to learn something for the next interview instead of beating yourself up?

Julia Kristina, I do try to learn something and better prepare myself for next time. But I also have learn to ignore that lingering voice that is there every time I don’t get a job that always asks “why? Was I not good enough?” Even though I know I am. I did amazingly well in school, going way beyond my own expectations. I do know I am capable.

If you were rejected by both your birth parents and adoptive parents, please believe me when I tell you that says everything about them and nothing about you. You are wonderful. Believe that!

linda justice I'm so sorry that happened to you. You deserve much better. ❤️

I could imagine that would be really painful. For something deeper like this, you might find using self-compassion healing and helpful.

linda justice : so sorry to hear about that, Linda. What I try to do is to take things just one day at a time and then life feels more manageable for me. I also try to remember another of Julia's tips that works really well when I'm having circling negative/anxious thoughts : I use her "I don't" tip and I say t myself : "I don't let other people's false perception of me derail my life/day". And any other iterations of the "I don't" tip ...... "I don't let other people's pettiness stop me from enjoying my life". Also, recently I have been doing a Breath Cycle meditation that was created by a young British woman, Sian Clifford. She set up a non-profit called, Still Space & I believe there is a website where you can download a guided meditation. Alternatively, Sian has posted several videos about it on You Tube, in which she guides you through the principles of Breath Cycle meditation. I have been doing it over the last two weeks and I find it takes my brain to a different place and I just feel more positive and happy. Search for Still Space on You Tube & u should be able to find it. Finally, I have recently subscribed to The Chopra Well on You Tube - it's Deepak Chopra's channel & recently he has been talking about the meta-human and how our conscious minds do not make up the totality of who we are but that there is a space we don't go to that's in our subconscious / where we are at a point of "pure consciousness" - where there are no thoughts at all & we are just "being" and are connected to the global consciousness - that is, connected to all living beings ..... It's worth thinking about these things, because there could be a level of consciousness that we are not tapping into. ...... Well, I hope that last bit about pure consciousness has not put you off. ....(!) .... And I wish you well in your pursuit of finding happiness and joy. Best wishes, Andrea. (PS, I have also practised Transcendental Meditation for 23 years, which is very healing for any physical ailments and helps you to assimilate any anxieties that are bothering you. I learned it through the Transcendental Meditation Association, which was founded by Maharishi Mohesh Yogi) - they also have a website & have teachers all around the world. Best wishes ! ❤️❤️❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹 Andrea

i''m sure you are an amazing person--Love yourself & take care!

Nicholas - that really means a lot. thanks for taking the time to say so.

Yes it is! Keep me posted and let me know how it goes.

Yeh

Lana! So glad you're here and really grateful they've been helpful.

So glad to have you here! I appreciate you.

Glad you're here and I hope you stick around!

I mean Kristena

Really great to have you here - and happy it connected!

Hey! So kind of you to say - really glad it helped.