Well to be fair she has dementia and my mom has had multiple arm surgeries so it just made sense for me to look after her especially during covid. Wouldn’t want her to go into a nursing home! I do get some money to go do as well. But yeah the bottom line is granny had two sons and neither can look after her properly. Not having kids at this point!
I love that I found this channel. I’ve always wanted kids but now at 27 I’m realizing I won’t ever be able to afford a kid. I can’t even afford a second dog :( but luckily I’ll be happy with or with out. There’s just way too much to enjoy without kids :)
and kids have grandkids and they can be expensive too, it just goes on and on. Love being free and childfree. I can't afford a dog too, however, I focus on wild birds in my garden.
I love our couple time. As two busy adults it takes effort to make it happen so I can't imagine how parents find the time. I guess you just have to make it a priority:)
I love the fact that you give the Topic of being childfree so much space on this channel! It may sound weird, but I get so much relaxation from this. It is so good to be aware of all the benefits of being childfree, espacially the Aspect of having a calm and clean Home that you cat Return to and Where you can completly be yourself. Maybe you could make a video about the Calm, spiritual and meditative aspects of being childfree? I would Love that! It is always interesting to listen to other peoples experiences. Keep up the good work!
I've had more "lucky you, my husband/mother-in-law wants them, if I had a choice I wouldn't want them either" and "you're making the right decision" than "you'll want kids later" from parents. The worst one was the former being said in front of their children. Saw this from one of my neighbors. The look on the 10 year old girl's face was just heartbreaking.
I am sometimes jealous about being free and being involved in many projects, but when I come home I know I love my child and having her is the best motivator to do better. I respect people who made such a responsible decision-I think nowadays it is more responsible not having children than having them.
Although being greeted by your son or daughter when you get home might be nice... Its not as nice as waking up naturally... staying in bed as long as you please... standing in your kitchen naked with your partner cooking breakfast at 1pm on Sunday...... music playing... food cooking away in the weber... your partner is choosing a movie to watch after breakfast/lunch... The home is loud when we want it to be as we both love music and it's beautifully quiet and peaceful when we want it to be... We go out wherever we like at a moments notice... and as we have plenty of money we eat out whenever we feel like it... We make exotic cocktails and smoke our own meat while relaxing on the sun lounge on our deck with mountain views... We both have dogs that we adore and love greatly.. We're both in our 30's and life is awesome!!! Yes people can't understand why we don't want kids but we can't understand why they do.. Often when parents say "having kids was the best thing that ever happened to me"... Their life was void of meaning before children.. My life is missing nothing and I appreciate every little perk that comes with not having any dependants.
It doesn't necessarily mean it was void, it just means they never felt anything that breathtaking before or could've never imagined in their wildest dreams that it's possible to love someone that much
@@mrsgolden6526 it's a different kind of love. You most certainly can love someone to the ends of the earth without them being your child. It's just different love. Like how the difference between the love you feel for your parents as opposed to the love you feel for your spouse. Not more. Not less. Just different. I would do anything for my fiance she's my world, my everything. I love her more than I've ever loved anything. We've been together almost a decade.
@@songsthatarecatchy yeah but there are hierarchies or priorities The relationship between a mother and her child who she carried is probably the most intimate at least that's how it's supposed to be, sadly there are some people out there who don't feel that way towards their own children, that's why a mothers love (or parent in general) has such a special place in all societies across the globe, it's untouched, that's how it's supposed to be, even from a biological evolutionary standpoint we're designed to feel that way
Wonderful video as always!! ❤ If I had a child, I would be worried CONSTANTLY especially in this day and age, with everything that is going on. It would prevent me from being completely happy and serene. I already worry so much about my love, my family and my animals. I think I would go insane if I had a child. I would worry about EVERYTHING! I think that once you become a parent, you will never be the same. You can't truly live your life for yourself, even internally. Your thoughts will be always directed to your child, even involuntarily. I think that it's like being in love or falling in love with someone. You always think about that special person. You can't help it. The difference is that a child is 100% dependant on you. Literally, she/he can't live without you and your care. It would be incredibly stressful and demanding. Other reasons why parents could be envious of childfree couples are romance, time and intimacy. You can focus 100% on the other person needs and desires. One can truly live happily ever after. As always thank you for your videos ✨
@@WifeWithoutKids I agree! I hope I don't annoy you with my comments but I really want to support you and your channel! 🤗 Have a nice day/afternoon/evening! ✨💚
Thanks for sharing another timely post on an important topic. Just sharing this in case you missed it, the late Alice Barker, 103 years old, Zanabar former dancer in the 1930s, lived to be a centenarian , and married a drummer. However, she left the marriage for her dance career back in the day, she simply didn't want children ! I read about her life and saw a video years old . At the end of her life, she lived in the Hucles, nursing home.
