Alex Murdaugh and The Psychology of Playing The Victim 

Except it went on for ten years and the only time she seemed to catch it was when a paralegal and another law firm alerted her to it

@@rosep8481 I think he primarily skimmed money off of the amounts his clients were awarded. They trusted him and believed he did his best for them because he cared. It looks like he got bolder and greedier, keeping the bulk of most fees, or the entire amount. He cashed checks that the firm intended to go to his brother, Randy, claiming confusion or forgetfulness. Then he started keeping the fees that were supposed to go to the firm. The End

She was far too intelligent to not be aware that something was going on long before she chose to confront him. That’s her only job, she was the CFO, other than whomever is employed as their accountant, it’s her job more than anyone else’s to catch that. A paralegal had to catch it. By her own words, the culture of “trust and brotherhood” - in other words the good ole boy system - that existed in that firm had to have been why she chose to turn a blind eye for so long. Don’t forget her husband is also the one who sold Moselle to Alex parcel by parcel.

I agree, she had a lot of courage to question him.

Yes I agree here. This is purely speculation on my part, but I believe Alex underestimated the women around him. I believe he didn't think Jeannie would testify against him, or if she did, she wouldn't be confident in what she was saying. Alex was expecting Jeannie to tip the scales in his favor when she testified. Obviously, she wasn't having ANY of Alex's bullcrap and she got up there with confidence, strength, and most importantly, the truth. I'm sure she wanted to take the boys club brotherhood down for a while now, but couldn't until someone who was a part of that brotherhood came to her about Alex's theft. Again, this is just purely speculation so take it with a grain of salt. What do you think?

My sister skipped out on celebrating with her nephews, my twin boys, for their HS graduation by getting to town late, spending all their time with her exes family, got mad when I couldn't pay for an extra night at the hotel, missed calling them for their birthday, then got furious when I wouldn't bail her out of jail 3 months later after absolutely no contact. Now I'm the witch bc I don't bother trying to inform her of family affairs. I've tried but she's blocked me on FB, messenger, and from her actual phone number.

Sounds like my ex with my children who are now parents themselves and I'm free.

Wow, this sounds like how my dad was to a T!

My father ruled by fear as well. He was an alcoholic. He was born in the 1920s in a different time.. he was put into an orphanage at a young age due to his father fighting in WW1 and his mother getting caught bootlegging to support the kids bhe lived in that government ran orphanage till he was 17 and enlisted and was shipped off at 17 to go fight in WW2. He had always been a cold man. Not very loving or compassionate. But once he stopped drinking bc mom threw his butt out , and he became older, he started to change. We finally had a good relationship when he died. 2 days before Christmas and 3 days before his 85th bday.

Long comment but I just have to say, those children must have been raised in a dysfunctional home if their parents had assigned their youngest son to police his father's drug abuse. It was clear, that was the case when Maggie found a stash of her husband's pills in his bag (as she waited for him out in their vehicle). She didn't bother to confront her husband, she called up Paul to report this. So it was left in Paul's hands to deal w/and having to call up his father to tell him what his mom had found and that he & his dad were going to have to sit down & talk. HUH?! No wonder they'd given him the nickname "Little Detective". They must have thought if they minimized what they were doing, it was justification to inject their child into their adult problems. Geesh, what a burden to put on your children! Sad too was listening to the (recorded) jailhouse conversations I heard between Alex and Buster. He was so detached w/what his son was going through, he was questioning his mood as if it went w/o saying that having his brother & mother murdered & his father charged w/the crime might be negatively be affecting him! I felt bad for Buster. He sounded taken aback by the question, rightfully so. Just like Alex just blew Buster's concerns off in another conversation when Buster had just been blindsided by the news his father was a world class swindler. Sure it was a recorded conversation and Alex might have wanted to be careful what he said but he was not at all comforting to his son and that's all it would have taken of him.

@@Thing1DadaThing2Kiki My grandfather was a Lt Commander in WWll, drank like a sailor and probably had a woman in every port. My grandmother wasn't going to put up w/it; they had four children. She told him to shape up or ship out and so he joined AA and never had another drink in his life. And they lived happily ever after.