Money is a big one. My friends and I mostly all married and lower middle to middle class. They all have kids though, and my husband and I do not. We seem to have plenty of money despite relatively low incomes. I notice this even more as we all hit middle age lately and their kids start becoming teenagers. Everyone's worried about paying for cars and college and helping their kids out and we are focused on totally different things.
It’s hard for me to feel bad for anybody who is miserable with being a mother. [Most of the time]Having a child is a choice. Getting pregnant isn’t always a choice, but there are options, including adoption. Or termination of the fetus. They often choose to be a mother because they want the cute googoogaga baby stuff. And then they’re all shocked when it turns out to be difficult and draining.
Hi Guys , so happy to be part of this family ! So happy to found one ! This is so close to me . I am 43 and would like to interact people with who are child free
I looked after my nephew when he'd colic. He was visibly in so much pain, it was horrible!! My sister and I were crying along with him😥😥...Truth be told, taking care of him killed all little desire I had to be a mom. I'm way too sensitive and lazy for that😂
Hey girl, how's your childfree life going. I love your shirt look so cute in it.😁 When your childfree you don't have to worry about anything, (awesome) 👏👏Just you and your spouse and pets.🐈🐕🐦
Watching your videos really inspires me to be more free to express myself and be OK ✅ with my life choices. Thank you for creating this channel and being the voice for all of us childfree people! ☺️
I don't want any children of my own but I have nieces and a nephew. I believe when it comes to potty training they go when they're ready. My niece right now is about 16 months and she follows my mom and I to the bathroom and sees what we're doing. She shows interest in the toilet by trying to put items in there 😅😂
OMG just found your channel. I'm 50 but look early 30's 😆 CF since I was 5, never got pregnant , never wanted , never looked back. My man is the same ,he's 45
@@WifeWithoutKids I still get that due to my youthful appearance. My answer that I use for years is the same when people used to say :" You'll change your mind" ... me :" OMG, you are a pshychic!!!!!! If you know so well about my life , tell me the lottery nrs please!!" It works lol
You know why you look so young and fresh still? No kids. ;) I‘m 31 and not childfree by choice. We struggled with infertility for 4 years and i‘m done. It‘s exhausting. Anyways- i see all our friends having kids and the females- wow... they look nothing like they used to... while i‘m walking down the street in my white coat, cute boots and red nails, hair done, make up on. That‘s definetely a plus. Their husbands glance at me now- can‘t blame them...
@@RoseMiah9191 right on. Im sorry about your struggles I have a friend who was on the same boat and gave up she said was too much in her body. I'm not against , to each their own but I have the income and time to take care of myself. I love peace and quietness, stress adds to the aging factor 100% !!
I love your channel! It's respite for me from my surroundings and everyone I can think of who try to convince me to have children. Children are just not for me. I don't mind working with them and having nieces but I don't want any of my own. It's too much work and I already have a busy job. No thx, besides the fact that I want to travel and have a studio in my home. I like coming back to a quiet, clean house.
@@lanis57 Hi, because my sister, sister-in-law, and my best friend are all mid-thirties childfree women who I love dearly and I'm always wanting to know childfree perspectives. However, I am very happy with my children and enjoy being a mom. I suppose I want to relate and make sure all the childfree women in my life feel welcomed without judgment.
I also have 2 cats... but I work 3rd shift so for the most part they sleep ALL day with me. I hardly ever get woken up by them. That's the secret. Work nights lol.
Hi i like the content of your video...im a parent of 2 children and at my age i can say that having children is not a good idea..Many young people have no idea of having kids is having so many responsibilities...and not enjoying your life. When they grow up they leave the house for somebody else...its painful they dont need you anymore..
Some people enjoy having responsibilities, it's like feeling good after a workout, you accomplished something, and it's even better when accomplished it for someone you love, even though that person will not always be that grateful but at least you know you did that😅
You can dry clean at home. Really it’s like spot cleaning 🤷🏻♀️ I just recently discovered that clothes usually have a special tag inside that gives instructions on cleaning them. It blew my mind 💡🧠!
2:27 I don’t have dry clean only clothes either. Though I’m only (nearly) 27 so maybe I’m too young? Agreed, sounds like an extra errand. I don’t even know how to do laundry the correct way. I throw everything in without a care to separate and I wash everything on delicate. I never learned cleaning rules. It always bothered my older brother and later my step dad.