I hear you Casey . We never understand what we are not !

He lacks empathy and a conscience. He's a sociopath and a malignant narcissist. Look into that and you will understand.

That’s because you have a conscience. You would never do one single act of embezzlement that he did routinely.

The man didn't have a conscience abd only cared about himself. A true narcissist.

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Thanks, I appreciate this! 😊

I agree 100% not only does she have fantastic knowledge but she presents it so coherently..

This friend, Mark Ball, testified for the defense after all that Alex did to deceive and betray his friend!

Is that the guy who was in the back of the police car with alex in the video after the murders where ales us in the front of the police car answering questions?

​@@mandero8842 no, that was Danny Henderson. I think OP means Chris Wilson.

​@@HEARTANDSOULOFMINE agree. Good pick. Mark Ball seemed very genuine to me as well.

The devastation of the depth of betrayal that they felt from Alex has crushed their spirit. It’s deep ,sad, and so hard to imagine. A person that you trusted like a brother, doing the unthinkable. I’m a Christian,I believe only God will be able to help them all recover. This man has absolutely brought them to an almost unbearable heartbreak. May God have mercy. Just awful!

It's all surfacing publicly now 😮 holy hell... What a nightmare watching it all unfold.... Have you read 'Murdaugh she wrote' yet?

He got away with it because he worked on both sides of the TABles$ in CoUrT$ defending his cLIEnt$ and prosecuting those he chose to ~ wink wink

Money, privilege, and manners. Manners and civility can cover up a lot.

That was my conclusion regarding the murder of MM and PM being a staged murder, not vigilantes.

As a lawyer, he knew that evidence on crime scene is important, so puropsely eliminating it all by calling bunch of peeps.. 🤷‍♀️

I wonder about a person who would have people view the bodies. If I happened upon a crime scene, I would never call others, who knew the victims, to see it. The trauma to the others would be a major factor to me.

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4 million plus would be the main reason

I found the 911 call when Gloria had fell very strange , I don’t want to speak ill of the dead however Maggie seemed like it was a massive inconvenience to her having to speak to the 911 operator she then passed the phone to Paul to explain further . For a woman who had worked for Maggie for so long and had so much to do with her sons upbringing I just found it strange , I understand people act differently when going through a tough time etc but something was definitely strange with her demeanour

It's obvious that she was NOT killed - merely an accident - but I believe that she was viewed by the family as hired help and not part of the family, The accident was viewed as an inconvenience to everyone except Alex who immediately saw dollar signs.

@@abbatrouble Why was it obvious?

@@H_A_L_7 If she were purposely pushed down the stairs they would never have called an ambulance and/or let her live long enough to get to a hospital and eventually blab.

Some of the people who "figured him out" joined right in on helping him commit all of his frauds.

I think that people who saw through that family avoided them like the plague. That's how I would handle that, just make sure that I have zero further connection to that person(s).

​@caseyw.6550 And the rest saw him coming and ran the other way, wanting NOTHING to do with that mess.

@@PhoenixRisen63 Exactly - nobody could confront him about anything even if they wanted to. I'm sure there were people who saw him for what he was, and the best way to deal with him would be to stay as far away from him as possible.

​@Marie Douce Dead right..Exactly what I thought too

I can't even begin to imagine what Alex might've gotten himself into back then. We keep thinking about the Murdaugh boys, Paul and Buster, but what can one imagine the original Murdaugh boy was doing in old days?

All of the Murdaugh family have been trouble makers. They originally got their money when the OG was sick and probably dying and he had endless attitude at the railroad and trains in the area so he saw a train coming waved at it then parked his car on the tracks. This allowed his son to sue the railroad for the ‘accident’ and make the family money. This more recent Handsome was threatened with suspension by the higher courts when we did things like threatened jurors that if they didn’t give people the death penalty he would set all the rapists in the jails free to roam the streets. That’s called jury tampering and should cause a mistrial. Whether it did or not and they all laughed it off like they did when Dick held the gun up during this trial and aimed it at State and said tempting, is another matter. Apparently people in SC can get away with stuff like that.