@Wife Without Kids, Thanks for making this video as always! :) I've been childfree for a over 2 years now, and International Childfree day is tomorrow!
I'm a nanny and the kid I'm currently watching is just starting to potty train. Most kids start potty training around 2.5 years old, but it's mostly a matter of keeping track of how long the diapers stay dry (2ish hours at a time is a good sign that it's about time to start training) and the kid starting to show visible signs that they're about to use their diaper and letting you know when they need a diaper change. Basically, it's complicated.
Hahahaha they hear a crinkle of a bag, my cats are like that too, they hear that crinkle they know I'm getting a snack, they are bad enough, I dont even wanna think of a "whiney vulture" lmao
Speaking of Lego. I'm an adult that still builds with legos sometimes. No shame. I'm not hurting anyone. It does exist Lego sets that you can hook up to your PC and program your own lego robots with. Schools use them in their computer lab programs. It's amazing!
I really wanted to Have Children because I grew up in an awesome family!(2boys2girls) so much fun.My wife not so much.We kept putting it off now we’re in year 16 of our marriage and I’m so glad we listened to her 😅
I grew up taking care of a younger sibling. We potty-trained my little brother because he demanded it. He saw us going to the bathroom and started trying to climb up on the toilet. When we asked him why, he said, "you go to toilet. I want to too!" Within a few months he was potty-trained. The proudest day of his life was when he no longer wore diapers.
Would I bail my hypothetical kid out of jail….it would depend entirely on what he’d done, and how annoying he was generally. If he’d done something bad and he deserved jail I’d probably just slip the guard a sneaky 50 and ask them to keep him in a few days. Maybe rough him up a bit.
I just can’t imagine always having to deal with kids all the time with them being around me 24/7. I took care of a younger singling when I was a teenager and I remember how they’d get sick when my parents were out Dj also having to prepare meals after school as well as help them with their homework then have them in bed by 8:30 on school nights. It’s a 24/7 job.
58 years and love my child free life. I have time to travel, eat out, keep amazing friends, sail, love, cherish people, read, long sleeps and so many things I have done like going to University at 30 and study my favourite subject which I now teach. I have had a dream job for 30 years. I have saved money for my retirement. I can spend money on my friends, family and loving nieces and nephews. I have had the best time with my husband. Time to love each other and explore the world. I have always been able to be spontaneous, weekends away just when we want to. I am now planning on sailing around the world when I am 63, taking 10 long years to go slowly. I love helping people and as a teacher I would have never been able to help my students achieve such high levels if I had not ad that extra time to give them. I never wanted children as in 1979 I read about the explosion of the population in the years to come with starving children in Africa, I knew I had to help by not adding more people to the planet. Now with the current environmental issues, I am glad I am not brining any more consumers into the world to produce more plastic, food, C02 consumption etc… there is a long list of reasons I know that for me this decision has been for the best. I have led the bees life and know I have done the right thing.
It's not something stupid to them, it's important for a person's development to show off new skills, anything newly discovered, something they find amazing or funny etc, that's how they learn the different ways of communication
@@mrsgolden6526 Of course it's not stupid to them. You don't need to explain why kids do stupid things. We know why they do it. But it doesn't make it any less annoying.
@@autobotrock4789 Kids don't do "stupid" things, because in order for it to be stupid it would mean that usually their mental capacity would be on a higher level, you know, just like an adult who usually should be aware of that fact since the mental capacity of an adult should be able to put these kinda things into correlation, especially considering the learning by doing factor, since this adult has developed their own skills in the very same way, so alone that should be giving this adult a deeper understanding and sympathy for it, but instead this adult devalues it by saying it's "stupid", and leaves a stupid comment
@@mrsgolden6526 Dude stop taking this so personally. Kids are stupid. That's just how they are and it's ok to admit it. I'm not going to tell a kid they're stupid and mess with their confidence. It's not devaluing them. You shouldn't be visiting the comments about why people don't want kids if you're gonna be so sensitive about them.
I remember when my sister had to potty train, there are stages so I think once you outgrow diapers because diapers come in different sizes so once you're on the largest size it's time to potty train which I think is around 3 years of age.
😂 look at her sleep. Yea sleep being disrupted alone is good enough reason to never have kids. Sometimes im angry i have to get up in the middle of the night to pee let alone getting up at buttcrack a dawn to get a kid ready for school. no way man
I put children on the potty from birth. You know those complaints about being peed on during diaper changes? That's because infants have an instinct (for lack of a better word) to go when their bottom is in open air so they can go to the bathroom. Just like they have a sucking reflex so that they know how to eat. If they start to whine or cry and it can't be fatigue or hunger, since they have already napped or ate, I put them on the potty and that is usually the reason they were upset. I also put them on the potty before and after naps and after they eat. Naturally they tend to prefer this to soiling themselves, who wouldn't? So they quickly learn to hold it until their regular potty times. This was the norm through most of history and still is in many parts of the world.