He was Paul as a child to his own Dad.

And thus a narcissist is made...

@@BustedFlush7096 You’re definitely onto something. I think the attitude of both his sons comes directly from him. “The apple never falls far from the tree”

Who's Alec?

Agreed

I think a major argument happened down at the Kennels. Alex got on his golf cart and drove away and Paul grabbed his 300 blackout rifle. Maybe Paul pointed the rifle at Alex and Maggie stood in the way. PAUL SHOT MAGGIE and went into the small feed room. Alex heard the shots and drove the cart to the feed room. Alex shot his son Paul. He could NEVER let the public know about Paul’s demons. Alex had the MURDAUGH name to protect…

​@@rosshole Alec Murdaugh. It's not "Alex".

Paul was raised to behave how he did. He was expected to be a prick so he was.

Omg!!! What great insight. Reminds me of Matt Damon character in the Mr. Ripley movie

@@sweetea7035 The untalented Mr Murdaugh

There was testimony that his brother called and his dad’s diagnosis was not the worst case scenario as they thought. The prognosis slightly improved that day, actually

I’ve always suspected the phone call was staged.

Agreed - that phone call seems very conveniently timed, right in the middle of Alex' showdown with the accountant over his thieving! Maybe it wasn't the bad news he pretended, even if the call was an update on his dad's health.

I wonder if he killed Jeannie, anything much came out of his frauds so soon. Somebody in the banks must have known something. They all covered up for him.

Honestly, she should’ve been let go. She was extremely negligent

@@mangafq8 I was thinking the same not having an external audits.

@@blairbrownie1223 i definitely agree.

@@blairbrownie1223 I was thinking the same thing. She must have known and decided every time to let it go because she, as most people, were too afraid of Alec.

Agree with you 150%

Great point! Wow, I just realised how my ex would get angry when I cried.

Spot on! They only understand their own fake emotions & can not handle others emotions

He actually did it for both reasons, I think. He killed two birds with one stone..plus 2 different guns.

​@@luv2fly745let me get this straight +×÷= 2 murders, 2 reasons, 2 birds, 1 stone, 2 guns, 1 assassin....anything else?🤭

@@deenad3562 Right on the money. 💯

A couple of sources said Maggie had hired a forensic accountant to figure out where all the money was going and was considering divorce. Paul was being sued for millions because of the boat wreck. Both Maggie & Paul were inquiring about Alex's drug use. They were tarnishing his so-called reputation and going to cost him a fortune. Alex thought he would solve the problem of paying out on a lawsuit caused by Paul, a divorce (loss of half of everything & financial crimes being exposed), plus get rid of two people he felt were of no use to him and were disposable.

@@deenad3562 4 murders, the care taker who "fell down the steps" and the gay boy....wait, plus the boat girl. That wasn't murder but it was still vehicular homicide. So 4-5 murders. Buster is probably next. He is going to jail or he is getting murdered. Stay tuned!!!!!!

Alex took care of Paul alright. Blew his brains out. It takes an extremely calloused soul and demented mindset to blow his son's brains out with shotgun. My God. Alex has ice water running through his veins.

i wonder what exactly”taking care of Paul” means

@@loismailletlynn6079 Click, click boom.

@@TheTexorcist68 nice family huh. grandpa tells son to get rid of grandson

@@loismailletlynn6079 I believe it's something like that. Talk about ruthless.

Where was that in the trial? How did they know that?

@@charrielyn1231 It was part of the crime scene investigation and autopsy. She had bullet holes in her body as if he walking in a circular pattern around her as she laid on the ground.

aw! Thank you so much FiFi!! It's lovely to hear from you! I'm so glad to know more about all of the changes you've made. 🤗

Absolutely…they are master manipulators. They do confide in you all their travails of life, they get your empathy and realize you are kindhearted. They start the gaslighting early on, then they ruin your life while they come out smelling like a rose.

I have found that over time things tend to come to light

Bingo that s how covert narc parents work aswell

That self doubt and the quiet worry that you are crazy ...

You describe the covert narcissist perfectly. He will continue to manipulate even in prison.

Prince Harry

He's the middle child. The youngest is Richard who testified for him at the trial

@@lilynorthover8378 🙄 Alex was the middle child so time to reassess your kitchen sink psychology 😆

@@vmat6684 who is Richard? I only know of Randy and John Marvin and Alex. In all the photos of the family these are the only sons in the photos.

@@vmat6684 who the hell is Alex? There's no Alex in the Royal Family! 👹

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Thank you for that info - that's exactly what I suspected. The dramatic bad news about Alex' pop was just too conveniently timed, during the showdown with the company accountant over his thieving!

His father was moved to a hospital and died two days later so it was not a call to say he was better.

@@sherryduggar8821 Nor was the call the dramatic bad new Alex communicated to his company accountant, to get her off his back for his thieving!

Me too 20 years, these personality disorders are pure evil.

Thank you! 😊

He is disturbed. A shell of a person.

Narcissists feel nothing for others. They have no soul and they also despise themselves because they know who they are but they cannot change. This is why NPD is a disorder and not a mental health diagnoses. It’s can’t be treated or cured.

That's why he was crying for himself - as he stated he did not like to be shamed.

Alex and covert narcissists like him are incapable of feeling remorse or regret for their cruelties and abuse of others - only regret that they were caught. Court will have been an ordeal for Alex, because his kind cannot bear to be shamed - and this high profile trial for the murders of his wife and son - which he never thought would happen - is the ultimate shaming experience. His tears are only ever for himself. I believe his motives in these murders was only too obvious. As Zoe so brilliantly explained in this video, it was about retreating into his age-old survival method, victimhood. Once he decided he could get away with the fatal shootings of his wife and child and convince everyone he was the innocent, grieving husband and father, committing them at the isolated country estate miles from any witnesses, was pretty easy for the seasoned hunter. Jurors were more convinced of Alex' guilt than ever, after visiting the remote crime scene, miles from anywhere. Its location down a long, unmarked country track, surrounded by rolling hills used for hunting, only confirmed him as the prime suspect. Alex also had clear additional motive to want both victims dead. There's little doubt his marriage was in trouble, and wife Maggie was considering divorce. Covert narcissists will not tolerate rejection, and the shame it brings. Once he knew or even suspected his wife's intention to divorce him (with not only the shame, but the forensic examination of his finances that would bring), her fate was sealed. And youngest son Paul, a chip off the old block with his callous, narcissistic disrespect for others and addiction issues, had brought another huge, criminal crisis to his door. The multi million dollar law suit over the drunken boat crash that killed a young woman, was due in court imminently. Alex had raised Paul in his own image. As he was contemplating his own prosecution for theft on a massive scale, he also had to handle the serious consequences of his son's crime. There's no mystery why Alex wanted Paul dead!

I can say from my personal experience as someone who deeply loved someone and expressed it daily, it backfired on me. They blamed me for their attraction to me and called me a whore. All I did was love them…they have zero remorse for ruining my life and my self esteem. They couldn’t have loved me to turn on me like that. Alex probably just acted like he cared in order to manipulate. He couldn’t care for people and rip them off at the same time. A criminal was who he was the whole time. He was a chameleon

Thank you! 😊

@taramcgavan7654 Admiration, surely?!

Did he stand to inherit his father's fortune or did he already have it? I'm thinking he wanted to see what he stood to lose in the upcoming court case.

I'm really glad to know that it's freed you! 🤗

Thanks so much! 😊

Oh great! Than you! 😊

oh thank you! 😊

Why not ? In his mind, HE didn't do anything wrong. It's everybody else's fault BUT his 😂

Thank you!

Thank you! 😊

Me too, only 40 years and yet I put trust in a new relationship and put trust him in also. BIG MISTAKE Never again.