@@WifeWithoutKids It does. I'm sure there are exceptions but generally, as they start walking it transitions from parent puts me on the potty to I can walk to the potty. We use diapers too, so if a diaper gets soiled it's no biggy, I just change her right away. I'm tracking on an app so my current baby goes in her potty about 2/3 of the time, sometimes more. She's 4 months old and I have seven children (I'm 34).
20 Dollars?! I think I got like 2-3 dollars for my teeth from the fairy. 20 to 30 KR. I'm Norwegian. Our Valuta is crowns (NOK/KR) and ears (Øre). Yes, it's called crowns and ears. I don't know why.
A fat lot of good that does us. If you and your neighbors with kids in the local public schools rent or own any housing in any village or hamlet of comparable assessed value, you’ll likely be paying just as much school tax, even though you’re paying for a service you’re not using.And in places like Long Island, school taxes usually amount to at least 65% of the total yearly tax bill on almost any kind of house-typically several thousand dollars every year, on top of the general tax everyone pays. And don’t forget the state and federal tax exemptions and/or tax credits parents get for having kids. And who do you think the IRS extorts to then pay for what parents don’t?
Their sleep schedule tends to mold based off of their owner's work schedule however since they are domestic. The same is true for a lot of other crepuscular pets like rabbits.
Hi, After watching your videos, I am totally regretting it. Why I did this why I planned to have kids, is there any way that I can go back and plan to not have kids. you dont have to regret anything. living your life to fullest. but prople like me will regret at every step of life.
There are positives to having children. I just think often we are told we have no choice but to become a parent and that's not always a good fit for everyone. I'm sorry you are struggling.
It would be so awesome if you could answer my comment! I’m 15, my boyfriend is 17. For years, I’ve known that I don’t want children, but my boyfriend does...and we’ve almost been together for a year. Very often, he talks about how awesome it would be for him to watch his children grow. The thing is, he doesn’t want any other girls to be the mother of his children. He wants to see ME pregnant and have his children...but he also knows I don’t want children...what do I do? I love him and it would rip me apart if we had to break up because of this...what do I do?
I’m 47 and have two grown daughters and I think the more important question is not about you and your boyfriend talking about babies but why you are in such a serious relationship at 15? This is so concerning to me. I know you’re not asking for my advice so clearly you can take it or leave it but I’ve been around a long time and I advise you to ease off the seriousness of this relationship and focus on yourself and your dreams. Please, please don’t focus on boys right now, I guarantee you’ll regret it. You’ll have plenty of time to think of marriage and babies (if that’s what you want) years from now. Please enjoy this very short period of time in your life to focus on self exploration and development. Best wishes darlin’.
Denise well, I have no friends, so having my boyfriend and keeping him is my dream. We both went through similar situations (bullying, rejection) and we are here to support each other. We do take our time alone when we need it. I still take care of myself, but I was forced to grow up early as adults never tried helping me...having him in my life is such a relief. I’m almost 16, going off to college soon, and I really really need him. I do understand your point of view, but to me, a serious relationship is everything I ever wanted. I was so depressive before him and he putted me back on my feet. He helped me pass all my classes when I was failing them and we both swore to never let go of each other.
First of all, both of you are still teenagers. Stop thinking about it right now. Neither of you are in a place where you could care for a child adequately anyway. Secondly, if he wants to have children with you despite you saying you don't want them, he is not the right person for you. We have similar requests for advice on r/childfree (if you visit it, keep your own head). As we frequently tell people, there is no compromising on children. Unfortunately, this frequently leads to the end of relationships. Side note, if you are on any kind of birth control like tablets or using basic contraception like condoms, STAY ALERT. Not saying he will, but there have been many cases of men tampering with birth control and contaception to get what they want (a child). Don't fall victim to that.
Punkroes I am on birth control but once every 3 months, I take a pregnancy test to be sure nothing is going wrong. Yeah, we’re teenagers, but he’s almost 18, which means he will be a young adult. I don’t want children right now (nor do I ever want children) but I was talking about the future
@@noahadams7345 I was talking about the future also. Regardless of timings or ages, you cannot compromise on children. You have to decide whether it's worth staying with him or whether it'll be best to part ways so both of you can find what you need. You're only young. Each of you have plenty of time to find someone who shares your values.
